A second chance at life®

In this episode, I interviewed Jay Bowman of Jay's Body Cafe to discuss the importance of taking time for yourself through self-care practices. We will talk about why prioritizing self-care is a must and how it can impact your overall well-being. Jay also provides tips for incorporating self-care into your daily routine, even when busy.

Tune in to learn how to make self-care a non-negotiable part of your routine.

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How do you find joy in your everyday life?

Finding joy in everyday life will look different for everyone. For example, one person's joy may be having an extra 30 minutes to themself each day, while someone else may need a happy hour every day after work.

When it comes to life challenges, no one gets a pass. We ALL experience the hardships, losses, setbacks, discomforts, and uncertainties that challenges bring.

Today I want to give you 3 simple tips to help you thrive when overcoming life challenges.

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How do you embrace the beauty of getting older? In this episode, I am having an honest conversation about a subject that society doesn't discuss. Instead, they show you many images of being young and youthful but not how to welcome the next season of your life of becoming older.

I would be interested in your thoughts on the subject! Send me an email at arvilla@arvillabeckworth.com

Welcome to Season 6 of A second chance at life podcast, the go-to source for women who are ready to do life better!

Whether you're looking to improve your career, relationships, health, or overall well-being, I've got you covered! I am the host Arvilla Beckworth, and I will be providing you with tips and strategies you will need to make the most out of your second chance.

This season, I will be discussing topics like "Embracing the beauty of growing older," "How to navigate grief & loss," and "The challenges of dating." Plus, you will hear inspiring interviews from women who have successfully taken charge of their lives and turned them into new opportunities!

Season 6 starts May 15, 2023. Set your calendars, or better yet, hit the subscribe button so you do not miss out on this opportunity for a fresh start!

Listen to A second chance at life podcast, available now on all podcast platforms!

As we wrap up season 5, I want you to take what you learned and decide today that you will get the help you need. No longer will you say I'm good or swipe the issue under the rug. It's time to accept accountability and start to heal your body.

Today's episode is short, sweet, and straight to the point. I want to give you some advice for your healing journey.

If you have not already subscribed to this podcast, hit the subscribe button NOW!! Be on the lookout for Season 6!!!!

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Do you struggle with your inner voice?   

The voice that says, "I can't do it, I am not good enough, or what if?" 

LaShana West, Business Therapist and Mindset Coach knows the impact a negative mindset can have on reaching your full potential.   

In this interview, LaShana digs deeper into mental roadblocks like imposter syndrome, second-guessing, trauma responses, and a negative mindset, plus she gives tips on how to overcome them.  

When it comes to your healing journey, you know that you need help but don't know where to start.

I wish someone had told me what to do in before I started. I delayed my journey because I was too embarrassed to tell anyone what I was going through.

In this episode, I give eight things I wish I knew when starting my healing journey. Take a listen!

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Trauma can happen at any stage of our life. The challenging part is when it shows up at the wrong time, causing us to feel vulnerable or, worst, exposed.   

In this interview, Life Coach Lillian Hernandez discusses how trauma affects us and the different ways we can heal from it. Lillian is no stranger to trauma, as she has been bullied in school and experienced depression at an early age. She knows how important it is to heal your inner self.  

When do you know it's time to take a social media break?   

It is no secret that social media has taken over. We see it in every aspect of our lives; if we are not careful, it can become addictive or overwhelming.  

Sharon Wright, better known as Mz Success Junkie, knew it was time to step away after having her mental struggle. She was overwhelmed and felt like she was about to crash. Instead, she took time to reflect, started learning about herself, and took control of her own happiness.     

Take a listen to this episode as Sharon shares how to get back on track mentally.   

Stress is good, but what if your everyday stress turns into burnout? Whether it's boundaries, lack of self-care, or burnout, it is a trauma response. In this episode, Dr. Kim, The Alignment Coach, talks about burnout prevention and how to recognize the different stress levels.  

With her expertise in burnout, Dr. Kim will get you back on track!  

As Moms, we do everything in our power to ensure our kids are cared for, but sometimes we forget to care for ourselves. Tiara Nicole Riley experienced parental burnout by trying to be a super mom and do everything until she started using her words and asking for help.   In this episode, she discusses the importance of putting yourself first without feeling guilty. It's time to cancel mom guilt and replace it with mom grace!  

LaKisha Mosley is always on top of her game as a woman, mom, and business owner. She started noticing something wasn't right, so she reached out to her doctor, who clinically diagnosed her with P.D.D or High Functioning Depression.  

Listen to this episode as she talks about the signs, her journey, and what she is doing to care for herself. 

Business Coach and Travel Influencer Kierra Sade is always looked at as a strong friend. The one that everyone goes to but rarely checks on. Being a successful six-figure coach doesn't exempt her from mental struggles.

In this episode, she talks about her personal struggle with high-functioning depression and being the strong friend!

Adrianne Robertson, a professional writer and content creator is passionate about helping women normalize, avoid burnout, and find their stride in life.

In this episode, we talk about high-functioning depression, burnout, and our personal experience with mental health as black women.

Welcome to Season 5 of A second chance at life podcast! 

Have you ever felt like something was off? You can't pinpoint what it is; you don't feel like yourself. 

In this episode, I give you six signs you should be concerned with regarding your mental health.

Have you said this before when someone asked you, "Hey, how are you doing?" Your response was, "I'm fine, or I'm good," but you didn't mean it?

Well, you are not the only one!

My name is Arvilla Beckworth, and I am the host of A second chance at life®. A weekly podcast that encourages women to take their past or current experience and turn them into new opportunities in life.

This season, I will be focusing on mental health. Since the pandemic, we have seen an increase in mental health issues like depression, anxiety, burnout, and suicide, to name a few.

Season 5 will be on October 17, 2022, so make sure you subscribe to A second chance at life ® is now available on Apple Podcast and other Podcast platforms.

In this interview, this mother of two tells her story of how she started her first few businesses out of desperation of leaving the strip club and how she changed her life around and became a born-again Christian. She has a coaching business that teaches, inspires, and motivates women to obtain and create generational wealth by using their God-given skills, talents, & gifts to start a side hustle. 

This interview definitely has some information you want to soak up!

Season 5 starts October 17, 2022!!

As women, we get burned out because we overextend ourselves. We are either helping someone through a problem, taking on extra work, or being too distracted with other stuff that we can't focus on.

It's great that you can help others and be a support system but how many people return the favor?

Well, today, I want to give you five ways you can start showing up for yourself!

What is stopping you from being the woman you are called to be? Is it self-doubt, procrastination, or fear?

You see this woman in your head but do not know how to bring her out.

You will have to change some habits to be a better version of yourself. Listen to today's episode as I give eight tips on what is stopping you.

In life, some of the best lessons come from obstacles. Whether good or bad, we remember what we had to go through and the result. A takeaway from any lesson is to learn from it and use the tools it gives you, not to relearn that lesson again. 

You do not always think about the lesson when you go through some things. You remember the hurt or the pain, but not what you were supposed to take from it.

And when you finally learn the lesson, do you also see the blessing?

In this episode, I talk about how important it is to take away the blessing in a lesson!

Nobody likes change, especially when it takes you out of your comfort zone.  You know it's time to make a move, but you are afraid of what it will require to get it done. 

Truth be told, you will never be ready so listen to today's episode where I give you 8 ways to make a change when you are not ready.

Whether you are going through a loss of a loved one, loss of a divorce, or a loss of income, sometimes it is hard to find the strength to continue to go on.

In this episode, I give you 8 ways to stay encouraged and find the strength you need to handle each day.

Every pain gives a lesson, and every lesson changes a person ~Thought Wonder.

Have you ever wondered whether there was a purpose behind your pain? Why did you have to go through it? Or what lesson were you supposed to learn? 

In today's episode, I talk about the purpose after your pain.

One of the hardest things to deal with in life is a setback. It usually comes when you least expect it and makes you think twice before doing it again.

In today's episode, I gave you 8 ways to bounce back from a setback!

People who tend to hurt others are usually hurting themself. This is because something happened in their past that causes them to act or react in a certain way.

I want to give you something to think about in this short episode. Before you label someone, look at it from another perspective.

Have you ever stayed in something longer than you should have? You thought you could make it work, but you start to lose yourself in the process.

In this episode, I give you 4 clues to know when it is time to walk away, plus I give you 4 steps to start making the move.

Leaving a situation that you have been in for a while can be hard, but when it comes to your mental health, you should do everything in your power to move.

When you have been through a season of brokenness, you feel like something is missing. All of these broken pieces, and you have no idea how to put them back together or see their beauty.

In this interview, I spoke with Tynia Lewis of Kandid Konversation Blog and Podcast about her definition of being broken. She explains the different situations that caused her to be broken and what she had to do to become healed. Her brokenness came out in a therapy session when she had to look in a mirror and do some inner work.

Are you dealing with unresolved hurt? A hurt you never dealt with that shows up at the wrong time.

In this episode, I talk about how unresolved hurt can hinder your growth and healing process. So today, please take your power back by recognizing that this hurt no longer exists in your life.

Life is too short to be carrying around unresolved hurt. The apology you are waiting for may never come, so push forward and live.

We all have some regret in our life, whether it's something we are embarrassed about, ashamed of, or not proud of. But, if you let it, guilt can hold you back from your growth. Take it from me. I know what it feels like to let something weigh on your heart.

Comparing your life to someone else can be a dangerous game. If you are not careful, it will cost you time, money, and happiness. When you feel like your life is not good enough, you will start to pick it apart and create issues that were never there. In this episode, I give you four ways to minimize comparison. 

Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt you. Whoever said that was lying! Your words are powerful, and what you say, good or bad, will become your reality.

In this episode, I talk about the impact of your words and why it is important to watch you say. Whether you're talking to yourself or going off on others, your words could come back and bite you.

In this interview, I talk with Dr. Glenice D Glover about how women sometimes struggle to know their values and worth. The process of loving yourself is an ongoing journey that starts within you. 

Unfortunately, no one is immune to low self-worth, so it's important to learn what you need to build yourself up early on. 

If you have a daughter or a special young lady in your life, this episode is especially for you! 

Confidence is something we all have. We just need to be reminded of it from time to time. When you are confident, you trust your abilities, judgment, and worth. You see life in a positive light. 

But when your confidence is low, you have trouble accepting positive feedback, are hard on yourself, and have negative self-talk. In today's episode, I give you six ways to improve self-confidence.

We all have days when we feel down and do not know what we need to pick ourselves back up. When you no longer feel like yourself, stop for a moment and figure out what has changed.

In this episode, I give you 7 ways to pick yourself back up so you can take control of your life.

We all deal with stress daily, but sometimes stress can become overwhelming, and a lack of coping skills make it hard to handle. In this episode, I give a few signs to recognize if you are experiencing a nervous breakdown and tips to help.

If you are having a nervous breakdown, please seek professional help immediately.

When you think your worst situation is meant to take you out!? Change the game!

In this interview, Della Major talks about her journey with being diagnosed with kidney disease and how she took what was meant to hurt her and changed the game.

Through it all, she kept pushing even when the doctor said otherwise. She took her pain and turned it into her purpose in life.

In this episode, I talk about my journey to ask God why I had to experience hard times. I didn't think it was fair, and I kept asking him, "Lord, why me?" "Why am I going through this?" "Why is this happening to me?". I later found out that it wasn't about me at all! What I was going through was for someone else.

Here are three things I want you to take away from this episode.

 1. Stop wondering why.

 2. Don't take it personally.

 3. Let go of playing the victim.

If you ever asked God why me, take a listen to this episode!

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We all learn lessons from relationships but what if the lesson could cost you your life?

In part 1 of this interview, Janet Lewis tells her life story of growing up as a young girl from California. At the age of 15, she found out she was pregnant and moved out with her boyfriend. Once this relationship was over, she entering into another relationship which turned abusive, and became pregnant again at 19.

The final straw came when she almost lost her third child while defending herself from another abusive relationship.

Growing up, both of her parents were alcoholics. She was molested as a little girl and then got pregnant at 15. Being a teen mom caused her to drop out of high school in the 9th grade.

With no education or money, she had to work 2-3 jobs to take care of her family. However, she eventually finds love in doing hair. So she became a hairstylist and became a salon owner for four years. Then a new opportunity presents itself for her to become an over-the-road truck driver. As of today, she and her husband run a successful company called Married too the Miles.

This woman overcame adversity and is now a life lessons coach where she helps women turn hardship into lessons.

Have you ever been through something in life that was meant to hurt you, but you found the strength to make it through? Well, I have! 

My name is Arvilla Beckworth, and I am the host of A second chance at life. A weekly podcast that encourages women to take their past experiences and turn them into a new opportunity in life!

This season, I will be doing a "Purpose after pain" series, which will have topics like "Dealing with unresolved hurt," "How to bounce back from setbacks," and "Will I ever love again?" plus I will be featuring some amazing women who share their stories of overcoming challenges that life has put in front of them.

In this episode, I had the pleasure to sit down with the Founder of Empowered Majesty Team, Host of True Lessons Podcast, and Certified Trauma Recovery Life Coach Lillian Hernandez.

We had an honest conversation about going out of your comfort zone to get support, why society puts women against each other, and how to embraces other women.

The longest relationship you will ever have is with yourself. Unfortunately, that relationship doesn't come naturally, so you have to be patient and continually grow it.

I remember self-sabotaging my relationship because I could not love myself, so it made me not allow others to love me either, creating problems that were not there.

Having a loving relationship with yourself looks like kindness, grace, forgiveness, and accountability. But before someone can love you, you have first love yourself, so today, I want to give you 5 Reasons why loving yourself is important.

Have you ever had those moments when you felt unlovable? Not from anyone else but yourself?

There was a time in my life (20 years ago) when I didn't love myself properly. My self-esteem was low, and I felt like I was losing myself. I would wake up in the morning, dreading getting up because I had hit a low point in my life.

Then I did some self-flection and found out that I was unhappy in that current situation.

In today's episode I give you 7 ways to love yourself again!

Today's episode talks about how dating myself changed my life.

During my dating season, it seemed like I was giving all of myself while they were giving nothing, and I got sick and tired of always being last, so I decided to start dating myself.

It was time to put myself first and enjoy what I like to do and not do what others wanted to do. After I started dating myself, it became rewarding, and it taught me how to enjoy my own company and help me focus on my mental health.

Once you become a Mom, Wife, Partner, Business Owner, etc., the free time you used to have, is not always there. So watch how much confidence, personal development, and mental health will improve by making time for yourself.

"If you want to find the love of your life, look in the mirror" ~Unknown In my journey of learning to love myself better, I could never figure out why it was so hard for me to show people how to love me.

 I was often frustrated because I thought the way I loved people was the same way I would receive it until I came across a book that thoroughly explained to me what I was missing. 

Many people do not realize that loving yourself first is the foundation for any relationship you enter. Whether its a friendship, relationship, marriage, or work, when you can communicate to others how you feel when loved correctly, you will take away a lot of the guesswork out for them!

 Listen to this week's episode as I talk about the love languages and how they can help you! 

Why is it so hard for people to apologize when they did you wrong? I remember when I was looking for an apology for someone who mistreated me, and did you know that the person acted like I was the reason I got mistreated!! So instead of admitting that they did me wrong, it was easier for them to place the blame elsewhere.

For years this bothered me because I was looking for an apology to validate my feelings. Just hearing the words "I'm sorry" and they meant it would have put my mind at ease. But when it never came, I had to forgive and move on.

 When you haven't dealt with unhealed trauma, it seems to show its ugly head at the wrong time. I remember trying to hide my previous abusive relationship for others. It showed up through frustration, low-self esteem, and physical scars on my body. It even started to affect how I interacted with other people.

Once you recognize you need to heal yourself, you will do what you have to do to keep your sanity.

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As part 2 of this two-part interview continues, Lauren goes into depth about her anxiety. Not only did it affect her family but also her pockets as well. She had to file bankruptcy due to the multiple ER visits, ambulance rides, and blood work. Lauren's body knew something was going on and was trying to protect her from it.

She eventually got depressed and didn't want to leave her house because her anxiety caused her to fear everything. Finally, when enough was enough, Lauren sought professional help and is currently  on a 3-year journey to healing herself!

Take a listen as Lauren shares her story!

If you haven't listened to part 1, go back and then return to part 2!

In this two-part interview, I am talking with Lauren Brown on overcoming unhealed trauma. Today, she talks about her childhood and the loss of her father at an earlier age. On top of that, at the age of 3, she was separated from her mother due to her drug addiction. This caused her to develop anxiety and uncertainty later in life.

As her mom continued to go in and out of rehab, Lauren had to stay with her mom's friends while her mom was getting the help she needed. At 17, her mother had another bout with her addiction. Nevertheless, Lauren was determined to graduate high school, so she moved out and stayed with her childhood friend.

Have you ever been triggered by a person, place, or thing? Some think being "triggered" means rubbing someone the wrong way when in all actuality, being triggered is anything that reminds someone of a traumatic event.

In this episode, I talk about my personal dealing with triggers.

Do you have any triggers you are dealing with?

As we wrap up 2021, what do you want to leave behind?

No matter what it is, if you don't change your mindset, you will go into 2022 with the same issues.

Today I want to give you five things to leave behind in 2021. Click the click 

During the month of November, I will be focusing on self-care. No matter who you are, self-care should be a part of your life. Think of it as a cell phone. When your cellphone gets low, you charge it back up, so why wouldn't your body need the same thing?

In this episode, I give 8 tips you can use today, to take care of yourself. 

What if someone gave you $86,400 to spend every day? As soon as you wake up, the money will be sitting in your account. The only thing this person asked of you was to spend it by midnight, or whatever was leftover would disappear. 

Sound simple, right!

Well, let me switch it up. What if someone gave you 86,400 seconds a day to use. Would you use it the same way as money?

Go ahead and listen to this week's episode!

As I wrap up the narcissist series, I want to encourage anyone who is currently in a relationship with a narcissist and is ready to leave to get a support system around you to make that transition safely.

Once a narcissist knows that the relationship has come to an end, they may try to do everything in their power to win you back. Be strong and remember why you are leaving.

In this episode, I give three quick tips to help you on your journey.

If you need help healing from a narcissistic relationship, please contact Joy Larkin of Live Narc Free, LLC. She is a Narcissist Abuse Coach who specializes in how to overcome narc abuse and turning your pain into power. Let here know Arvilla sent you!

What do you do when you have a narcissist in your life?

Narcissistic Abuse Coach Joy Larkin of Live Narc Free, LLC is joining us today as she talks about narcissists. She originally shared her story on YouTube and received 10,000 views and 60 comments!

Joy explains how she not only dealt with an ex-boyfriend but her aunt as well. She removed herself from both of them and then turned her pain into power by helping others overcome narcissistic abuse.

In this interview, she gives ten traits on recognizing if you are dealing with a narcissist. Here are five.

Books she read to assist her healing:

Everything you have in life is the result of you believing in yourself. Sometimes you want something bad enough that you think about it over and over again until it starts to feel real. Then all of a sudden, doubt creeps in, and you stop believing that it was possible, so you give up.

Why is it so easy for us to count ourselves out and not believe it is possible?

In this episode, I give you 4 ways to believe in yourself plus talk about the 5 stages of transformation.

When is the last time you received a promotion? 6 months ago, 1 year ago, or maybe even 2 years or more?

This promotion I am talking about is the kind you give yourself.

 YOU worked hard. YOU sacrificed for others. YOU put your life on hold. Isn't it time for YOU to reward yourself?

Your promotion doesn't have to be monetary. It could be in your time, self-care, relationships, or well-being. Whatever your "promotion" is, you deserve it.

Click the play button to listen to this weeks episode!

Have you ever asked yourself, "I am living my full potential ?" 

In this episode, I give you three ways to start living. Doing my mid-year reset, I asked myself that same question, and I noticed that I have been playing it safe in some areas. I am doing just enough to get by. But, then I realize I am missing out on opportunities to live my life.

It is time for me to start living and stop giving excuses for not doing something. 

Let us get excited about our future again by start living!

Can you believe the first half of 2021 is complete?

In this episode, I give you eight things you can reset. I was initially going to do ten but forgot to mention them during the episode, so I listed them below.

In June, I took some time out to look at where I was in my life, and I realize that some areas were further than others, but there were some things I was behind in. So I needed to check in with myself to get back on track to finish 2021 strong.

Ten things you can do to reset your mid-year:

In today's interview, I talk with Marci Millsap of Queen's Rx. Not only is she a serial entrepreneur, but she is serving 20 years in the military, wrote a number one selling book "Affirmation for Queens," and is a Wellness and Personal Coach.

Her health journey started when her appendix burst, and she had to go to the hospital, where she blackout and coded. Then she came back and finally had her appendix removed after four days. 

Since it was during the quarantine in 2020, she could not see her family during that time. As she continued to stay in the hospital, her body kept getting worst, and that is when she realized something wasn't right.

Through everything, she promised herself, she would walk again! 

Today God has given her an army full of women who are willing to go on this journey with her and make a Total Life Change!!

Listen to this week's episode!

Being a mom is not easy. There are days when you feel like you are overwhelmed and can't seem to catch your breath.

In this episode, I give 3 tips that encourage moms to know that they are not alone in this thing called motherhood. Other women around you have been where you have been and understand your frustration.

Remember you are important to your family. To the world, you are one person, but to one person, you are the world!

As we continue with the financial series, I want to talk about saving for an emergency. Do you have money saved up for an emergency? 

Many of us spend more than we make, and unfortunately, we forget to put money aside for a rainy day. Gallup did a survey before the 2008 crisis hit and found out that only 32% of Americans would be able to cover an emergency of $5,000 without borrowing money. That data alone should have you look at your finances and see if you are prepared to cover an emergency.

Listen to this episode as I talk about the importance of starting a $1,000 beginner emergency fund.

Do you know where your money is going?

When you get a lump sum of money, you have to be mindful of your current financial situation. Before you spend all of your stimulus check, tax refund, or paycheck, you want to make sure your finances are in order.

It so easy to want to spend it on things you wanted to get for the last year or so, but what about the people you owe, fix things that are broken, or replenish that depleted savings account? Take care of needs before spending on wants.

In this episode, I talk with Brittany about managing finances. At the age of 29, she challenged 10 of her friends to save $10,000 (by the end of 2021) holding, them accountable with their finances. 

Not only can she spot a deal a mile away, but she was able to lower her finances, create a 5-figure savings, and pay down debt while in the middle of a pandemic. This sister is on fire!

Her determination for financial freedom is inspiring!

If you are ready to start your financial future on the right path, go ahead and listen to this week's episode!

Has anybody said to you or have you heard ...

Depression doesn't have a look. It is always not the person crying and under the covers. It is also the person who has their stuff together and fully functioning.

Before you tell someone what depression looks like, why don't you tell them, "Your feeling are valid" "How can I support you?" "It is okay to cry"

Listen to this week's episode to see how you can help a love one going through depression.

If you are struggling with depression, please contact SAMHSA National Hotline at 1-800-662-4357. It is a free, confidential, 24 hours, 365 day a year hotline that helps individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorder.

Depression can affect anyone. Whether you are rich, poor, black, white, man, woman, young, old. It hits everyone the same.

We all learn lessons from relationships but what if the lesson could cost you your life?

In part 1 of this interview, Janet Lewis tells her life story of growing up as a young girl from California. At the age of 15, she found out she was pregnant and moved out with her boyfriend. Once this relationship was over, she entering into another relationship which turned abusive, and became pregnant again at 19.

 The final straw came when she almost lost her third child while defending herself from another abusive relationship.

What does a second chance mean for you? Does it mean a redo, to fix something you messed up, or start over?

I had to look up the definition in the Merriam-Webster dictionary, and it stated it's "An opportunity to try something again after failing one time."

I know I am not the only one who had some mistakes in their life; they wish they could get another chance at fixing them. The one thing about my mistakes was that I didn't remember the lessons, so I kept learning the hard way to get it together.

In this episode, I give you seven things you can use to get a second chance. It won't be easy but well worth it in the long run. Understand it's what you do with a second chance that counts, not the process.

Is self-care a number one priority on your list?

Most people will say NO because they either do not have enough time or it cost too much to keep it up. Well let me clear the air.

First, you make time for what is important to you. When you need something bad enough, you will put all of your energy into making it happen.

Secondly, self-care doesn't cost anything. You will be surprised what self-care is available for free!!

My guest Self-Care Advocate Kathy Garner talks about why she is passionate about self-care. Taking care of her elderly mother caused her to neglect herself so she found a way to change her narrative and begin her journey of self-care.

When someone ask you how your year went, can you remember all of your wins?

A friend told me that the best way to remember is to get a mason jar and sticky notes. From January 1-December 31, write down all of your wins.  On December 31, take time out and reflect on everything you accomplished for the year. You will be surprised how much you did!

Some people say that 2020 was rough and nothing positive came out of it, but when I read through all of my wins, It wasn't bad at all.

How do you plan for the upcoming new year when it comes to your goals? Do you create a New Years resolution, vision board, or do you wing it?

For me, vision boards helps me accomplish my goals by keeping me accountable. I put it where I can see it daily and I say them out loud. 

It helps me see a snap shot of what I am working towards. Once I have completed the vision board, I start to create an action plan on how to get it done. Without putting a plan together on how it will work, it will be another vision board hanging on my wall.

Take some time and figure out what changes you want to see in the new year. It starts with you and your decision to change.

In Episode #39 I talked about how to be inspired for internal transformation. This week I talk about stage number two, motivation. 

"If you find the right motivation, you can accomplish anything".

Everything you have in life is in result of believing in yourself. You want something bad enough that you think about over and over again until it starts to feel real. Then doubt creeps in and you stop believing that it was possible so you give up.

In this episode, I give you 4 ways to believe in yourself plus the 5 stages of transformation.

If you are ready to finish 2020 strong and put yourself ahead of the game for 2021, go ahead a listen to this episode!

Having a support system is something this is a must in life. Whether it's a life coach, health coach, financial coach, even a family member. You need people around you that can push you in the direction you want to go.

There will be times in your life when you are not strong enough to do it on your own strength. That's ok. We were not meant to do life alone. We are meant to help others. 

Remember we will all go through something in our life that requires support so do not be stingy when someone needs you for support. 

Have you ever had a time when you had a setback in your life that you did not think you could come back from? We all have and learned our best lessons from them.

Just because you had to take a few steps back doesn't mean you will not push forward into a better place. Be patient with yourself as you grow through this journey. Do not let tough times dictate how you will get through the rest of your life.

In this episode I will give you 10 ways to bounce back. 

Happy Labor Day! I hope you are getting some much needed rest this holiday weekend!

This month I have been talking about replenishing yourself and getting your energy intact. I spoke about how to recognize the signs of burnout and then how to incorporate self-care into your routine. Now I want to talk about giving from your overflow.

As long as you are giving to others from a place of depletion, you will never be full. Imagine an empty glass and a full pitcher. The glass in it's natural state is empty, but when you start to pour the content in the pitcher into the glass, it feels up. Once the glass fills up, you can either stop or continue to keep pouring.

The excess of the pouring is your overflow. Please do not give from your cup because this is what you need to function each day. Give to others and things from the extra overflow you have.

Stop saving the world and start saving you! Go ahead and listen to this week's episode!

Have you ever had those days when you did not have the right words to say regarding a situation? Life seems to continually knock you down and you just need a minute to get your thoughts together and breathe.

Today I want you to declare and decree over your life everyday what you are. What I mean by that is what powerful statement can you say about your situation until things turn around? You can say I AM healed. I AM whole. I AM confident. I AM lovable.

Speak the words you need until you see them become your reality.

Growing up, both of her parents were alcoholics. She was molested as little girl and then got pregnant at 15. Being a teen mom caused her to  drop out of high school in the 9th grade.

With no education or money, she had to work 2-3 jobs to take care of her family.  She eventually finds love in doing hair and becomes a hairstylist, in which she became a salon owner for 4 years. Then a new opportunity presents itself for her to become  an over the road truck driver, and as of today, her and her husband run a successful company called Married too the Miles.

This women overcame adversity and is now a life lessons coach were she helps women turn hardship into lessons. 

Do you get overwhelmed with cleaning your home? Tired of spending your time off cleaning while others are enjoying their time off? This week I am talking about creating a cleaning schedule that will help you space out your cleaning. If cleaning is too much for you, go ahead and considered hiring some help.

Today's Tip: Having a clean space gives you a clear mind and help you burn calories too!

Our purses are like mini offices.  You do your best work when they are clean and organized. We keep everything under the sun in it from grocery lists  water bottles to snacks and still manage to look stylish at the same time. This week I want to give you 6 tips to keeping your purse organized and productive.

At an earlier age, I was horrible with my finances. I had 9 credit cards by the age of 20, filed for bankruptcy by the age of 24, and got hooked up with the payday lenders by the age 26. As you can see, me and finances were not friends. It took me over 10 years to get my finances back in order, plus an additional 4 years to develop and maintain a budget. Sit back and listen to why it is important to take control of your finances.

This week episode is helping you clean out your unruly email box. We have so many emails coming through everyday. Between our personal and work emails, we just do not have the time to read each one. Better yet, what about the emails we only signed up for to receive a free gift and now they are sending us 3-4 emails a week. Time to put that to a stop today!!!

Spam protection/Virus/Malware software that is available:

Could you locate your information if an emergency happened? What if your purse /phone was lost or stolen? A tornado destroyed your home? If you are in an abusive relationship and had to leave at a moments notice. Could you find all of your important papers? 

Today I will be talking about how to organize your personal information.

Some of the apps to secure personal information on your phone:

*Password Manager-mSecure

*Keeper Password Manager

*Dashlane-Password Manger

Do you ever feel like you do not know where your day goes? You start something and then someone or something distracts you from completing your task. It's easy to lose sight of you day and not take care of the things that are most important to you. This week we will talk about , organizing your priorities.

Welcome to the Spring Clean your Life Series!! We have been quarantined in the house for a few weeks now. You're probably caught up on Netflix, did plenty of tutorials on YouTube, and munched on some guilty food pleasures!! Now it's time to start your internal spring cleaning. Grab a notebook, your favorite pen, and find a quiet spot.

Here we are, another week of ever changing events. At first it was no more than 250 congregated, then 50, now 10. So basically no congregating. Well with that being the case, why not use your time wisely at home.

If you have kids at home, go back to board games and family dinners without electronic interference. Maybe it is just you and your significant other, why not cuddle up and watch Netflix's for a few hours! And maybe your are single, use this time to check in with your girls and host a video chat party and host a sleepover via FaceTime or Duo.

Today I talk about 10 jobs you can do within the next 30 days to create an additional stream of income during this time. I do not want you to wait on your main job to see what they are going to do, so lets get your head of the game and have something on the side. 

In episode#10, I interviewed my husband about the early stages of our relationship. When we got together, I was still dealing with some unresolved issues that I was bringing into this relationship. I thought it would be nice for my husband to give his take on what it was like in the beginning.

We don't realize if we do not heal from a bad relationship, we carry the hurt into another one. Counseling helped me realize that I made a bad choice in a relationship, but I could change my thought process by bettering myself and learning from it.

Transition is never easy and requires not only discipline but commitment. I am currently transitioning my permed hair into natural hair and I thought it would be easy because I seen the end result and didn't realize the in between process would be work. 

Starting March 22, I will be doing a spring cleaning series which will get you ready for a new season of your life.

With the untimely death of Kobe Bryant and 8 others including his 13 year old daughter Gigi, it brought people together np matter what race, creed, sexuality, or status, you felt the deaths like it was your own family member. There is nothing more painful than losing a loved one.

Today hug your love ones, let go and forgive any hurt , and tell them that you love them because tomorrow is not promised to no one. Don't let tragedy be the only reason you have to humble yourself at a funeral when you could have given your loved ones their flowers now.

Get your second chance at life today!