The Modern Young Adult

Let’s face it, you’re busy! With homework due, going to work, hanging out with friends, and doing any other goal let alone taking care of ourselves, we have a very full schedule. And there may be lots of things you want to do that you push off or just can’t. Perhaps you get stuck in thinking, “well if I can’t do it all, I shouldn’t even try.” Don’t fall for this trap! Today on the podcast, I’m sharing how to make peace with not being able to do it all, both the day to day when we have all or nothing thinking and an overall view on our entire life and how we make it meaningful. If you want to have joy and release the stress of not being able to do everything, this episode is for you.

Stop Your Social Anxiety!

If you struggle with feeling confident at parties, asking someone on a date, or just to be yourself with your friends, join my free virtual class to Stop Your Social Anxiety on September 28th at 7 pm. MT.

We did it! My mom and I ran 15 miles and swam 3 miles all around the island of Mackinac in Michigan. We have been preparing for this day for the last 8 months and let me tell you it was amazing. And we loved it so much and learned so many things from it that I had to have my mom and certified life coach, April Price, on the podcast. I owe everything I am to her and she is such a brilliant mind when it comes to what we discuss today. In today’s episode, you’ll learn the lessons we learned from our SwimRun and how it might just change your life in a totally unrelated way.

Stop Your Social Anxiety!

If you struggle with feeling confident at parties, asking someone on a date, or just to be yourself with your friends, join my free virtual class to Stop Your Social Anxiety on September 28th at 7 pm. MT.

So often I have felt the fear of making the wrong choice. Why though? Maybe because I feel the consequences of this decision could ruin my life, that this really matters. Ultimately though this fear actually holds us back from living the life we want. In reality, YOU are the one who makes a decision right, because decisions do not make you feel good or bad. In today’s episode, we discuss this fear, where it comes from, and how to remove your anxiety in decision making and get better at it.

Jennie Dildine Coaching for Preparing, Currently Serving, and Return Missionaries

To have your best pre, current, or post missionary experience, it’s not about doing all the right things. It’s about how we are feeling mentally and emotionally. Learn how Jennie can help you if you feel stuck, worried, purposeless, anxious, depressed, or just feel like you're doing a bad job as a missionary.

Going back to school has always been my favorite time of the year to set goals for myself. So I want to help you start your semester right in knowing what goals you want to set, why you want to, and how you’re going to get there. Today on the podcast I explore the real reason we even make goals in the first place, what they help us accomplish in our becoming, and how to prepare for the eventual moments where failure will occur, when we don’t feel like doing the goal, when others pressure us to not do the goal, and what you can do to ensure you meet whatever goal you set. This semester won’t be what you expect it to be. It’ll be even better. 

Jennie Dildine Coaching for Preparing, Currently Serving, and Return Missionaries

To have your best pre, current, or post missionary experience, it’s not about doing all the right things. It’s about how we are feeling mentally and emotionally. Learn how Jennie can help you if you feel stuck, worried, purposeless, anxious, depressed, or just feel like you're doing a bad job as a missionary.

I’ve been reflecting on life and death recently. A week before my sister got married, a good friend of mine’s sister died in a tragic accident. Not to mention I saw Oppenheimer 3 times in theaters and cried with the impending fear of an eventual nuclear end to our world. As dark as that all sounds, it has given me the wonderful opportunity to reflect on what matters most in life. What have I been consumed with that if the world were ending wouldn’t be worth it? In today’s episode, we reflect on how we know what matters most in our life and decide what is the kind of life we want to live knowing that our time to get that very thing is limited. As easy as it is to believe that your life doesn’t matter, there’s every reason to also believe it does really matter.

Jennie Dildine Coaching for Preparing, Currently Serving, and Return Missionaries

To have your best pre, current, or post missionary experience, it’s not about doing all the right things. It’s about how we are feeling mentally and emotionally. Learn how Jennie can help you if you feel stuck, worried, purposeless, anxious, depressed, or just feel like you're doing a bad job as a missionary.

Money has been around forever. And so has worry about money. It’s the reason for divorce, depression, strikes, riots, etc. And it makes sense when it feels like it governs our whole world, especially as we are just starting out. But is worrying about your finances actually helping you? Today we are diving into your thoughts about money, where worry is coming from, what truths about money that are actually lies our brain uses to keep us safe, and how we can escape the madness that is Financial Worry when the world seems to be stuck in it. 

Jennie Dildine Coaching for Preparing, Currently Serving, and Return Missionaries

To have your best pre, current, or post missionary experience, it’s not about doing all the right things. It’s about how we are feeling mentally and emotionally. Learn how Jennie can help you if you feel stuck, worried, purposeless, anxious, depressed, or just feel like you're doing a bad job as a missionary.

When it comes to family, it’s almost as if drama has to be a part of it. Arguments, offending each other, not feeling accepted or wanted, whatever it may look like, seems to always occur when we are with family. But is that such a bad thing? Today on the podcast, I’m talking about the way to peace from your family drama is owning that your family cannot create your emotions and that dropping your expectations of how your family should be showing is the key to making YOURSELF feel better. As right as we feel, WE are the ones who feel better when we drop expectations, grudges, and let ourselves free by letting our family members just be themselves.

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So much self-help can feel like it’s about conquering our emotions as if they are something to be vanquished or destroyed. In fact, most of society desires to in fact run away or replace their emotional state with the things of the world. But after this beach vacation, I have been reminded of the value and purpose of emotion in that it helps us have a FULL and COMPLETE life. In today’s episode, learn how to truly “manage” your emotions by letting go of our resistance to them and diving into embracing them fully. Because life is truly because of emotion. Because emotion is kinda the whole point of life. You’ll never get this moment back so why run away from it? Why not embrace it?

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So many of us in the world feel unfulfilled and wonder why? It;s no wonder why when you look at the patterns of life we have established. Most of us look for enjoyment and fulfillment in things outside of us really quickly, yet perhaps it comes from within us and doing the harder things we keep putting off. In today’s episode, I explain the formula for fulfillment comes from committing to the hard thing we want to do and THEN celebrating ourselves intentionally. What you putting off that will in fact make you feel better this moment?

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We live in a world that doesn’t like to be lonely. Even when we are alone, we feel the urge to be plugged into our phones, tv, social media, all to fill up the air with noise and make us feel better. Then why is loneliness so present when we are so surrounded by people?I] It’s BECAUSE loneliness is created by our thoughts. And I believe there is a great importance to being lonely that we are MISSING OUT on. In today’s episode, you will learn what creates loneliness for human beings, why it matters that we actually experience it, and how to process and allow it so it becomes a transformative experience rather than a depressing one.

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One of the great abilities of our brain is to have awareness of our environment, particularly danger. With the way society has developed, we have what I call HYPER-awareness of what is right, wrong, good, bad, going to help us, or not because of the voices of other people so prevalent from media and just our own brains learning from it. But is your HYPER-awareness actually helping you or hindering your progress to getting the life you want? Today on the podcast, I advocate adding a little bit of naivety and a LOT of acceptance as the solution to when our HYPER-awareness halts our progress towards creating that very life. Listen here to learn how to stop this from impacting your dating, your career choices, and even how you feel about your self worth.

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“Dating is hard”. “Social media is bad for you”. Phrases like this we’ve heard over and over to the point where they just “make sense”. But is that actually true? Today on the podcast, we’re exploring how so often we confuse the truth for our own thoughts about a situation and forget that we get to CHOOSE if things like dating are hard or if social media is bad for us. There’s nothing wrong with keeping these thoughts, shame doesn’t help either. But the REAL TRUTH is that our thoughts ultimately create the reality of our situation. So is that what you want to be thinking to get where you want to in life?

HAPPENING THIS THURSDAY, MAY 25th - Stop Social Media From Taking Over Your Life

Anxiety doesn’t have to be a problem in your life. I’m a living example of this. I experience it on a weekly basis and I’ve learned how to manage the experience in a way that is healthy and good for me. Today on the podcast, I share my own story of anxiety and the 3 truths we need to know to truly manage our anxiety in our 20s. This is done in a way where you can operate and live your life with anxiety and have it NOT stop it from being absolutely amazing. 

Stop Social Media From Taking Over Your Life

You graduated! Or at least it’s graduation season and so to kick things off, I wanted to dedicate a whole episode for what to do after. So many of us are eager to move on to the next thing that we forget to let our accomplishments land. Or we’re unsure of what to do next and worry that we need to know now in order to be successful. Today on the podcast I discuss that and more about how to find great success in joy in your new life post graduation. Times of transition can be tough, but they don’t have to be hard as you think if you learn how to reframe your thoughts like I present in this episode.  

Stop Social Media From Taking Over Your Life

Today on the podcast, we’re talking about how it’s not always about you! Or rather how having that mindset can actually HELP you take the pressure off your life and show up more confidently as yourself. We talk about thoughts that sound good but are harmful for your mindset, the movie Hustle, the comedian John Crist, and really just ways to help you get out of your head so you can put your problems into perspective and feel better about the great life you genuinely have.

INTRODUCING A NEW CLASS: Stop Social Media From Taking Over Your Life

Today on the podcast, I’m telling you why building your self worth and how you view yourself, your body, your mind, your talents, your life matters! The words you choose to describe yourself matter and determine who you become, not the other way around. I cover Michael Jordan, 127 Hours, why our brains don’t do well in danger situations, and ultimately how you can begin to see the true value that your life is. You have infinite value. You are truly capable of so much. What would be possible if you saw that value in yourself?

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Today on the podcast, I explain why the relationship with your own SELF is the most important one and is often the most neglected. If you want anything to improve in your own life or in the lives of others around you, you must address how you feel and care about your own self. 

I walk through several steps you can begin today even with just 5 minutes that will do wonders for you AND help you practice self love, compassion, and allow you to stick to the big goals you have for yourself. You may be tempted to rationalize away the need to focus on this, but I promise you, if you use these tools and don’t listen to your brain’s reasons for not doing it, this can change your life for the better.

DATING AFTER COLLEGE STARTER KIT

Today, I’m talking about comparison, why it’s so instinctual to do and how social media has made it so easy for us in our modern day and age to think that our life isn’t good enough in comparison to what everyone else is doing. It is my philosophy that the best life you can have is YOUR life, whatever that looks like and this DOESN’T you can’t desire change for yourself. 

I discuss how to apply this in our mindset and how to look at other people’s lives as a whole, positive and negative, and to enjoy the “gains” of others and ourselves while recognizing it is totally okay to have comparison thoughts. You just get to choose if they stay and that will determine how satisfied and happy you are with your life.

It’s so easy to feel lost in the modern world today. With so many voices like social media, our parents, roommates, movies & television, all telling us how we should live our lives, we can feel overwhelmed and not know what the right path is for us, in terms of our career, dating, family dynamic, and just general lifestyle. So how do you know what’s right? YOU TRUST YOURSELF!

Today on the podcast, I explain what exactly to do when you are lost and are unsure of what your next decision should be. I explain what will most likely happen at your funeral, walk through the 7 stories exercise to determine exactly what type of career you desire by listening to yourself, and demonstrate how to not listen to your greatest critic (your brain!) when it comes to the fear you will most definitely feel starting anything you want to do. 

Today, I have the great opportunity of having Carlie Palmer-Webb on the podcast. Carlie Palmer-Webb is a sexuality researcher, entrepreneur, enthusiastic Jesus lover, hugger, and The Christian Sex Educator. She earned her master's degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development. Carlie grew up in a wonderful and loving Christian home, but one where sex was never talked about or mentioned. She has made it her life mission to become the sex educator that she desperately needed.

And she has certainly succeeded in her mission during this podcast. This conversation is FULL of fantastic advice for those of who have shame around the taboo of sex, how to talk about it with people, how to embrace our sexuality while we are single, and how to approach dating without discouragement, and even tips of how to improve our communication skills when we are in a relationship. You are guaranteed to learn something from Carlie in this episode.

Something almost inevitable as a young adult is the concept of the Friendzone. Fundamentally, it’s simply communicating that your feelings are different than the other person or vice versa. Yet our society has made it so easy to avoid honestly communicating our feelings and opting to ghost the person, making things only more difficult and frustrating.

Today, on the podcast, I guide you through the steps to making a friendzone conversation as simple and clear as possible, by being honest, not waiting, not judging, and letting the other person react however they desire. Yes we want to be liked and we don’t want to hurt people. Yet in the end, the best thing always is being honest and letting the other person know early on when you don’t feel the same about them. And for you who have been rejected/friendzoned, I have some advice for you too so stick around.

You know I didn't watch the movie Coco for forever. Why? Because my family said it wasn't very good. And I believed them. I thought that was the fact. I still sometimes have that thought, even after watching it and thinking it's a pretty good movie, my brain will offer me it's theory. Because "that's the way it's always been". This mindset can be hidden in a lot of things you want to be different in your life and if your not careful will prevent you from getting the life you want. 

Today on the podcast, I discuss how we get stuck in the mindset of not getting what we want in life because of our "past" or "things just being that way for us" and debunk it using examples from science, the lottery, and apply it to dating, your career, and your relationship with your family. 

You've probably wondered why you aren't as positive as your friends, or why you keep thinking of the worst case scenario in dating, or never can figure out what you should actually do when it comes to your anxiety, just that it's a problem. This in fact isn't just normal, it's biological. This response is engrained in our brain and it is in fact good that we do recognize problems. The trick is to make the harder effort to actually replace it with a solution.

Today on the podcast, I explain the steps needed to train your brain to seek out the solutions in life that you desire, rather than only dwelling on the problems it is designed to find. If you want to replace your focus on the problems in your life with solutions, you'll want to listen to this episode. 

I remember not liking myself when I looked in the mirror. Or just not being a fan. Or thinking we were okay, but no one liked us or there were things we needed to change. That is until I realized that nothing ever changed with these methods. And I was still me, looking back at me. While you may avoid looking a yourself in the mirror, what I came to learn was how to embrace that, how to really see myself, and how to begin choosing to love even when it didn't feel like there was much to love. 

Today on the podcast, I'm telling you why looking at yourself in the mirror and how you feel about yourself in that moment is truly the most powerful indicator for the direction of your life. I guide you through what it looks like and the objections that you and your brain will have towards doing this simple task. I promise, this episode will change your life if you apply it. 

So often, I see more and more people struggling with overthinking. Thinking it's something they're stuck with and are trying to overcome. But that narrative of overthinking being something that we should get rid of is only keeping us stuck in it. Thinking is a gift that we have as humans. Sure, we are going to overthink and it's not fun by any means, but it doesn't have to hold power over us. We always have a choice. 

Today on the podcast, I’m covering 3 ways to help you stop overthinking FOR GOOD! These principles will truly change the way you think about your overthinking and bring relief to your mind. 

As February begins, you may wonder if you can keep going with your goals. You may be ready to throw in the towel and believe once again that you can’t change the way you want to and it’s not worth it. Do NOT believe this lie.

Today on the podcast, I am changing your mind about change. The only thing preventing from lasting change, are the beliefs you have about yourself. If you want lasting change, you must choose to actively replace your past shame and self doubt with believing in yourself no matter what. And I show you what that looks like.

This is for all you overthinkers, worriers, i-don't-know-where-to-eat-ers, and shamers out there. The reason you are so tired is because you are spending your energy on something that is NOT producing anything useful for you. You recognize that spinning isn't helping, but you can't help it right?! What if I told you that you in fact had control over this, that there was a way to overcome this cycle of thinking. 

Today on the podcast, I teach the concept of decision fatigue and why it is the reason you are running out of energy. Too much energy is wasted in our attention to things that are out of our control or are just lies to our brain. This episode will teach you how to gain that power back in your life. 

We tend to always be rushing in life. Rushing not only from place to place, but especially from each stage of life. As a kid we want to be older and then we want to be an adult, we want to have money in a job and then we want to not have a job, we want to date and then be married and then have kids, all just because it's the next thing. But why aren't we good with where we are at knowing eventually we will get the thing we want in time?

In this episode, I focus on the last piece of advice I have for goals: "there's no need to rush in getting there". If you put in the time every day to do just a little bit, you will eventually get there, it cannot be stopped. This method of approaching goals actually makes it LAST and helps you to not burnout and give up. 

Too often we avoid the small things that actually bring change. All it takes to lose weight is to consume less energy than you burn. All it takes to get good grades is to study more than you usually do. All it takes to make money is to spend less than you earn. Truly, the simplest things in life are the ones we underestimate as being the things that will get you to your BIG GOAL! When in fact they need to be your superpower. 

Today on the podcast, I dive deep into why focusing on the goal doesn't even matter at the end of the day and why your focus needs to be on the small daily actions you take for yourself. Get good at doing the small boring things because change happens in the things we say are too simple and that we can do later in life. 

You are miserable when you are stuck and feel like you have no control over your life and the things you wish were different. And what keeps you stuck is that the things you want to change require you to feel bad when you're whole life you've been conditioned to have things be easier and to feel good all the time. This is the vicious cycle you try to break every year when you set your goals. 

This week on the podcast, learn why we choose to be miserable even if it feels terrible because we would much rather avoid the discomfort required of the things we want. If you want your life to finally be different, this is the episode for reaching exactly the goal you set for yourself from love, fully embracing the hard work required of it. 

It’s no secret that January is famous for the beginning AND ending of many people’s goals. That might even have been the case for you so many times. But it doesn’t have to be this way. The secret: commitment, no matter what.

Today on the podcast I dive deep into what is going to make the most difference towards making it to your goals: commitment. I’m talking about that moment when reality hits and we realize how delusional we are in our goal setting and how to KEEP going and talk to your brain through all the excuses to stop.

Christmas is the best time of year for most of us. And it's easy to see why. Just look around! But would it be wild if I suggested that this was literally ONLY because of how you are thinking? Don't worry, I'm not trying to get you to overthink Christmas. I just want you to consider that if your thinking is what makes Christmas so good, that means the rest of your life can also have the same spirit as Christmas. 

Today on the podcast, I explore the thoughts that make Christmas wonderful, magical, and so full of joy that can transform how we live out next year. There's so much potential in your life for joy BECAUSE of opposition, our thinking is what limits us, not the "facts" of life, you are allowed to be loved and it's more fun if you let yourself be taken care of, you'll feel better when you serve others, and life ain't supposed to be perfect. With these, you can keep the spirit of Christmas with you always. 

You might be honestly thinking: "my life isn't turning out the way I want it to. Clearly, I'm doing something wrong. Maybe I'm just not going to get the life I want." And of course, you are! It's a totally logical way of thinking, especially during the Christmas season. All the great movies this time of year have characters wondering what is the purpose of it all and remembering truly how amazing their life actually is. 

So today on the podcast, I am reminding you about the truths that REALLY matter, showing you how your life is already so amazing and you probably just need a little perspective to realize this is the truth only when you believe it is. This is the episode for any of you also wondering if you're on the right path if you feel like you've made too many mistakes and you'll never get what you want out of life. I promise you will feel so good after this one. Like and share it if you agree. 

2022 has been my best year yet. And this didn't happen by chance. And that doesn't mean I went through a lot of hard and difficult things. It was my best year yet BECAUSE of the thoughts I chose despite it all. And I want to share those thoughts with you. 

Today on the podcast, I show how you can do your own performance review of what you intentionally chose this year, how to accept it ALL and not compare yourself to others accomplishments, and truly how to appreciate all that you have done with your time. I do this all while also showing how my thoughts about myself and the life I was living were the reasons for all that I accomplished just as it is for you. This is the perfect way to wrap up on your goals, see how amazing you are, and look forward to what you want to do next year, not to be better, but to simply have the life you want.

I can help you make 2023 your best year yet as 2022 was mine. Coaching has made all the difference in everything I have accomplished and if you want to accomplish amazing things, a coach is exactly what you need!

IT'S BACK! Finals week is already approaching and I can already hear what you're going to tell me. I'm so busy, I gotta catch up, there's no way I'm going to pass this, this is way too hard, etc. And I'm here to help you navigate through all of that without the typical stress, overwhelm, and even fatigue if you're ready to listen up. 

Today on the podcast, I discuss 3 strategies to overcome overwhelm, worry, and guilt when it comes to studying for finals. The biggest takeaway is that you are supposed to have these feelings and that these negative emotions are the very reason why the class you are taking and the grade you desire at the end of all this effort has WORTH. 

Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday! I love the focus on great food and family, but most of all, gratitude. Gratitude for family, friends, the opportunities we have been given to have an education, our career, our dreams, and all that is going right in our life. 

But today on the podcast, I wanted to focus on thanking something we tend to avoid thinking positively of: our past self. Because your past self was you! Meaning the choices your past self made have brought you exactly where you are today. There is power in choosing to thank yourself for all your hard choices, even those you aren't proud of or want to be different in the future. Because when we thank ourselves, we increase the love we have for ourselves and thereby are more willing to put ourselves out there, to do the uncomfortable, because we are truly comfortable with ourselves. And know that nothing can stop us. Life is going exactly as it's supposed to. 

Today on the podcast, I interview my coach, Jennie the LDS mission coach, all about how to best prepare for the mission and how to help missionaries currently serving who are feeling like they aren't good enough. We discuss how vital it is to observe our thinking, how to approach difficult emotions, how to accept ourselves no matter how feel about ourselves, and how the peace we desire isn't found in control or "success", but in trusting ourselves and believing we have power knowing we don't have to believe everything that you think.

If you are thinking about a mission, preparing for it, worrying about it, or if you’re currently serving or even know someone who is, this episode should be a requirement to listen to! You will not regret listening to this.

Jennie is an outstanding life coach dedicated to helping preparing, currently serving, and return missionaries find the fulfillment and peace that is available within. You can find her and get more help in the links below.

This is the episode for all of you who have come from a mission, whether that was 3 months ago or 3 years ago. This is for you who feel like things are harder than ever, that you don't know what your purpose is after the mission, and you want to feel as good as you used to. Trust me, I have been you and there is a way out.

Today on the podcast, I talk about all things being a return missionary. How to face the awkward, how to rediscover your new purpose after, how to offer yourself grace, and to accept that it is okay to be feeling exactly the way you do, meaning NOTHING is wrong with you. It's so easy to get stuck in thinking you'll never feel as good as you did then. Believe me when I say that's just a story you're telling yourself.

This year's Halloween episode focuses on one of the scariest concepts out there: scarcity. We as human beings understand needs and recognize that they need to be fulfilled. And so it's easy for us to see when we are lacking these needs like money, time, relationships, knowledge, skill, etc. Yet so often we think scarcity is just a truth. What we see around us is the truth, when this is far from the case.  And this matters because the FOCUS of your life has everything to do with how your life turns out.

Today on the podcast, you will learn how to overcome this scarcity mindset and understand that the REALLY scary thing to do is to believe in abundance and actually do what you are telling yourself you can't do. The truth is that scarcity covers up the fact that we really just don't want to do whatever we are stuck on by convincing us the truth is we aren't good enough or the circumstances don't permit it. Listen to learn how to NOT fall in this trap. 

I think we all understand in life that we are going to fail at one time or another. What we don't usually think about is how the way we treat ourselves IN failure determines whether our life IS a failure or a SUCCESS!

Today on the podcast, I'm talking all things failure, how we make our failures mean that WE are a failure, how this label ultimately creates the very thing we are trying to avoid, and what the solution is to helping us not label ourselves as failures, even when we think have messed up and should feel bad. I promise this is an episode for all you who think you've screwed up too much, who think they've disappointed their parents far too much, who have failed a class or out of college, who they think should have been married or should have kids or farther in their career and their still not, this is EXACTLY for you. 

You don't have to think you're a failure in college! This masterclass is designed to show you how to learn from failure and never let that stop you from reaching your goals in life and especially not stop you from believing in yourself. You don't want to miss this!

Unstoppable. That is the song I finished 29029 to. And I think it sums up how it literally changed my life. Because I showed myself that I am truly unstoppable, IF I don't stop myself. It is only us who can stop us from believing that we belong, that we matter, and that we can do it.

Today on the podcast, I wrap up my feelings about 29029 and dive into how I redefined how I see myself with this event, how the power of relentless positivity carried me through, and how we are ultimately the ones who decide if we are capable or not, not the world or people around us.