Connect The Dots B*tch

Amy discusses what is happening inside an individual who is unloading their pain but resistant to making any changes in their life. She digs into the different scenarios you may have encountered with friends, family or even partners and the distinctions between someone seeking validation, wanting guidance or just wanting to complain. She leaves you with insight into how to navigate these relationships in the most supportive ways possible for yourself and for them!

THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES:

• Being resistant to growth
• Being open to growth
• Trauma-dumping
• Supportive boundaries
• Post-traumatic awareness
• Supportive friendships + relationships
• Taking advantage of professional support (free + paid)

Amy discusses the concept of "extreme thinking" and what fuels the behavior pattern. She offers her insights into how this binary way of thinking can show up in mental health social media content and perpetuate victimhood. By the end of the episode, you're left with more knowledge on this topic as well as what you will want to work on improving to step away from thinking in extremes!

THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES:

• Self-protection + self-preservation
• Binary Thinking / All or Nothing Thinking / Black + White Thinking / Extreme Thinking
• Self-trust
• Victim marketing
• Solutions for extreme thinking

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Amy gives you a look inside a secure relationship from the perspective of someone who has experienced trauma from past abusive relationship. She offers you (5) insider tips to help you become aware of and normalize what you can expect to occur within a secure attachment. She also shares solutions on how to navigate conflict and confusion in the most supportive way!

THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES:

• Secure attachments
• Healthy conflict resolution
• Emotional management
• Trauma triggers
• Boundary Setting
• Personal stories from Amy
• Personal life updates from Amy

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Amy provides you a full rundown of what 'ghosting' is, what people commonly confuse it to be, why people ghost and how to cope with being ghosted! She offers you real-life examples of being ghosting, deconstructs what is happening for the ghost-er and ghost-ee and her expertise on how harmful and abusive this behavior can be.

THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES:

• Ghosting
• Ghosting while dating
• Ghosting while in a committed relationship
• What does NOT constitute ghosting
• Abandonment fears
• How to cope with being ghosted
• Why you feel haunted by having been ghosting and can't move through the pain
• Practical steps for coping with being ghosted
• What to work on if you're wanting to ghost

Amy announces some big changes in her life, answers a few FAQs and shares how she's navigating it all, what she's prioritizing and how she's finding a healthy balance. She offers you key points and takeaways that not only pertain to what she's going through, but how they may connect to you and your life and relationships.

THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES:

• A big life update from Amy!
• What needs are always important to prioritize, especially through life changes.
• Prenatal + childhood trauma
• Planning for the future
• Trauma triggers and emotional triggers
• Acknowledging your personal growth
• Amy's personal reflections on her own growth, old behavior patterns + how she's learning to be more flexible within these new life experiences!

Amy shares a quick life update about her recent travels and the "adventure" (re: disaster) that occurred on the way back home. She discusses how to approach having an honest conversation with someone, even if that individual is incapable or unwilling. You'll hear her deconstruct why sometimes we are uncomfortable in relationship to others (hint: their behavior may not align with our truth) and provides you clear insight and practical steps in navigating the nuances of difficult relationships!

THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES:

• Life update from Amy!
• Honest, transparent conversations
• Navigating other people's dysregulated states
• Setting a boundary with someone who is dismissive.
• Difficult relationships
• Staying true to yourself in spite of how others behave
• Communicating to move through confilct.

In this episode, Amy answers the question, 'what does healing really look like?' With so much misinformation online, Amy discusses the nuances on the topic of trauma healing. Tune in to hear her debunk myths, identify misconceptions and educate you further on what works, what doesn't, what is clickbait online and what the overall truth is about healing from trauma!

THIS EPISODE WILL DISCUSS:

• Myths, misconceptions + misguided information about trauma healing.
• Will safe people and environments trigger you?
• Does being alone (or single) safeguard you from pain?
• Will you still get triggered after trauma?
• What will trigger you after trauma? Understanding trauma triggers.
• Therapy? What works and what doesn't.
• + much more!

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Amy sits down to discuss how trauma and triggers are created and if it is in fact by other people! She deconstructs how to tell the difference between if your trauma is being triggered or if the person and the behavior is actually harmful to you.

THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES:

- how trauma and triggers are created

- why we cope by blaming others

- healthier ways to cope

- how to tell the difference between if it's your trauma being triggered or it's actually harmful behavior.

- why we find it easier to blame others

- how to stop swinging the pendulum too far one way with binary ways of thinking and coping.

- childhood trauma becoming adulthood trauma

- the supportive tools you need for your triggers and your coping

Amy discusses the impact a parent or guardian’s modeling has on their children. How we aren’t just influenced by how we’re treated, but also by how those adults treat themselves and others.

This episode discusses:

- Emotional neglect, immaturity, abuse

- Parental modeling

- Generational trauma

- Breaking generational patterns

- Common mistakes and flawed beliefs about childhood trauma.

- Personal stories from Amy's life and how she copes and has healed.

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In this week's episode, Amy deconstructs self-trust. She asks you to reflect on if you ever really had trust in yourself to begin with? Were you truly connected to the choices you were making in life and understanding of their value or were you disconnected and choosing what was modeled and taught to you. If you've ever felt a lack of self-trust or are trying to rebuild trust with yourself (or with others), this episode is for you! For more support on identifying your values and rebuilding that self-trust, as mentioned in the episode, enroll in: The Course for Trauma Survivors Setting Boundaries | amy-fiedler.teachable.com/p/trauma-survivors-setting-boundaries This episode discusses self-trust, trust issues, healthy boundaries, childhood trauma, parenting, self-neglect, and rebuilding trust with others.

Amy invites her first-ever guest to the podcast! Noble is the person you'd least expect to be talking about feelings & emotions! An uncharacteristic fight with his wife a few years ago revealed a glaring issue: he was clueless when it came to handling his emotions.This West Point grad & former Army Ranger in the 82nd Airborne Division is now an EQ Practitioner and teaches Emotional Intelligence on his highly rated podcast, EQ Gangster, in his EQ Mafia Membership and through corporate coaching & consulting.Don't let the big beard & tattoos fool you - Noble is pure positive energy & passion! He brings 23 years' experience as an entrepreneur and international keynote speaker to help corporate clients, entrepreneurs, leaders & influencers get their emotions working for them, not against them. THIS EPISODE WILL DISCUSS: - healing from a people pleasing addiction - navigating the emotional transition as a parent as your child grows up - breaking generational trauma patterns - modeling, honoring and intentionally pushing your child's boundaries in a controlled environment - how boundaries are a form of emotional-management - the value of Noble's APED method - how emotions left unacknowledged will compound over time - "if you can name the emotion, you can tame the emotion." - Noble's top 3 supportive gestures in marriage and parenting LEARN MORE FROM NOBLE: EQ Mafia - a safe, supportive, encouraging, equipping community of people all working on their emotional fitness together, in community. https://www.eqgangster.com/mafia CONNECT WITH NOBLE: - IG: https://www.instagram.com/thenoblegibbens/ - LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/noble-gibbens-a2748323/ - FB: https://www.facebook.com/noble.gibbens - YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWJkBGvkfH_BxHahuM8hTcw/videos

Amy has subscribed to a new mindset in life but is also not immune to the struggles that exist in boundary setting with difficult people. She shares some (recent) personal stories about making excuses for certain people we love and how to stop! Episode includes topics on Boundaries with family, Breached Boundaries, Self-Respect, Trauma Recovery, Mindset Shifts, Gaslighting, Confidence & Authenticity.

Amy expands on a recent social media post she shared about the lessons she has learned in life and her relationships after trauma and abuse. She digs into more context, nuance and the ‘meat’ of these experiences! Episode discusses Friendship, Accountability, Nervous System Regulation, Childhood Trauma, Toxic Relationships, Changing Behavior Patterns & much more!

Amy has a bone to pick with hypocrites this week and she let’s you in on how to self-examine and make sure your actions and words are aligned with what you say you value do you’re not being one too! Episode discusses Social Media & Mental Health, Boundary Setting, Hypocritical Behavior, Emotional Intelligence, Friendships/Relationships, Conscious Living.