The Coach and The Therapist

"They ought to treat me better", "my house must be clean before I have guests", "I should eat better". We all have "should statements" in our lives, but are they really healthy for us to be thinking? In this episode, Vanessa and Jacob tackle the thought process that goes on in our heads when we think we ought to do something or be something else. Listen in to learn the why, the what, and the how of changing your outlook on your responsibilities.  Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

Everyone has wrestled with a problem and everyone has struggled with an issue before, but what's the difference? In this episode, Vanessa and Jacob define and expand on what it means to tackle our problems. Listen in to learn a new way to look at your challenges and take them on at a new angle.  Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

Most of us have heard the term "burnout" before, but not all of us understand how it happens. In this episode, Vanessa and Jacob talk about burnout, how it happens, and how to avoid it. Listen in to learn all the big and small things you can change to keep yourself running at your best, all the time.  Sign up for Vanessa's webinar here Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

Most of us have heard of FOMO, also known as the fear of missing out. In this episode, Vanessa and Jacob talk about how FOMO can be damaging to us or hold us back from success. Listen to learn how some of your "FOMO"s might not be serving you. One might say, "You won't want to MISS this episode!"  Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

All humans experience pain, but the question to ask yourself is this: Is this clean or dirty pain? What does this mean? Dirty pain is the narrative that we create to avoid, resist, or react to an emotion. Also known as unnecessary pain that we bring onto ourselves. Clean pain is the factual circumstance. Things can hurt, that is life. So, how do you keep your pain CLEAN? Listen and find out. Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

We all have our own mountains that we want to climb. Do you let fear of failures, the opinions of others, or your own thoughts get in the way of your climb? Today Vanessa and Jacob share some of the mountains they have climbed in their business endeavors, and some lessons they've learned along the way. Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

Do you know what you want to achieve, but find yourself waiting for motivation to strike? You might find yourself waiting a LONG time. Today Vanessa and Jacob talk all things motivation including where it comes from and what to do when you don't have it.  Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

When you enter a situation without being prepared, you can easily get overwhelmed. But it is also easy to get overwhelmed when you get stuck in a spiral of, "what ifs." In today's episode, Vanessa and Jacob discuss how you can be prepared for situations without always worrying about the worst.  Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

How do you respond when someone gives you feedback? Do you listen? Do you get defensive? In today's episode, Vanessa and Jacob discuss the differences between feedback and criticism, and how our thoughts play a massive role in how we respond to receiving either. Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

Do you spend all of your time outside of work complaining about work? Do you always find yourself answering, "one more email," right before bed? Do you feel that you don't have enough energy after work to spend time doing your hobbies? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you might be struggling to leave work at work. In today's episode, Vanessa and Jacob talk about why it's difficult to create a healthy work/life balance, and what you can do to leave your work (and work stress) at work.  Register for Vanessa's 4-day Virtual Workshop, "How to Have a Better Relationship with Yourself in 5 Steps." Learn more about therapy at the Covenant Family Solutions website.

When big emotions come up, how do you respond? Do you do everything in your power to avoid them or accept them as they are? In this episode, Vanessa and Jacob discuss how you can react to these high highs or low lows without getting lost in them.  Register for Vanessa's 4-day Virtual Workshop, "How to Have a Better Relationship with Yourself in 5 Steps." Learn more about therapy at the Covenant Family Solutions website.

What do you do when you find yourself falling back into old habits? How do you cope when your thoughts are telling you you now have to start all over? These are the questions that Vanessa and Jacob seek to answer in today's episode of the podcast. Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

Have you ever walked away from a conversation ashamed of how you handled it? You are not alone. In today's episode Vanessa and Jacob talk about how you can show up for yourself in difficult conversations. Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

It's January, so you know what that means. It's time to work out for three hours a day, lose 100 pounds, and write 10,000 words a day. January is a time for setting goals and new beginnings, but what happens when those lofty goals become overwhelming? In today's episode of the podcast, Vanessa and Jacob talk about all things new beginnings, including how you can enter the new year with realistic and achievable goals. Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

Asking for help is hard. We might be scared of admitting we need help or afraid that the other person will say no. In today's episode, Vanessa and Jacob talk about how to effectively ask for help. Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

We will do a lot to save ourselves from a fear of failure, success, or getting hurt. However, trying to avoid these fears often also stops us from achieving our goals. Vanessa and Jacob talk about all things self-sabotage in today's episode of The Coach & The Therapist.  Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

In today's episode, Vanessa and Jacob discuss how to hear what others have to say about you without taking it to heart. Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

Vanessa and Jacob talk about all of the ways that curiosity can add value to your life. They discuss how the book Multipliers by Liz Wiseman encourages curiosity, and how curiosity can help you strengthen the relationships and communication in your life.  Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

The holiday season is in full swing and with that comes high expectations, confusion, doubt, and shame. Vanessa and Jacob discuss these big feelings that come up around this time of year and what you can do to get through the season. Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

Gratitude has a lot of amazing benefits, but it can be hard to implement. Today Vanessa and Jacob talk about gratitude: what is it and how can we bring it into our lives? Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

In today's episode, Vanessa and Jacob break down all of the complicated emotions that come with becoming a new parent. What parenting advice should I take? What do I do if my spouse and I don't agree on how to raise kids? They answer these questions and more in the episode. Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

In today's episode, Vanessa and Jacob talk about all things relationships. How do you make requests of your partner, and what do you do if they aren't met? They answer that and more in the episode. Check out an I-Statements Worksheet that can help with communication in your relationship. Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching on her website. Contact us with your feedback and topic ideas at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com

It is spooky season, and what is scarier than not being your genuine self in an attempt to get others to like you? In today's episode, Vanessa and Jacob tackle a costume we all wear from time to time: people-pleasing. What is people-pleasing, how can we recognize these behaviors within ourselves, and how can we reduce these behaviors in our life? Learn all that and more in Vanessa and Jacob's discussion about people-pleasing. Get in touch with us about your thoughts on the episode or ideas for future episodes at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com. Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching at vanessachristenson.com/life-coaching and learn more about Jacob at covenantfamilysolutions.com.

In the spookiest month of the year, Jacob and Vanessa tackle fear. When is fear necessary and when is it only standing in our way? How can we tackle fear when it's keeping us from our goals?  Learn more about life coaching at Vanessa's website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com.

Vanessa and Jacob continue their discussion on overeating by talking about what is happening in our bodies that causes us to overeat and what we can do to combat overeating. Learn more about life coaching at Vanessa's website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com.

Why do we overeat? For many of us, overeating helps us to numb difficult emotions (whether it be boredom, anger, loneliness, etc.). In today's episode, Vanessa and Jacob discuss why we overeat and some of the ways that we can bring awareness to and overcome our habit to overeat. Learn more about life coaching at Vanessa's website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com.

Vanessa and Jacob talk about embarrassment including times they have experienced embarrassment, how we typically respond, and how we can handle embarrassment in the future.  Learn more about life coaching at Vanessa's website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com.

In today's episode, Vanessa and Jacob talk about stew...or at least how stew can be used as a metaphor for when we focus on the negative aspects of life.  Learn more about life coaching at Vanessa's website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com.

People often talk about boundaries, but what are they actually? How can we set effective boundaries within our relationships? Vanessa and Jacob seek to answer these questions in their episode on boundaries. Learn more about life coaching at Vanessa's website. Learn more about therapy at Covenant Family Solutions. Contact us at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com.

Jacob and Vanessa discuss habits. How are they created, how do they impact you, and how can you change them? Learn more about life coaching at Vanessa's website. Check out self-help courses through StrengthenU. Contact us at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com.

In their episode on failure, Vanessa and Jacob discuss what failure is, different ways to view failure, and how to move forward when failure occurs. Learn more about life coaching at Vanessa's website. Check out self-help courses through StrengthenU. Contact us at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com.

Vanessa and Jacob discuss goals; why are they important and how do we effectively set them? Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching at https://vanessachristenson.com/life-coaching/ Check out self-help courses at https://selfhelp.strengthenu.com/ Contact us at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com.

What is resentment and what happens when you hold onto it? Vanessa and Jacob attempt to answer this question and more in their episode on resentment. Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching at https://vanessachristenson.com/. Check out self-help courses at https://selfhelp.strengthenu.com/. Contact us at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com.

In this episode Vanessa and Jacob tackle behaviors. What causes them and how can we change them?  Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching at https://vanessachristenson.com/. Check out self-help courses at https://selfhelp.strengthenu.com/. Contact us at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com.

In this episode Vanessa and Jacob tackle emotions. Where do they come from and what do you do with them?  Learn more about Vanessa's life coaching at https://vanessachristenson.com/.  Check out the self-help courses at https://selfhelp.strengthenu.com/. Contact us at thecoachandthetherapist@gmail.com.

In their second episode, Vanessa and Jacob talk about how life coaches and therapists perceive thoughts. They discuss how thoughts can cause emotions and lead to specific actions, and how they would each work with someone experiencing overbearing thoughts.

In their first episode, Vanessa and Jacob share their stories about how they began working with mental health. They also talk about some of the ways that life coaching and therapy overlap, and some of the ways that they differ.