Career Confidence for First and Second Generation Immigrants
By Sonia Ortiz
Career Confidence for First and Second Generation ImmigrantsJan 06, 2021
How To Navigate Social Media Envy
No matter what age, social status or spiritual advancement level, you may feel envy when browsing through social media. In this episode I share: 1) How I define envy. 2) How to catch it even when it doesn’t get to your conscious brain right away. 3) The two (false) premises that hide behind envy. 4) The link between capitalism and certain kinds of posts on social media. For more information, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/40
Why I'm Loving the Wheel Of Awareness Practice by Dr. Dan Siegel
The Wheel of Awareness practice was created by Dr. Dan Siegel to increase integration in the brain. In the last 10 days I decided to do this practice as part of a new morning routine I'm testing to see if I can prevent some of the symptoms from seasonal depression, now the days are getting shorter and we're heading into winter here in Montreal. I'm happy to report that the benefits of this guided visualization GREATLY outweigh the costs of having to wake up earlier and sit down for 30 minutes with my mind and body. For more information, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/39
3 Lessons From Not Podcasting In 3 Months
After a few months of taking things easy and going quiet, I’m happy to share a new podcast episode where I talk all about the three lessons from going quiet for a few months.
In this episode, I share my experiences with:
- When slowing down seems harder than quitting (and my hypothesis of why that is)
- What I learned from sitting with the shame of “not producing enough”.
- What to do if your “cognitive tools” (like journaling or repeating affirmations) aren’t working as well as they have in the past
- Why I have been feeling ambivalent towards the world of personal development in general
I also share two exciting events that I’m participating on this week. For all the information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/38
Creativity and Mindfulness Tips with Iliana Bohème of Explorando Ideas
Iliana is a fellow Venezuelan Canadian podcaster and creativity coach. In this conversation, we discuss:
- How she came up with the concept of her podcast: Explorando Ideas
- How she overcame the classic limiting belief of “I’m not a creative person”!
- The “muse” and other creativity myths
- Her personal experience with ADHD and dyslexia
- Her top mindfulness tips to be more creative - and enjoy the process of creation more.
For show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/37
The Enoughness Date
If no matter how many things you cross off your to do list, your brain is still trying to convince you that you're not productive enough, this tool may help. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/36.
Thoughts on Grief
I've been recently going through an experience of grief. In this unscripted episode I share some things that have been helping me process this experience and why trying to be "as productive as usual" tends to backfire, and what you can do instead. For more information, visit: soniaortiz.com/35
Prestige vs. Independence Coaching
Have you been torn between two job options but you aren’t sure which one to choose? In this episode I share a recent coaching answer I gave to a Redditor looking for career advice on whether they should stay in their startup job with lots of independence, or go the prestige of a Fortune 500 company. For more information, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/34
Living the Immigreat Life with Biodun Dapherede
Do you come from a communalist culture and find it hard to set boundaries? If this is you, you’re gonna love this conversation I had with Biodun Dapherede, the author and creator of the Immigreat Life blog.
Biodun shares her African + American immigrant lifestyle through her multidisciplinary content on Instagram, YouTube and her website.
In this episode we have a real talk about what it means to be an immigrant in 2021, and how to use our struggles as opportunities to up-level every aspect of our lives.
We also cover:
1️⃣ How she came up with the idea of the Immigreat Life.
2️⃣ Her tips for aspiring content creators who are trapped in their heads thinking of what to share (she’s had four blogs before this one!)
3️⃣ How to not take your bagage from your previous country into the new one and why you want to be mindful of this
4️⃣ Her personal experience on learning how to set boundaries around unsolicited parenting advice
To listen, go to soniaortiz.com/33.
Stop Arguing For Your Limitations
Do you spot yourself making excuses as to why you don’t have the results you want in your life, but you aren’t quite sure how to stop this habit? If this is you, this episode may help. I cover:
- How does arguing for your limitations looks like in your real life.
- What bass lessons has taught me about taking criticism from a clean place
- How to train yourself to not indulge in your excuses
- Two ways to handle when other people derail the conversation to defend themselves and argue for their limitations.
For more information, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/32
On Being Multipassionate
How do you get stuff done when you’re a multi-passionate? If your career doesn’t fit a neat box and you’ve been wanting to start a side project for years, chances are you’re a multipassionate human. Multipassionates often get a bad rap. We are told we’re “jacks of all trades, masters of none”, or that we’re flakey, or that we can’t focus. The good news is: all of these are optional thoughts that YOU don’t have to buy and believe, if they don’t serve you. The bad news is: I’d be lying if I told you that managing multiple businesses is easy breezy. It’s not.
In this episode I share the three skills to cultivate if you want to have multiple businesses related to your passion, how to stop thinking you *should* be able to focus on just one thing when it doesn’t serve you and what compromises you need to make when you’re multipassionate. For more information, visit https://soniaortiz.com/31
Conditional Mind Reading
Do you constantly try to understand why people act the way they act? While having empathy for fellow humans is amazing, this curiosity can turn into a relentless need to read other people’s minds and intentions, which becomes exhausting. In this episode I introduce a concept called “conditional mind reading” and why it’s important to notice where in your personal life and work life you’re engaging in these types of activities, so you can better understand what gives you anxiety and how to stop it. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/30
Embrace Your Own Leadership with Alyssa Santos (Guest Episode)
Alyssa Santos is a restorative coach and the owner of Little Cosmea, an online shop specialized in small batch, hand-crafted floral arrangements. She is also the daughter of 2 first-generation Mexican Americans, and a first-generation college graduate. In this episode we talk about the origins of her coaching practice, why she chose the topic of decolonized leadership as her main focus, and how her floral arrangement business was an integral part of her healing journey. For show notes, links and more information, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/29.
FAQ: How To Deal With A Bad Boss
Bad bosses can influence the type of experience you have at work. In this episode, I share 3 ideas on how to deal with a bad boss or a client. You will also learn why you need to get more specific with the kind of "bad" we're talking about, what to do with a boss that is overly critical and never validates you, and how to overcome the fear of being assertive towards people we perceive to be in positions of power. For show notes and information: https://soniaortiz.com/28.
Difference between thoughts and feelings (+ worksheet)
Many people say things like “I feel this person was rude” but “rude” isn’t a feeling per se. Understanding your emotional life and even these small semantic differences between thoughts and feelings will help you understand yourself deeper, better and achieve any goal whether that is running your 5K, going after a promotion or starting a business. For show notes and worksheet, visit https://soniaortiz.com/27.
The Value of Belonging
Do you ever feel like you don’t fit in anywhere you go? As a 1.5 generation immigrant, this sense of always living in between borders, and cultures, and languages is one that has defined my life and has created a lot of feelings of "not belonging" throughout my life. This can feel emotionally uncomfortable and cause lots of anxiety and distress not only in our personal lives but also at work. In this episode I share one personal story from a period of my life where I felt the most out of place and like I didn't belong, some of the lessons learned, and how to manage the fear caused by not belonging. For show notes visit: https://soniaortiz.com/26.
Don't Delay Your Dreams With Heiddi Zalamar
Do you think your life will be better after you retire? Do you keep putting off dreams and goals for some imagined later date? In episode 25, I have a radically honest conversation with Heiddi Zalamar: a coach, therapist and mom entrepreneur living in NYC with whom I’ve been online friends for years. In this juicy episode she shares her experience being the daughter of immigrants in the U.S, and why seeing her mom die with so many unfulfilled dreams inspired her to help others start living the life they want NOW instead of waiting.
Make sure you listen until the end (you’re always welcome to use 1.5x speed if that’s your thing!) because in the last minutes I end up being coached HARD on something that’s been weighing on me for a while. For show notes and more information, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/25
Finding Your Career Calling
Do you get frustrated because everyone seems to have found their calling except for you? In this episode, I break down the question “how do I find my calling” in the style of a mindset coach. We examine what hides behind that question and how to re-frame the question so you get a better answer for yourself. For more information and show note, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/24
Mailbox Anxiety Coaching
Are you still looking for the perfect planner to make your days more productive? Do you think if you had a better calendaring system, your stress levels would decrease? In this episode, we do a coaching session with Natasha on the anxiety she feels about her mailbox at work. We uncover what hides behind her desire to get a brand new system for managing her emails, and how to clear her thinking so she can feel more calm and in control of her mailbox and work life. For more information and show notes visit https://soniaortiz.com/23.
How To Process Emotions
Do you tend to stay stuck in a negative emotion for days or even weeks? If your emotional waves tend to last for a bit too long, chances are you are resisting your emotions. Learning to process your emotions and sit with them is the best skill you can learn for yourself, because once you start becoming friends with your fear, your anxiety, your doubt, there’s no life or career goal you will not be able to achieve and this episode teaches you to do just that. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/22.
You and Your Past
Does the idea of that “the past is doomed to repeat itself” scare you? Many of us have unconscious thoughts about the past that aren’t too far from that idea. In episode 21 You And Your Past I give you examples on how to manage your mind when it comes to past experiences – good and bad - so you can feel less trapped by your past and more free in the present. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/21.
Mindset, Money And Mastery With Vanessa Leung
Do you use work as a way to escape your life? This is the experience that Vanessa had to go through in order to realize that she needed to put her self-care and health first. Since making that one decision, she’s been up-levelling her habits, her relationships and her income at every stage of the process. She also shares why she decided to quit a high paying design job to go all in as a life coach and how her background as a Chinese Canadian shaped her money mindset in great ways - and not so good ways. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/20
Do you wonder if you have what it takes to run a business? In this episode I share 3 big lessons I've learned about business, money and the drive to create something new in this world. I also share 4 questions to help you reveal the state of your money mindset, how to find your unique business motivation, and why women, immigrants and people with other marginalized identities need to double down on mindset work and self-belief when it comes to business building. For show notes and more information, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/19.
How To Deal With Difficult People
Do you have people in your life that you consider difficult? Maybe the reason why you want to change jobs has to do less with the tasks you do, but more with the types of people that are in your team. Even if you change your environment, people are always gonna be there, and the need to manage our minds around them never stops. This episode will give you a fresh perspective on why we perceive people as being difficult, and how to develop your own boundaries and preferences with regards to others in a way that serves you. For more information, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/18
Do You Need A Coach?
Have you been thinking of getting a coach? This episode will help you consider different factors when it comes to hiring a coach. From the different types of coaching (action based, accountability based or mindset based) to the different types of coaching format that exist today (1 on 1, group or courses), this episode will help you make the best decision for yourself. For more information, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/17
The Consulting Lifestyle Chose Diogène Ntirandekura
Do you think you need to have a crystal clear plan before you start making changes in your career? In this episode, Diogène Ntirandekura tells the story of how he ended up becoming a successful SAP consultant almost by accident, just from knowing that he wanted to have a career that involved travel and sales. We also talk about his immigrant experience as being the product of three countries, and why he chose to change some limiting beliefs he had around assertiveness and negotiation skills. For more information and relevant links, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/16
Do you take forever to take action because you keep preparing and planning for every possible scenario? You may struggle with perfectionism paralysis. Good news: this isn’t a disease, it’s just a habit of thinking that can be changed, if you want to. Listen to this episode to learn the 3 most common things that hide behind perfectionism and the one thought that I’ve been using recently to take consistent action (such as booking my driving test even when I didn’t feel one bit like it). For more information, visit: soniaortiz.com/15
Lessons From A 10K+ Month
Do you wonder if it’s possible to earn money doing something you love? In this episode I share the story of hitting the first 10K + month in a vinyl record shop I run with my husband and the 3 lessons I learned about money from this experience. If you’re a creative or an artsy person who believes you need to become someone else, or change yourself to be successful, or if you cringe at the idea of people sharing how much money they make, this episode is for you. For more information, visit soniaortiz.com/14
How To Figure Out What You Want
Should you change career paths? Should you start a business? What business should you start? Figuring out what you want can feel exhausting and draining. This episode offers 4 methods to start answering that question for yourself, so you can move towards your goals instead of waiting for clarity to magically emerge. For more information and show notes, visit: soniaortiz.com/13
Do you worry that your life and career choices don’t fit a certain box? This episode is designed to give you ideas on 7 different life and career models. These may be different from what you currently have. You may fit in more than one of these models – or in none. That’s okay. This episode is meant to show you different possibilities, to remind yourself that only you get to choose however you want your life and work to be and feel like. For more information and show notes, visit: soniaortiz.com/12
Adopting and Dropping Labels
Ever wonder why we love things like astrology, personality types, attachment styles, and human design so much? This episode is all about the power of labels: how to use them wisely and why the act of naming something can be so transformative. For show notes, visit: soniaortiz.com/11.
How To Quit Your Job
Have you been telling yourself you should quit your job, but are not sure what’s stopping you? This episode will guide you through a 3-step process to coach yourself and discover what’s stopping you from making the move and how to get your thoughts, your words and your actions to match. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/10.
Loving Yourself When You Are Not Productive
Do you tend to judge yourself if your house isn’t clean, or if you don’t finish a work task, or if you procrastinate? When you base your own sense of self-confidence, self-worth and lovability on productivity, you’re often left feeling inadequate or incomplete, because your productivity levels may come and go. Learning how to love yourself unconditionally is exactly what I teach in this podcast episode. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/9.
Do you keep trying to multitask even though you know it's making you exhausted? This episode is all about cognitive bandwidth, which is the idea that we all have a limited mental space and capacity to process information at any given time. Listen to learn 3 simple strategies to start re-claiming your mental space and drop the multitasking today. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/8.
Living With Anxiety
Do you think you can be happy only if and when you free yourself from your anxiety? Although the idea of living anxiety-free sounds nice, it can feel impossible for those of us living with anxiety as a chronic condition. This episode will help you embrace the idea of living a full life with anxiety (not despite of it) while also providing some tools on how to manage it. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/7.
The 6 Skills For Authentic Career Confidence (pt. 2)
Do you feel like you need to reinvent your career, but you're not sure where to start? In this 2-part episode, I share the 6 skills you need to cultivate to have a successful career and business that not only gives you the money and security you want, but most importantly: a sense of purpose. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/6.
The 6 Skills For Authentic Career Confidence (pt. 1)
Do you feel like you need to reinvent your career, but you're not sure where to start? In this two-part episode, I share the 6 skills you need to cultivate to have a successful career and business that not only gives you the money and security you want, but most importantly: a sense of purpose. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/5.
Q&A: Finding A Career That Suits You
Do you believe that a dream career exists? Are you hoping to find work that suits your interests? In this episode I answer a question from a reader who asks how to find a career that fits your interest when there's so much information out there. I offer both a practical answer and a mindset answer that helps reveal why this question may be making this person spin out in confusion, and what to ask themselves instead. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/4
How To Think About Thinking
Have you started a mindfulness practices, like meditation or journaling, but your mind seems to be all over the place? This episode offers you 3 ways to think about thinking that is less exhausting than expecting to think pure positive thoughts all the time or to control every single one of your thoughts. For more info and show notes, please visit https://soniaortiz.com/3.
The Antidote to Career Confusion
Do you wonder where confusion comes from and how to stop indulging in it? This episode will help you get a new perspective on confusion and a practical tool to help you become more decisive in your life and career. For more info and show notes, please visit https://soniaortiz.com/2
Lessons From Quitting My Job
Do you think if you change or quit your job you will stop feeling so anxious all the time? That's what I thought too. In this episode I tell you my story, why I decided to do a podcast on the intersection of work stress and the immigrant identity, and how this podcast can help you if you're currently going through a career crisis. For more info and show notes, please visit: https://soniaortiz.com/1