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Convergently Speaking

Convergently Speaking

By Dan Anear

Dan (relationship counsellor/husband) and Caitlin (personality enthusiast/wife) talk about improving your relationship with yourself and others using both their professional and personal experiences.
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Bowing Down at the Throne of Busy

Convergently SpeakingFeb 15, 2020

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How to Process Trauma in the Body - Interview with Trauma Therapist Addie Michlitsch
Jun 02, 202341:34
 The Gottman Method - Practical Ways to Increase Positivity in your Relationship
May 17, 202313:42
Positive vs Negative Sentiment in your Relationship - The Gottman Concept
May 11, 202320:03
Hacking your Nervous System with Line Silseth
Feb 10, 202353:20
Re-Release: Couples and Personality Types - Judger vs Perciever
Feb 01, 202318:21
Re-Release: Couples and Personality Types - Thinker and Feeler
Jan 25, 202318:15
Re-Release - Couples and Personailty Types: Sensors vs Intuitives
Jan 18, 202318:37
Re-release: Couples and Personality Types - Introvert vs Extrovert
Jan 11, 202323:03
Couple Matchup: ENFP and ISTP Kyle and Laura Friesen

Couple Matchup: ENFP and ISTP Kyle and Laura Friesen

We are SO excited to bring this episode to you.

This is an awesome conversation with Kyle and Laura Friesen, owners of Friesen Holistic Wellness in Manitoba, Canada. 

Kyle is a Life and Relationship Coach and Laura is a Neuromovement practioner and they are both well-versed in Myers-Briggs and cognitive functions. They share how this knowledge has helped their relationship, what hurdles they face as complete opposite types, how they actually have a lot of similarities, and how they have found ways to bring out the best in each other. They are an incredible example of a couple giving each other space to grow and change and allow that to improve and strengthen their relationship. 

We really enjoyed the chat, you will too!


Find Daniel at danielanear.com for more info and appointment bookings 

Jan 05, 202301:07:36
Rerelease: Why we Talk Past Each Other in Romance and Friendship
Dec 28, 202219:30
The Empowerment Dynamic - Drama Triangle Part 2
Dec 07, 202219:03
The Dreaded Drama Triangle - Part 1

The Dreaded Drama Triangle - Part 1

Do you find yourself stuck in relational dynamics that are just never-ending drama? You want to break out of it, but feel powerless to the pull of the drama and the familiar cycles.  On this episode we share a very simple and yet profound model to look at these dynamics called the Drama Triangle. You will hear:  - what is the Drama Triangle and how it shows up in popular culture, religious stories and our everyday lives and relationships. - explanation of the 3 roles in the triangle: the Victim, the Rescuer and the Persecutor.  - an example of how this can look in a family system  - how you might feel like you're playing one role but the other people in the dynamic see you as something else And don't miss part 2 next week when we cover the healthy flip side to the Drama Triangle - the Empowerment Dynamic.  Some more great info on the Drama Triangle:  https://www.mygrow.me/the-drama-triangle/ Find more info into Dan's practice HERE Book an appointment with Dan HERE Stay Curious!

Dec 01, 202219:07
Why you are Never Powerless in a Relationship
Nov 24, 202220:14
Revolutionize your Relationship using Personality Types
Nov 17, 202222:38
Will Having a Baby Save my Marriage?
Nov 09, 202215:54
Bad Deals in Relationships
Nov 03, 202220:03
Enneagram 101 with Heidi Wiese
Oct 26, 202230:13
Navigating Change as an IxxJ Couple
Oct 19, 202221:08
Stay Curious
Oct 12, 202217:30
Applying the Scientific Method to your Relationship

Applying the Scientific Method to your Relationship

Solo episode from Dan discussing the downfalls of using only logic and facts when working through relationship issues. 

Jun 26, 202216:56
The Gottman Method and How it Helps Couples Thrive - Interview with Psychologist Steve Wiese
Mar 10, 202201:00:20
Stonewalling In Relationships - Why it's Dangerous, How to Spot it and What to do About it (Gottman's Fourth Horseman of the Apocalypse)
Jan 11, 202214:11
Contempt in Relationships: The #1 Predictor of Divorce, but not a Relationship Death Sentence (Gottman's Third Horseman of the Apocalypse)

Contempt in Relationships: The #1 Predictor of Divorce, but not a Relationship Death Sentence (Gottman's Third Horseman of the Apocalypse)

This is our third episode in the series on the Gottman's "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" . Dan and Caitlin discuss contempt: what it looks like, what is behind it, and why it is the number one predictor of divorce. We also discuss what the antidote is - what you can do about it if you see it in your relationship, and how to avoid it in the first place. 

Find Dan:

Bookings and relationships counselling information: danielanear.com

Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking 

@danielrelationshipcounselling

Facebook: @convergentlyspeaking

@danielanearrelationshipcounselling



Nov 16, 202123:55
Defensiveness in Relationships: Why Does it Happen, Why is it so Bad and What can we do About it? (Gottman's second Horseman of the Apocalypse)

Defensiveness in Relationships: Why Does it Happen, Why is it so Bad and What can we do About it? (Gottman's second Horseman of the Apocalypse)

Dan and Caitlin discuss the second of the Gottman Institute's 4 Horsemen: Defensiveness.

Do you find in your relationship that whenever one of you bring up an issue, the other person gets immediately defensive and either shuts down or goes on the attack? This is a common issue, and one that can lead to much worse dynamics in the future if it's not addressed. The good news is, though, that there is an antidote and ways to change this pattern!

Listen for some great info and examples 

Oct 04, 202124:27
Criticism in relationships - What To Do About It (Gottman's first Horseman of the Apocalypse)
Sep 07, 202119:44
Archetypes with Garry Gilfoy
Aug 10, 202101:01:29
Navigating Life and Parenting as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)/ Empath/ Introvert with Naomi Harrington
Jun 08, 202155:55
Parenting for your Child's Personality Type with Sandra Etherington

Parenting for your Child's Personality Type with Sandra Etherington

Dan and Sandra from Family Personalities talk about how to discover your child's personality type and how that understanding can bring more empathy and harmony to your family system. Sandra works with families to go deep in their understanding of each other, and she also hosts a brilliant podcast! Highly recommend. Find her everywhere social media at @familypersonalities and familypersonalites.com


Sandra is the owner of Family Personalities and the host of the Family Personalities podcast, a fun show that uses personality type to help change the way you see your family. Sandra is a UCLA graduate, with certifications in MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) and MMTIC (Murphy-Meisgeier Type Indicator for Children). Sandra uses her experience and training in Myers-Briggs personality type, to work one on one with families, helping them parent more effectively and compassionately based on their children’s unique wiring and needs.


Find Dan:

Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking 

@danielrelationshipcounselling

Facebook: @convergentlyspeaking

@danielanearrelationshipcounselling

Bookings: danielanear.com


May 25, 202157:53
The Biggest Personality Difference a Couple Can Have with Dan and Caitlin
May 12, 202133:33
Life without Rules with Sarah Beale
Mar 31, 202101:08:28
Having a Better Relationship with Yourself with Samantha Mackay
Mar 16, 202101:20:08
Why we Talk Past Each Other in Romance and Friendship
Jan 30, 202119:30
Interview with Dan - Personality Psychology, Podcasting and Spiral Dynamics
Jan 08, 202145:10
When Smart People are Dumb

When Smart People are Dumb

A solo episode from Dan, exploring how intelligent people can get tripped up by being unaware of their emotions.
Find Dan:
Bookings (new website!!):
danielanear.com
Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking
@danielanearcounsellingcoaching
Facebook: @convergentlyspeaking
@danielanearcounsellingcoaching
Dec 11, 202013:16
Personality, Development, Non-Dualism, Self-Coaching (and more) with Dr Dario Nardi (Part 2)

Personality, Development, Non-Dualism, Self-Coaching (and more) with Dr Dario Nardi (Part 2)

Here we have for you a huge guest and a great chat! 

Dario Nardi, Ph.D. is a world renowned author,  researcher, speaker and expert in neuroscience, personality, and body-mind practices. He holds a Senior Lecturer position at University  of California (Los Angeles), where he won UCLA's Copenhaver Award for  Innovative Use of Technology in 2005 and UCLA's Distinguished Teacher of  the year in 2011. His books include Neuroscience of Personality, 8 Keys to Self-Leadership, Jung on Yoga, and Facets of Ayahuasca,  among other titles. We writes game books and fiction. And he is the  creator of the Personality Types iPhone app. Since 2006, Dario has  focused on conducting hands-on brain research, utilizing insights of  real-time EEG technology. Applications extend to coaching, counseling,  education, games, healthcare, leadership development, yoga, and many  other areas. He regularly keynotes international conferences and  facilitates workshops, teaching professionals about the art and science  of the brain. Dario is currently based in Los Angeles, USA and Oslo,  Norway. Dan and Dario cover many topics around personality, growth, shamanism..... and so much more. This is a prime example of a thoughtful conversation between two Intuitives. Hope you have enjoyed both parts of this epic chat. 


You can find Dario at:  darionardi.com, Facebook

Buy his book: The Magic Diamond: Jung's 8 Paths to Self Coaching  


Find Dan:

Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking 

@danielanearcounsellingcoaching

Facebook: @convergentlyspeaking

@danielanearcounsellingcoaching

Bookings: danielanear.com

Nov 25, 202001:01:15
Personality, Development, Non-dualism, Self-Coaching- an interview with Dr Dario Nardi (Part 1)

Personality, Development, Non-dualism, Self-Coaching- an interview with Dr Dario Nardi (Part 1)

Here we have for you a huge guest and a great chat! Dario Nardi, Ph.D. is a world renowned author,  researcher, speaker and expert in neuroscience, personality, and  body-mind practices. He holds a Senior Lecturer position at University  of California (Los Angeles), where he won UCLA's Copenhaver Award for  Innovative Use of Technology in 2005 and UCLA's Distinguished Teacher of  the year in 2011. His books include Neuroscience of Personality, 8 Keys to Self-Leadership, Jung on Yoga, and Facets of Ayahuasca,  among other titles. We writes game books and fiction. And he is the  creator of the Personality Types iPhone app. Since 2006, Dario has  focused on conducting hands-on brain research, utilizing insights of  real-time EEG technology. Applications extend to coaching, counseling,  education, games, healthcare, leadership development, yoga, and many  other areas. He regularly keynotes international conferences and  facilitates workshops, teaching professionals about the art and science  of the brain. Dario is currently based in Los Angeles, USA and Oslo,  Norway. Dan and Dario cover many topics around personality, growth, shamanism..... and so much more. This is a prime example of a thoughtful conversation between two Intuitives. Enjoy the episode and stay tuned for Part 2 next week! You can find Dario at:  http://darionardi.com/ https://www.facebook.com/dnardi The Magic Diamond: Jung's 8 Paths to Self Coaching  Find Dan: Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking  @danielanearcounsellingcoaching Facebook: @convergentlyspeaking @danielanearcounsellingcoaching Bookings: danielanear.com

Nov 17, 202057:59
Personality and the Cost of Specialisation
Oct 31, 202023:21
From Pain to Purpose
Sep 28, 202020:14
Mental Health, Transformation and Lived Experience with Jamie Ryan
Sep 10, 202001:16:11
Self Development: What if I'm Leaving my Partner Behind?
Aug 12, 202018:03
The Stories We Tell Ourselves

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Solo episode with Dan talking about the stories we tell ourselves. Dan shares a personal story of how looking at the stories he was telling himself was holding him back and how the stories we are telling are vital to our sense of well-being.
What are the stories you're telling yourself? Do you have control over these or are they malleable and changeable?

Find Dan:
Coaching
Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking
@daniel_anear_coaching
Facebook: @convergentlyspeaking
@danielanearcoaching
Jul 31, 202017:39
Rejecting Auto-Rejection
Jul 15, 202019:45
Change and Grief with Neville Starick
Jun 21, 202001:04:40
Why I Love the Enneagram
Jun 04, 202017:36
Overcoming Adversity with Rohan Harry
May 29, 202043:04
Personality Types & Relationships: Judgers vs Perceivers
May 08, 202018:21
Personality Types & Relationships: Thinkers vs Feelers
Apr 24, 202018:15
Personality Types & Relationships: Sensors vs Intuitives
Apr 16, 202018:37
Personality Types & Relationships: Introverts vs Extroverts

Personality Types & Relationships: Introverts vs Extroverts

The first episode in a 4-part series,  Dan talks about the differences, tension points, and strengths in romantic relationships in regards to the Introvert/Extrovert dichotomy.

Is it ideal to both be the same type? How do you get your introvert partner out of the house? How do you navigate the issues that arise from being so different (or so similar!)?

Some thoughts to get you reflecting on your own relationship.  

Next time, Sensors vs Intuitives (S vs N)!

Apr 09, 202023:03
Navigating challenging times as an INFJ - with Betsy Garmon
Mar 28, 202001:27:36
Men Need Men

Men Need Men

Solo Episode from Dan talking about modern masculinity, vulnerability, and how men need each other. 

Mar 13, 202019:00
Being an Enneagram 9, Learning from Indigenous Australia, Trauma & the Body - with Rev Jesse Size
Feb 28, 202001:03:25
Bowing Down at the Throne of Busy
Feb 15, 202016:26
Evolution, Open-Mindedness, Enneagram, Myers-Briggs with Sam of Unapologetically Evolving.

Evolution, Open-Mindedness, Enneagram, Myers-Briggs with Sam of Unapologetically Evolving.

Something a bit different this week. This is an interview I did for my friend Sam's new podcast, Unapologetically Evolving . We talk about some of my early life, my evolution and growth, open-mindedness, holding space for others, respecting other’s choices and nut out some of the intro concepts of the Myers-Briggs system as well as Enneagram and Spiral Dynamics.  I really enjoyed having a chat with Sam, and his other podcast episodes are also a really good listen, head on over and check them out.

-Find me at-

danielanear.com || facebook @danielanearcoaching || instagram @daniel_anear_coaching


-Find Sam at: -

facebook @unapologeticallyevolving || instagram @unapologeticallyevolving || samjadelaide.com

Jan 26, 202001:26:05
Being an Enneagram 2, Gentle Masculinity and Archetypes - with Steve Johnson

Being an Enneagram 2, Gentle Masculinity and Archetypes - with Steve Johnson

Old mate Steve (because I've known him for so long) comes on Convergently Speaking where we talk about Gentle Masculinity, Archetypes and being an Enneagram 2 peppered with some Richard Rohr wisdom, enjoy!

Jan 17, 202059:42
Positive Psychology, Mindful Parenting and Self-development with Carmen Bliss

Positive Psychology, Mindful Parenting and Self-development with Carmen Bliss

Carmen Bliss, Counsellor, Coach and good friend of Dan's joins Convergently Speaking for a winding coversation through Positive Psychology, Mindful Parenting and all things self-development. 

If you resonate with what Carmen has to say then please show her some social media love! You can find her at:

@inspiredwellbeingco 

#inspiredwellbeingco


Dec 15, 201901:00:27
Intuitive Awakening

Intuitive Awakening

In this episode I talk about what it means to have an Intuitive Awakening and my own experiences of learning that I'm an Intuitive. If you've been enjoying this podcast so far maybe you too are an Intuitive, have a listen to find out.

Nov 29, 201921:37
Dan and Caitlin Discuss Relationships

Dan and Caitlin Discuss Relationships

For this episode my wife Caitlin joins in for a discussion about our, relationship and some things we've learned over our (almost) 10-year marriage.

Note: Now that I now  have two microphones keep an eye out for more Convergently Speaking guests, I have some fabulous people I'd like you to meet.

Nov 13, 201930:49
Life is Hard

Life is Hard

In this episode I talk about the idea that life is hard and what we can do about it.

Nov 01, 201917:47
Making the Unconscious Conscious - Part 2

Making the Unconscious Conscious - Part 2

In this episode I discuss real life stories of making the Unconscious Conscious and how transformative this can be.

Oct 22, 201920:08
Making the Unconscious Conscious - Part 1

Making the Unconscious Conscious - Part 1

In this episode I suggest the much of what our brains are up to is unconscious to us and discuss the idea of bringing some of this material into our conscious awareness. In part 2 I share tools and stories about actually bringing our unconscious into our conscious.
Oct 09, 201912:05
A Rubric for Assessing the Quality of our Friendships

A Rubric for Assessing the Quality of our Friendships

Friendships aren't always easy and we can find ourselves unconsciously slipping into unhealthy dynamics with our friends. In this episode I offer a simple rubric for assessing the quality of our friendships, one I've personally found to be very useful.

Oct 01, 201912:23
Victim Mentality vs Responsibility

Victim Mentality vs Responsibility

In this episode Dan talks about being a victim versus having a victim mentality and where personal responsibility fits in with this.

Sep 25, 201912:37
Systems Thinking

Systems Thinking

We all exist within multiple systems and yet because we can't physically see these systems it's easy to forget so how much of an impact these have on our lives. This episode breaks down the idea of Systems Thinking and why it's a valuable way to look at the world.
Sep 10, 201922:41
Unconventional Masculinity

Unconventional Masculinity

On this episode Dan talks about unconventional expressions of masculinity and how personality type plays a role in the way men express themselves.

Aug 26, 201915:03
Convergently Speaking?

Convergently Speaking?

In this episode I discuss the thinking behind the Convergently Speaking name and how it relates to my own worldview and personality type.

Jun 05, 201920:28
On Free Will - A New Perspective

On Free Will - A New Perspective

In this episode I look at the age old topic of Free Will and offer a third way of thinking about this dilemma to the binary approach we generally think about it. Hope you enjoy the show and please subscribe for future episodes.
May 13, 201916:49
Anger as a Symptom

Anger as a Symptom

First episode of the Conveniently Speaking podcast where I look at anger as a symptom and what we can do about it.

May 05, 201913:20