Grief After Dark
By D. & Micki
Grief After Dark Jan 24, 2023
The Keep Glowing Until Next Timeosode
D and Micki end the season with another fun, open, stream-of-consciousness-style conversation that goes from Star Trek, to showing up for our own excellence, to allowing harm, to the limitations in our belief systems and in own damn narratives. So much of Season 3 was about the ties that bind. Humanity is the condition. Connection is the medicine. If you can dream it, go forth and we will cheer for you. Til next time, friends!
Shelley Leiphart - The Glowing Mind
Shelley Leiphart is a psychologist and neuropsychologist working in healthcare ethics, and boy did she bring some expertise to the GAD party this episode. She explains part of the trauma experience as a loss of innocence, sense of self, goodness, safety and justice, and how therapy can help break apart thought and emotion vs. what is actually happening. Shelley is a huge advocate of pursuing psychotherapy as an avenue to process trauma, see your grief from a different perspective, and find a new path forward. Grief is hard. Help helps.
Kristi Gerhardt - Glow in the Very Dark
Kristi Gerhardt joins Grief After Dark today with a beautiful and honest perspective on living with clinical depression. Not being sad when things happen. Not good ol’ fashioned teen angst. We’re talking the deep dark hopelessness that is one of the most common and also most undiagnosed struggles in the US today. And…we still manage to laugh through the conversation! C’mon, join the party and let’s all have a really good time talking about really shitty shit so we can all finally normalize mental health issues.
Perfectionist Impostor XL Bonersode
Here's some words for you: Perfectionist, impostor syndrome, eggshells, praise kinks, flimflam artist. D and Micki’s 20 minute bonus episode ended up being 40 minutes because there was simply too much to talk about. How much can you relate, though?
Dr. Mekel Harris - The Glowing Journey
Dr. Mekel Harris, butterfly chaser and licensed psychologist with a focus on grief counselling and education. We reflect on allowing space in our lives for what we want and need, bereavement leave and grief-informed care in the workplace, de-colonizing psychology with cultural curiosity, and good questions for a new therapist….JUST IN THE FIRST 30 MINUTES! That healing glow is a journey, not a destination. Join us on the path.
Follow Dr. Mekel on IG @drmekel
Glowing Feels - The Empathisode with D and Micki
This week enjoy some both/and with D and Micki as they discuss The Plight of the Empath. What is empathy, and what is it to be an empath? Is it learned or inherited? Is being a highly sensitive person a blessing? Or is it a curse? Sometimes the best conversations are the ones where the answers just lead to more questions. And sometimes not-rapid-fire questions should not be publicly answered.
Funk and Glow with D and Micki
Sincere hardship and trauma vs. self-victimization. Small hurdles and big rewards. Moments of resilience. You know – just a little life catch-up, D and Micki style. Sometimes the hard shit is where it’s at. We are your cheerleaders, friends. Thank you for being here.
Joshua Liberman - The Glow of True Family
This week Joshua Liberman joins D and Micki in a conversation about family estrangement. Because you all know how we do love a good difficult and vulnerable conversation amongst good friends! This reflection is truly a reminder of what true family and love looks like, unfortunately learned by experiencing the antithesis of those things. I would do anything for love...but I won’t do that.
AJ Turner - Glowing With God
You don’t “arrive” at spirituality. Divinity is not static. Enlightenment is not “a thing.” We can’t talk about spiritual growth that doesn’t involve psychological death or spiritual death. So…where does that leave us? With spiritual COMMUNITY. Who knew? AJ did.
AJ Turner is currently finishing up a PhD in Philosophical and Theological Studies of Religion at Drew University’s Graduate Division of Religion. And he absolutely brought all the things we love about great conversation here in the GAD family. Join us. Bring a spritzer. And a photo of Chris Hemsworth.
Katya Fishman - Stories All Aglow
Hope vs faith. The toxic side of control and certainty. Honoring where you came from. The story we tell ourselves paints the portrait of our experiences. This week, our new friend Katya Fishman brings us all a story of healing, beauty and perspective. Join us!
Knit After Dark - Lynsey Powell Glows
Lynsey Powell joins D and Micki this week to talk about her lupus diagnosis, feeling betrayed by your own body, the benefits of allowing yourself to sit in grief, and how to handle when people “at-least” you. Pain that others can’t actually see can be a tough one to carry. Good thing knitting can be so cathartic.
Glowing Memories With Estevan Vigil
"I Heard Somewhere" - words of wisdom from a 1st Sgt:
Season 3 - Glow in the Dark With Tim Hassemer
D and Micki are back with Season 3, Glow in the Dark! This season will once again explore the many facets of grief with a special focus on grief that isn't death. Special guest and Podcast Editor Extraordinaire Tim Hassemer shares his own difficult experience, and the book he wrote that helped him process his pain and survive the feelings of losing himself.
This episode includes talk of suicidal ideation, so please listen with care. If you need a resource, you can contact the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling, texting or chatting 988, or visit 988lifeline.org
Happy New Yearosode
D and Micki reflect on the year past and the year that is to come, discuss what New Year is and can be, and celebrate the ability to see when to dig in and when to coast. It's never too late for a glass of champagne, and any time of year is a good time to celebrate.
Grief After Dark Special: Ask Grief Girl 2022
For this special Grief After Dark Episode, Adventures of Grief Girl gathers bereaved mamas from around the world to answer questions sent in by friends and family who want to support bereaved mothers and families more fully. Join Jamie (our facilitator), Tina, Kim, Domenique and D as they dispel myths and beliefs surrounding grief, mourning and bereavement. This episode is powerful and informative, as always listen with your own discretion, take care of your mind and may you find clarity and gems to carry forward in your life as you open your arms to grievers.
Deck the motherf*^*in halls and get yo kids. In this Turkeysode, D and Micki reconvene to give thanks for the simple joys of walking the talk during the Season of Expectations. And always.
Until Next Time
D and Micki wrap up Season 2 with recaps, fond memories, laughs, gratitude, real AF friendship, and just a little Aquaman.
Grief and Kids With Pierce
This week D’s 11 year old son Pierce joins us to discuss chickens, rockets, superheroes, life and death on a farm, the importance of a clean house, and the healing power of being wacky and telling Dad Jokes. Heart = Warmed.
Grief and Kids With Hannah
Grief and Kids With Naja Druva
Naja is a child and family therapist with a specialty in childhood trauma, and works in decolonizing clinical constructs in the world of therapy. In this episode, Naja brings beautiful wisdom on topics like supporting kids in grief, why social media is addictive, how isolation translates as danger, the chemical origins of love, and why “we need to be invested in each other if we’re going to survive.”
While some of this episode is about kids it's not for kids. We ended on a sentence that contains the trifecta of uncomfortable English words including the mother of all swears. Be ye warned.
Bonus Episode 7: Full Circle Validation Tranquility
Where and how do you find validation? Could it actually be healthy or even possible to seek it outside of yourself? What does living in love look like? Do you experience in-the-moment tranqility? Can you let chaos just be chaos without responding? We know. It’s all easier said than done. But...how ready are you?
Bonus Episode 6: Gray Area
Updates, housekeeping, technology struggles, naps, juggling life, cookies from the universe, etc. You know. Just checking in with our friends. (That’s you.)
Moving Through Grief With Mighty Leona
Behold, a conversation full of laughter and love with our friend Kim De Los Reyes, aka Kim of the Kings. Kim walks us through how grief made her lose The Music, and the beautiful way she found it again in nature, in movement, and in coming back home to herself. We discuss how we shake it to channel destruction into prayer, the wisdom of how movement can start as simple as going for a walk, and so much more. Come dance with us. Get movin.
Moving Through Grief With Jenny Gal
Put on your sexy hat, cuz this week we explore movement and pleasure with Jenny Gal, Ayurvedic Post-Partum Doula, Somatic and Sexological Bodyworker, and Erotic Blueprint Coach. Jenny works to help clients in reclaiming sacred sexuality in motherhood, and supporting women's healing and thriving in post-partum care. We expose a LOT of proverbial skin here, so listen with...well...we'll always tell you what to listen with in our intro.
Erotic Blueprint: https://missjaiya.com/view/coach-directory/entry/735/
Moving Through Grief With Kiva Siani
D and Micki join Kiva Siani - burlesque dancer, strip tease artist and creator of the Sensual Moms Group - for more yummy fun pleasure tidbits about moving through grief. Kiva uses the principals of practice, pleasure and play to help us re-parent and re-write ourselves in our lives.
Moving Through Grief With Jamie Asdorian
The first episode of our newest theme, Moving Through Grief, is a chat with Jamie Asdorian, a Tharavada Yoga Instructor helping us find our way back to self-trust and inner wisdom through slow, meditative practices. Jamie is also a practitioner of Vegetation, a unique type of meditation discovered through her yoga and life experiences and learnings. Jamie talks with us about ancestors, the roots of yoga, how connection is there for everyone costing a sum total of $free.50, and reminds us that everyone has worth. Sit with us!
Sharing Grief With Gina Harris
This week D and Micki join in a conversation with Gina Harris, CEO of Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep, a non-profit providing the gift of remembrance portraits to parents experiencing the death of a baby. Gina uses her beautiful and candid ability to tell us her own personal stories of loss, her work with NILMDTS, and the importance of how we capture love and treasure memories.
It's important to note that this episode speaks openly about infant and child death. Please take care in listening.
Sharing Grief With Joe'l Simone Anthony
In this episode of Season 2, Dark Matter, D and Micki get to speak with Joe'l Simone Anthony, aka The Grave Woman. Joe'l is a Sacred Death & Grief Care Practitioner, a Course Creator & Educator, a Licensed Funeral Director & Embalmer, and an Insurance Agent & Preplanning Specialist. She is a prolific educator teaching from seemingly every angle of grief, death and planning - financial to spiritual - especially for people of color. This one has it all: astrology grief guidance, healing regrets while you still can, following your path and passions, meeting middle earth people and aliens... Join us. It's fun over here.https://www.thegravewoman.com/
The Grave Woman - YouTube
@thegravewoman on Instagram
Sharing Grief With Tony Lynch
In this second episode of Season 2, D and Micki talk with Tony Lynch, creator of Memories of Us, a nonprofit international resource for grieving men. Tony tells us about his own personal life and grief experiences, we talk about how men are "taught to suppress rather than express", and the many complexities of grief from men's points of view. "...Understanding the journey is lessons that need to be learned by the challenges you go through."
Show Up For That Mosey
Welcome to Season 2: Dark Matters! Come hang out as D and Micki ease right on in to a brand new Season of experience. We are still showing up with laughs and epiphanies and good times. We hope you do, too.
Randosode: Expectation Season
Who's expecting too much from you this holiday season, and how much are you (over) expecting of yourself? Join us in this holiday vent session where we take some time to remind ourselves of how this time of year feels, and why, and that it's all ok. Even if it's not.
Randosode 1: Comparative Grief
The Randosodes begin, and thus continues D and Micki's journey with you! In Randosode 1 we discuss thoughts on our habits to compare our pain, grief, suffering, emotional state, ability to be productive, etc. And thoughts on how we all need to cut it out. Can you randomly relate?
Coming full circle. Reintegration. What love is and isn't, and how you do or don't make time for it. Docking isn't always what you think...
Bonus Episode 5: Gratitudisode
Giving thanks to so many for so much. That is all.
This week, D and Micki explore several different concepts, ideas and definitions of anchors: what they are, who they are, when and how we use them, and the importance of mindfulness in anchoring.
Bonus Episode 4: Little Love Bombs
In this bonus episode, Micki sets the stage with a heart opening meditation, and we get a solid dose of passion, intimacy, vulnerability and immense beauty as James Barros, Amanda Furdge and D each offer up a love-inspired piece of original poetry. You dropped a bomb on me, baby.
Sink or Swim
The curse of distraction, the injury of oversimplification, and the fact that sometimes it's not sinking OR swimming, but rather it's BOTH/AND. Sometimes it's just about finding buoyancy so you can stay afloat. Sometimes people drop turd bombs on your nice emotional landscape. It's hard being a person.
Bonus Episode 3: Adventures of Grief Girl
D takes some time to talk to us about her life as a prolific artist and her Adventures of Grief Girl. Singing, dancing, painting, photography...our talented friend has seemingly done all things art, and is full of fun and wisdom about the process of creation.
Sharks and Shit
The path to healing is not at all straight forward - it often loops back around on itself enough times to make you feel like you're failing, or flailing, or falling straight into the shark's mouth. There are ways to recalibrate. Perhaps with a Keanu fan club.
Bonus Episode 2: Moonstar Charms
A quickie about Micki's obsession with jewelry-making, gemstones, and other various passions as she shamelessly self-promotes her art and business, Moonstar Charms.
Sirens and Lures
Lots of shiny, pretty, alluring things out there that will try and convince you they're the quick fix for your whole life. Do not trust the sirens - they are full of nonsense and fuckery.
Bonus Episode 1: The STFU Challenge
Micki takes the STFU Challenge and her struggle is real, while D offers modern wisdom about how we get desensitized to noise. The quest for meditative peace continues.
How in God's name do we get through this? Here we revisit expectation, look into the biology of fear, explore how triggers work, delve further into the Survival Kits, and discuss general ways to cope that are potentially more productive than just punching people in the neck.
The truth of Uncharted Territory is…it’s SCARY! In the second episode, D. and Micki discuss the loneliness and camaraderie that can come with feeling lost. There are important things that it behooves (beHOOVes) us to remember about ourselves and about each other while sailing these Dark Waters, including packing our Survival Kit and what that means! We also listen to D’s cat yowl for a second.
Maiden Voyage is the first episode by Grief After Dark with D. Anaya and Micki Hassemer, a podcast where we discuss love, life, death and everything in-between. It touches on the embarking on a journey you don’t want to take through Dark Waters that nobody else has ever seen, traveled, or experienced quite like you have and will. You have not chosen this mission, yet you know you must do it.
In Uncharted Territory, we explore surviving as kids and what those experiences have led us into. We also talk about a lot of other stuff including books, music, friendships and bananas.