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HER Dating & Relationship Secrets

HER Dating & Relationship Secrets

By HER Dating and Relationship Secrets

HER Dating and Relationship Secrets helps women who are successful at everything, except with men, dating and relationships. I give you a daily action to attract, create and maintain a lasting, healthy relationship! Subscribe, turn Notifications “On” and share the show with everyone you know!
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How To Tell If A Man Is Secure or Insecure

HER Dating & Relationship SecretsMay 09, 2023

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How To Tell If A Man Is Secure or Insecure

How To Tell If A Man Is Secure or Insecure

Barry shares “How To Tell If A Man Is Secure or Insecure”!
May 09, 202306:09
You’re Worth The Effort!

You’re Worth The Effort!

Barry shares how to connect with the part of you that completely KNOWS and SHOWS “You’re Worth The Effort!”
May 09, 202304:44
Romance vs Routine

Romance vs Routine

Barry explains the importance of breaking your routine, and how you can bring romance into your life whether you are single or in a relationship!
May 09, 202303:45
Why Men Don’t Open Up Emotionally

Why Men Don’t Open Up Emotionally

Barry shares “Why Men Don’t Open Up Emotionally” and what to do about it!
May 09, 202307:09
What To Do If You Want Him Back

What To Do If You Want Him Back

What To Do If You Want Him Back
May 09, 202305:46
“He’s actually TOO nice!”

“He’s actually TOO nice!”

When my client said “He’s actually TOO nice!” we went deep on why she felt that way. In this episode I share the reasons this feeling can come up, some of which are healthy and some of which are unhealthy — and what to do about it.
May 09, 202305:04
Exercise To Find Out Your Relationship Beliefs

Exercise To Find Out Your Relationship Beliefs

Exercise To Find Out Your Relationship Beliefs
May 09, 202306:35
Your Family Story and Your Relationships

Your Family Story and Your Relationships

Your Family Story and Your Relationships
May 09, 202303:53
What Is Love?

What Is Love?

What Is Love?
May 09, 202305:57
A Quick Way To Boost Your Dating & Relationships

A Quick Way To Boost Your Dating & Relationships

Barry shares a quick, easy, but overlooked way to improve your dating and relationships!
May 09, 202304:31
Do’s And Don’ts for Keeping The Spark Alive

Do’s And Don’ts for Keeping The Spark Alive

Do’s And Don’ts for Keeping The Spark Alive
May 09, 202304:34
How To Respond To A Text That Upsets You

How To Respond To A Text That Upsets You

How To Respond To A Text That Upsets You
May 09, 202307:04
Levels of Consciousness In Relationships

Levels of Consciousness In Relationships

Levels of Consciousness In Relationships
May 09, 202304:53
Is It Me or Him? (Telling Old Issues From Real Problems)

Is It Me or Him? (Telling Old Issues From Real Problems)

How To Tell If Its Your ‘Issues’ or His ‘Issues’ Causing Problems
May 09, 202305:19
Breakups (“Why”)

Breakups (“Why”)

Breakups (Understanding The Importance of “Why”)
May 09, 202305:30
The Workplace, Dating, Relationships & Boundaries

The Workplace, Dating, Relationships & Boundaries

The Workplace
May 09, 202304:46
The Biggest Turn-Off For Men

The Biggest Turn-Off For Men

The Biggest Turn-Off For Men
May 09, 202304:10
Why Your Relationships Aren’t How You Want Them To Be (Julia’s Story)

Why Your Relationships Aren’t How You Want Them To Be (Julia’s Story)

Why You Relationships Aren’t How You Want Them To Be
May 09, 202306:07
The Healthy And Unhealthy Way To Choose Being Single

The Healthy And Unhealthy Way To Choose Being Single

The Healthy And Unhealthy Way To Choose Being Single
May 09, 202306:01
Spring, Love & Attraction Are In The Air!

Spring, Love & Attraction Are In The Air!

Spring Fever Is In The Air! How to embrace this re-awakening season in your dating and relationships!
May 09, 202303:43
Is Your Self-Worth Performative? (Are You Always the Do-er)

Is Your Self-Worth Performative? (Are You Always the Do-er)

Is Your Self-Worth Performative? (Are You Always the Do-er)
May 09, 202305:56
The Biggest Difference Between A Weak & A Strong Man

The Biggest Difference Between A Weak & A Strong Man

The Biggest Difference Between A Weak & A Strong Man
May 09, 202307:49
Can You ‘Make’ Someone Fall In Love With You?

Can You ‘Make’ Someone Fall In Love With You?

Can You ‘Make’ Someone Fall In Love With You?
May 09, 202305:57
“Why Am I Always With Emotionally-Unavailable Partners?”

“Why Am I Always With Emotionally-Unavailable Partners?”

“Why Am I Always With Emotionally-Unavailable Partners?”
May 09, 202305:16
What To Do Before Holidays & Special Occasions

What To Do Before Holidays & Special Occasions

What To Do Before Holidays & Special Occasions
May 09, 202307:04
Giving and Getting Physical Affection (Mary’s Story)

Giving and Getting Physical Affection (Mary’s Story)

Giving and Getting Physical Affection (Mary’s Story)
May 09, 202305:34
Respect and Loss of Respect

Respect and Loss of Respect

Respect and Loss of Respect
May 09, 202305:47
Are You Mistaking Chemistry For Connection?

Are You Mistaking Chemistry For Connection?

Are You Mistaking Chemistry For Connection?
May 09, 202308:37
Why You Want A Good Man AND The Bad Boy

Why You Want A Good Man AND The Bad Boy

Why You Want A Good Man AND The Bad Boy
May 09, 202308:59
Family

Family

Family
May 09, 202303:50
Conflict, Criticism & Control

Conflict, Criticism & Control

Conflict, Criticism & Control
May 09, 202307:47
Does Love Last? (It Can, Here's How)

Does Love Last? (It Can, Here's How)

Barry shares his thoughts when he was asked “How long does love last?”. He shares the elements necessary for lasting love, amd also how to know when it’s time to let it go.
Jan 30, 202306:20
Turning Old Dating & Relationship Fear Into Excitement

Turning Old Dating & Relationship Fear Into Excitement

Barry teaches us to discern healthy from unhealthy fear, and gives an example of how unhealthy fear based on the past can get in the way of letting the good in our life today. He gives a simple exercise to move from fear to excitement.
Jan 30, 202305:01
How To Chase Your Dream While Having. Healthy Relationship

How To Chase Your Dream While Having. Healthy Relationship

In this episode Barry shares that we do not have to choose between our dream or a healthy relationship, in fact you MUST create both! He describes common pitfalls that prevent powerful women from having both, and how you CAN!
Jan 30, 202305:56
Where To Meet Quality Men

Where To Meet Quality Men

Barry shares the secret spot all the good men have been hiding in, with a twist!
Jan 30, 202305:22
“The Window” (The ONLY Way To Get A Man To Grow & Change)

“The Window” (The ONLY Way To Get A Man To Grow & Change)

Barry describes how most men are reluctant to do self-help, personal development, spiritual, therapeutic and coaching work — despite their woman doing it! He shares how to get a guy to do the emotional and spiritual work a couple needs to have a healthy relationship. He teaches us about “The Window”, something he has learned about men and willingness. Once you understand The Window, you can get any man to become more willing to change!
Jan 30, 202305:41
Letting Go of Someone

Letting Go of Someone

“Letting Go Of Someone” shares how to let go of a person and relationship that is not healthy for you anymore, or never was. Instead of just will-powering your way through it, Barry shares a gentler approach to releasing that attachment.
Jan 30, 202303:58
Kissing

Kissing

Kissing! It tells us SO much about the emotional content of a relationship! Barry describes the emotional content of different types of kisses amd what they mean! He then leaves you with something to consider about your next kiss.
Jan 30, 202305:43
Freeing Your Present Dating & Relationships From Past Trauma

Freeing Your Present Dating & Relationships From Past Trauma

In this episode, Barry describes how past trauma affects your current dating and relationships. He shares about Complex Trauma, and the relational aspects of trauma. He then provides a path to spotting and clearing the destructive effects of past trauma on your relationships today.
Jan 30, 202307:21
Re-Wiring Self-Worth Around Men (Pam’s Story)

Re-Wiring Self-Worth Around Men (Pam’s Story)

Barry tells the story of Pam, a successful woman who struggled to maintain her worthiness in relationships with men. He also shares how Pam overcame this pattern and rewired her self-worth around men! Check this out if you’re successful but find men amd relationships challenging!
Jan 30, 202307:14
Your Brain and Men (Cognitive Distortion)

Your Brain and Men (Cognitive Distortion)

Barry describes how your friend, the Brain, can give bad advice with good intentions. He describes the protective measures called Cognitive Distortion amd their drastic effects of you, and your dating and relationships. He pulls back the curtain on some very common cognitive distortions and invites you to see if your brain may be doing this too!
Jan 30, 202305:23
How To Make Any Conversation, Date, or Romantic Moment Go Well

How To Make Any Conversation, Date, or Romantic Moment Go Well

Barry describes a technique used in behavior change and by high performers to decrease stress and increase your odds of success on ANY dating or relationship situation. This works for approaching men, initiating conversations, going on dates, romantic moments with a partner, difficult conversations with a partner, or any situation in your personal or professional life. Don’t miss this — it’s simple and effective!
Jan 30, 202305:41
You Come First

You Come First

Barry describes how we often choose to put our needs last to avoid conflict or disappointment, or to get the conditional love we crave. He challenges us to step up today and show ourselves we matter with ONE simple action!

Jan 30, 202305:03
Appreciation Will Change Your Dating and Relationships

Appreciation Will Change Your Dating and Relationships

Barry shares how appreciative he is of you, his listeners, and how to apply three forma of appreciation to instantly improve your feelings and focus around dating and relationships! You’ll have a better day if you listen to this!
Jan 30, 202304:35
How To Be Independent But Not Alone

How To Be Independent But Not Alone

How To Be Independent But Not Alone
Jan 30, 202304:09
The REAL Reason Men Fall In Love (and Stay!)

The REAL Reason Men Fall In Love (and Stay!)

The REAL Reason Men Fall In Love (and Stay!)
Jan 30, 202305:05
Getting Out Of Your Head (Stop Over-Thinking)

Getting Out Of Your Head (Stop Over-Thinking)

Getting Out Of Your Head (Stop Over-Thinking)
Jan 30, 202304:04
Connecting With Love Again

Connecting With Love Again

Connecting With Love Again
Jan 30, 202304:57
The Biggest Turn-Off For Men

The Biggest Turn-Off For Men

The Biggest Turn-Off For Men
Jan 30, 202304:10
Cuffing Season (aka How Cold Weather and The Holidays Make Us Couple-Up)

Cuffing Season (aka How Cold Weather and The Holidays Make Us Couple-Up)

The Phenomenon Called Cuffing Season
Jan 30, 202304:40
Your Standards

Your Standards

Your Standards
Jan 30, 202303:13
Signs A Relationship Will Last

Signs A Relationship Will Last

Signs A Relationship Will Last
Jan 30, 202303:13
Don’t Pay The Bill Twice On Past Hurt (Janice’s Story)

Don’t Pay The Bill Twice On Past Hurt (Janice’s Story)

Don’t Pay The Bill Twice On Past Hurt (Janice’s Story)
Jan 30, 202305:07
You’ll be Loved When You’re Willing To Be Unliked

You’ll be Loved When You’re Willing To Be Unliked

In “You’ll be Loved When You’re Willing To Be Unliked” Barry covers how people pleasing, conditional love and over giving cause us to put ourselves last, and how accepting your Shadow part can free you of fear of rejection and allow you to be fully loved!
Jan 30, 202304:53
Just Having "Someone" vs Having A Soulmate

Just Having "Someone" vs Having A Soulmate

“I don’t want a relationship, just companionship.”
Jan 30, 202306:26
Vulnerability & Numbing (Apply Brene Brown To Your Dating & Relationships)

Vulnerability & Numbing (Apply Brene Brown To Your Dating & Relationships)

Healthy vulnerability is a mist for a healthy relationship. Barry shares how we can shield ourselves from healthy vulnerability, and disrupt relationships by numbing. He describes Brene Brown’s research on vulnerability, and then tells us how to apply it to improving your dating and relationships today!
Jan 30, 202304:26
How Men Act When There Are Dating & Relationship Challenges

How Men Act When There Are Dating & Relationship Challenges

How Men Act When There Are Dating & Relationship Challenges
Jan 30, 202308:46
The Biggest Difference Between A Weak Man and A Strong Man

The Biggest Difference Between A Weak Man and A Strong Man

The Biggest Difference Between A Weak Man and A Strong Man
Jan 30, 202307:49
Online Dating & Dating Apps

Online Dating & Dating Apps

Online Dating & Dating Apps
Jan 30, 202305:52
3 Reasons Men Don’t Commit & Connect

3 Reasons Men Don’t Commit & Connect

3 Reasons Men Don’t Commit & Connect
Jan 30, 202303:46
Emotional Dysregulation (How Your Brain Ruins Relationships)

Emotional Dysregulation (How Your Brain Ruins Relationships)

Emotional Dysregulation (How Your Brain Ruins Relationships)
Jan 30, 202305:43
How To Tell If He Is A Man Or A Boy

How To Tell If He Is A Man Or A Boy

How To Tell If He Is A Man Or A Boy
Jan 30, 202303:11
Is He Too Different From Me?

Is He Too Different From Me?

Is He Too Different From Me?
Jan 30, 202305:45
The Victim - Perpetrator - Rescuer Triangle

The Victim - Perpetrator - Rescuer Triangle

The Victim - Perpetrator - Rescuer Triangle
Jan 30, 202305:59
Living Together

Living Together

Living Together
Jan 30, 202304:00
How To Tell If A Man Is Secure Or Insecure

How To Tell If A Man Is Secure Or Insecure

How To Tell If A Man Is Secure Or Insecure
Jan 30, 202306:09
How To REALLY Get To Know Him

How To REALLY Get To Know Him

How To REALLY Get To Know Him
Jan 30, 202307:29
The SIMPLE Way To Date & Have Relationships

The SIMPLE Way To Date & Have Relationships

The SIMPLE Way To Date & Have Relationships
Jan 30, 202303:52
Self-Love (Getting Off The Emotional Roller Coaster)

Self-Love (Getting Off The Emotional Roller Coaster)

Self-Love (Getting Off The Emotional Roller Coaster)
Jan 30, 202304:44
I Want You To Want Me

I Want You To Want Me

I Want You To Want Me
Jan 30, 202304:32
Is It Me or Him? (Telling Old Issues From Real Problems)

Is It Me or Him? (Telling Old Issues From Real Problems)

Is It Me or Him? (Telling Old Issues From Real Problems)
Jan 30, 202305:19
Joy Is Attractive (Going From Under-Joyed To Over-Joyed)

Joy Is Attractive (Going From Under-Joyed To Over-Joyed)

Joy Is Attractive
Jan 30, 202305:20
Who - Becoming Aware Of Your Relationship Partner Pattern

Who - Becoming Aware Of Your Relationship Partner Pattern

Who - Becoming Aware Of Your Relationship Partner Pattern
Jan 30, 202303:01
When And How To Speak Up (w Partners, Friends, Family, Work)

When And How To Speak Up (w Partners, Friends, Family, Work)

When And How To Speak Up (w Partners, Friends, Family, Work)
Jan 30, 202304:05
Emotional Resilience

Emotional Resilience

Emotional Resilience
Jan 30, 202306:54
Empathy In And Out Of Relationships

Empathy In And Out Of Relationships

Empathy
Jan 30, 202307:40
Trying Too Hard

Trying Too Hard

Trying Too Hard
Jan 28, 202304:42
Self-Worth and Healthy Relationships - I am Worthy of Love!

Self-Worth and Healthy Relationships - I am Worthy of Love!

Self-Worth and Healthy Relationships - I am Worthy of Love!
Jan 28, 202304:50
Does He Like, Love or Lust You?

Does He Like, Love or Lust You?

Does He Like, Love or Lust You?
Jan 28, 202306:10
Needing Control In Relationships

Needing Control In Relationships

Needing Control In Relationships
Jan 28, 202307:03
Releasing Fear of Rejection

Releasing Fear of Rejection

Releasing Fear of Rejection
Jan 28, 202303:34
"We"

"We"

We
Jan 28, 202306:01
Why Smart People Have More Challenges With Dating & Relationships

Why Smart People Have More Challenges With Dating & Relationships

Why Smart People Have More Challenges With Dating & Relationships
Jan 28, 202304:06
Willingness

Willingness

Willingness
Jan 28, 202305:60
How Weekends Affect Relationships, Dating & You

How Weekends Affect Relationships, Dating & You

How Weekends Affect Relationships, Dating & You
Jan 28, 202303:36
Fantasy Is Destroying Your Relationships At The Start

Fantasy Is Destroying Your Relationships At The Start

Fantasy Is Destroying Your Relationships At The Start
Jan 28, 202303:58
Desire & Attraction In & Out Of Relationships

Desire & Attraction In & Out Of Relationships

Desire & Attraction In & Out Of Relationships
Jan 28, 202305:59
How Men See You

How Men See You

How Men See You
Jan 28, 202306:48
Believing In Love!

Believing In Love!

Believing In Love!
Jan 28, 202305:22
Completing Conversations in Relationships & Dating

Completing Conversations in Relationships & Dating

Completing Conversations in Relationships & Dating
Jan 28, 202304:58
Bringing Out The Best In A Man

Bringing Out The Best In A Man

Bringing Out The Best In A Man
Jan 28, 202305:58
Why Men Pull Away

Why Men Pull Away

Why Men Pull Away
Jan 28, 202306:57
Touch

Touch

Touch
Jan 28, 202303:48
Is This Relationship Worth Saving?

Is This Relationship Worth Saving?

Is This Relationship Worth Saving?
Jan 28, 202306:33
Knowing Someone Is There For You (Presence)

Knowing Someone Is There For You (Presence)

Knowing Someone Is There For You (Presence)
Jan 28, 202304:30
The Spark!

The Spark!

The Spark!
Jan 28, 202303:13
Living Together

Living Together

Living Together
Jan 28, 202304:00
Self-Talk

Self-Talk

Self-Talk
Jan 28, 202306:19
Quick Turnaround Question For Any Situation

Quick Turnaround Question For Any Situation

Quick Turnaround Question For Any Situation
Jan 28, 202305:09
All I Need To Be Is Myself

All I Need To Be Is Myself

All I Need To Be Is Myself
Jan 28, 202306:11
Giving AND Receiving

Giving AND Receiving

Giving AND Receiving
Jan 28, 202305:22
Men & Finances

Men & Finances

Men & Finances
Jan 28, 202305:28
The Way Into A Man’s Heart (To Be The Only One In It)

The Way Into A Man’s Heart (To Be The Only One In It)

The Way Into A Man’s Heart (To Be The Only One In It)
Jan 28, 202306:55
The Breath of Love

The Breath of Love

The Breath of Love
Jan 28, 202305:57
“Aren’t ALL relationships co-dependent?” No, And Here’s Why!

“Aren’t ALL relationships co-dependent?” No, And Here’s Why!

“Aren’t ALL relationships co-dependent?” No, And Here’s Why!
Jan 28, 202303:33
How Weekends Affect Dating, Relationships & You

How Weekends Affect Dating, Relationships & You

How Weekends Affect Dating, Relationships & You
Jan 27, 202303:36
How To Get Compliments From Men

How To Get Compliments From Men

How To Get Compliments From Men
Jan 27, 202305:37
Hidden Fear (That Must Be Identified & Released)

Hidden Fear (That Must Be Identified & Released)

Hidden Fear (That Must Be Identified & Released)
Jan 27, 202307:30
The Three Things You MUST Do To Change Your Dating & Relationships

The Three Things You MUST Do To Change Your Dating & Relationships

The Three Things You MUST Do To Change Your Dating & Relationships
Jan 27, 202304:58
Does He Understand You?

Does He Understand You?

Does He Understand You?
Jan 27, 202305:57
Relationship Scars

Relationship Scars

Relationship Scars
Jan 27, 202305:07
Why Men Don’t Open Up Emotionally

Why Men Don’t Open Up Emotionally

Why Men Don’t Open Up Emotionally
Jan 27, 202307:09
Healthy Boundaries

Healthy Boundaries

Healthy Boundaries
Jan 27, 202305:38
Exercise To Find Out Your Relationship Beliefs

Exercise To Find Out Your Relationship Beliefs

Exercise To Find Out Your Relationship Beliefs
Jan 27, 202306:35
Attraction

Attraction

Attraction
Jan 27, 202305:17
The Holidays!

The Holidays!

The Holidays!
Jan 27, 202304:52
Your Dating & Relationship Strengths

Your Dating & Relationship Strengths

Your Dating & Relationship Strengths
Jan 27, 202304:47
Handling Stressful Times

Handling Stressful Times

Handling Stressful Times
Jan 27, 202306:40
Letting Yourself Go Deep - Empowered Vulnerability

Letting Yourself Go Deep - Empowered Vulnerability

Letting Yourself Go Deep - Empowered Vulnerability
Jan 27, 202305:36
Too Fast or Too Slow (Tina and Tracey’s Stories)

Too Fast or Too Slow (Tina and Tracey’s Stories)

Too Fast or Too Slow (Tina and Tracey’s Stories)
Jan 27, 202304:13
Gifts in Dating & Relationships

Gifts in Dating & Relationships

Gifts in Dating & Relationships
Jan 27, 202306:41
Is It Really Possible To Be Happy In A Relationship?

Is It Really Possible To Be Happy In A Relationship?

Is It Really Possible To Be Happy In A Relationship?
Jan 27, 202305:25
Healthy, Empowered Communication (I - We - You)

Healthy, Empowered Communication (I - We - You)

Healthy, Empowered Communication (I - We - You)
Jan 27, 2023