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All The Reals

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Grab a drink and hang with Renee, Beka and Vicki, 3 uncensored childhood friends who aren't afraid to get uncomfortable about all things that come with this stage of life. Get ready to deep dive into relationship topics, go against societal norms, and laugh through it all!
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16. Body Positivity with Carla Kiley

All The RealsJan 21, 2021

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We're Taking a Short Break... and Here’s Why!

We're Taking a Short Break... and Here’s Why!

Yep you read it correctly… we are taking a short break. BUT!! We 100% will be back (on September 2nd!). Listen to this quick episode for the details… you know we always keep it REAL! We’re doing a giveaway, and we’re giving away THREE $50 gift cards to anywhere you choose!!!

Here’s how to get entries:
1. Look for our “Top 5 Episodes” posts every Thursday for the next 5 weeks. Listen to the episode then comment on the post telling us your thoughts! Or tag a friend!
2. Listen to ANY episode/s, screen shot it and share it on your IG story! Make sure to tag us so we see it! The more episodes you share, the more entries you get 🥳
3. Leave us a review on Apple or Spotify! Just take a screen shot and DM it to us so we know you did it!

Giveaway ends August 31st! Aaaand the more entries the better (obvi) because you could potentially win all three gift cards!!
Jul 22, 202108:08
41. {RELATABLE} Celeb Talk

41. {RELATABLE} Celeb Talk

Listen in to hear how LITTLE Renee knows about celebrity gossip and drama, and really just celebrities in general! It’s pretty comical.
Jul 21, 202120:00
40. {GUEST} Therapy Chat with Alex Miller
Jul 08, 202148:05
39. REAL Big Technical Difficulties Gals

39. REAL Big Technical Difficulties Gals

Time for our monthly real!! Listen to find out what Vicki said when she THOUGHT she was muted during a WORK zoom call, hear Beka share not one, but TWO, sex related stories, and find out what city Renee has been telling EVERYONE to go to!

As always, we'd love to hear your thoughts! Feel free to DM us on instagram @all_the_reals OR if you're really loving this podcast, please leave us a review!!
Jul 01, 202129:28
38. {RELATIONSHIP} Our take on "Gender Roles" and sharing responsibilites with our Significant Other
Jun 24, 202128:03
37. {RELATABLE} House Decor Tips from Bek!
Jun 17, 202139:19
36. {GUEST} Benefits of House Plants w/ Kait Makers
Jun 10, 202151:37
35. REAL big "Now let's do a silly one" gals
Jun 03, 202128:14
34. {RELATIONSHIP} Love yo-self

34. {RELATIONSHIP} Love yo-self

May is Mental Health Awareness month, so we thought it would be a perfect time to have our relationship episode about loving YOURSELF!

We are constantly taught how to treat others, how to be there for others and how to respect others, but if you think about it, society doesn't talk much about how to do all of those things for yourself.  In fact, it often comes off "cocky" or "Arrogant" when people are self confident.  We are speaking up so that we can get to a place of self-love normalcy.

Tune in this week to hear about our favorite ways to get out of a funk (which we can all relate to with this past year!),  how to get into the self-love mindset and a little exercise where we talk about our favorite qualities about ourselves.  Hopefully it can inspire YOU to do the same!

So girl, love YO SELF!

Personal Development Favorites

- Finish by Jon Acuff (book)

- The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks (book)

- You Do You by Sarah Knight (book)

- You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero (book)

- The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod (book)

- Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey (book)

- EmpowerHER (podcast)

- Earn Your Happy (podcast)

- The Angie Lee Show (podcast)

May 27, 202133:31
33. {RELATABLE} Travel Tips!

33. {RELATABLE} Travel Tips!

We are FINALLY starting to travel again, and we are SO excited!!! We figured if you're anything like us, you love long weekend trips, too! So, for our relatable topic today, we are sharing our top 5 favorite travel tips.
Listen in to hear all about:
#5: Make Airport Parking easy and cheap-
airportparking.com or "The Parking Spot"
#4: Think about one of your favorite hobbies then travel to fun cities and do that (i.e breweries, speak easy, hiking, watching sunsets, etc.)
#3: Skip the touristy stuff and go for the "local" stuff whenever possible!
#2: Take a carry-on only! No checked bags! (We share lots of tips on how to make this possible)
#1: GET FREE FLIGHTS! Southwest Companion Pass, Travel Rewards Cards, and/or Points!

As always, DM us @all_the_reals and let us know what you think! Or tell us any of your tips and we will share it with our audiance!
May 20, 202128:07
32. {GUEST} Addiction with Austin

32. {GUEST} Addiction with Austin

Addiction comes in many shapes and sizes. In today's episode, Vicki's fiance, Austin, shares his own journey with his past addiction. He also talks about his personal recovery process and road to redemption.
May 13, 202158:35
31. REAL Big 'Text the Wrong Person' gal
May 06, 202133:00
30. {RELATIONSHIP} Mixing and Merging Friends

30. {RELATIONSHIP} Mixing and Merging Friends

On today’s "Relationship" episode, we are talking about mixing and merging friends! College friends, high school friends, work friends... one big group or no? We talk about our experiences while trying to see the other side, too!
Apr 29, 202135:32
29. {RELATABLE} Debunking Diets

29. {RELATABLE} Debunking Diets

What diet is the best diet? Is intermittent fasting actually good for you? Is a plant based diet the end all be all? The truth is, we don't know. And we are certainly not experts. Might even need to fact check us. But we’re here to talk about it... There are SO many diets and ways of eating and with them comes SO much conflicting information. Between the 3 of us, we have tried at least 10 diets over the years - including Vicki’s favorite, the Break-Up diet. This week we are sharing our knowledge on what we have learned over the past 10+ years of worrying about food. Beka & Renee share their new found freedom with their relationship with food and we all three chat about how to have a healthy mindset about fueling our bodies. Tune in to hear your favorite 3 non-experts talk all about a topic they know some stuff about… but at least provide some laughs along the way! Previous Podcast Episodes to check out… Episode 24 - All things Hormones with Corinne Angelica Episode 16 - Body Positivity with Carla Kiley Looking for legit experts and more credible opinions? Check out these sources…. Nutritionfacts.org In the Flow by Alisa Vitti (Book) Theplantfedgut.com Fat, Sick & Nearly Dead (Documentary) What The Health (Documentary) Food Inc. (Documentary) Forks Over Knives (Documentary)
Apr 22, 202138:18
28. {GUEST} Work from Home w/ Brandon & John

28. {GUEST} Work from Home w/ Brandon & John

The Pender's are BACK! Join us for our first ever guest encore episode!  Brandon and John are here to talk all about that work-from-home life.  From long time work from home, dog dad, to back in the office, wearing ties and never taking off his suit coat, Brandon spills the details about having to talk to people in the morning hours. *How annoying* 

Johnny on the other hand, has had the reverse situation.  Going from corporate America, to work from home director, with a side of cleaning up dog puke.

Tune in to hear about the guys' working situation experience and their tips for how to make either transition bearable. 

Apr 15, 202147:21
27. REAL Big Vent Sesh
Apr 08, 202151:02
26. {RELATIONSHIP} Dive Bar Husbands

26. {RELATIONSHIP} Dive Bar Husbands

This week we are talking about a V important relationship- our hubby’s!! We spill the tea on how we all met and reminisce on the good old days. Oh and Vicki tells a horrifying story from her work-on-the-go day this week!
Apr 01, 202134:54
25. {RELATABLE} What Do You Even Do?

25. {RELATABLE} What Do You Even Do?

Ever wonder what your bestie even does for work... no? just us? Today we're chatting about what we actually do every day in our professional lives. Tune in as we chat about work life and work relationships!

Mar 25, 202138:33
24. {GUEST} All Things Hormones with Corinne Angelica!

24. {GUEST} All Things Hormones with Corinne Angelica!

This episode is MIND BLOWING!  How have we gone through so many adult years of our lives without this amazing information?!  You are NOT gonna want to miss this, girl!  We are chatting with Corinne Angelica, a board certified holistic nutritionist.  She has gone from living with mismanaged PCOS to getting her health, hormones and mindset all on track, and taking as many women with her as possible on her journey!  Corinne left her full time teaching job to focus on her business -  helping women understand their hormones & their bodies through holistic nutrition.  We have heard SO many amazing tips and information from her podcast, "MIND Your Hormones", that we just HAD to have her on our show!  We just know you are going to love her!  MORE ABOUT CORINNE & HOLISTIC RESOURCES  1.  Follow her on instagram here: @corinneangealica 2. Join her FREE TEXT COMMUNITY to get weekly HORMONE HEALTH & MINDSET TIPS texted right to your phone! Text MIND for more information on her signature 12 week program MIND Your Hormones 101! This course is setting the foundation of a hormone healthy, sustainable lifestyle for long term success by addressing & healing your root cause. It teaches you how to use food, mindset & lifestyle as medicine to support your hormones for long term success: what supports your hormones, what harms them, and how to create a sustainable, hormone healthy lifestyle. Text HONOR  for more information on the 8 week course HONOR Your Cycle. This course teaches you how to sync your life, nutrition, workouts, productivity, sex etc with each phase of your cycle so you can fully support your body & thrive in all areas of your life by flowing with the wave instead of against it. 3. The link for her recommended professional grade supplements: Corinne's Dashboard (You can get 10% off by using her link) (Click HERE for the CANADIAN dashboard). 4. Her fave probiotic: Just Thrive Health  (Use code CORINNE for 15% off!) 5. Podcasts Referenced: 10. Is your GUT the problem? 16. Are you paying attention to your period? 17. Tracking Ovulation & why you need to even if you don't want to get pregnant
Mar 18, 202154:55
23. REAL Big Distillery Gals

23. REAL Big Distillery Gals

Tune in to hear how we will be structuring our episode schedule moving forward! We also have allll the details typed out over on Instagram if you're a visually learner ;) Check it out @all_the_reals


This week is our monthly "Real" episode! Don't miss out on Bek sharing a big accomplishment, Renee finally taking a trip, and Vicki driving away with something on top of her car....again.

Mar 11, 202131:15
22. V Important Stuff - Kids or No Kids?
Mar 04, 202150:22
21. Coping with Pandemic Fatigue

21. Coping with Pandemic Fatigue

We're approaching a year of the pandemic and we’re all going through our own personal versions of “pandemic fatigue”, so each season we’ve been getting together and sharing what is keeping us sane, happy and entertained while also staying low key. Today, we all share how we're feeling now that a year has gone by, in addition to some shows, activities and other things that are keeping us balanced and busy.  Check out the recap below and DM us on instagram @all_the_reals if you want more info! Shows - Behind her Eyes on netflix, Grace & Frankie on Netflix, One Tree Hill (Hulu), Little Voice (Apply TV), Ted Lasso (Apple TV) Songs - Fly Away by Tones and I, Famous Friends by Chris Young & Kane Brown  Podcast - Mind Your Hormones, Almost 30, The Weekly Transit, Armchair Experts Apps - Hotel Tonight, Co-Star, Thought Catalog, Turo, EWG Healthy Living, Sit or Squat Subscription Boxes - FabFitFun and Daily Harvest ($35 off with code WELCOME2021) Feel Good Activities: - Get a spray tan - Weekly Family Calls & Friend Zooms - Researching Clean Products - Getting sun exposure w/ 15 minute morning coffee walks - Medical Cannabis - different forms for different moods - Doing this podcast! - connecting with people and being open with thoughts and ideas without feeling judgement - Rearranging rooms - moving little things around here and there in different rooms of the house where i am working or hanging out so that it feels like it’s a different space / change of scenery - Throwing away routines 
Feb 25, 202136:21
20. The Importance of Organic Skin Care and Plant Oils with David Brooke from Skin Essence Organics
Feb 18, 202155:52
19. How to Heal through our Ancestors

19. How to Heal through our Ancestors

There's more to a DNA kit than learning about 6th cousins one removed or physical traits that were passed down to you. Vicki shares some unexpected news about her DNA results that ended up turning into a major breakthrough. We dive into how the psychological effects of trauma from our ancestral lineage have shown up in our lives - and most importantly - how it can heal you and be an opportunity for growth. Whether we know it or not, we all carry a secret history of our ancestors. That history is so important for all of us to explore in order to fully understand that we are part of a bigger story. You don't want to miss out on this one!
Feb 11, 202157:04
18. A Language You Don't Need Rosetta Stone For :) ... Your Love Language!!

18. A Language You Don't Need Rosetta Stone For :) ... Your Love Language!!

The biggest misconception about love languages is that it's the way a person expresses love, but in reality it actually represents the way the you feel and receive love. Sounds like an easy concept, right? Despite the fact that we are anything but marriage experts, the hopeless romantics in us have decided to give a lesson on Love Languages for dummies.
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Take the Quiz
Feb 04, 202135:05
17. Girlfriend Chats
Jan 29, 202137:37
16. Body Positivity with Carla Kiley
Jan 21, 202147:14
15. Let's chat ENNEAGRAM!

15. Let's chat ENNEAGRAM!

Renee is chatting with us this week about her favorite topic... The Enneagram! In this episode you'll hear a general overview of what the Enneagram is, the motivations and fears of each number along with some details, and some real life examples of how certain numbers show up in different situations! Whether you know your enneagram number or not, you'll definitely want to listen to this episode to learn more about yourself and those relationships closest to you!

I need to give some major credit to @enneagramashton for being my favorite enneagram account to follow! She explains the enneagram in such an easy to understand way and has amazing content on her IG! She also has a fun podcast with her sister called "Say Enneathing".
Other Fun Enneagram Instagram accounts:
@enneagramandcoffee
@fullandfreeenneagram
@enneagramexplained

You can take a quiz here! Remember, it will lead you to a number, but only you can decide if it is accurate. So be sure to read up on the top numbers it gives you and decide for yourself!

If you take the quiz or if you already know your enneagram type, DM us on Instragram so we can chat about ittt!! :) @all_the_reals

Jan 14, 202149:48
14. 2020 Reflections & 2021 Intentions

14. 2020 Reflections & 2021 Intentions

This week on the show, we are talking about what 2020 has taught us and our goals for 2021! We loved sharing the positives of the past crazy year including new hobbies and mindset shifts! Tune in to hear about all the things we plan to do in the year ahead.
Jan 07, 202136:46
13. Christmas Eve Cocktails & Giveaway

13. Christmas Eve Cocktails & Giveaway

Join us for Christmas Eve cocktails and hear about how you can enter a new giveaway we are announcing! We will share the recipes for our favorite holiday drinks and if you win our giveaway, we will be giving a basket of all the goodies to make your fave one.
To enter:
- You can DM us telling us your favorite episode (1 entry) or for 2 entries
- You can share your favorite episode to your stories and tag us and a friend (2 entries).
We will randomly pick a winner from the entries.
Our Signature Holiday Cocktail Recipes:
White Christmas Mojito:
* juice of 1 lime
* 8 leaves mint
* 1 tablespoon sugar
* 2 tablespoons white rum
* 1 tablespoon coconut rum
* 1/4 cup canned coconut milk
* sparkling water for topping
* pomegranate arils for serving
Apple Cider Mule:
* juice of 1 lime
* 8 leaves mint
* 1 tablespoon sugar
* 2 tablespoons white rum
* 1 tablespoon coconut rum
* 1/4 cup canned coconut milk
* sparkling water for topping
* pomegranate arils for serving
Slo Gin Fizz:
* ¾ ounce sloe gin
* ¾ ounce lemon juice
* ½ ounce simple syrup
* 1 egg white

Pomegranate Spritzer:
* ⅓ cup pomegranate juice
* Lime juice
* Juice from ¼ of a grapefruit
*1 ½ ounce vodka
* Freshly grated ginger
* 2 ounces ginger beer
* Chilled champagne for topping
* Pomegranate arils and rosemary for garnish
Dec 24, 202021:56
12. From Infertility to Pregnancy with Alix Haller

12. From Infertility to Pregnancy with Alix Haller

Spoiler alert... Alix IS pregnant, but it was quite the journey for her and her husband to get to this point. Listen in to hear her journey, educate yourself on infertilty, and learn how you can support friends dealing with this heartbreaking situation.

Alix's recommendations of care package items to send your friends going through this:

Pineapple Bandages
Infreakinfertility: How to Survive When Getting Pregnant
Pineapple Socks
Positive Vibes IVF Socks
Fertility Necklace


Connect with Alix on IG!

Dec 17, 202046:43
11. Wedding Traditions & Planning During COVID

11. Wedding Traditions & Planning During COVID

Tune in to hear our thoughts about wedding traditions, what we did or did not do, and what Vicki will or won't do ; )
COVID has surely taken a toll on the wedding industry, but hear Vicki out on her positive outlook and how she is handling her planning during a pandemic!
Dec 10, 202045:33
10. Gift Ideas For The Holidays!

10. Gift Ideas For The Holidays!

Tune in for all of our favorite holiday gift ideas - and random tangents of course! Vicki gets juicy with a story about her first Christmas with Austin and the girls share their favorite gifts for 2020! Some of our Favorites Mentioned:  - Amazon Echo Dot with LED display - Amazon Smart Plug (Alexa, Turn on the Christmas tree lights!) - The Adventure Challenge Book (Couples Date night guide) - DIY Date Night Box (Pinterest ideas!) - Old Navy Women's Pixie Pants (Great for the office - whenever we all get back there!) - Tula Skincare line - Sour Dough Bread Starter (LOL - ask Grandma!!) - This is 30 starter pack (Toaster Oven & Crockpot) - Soda Stream - Espresso Machine - Airbnb "Experiences" (Online versions) - 12 Days of Christmas - Bath & Body Works Candles
Dec 03, 202040:13
09. Holiday Traditions

09. Holiday Traditions

Happy Thanksgiving! In this episode we talk about holiday traditions, how they changed when we got married and as we get older, and of course how this year is different because of the pandemic.
Nov 26, 202029:03
08. Navigating Life as a Young Parent - with Jenna!

08. Navigating Life as a Young Parent - with Jenna!

Our childhood friend, Jenna, is here to join us for this weeks episode! Listen in with us as she opens up and shares her experience about young motherhood super early on in life and how it's changed the way she's had to navigate her path in life - including her relationships, career and personal growth.
Nov 19, 202046:47
07. Our Fall Faves
Nov 12, 202024:29
06. Catholic School Memories; Praise Be!

06. Catholic School Memories; Praise Be!

Catholic school girls at their finest! This week we are letting loose on all of the childhood stories we have from Catholic school! We deep dive into how it shaped us to be who we are now and talk about all of the weird stories along the way!
Nov 05, 202048:48
05. How We Deal With Stress

05. How We Deal With Stress

Come hang with us this week as we share all of our best tips on what we do to de-stress!

If these tips helped or you have a good one of your own to share, come chat with us on Instagram!
Oct 29, 202029:51
04. All The Love 🏳️‍🌈 with John & Brandon

04. All The Love 🏳️‍🌈 with John & Brandon

In this episode, we have our first guests!! Beka and Renee’s brother and brother-in-law, Brandon and John, are on to talk all about their relationship as a gay couple. They share their engagement story, how they navigated a COVID wedding, and of course threw it back to their coming out stories- all while being very real, honest, and making us laugh!

Brandon's Instagram : @_theBranman
John's Instagram : @johnmpender
Oct 22, 202057:42
03. Traveling

03. Traveling

Tune in to hear all about one of our favorite past times - traveling! We are telling stories about our very first travel memories and our experiences with traveling alone. Vicki spills the tea about her recent trip during COVID and Beka and her reminisce on being broke AF during their first trip to Europe. We hope you enjoy!
Oct 15, 202001:00:40
02. Lifelong Friendships

02. Lifelong Friendships

This week we are talking about Lifelong Friendships and what makes them stick! We've been friends for 25+ years so you know we quite a few stories to tell! You'll also hear about Vicki's most recent "duh" moment in our ending segment "The Weekly Real". We can't wait to share with you babe!
Oct 08, 202028:54
01. Intro's From the Closet

01. Intro's From the Closet

In this episode you'll get to know a little bit about the gals (Renee, Beka & Vicki), our fav relationship topics, and what we were sippin' on!  We get sidetracked with some funny memories, and we clearly had a great time considering we laugh alot in this episode!  We were so excited to get started that we were literally sitting in Beka's closet for better sound quality since we didn't have our mics yet, hence the episode title! As promised in the episode, here's the link to take the Enneagram Personality Test! We'd love to connect and chat with you over on Instagram! 
Sep 30, 202013:49