Caron Talks

By Caron Leid

I started a podcast about Alzheimer's - the things they forget to tell you- My mother was diagnosed at the age of 57- and I had a child of my own, I immediately became part of the sandwich generation. I talk about about things that people don't want to talk about.
As time went by the Podcast evolved.
My mother passed away 20 years after being diagnosed with the disease. Two decades of my life was spent multi-tasking. In 2013, I became a single parent. I am not sure how I survived all that was thrown at me, but I did. In finding my way back to me- I discovered the importance of Self-love.

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Self Love What They forget to Tell you Episode 14

Caron Talks Jan 07, 2022

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01:24:51

Self Love What They forget to Tell you Episode 14

Sean and I are back talking about the new Omicron variant and the effects on mental health, as usual we are all over the place.... this one is a long one but a good one!!

Jan 07, 202201:24:51

Self Love What they forget to Tell you - Episode 13

Back with Sean talking about the random things as per usual, and talking about how to get through the holidays. (sorry this was late) but the episode didn't save, and fortunately it was recovered!!!

Jan 05, 202201:19:33

Self love What They forget you Episode 12

The talk continues about daylight savings time and seasonal affective depression... and of course other things Just because that is how these conversations go!

Dec 04, 202145:49

Self Love what they forget to tell you - episode 11

Today the talk continues on the importance of therapy. Sean talks about his huge career change. We also talk about left brain Automatic Negative Thoughts.

The brain is hard wired for patterns. It is important to be aware whether your brain is overusing one or more of them.

1 Mind Reading

2. Fortune telling

3. Catastrophizing

4. Negative Labeling/Filtering

5. Discounting Positives

6. Overgeneralizing

7. All or Nothing Thinking

8. Shoulds...

9, Personalizing

10. Blaming

11. Comparisons

12. Past Regret

13. What if?

14. Emotional Reasoning.

Nov 11, 202140:21

Self love what they forget to tell you - episode 10

Back with Sean talking about what helped him in his self awareness journey. The importance of seeking help prior to imploding. Becoming more proactive in your mental health journey and not awaiting a crisis situation in order to get assistance.

There is No ‘It’s Not Your Fault’ Moment – Progress Happens Gradually

Remember that great scene in “Good Will Hunting” where Robin Williams’ character hugs Will and tells him “It’s not your fault” until he breaks down and cries for the first time? After that, Will turns his life around and seems to instantly overcome his attachment disorder. The movie heavily implies he begins making use of his brilliance, stops bumming around with his friends as much and drives to California to get back together with his girlfriend.

It’s a great movie and that scene made me cry the first time I saw it. But there is no big eureka moment in therapy where you overcome your issues with one big cry. Therapy is more like a series of small breakthroughs.

I’ve had moments in therapy where I came to a huge realization and experienced a catharsis, but I didn’t immediately change my behavior and beliefs to the point where it wasn’t an issue anymore. I had to work on it outside of therapy and revisit the issue in my next session, something Will doesn’t do.

Therapy Does Not ‘Fix’ You Because You Are Not Broken

This is one of the areas where therapy and medical treatment vastly differ. With medical treatment, the best outcome is a cure where you eradicate the illness and ensure it doesn’t return. In therapy, this isn’t possible because mental illnesses, negative beliefs and maladaptive behaviors are not diseases.

“Therapy helps clients uncover strengths and learn new skills that will allow them to deal with the challenges that arise in life,” counselor “A successful therapy experience does not mean a client is cured, it means the person has the inner and outer resources to deal with the ups and downs of life.”

Oct 30, 202135:08

Self love what they forget to tell you - episode 9

The discussion continues, Sean has big news.... you have to listen to find out what big news he has to share with us!!

It's so amazing the transformation that has happened in less than a year for Sean.

Oct 30, 202101:04:30

Self Love What They Forget to Tell You - episode 8

Today we are talking about the importance of boundaries in relationships The definition of boundaries means anything that marks a border. It’s a real or imagined line that marks the edge or limit of something or the limit of a subject, principle or relationship. Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits. They are built out of a mix of conclusions, beliefs, opinions, attitudes, past experiences and social learning. Personal boundaries help to define an individual by outlining likes and dislikes and setting the distances one allows others to approach. Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and, really, a healthy life. Setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill.

Why Are Boundaries Important?

Healthy boundaries are necessary components for self-care. Without boundaries, we feel depleted, taken advantage of, taken for granted, or intruded upon. Whether it’s in work or in our personal relationships, poor boundaries may lead to resentment, hurt, anger, and burnout.

Boundaries help us take care of ourselves by giving us permission to say NO to things, to not take everything on. Boundaries draw a clear line around what is ok for us and what is not. While some behaviours clearly cross the line for almost anyone, we all have different comfort levels when it comes to everything from intimacy and privacy to lateness. When someone behaves in a way that doesn’t feel ok to us – that crosses our line, we need to take care of ourselves by letting them know and making that line much clearer.

UNHEALTHY Boundaries are characterized by:

Sharing too much too soon, or, at the other end of the spectrum, closing yourself off and not expressing your need and wants. Feeling responsible for others' happiness.

Weak sense of your own identity
You base how you feel about yourself on how others treat you
You allow others to make decisions for you: consequently, you feel powerless and do not take responsibility for you own life.

HEALTHY Boundaries allow an individual to:

Have high self-esteem and self respect
Share personal information gradually, in a mutually sharing and trusting relationship.
Protect physical and emotional space from intrusion
Be assertive
Separate your needs, thoughts, feelings, and desires from others

Setting boundaries isn’t always comfortable and people may push back if you say NO to some things or try communicating your needs more clearly. People may try to test your limits, to see how serious you are about drawing the line. Or they may be used to you responding in a certain way (agreeing to take on everything), and they may push back when you try to make some changes. That doesn’t mean that you’re doing something wrong. It may just mean that you need to be clear and consistent until people adjust to the new way of interacting.

“Your personal boundaries protect the inner core of your identity and your right to choices.”

– Gerard Manley Hopkins

Oct 30, 202153:52

Self Love What They Forget to Tell you - Episode 7

Sean and I are back, this podcast went on really long. The topic was why therapy is important

People typically seek help from a mental health expert when

facing a significant crisis
dealing with an extended period of anxiety or depression
coping with a major life transition
dealing with complicated family dynamics
grappling with problems in a relationship
trying to manage addiction or substance abuse
wanting to make changes for better mental and emotional health

Focused on communication, talk therapy allows you discuss concerns that range from stress management and relationship problems to depression and anxiety disorders.

Regardless of your reason, therapy offers a broad array of benefits for all of us.

In the case of individual therapy, the relationship between you and your therapist — which is fostered through talk therapy — is key to your success.

Individual therapy gives you a safe space to explore your thoughts, feelings, and concerns.

The goal of individual therapy is to inspire change and improve the quality of life through self-awareness and self-exploration.

Being in therapy can also:

help improve communication skills
help you feel empowered
empower you to develop fresh insights about your life
learn how to make healthier choices
develop coping strategies to manage distress

Oct 29, 202101:04:30

Self Love What they forget to tell you - episode 6

Back with Sean in this episode we talk about, dream jobs. What do you want to be when you grow up if you could have any career you wanted.

As easy as it sounds, most people can't answer this simple question. "If money wasn't an option, what would you want to be doing?"

Something to think about!!

Oct 29, 202155:36

Self Love What they forget to tell you Episode 5

Today Sean and I are talking about what many people are facing described as "Languishing" not feeling totally happy and not feeling sad.

How this pandemic has affected our mental health.

How has the pandemic affected your mental health? Let's talk about it

https://caronleid.blog/2021/05/03/the-neglected-middle-child-of-mental-health/comment-page-1/#comment-1075

Oct 29, 202149:23

Self Love What They Forget to Tell You- Episode 4

Episodes with music are only available on Spotify.

The card we pulled.. what would you tell your younger self? Interesting discussion that Sean and I had today, we went in, talked about so many things. These discussions are great to have, this podcast went on a bit longer than our usual, but the conversation was great!!

Aug 13, 202101:01:37

Self Love What They Forget to Tell You - Epsisode 3

I have two card decks of empowering questions, and we picked a card out of the deck and decided what to speak about. These podcasts are unscripted and unedited.

Take what resonates, and leave the rest!! xo

Aug 11, 202101:25:25

Self Love What They Forget to Tell You episode 2

Sean continues to talk about the "dark times" and what has led him to therapy and why it's important not to be proactive to seek help before it gets to that point of depression. These are unedited and unscripted, Hopefully soon we will do a Facebook Live!!

Jul 21, 202120:45

Self Love What They Forget to Tell You- The Introduction Episode 1

Sean came in for therapy, and now he is co-hosting these Self-love podcasts. Normalizing therapy, especially for men, who are sometimes more reluctant to getting help. We spend so much time on our exterior body, we will go to the gym, eat healthy, look after our skin and hair, but we don't ever think that we need to spend time on our interior mental health. Therapy is work, it's a committment, but it is so worth it. The transformation in Sean is unbelievable! He decided to make a change, I was just a great listener, and ask those hard questions. The book Self-Love What they forget you- is a thought provoking book, it is the work that I had to go, after my mom's passing, and is just an introduction to the journey of self-love any why it is so important. I am slowly working on the part 2 of that series. Thanks Sean for sharing!!! , can't wait for episode 2. As I say, maybe this can help someone and if it does, let us know!

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Jul 21, 202117:28

A Decade of Difference- Turning 50

Talking about the different decades and leading up to 50

Dec 07, 201933:02

A Decade of Difference - Bullying

Talking about the serious topic of bullying and cyber bullying

Nov 23, 201935:14

A Decade of Difference- Don Cherry & Jess Allen

Talking about Don Cherry And Jess Allen

Nov 23, 201940:24

A decade of difference Can you get over cheating?

Talking about relationships again and if you can get over cheating either emotional or physical

Nov 16, 201930:18

Talking about being Multi-racial

Talking about being multiracial and what that means

Nov 02, 201950:03

Is It Infidelity ?

A Decade of Difference - Is it Infedelity

A viewer who wanted to remain annonymous wanted our opinion on a situation that he is going through regarding a conversation where his friend referred to his finace as "it"

We want to thank the viewer for wanting us to discuss this

#decadeofdifference

Oct 26, 201943:07

KARMIC DEBT

Season 2 episode 2

Talking about this book- Many Lives, Many masters

This book was about a psychiatrist who had a patient that went under hypnosis and discovered she lived 96 lives and talks about karmic debt

Who knew that was a thing~~

Oct 26, 201926:38

A DECADE OF DIFFERENCE The beginning

This was the original concept, prior to doing the podcast about Alzheimer's disease. Random conversations with my cousin, that we typically have off camera- we are a decade apart, and have different opinions on topics. We decided to do a different spin on the podcast and talk about random subjects and our opinios on them.

Oct 14, 201936:20

Talking about my book Alzheimer's what they forget to tell you

An undedited, unscripted podcast about my mom who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease almost 19 years ago, at the age of 57 and how it is to live with the disease and raise a child of my own.
She is now in the end stages, still living with me, the honest reality of dementia and what it does to a person and a family.

Jul 22, 201934:59

Alzheimer's what they forget to tell you The holidays

An unedited unscripted podcast about living with my mom who has Alzheimer's disease going on 19 years, the day to day journey, being apart of the sandwich generation- me raising my own son

Jul 22, 201924:43

Alzheimer's what they forget to tell you End of life

An unscripted, unedited podcast today we talk about the holidays and birthdays and how it feels when you are caregiving for a loved one.

Jul 22, 201931:56

Alzheimer's what they forget to tell you Why Caregivers need a space

An unscripted unedited podcast about caregiving for my mom with Alzheimer's disease for going on 19 years with my cousin Cindy Nash- talking about her experiences with her dad, who also had Alzheimer's disease.

Jul 22, 201916:18

Alzheimer's what they forget to tell you Get your affairs in order

An unscripted, unedited podcast about caregiving for my mom who was diagnosed over 18 years ago. Today my cousin Cindy Nash talking about Power of Attorneys and Office of the Public Guardianship.

Jul 22, 201943:41