Cynthia Bailey-Rug

This podcast discusses some reasons why victims stay in abusive relationships, and why it's not always possible to "just leave."

This podcast discusses the very natural attraction to nostalgia that many people who have survived trauma experience.

Today's podcast is about those people who choose to remain ignorant over facing the truth as a way to avoid dealing with certain topics and situations.

This podcast discusses how people who have experienced trauma often react to that trauma by being overly independent, and how it happens.

This podcast discusses a common way that dysfunctional families try to keep everyone close.  This tactic is especially common in narcissistic families.

This podcast addresses some of the challenges of dealing with narcissists at Christmas time and how to cope.

This podcast explores how and why narcissists snoop on their victims after the relationship is over.

Dysfunctional and narcissistic families can ruin holidays.  This podcast offers ways to cope with their toxic behavior.

This podcast is about the differences in being highly functional and highly dysfunctional.  They aren't necessarily what you think they are.

This podcast discusses how other people's feelings about you aren't your responsibility.

This podcast is about the arrogant people who believe their opinions are the only right ones, and everyone else's is wrong

This podcast is a reminder to victims of narcissistic abuse that they matter and are valuable, no matter what any narcissist has told them.

This podcast describes what it really means to be highly dysfunctional.

This podcast discusses having balance & prioritizing what causes you support.

This podcast discusses some ways the spirit of fear can manifest in a person's life.

This episode discusses the incredible value of living for truth.

This podcast is about some of the more subtle signs of disrespect people display.

This podcast discusses the disturbing phenomenon of what happens when narcissists stalk their victims online.

This podcast is about things that make you feel as if you were reborn.

This podcast discusses the dysfunctional people who refuse to become healthier, and when their behavior becomes toxic.

This podcast is about those who want to know about their former victims' lives.

This podcast is for those misguided people who blindly support parents after their child has severed ties with them.

This podcast discusses how often victims of abuse feel that they must forget everything about themselves to focus on others if the relationship is to be happy.

Many people experience depression around Thanksgiving and Christmas.  This podcast discusses the phenomenon and offers some tips to help those in this position.

This podcast discusses how narcissistic parents use infantilization as a way to abuse their children by making them feel like they never can grow up into capable adults.

This podcast offers ideas for simple changes to make that can add joy to your life.

This podcast discusses how some people may be proving themselves safe by failing to prove themselves safe.

This podcast is about problems with executive dysfunction in the brain after narcissistic abuse.

This podcast offers tips for dealing with foolish, critical people.

This podcast offers encouragement for male victims of abusive women.

This podcast offers encouragement for adult children who have severed ties with their narcissistic parents.

This podcast discusses the differences in empathy and codependency.

This podcast is about the nightmare of dysfunctional family gatherings, such as on birthdays and holidays.  Ways to handle them are included.

This podcast discusses how sometimes your perceptions of people can be inaccurate due to your own personal experiences, and how to learn to change.

This podcast explains why some people are so dysfunctional that they hate and even abuse victims of narcissistic abuse.

This podcast addresses the topic of people who pretend to be a victim in order to manipulate others, & how to deal with them.

This podcast discusses the topic of anticipation stress.  In other words, the stress & anxiety that can be as a result of narcissistic abuse.

This podcast teaches how to learn to rely on yourself for validation rather than external sources.

This podcast is about how sometimes when married to a narcissist, a victim thinks sacrificing everything about themselves is the only way to save their marriage.

This podcast discusses the red flag of a potential abuser - referring to a relative as an outsider or outcast.

This podcast is about what happens when people don't believe victims' stories of surviving narcissistic abuse.

This podcast offers advice about ways to cope with a narcissist's smear campaign.

This podcast discusses how to cope with brain fog after traumatic experiences.

This podcast discusses how you can become comfortable with and enjoy the person God made you to be.

This podcast discusses how certain life events can make you feel as if you have been reborn.  

This podcast addresses some abusive behaviors that are seldom perceived as abusive.

This podcast discusses how sometimes anger can be helpful in life, and how feeling anger is not a sin.  

This podcast discusses common feelings about being no contact with narcissistic parents and offers validation for those feelings.

This podcast addresses the topic of why victims need to discuss their experiences with narcissistic abuse.

This podcast is about why some people hate victims of narcissistic abuse.

This podcast discusses some of the ridiculous comments made to abuse victims, and how victims can handle when that happens to them.

This podcast addresses the topic of anxiety related to wearing face masks.

This podcast discusses the bad days that come with having Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

This podcast addresses the painful topic of when people choose to spend holidays with your abuser rather than you.

This podcast offers some reasons why adult children of narcissistic parents often end up in abusive relationships.

This podcast is about when people call victims of narcissistic abuse, abusive.

This podcast discusses what happens when narcissists ignore their victims.

This podcast discusses some red flags to watch out for from victims of narcissistic abuse.

This podcast addresses things you may experience after severing ties with a narcissist.

This podcast is directed for those who just learned that their "good" parent is a covert narcissist.

This podcast discusses what it's like when narcissist twist the truth around and portray themselves as the real victim in the situation.

This podcast describes what happens when narcissists realize they have gone too far with their victims.

This podcast addresses reasons why children (of any age) of narcissistic parents struggle with setting goals.

This video discusses the incredibly difficult time of when a narcissistic parent is dying.

This podcast discusses possible scenarios after going no contact with a narcissist.

This video addresses the controversial topic of what it really means to honor abusive parents.

This podcast offers easy tips to help you repel narcissists.

This podcast offers advice on ways you easily can identify controlling people.

This podcast offers practical ways you can help someone suffering with C-PTSD.

This podcast offers a few helpful tips for coping with narcissists.

This podcast describes some ways that people excuse abusive behavior.

This podcast is the second of two parts about how flying monkey's silence victims of narcissistic abuse.

This podcast is the first of two parts about how narcissists silence victims of narcissistic abuse

This podcast is the second of two parts about how flying monkey's silence victims of narcissistic abuse

This podcast is the first of two parts about how flying monkey's silence victims of narcissistic abuse.

This podcast discusses the topic of when people disagree with you for removing toxic relatives from your life.

This video explains why victims of narcissistic abuse have super powers.

This podcast explains just how wrong and evil it is to use Christianity to justify abusing someone.

This podcast addresses the differences in understanding what motivates your abuser to abuse and justifying that abuse.

This podcast explains the benefits to understanding narcissistic behavior.  

This video explains the phenomenon known as unconventional grief that can happen after escaping narcissistic abuse.

This podcast is the second of two describing the two types of narcissists, overt and covert.  This one addresses the covert type.

This podcast is the first of two discussing the two types of narcissists, overt and covert.  This podcast addresses the overt type.

This podcast provides the listener with warning signs of people who are unsafe.

This podcast explains some things that may happen after a person goes no contact with a narcissist.

This podcast discusses some of the things that scare narcissists.

This podcast explains the differences in the silent treatment and no contact.

This podcast discusses how victims of narcissistic abuse can sometimes see the world in a different way than those who weren't abuse, and helps the listener to see things in a healthier way.

This podcast explains the facts about coersive control.

This podcast explains how narcissists create the double bind or no win situation as another way to manipulate and abuse their victims.

This podcast helps the listener learn ways to take back their power from the narcissist in their life.

This podcast discusses how narcissists use nit picking and changing goals to manipulate and abuse their victims.

This podcast reveals some especially sneaky ways narcissists abuse their victims.

This podcast is about some very passive/aggressive ways narcissists abuse their victims.

This podcast is about the reasons people often try to stop others from talking about narcissistic abuse, and why they are wrong.

This podcast discusses victim shaming comments, and why they are so toxic.

This podcast explains why simple answers are the best, in particular when dealing with narcissists.

This podcast addresses ways to cope with triggers of traumatic experiences.

This podcast discusses some signs that your mental health may be in danger.

This podcast addresses signs that toxic people display.

This podcast discusses the fact that intense abuse can put a victim in a state of shock, and how to cope when it happens.

This podcast offers practical advice on ways to set and enforce simple boundaries with narcissistic parents.

This podcast is about the role of being the scapegoat in a narcissistic family.

This podcast discusses reasons why responding to narcissistic behavior is better than reaction, what the differences are, and how to learn to respond rather than react.

This podcast describes ways people revictimize survivors of narcissistic abuse, and ways for victims to cope.

This podcast is about how narcissists don't believe when other people are sick or injured, and why they are that way.

This podcast discusses a common yet unhealthy way some people cope - reinventing the past.

This podcast teaches ways you can tell if the narcissist in your life is serious about changing their ways.

This podcast is about the nightmares that come with having Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

This podcast suggests things you can do to prevent narcissists from continually trying to get you to resume the relationship with them.

This podcast offers suggested phrases that can help shut down narcissists.

This podcast discusses some personality traits that turn narcissists away.

This podcast is about passive aggressive behavior in narcissists.

This podcast discusses parentalizing (when a parent expects their child to care for them rather than them caring for their child) and the intense shame it causes in children.

This podcast discusses parents who demand their adult children spend holidays with them even when those adult children have their own families.

This podcast discusses one way to minimize anxiety by reducing the amount of possessions and clutter you have.

This podcast discusses the differences between no contact and the silent treatment.

This podcast discusses ways narcissists fake ignorance to abuse and manipulate their victims.

This podcast is about ways narcissists treat pets.

This podcast discusses when narcissistic parents abuse their adult children.

This podcast addresses ways narcissists use food to manipulate and abuse their victims.

This podcast is about ways narcissists use cars as a tool to abuse their victims.

This podcast discusses how narcissists view giving gifts.

This podcast discusses the topic of narcissistic parents and revenge.

This podcast deals with narcissistic in-laws and the spouse's ex.  There is a part one to this podcast, and I recommend listening to it first.

This podcast deals with the topic of narcissistic in-laws and the spouse's ex.  There is a sequel to this podcast.

This podcast deals with the topic of narcissistic grandparents.

This podcast describes what life is like when you have Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and are high functioning.

This podcast addresses the similarities between narcissistic families and cults.

This podcast discusses the four types of extreme stress responses - fight, flight, freeze and fawn.

This podcast discusses a little known abusive tactic called infantilization, in which parents try to force their children to remain children mentally & emotionally.

This podcast is about one of the symptoms of Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder known as hypervigilence.

This podcast discusses a little discussed topic about how untruths can become a part of you.

This podcast offers practical ways to help the listener handle a narcissist's smear campaign.

This podcast explains some reasons why narcissists abuse empathic people.

In today's podcast, we discuss why narcissistic parents side with anyone who hurts or even abuses their child.

This podcast addresses the frustrating topic of why so many people believe narcissists over their victims.

This podcast addresses the controversial topic of whether or not it is Biblical to confront one's abusive parents.

This podcast addresses the topic of morbid envy that is so common to those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

This podcast discusses some of the more common lies narcissistic parents tell their children.

This podcast discusses the ways to identify those who are genuinely fooled by narcissists versus the dreaded, abusive flying monkeys.

This podcast is about why many people don't want victims to speak up to their abusive relatives.

This podcast shares some of the reasons growing up with a narcissistic parent is so damaging to a child.

This podcast discusses some reasons people continue the toxic relationship with their abusive parents.

This podcast addresses some possible reasons narcissists have children.  As usual, it's all about them!

This podcast offers practical advice for those in a situation where no contact with a narcissist isn't an option.

This podcast discusses things you can do to help shut down narcissistic abuse.

This podcast addresses why defending yourself against a narcissist's smear campaign is utterly pointless, no matter how bad it gets.

This podcast discusses the importance of remaining no contact with a narcissist no matter what after you have decided to sever ties.

This podcast offers practical advice to help you end the relationship with the narcissist in your life.

This podcast offers suggestions in dealing with the difficult situation of when a narcissist uses guilt trips to manipulate.

This podcast offers ways to cope when the narcissist in your life shifts the blame to you for problems he or she has created

This podcast is the second of two addressing the topic of ways narcissists use shame to abuse their victims.

This podcast is the first of two addressing the topic of ways narcissists use shame to abuse their victims.

This podcast discusses ways narcissists isolate their victims in order to make them easier to abuse.

This podcast discusses how narcissists handle health crises.

This podcast addresses ways narcissists fool their victims.

This podcast addresses ways narcissists convince victims that they are the cause of all problems in the relationship.

This podcast discusses subtle ways narcissists abuse their victims with virtually no effort on their part.

This podcast discusses a common but rarely mentioned way that abuse victims process negative emotions.

This podcast explains some of the ways that childhood trauma affects people into adulthood.

This podcast offers a unique way to cope when faced with places or items that trigger painful memories or flashbacks.

This podcast explains common hoovering tactics.  In other words, what narcissists do to their victim after the victim leaves them but they want the victim to return to the relationship.

This podcast is about how dysfunctional families protect their narcissistic relative.

This podcast discusses the benefits of feeling your feelings rather than ignoring them.

This podcast discusses the subtle, insidious and evil form of abuse that is known as gaslighting.

This podcast discusses why sometimes people disappear from the lives of others and why with certain people, that can be the best way to end a relationship.

This podcast helps the listener learn to get to know themselves after escaping narcissistic abuse.

This podcast discusses how although no contact does help abuse victims a great deal, it does not fix everything.  It also helps prepare those considering going no contact prepare for what happens afterwards.

This podcast discusses the need many people have to grieve after narcissistic abuse.

(Please excuse the meow at the end.. one of my cats was especially talkative the day I made this.  This episode was the one with the least meows in it.  Frankly I didn't feel like doing it yet again so I went with the least "meowy" version... lol)

This podcast explains exactly why fixing your narcissistic parent's problems is a very bad idea.

This podcast discusses some of the more common phrases narcissists use to gaslight their victims in order to manipulate and control them effectively.

This podcast is about flashbacks and the best ways to cope with them.

This podcast addresses the topic of flying monkeys and how to deal with them.

This podcast is for those who have gone no contact with their abusive parent(s).

This podcast is aimed at those who judge victims of abuse for tolerating the abuse for as long as they did.

This podcast discusses the topic of forgiveness and how it is not what many people think it is.

This podcast addresses the topic of financial abuse.

This podcast answers the question about whether or not narcissists truly know right from wrong.

This podcast discusses how and why narcissists discredit their victims.

This podcast addresses the topic of discussing abuse -  is it a good or bad thing and why?

This podcast discusses how you should not blindly believe everything you hear, and instead should consider the information for yourself.

This podcast encourages those who are still in a relationship with a narcissist, and feel weak or flawed for not going no contact.

This podcast discusses the difference between the engulfing and ignoring types of narcissistic mothers.

This podcast encourages the listener not to allow anyone to silence them from discussing their traumatic experiences.  It is healing and helps raise awareness to discuss narcissistic abuse, and no one should try to silence a victim from sharing their story!

This podcast discusses some of the common dysfunctional behaviors people who were raised by narcissistic parents exhibit.

This podcast discusses one of the many dysfunctional ways narcissists cope - reinventing the past into something more palatable to them.

This podcast discusses one of the many dysfunctional coping skills narcissists use, retroactive justification.

This podcast addresses how narcissists abuse their victims by using petty, nitpicking criticisms and constantly changing what their goals are.

This podcast discusses the incredibly difficult topic of when a parent treats their child as if the child is the parent or a partner.  This phenomenon is known by several names -  emotional incest, covert incest, parentification and parentalization.

This podcast covers the topic of enmeshment in dysfunctional families.

This podcast helps the listener gives the listener things to think about if they're considering going no contact with a narcissist.

This podcast discusses ways of dealing with people who don't understand mental illness, and can be very difficult about it.

This podcast addresses a topic common to those who survived narcissistic abuse.  People pleasing is often a consequence of narcissistic abuse.  Compassion fatigue is a consequence of people pleasing.  It's when you get burned out on helping other people while not taking good enough care of yourself.

This podcast discusses why comparing your struggles to those of other peoples' is a bad idea.

This podcast discusses some of the most common tactics narcissists use to get attention and how to deal with that behavior effectively.

This podcast addresses some particularly childish behaviors done by narcissists and how to cope with them.

This podcast addresses busyness as an unhealthy way to cope with past trauma.

This podcast helps to encourage those in the awful role of family scapegoat how to escape that position.

This podcast discusses the phenomenon of how the body remembers everything it has experienced, and how this relates to surviving abuse.

This podcast addresses what is it like for the child of the narcissistic parent when their parent wants the child to be the parent rather than the parent being the parent.

This podcast addresses one possible reason narcissists and their flying monkeys behave as they do.

This podcast discusses passive/aggressive behavior as an abuse tactic commonly used by narcissists

This podcast is about something called a non apology, which is a common abusive tactic narcissists use.

This podcast discusses the toxicity of narcissistic friends.

This podcast discusses a little discussed phenomenon known as Irritable Gratitude Syndrome.

This podcast discusses the very real dangers of being harassed and stalked.

This podcast discusses the guilt adult children of narcissistic parents often feel after that parent has died.

This podcast discusses what society calls strong yet is actually not strong, which is why I call it false strength.

This podcast discusses a common phenomenon in victims of narcissistic abuse - disproportionate anger.

This podcast discusses a common after effect of narcissistic abuse, Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

This podcast discusses the natural anger that occurs in adult children of narcissistic parents.

This podcast shares a way for victims of narcissistic abuse to stump their narcissist, thus (hopefully!) reducing the abuse temporarily.

This podcast is for those who are under legal age and living with their abusive parents.

This podcast addresses a lesser known way narcissists triangulate their victims.

Narcissists have a skewed view of respect.  This podcast explains why their view is wrong.

This is a brief introduction to my podcasts.