The Authentic Wife Show
By Beth Rowles
We are so glad you found us because that means you have a burning desire to give your kids the family all of you deserve... with a conscious marriage that models a healthy relationship.
You are in the right place.
Here at The Authentic Wife, we know all too well the challenges of raising your kids and loving your husband and you need more than just great resources (which we have) you also need a strong support system (we have that too).
I'm Beth Rowles, Family Alchemist and author of The Authentic Wife, and I'll be your host.
The Authentic Wife ShowJun 12, 2022
68: How Quantum Physics Can Change Your Relationship
In this episode, we discuss the three principles of quantum physics as laid out in Dr. Laura Berman's book Quantum Love. Did you know that your energy can change your relationship? And that your heart is a powerful influence on your family?
If you'd like to learn more, you can also visit this blog on my website.
67: Discovering Your Authentic Career with guest Kari Cravalho
My guest today is Kari Cravalho, a coach for working moms and moms looking to return to the workforce. Through 1:1 and small group coaching, she offers moms a place to show up as is and explore what they truly want and need as they balance motherhood, career, and self.
I loved what she had to say about finding our essence and using those interests and goals as a guide while we navigate work at home and outside the home.
Career Paths and Life Transitions
Beth and Kari had a detailed discussion about their career paths and experiences. Beth shared her expertise in coaching women undergoing transitions, particularly working mothers. Kari, on the other hand, talked about her background in human resources, her MBA from Kellogg, and her roles at healthcare tech companies and Adobe. Both agreed on the importance of discovering authentic life and work paths, as well as the role of challenges and transitions in shaping these paths. Kari also shared her experience transitioning from an HR leader to a stay-at-home mom and then starting her own coaching business to support working women. She emphasized the satisfaction and challenges of her roles and how having a coach helped her find her purpose again. Beth ended the conversation by asking about Kari's methods for helping clients balance their career choices and aspirations based on her own experience and the example of a client in the medical field.
You can find Kari here:
Link to Schedule a Complimentary Fitting Call: https://calendly.com/karicravalhocoaching/15-min-fitting-call
66: What To Do If Your Spouse Doesn't Validate You
Are you working (from home or not), handling the kids school schedules, going to their events, doing all the household chores, and feeling invalidated, lonely, and exhausted?
Have you told your husband (or wife), "I need you to show me that you love me every day by little things and making me a priority,"?
I've been there too, and what I discovered was surprising. In this episode I discuss what to do if you feel like your spouse doesn't validate or prioritize you.
65: How to Heal From Your Critical Mother
Many of my clients had critical mothers. They inherited many "shoulds" and dumped who they really were to win her "love" -- which was really just her approval.
Critical mothers pass on the pain of their own rejected selves to their daughters, if they don't do the inner work to heal first.
In this episode, after giving you permission to take your ability to receive even deeper as I am currently doing, I discuss exactly how you can begin to heal from this kind of upbringing.
Thanks for listening!
64: When You Don't Like Your Husband
We all have days where we just don't like our spouse or even our kids, even if it's for a fleeting moment. Before you get on that downward spiral and plan the divorce, let me share with you that these thoughts are normal and to be expected in a family where you're with the same humans day after day.
Get yourself a big cup of grace and love on the part of you that is struggling. It's going to be ok!
(If you'd like to double-check that it's really going to be ok, visit my website at bethrowles.com and let's set up a time to chat!)
63: Are You Un-Intentionally Destroying Your Marriage?
Do you WANT to grow old with your husband?
Lost Sight of Intentions: Beth's Marriage Advice
Beth had a heart-to-heart talk, where she shared her belief that many marriages end due to losing sight of the original intentions. Beth emphasized that couples often forget their initial dream of growing old together, sharing life experiences, and the promise to stay together till death. She noted that when conflicts arise, instead of focusing on the positive aspects of the partnership, people tend to subconsciously look for reasons to leave, which can lead to ruining the marriage. Beth encouraged her audience to be mindful of their initial intentions and to look for reasons to stay together rather than reasons to leave.
Focusing on Partner's Positives
Beth emphasized the importance of focusing on the positive aspects of our partner and not just highlighting their flaws. She encouraged to acknowledge the reasons why we chose them in the first place and to remember that they are different from us, which is often one of the reasons we are attracted to them. Beth also reminded that this applies to our children as well, who are a mix of both parents, and this diversity is what makes them whole and beautiful.
Dangers of Relationship Exit Focus
Beth warned against focusing on reasons to end a relationship, emphasizing that doing so can manifest conflict and unhappiness. She noted that even if one isn't explicitly expressing negative feelings, the other party will still pick up on them, potentially leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy of conflict and disconnection. Beth emphasized the importance of striving for peacefulness, safety, and happiness, and the potential dangers of seeking reasons to leave.
Relationship Ending Discussion
Beth had a discussion about ending a relationship and its implications. She warned about the dangers of looking for negative aspects of a person, which could lead to seeing those traits more clearly. Beth also mentioned the need for a person to be present with their children. She ended the discussion by noting that she was done and wanted the other parties to settle down.
Intentions: Shaping Our Experiences
Beth explained how powerful intentions can be in shaping our experiences. She used examples from hiking, vacations, and dining out to illustrate how setting an intention to enjoy or find the good in a situation can change our perspective and experience. Beth emphasized that when we set intentions, we can direct our experiences and find growth opportunities, rather than focusing on what's wrong.
Intentional Marriage: Staying Power
Beth emphasized the power of intention in marriages. She highlighted that without a conscious intention to stay together, a marriage will inevitably fail. Beth cited the example of a person named Jason Duncan who gained fame after saying in a podcast interview that he and his wife refuse to consider divorce as it is not in their vocabulary, due to their commitment to stay together forever. Beth challenged those present to consider whether they want to stay on the "struggle bus" or the "drama triangle" or choose to adopt the intention of staying married.
Positive Growth and Proactive Mindset
Beth emphasized the importance of focusing on the positive, personal growth, and being proactive in creating good outcomes. She encouraged others to adopt a teacher's mindset, grounded in what they want and how they can make it happen.
62: Creating Family Presence with guest Rich Lewis
Do you have a busy mind, making it hard to be present with your family?
My guest today is coach Rich Lewis. Rich has published articles for numerous publications, including Contemplative Light, Abbey of the Arts, Contemplative Outreach, EerdWord, In Search of a New Eden, the Ordinary Mystic at Patheos, and the Contemplative Writer. Rich’s newest book is titled, Sitting with God: A Journey To Your True Self Through Centering Prayer. He teaches centering prayer in both his local and virtual community and offers one-on-one coaching through his website www.SilenceTeaches.com.
In this episode, Rich shows us how to use a meditative practice known as Centering Prayer to gain control over our thoughts and help us be more present with ourselves and others. I especially loved this schedule of practicing in the morning and then doing a "second sit" mid-afternoon as a way to recharge for the second half of the day!
I asked him how it helped him to be a better dad and he shared, "So I think it helped me be better in that I was more patient with each one of them and would slow myself down and let go and try to give each kid what they each need, because they're each unique. So what works for one doesn't work for the other. Just to give each of them kind of the one on one space they deserve, which is going to be very different."
61: Understanding ADHD, Addiction, and Dopamine
Has your husband or child been diagnosed with ADHD? While I go into much more detail on my website, I wanted to give you a brief overview today of dopamine's role in ADHD and addiction so you can understand why your loved one may have addictive behaviors. I talk about how our bodies can keep us stuck in patterns even when we want to change, and why pleasure is fleeting unless it's coming from within.
60: How Women Get Stuck Trying to Heal From His Affair
My guest today is betrayal expert Dr. Debi Silber. She's the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, host of her podcast From Betrayal to Breakthrough, and the author of Trust Again, The Unshakable Woman, and From Hardened to Healed. Her recent PhD study about how we experience betrayal made three groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal, which is amazing. She's also an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals.
In this episode, Debi shares the 5 Stages of Post Betrayal Syndrome, the symptoms we might experience before we heal from a betrayal, how to rebuild trust, and what it means if your partner or husband cheats again. Note that this work may pertain to you even if you haven't experienced betrayal with your husband -- you may feel like your parents' divorce was a betrayal or have a similar traumatic event in your past.
She said that either 1) the betrayal repeats or 2) the wall goes up in individuals who haven't used the betrayal to heal and transform. Dr. Debi also points out how someone can get stuck during the healing process, especially if they're commiserating on the betrayal with others rather than healing holistically.
Visit https://thepbtinstitute.com/ to learn how to work with Debi or to take her quizzes: Post Betrayal Syndrome or Healed or Hardened. You can also find her on Instagram at @debisilber
59: What Moms Really Want From Their Husbands
I recently had an aha moment at the vet's office when she told me that what my family does or doesn't do with our new puppy changes her perception of each person in the house. I realized that this has happened in our home with the kids as well and that one of my biggest frustrations wasn't necessarily that my husband wasn't DOING the thing; it was that my kids were viewing me as the sole leader in our family. I wanted the pressure off. Can you relate?
I also share a few observations from working with kids this week as a substitute.
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58: Prisoner From Birth: Exposing Scientology's Child Abuse with Survivor Katherine Spallino
My guest today grew up in Scientology's Sea Org, a division of their cult that had her shoeless and separated from her family, doing hard labor for no pay by ten years old. Katherine Spallino's strong will and frustration with being punished for being human finally led her to escape Scientology's grip, despite having no one to help her and having to leave what she knew of her family behind.
We talk about her experience, what could drive a mother to abandon her child into the greedy arms of a cult, and how Danny Masterson's rape victims were written up--one example of a massive coverup of abuse and suppression of justice. My guest is the author of The Bad Cadet: Growing Up in the Church of Scientology's Sea Organization:
"At age six, Katherine Spallino is separated from her parents and sent to train for her future in the Church of Scientology’s clergy—the Sea Organization. Naively happy at first, she thinks it’s a fun adventure to live in a Scientology-owned dorm room in Los Angeles with thirteen other girls, rarely seeing her parents and never going to a normal school. She’s committed to her Scientology studies and her life’s purpose of clearing the planet.
Later, Katherine is sent to live at a secluded ranch with other young prospective Sea Org members, called cadets, where she studies Scientology and does manual labor—weeding fields, digging trenches, and working in the galley. The indoctrination escalates, and her family slips even farther into the background. But as she enters her teenage years, a host of new, more immediate concerns emerge—namely boys, popularity, fits of rebellion, and fantasies of what else life has to offer.
As the Sea Org beckons, the fundamental question intensifies—should she commit herself to the church, or reject everything she’s ever known for a chance at a different life?" I so admire Katherine's bravery and willingness to speak up against the continued abuse happening right in front of us.
Current scientologists looking to escape scientology can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233, Text START to 88788 or visit https://www.thehotline.org/ They will help you get out and connect you to needed resources.
57: The Difference Between a Narcissist and Emotional Immaturity
It's here! My book on boundaries, Brick House Boundaries, is finally published! You can get your copy today on Amazon or from your favorite place to get books and you can join us Monday, September 11th, when we kick off the Brick House Boundary Book Club! Go to brickhouseboundaries.com to gain access.
In this episode, I talk about the difference between someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and someone who is emotionally immature. The term narcissist gets thrown around a lot, but the truth is that we all exist on the narcissist-empath spectrum and can be more of one or the other at any moment before we come into a middle, balanced place. The people being called a narcissist today are often just emotionally immature.
I also give you a few of the ways someone can violate the boundaries of others without even knowing it. There are several examples in the book and I can't wait for you to read it!
56: How Introverted Moms Are Energized Through Business Ownership
This episode is about building success as an introvert, whether that's through a career change or by starting a business. We talk about how to put yourself out there, making the leap, and even how to support introverted children.
Jenny Toh is founder and ICF credentialed, certified professional coach of River Life Coaching Pte. Ltd. Her mission as a coach is to empower her clients, particularly introverts as I am an introvert myself, to embrace their introversion as a strength and to define success on their own terms.
She is also a trained and certified mentor coach. Her mission as a mentor coach is to support her fellow coaches to continually hone their coaching skills and competencies to a mastery level, leveraging on their unique strengths and styles.
You can find Jenny at https://www.riverlifecoaching.com/
55: How to Explore Your Triggers
In this episode, I walk you through exactly how to explore your triggers, or uncomfortable feelings that don't match up to what you're experiencing.
If you've ever been upset or uncomfortable when everyone else was fine or even happy, this show is for you. Get your journal ready to take notes as we dive in and actually go through all three of the first steps of my Happily Ever After process.
As always, you can go to my website bethrowles.com to learn more!
54: What to Do When He Constantly Complains About Sex, with guest Dr. Karin Calde
You NEED to listen to this conversation with Dr. Karin Calde if your husband is constantly pressuring you for sex, or you feel like he complains all the time about not getting enough sex from you, or if you're a man who feels like you have a dead bedroom and aren't sure how to fix it. My guest takes the mystery out of this barrier to peace in the home, sharing her expertise on creating true intimacy and desire.
In this episode, we explore:
- Desire Discrepancy
- 5 Gears of Touch and the importance of non-sexual touch
- The sexual gas pedal and sexual brake pedal
- Sex and masculinity -- what do beliefs about masculinity have to do with his desire?
- Spontaneous desire vs. responsive desire
- The importance of sexual "date nights" for marriage
- "If it's not pleasurable, then it's probably not worth having."
- Creating a rule book for "good sex"
- How we center the man's experience
Dr. Karin Calde is a former therapist and current Internal Family Systems-informed relationship coach with an unquenchable thirst for all things love and self-growth. She helps couples in committed relationships create more intimacy and deepen their connection with one another.
Resources Mentioned in the Show:
Men's Groups: EVRYMAN
5 Gears of Touch: Sexual Awareness by Barry McCarthy
Pleasure: She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph.D.
And as always, you can find me at bethrowles.com
Or join our Facebook Group, Soul Sages!
53: 5 Barriers to Empathy
In month five of my Happily Ever After Conscious Marriage Coaching Program, clients learn how to give their husbands empathy so they can truly transform the relationship. It removes the emotional stalemate that prevents relationship harmony.
In this episode, I'm covering five ways that we can be blocked from giving others empathy, even if we know exactly how to do it. Let's dive in deeper and consider what might be the cause behind your unwillingness to "hold space" for your husband when he's upset.
To get started on your personal growth journey, join our weekly meditation sessions! These live VIP Emotional Hygiene Sessions are meant for anyone, whether you're brand new to having a conscious marriage or have been on this journey a while. Sessions include opportunities for Q&A, teaching, and guided or vipassana meditation.
As always, visit theauthenticwifeandmom.com to learn more or get in touch with me.
52: How To Teach Our Kids Basic Human Skills
Do your kids know what to do when they're angry? Do you as a parent, wife, or teacher know how to respond when someone is upset?
In this episode, Generational Integrity Coaches Jenny Murtagh and Felicia Severhill reflect on their experiences as parents and teachers, discussing the importance of self-care and finding a balance between personal needs and caregiving responsibilities. They delve into the challenges they faced and the realizations they had along the way. The conversation focuses on the significance of prioritizing self-care as a parent and the impact it has on overall well-being and relationships, as well as modeling basic human skills like emotional intelligence and empathy.
The discussion begins with my guests sharing why they started The Parent Empowerment Movement, which stemmed from recognizing their own struggles in meeting their parental needs. They wanted to share their insights and strategies with other parents, especially during the pandemic when families were confined to their homes. Drawing from their teaching experience, they discuss practical techniques that can make parenting more enjoyable and beneficial for both parents and children.
As the conversation progresses, they highlight the tendency for parents, particularly mothers, to prioritize their children's needs above their own. They stress the importance of self-care, emphasizing that parents cannot fully be there for their children if they neglect their own well-being. The hosts share personal anecdotes and reflect on their own journeys of learning to prioritize self-care.
The hosts then explore the similarities and differences between being a teacher and a parent when it comes to self-care. They acknowledge that while teachers may put up a facade of being fine, neglecting self-care eventually takes a toll on their overall well-being. They discuss the impact it has on relationships and interactions with students, colleagues, and family members.
They conclude by emphasizing the transformative power of self-care in personal growth and improved relationships. Taking care of oneself extends to positively influencing the care provided to others. They express how self-care allows them to show up better as parents, partners, and educators.
Tune in to this enlightening episode as Jenny and Felicia candidly share their experiences, provide valuable insights, and offer practical tips for incorporating self-care into the parenting journey.
You can find Jenny and Felicia at https://www.theparentempowermentmovement.com/ or on social media @theparentempowermentmovement
As always, you can find me at www.theauthenticwifeandmom.com.
51: Why You Don't Protect Your Boundaries
In this episode, recorded as I'm coming to the end of writing my book on boundaries (which I can't wait to share with you!) we explore just a few of the reasons why you may not protect your boundaries. We focus on how being the good girl and taking care of everyone gets in the way of knowing our worth and protecting ourselves.
I also rant a bit about how we end up coddling our boys and what happens as a result.
As always, to learn more, please visit theauthenticwifeandmom.com or join our Facebook Group, Soul Sages. See you there!
50: How To Quit An Abuser with guest Sandy Johnston
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In this episode of The Authentic Wife Show, guest Sandy Johnston shares what she experienced in multiple abusive relationships, the early warning signs she ignored, and what makes it hard to leave. We talk about:
- How having a child and quitting her job impacted her well-being
- The problem with marriage counseling
- Early warning signs she ignored, like stalking
- How learned helplessness had her convinced that she was truly disempowered
- The role financial abuse plays in prolonging abusive relationships
Sandy Johnston is a survivor of domestic abuse that became life-threatening for herself and for her children.
As someone who had no choice but to flee, change her name and live in hiding with her three children all in the name of trying to stay safe from one drug affected abusive person who had lost the plot, Sandy is no stranger to letting go of her old life and having to reinvent herself starting from absolute scratch.
Since that fateful day in 2013 when she came home with her children to a house that was set with a cocktail of gas and flame to spark an explosion to do away with her and the children, Sandy was on that day confronted with the stark reality that she was no longer safe to go on living anywhere where he ex-partner knew of. Up until that point she had tried to keep him at a safe distance to no avail. Her attempts to manage an unmanageable situation were clearly not enough.
At that point Sandy knew that she had no choice but to put the safety of herself and her children as the top priority and do whatever she could to escape.
Almost nine years on Sandy's resolve to do everything in her power to break away has paid off.
She is the founder of The Key to Be Free Transformation Services and she is the host of the Tiaras Tears and Triumphs podcast.
She supports women struggling with the pain, damage, and complexities caused by abusive relationships with various services that enable them to recover, renew and rebuild on the other side so that they can feel whole, secure, and confident with or without a partner. She helps them heal their heart, head, and hip pocket to give them the confidence to find the key to close the door on fearfulness and open the door to new opportunities that align with their values, dreams, and desires.
Sandy speaks up about domestic abuse and she is on a mission to help women put their safety first by taking the steps to break free from abusive relationships by getting the right support. You can visit Sandy at her website: https://www.sandyj.com.au/
49: How ADHD Makes Marriage Hard
If it sometimes feels like your husband is your extra child, I can relate! In this episode, I talked about 15 conflicts we used to have in our marriage before I did my inner work to turn our relationship around without my husband having to read a book or go to a counselor.
You'll quickly understand what our dynamic was like and how painful it was for me to be this angry, resentful shell of who I really am. The worst part was that I was co-creating everything I was experiencing, something I couldn't admit back then! I really thought he was to blame and if he would just be better, then everything would improve and we'd be fine.
As always, if you'd like to learn more, visit bethrowles.com and be sure to subscribe to and share this podcast if it's been helpful! Your reviews really make a difference so thank you for helping this movement grow.
48: Invest In The Kids: Applying Business Principles for Family Success
In this captivating episode, we explore the transformative concept of investing in various aspects of life and how they synergize to create a fulfilling existence. Our guest shares insights on the dynamics of family relationships and the critical role of partnership in achieving success and happiness. Discover the concept of alchemy and how combining resources can lead to exponential growth in wealth, relationships, and personal development.
Key Discussion Points:
Balancing financial investments with investments in relationships and childrenThe concept of alchemy: combining resources for a richer and more fulfilling lifeThe flywheel effect: How investing in multiple areas reinforces and strengthens overall growthThe value of social connections and networking in personal and professional successOvercoming challenges in finding a good partner and building a strong partnershipThe significance of having a shared mission and purpose within a relationshipBreaking free from rigid roles and embracing flexibility to meet the needs of both partnersUnderstanding the importance of defining a purpose beyond financial success
Join us in this enlightening conversation as we explore the transformative power of investing in money, relationships, and family. Discover how embracing partnership and finding a shared purpose can unlock a world of possibilities and lead to a life of abundance and fulfillment. Learn how understanding each other's why can help navigate divergent paths, and learn practical strategies for resolving conflicting priorities. From travel preferences to financial responsibilities, we explore the holistic approach that leads to a richer and more fulfilling family life. Tune in to gain valuable perspectives on fostering communication, reinforcing values, and achieving true wealth in all aspects of life.
My guest is Aaron Shelley. Aaron has a BS in Mechanical Engineering and an MBA. He has worked with small businesses and startups where he developed a unique systems perspective on business and family. His work in the academic and business worlds led him to understand how related our families and business dynamics are.
He and his wife have run the largest Irish Dance school in Utah for over 20 years. He has built multiple companies, consulted across multiple industries and helped raise $54 million as the COO of a technology company. He lives in Utah with his wife and four children.
Check out his book, The Family Flywheel, at https://thefamilyflywheel.com/bookresources. You'll get help assessing your family business model (Strategy, Structure, and Culture) and your resources (Financial, Social, and Human). It also gives you a list of investment ideas for each resource type!
47: Signs Your Husband May Have ADHD
Even if you think no one in your family has traits of ADHD, I encourage you to listen to this episode anyway, because... there's a good chance that mothering is very important to you and that you have been mothering since way before you had children. You may have even mothered (raised) yourself! And really good mothers seem to attract really childlike husbands, which is where ADHD comes into play...
In this show, I talk about the signs that your husband (or even you) might have ADHD.
The blog I mentioned in the show is: Can An ADHD Marriage Survive? Yes! Here’s How Conscious Moms Avoid Divorce in 5 Steps.
Please review this podcast and share it with a friend if you're passionate about helping children have childhoods they don't have to recover from! :)
46: Get Booked - How Storytelling Engages Children and Audiences with guest Dr. Danny Brassell
Today's episode is with TedX speaker, author, and former inner-city teacher, Dr. Danny Brassell. While Danny gives us some fantastic tips for helping children learn to read, he also has some great ideas for organizing your own library of notes and utilizing storytelling to spread your mission by becoming an engaging speaker.
I wrote down 10 tips from this interview and think you'll find as much value in it as I did!
My guest is a highly-sought after speaker, trainer and coach known as “Jim Carrey with a Ph.D.,” Dr. Danny Brassell has spoken to over 3,500 audiences worldwide and authored 16 books, including his latest, Leadership Begins with Motivation. He helps parents transform their struggling and reluctant readers into more passionate and proficient readers. And he shows business owners, entrepreneurs and executives how to increase their income, freedom and impact by creating engaging presentations. Visit freegiftfromdanny.com to download a complimentary e-copy of Danny's book "Read, Lead & Succeed," which provides inspirational quotes & stories and adult- and children's-level book recommendations. He'll also provide access to a "5-day reading challenge" digital training for parents interested in helping their children read more, read better and love reading. As always, to learn more about creating the marriage you want without leaving the one you're in, please visit theauthenticwifeandmom.com
45: Why Creating Marriage Health is Good Parenting
Countless research articles all point to the benefits of children living with both of their parents, but outside of the external benefits, why is marriage health such an important part of parenting?
In today's episode, you'll learn why creating marriage health is good parenting and the huge mistake that many conscious parents make while raising their children.
We'll also discuss the importance of acceptance and how this is pivotal in creating marriage health.
As always, to work with me or learn more about creating a conscious marriage, visit my website:
44: Surrendering to Healing with guest Roxanne Chaput
Roxanne was generous to share her story about how she healed and became a healer, tapping into the essential energy that is invisible to the eye through dreams, tribal elders, and nature. in this episode, you'll learn how to surrender so you can heal yourself by removing what is blocking that growth.
Roxanne Chaput has guided thousands of Souls to Heal. Love. Awaken. so that they can come back to a place of enlightened love which has led them to experience a profound knowingness and sense of inner peace which naturally led them to elevate and align themselves to receive an overabundance in Love, Health, Wealth and Success all without holding onto all of their detrimental limiting beliefs, disconnection from their emotions and their Soul.
You can find her at https://www.roxannechaput.com/
And as always, you can find me at theauthenticwifeandmom.com
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43: Feeling Unappreciated: What it Means on Mother's Day and Beyond
It seems easy to feel unappreciated in a relationship, and that sense can be heightened on a day like Mother's Day. Why isn't your husband/wife showing you the love today and every day? And what would it change for you if they did?
In this episode, we explore what you're really longing for and how you can get it, even if your husband/wife seems clueless about showing you appreciation.
To learn more, visit bethrowles.com
42: How to Make Travel Fun as a Family with guest Dawn Barclay
In this episode, I speak with travel expert Dawn Barclay on how to make travel fun as a family, even for kids who are anxious, inflexible, or neurodiverse!
- Where to go/how to plan a trip based on the child's interests
- Making travel easier by making it predictable
- If you should try to stick to routines or go with the flow
- What kinds of transportation to take so you can stay in charge
- If kids clubs are safe for your children
- Her tip for the best places to stay
- And why knowing your child is the most important part of travel planning
Dawn M. Barclay has spent a career working in various aspects of journalism, starting with corporate communications work (brochures, profiles, newsletters, press releases, web content) and then branching out into magazine writing and editing. She has held senior or contributing editor positions at Travel Agent Magazine, Travel Life, Travel Market Report, and most recently, Insider Travel Report. She was the recipient of a First Prize Award from the Society of Professional Journalists for a story on travel law, and in August 2022, Rowman & Littlefield released her non-fiction book, Traveling Different: Vacation Strategies for Parents of the Anxious, the Inflexible, and the Neurodiverse. Essentially the ASD travel bible, the book incorporates over one hundred interviews with parents, Certified Autism Travel Professionals, mental health professionals and special needs advocates. You can find Dawn's book on Amazon or the publisher's website.
41: How to Listen to Your Husband Without Getting Pulled Into His Drama
Thanks for waiting for me while I took April off to finish my MBA! I'm happy to be back helping you create the conscious marriage you deserve!
Today's episode is about how to respond to your husband's drama without getting pulled into it. I discuss why there's no emotional labor in empathy and give you two tricks to use so you don't get hooked by his fear and go on the defensive. This will help you respond to him with empathy so that he can process his feelings without you feeling drained or exhausted by the conversation.
To learn more about Happily Ever After, visit happilyeveraftercoach.com
To learn more about Dana Malstaff's evergreen system, Nurture to Convert, visit https://bossmom.ontraport.com/t?orid=29584&opid=50
40: What Men In Failing Marriages Need To Know
Tired of your wife not being interested in sex, snuggling, or... you? Feel like your marriage is failing and you don't know what to do about it? Are you starting to feel depressed and hopeless that things will never change, but she seems to be doing great, content to do her own thing? This episode is for you.
In episode 40 of The Authentic Wife Show, I explain to men in failing marriages exactly what's not working and how they move forward from here (without abandoning their family in the process).
You can access more resources and information at the show's page, here: https://bethrowles.com/40-what-men-in-failing-marriages-need-to-know/
39: Women Without Boundaries with guest Ash Pariseau
Please join Ash and me for a conversation on why women aren't protecting their boundaries, how we end up attracting the wrong guy, and how the extreme side of feminism is shaping men in a negative way by the filter it views them through.
You can learn more about boundaries on my website, theauthenticwifeandmom.com.
To get in touch with Ash, visit her website, damesthatknow.com
38: What Is Love
In this episode, I talk about what love really is and how you can feel it right now, no matter who's around you. I also highlight how much love we have for our children, how care doesn't equal love, and how the desire to escape on vacation can have a surprising origin.
If you're not sure if you've ever experienced love or how to give it, this episode is for you!
As always, you can read more on my website, bethrowles.com
37: Marry The Authentic You with Dr. Michelle Hannah
My guest is just as passionate about divorcing the fake you and marrying the authentic you as I am! Dr. Michelle Hannah is a life coach and the author of The Breaking Point: A Full-Circle Journey and The Vows: A workbook for marriage success and understanding yourself. She's the creator of the 4B's program, helping women understand and manage whatever life throws at them so they can thrive.
In this episode, we talked about her 4B's, which are:
We also talked about the Self Vows and how they enhance all relationships.
You can find her at https://www.michellerhannah.com/
36: What You Can Do If Your Husband Isn't On Board With Getting Relationship Help
Frustrated because your husband won't go to marriage counseling, a coach, or therapy? Here's exactly what you can do: stop waiting! In this episode, I share why it's a waste of time to wait for him, how you can give yourself permission to do what is needed, and why only one of you needs to do the work.
In my marriage coaching program, I ONLY work with the wife -- your husband doesn't have to be involved at all! The growth happens for him when you embody everything you experience during the coaching program!
To learn more, visit this episode's page at: https://bethrowles.com/36-what-you-can-do-if-your-husband-isnt-on-board-with-getting-relationship-help/
35: Helping Kids Manage Their Big Emotions
In this episode of The Authentic Wife Show, we talk to Parent Coach Laura Reardon about helping our kids with their anxiety and other big emotions.
Laura is a certified Child Behavior Specialist; she's trained as an Emotion Coach, Childhood Anxiety Coach, and Parent Coach; and is the founder of Laura Reardon Coaching. To learn more about her, please visit her website: https://laurareardoncoaching.com/
34: The Journey of a Conscious Mom
Where have you been, and where are you going? I've been a conscious parent nearly since my kids were born. Now that they're almost 9 and 7, how is conscious parenting working? Find out in this episode where I talk about my own journey, how it saved my marriage, and what I hope for our future.
"Can I be in a place of love no matter who I'm with? Can I be fully regulated no matter what's going on? Am I able to stay present and on my breath even when the situation is new or a little bit scary? Can I meet people who I completely disagree with from a place of love and, and have those good boundaries to know that it doesn't impact either of us to have a disagreement?"
33: Finding Flow For Financial Success
Are you struggling to find the success you want in your relationship with your business? Just like in marriage, the energy, vibe, or flow you are bringing to that relationship really matters. My guest in this episode is Dr. Victor Manzo, a Business Mindset Coach, Certified Pediatric Chiropractor, Author, and Speaker. He shares with us how he went from burnout in his business to more success working fewer hours after he found flow. He's learned how to construct his future self and utilize science and ancient wisdom to achieve that.
You can learn more from Dr. Manzo by visiting his website, https://www.empoweryourreality.com/links or reading his book, Decoding The Matrix.
To learn more about improving your marriage through the only online coaching program that helps women who feel like their husband's mother avoid divorce and keep their family together even if he's not willing to grow, please visit bethrowles.com
32: What To Do When You Resent Your Husband
In episode 32 of The Authentic Wife Show, I teach you exactly why you feel resentment toward your husband, what you can do about it, and how you can prevent it from happening again.
To read the transcript, access the resources mentioned in the show, or to learn how to work with me, please visit this show's page:
31: Critical Thinking in Early Education with Barbara Ann Mojica
Is critical thinking part of your curriculum? As parents and educators, we're tasked with teaching our kids the most important skills they'll need to be successful in life. Perhaps at the top of that list should be critical thinking skills, or the ability to assess multiple sources of information, ask good questions, and analyze all of that data before forming a judgment.
In episode 31 of The Authentic Wife Show, author, historian, and educator Barbara Ann Mojica shares her perspective as a former teacher, special educator, principal, and school district administrator. We talk about how critical thinking skills are missing in today's learning environment as teachers are forced to teach to the test, how history could help us develop those skills, and how her Little Miss History series of books can help parents bring the past to life for their kids.
You can find the resources mentioned at the show's page here: https://bethrowles.com/31-critical-thinking-in-early-education/
30: A Tale of Two Christmases for Children of Divorce
Merry Christmas! In this podcast episode, I recount some of my favorite Christmas memories and how sharply that all changed after my parents divorced. Please don't miss the special announcement at the end!
You can watch this episode or access the resources mentioned at its page: https://bethrowles.com/30-a-tale-of-two-christmases-for-children-of-divorce/
29: How To Stop Letting a Narcissistic Husband Make You Feel Crazy
Do you suspect you have a narcissistic husband who makes you feel crazy? It's easy to lose touch with reality when you don't have a firm handle on who you are and what you truly feel and where you end and he begins. I'm excited to welcome my guest, therapist and author Shannon Petrovich LCSW, LISAC, BCD, for this episode. She's an expert in truly toxic or abusive relationships.
In episode 29 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn how to handle the tantrum or emotional guilt and manipulation from your husband after you hold a boundary, when you should walk away from physical abuse, how a wife's anxiety can contribute to an unhealthy relationship, if a toxic relationship is co-created, what to do with a husband who won't talk to you, and how to handle suicide threats.
To access the transcript and resources mentioned on the show, please visit its page: https://bethrowles.com/29-how-to-stop-letting-a-narcissistic-husband-make-you-feel-crazy/
You can find my guest Shanon Petrovich at her website nofoggydays.com or:
28: How Your Unhappy Marriage Holds You Back
In episode 28 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn the four opportunities waiting for you right now through your marriage. I'll share with you some of what's different in my life since doing this work that saved my marriage, despite my husband feeling like my tallest child.
To read the transcript or access more resources, please visit this show's page at: https://bethrowles.com/28-how-your-unhappy-marriage-holds-you-back/
27: The Secret To Manifesting Abundance with Victoria Rader
If you've been trying to attract and manifest abundance in your life, this show is for you!
In episode 27 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn the secrets to manifesting abundance in your life, especially financial abundance, with my guest Victoria Rader. Victoria is a Possibility Coach, Author, Transformational Speaker, and the founder of Yu2Shine. She has a fantastic way of describing how we become more authentic and why energy matters so much.
To read the transcript, watch this episode on YouTube, or access the resources mentioned in the show, please visit its page: https://bethrowles.com/27-the-secret-to-manifesting-abundance-with-victoria-rader/
26: How to Help Husband With Depression
In episode 26 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn how to help your husband with depression, and what he can do to begin to shift out of it. I talk about what causes it, what to say, and how to avoid losing your own joy while he's in it.
To access the transcript or resources mentioned in this show, visit its page: https://bethrowles.com/26-how-to-help-husband-with-depression/
If you're ready to create the marriage you and your kids deserve, get started by clicking here.
25: Awakening The Masculine in Your Man with Andre Paradis
Awakening the masculine in your man is exactly what most wives I know want out of their relationship. Masculine energy is the doing, protecting, and providing energy that, at its healthiest, makes a mother and her children feel safe and loved. The problem is that a lot of us women are now living in our heads, trying to fill both roles of provider and nurturer, and we've not left any space for the masculine in our husbands to emerge. We inadvertently coddle him and keep him feeling like mommy's favorite little boy, which infuriates us, but we don't know how to change it.
In episode 25 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn how the choreography of a healthy relationship dance begins with your energy with Relationship Coach Andre Paradis.
"The men don't care about your money. Men don't care about your career. Men don't care about any of that shit. They don't, I'm sorry, have to be harsh, but like this is, this is what, it's such a lemon you've been sold that to be a valuable woman, you have to be productive. No, that's masculine. That's masculine. You don't have to be productive to attract men. You have to be feminine to attract men."
To find the resources mentioned in this show, visit its page at: https://bethrowles.com/25-awakening-the-masculine-in-your-man/
You can find my guest and Relationship Coach Andre Paradis at https://www.projectequinox.net/
24: What Does Inauthenticity (Fear) Look Like in a Relationship?
I recently had the birthday blues, you know when you just feel sad on your birthday for no apparent reason? In this episode, I walk you through my process for shifting out of that sadness, what I discovered, and how this kind of fear shows up as inauthenticity in a relationship when we blame the other person for the yucky feelings we have going on inside.
Learn how I processed the birthday blues to stop blaming my husband for how I was feeling and to actually heal a part of me I'd forgotten.
You can find out more at this episode's page: https://bethrowles.com/24-what-does-inauthenticity-fear-look-like-in-a-relationship/
23: Embodying Your Growth with Michelle Grosser
Embodying your growth means that you've healed and shifted at a cellular level, that you don't just know something cognitively, but that you can actually BE that person in your body.
In episode 23 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn ways to heal through your body so you can truly become everything you've learned by moving from your head to your heart. My guest is Michelle Grosser, a motherhood coach, litigator, and host of The Motherhood Podcast. She and I discuss healing through somatic experiencing. sitting in joy, and what she calls the five different personality patterns.
Read more about this episode or watch it on its page here: https://bethrowles.com/23-embodying-your-growth/
Michelle Grosser is a motherhood coach and host of The Motherhood Podcast. Michelle spent the better part of the last decade in the courtroom as a trial attorney, and from the outside looking in, she had it all together. But in reality, she was exhausted, overwhelmed, and burned out. So, she flipped the script, became certified as a Master Coach, and is now on a mission to help other women redefine motherhood. She deeply believes that the most profound thing we can offer our children is our own healing. Through somatic and neuroscience-based modalities, she coaches women through discovering what’s beneath their triggers and emotions, so they can begin their healing journey and find peace in the present. She and her husband Jeff have two daughters and live in Miami, FL.
22: How Fear Kills Communication
Why Emotions Are A Thought Process And Need To Be Processed Before Problem-Solving
Do you get tired of trying to exist when suddenly your husband is defensive or feels criticized? Does communication with him feel like a dead-end street? In this episode, I share with you what is happening and what you can do about it. We explore the brain science behind it and the fatal assumption that communication scholars held for many years that was detrimental to negotiation.
To read the transcript and get any resources mentioned in this episode, visit the show's page: https://bethrowles.com/22-how-fear-kills-communication/
21: Discovering The Art of Self-Worth
This is one of my absolute favorite conversations! Today's guest is Michaell Magrutsche, an Austrian-Californian multimedia Artist, educator, author of 5 art-related books, podcaster, coach, creative advisor, and former Newport Beach CA arts commissioner. Our conversation explores the discovery of our human potential through the contrast of man-made systems, which can keep us stuck in a worthiness shame loop while we waste the most precious gift of all, time. Learn how your non-physical essence is an important puzzle piece in all of humanity.
To find the transcript and any resources mentioned in this show, please visit its page: https://bethrowles.com/21-discovering-the-art-of-self-worth/
You can find Michaell at michaellm.com
20: How to Get Support to Achieve Your Dream
Wondering how you'll ever get support to achieve your dream? Maybe you hate your job but the pressure to provide for your family is just too much. Or maybe you're already willing to take the risk to start the business, but your husband is totally stuck in scarcity and lack, afraid to put any resources into your well-thought-out idea.
In episode 20 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn how to get confirmation to take that leap from what society told you to do to what your soul is telling you to do, how to grow a truly supportive support team, and how to figure out what your dream even is.
For the transcript and all resources, please visit the show's page at https://bethrowles.com/20-how-to-get-support-to-achieve-your-dream/
I'm excited to be welcoming my first guest ever to The Authentic Wife Show and I think you'll find her as inspiring as I did. She's a former hospital COO who chased happiness up the ladder until she realized living an inauthentic life would never make her happy no matter her title or how much money she made. Now a coach, consultant, and author, she is here to help others listen to their heart and pursue their dreams, from astronaut to athlete. If your dream is a long-buried seed or squashed bud, she's here to help you replant it, nurture it, and bring it to full bloom. Please welcome Dream Pollinator and New Yorker Debby Kruszewski to the show.
You can find Debby at https://debbykrusz.com/
19: The Surprising Power of Self-Regulation
When a marriage is struggling, it's common to think that there are only two options: stay miserable or divorce. In this episode, I share why self-regulation is the third option which is relationship-changing, and why it matters that we develop this skill.
Visit this episode's page at https://bethrowles.com/19-the-surprising-power-of-self-regulation/