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The Coaches Way With S & J

The Coaches Way With S & J

By Shahab Nilgiri

Welcome to my podcast, The Coaches Way With S & J (Shahab/Jon) I'm an aspiring Life/Personal Development Coach, and this podcast is going to be about becoming the best version of yourself in ALL areas of life, not just 1 area. Along with myself, Jonathan Thomas does the podcast and gives his insight We talk about -Stress management -Investing within yourself -Your condition vs your decisions -Spiritual health -Mental health -Getting yourself in the best physical health of your life -And many more! My coaching business is MAD... Mentality Adaption Discipline
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Ep 15: Finding Equilibrium/Balance In Life

The Coaches Way With S & JFeb 10, 2019

Ep 19: NLP 6 Step Reframe System

Ep 19: NLP 6 Step Reframe System

NLP is a great way to instill more positive change within your life, in various areas. 

One of the ways is the 6 step re-frame. 

What I love about this episode, is that it's great for your car ride if you want to listen to something informative, inspirational, and practical. It's just under 20 minutes, and we list out all 6 steps. 

1st step starts at 3:12, then we go into detail for everything else

A list of the 6 steps. 

1. What do you want?

2. What behaviour is getting in the way of what you actually want?

3. What is the positive intention behind that behaviour? (the one that's getting in the way)

4. What are 3 other behaviours that would accomplish that positive intention from the previous question??

5. Are you willing to take these new actions instead of your previous behaviour routine? 

6. Is there any part of you that would object to taking these actions??

Jun 06, 201919:60
Ep 18: Confidence Building For Building The The Best You

Ep 18: Confidence Building For Building The The Best You

Confidence is a big thing, especially in todays crazy world. 

So what do you do?? How do you build it? Is there ONE magic thing you can do, and it automatically comes?

Not really...

But we talk about habits, action steps, state of mind, and al things that have a part to play in you becoming a BETTER you. 


:25 - Radio Maria

3:00 - Confidence for men and women

3:20 - MoMonday (motivational mondays)

5:07 - What does confidence mean to you? What it means to me. 

6:45 - Jon’s take on confidence

7:25 - My MoMonday talk topic on having fun, despite of fear being present

10:25 - Jon’s NLP talk

11:40 - Small steps, for example - doing video is scary, but it’s a small step in the right direction. 

12:50 - Pitfall feeling in stomach

16:00 - The more you do something, the more you realize that the earth is still spinning, there are worst care scenarios. Your confidence is more a state of mind, and everything around you is still going on, it’s still happening. 

19:00 - Situations that bring you down. Each different situation requires the same approach mentally, BUT require different action steps.

25:15 - Asking what you think of when you hear the term Alpha Male. Negative connotations.  

28:10 Confidence in general, but other areas may be iffy. - Connect with the internal stream, and let out the joy. 

32:45 - Liquid Courage

37:30 - Ask yourself are all areas of life where they want them to be. 

May 19, 201945:22
Ep 17: Male & Female Energies, & How We Intertwine The Two

Ep 17: Male & Female Energies, & How We Intertwine The Two

Jon & I dive into the concept of male and female energies. We all have the, but we just use them at different times depending on the situation. 

There might have been times where you've been more aggressive than your partner, or you've been more calmer.

There may have been times where you've had this great vision, and you followed through no matter what. 

These are all examples of the different energies at play. 

I'll leave them time stamps here. 

If you have resonated with some of the things said, then please share this with the people you know :)

P.S. There were some technical difficulties, but it was all good!


:53 - What do people think when they hear masculine and feminine energy

3:35 - What’s your balance??

4:42 - Masculine energy - what is it?

6:15 - Female energy

8 - Back to balance

15 - Mine and Jon’s side

16 - Not a matter of “having” it, but it’s just

using it, and when you use it

18 - Self audit

20 - Partners wanting a certain “energy” to come out a bit more

29 - Got both energies, here’s how you know

Apr 29, 201933:08
Ep 16: We Talking SPACE!

Ep 16: We Talking SPACE!

Jon and I go into SPACE BABY! 

True, we don't directly talk about coaching, but it does have it's part to play within the whole space realm, and you'll see that within the podcast. 

With TRILLIONS of stars and what not, space is huge, like absolutely huge. it's no wonder that your head might hurt if you start thinking about it too much! 

Have a listen, and enjoy getting lost in thought :)


2:00 - Space, and the existential properties of it. It’s vastness, and what it means to you. 

3:40 - We are small, literally

6:15 - Hubble poignant that telescope

9:00 - Our galaxy alone - 20 billion

11:35 - Picture this in your head

16:00 - Blow someones mind

21: You choose what you believe in

26: Distraction

Mar 05, 201936:30
Ep 15: Finding Equilibrium/Balance In Life
Feb 10, 201950:47
Ep 14: Spiral Dynamics - Which Colour Are You??

Ep 14: Spiral Dynamics - Which Colour Are You??

You can check out Jon's blog post about spiral dynamics here:

Basically put, SD is the study of understanding human nature. There are many models, this just happens to be one of them. 

There are 7-8 different levels, and each one falls under a category of traits. 

I've listed the colours in the timestamps below. 

This is interesting, because in your life and the many relationships that play a role, each one of you is a different "colour". 

How you interact with one another depends on what your "colour" is. 

Have a listen, enjoy, and share with people who you know will get use out of this!


3:00 - Model of how to understand human behaviour

4:40 - Different colours/levels

6:05 - First Level

8:40 - Second level

10:15 - Red

15:50 - Blue

21:20 - Orange

27:30 - Jon makes fun of my for taking 2-3 minute showers

29:35 - Green

33:20 - Yellow

Jan 09, 201954:41
Ep 13: Take Control Of Your Thoughts Ft. Tedx Speaker Anthony Cheam

Ep 13: Take Control Of Your Thoughts Ft. Tedx Speaker Anthony Cheam

This one's a beauty.

Anthony and I dive deep into your thought patterns, how it actually affects your day to day, and what you can do to BREAK the pattern if it doesn't serve you.  

At the end of the day, if it doesn't serve us, then why have it as part of our routine?   

For example. We briefly mention about looking at your phone the first thing in the morning. What if we were to ask, why?  

-We speak about meditations, and how you can apply that in different ways.  

-We speak about the importance of starting your day off right. Have a morning routine, and set your physiology up for a winning day.  

-We talk about living our your purpose, finding out what drives you.  

-We speak about your energy, taking care of your body. Without health, there is nothing  

-Having a conversation with your ego. If you sit back and actually have a conversation with it, you'll find out how odd it sounds.  

-Many more things!  

Have a listen! 

Share, comment, and spread the love!  

You can check out Anthony's website here:

Dec 24, 201836:08
Episode 12: New Years Resolutions. Are You Making/Keeping Them The Right Way?

Episode 12: New Years Resolutions. Are You Making/Keeping Them The Right Way?

The new year is upon us, and this is the time where resolutions happen and people tend to either keep them, or fall off.

Right off the bat, we know that you don't HAVE to wait until this time to year to come up with resolutions.

Btw, I'll put in the timestamps when my loud and hearty laugh happens, just incase you just want to listen to that... Lol

We look into different things....
-What makes a good resolution
-Why people stick with it, or fall off
-How you should go about creating these resolutions
-Doing a self audit
-The mind, and it's part to play in your world

That being said, we know you'll enjoy the podcast and it'll change your perspective on this whole new years resolutions extravaganza.

Visit for your free e-book, and blogs about life topics that you may have thought about, or been curious about.

:50 - Don’t have to wait until New Years

1:20 - Resolution you can stick with

4:20 - Addressing something in life that I wanna change, how do I go about doing that??

8:24 - My crazy laugh / audit of your life

11:10 - Make your mind your b****

12:00 Affirmations / cue cards

16:00 - LOF - Does it work?? (Law of attraction)

20:00 - Going over a resolution / barriers we put up/ self sabotage

30:00- Intentions / trust / weather. Are you going to let it get to you?

32:20 - Eat your feelings / Mindset/ LAUGH!! :)

40:00- There’s no way around it, it’s hard work and dedication.
Sometimes it’s not fair - the way things work.

45:00 - When you start to eat right, and have good gut bacteria, your body reacts differently to other foods you haven’t had in a while (pasta, subway, fast food, etc…)

Change your normal, to feeling optimal. And this goes for life goals as well. You should feel great about your body, mind, life, soul.

48:10 - Kraft dinner. We all have our moments. Melissa getting cinnamon rolls.

50:00 - Podcast cut off, and we started up again!

When we have days where we feel “off”, then that’s okay. No one is going to feel great all the time, but it’s about the overall.

Well aligned with what you want.

Congruent with your value system.

54: - Doubling financial income
People not appreciating where you’ve gone in your life, or where you’re going.

59:50 - Jon totally spacing out towards the end. Listen to this, cuz it’s unexpected, and I laugh like crazy.
Dec 17, 201801:01:08
Ep 11: Anxiety In It's Different Forms. How Do You Best Deal With It?

Ep 11: Anxiety In It's Different Forms. How Do You Best Deal With It?

This is a great one for in the car on the way to work, an event, anywhere really! If something is giving you anxiety, then this is the podcast for you.

Jon and I go into the possible reasons as to
-why one may go through anxious periods
-your language behind the anxiety
-the stories that you are accustomed to, that may cause/lessen anxiety
-your words, emotions, and how they tie in together
-why being on the "go" isn't always the answer
-living within a certain environment

If any of these ring some kind of a bell, then you might get some helpful insights from this episode.

For more information on topics pertaining to confidence, habits, exercise, and life, visit our websites.




0-3 min - Toastmasters

5:15 - Let the thoughts be. The most you try to fight it, the more power it gets

7:00 - Getting situationally depressed

8:10 - Putting words to emotion, and that becomes how we project ourselves to the world

16:45 - Anxious about everything. What are the options? Write things down, get a therapist (to help with past), get a coach (to help you moving forward), embrace current situation

22:00 - “Have” implying that your anxiety is you, and this is who you are. Which then also implies that you need to get RID of it.
You want these emotions to come through when it’s acceptable.

What if fear left? We just want to replace them with something better. There’s a time and place for different emotions.

29:00 - Living within an environment that’s not 100% positive. Changing the frame.

34:00 - Stressful situations. The possible solutions

44:20 - People always constantly on the go to almost distract themselves from whatever is going on currently

Social media scrolling - Not always the full picture
Dec 03, 201859:07
Ep 10: Vulnerability In Relationships / Physiology Of Stress

Ep 10: Vulnerability In Relationships / Physiology Of Stress

As mentioned in the beginning, Jon and I speak about vulnerability, although that comes a bit later in the episode since we got side tracked with the isolation tank, the relaxation and what that does to your body, and also how that goes into HOW you think.

Then we actually go into being vulnerable, vulnerability in relationships, and how it's NOT a sign of weakness to show it!

So... We discuss a few things in this one :)

Share and show some love! :)

Nov 22, 201859:02
Ep 9: What Drives People To Change? What Drives YOU?

Ep 9: What Drives People To Change? What Drives YOU?

Here we are again! This time Jon and I are going into change, what drives people to change, and what helps them stick to it.

Both of us have had our bouts with change, we will continue to have to face changes in the future.

Everyone can listen in and take something out of this podcast!


:45 strong stimulus

8:10 - Going through some pain now, so you can reap the benefit of becoming that better version of yourself

10:40- What else will stimulate you for change?

13:00- Self sabotage

14:05- My personal story of change

19:35 - Listening to yourself, you learn more / Jons story

28:00- Actually going through with change

34:00- Leverage mindset

41:00- Is your life, and your wants congruent with each other?

46:00 Inner changes

48:10 Dickens pattern

Oct 17, 201801:01:47
Ep 8: Need For Certainty, And Why It Can Make You, Or Break You Ft Jon Thomas

Ep 8: Need For Certainty, And Why It Can Make You, Or Break You Ft Jon Thomas

Jon and I talk about certainty, and uncertainty, and how these needs basically drive EVERYTHING we do in our daily lives. From relationships, to personal choices, the need for certainty is a vast array of things that can bring out both negative, and positive outcomes.


:35 - slight annoyance, but not a big deal

1:22 - bigger scale, uncertainty

3:50 uncertainty in relationships - response

5:30 - base amount of control

9:15 uncertainty in your finances

12:10 Cigarettes - another certainty tool

16:30 - Religion for certainty, but the other side of it too

20:39 - External sources for certainty (smoke, drink, etc…)

26:00 - Deep breathing

32:00 - Certainty/Uncertainty in relationships

44:00 - Don’t be that guy who thinks he knows everything

Please comment and share if this has given you value :)
Oct 15, 201849:40
Ep 7: Meditation, And Why You Should Consider It

Ep 7: Meditation, And Why You Should Consider It

Jon and I dive deep into what meditation really is, and why you should implement it into your daily life. It's a great practice, once you get a little comfortable with it. We mention the mental, physical, and physiological benefits of such a simple thing --> Sitting and breathing, who would've thought? Shownotes: 1:45 - Our personal experience with meditation 4:15 - Jon talks about float tanks and his experience in them 8:20 - Alone with your thoughts in your mind in the tank 14:40 my personal meditation routine 15:03 - Talk about using waves 20:30 - Everyone is stressed, why you need to calm your mind 23:50 - Telling people to give it a shot 24:10 - Jon goes about it a different way 25:54: Concentration, clarity, equanimity 29:55: Getting lost in the hustle 38:20 - You gotta empty out your head 45:20 - You HAVE at least 5 minutes 46:00 - Reviewing everything 52:30 - Wim hof method
Oct 04, 201858:20
Ep 6: Perfectionism, And How To Deal With It

Ep 6: Perfectionism, And How To Deal With It

It's normal to want to be perfect, and get everything right.

But is it an advantage to you, or is it becoming detrimental?

Jon and I dive into what perfectionism is, our own experiences with it, and how stepping back a bit can help you get to the things you want.

Both Jon and I have had that "perfect" image in our minds when it came to our bodies, until we all of a sudden realized, why stress so much about this? Why not just do the best you can, and keep going about it that way?

We hope you enjoy listening in, whether it be in the car, or at home while cleaning up the kitchen.
Sep 25, 201850:46
Episode 5: NLP, Mindset Despite Negativity, Ways Of Coaching

Episode 5: NLP, Mindset Despite Negativity, Ways Of Coaching

In this episode, Jon and I discuss what NLP is, how it can benefit us coaches to help out our clients (you!), and why something so simple can be so beneficial.

We also go over having a type of mindset that helps you do the things that your environment doesn't necessarily see as "safe" (like starting a business)

There is also discussion on ways of coaching other than NLP, and the benefits of it, and how even the most successful people in the world have coaches, and for a good reason too.

Sep 17, 201834:16
Ep 4: Dealing w/ Back 2 School Stress w/ Jon Thomas

Ep 4: Dealing w/ Back 2 School Stress w/ Jon Thomas

Jon and I discuss ways parents can implement physical activities into their day during these back to school stressful times.

We talk about mindset, keeping it simple, your ultimate reason, and strategies to sneak in activity while your with your kids, or on your own.

Don't let your circumstances define how you will live day to day.

Hope you enjoy the listen!

We go through a recap at the 26:52 minute mark.
Sep 10, 201834:17
Sherapy With Shahab Episide 3: Conditions vs Decisions

Sherapy With Shahab Episide 3: Conditions vs Decisions

In today's society, we are bombarded with outside stimuli all the time. All this effects our internal and external conditions.

This knowledge is thanks to my coaching program that I've joined for my personal development - The Healthy Wealthy and Wise coaching program.

For more info, visit

In this episode, I go over 4 of the questions you need to ask yourself when it comes to making a decision. This goes for any situation.

-Who would you like to be?
-How would you like to respond?
-How would you like to feel?
-What would you like to do?

I go over how these conditions effect your mind.

Leave a comment, a like, or a share if any of the points resonated with you.
Jul 23, 201814:03
Sherapy With Shahab Episode 2 - Stress Management

Sherapy With Shahab Episode 2 - Stress Management

This is the 2nd podcast, and it's all about stress management. If your life is filled with some stress (and I think a lot of people can relate of this) then this podcast is for you :)
Jun 30, 201814:11
Sherapy With Shahab Episode 1 - Investing Within Yourself

Sherapy With Shahab Episode 1 - Investing Within Yourself

In this episode, I explain why investing within yourself is one of the best tools you can use for yourself, and for your future.
Jun 25, 201813:20