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The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering with Andrea Fortenberry

The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering with Andrea Fortenberry

By Andrea Fortenberry

This is a podcast is about finding freedom from perfectionism to show up for the life God has for you. Mom life is messy, unpredictable and just plain hard sometimes, but isn’t it also amazing? I believe God uses it all to grow us into the women He wants us to be.
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E50: What I Wish I'd Thought Of

The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering with Andrea FortenberryMay 18, 2022

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E85: Strategies for the Sports Mom
Sep 20, 202334:36
E84: Digital Detox - A Tech Reset for Kids

E84: Digital Detox - A Tech Reset for Kids

Welcome to Episode 84 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m sharing my conversation with Molly DeFrank, author of Digital Detox: The Two Week Tech Reset for Kids.* Molly is a mom to six children, three boys and three girls, ages six to thirteen. She spends most of her time telling them to put on their shoes. She helps parents get back in the driver’s seat to better navigate the stress of screen time in the home.

We chat all about her book and I share my experience with our family's digital detox we implemented over the summer.


You can connect with Molly via:

 

Just a reminder that you can connect with me via:

⁠⁠Subscribe to my monthly magazine, Restore.⁠⁠ Issues will hit your inbox the first Friday of every month.


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Sep 06, 202326:36
E83: A Teacher's Wisdom
Aug 24, 202339:60
E82: Remaining You While Raising Them

E82: Remaining You While Raising Them

Welcome to Episode 82 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! Today I'm so excited to welcome my mentor and friend, Alli Worthington, back to the podcast.⁠ (You can listen to Episode 9: Standing Strong with Alli here.) ⁠


This time, we're chatting all about her new book, Remaining You While Raising Them.* We talk about how modern motherhood is broken, mom guilt, the greatest gift a mom can give her kids, and more.


Some of the resources we mention in this episode include:


You can connect with Alli through:


Just a reminder that you can connect with me via:


⁠⁠Subscribe to my monthly magazine, Restore.⁠⁠ Issues will hit your inbox the first Friday of every month.


*Affiliate Link

Aug 09, 202339:16
E81: Body & Soul Summer Series - The Cure for Mom Overwhelm
Jul 28, 202339:27
E80: Body & Soul Summer Series - Pelvic Floor Health
Jul 15, 202329:57
E79: Body & Soul Summer Series - Finding True Rest
Jun 30, 202332:04
E78: Body & Soul Summer Series - Fit for the Call

E78: Body & Soul Summer Series - Fit for the Call

Welcome to Episode 78 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! We’re in our Body & Soul Summer series. I’m chatting with my friend Sarah Martin. Sarah Martin is a wife, mom, author, and a Certified FASTer Way Health & Wellness Coach. She is passionate about gathering purpose-driven women and coaching you in health and wellness to love God heart, soul, mind, and strength to be fit for the call He has on your life. Some of the resources we mention in this episode include: My friend Noelle's prayer challenge for your kids' friendships Reach Noelle on Instagram: @noellerhodescomedy The YouVersion Bible App The Last Dance ESPN Documentary Reduce Insulated Tumbler* Sarah's book, Higher Pursuits: Positioning Yourself for Everyday Revival* You can connect with Sarah via: Instagram: @sarahmartinvibrantlife Her website Just a reminder that you can connect with me via: ⁠⁠Instagram @andreafortenberry⁠⁠ ⁠⁠My website⁠ ⁠Subscribe to my free monthly magazine, Restore. New issues come out the first Friday of every month.⁠ *Affiliate Link
Jun 14, 202344:13
E77: Body & Soul Summer Series - Spending Time with God

E77: Body & Soul Summer Series - Spending Time with God

Welcome to Episode 77 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Right now we’re currently in our Body & Soul Summer series and I’m excited to share the conversation I had with my friend Courtney Lowman about spending time with God.


Courtney is a wife, mom, speaker and podcast host. Because she believes that everyone has an absolute need for discipleship and mentorship, Courtney created The Journey of Ruth Discipleship Podcast where episodes reflect her mission to help women Love Jesus, Read His Work, and Reach Others. Alongside serving her global audience, Courtney enjoys living out her mission closer to home as a volunteer alongside her husband in their church’s college ministry, as a speaker, and as a discipler of young women. 


Some of the resources we mention in this episode include:


You can connect with Courtney via:


Just a reminder that you can connect with me via:

Subscribe to my free monthly magazine, Restore. New issues come out the first Friday of every month.


*Affiliate Link

May 31, 202355:04
E76: Body & Soul Summer Series - How to Build Body Confidence
May 17, 202348:32
E75: How to Survive Maycember
May 04, 202342:12
E74: On Becoming

E74: On Becoming

Welcome to Episode 74 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! In this episode, I talk about hitting the milestone of 10k downloads. Thank you so much!

I also chat about becoming, discouragement, waiting, and what to do when we feel disappointed.


Here are some of my questions for you:

  • What did you enjoy doing as a child? What made you happy?
  • How has God used those things in your journey to becoming? What dots can you connect from your life now that you couldn’t see as you lived through them?
  • What are you waiting for? How can you grow your roots down deep in this waiting season?

Some of the resources I mention include:


Just a reminder that you can connect with me via:


You can support this podcast financially by clicking here. 


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Apr 19, 202328:56
E73: The Pace of Grace
Apr 05, 202332:20
E72: Hot Date Night
Mar 22, 202338:45
E71: Untangling Faith

E71: Untangling Faith

Welcome to Episode 71 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering!

Today I’m talking with the very funny and insightful, Amberly Neese. Amberly is a popular speaker/teacher, comedian, author, and all-around encourager dedicated to helping you become the joyful person you were created to be.

Amberly is a featured speaker for the Aspire Women’s Events and the main host and female comedian for Marriage Date Night, two popular Christian events that tour nationally.

She and her husband have two adult children and live in Prescott, Arizona, where they enjoy the great outdoors, the Food Network, and all things Star Wars. She is also a previous guest of the podcast in Episode 50, What I Wish I’d Thought Of.

In this episode, we chat about untangling our faith, holy uncertainty, and how our struggles and questions about faith can actually draw us closer to God.

Some of the resources we mention include:

You can connect with Amberly via:

*Affiliate Link

Mar 08, 202338:36
E70: How to be a Time-Saving Mom

E70: How to be a Time-Saving Mom

Welcome to Episode 70 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with the amazing Crystal Paine.

Crystal is the founder of MoneySavingMom.com, host of The Crystal Paine Show podcast, and a New York Times bestselling author. Her desire is to help women across the globe live with more joy, purpose, and intention in their everyday lives. She lives with her husband and six kids in the Nashville, Tennessee, area, where she is actively involved in her local church.

Her biggest passions are helping women understand how the gospel can radically transform their lives, raising awareness for foster care, going on adventures with her family (locally, domestically, and internationally), finding great deals at the grocery store, having heartfelt conversations, and trying to read too many books at one time!

We chat all about her new book, The Time-Saving Mom, which releases on March 7th.* In this episode shares her four-step system, her time-blocked to-do list, and many other great time-saving tips!

Some of the resources we mention include:

You can connect with Crystal through:

*Affiliate Link

Feb 22, 202335:27
E69: How to Handle Decision Fatigue
Feb 08, 202338:41
E68: Start Small
Jan 25, 202345:11
E67: Start Slowly
Jan 11, 202326:26
E66: Fan the Flame
Dec 28, 202228:32
E65: Five Loaves and Two Fish
Dec 14, 202226:39
E64: What to Do When You're Distracted, Worried, and Upset
Nov 30, 202227:31
E63: Life Can Be Good Again

E63: Life Can Be Good Again

Welcome to Episode 63 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering!

Today I’m talking with Lisa Appelo. Lisa Appelo is a speaker inspiring women to cultivate faith in life’s storms and author of Life Can Be Good Again: Putting Your World Back Together After It All Falls Apart. When life shatters and you're navigating a life you didn't sign up for, Lisa provides compassionate, Biblical insight to help you find your footing, process raw emotion, and anchor your threadbare hope to see you won’t merely survive this, but that life can be good again.

A former litigating attorney, Lisa is passionate about rich Bible teaching. She writes at the popular site LisaAppelo.com, founded a team of writers at hopeingrief.com, administers the Facebook group Widow Mama Collective, and serves on the Executive Team for COMPEL with Proverbs31Ministries. As a single mom of seven, Lisa’s days are filled with parenting, ministry, and long walks to justify lots of dark chocolate.

In this episode, we talk about Lisa's story of loss, what has helped her and her family grieve, how we can help others going through grief, and how we can find hope that life will be good again despite our circumstances. 

You can connect with Lisa through:


Nov 16, 202229:08
E62: The Perfectionist's Guide to the Holidays - Part 2
Nov 02, 202201:39:31
E61: The Perfectionist's Guide to the Holidays - Part 1
Oct 19, 202257:37
E60: Blended and Redeemed

E60: Blended and Redeemed

Welcome to Episode 60 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering!

Today I’m talking with Scott and Vanessa Martindale. The Martindales founded Blended Kingdom Families (BKF) in 2020 with a passionate desire to equip and encourage blended families and married couples as well as to help the local church cultivate community among blended families. Through faith and radical obedience, Scott and Vanessa have partnered with God to better equip the local church to reach blended families. BKF exists to break the generational cycle of divorce by equipping marriages and uniting blended families with the truth of God’s Word.

In this episode we chat about their story of being a blended family, how we can come alongside and support blended families, some of their best tips for a thriving marriage and family, and more!

Some of the resources we mention include:

*Affiliate Link

Oct 05, 202230:03
E59: How to Follow God's Will

E59: How to Follow God's Will

Welcome to Episode 59 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering!

Today I’m talking with Brittany Ann, who is a repeat guest of the podcast. If you want to hear our previous episode, it’s Episode 18.

Brittany Ann is an ECPA bestselling author of Fall in Love with God’s Word* and Follow God’s Will* and the founder of EquippingGodlyWomen.com, a popular Christian-living website dedicated to helping busy Christian moms find practical ways to go "all in" in faith and family. Her work has been featured on CBN, The Christian Post, Crosswalk, and more.

In this episode we talk about if God has a specific plan for your life, common myths we have about God's will, the checklist mentality, and more.

Some of the resources we mention include:

You can connect with Brittany Ann through EquippingGodlyWomen.com

*Affiliate Link

Sep 21, 202255:39
E58: Friendship Q & A - Summer Series Part 8
Sep 07, 202201:07:03
E57: Setting Our Kids Up for Friendship Success - Summer Series Part 7
Aug 24, 202246:34
E56: Friendship Lifecycles - Summer Series Part 6
Aug 10, 202241:03
E55: When Friendship Hurts - Summer Series Part 5
Jul 27, 202256:06
E54: Vulnerability in Friendship - Summer Series Part 4
Jul 13, 202256:39
E53: How to Make Friends as An Adult Woman - Summer Series Part 3
Jun 29, 202201:06:50
E52: Friendship Myths - Summer Series Part 2
Jun 15, 202242:09
E51: Summer Friendship Series - Part 1
Jun 01, 202237:00
E50: What I Wish I'd Thought Of

E50: What I Wish I'd Thought Of

Welcome to Episode 50 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering!

Before we dive into today’s conversation, I want to let you know about two things:

1. May 20th is the second birthday of the podcast! As a quick birthday gift, could you hop over to Apple Podcasts and rate and review the podcast? It means so much and will help more moms be able to find it.

2. Just a reminder that Restore: Soul Care for Moms is coming to Arizona on Tuesday, June 21st at Rock Point Church, 6:30-9 PM. Tickets are on sale now, link is in the show notes. I really hope to see you there!


Now, on to today’s episode:

Today I’m talking with Amberly Neese. I met Amberly earlier this year at an event here in Arizona and she’s amazing. Amberly Neese is a popular speaker/teacher, comedian, author, and all-around encourager dedicated to helping you become the joyful person you were created to be.

Amberly is a featured speaker for the Aspire Women’s Events and the main host and female comedian for Marriage Date Night, two popular Christian events that tour nationally. She is the author of The Belonging Project: Finding Your Tribe and Learning to Thrive*, Common Ground: Loving Others Despite Our Differences*, and The Friendship Initiative: Connecting and Loving Like Jesus.*

She and her husband have two teenagers and live in Prescott, Arizona, where they enjoy the great outdoors, the Food Network, and all things Star Wars.


Some of the resources we mention include:

You can connect with Amberly via:

*Affiliate Link

May 18, 202245:20
E49: How to Thrive in Motherhood

E49: How to Thrive in Motherhood

Welcome to Episode 49 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering!

Before we dive into today’s interview, I have some announcements:

1. I have a new digital magazine, Restore. You can subscribe here. 

2. Get your tickets to Restore: Soul Care for Moms in Arizona on Tuesday, June 21st

Now, on to today’s conversation:

Today I’m talking with Jaclyn Weidner. Jaclyn is the self-proclaimed former president of the Hot Mess Mom's Club. After God pulled her out of a pit of anxiety and depression she has been on a mission to help other overwhelmed moms thrive! She lives just outside of Vancouver Canada with her husband Brendan and their 3 talkative girls. She hosts the Ready to Thrive Podcast and is the author of Tangled: A Soul Care Revival Guide. She loves creating content that helps women experience transformation in her life and she started the Ready to Thrive school where she hosts e-courses for women to get the tools they need to thrive.

Some of the resources we mention include:

You can connect with Jaclyn via: 

*Affiliate Link

May 04, 202245:36
E48: A Confident Mom
Apr 20, 202244:10
E47: Helping Tweens with Anxiety

E47: Helping Tweens with Anxiety

Welcome to Episode 47 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering!

Today I’m talking with Caris Snider. Caris is a Christian Communicator who shares the hope of God through speaking and leading worship. She is the best-selling author of Anxiety Elephants: A 31 Day Devotional and Anxiety Elephants for Tween Girls and Boys*. Her passion for the Lord comes through as she shares her experiences of overcoming depression and anxiety. Her desire is to help women of all ages with their faith and mental health journey.

We chat about how to detect symptoms of anxiety in our tweens and how to help them. We also chat through tips for us as moms navigating anxiety and our favorite Bible verses that help us. 

Some of the resources we mention include: 

You can connect with Caris via:

*Affiliate Link

Apr 06, 202246:40
E46: The Cranky Mom Fix

E46: The Cranky Mom Fix

Welcome to Episode 46 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering!

Today I’m talking with Becky Kopitzke. She is a wife, mom of two, author, speaker, and writing coach. She’s the author of three books including The Cranky MomFix: How to Get a Happier, More Peaceful Home by Slaying the "Momster" in All of Us.* Becky and her family are living the dream in northeast Wisconsin, where they share precious space with two lazy dogs, and tables stacked with homework and craft supplies.

I loved this conversation with Becky, we are kindred spirits! We talked about crankiness triggers, how to handle blunders that happen despite our best intentions, Becky's three family rules, and more. 

Some of the resources we mention include:

You can connect with Becky via her:

*Affiliate Link

Mar 23, 202240:00
E45: Asking for Help

E45: Asking for Help

Welcome to Episode 45 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I'm sharing a story, encouraging you to ask for help, and asking for your help. 

Could you please help me with these five things?

  1. Subscribe to my email list! I recently refreshed the format of my monthly emails to a new monthly magazine, Restore, and I think you’re going to love it! New issues will appear in your inbox every first Friday of the month.
  2. Share the link to subscribe to Restore with your friends!
  3. If you enjoy this podcast, please subscribe and share it with your friends! Send them the direct link to your favorite episodes. Ask them to subscribe.
  4. Leave a quick rating and review over on Apple Podcasts so when moms search for motherhood podcasts, the mysterious algorithm will make it appear to more moms.
  5. Lastly, follow me over on Instagram @andreafortenberry.

Some of my recommendations in this episode include:

Mar 09, 202230:03
E44: What If It's Wonderful?

E44: What If It's Wonderful?

Welcome to Episode 44 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today’s guest is a familiar friend, Nicole Zasowski, who was with us for Episode 13. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the author of two books, including What If It’s Wonderful?*, which releases on March 8th. She lives in Connecticut with her husband and three young children.

Some of the resources we mention include:

You can connect with Nicole through:

*Affiliate Link

Feb 23, 202240:12
E43: Marriage Q&A
Feb 09, 202242:21
E42: The Astronaut's Wife

E42: The Astronaut's Wife

Welcome to today’s episode, friends, you’re in for a treat! My friend and MOPS coworker, the amazing Stacey Morgan, is back with us today. We recorded Episode 19 together on friendship and it is still my most listened to episode. If you’ve not listened, I encourage you to do that, just click here. 

Today we’re going to hear all about Stacey’s book, The Astronaut’s Wife*, which launches into the world on February 22nd! (There has been a supply chain issue, so the book will launch a few weeks later than we mentioned in the episode.)

Some of the things we talk about include:

You can connect with Stacey on Instagram at @staceymorgan2000 or her website staceymorgan2000.com. Find out all about her book at theastronautswife.com.

*Affiliate Link

Jan 26, 202201:02:22
E41: How to Embolden Our Daughters

E41: How to Embolden Our Daughters

Welcome to Episode 41 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering!


Today I’m talking with Amy Debrucque. Amy is a wife, mom of four, cancer survivor, and co-author of Embolden.* She is the founder of the Life On Purpose Movement and host of the Life On Purpose Podcast where she encourages women to live on purpose instead of fear. 


We talk about how to embolden our daughters, differences in raising daughters and sons, how to care for yourself, and much more! 


Some of the resources we mention include: 


You can connect with Amy via:

*Affiliate Link

Jan 12, 202235:06
E40: How to Stop People Pleasing

E40: How to Stop People Pleasing

Welcome to Episode 40 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering!

Today I’m talking with Karen Ehman. Karen is a Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker and the author of 17 books and Bible studies. You may also know her from the popular First 5 app or Encouragement for Today online devotionals from Proverbs 31 Ministries. She is married to her college sweetheart Todd. They are the parents of five adult children, three biological and two in-laws by marriage, although she forgets which are which. Her passion is to help women to live their priorities and love their lives as they serve God and others.

We chat all about her new book, When Making People Happy is Making You Miserable: How to Break the Pattern of People Pleasing and Confidently Live Your Life*. You're going to love what Karen shares about how to say yes to relationships and no to requests, how to establish and maintain boundaries, and much more!

Some of the resources we mention include:

You can connect with Karen through:

*Affiliate Link

Dec 04, 202135:09
E39: Leaving a Legacy of Faith
Nov 19, 202132:42
E38: The Perfectionist's Guide to the Holidays
Nov 03, 202129:16
E37: Messy Hope

E37: Messy Hope

Welcome to Episode 37 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering!

Today I’m talking with Lori Wildenberg. Lori is a friend of mine I met through Called Creatives. Her passion is helping families build connections that last a lifetime. She is a licensed parent-family educator, speaker and author of six parenting books. Her most recent title is called Messy Hope: Help Your Child Overcome Anxiety, Depression or Suicidal Ideation.* She and her husband have four adult children, three bonus in-laws and three grandchildren.

We talk about why we need to impart our kids with hope, how to help our kids who are struggling, Hope Busters, and practical ways to infuse hope into our homes. 

Some of the resources we mention include:

You can connect with Lori via:

*Affiliate Link

Oct 22, 202146:32
E36: How to Live Generously
Oct 08, 202151:09