What Would Dr. Meyers Do?
By What Would Dr. Meyers Do?
What Would Dr. Meyers Do?Dec 05, 2023
The Holidays, Oh Joy
Whether you enjoy the holidays or not, they can still be a source of expectation, stress, and pressure. Dr. Meyers identifies some of those challenging aspects and offers a few tips on successful navigation.
Episode 58: Essentials of Clinical Practice
There are quire a few essentials in doing therapy. As we banter about those essentials including empathy, listening without judgment, self-efficacy, and accepting feedback Kellyanne Brady, LMHC reminds us to "be present not perfect". Whether a beginner or seasoned professional it's easy to lose sight of this idea. And, certainly all of us who walk on this earth have challenges with some of these conceptes, therapist or not. What do you struggle with when doing this work - or just living in a world driven by connection to others? This episode also considers what is needed to build and deepen relationships.
Episode 57: Surviving to Thriving: From child victimization to positioning onself to helping others
In episode 19 we asked Alba Torres, a social work student who is a survivor of severe and multiple forms of child abuse and has a history of abandonments how she will manage potential work with the population with whom she identifies: children of abuse. A year after her first exposure to the work, she reflects on how she came through the anticipated experience. What does it take to heal as a clinician in order to do good work with clients?
Episode 56: An amoral game of seduction
Dr. Meyers shares her raw, emotional account of uninvited sexual advances from a respected colleague. Even in subtle form, this may be uncomfortable or unwanted - and our social construction of gender shapes what may be considered appropriate or inappropriate and raises question as to what should be tolerated or accepted. Her story sheds light on the nuanced ways in which the target can be disarmed and the challenge of setting boundaries and regaining control.
Episode 55: WWDMD Turns ONE! Anniversary Episode
Happy one year anniversary to WWDMD! Celebrate with us as we reflect on the past year and where we will be heading. So much learning and growing has been done for me, my guests, and the audience. I've had conversations with academicians, clinicicans, students, and a couple of folks outside of the profession.
Some things I've realized? I want to keep going, broaden the range of topics, use my platform to help folks feel validated in their experiences, and share more of myself!
Episode 54: When We're Not on the Same Page
Have you ever been in a collaborative relationship that wasn’t going well? We can all learn from Emily Brierly’s experience with a peer whom she co-lead a social work group. Emily discusses her frustration when finding herself with a different agenda. To complicate matters, the different racial identities created anxiety for Emily as she attempted to manage power dynamics.
Episode 53: Don't Be Mad At Me: Dealing with Client Hostility
Tracey Clingo addresses her client’s anger but gets caught in her own fears of confrontation. Through reflection, self-awareness, and insight around counter transference, Tracey contends with the why’s and how’s of her own emotional reactions. Her ability to process her own and her client’s emotional underpinnings allows her to be armed with the ability to engage in an otherwise frightening situation.
Episode 52: Sibling Abuse Series: Impact and Psychodynamic Theory
We can understand the impact of sibling abuse on survivors quite well through a psychodynamic lens. When we develop our knowledge of the ways in which the abusive experience affects perceptions of self and others, we can also learn about styles of attachment and the ways in which challenges are manifested in interpersonal relationships. Sibling abuse preys on one’s ability to trust and rely on others; an active desire to please others; defenses are employed to self-protect while also keeping others at a distance. We all crave connection, but for survivors of sibling abuse that desire comes with a huge price.
Episode 51: Advocacy and Confrontation: How to Get Your Needs Met
Many of us contend with challenging aspects of our work that require us to advocate for our needs, or confront a colleague. Usually this presents as quite scary and fearful. As social workers, we have to be able to advocate for ourselves if we are going to be able to advocate for our clients, but we know it’s usually easier to do some things for others rather than ourselves. Three social workers confront their own anxieties about getting their needs met. Through exploring their fears and perceived outcomes of confrontation they find motivation to put their needs into action.
Episode 50: A gay man's journey to parenthood: Life lessons for all
Episode 49: Reflections on the benefit of silence and ways to offer empathy
This episode is sure to extend its relevance beyond the profession of clinical work. We can all learn from the social workers in episode 14 who are back to talk about how they developed their ability to sit with silence and convey empathy with confidence. They talk about how their own need to be helpful and their own difficulty being alone with their thoughts impacts their ability to sit silently in someone else’s company. In spite of this, they have done the work - on themselves - so that they can be better social workers as well as better intimate partners and friends to others. They also share their depth of understanding of empathy and ways to offer it. Their own personal and professional growth sheds light on how we can shift our emotional awareness and deepen our connection to others.
Episode 48: Sibling Abuse Series: Sibling Abuse and Family Systems
Sibling abuse indicates a form of child neglect because in order for it to occur and persist, there is a lack of effective parental intervention. Since sibling abuse is a product of a dysfunctional family environment, it is important to understand the experience from a family systems lens. What dynamics contribute to the existence and perpetuation of sibling abuse? How does the way parents relate to each child influence the sibling relationship? This episode addresses these questions and more. Do you have questions about sibling abuse? DM Dr. Meyers.
Episode 47: Rising from foster care: An incredible story of hope and resilience
Silas Kelly, Social Worker and podcast host shares his childhood experience of abandonment, neglect and then rescue through foster care. He shares his path towards healing, stability, gratitude, and ultimately a calling to the profession of social work.
Episode 46: When your clients professes their love for you
An elder client financially exploited by a neighbor. Reminiscent and supportive counseling amazingly improves her dementia. Then she expresses romantic love for her clinician. Dr. Meyers and her guest discuss various forms of demonstrated love from clients and how to manage it.
Episode 45: Healing the Inner Child: Shifting the Way We Think
Celeste Viciere is here to explain the process of healing the inner child She discusses the importance of becoming aware of how our early childhood experiences, emotions and neds are played out in adulthood and how we can develop new patterns of being. "Shifting" is a challenging process that Celeste has worked on herself. Her straight-forward understanding, explanation and tools may just lead you to develop a more satisfying you.
Episode 44: Professional Attire Considerations: It communicates more than you may think
How we physically present ourselves does leave room for judgment. Does our appearance send the message we want regarding how we would like to be perceived? Can we control how we are perceived? Attire and physical being are compared to earning respect as Molloy University students reveal their own personal styles and the impact that has had on them, and others.
Episode 43 : How a Mental Health Clinician came to understand her own relationship with her brother as abusive
Dr. Meyers is in conversation with Anne, who shared her personal story of sibling abuse in episode #38. Now, Anne shares how, through her work with a client who was a survivor, Anne came to her own realizations of her childhood sibling relationship. The work between client and therapist became significantly healing for both. Anne was able to validate and identify her client’s experience as abusive and in turn, was able to give meaning to her own lived experience. Together, they forged a path towards healing.
Episode 42: Learning about Trauma Informed Practice and Self-Care
Working with clients who have been traumatized requires understanding of trauma-informed practices, psychodynamics, and neuroscience - and requires self-care. How do we know when to help the client process their trauma or recognize they may not be ready? Dr. Daria Hansen shares the strategies she applies to her clients, her students, and herself.
Episode 41 : The Complexity of Racial Conversations
Three university professors and clinicians talk about their personal and teaching experiences with racial diversity, equity and inclusion and how their positionality and identities present challenges teaching and approaching this material. They have to navigate their own emotions as they help others to open themselves to the vulnerability and necessity to learn about and own their own identities inclusive of privilege and oppression.
Episode 40: Is texting a useful form of engagement?
Do you ever struggle with the benefits vs. limitations of communicating through texting? How about when used in the therapeutic relationship? Emily Brierly, a Molloy University social work student feels misaligned with a co-intern’s intervention with a group of high school students as they planned a conference and were in need of task follow-through. What arises is the questionable use of texting as a tool for, or inhibitor of engagement.
Episode 39: The professional and personal journey of Dr. Meyers
Dr. Meyers is interviewed by a documentarian and recent social work graduate to share her career choices and path, with a focus on her personal journey as well. It is no coincidence that the two intertwine. Who is Dr. Meyers? You’ll have to listen to find out.
Episode 38: SA Series: A story of Sibling Abuse
A survivor of sibling abuse who also happens to be a seasoned therapist shares her experience with her abusive brother, the family dynamics that induced and perpetuated this relationship, and how she has been impacted. It wasn’t until middle adulthood that she recognized this relationship as abusive. What can we learn about sibling abuse from her story?
Episode 37: What's so Bad About Dependency?
A budding social worker relates his personal experience with loss at a developmentally significant age. His own history affects his tolerance of his clients’ dependency on him. With self-reflection and insight, Anthony Gaetani considers his understanding of his client's projections and is working through his own fear of disappointment.
Episode 36: A White Professor's Perspective on Teaching Diversity
Dr. Meyers presents her experiences teaching a course on Diversity: Power, Oppression and Social Justice. As a white professor, she addresses setting the climate and speaks candidly about her challenges and the classroom interactions that have taught her so much.
Episode 35: Being your authentic self
Petrina Williams, a new professional and graduate of Molloy University and Columbia University Social Work programs raises the question when and how to be your authentic self with clients: when it may work well - and when it may not. With humor, she opens about her high expectations of herself, her military background, and how she inadvertently transfers those standards of behavior onto clients.
Episode 34: Reflections from a member of the LGBT+ population
Professor and clinician Cynthia Bott discusses how she has navigated her lesbian identity and how this has created a niche practice which she finds both gratifying and limiting. She takes us on a journey of interesting topics related to the LGBT+ population and explores the sociological impact on what is considered normative. The importance of language and terminology is addressed with non-judgemental candor.
Episode 33: When the therapist terminates practice
There are several forms of termination with a client. The client can end treatment, the therapist can end the client’s treatment or the therapist can terminate his/her practice. Lisa Newland, a seasoned social worker shares her path from community social work to private practice and back as she decides to close the doors to her clinical practice. We are given a window into the complexity of feelings that can be ignited for both client and therapist.
Episode 32: When the therapist identifies with the client
We are talking about how therapists manage when we experience and struggle with something similar in our life at the same time as our clients. Dr. Meyers and her guest also chat about those times we may still be contending with the resonance of our own “stuff”.
Episode 31: Sibling Abuse Series, Part 5: Sibling Abuse as a Complex Trauma
The experience of sibling abuse is presented to make a case for consideration of sibling abuse as a Complex Trauma. Dr. Meyers defines sibling abuse and trauma and complex trauma. Then through application and example, she applies the defining aspects of complex trauma to the repercussions of the abusive relationship for the survivor.
Episode 30: Grappling with control: Understanding transference through a clinical case presentation
So much can be learned about the client from the way she relates to the therapist. It’s usually an indication of her relationships outside of the therapy. Equally informational is the client’s past, as a significant indicator of her current functioning. At the same time, the therapist must be aware of her own feelings that arise in working with the client and understand where those feelings are coming from. With openness and genuineness Dr. Meyers presents a case that highlights the transference and countertransference we must pay attention to when understanding the dynamics of a case.
Episode 29: Eyes Wide Shut
We all have been trapped in systems that fail us. Amanda Sanchez, MSW is back to discuss navigating these systems. How have you been impacted by faulty systems, and limited access to resources? What can we do as social workers and as good citizens?
Episode 28: When Trauma Meets Trauma
A Social Worker with her own history of sexual abuse and intimate partner violence has empathy for her clients based on her identification with them, and openly navigates her own triggered feelings from working with those whom she shares similar experiences.
Episode 27: Dr. Meyers shares "what she's really thinking"
Mara, a seasoned client is back for a second round of questions about all things therapy. She probes to learn more about what therapists really think but don't say or let on to their clients.
Episode 26: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Soon to be graduates of Molloy University’s social work program grapple with “what am I going to do with my life?”. Societal pressures of success combust with their personal expectations. As Dr. Meyers normalizes their fears, they are offered new ways of thinking about a grand plan.
Episode 25: Sibling Abuse Series, Part 4: Assessment
We continue the sibling abuse series learning how to assess for the occurrence of sibling abuse - as it is happening during childhood/adolescence AND how to uncover if someone as an adult has had this experience in their past. Could you or someone you know be a victim or survivor of sibling abuse? Have you always considered it as only sibling rivalry? Let's find out how to confirm this.
Episode 24: All Things Trans
We are curious, baffled, and sometimes turned off by those whom don't fit societal norms. Meet Hannah Fons, an exemplary human being who happens to be trans. Her openness about her experience as a trans-person offers us the ability to learn about our perceptions without judging ourselves.
Episode 23: Rising Up from Injustice
Bianca Shaw, a community-based social worker, supports and empowers the leadership of parents impacted by the family policing system through narrative stories. She works to heal those affected by the child welfare system, systemic racism and poverty. Bianca talks about how she “shows up” in her work and develops trust with those who initially question her intentions, addressing what separates us, and what brings us together.
Episode 22: When Your Therapist Makes You Squirm
Mara, a seasoned client, talks about her experiences in therapy: what she found challenging, and unsettling about how her therapists worked with her and conducted themselves. Included is a discussion about “breaking up” with your therapist. And don’t miss Mara’s rapid fire questions for Dr. Meyers.
Episode 21: Sibling Abuse Series, Part 3: Risk and Protective Factors
Sibling abuse exists within the family environment due to certain stressors and its perpetuation is affected by caregiver mismanagement. Learn how to detect sibling abuse and how to protect children from its occurrence, as well as mitigate the impact on survivors.
Episode 20: A Holistic Approach
Learn about working from a Holistic lens; and what happens when a clinician doesn’t believe in medication even when it may benefit the client?
Episode 19: So Many Losses
What happens when trauma meets trauma? My guest talks about her traumatic past as a victim of severe child abuse and how her resilience and limitations play out in her own work with children of abuse.
Episode 18: Confrontation: Yes You Can!
Confronting others is often feared and not always pleasant, but it is imperative towards getting our needs met. Dr. Meyers offers an empowering outlook to be able to confront others with success.
Episode 17: Heal Thyself
A social worker shares her traumatic upbringing and her perseverance. She and Dr. Meyers explore her pull to the helping profession as a result of impactful life experiences including multiple losses and family secrets. Her own history reveals potential challenges for her work.
Episode 16: Sibling Abuse Series, Part 2: The Enduring Impact
Understand the long-lasting emotionally traumatic repercussions for the victim/survivor of childhood and adolescent sibling abuse.
Episode 15: We All Need Community
It really does take a village. How did two social workers capitalize on their resources to serve themselves and those they serve? We all need to be nourished. Your greatest resource begins with you; putting yourself out there and building community to get the fuel you need.
Episode 14: The Art of Empathy & Silence
Why is it so challenging to convey empathy and to sit with silence? These seemingly simple offerings to others come weighted with our own discomforts. Learn the value of these experiences and gain insight into your own challenges.
Episode 13: This Work is Scary
As we strive to help others, we must also contend with our own fears, concerns, and anxieties. Dr. Meyers talks with social work students about how perfectionism and a rigid sense of right and wrong must be restructured so that mistakes are not perceived as failures.
Episode 12: It's Over, I'm Done
When is it time to end therapy? And whose decision is it? Is the client resistant to the work or has your work been successful? Dr. Meyers challenges her listeners to consider whose need is really being tended to, when the therapist feels the client should stay in treatment.
Episode 11: Sibling Abuse Series, Part 1: It Hurts and It's Serious
In the first of a series on Sibling Abuse, Dr. Meyers outlines what exactly sibling abuse is, and what it looks like. Although sibling abuse still remains under the radar, it is the most common form of family violence and extremely damaging. Dr. Meyers’ research on emotional and physical sibling abuse revealed its traumatic impact.
Episode 10: A Fine Line
Born and raised in Slovakia with a history of abuse, foster care, gangs, and drugs, Social Worker Tomas and Dr. Meyers explore how his traumatic past and subsequent abandonment issues play out in his work with the homeless population. Does this shared connection help or hinder the clinician-client relationship?