The Authentic Wife Show

In this episode, we discuss the three principles of quantum physics as laid out in Dr. Laura Berman's book Quantum Love. Did you know that your energy can change your relationship? And that your heart is a powerful influence on your family?

My guest today is Kari Cravalho, a coach for working moms and moms looking to return to the workforce. Through 1:1 and small group coaching, she offers moms a place to show up as is and explore what they truly want and need as they balance motherhood, career, and self.

I loved what she had to say about finding our essence and using those interests and goals as a guide while we navigate work at home and outside the home.

Summary:

Career Paths and Life Transitions

Beth and Kari had a detailed discussion about their career paths and experiences. Beth shared her expertise in coaching women undergoing transitions, particularly working mothers. Kari, on the other hand, talked about her background in human resources, her MBA from Kellogg, and her roles at healthcare tech companies and Adobe. Both agreed on the importance of discovering authentic life and work paths, as well as the role of challenges and transitions in shaping these paths. Kari also shared her experience transitioning from an HR leader to a stay-at-home mom and then starting her own coaching business to support working women. She emphasized the satisfaction and challenges of her roles and how having a coach helped her find her purpose again. Beth ended the conversation by asking about Kari's methods for helping clients balance their career choices and aspirations based on her own experience and the example of a client in the medical field.

You can find Kari here:

Are you working (from home or not), handling the kids school schedules, going to their events, doing all the household chores, and feeling invalidated, lonely, and exhausted?

Have you told your husband (or wife), "I need you to show me that you love me every day by little things and making me a priority,"?

I've been there too, and what I discovered was surprising. In this episode I discuss what to do if you feel like your spouse doesn't validate or prioritize you.

Many of my clients had critical mothers. They inherited many "shoulds" and dumped who they really were to win her "love" -- which was really just her approval.

Critical mothers pass on the pain of their own rejected selves to their daughters, if they don't do the inner work to heal first.

In this episode, after giving you permission to take your ability to receive even deeper as I am currently doing, I discuss exactly how you can begin to heal from this kind of upbringing.

Do you have a busy mind, making it hard to be present with your family?

I recently had an aha moment at the vet's office when she told me that what my family does or doesn't do with our new puppy changes her perception of each person in the house. I realized that this has happened in our home with the kids as well and that one of my biggest frustrations wasn't necessarily that my husband wasn't DOING the thing; it was that my kids were viewing me as the sole leader in our family. I wanted the pressure off. Can you relate?

I also share a few observations from working with kids this week as a substitute.

My guest today grew up in Scientology's Sea Org, a division of their cult that had her shoeless and separated from her family, doing hard labor for no pay by ten years old. Katherine Spallino's strong will and frustration with being punished for being human finally led her to escape Scientology's grip, despite having no one to help her and having to leave what she knew of her family behind.

This episode is about building success as an introvert, whether that's through a career change or by starting a business. We talk about how to put yourself out there, making the leap, and even how to support introverted children.

You NEED to listen to this conversation with Dr. Karin Calde if your husband is constantly pressuring you for sex, or you feel like he complains all the time about not getting enough sex from you, or if you're a man who feels like you have a dead bedroom and aren't sure how to fix it. My guest takes the mystery out of this barrier to peace in the home, sharing her expertise on creating true intimacy and desire.

In this episode, we explore:

• Desire Discrepancy
• 5 Gears of Touch and the importance of non-sexual touch
• The sexual gas pedal and sexual brake pedal
• Sex and masculinity -- what do beliefs about masculinity have to do with his desire?
• Spontaneous desire vs. responsive desire
• The importance of sexual "date nights" for marriage
• "If it's not pleasurable, then it's probably not worth having."
• Creating a rule book for "good sex"
• How we center the man's experience

In month five of my Happily Ever After Conscious Marriage Coaching Program, clients learn how to give their husbands empathy so they can truly transform the relationship. It removes the emotional stalemate that prevents relationship harmony.

In this episode, I'm covering five ways that we can be blocked from giving others empathy, even if we know exactly how to do it. Let's dive in deeper and consider what might be the cause behind your unwillingness to "hold space" for your husband when he's upset.

Do your kids know what to do when they're angry? Do you as a parent, wife, or teacher know how to respond when someone is upset?

In this episode, Generational Integrity Coaches Jenny Murtagh and Felicia Severhill reflect on their experiences as parents and teachers, discussing the importance of self-care and finding a balance between personal needs and caregiving responsibilities. They delve into the challenges they faced and the realizations they had along the way. The conversation focuses on the significance of prioritizing self-care as a parent and the impact it has on overall well-being and relationships, as well as modeling basic human skills like emotional intelligence and empathy.

The discussion begins with my guests sharing why they started The Parent Empowerment Movement, which stemmed from recognizing their own struggles in meeting their parental needs. They wanted to share their insights and strategies with other parents, especially during the pandemic when families were confined to their homes. Drawing from their teaching experience, they discuss practical techniques that can make parenting more enjoyable and beneficial for both parents and children.

As the conversation progresses, they highlight the tendency for parents, particularly mothers, to prioritize their children's needs above their own. They stress the importance of self-care, emphasizing that parents cannot fully be there for their children if they neglect their own well-being. The hosts share personal anecdotes and reflect on their own journeys of learning to prioritize self-care.

The hosts then explore the similarities and differences between being a teacher and a parent when it comes to self-care. They acknowledge that while teachers may put up a facade of being fine, neglecting self-care eventually takes a toll on their overall well-being. They discuss the impact it has on relationships and interactions with students, colleagues, and family members.

They conclude by emphasizing the transformative power of self-care in personal growth and improved relationships. Taking care of oneself extends to positively influencing the care provided to others. They express how self-care allows them to show up better as parents, partners, and educators.

Tune in to this enlightening episode as Jenny and Felicia candidly share their experiences, provide valuable insights, and offer practical tips for incorporating self-care into the parenting journey.

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In this episode of The Authentic Wife Show, guest Sandy Johnston shares what she experienced in multiple abusive relationships, the early warning signs she ignored, and what makes it hard to leave. We talk about:

• How having a child and quitting her job impacted her well-being
• The problem with marriage counseling
• Early warning signs she ignored, like stalking
• How learned helplessness had her convinced that she was truly disempowered
• The role financial abuse plays in prolonging abusive relationships

If it sometimes feels like your husband is your extra child, I can relate! In this episode, I talked about 15 conflicts we used to have in our marriage before I did my inner work to turn our relationship around without my husband having to read a book or go to a counselor.

You'll quickly understand what our dynamic was like and how painful it was for me to be this angry, resentful shell of who I really am. The worst part was that I was co-creating everything I was experiencing, something I couldn't admit back then! I really thought he was to blame and if he would just be better, then everything would improve and we'd be fine.

In this captivating episode, we explore the transformative concept of investing in various aspects of life and how they synergize to create a fulfilling existence. Our guest shares insights on the dynamics of family relationships and the critical role of partnership in achieving success and happiness. Discover the concept of alchemy and how combining resources can lead to exponential growth in wealth, relationships, and personal development.

Key Discussion Points:

Balancing financial investments with investments in relationships and childrenThe concept of alchemy: combining resources for a richer and more fulfilling lifeThe flywheel effect: How investing in multiple areas reinforces and strengthens overall growthThe value of social connections and networking in personal and professional successOvercoming challenges in finding a good partner and building a strong partnershipThe significance of having a shared mission and purpose within a relationshipBreaking free from rigid roles and embracing flexibility to meet the needs of both partnersUnderstanding the importance of defining a purpose beyond financial success

Join us in this enlightening conversation as we explore the transformative power of investing in money, relationships, and family. Discover how embracing partnership and finding a shared purpose can unlock a world of possibilities and lead to a life of abundance and fulfillment. Learn how understanding each other's why can help navigate divergent paths, and learn practical strategies for resolving conflicting priorities. From travel preferences to financial responsibilities, we explore the holistic approach that leads to a richer and more fulfilling family life. Tune in to gain valuable perspectives on fostering communication, reinforcing values, and achieving true wealth in all aspects of life.

My guest is Aaron Shelley. Aaron has a BS in Mechanical Engineering and an MBA. He has worked with small businesses and startups where he developed a unique systems perspective on business and family. His work in the academic and business worlds led him to understand how related our families and business dynamics are.

He and his wife have run the largest Irish Dance school in Utah for over 20 years. He has built multiple companies, consulted across multiple industries and helped raise $54 million as the COO of a technology company. He lives in Utah with his wife and four children.

Even if you think no one in your family has traits of ADHD, I encourage you to listen to this episode anyway, because... there's a good chance that mothering is very important to you and that you have been mothering since way before you had children. You may have even mothered (raised) yourself! And really good mothers seem to attract really childlike husbands, which is where ADHD comes into play...

In this show, I talk about the signs that your husband (or even you) might have ADHD.

Countless research articles all point to the benefits of children living with both of their parents, but outside of the external benefits, why is marriage health such an important part of parenting?

In today's episode, you'll learn why creating marriage health is good parenting and the huge mistake that many conscious parents make while raising their children.

We'll also discuss the importance of acceptance and how this is pivotal in creating marriage health.

As always, to work with me or learn more about creating a conscious marriage, visit my website:

Roxanne was generous to share her story about how she healed and became a healer, tapping into the essential energy that is invisible to the eye through dreams, tribal elders, and nature. in this episode, you'll learn how to surrender so you can heal yourself by removing what is blocking that growth.

Roxanne Chaput has guided thousands of Souls to Heal. Love. Awaken. so that they can come back to a place of enlightened love which has led them to experience a profound knowingness and sense of inner peace which naturally led them to elevate and align themselves to receive an overabundance in Love, Health, Wealth and Success all without holding onto all of their detrimental limiting beliefs, disconnection from their emotions and their Soul.

In this episode, I speak with travel expert Dawn Barclay on how to make travel fun as a family, even for kids who are anxious, inflexible, or neurodiverse!

We discuss:

• Where to go/how to plan a trip based on the child's interests
• Making travel easier by making it predictable
• If you should try to stick to routines or go with the flow
• What kinds of transportation to take so you can stay in charge
• If kids clubs are safe for your children
• Her tip for the best places to stay
• And why knowing your child is the most important part of travel planning

Thanks for waiting for me while I took April off to finish my MBA! I'm happy to be back helping you create the conscious marriage you deserve!

Today's episode is about how to respond to your husband's drama without getting pulled into it. I discuss why there's no emotional labor in empathy and give you two tricks to use so you don't get hooked by his fear and go on the defensive. This will help you respond to him with empathy so that he can process his feelings without you feeling drained or exhausted by the conversation.

Tired of your wife not being interested in sex, snuggling, or... you? Feel like your marriage is failing and you don't know what to do about it? Are you starting to feel depressed and hopeless that things will never change, but she seems to be doing great, content to do her own thing? This episode is for you.

Please join Ash and me for a conversation on why women aren't protecting their boundaries, how we end up attracting the wrong guy, and how the extreme side of feminism is shaping men in a negative way by the filter it views them through. 

In this episode, I talk about what love really is and how you can feel it right now, no matter who's around you. I also highlight how much love we have for our children, how care doesn't equal love, and how the desire to escape on vacation can have a surprising origin. 

If you're not sure if you've ever experienced love or how to give it, this episode is for you!

Frustrated because your husband won't go to marriage counseling, a coach, or therapy? Here's exactly what you can do: stop waiting! In this episode, I share why it's a waste of time to wait for him, how you can give yourself permission to do what is needed, and why only one of you needs to do the work.

In my marriage coaching program, I ONLY work with the wife -- your husband doesn't have to be involved at all! The growth happens for him when you embody everything you experience during the coaching program! 

In this episode of The Authentic Wife Show, we talk to Parent Coach Laura Reardon about helping our kids with their anxiety and other big emotions.

Are you struggling to find the success you want in your relationship with your business? Just like in marriage, the energy, vibe, or flow you are bringing to that relationship really matters. My guest in this episode is Dr. Victor Manzo, a Business Mindset Coach, Certified Pediatric Chiropractor, Author, and Speaker. He shares with us how he went from burnout in his business to more success working fewer hours after he found flow. He's learned how to construct his future self and utilize science and ancient wisdom to achieve that. 

Is critical thinking part of your curriculum? As parents and educators, we're tasked with teaching our kids the most important skills they'll need to be successful in life. Perhaps at the top of that list should be critical thinking skills, or the ability to assess multiple sources of information, ask good questions, and analyze all of that data before forming a judgment.

Do you suspect you have a narcissistic husband who makes you feel crazy? It's easy to lose touch with reality when you don't have a firm handle on who you are and what you truly feel and where you end and he begins. I'm excited to welcome my guest, therapist and author Shannon Petrovich LCSW, LISAC, BCD, for this episode. She's an expert in truly toxic or abusive relationships.

In episode 28 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn the four opportunities waiting for you right now through your marriage. I'll share with you some of what's different in my life since doing this work that saved my marriage, despite my husband feeling like my tallest child.

If you've been trying to attract and manifest abundance in your life, this show is for you!

Awakening the masculine in your man is exactly what most wives I know want out of their relationship. Masculine energy is the doing, protecting, and providing energy that, at its healthiest, makes a mother and her children feel safe and loved. The problem is that a lot of us women are now living in our heads, trying to fill both roles of provider and nurturer, and we've not left any space for the masculine in our husbands to emerge. We inadvertently coddle him and keep him feeling like mommy's favorite little boy, which infuriates us, but we don't know how to change it.

In episode 25 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn how the choreography of a healthy relationship dance begins with your energy with Relationship Coach Andre Paradis.

"The men don't care about your money. Men don't care about your career. Men don't care about any of that shit. They don't, I'm sorry, have to be harsh, but like this is, this is what, it's such a lemon you've been sold that to be a valuable woman, you have to be productive. No, that's masculine. That's masculine. You don't have to be productive to attract men. You have to be feminine to attract men."

I recently had the birthday blues, you know when you just feel sad on your birthday for no apparent reason? In this episode, I walk you through my process for shifting out of that sadness, what I discovered, and how this kind of fear shows up as inauthenticity in a relationship when we blame the other person for the yucky feelings we have going on inside. 

Learn how I processed the birthday blues to stop blaming my husband for how I was feeling and to actually heal a part of me I'd forgotten.

Embodying your growth means that you've healed and shifted at a cellular level, that you don't just know something cognitively, but that you can actually BE that person in your body.

Why Emotions Are A Thought Process And Need To Be Processed Before Problem-Solving

Do you get tired of trying to exist when suddenly your husband is defensive or feels criticized? Does communication with him feel like a dead-end street? In this episode, I share with you what is happening and what you can do about it. We explore the brain science behind it and the fatal assumption that communication scholars held for many years that was detrimental to negotiation. 

This is one of my absolute favorite conversations! Today's guest is Michaell Magrutsche, an Austrian-Californian multimedia Artist, educator, author of 5 art-related books, podcaster, coach, creative advisor, and former Newport Beach CA arts commissioner. Our conversation explores the discovery of our human potential through the contrast of man-made systems, which can keep us stuck in a worthiness shame loop while we waste the most precious gift of all, time. Learn how your non-physical essence is an important puzzle piece in all of humanity.

Wondering how you'll ever get support to achieve your dream? Maybe you hate your job but the pressure to provide for your family is just too much. Or maybe you're already willing to take the risk to start the business, but your husband is totally stuck in scarcity and lack, afraid to put any resources into your well-thought-out idea.