Dare 2 Date
By Debbie Rivers
I’m an internationally accredited Relationship Expert I’ve been doing this for a decade. I’m consumed with empowering singles just like you to be successful in love. I am obsessed with having bigger conversations about love, dating and relationships. The ones that change lives.
Dare 2 DateOct 19, 2021
79: The Story Of How I Started Dare2Date and Became a Relationship Coach
A question I am asked all the time is how did I decide to run singles events and become a Dating/Relationship Coach.
In this week's podcast, I share my personal story about why I started Dare2Date.
78: Mindful Dating with Special Guest Lauren Smith
In this week's podcast, I interview Lauren Smith from New Jersey in America about Mindful Dating. Lauren shares with us:What Mindful Dating is and how it will help you get the relationship you want. How to deal with dating anxiety. How to give yourself self-compassion. Specific tools you can use to deal with your anxiety.
Lauren is an author, speaker, and host of the Date in Peace Podcast. Lauren combines her own personal success story with her professional mindfulness training, to empower singles to ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they so deeply deserve.
You can find Lauren on:
Instagram - @mettadate
Website - https://www.mettadatestudio.com
Combining her own personal success story with her professional mindfulness training, Lauren empowers singles to ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they so deeply deserve.
77: Is there a way you can make sure someone is the right for you on a first date?
Last week I had a radio interview where I was asked a question that came from a reddit feed where a woman said how she tested men on dates to make sure they were suitable. She would meet them at a place where you BBQ'd your dinner and also shucked oysters. She felt that this was a great test to see how they dealt with doing something outside of the square. Also that shucking oysters is challenging and felt that it is a good test of the person's character to see how they respond.
In the radio interview, I was asked if this was a good test or not (find out my answer in this podcast).
This got me thinking about how do you make sure the person you date is right for you?
Should you look for red, green, or beige flags on your date? Or is there a specific test that will guarantee you don't end up with another person who wastes your valuable time?
Let's face it you don't want another narcissistic, user or unavailable single.
In this week's podcast, I let you know what my answer was to the radio interview as well as answer these questions for you.
76: Do You Have a Broken Picker?
In this week's podcast, I am talking about having a broken picker!
What does this mean?
It means you keep dating the wrong type of people for you. You might think that they look different on the outside, and have different personalities but underneath all of that, they have the same behaviour as your ex.
Or you just have a habit of picking and being attracted to people who aren't good for you or want the same thing that you do.
Maybe you keep dating people who:Cheat on you Are unavailable Who just take and don't give anything back. Who are selfish Are controlling etc..........
Maybe you think if only someone could choose for you, you could get the relationship you have always wanted.
I take a closer look at what will work to get you that relationship!
75: True Love After Dating Every Disaster @@!
Time for another success story to give you hope that yours is on the way! There really isn't anything better than hearing someone's story who has been where you have been.
In this podcast, I talk to Donna Maree, who has a wonderful love story and is married to her soulmate.
Before meeting him, Donna told me that she dated every disaster in Perth, Melbourne and overseas (slight exaggeration, but you get the picture, right)!
I ask Donna:
1. How did they meet?
2. How she got over all her dating disasters.
3. What type of ‘work’ did she need to do on herself to get the relationship she had always wanted?
4. And so much more.Instragam - @donnamareerichardson Website - https://www.donnamareepsychic.com/ Podcast - Beyond with Donna Maree Psychic Medium
74: Are you Suffering from Emotional Fatigue from Dating?
In this week's podcast, I am talking about what you can do to move from emotional fatigue in your dating life.
Dating can be full of people who:Want to boost their self-esteem but do not want to date. Have bad behaviour. People who are chatting to ease their loneliness Singles who only want a hook-up and to move on to the next person. People who want a long-term relationship.
You will experience:Ghosting, Narcissists, players and love bombers! You can be objectified Or continually rejected.
Often there are no social ramifications for bad behaviour as there would be in a real-life situation.
I talk about what you can do to go from being a victim of your circumstances to changing the outcome.
So you can translate your matches into real-life dates.
73: Do Great Relationships Just Happen? Interview with Amanda Lambros, Love Coach & Forensic Sexologist
I’m excited to be having a special guest on the Dare2Date podcast this week. Amanda Lambros.
Amanda is a Counsellor, Love Coach, Sexologist, Author, Speaker and Academic. Amanda helps individuals and couples become happier, more connected and begin to finally feel appreciated and heard.
In the interview, we talk about what it takes to create and maintain a wonderful relationship.
I also ask Amanda:1. What does a Sexologist do and why Amanda decided to train as one? About the effect that sex has on relationships. Is it just a matter of meeting the perfect person and everything will work out? Amanda regularly works with couples and sees the issues and challenges they face. So, I asked Amanda what advice she would give to singles to find the right person for them. People are also talking about how you have to do the work, what does that even mean? What are the most significant things that you wished singles knew before finding love?
You can find Amanda on: Instagram - @AmandaLambros https://www.amandalambros.com/
72: A Real Life Love Story - Finding Love Over 40 with 2 Young Children
There are so many dating horror stories out there that it is easy to feel that it is impossible to meet someone you like let alone are able to fall in love with. I have decided to do a series of real-life love stories to help you see what is possible for you. Because there is nothing like hearing a love story from someone who is in a similar position as you are to see what is possible. The love stories will be sprinkled in with my regular podcast.
You are in for a treat in this week's podcast.
I am interviewing Becca Maxwell from Do Divorce Right about how she found love after divorce. Becca had divorced in her 40s, had two young children and lived in Asia at the time. She couldn't see how it would be possible to date let alone find love.
Today Becca is in a beautiful relationship with a man she adores and who adores her. They have created a wonderful blended family where her children adore her partner and his children love her.
I ask Becca:
1. How did they meet?
2. How she was able to open her heart up after the divorce?
3. What type of ‘work’ did she need to do on herself to get the relationship she had always wanted?
4. When they introduced their children to each other?
4. How they were able to manage the blended family?
You can find Becca on:Instragam - @dodivorceright Website - www.dodivorceright.com Podcast - Do Divorce Right
71: Exclusive Interview with the Founders of the Dating App Ziinkle - Elisse Alexander and Melanie Leahy
This. is a podcast interview that you don't want to miss! I am talking to the founders of Ziinkle, Elisse Alexander and Melanie Leahy. Ziinkle was launched in March 2022 and is a next-gen dating app that gets people meeting in real life by providing real-time information about which venues are buzzing with singles. Elisse and Melanie describe Ziinkle as a dating GPS for singles so you're in the right place at the right time.
it's not every day that you get to talk to the founders of an innovative dating app like Ziinkle.
In this podcast, Elisse and Melanie talk about what Ziinkle is and why they created another dating app.
I then asked them :What trends they are seeing on Ziinkle? You definitely need to listen to their answers about. the trends Australian daters are experiencing. Ziinkle has also just completed their 2023 Dating Trends and Insights Report on what trends they see in their dating. I asked them what makes people successful on dating apps. and whether algorithms are really to blame when you are unsuccessful. We talked about the ratio of male to female users. Plus so much more.
70: Let's Talk about Gender Stereotypes in Dating/Relationships!
In this week's podcast, I discuss gender stereotypes when it comes to dating and relationships.What is a gender stereotype? Are gender stereotypes alive and well? Are they accepted and even expected? How do your unconscious views affect your dating life?
Talking about gender stereotypes can be a controversial polarising subject. Why? Because everyone has a different view.
You only have to Google masculine and feminine energy and you will find a lot of information that can easily be misunderstood.
I touched on this subject in Episode 51 - The Romance Gap. In this podcast, I will dive a little deeper.
I would also love to hear your thoughts on this subject!
69: "Deb, I don't want to waste anymore time! I'm ready to meet someone, can you help me?"
As a dating/relationship coach, there are common problems that people contact me about, one is around wasting time
Each week I speak to 1 to 2 women who call me and say:
"Deb, I don't want to waste any more time. I am ready to be in a relationship and know what I want. Can you help me?"
My answer is YES!
For many of these women, the stakes are high. They could be in their 30s and want a family or they are looking for love the 2nd time around and know that who they choose to be with will impact their children.
The problem is that having the mindset that they don't want to waste time often makes them waste even more time.
Have you ever noticed when you are in a hurry for something to happen or to do something? Often when you are in a rush you can make silly mistakes, or even miss out on or not notice opportunities.
In this week's podcast, I let you know why not wasting time is a problem and let you how to change the wasting time mindset so you don't waste your time.
Instead, you can slow down to save time!
In the podcast, I talk about a process I take my clients through that works. If you don't want to try coaching, you can find how to work through this process in the How to Find the Best Match for YOU".
68. The Top Dating Trends and Predictions for 2023
The last couple of years of COVID has been tough for single people. I am sure you have asked yourself if 2023 be any better.
I have good news for you the majority of the dating trends and predictions for 2023 are positive!
Singles are entering 2023 with possibility and positivity - YAY!
A trend is something that is -
The general direction that something is developing or changing. or
The trends and predictions are based on a significant amount of data.
Listen to this week's podcast to find out what to expect.
67: 10 Tips on What to do if you are Newly Single and Not sure what to Do!
You aren't alone! Did you know that:39%of people on Bumble have ended a marriage or a serious relationship in the past two years. 36% of those people are using dating apps for the first time. This means that more people are learning to navigate what dating looks like now.
The question I was asked so many times over the past fear weeks is:
I’m newly single and am nervous about trying internet dating as I’ve never done it. What tips can you give me?
There are so many tips I can give you that I’m not sure where to start!
Maybe you keep hearing from friends and everyone else that dating is horrific or it's a jungle out there.
In this week's podcast, I will give you practical tips so you know what to do and how to have fun in the process.
If you have been single for a while, the podcast may give you a fresh perspective.
66: How do you Deal with Christmas When you are Single and Make the Most of it
How do you deal with Christmas and make the most of it? I know some people LOVE Christmas and others HATE it! It doesn’t matter which one you are because no matter how you feel, it happens every year!
The last few years have been like no others! For me, 2022 was particularly hard as my mum passed away. For many people, including myself, it has made me appreciate the personal relationships in my life more than anything else. With that in mind, let’s use Christmas 2022 to celebrate the relationships we do have and rather than focusing on what annoys us or what we don’t have,
It can be tough being single when you don’t want to be and I have some specific tips to help you out in my blog How to Get Through Christmas Being Single. I know you may have to spend more time with those tactless relatives and friends who say something that upsets you, so it helps to have ways to deal with Christmas. This podcast is all about how to make the most of the day and how to deal with Christmas, I hope it helps you.
65: Are you Smart & Successful but aren't getting the Same Results in Your Love Life?
The question I am often asked is:
I am smart and successful. I have achieved results in my life but I’m not getting the same results when it comes to love and relationships. Why can't I get the same success in my love life?
This is a question I am asked all the time. Now if you asked me this in a coaching session I would take a deep dive and look at exactly what is happening in your life and why this is the case because of course everyone's situation isn't the same.
In this week's podcast, I’m unable to do that. So, I will answer the question generally with some of the common reasons that it happens.
I will also give you a step-by-step guide for what you can do to change this.
In the podcast, I ask some reflection questions. In case you didn't manage to write them all down, here they are:
As the year comes to an end, it is time to take a step back and reflect on the year you have lived. Let’s look at what happened in your life and what you did to achieve that.
What were the main events and milestones in your life in 2022?
What did you create, achieve and make happened (the big and the small)
What were your happiest moments?
When did you have the most fun?
When and where did you feel the most peace?
What was the most unexpected thing about the year?
What did you discover about yourself?
What are you proud of?
When did you feel the most love?
What were your hardest moments?
What were your biggest challenges?
What are the lessons you have learned?
What will 2022 be remembered for in your life?
Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for abundance.
What do you want to happen when it comes to love in your life?
64: Are you Waiting & Hoping to Meet Someone and It Hasn't Happened for YOU?
I have just come back from an overseas trip to India/Singapore. It was delightful to be able to go overseas again and one of the best parts of travelling is the conversations that you have along the way.
As a Dating/Relationship Coach, people open up to me with their love stories, their heartaches and everything in between and this trip was no different.
While I was in Hyderabad I met a 71 lady who told me told me her sad story and unfortunately it is one I hear all too often. In this week's podcast, I talk about her story and how you can make sure that her story doesn't become your story.
This weeks podcast is for you if you are waiting and hoping to meet someone and it hasn't happened for you.
63: Is this Getting In the Way of Your Dating Success
Are you single and don't want to be? Are you getting frustrated that you just aren't getting the results that you want when it comes to meeting someone you like.
In this week's podcast , I give you some insight into what could be getting in the way of your own success and how to change that.
The reality is you are not given the desire for love without the capacity to make it happen.
62: Manifest-dating is the Latest Trend - Let's Unpick it!
The latest trend is manifesting and everyone is talking about it. They have even come up with new terminology - ‘manifest-dating’.
On TikTok any videos that have the hashtag, #manifestation have received 20.2 billion views. Yep, you heard right 20.2 billion views! That is an enormous amount of views!
You may hear the word manifesting and feel like it sounds woo-woo. Yet you only have to look at the 20.2 billion views to see that people are into it.
According to the dating app Badoo – who can up with the term manifest-dating – there have been more than a quarter of singles who have already tried manifest-dating and then there are almost two-thirds who want to try it.
Why is manifest-dating so popular? It is because dating can feel so tough nowadays and daters are looking for how to change that. They want answers!
More research from Badoo found that 96% of daters struggle with negative thoughts, nerves, and self-sabotage when it comes to dating and love. The research found that the most common worry for 38% of singles was doubting that their date is interested in them.
The good news is that Badoo found that 74% of people who have tried manifest-dating have become luckier in love as a result.
In this week's podcast, I explore the world of manifest dating and how it can work for you.
61: How to Deal with Rejection and Not Take it to Heart
Is your biggest fear walking up to someone and being rejected?
Does the fear of rejection stop you from taking action to meet someone?
If you have answered yes, this week's podcast is for you!
I am sure you have heard the cliche advice, 'Don't take it Personally' but how do you do that when it feels personal?
Listen to find out the way to deal with rejection and get the results that you deserve!
60: The Rise of The Single Lonely Man
An article by Psychologist Greg Matos has gone viral. You will see it everywhere! In the article, Greg talks about the rise of the Lonely Single Man and three broad relationship trends.
He starts the article by saying that younger and middle-aged men are the loneliest they’ve been in generations. That over the last 30 years, men have become part of the larger group of the growing number of long-term single people. The problem is that research has found that men are generally happier and healthier when they are in a relationship than being single.
He then discusses the 3 reasons why.
In today's podcast, I talk about the article. Then I discuss what men and women can do to get success in the dating world rather than increase their loneliness.
59: Ghosting - What is It and What do 335 Singles Think About it?
Ghosting is a modern phenomenon! You may be lucky enough not to have never been ghosted and wondering what it is! It is when someone you have been chatting to on an app, dating or in a relationship with disappears from your life. This could be after chatting online, a date, months or years!
People have been ending relationships badly since the beginning of time but it has become so much easier on mobile phones and dating apps have made this so much easier. Ghosting people you barely know and who aren’t part of your daily life is easy to do without facing or seeing the effects.
I have been collecting the survey results of What Singles Think. In the survey, I asked lots of questions and three specific questions on ghosting.Have you Ever Ghosted Someone? If yes, why did you ghost them? Do you believe ghosting is okay?
In this week's podcast, you will find out what 335 singles thought about ghosting.
As a coach for men and women, I talk about how ghosting on dating apps is causing people to miss out on amazing singles. As well as how to date without ghosting and how to deal with ghosting.
58: Are you Confusing a Wound Mate for a Soul Mate?
Do you want to meet someone and feel something you haven’t felt before? Are you looking for that wonderful spark and to meet your soul mate?
It’s natural to look for that wonderful feeling. However, basing who you chose to be with solely on chemistry can be a recipe for disaster rather than happiness.
Let me explain why.Basing the choice on chemistry and lust can lead you to a Wound Mate rather than a Soul Mate!
What can happen is you are attracted to people due to unresolved issues within you then you go on to recreate those very issues in your relationships.
This can happen from one failed relationship or even a series of failed relationships. Or it can come from childhood without you even realising it.
In this week's podcast, I explain what a Wound Mate is, and why it initially feels so good but doesn't stay that way.
I also talk about how you can break this pattern to choose a healthy relationship instead.
57: Fours Steps to Falling in Love & Keeping Love Alive
Do you think you will just meet someone and just know they are the one because you are pre-destined to meet? That you will click, feel chemistry or that elusive spark?
Do you base your decision on who you will date purely on physical attraction?
Dating apps have made dating more superficial than ever before but it takes so much more to fall in love.
Did you know that there are four parts/steps to falling into love and physical attraction is only one part of that?
With approximately 50% of first marriages ending in divorce, it helps to know what they are. It is also important to follow the same steps to keep your relationship strong and healthy.
In this week's podcast, you will take a look at what it takes to fall in love and keep your love alive.
56: Ok, you're single and want to meet someone, how do you guarantee you will have a good relationship?
You're single and want to meet someone and have an amazing relationship.
But how do you guarantee that it will be a good relationship?
What should you look for and what should you do why you are waiting to meet the right person for you?
In this week's podcast, I tell you what research of 11,196 couples found were the three things to look for that make you much more likely to have a wonderful, healthy relationship.
55: Do You Need to Love Yourself to Find Love?
I came across a meme on Instagram that said:
Stop telling people that no one will love them until they love themselves. Stop planting the idea in people's brains that they are unworthy of love because of their own struggles.
In this week's podcast, I talk about whether you need to love yourself to find love.
54: Is the Dating Pool Stagnant?
I recently saw a meme with a green stagnant swimming pool with the heading, 'The Dating Pool' and the comment missing the sharks!
I regularly see memes like these talking about how bad the dating pool is. However, is it?
In this week's podcast, I give you the answer as well as the top 6 ways of thinking that could be keeping you single.
53: How your conversation can either spark attraction or kill it!
It doesn't matter where you meet someone you will always need to have a conversation with them.
Did you know that that conversation can either get you a date or guarantee you don't see the person again?
In this week's podcast, I am talking about what works and what doesn't. This is based on over a decade of experience seeing singles meet in action.
52: Red Flags, Pink Flags or Greens Flags - What do you Look For?
It is easy to get obsessed with all the negatives in the dating world. The horror stories, the bad behaviour and you might even find yourself getting caught up in all toxic dating trends like ghosting, haunting, benching, situationships, etc.
It leaves you looking for red flags so you don't end up in a bad relationship.
If you are wondering what red flags are - they are a warning sign that something is wrong!
You could end up spending so much time focusing on red flags that, that is all you see.
Does it work to look for red flags or should you be looking for green flags instead? Green flags are the opposite of red flags. They are the positive behaviours and actions that you want in a partner.
Do you look for red or green or both?
I answer this question as well as what you can do to make sure you create the healthy, wonderful supportive relationship you have always dreamt of.
I also promised I would give you the link to - How to Choose the Best Match for You.
51: The Romance Gap
I am sure you have heard of the gender pay gap and gender equality but have you heard of the Romance Gap? It’s like the pay gap but for your love life! The dating app bumble commissioned a survey with interesting results. They found that 86% believed that equality was important in dating and relationships. However, 74% of respondents said there were different expectations and expected behaviour depending on your gender when it comes to relationships.
They found that traditional gender roles and expectations are still very present, and even, accepted in dating. In fact, they found that some of the actions we feel are romantic for men are seen as negative/bad when women do them.
For example, it is seen as passionate when a man says he loves you after a month but needy if a woman does the same. When a guy doesn’t text, he is seen as playing it cool but when a woman doesn’t text back she is playing hard to get.
In this week’s podcast, I discuss what they found and what the solution is.
50: Does Strong Chemistry Guarantee that a Relationship will Work?
Everyone I talk to wants to meet someone they like and someone they feel something they have never felt before. They want to meet someone with who they have that wonderful, mysterious spark of attraction. Hoping when they follow that intense attraction for the other person that they will be lucky enough to find someone who is also compatible, who has a good character and who they can trust.
However, I see too many single people looking for a solid type of love from someone who is simply unable to give it to them.
There is a Buddhist saying - 'If you meet someone and your heart pounds, your hands shake and your knees go weak - that's not the one! When you meet your soulmate you will feel calm, no anxiety, no agitation!
In this week's podcast, I talk about why that initial attraction is no guarantee that your relationship will work out. I also talk about why the initial attraction can die out for one person and how to avoid this.
49: Date Smarter Rather than Harder
Do you hate being single and want to get results.
Singles tell me every day just how frustrated they are.
Being a Dating/Relationship Coach I always ask them what they are doing about meeting someone!
They often answer ‘Not much’ and add ‘it doesn’t work so why bother!’
Or for others, they are exhausted from spending a lot of time on apps swiping obsessively. Yet when I look at what they are doing they don’t send messages or arrange any dates.
The reality is that this is the reason why way too many singles are not getting results on dating apps. They are doing dating apps by not doing them!
Spoiler alert, if you don’t do anything you are going to stay single. Dating, just like anything else in life it takes some type of effort on your part. Laziness doesn’t get results nor does avoiding it!Can you relate to this:
Do you Hate Being Single But......Say no to everyone You don't bother to reply on apps for days or weeks Send minimal responses Unmatch for the dumbest things Cancel dates cos you don't feel like the effort If you answered yes, this could be the reason you are not getting results on dating apps!
Okay maybe you are a hopeless romantic and you are hanging out for that rare love story where you meet serendipitously (found by some miraculous chance) as it is your destiny. But, I see way too many singles who have waited for a decade and nothing has happened. The reality is that you can’t count on that chance meeting. What you can count on is putting some real effort into getting results on dating appsIt is all about being smarter in how you use dating apps rather than working harder! In this week's podcast, I am going to tell you how!
48: Having your Sh*t Together is Dead S*xy!
Having your shit together will instantly make you more attractive to the type of person you want to meet!
This isn't just based on my opinion, it is based on research and data from all the major dating platforms/apps.
Back in 2019 singles rated physical attractiveness as the thing they most wanted in a partner, yet in 2022 only 70% did.
In 2022, singles are looking for people who want to be the best versions of themselves and put more importance on stability and security.
I tell you more in this week's podcast.
47: Ladies Don't Owe You Pretty
This week I talk about how women don't owe you pretty. I will also talk about why safety matters to women and why approaching women you don't know calling them pretty doesn't work as it does in the movies!
Men and women are equal but the reality is that they think and act completely different in ALL areas of their life, particularly dating! Those differences are what gets in the way of success.
Both men and women put themselves out there holding to be loved, accepted and validated. However, in the superficial world of dating, they often get the opposite - rejection, disappointment or crappy relationships that even border on abusive!
Maybe it makes you feel like you need to kill, change, squish or minimize who you are to be wanted!
That doesn't work, in fact, it leads to more unhappiness and losing who you are just to be wanted by someone else.
In this podcast, I will have the conversation about what you can do and how you can feel good about yourself.
46: Simple Tips that Work to Keep Yourself Safe When Dating Online and IRL
At the moment in an uncertain world where you still want to meet someone, online dating is a good option. 1/3 of all Australians and around 50% of Americans meet and marry someone they met online.
The problem is that you have heard all the horror stories about online dating and it scares you.
How do you keep yourself safe from dating scams and even date rape?
In this week's podcast, I give you the simple tips that will keep you safe and allow you to enjoy online dating without being scared that you will be another terrible statistic.
45: How Self-sabotage can Get in the Way of Your Happiness
If you have come out of a string of failed relationships, you might not be able to trust yourself anymore.
Maybe you have a habit of picking someone who isn't over their ex, someone who doesn't want the same type of commitment that you do or worst of all people who cheat on you. You may want to meet someone but don't trust yourself not to choose another loser.
After a string of failed relationships, it is hard to trust your own judgement! So, you think what if someone could just choose someone for me, surely then it would work out.
But you only have to watch an episode of MAFS to see that isn't always the case as you may be stuck in the trap of self-sabotaging your own happiness.
In this week’s podcast, I talk about how self-sabotage can get in the way of your happiness even when you meet the right person.
44: What's Getting in the Way of Your Results Meeting Quality Singles
Did you decide that 2022 is your year to date but you still aren't getting the dates or the results that you want?
When things don't work out it is easy to come up with stories as to why! Maybe you tell yourself that it's because there aren't any good singles out there, that all the good ones are taken or you are not getting results because the online profiles are fake! It is easier to say all men are...... or all women are....
Some of the stories/reasons may make sense and some can be crazy, yet when you are struggling with things, of course, you will come up with all these reasons because looking at yourself and taking responsibility is not always the first thing any of us do.
Let's look at what may be getting in the way including what we expect from relationships nowadays.
Oh and if you want access to the special offer available until 14 Feb, here is the link.
43: Did you set a new year's resolution to find a relationship in 2022?
I was excited to do my 1st Podcast for 2022 and it was the perfect day for it - National Ditch the New Year's Resolution Day! It seems the 17th day of the new year is the day people decide to ditch their new year's resolutions. You know they decide to ditch the torturous diets and horrible exercise regimes and celebrate with an extra glass of wine!
Did you set a new year's resolution to find love in 2022 and already feel a bit disappointed with how things are going? Or have you decided you want this year to be different but it seems the same as any other year?
If you have answered yes, then this podcast is for you!
'Each day is a blank page in the diary of life. The secret of success is in turning that diary into the best story you possibly can.
Every day, you're given a chance to determine what the words will say and how the story will unfold. The more joyful and rewarding you make each page, the more amazing each chapter will be.
And I hope you turn the story of this whole year into a masterpiece.' - Douglas Pagels
42: January is Peak Online Dating Season -Here’s How to Succeed
The new year is about new beginnings, resolutions and setting goals. At the top of many single’s list of new year’s resolutions is finding love or simply getting a date. Multiple dating apps report that the first Sunday in January is the busiest day of the year, with all the major apps seeing a significant spike in new members. So, if you’re looking for love or someone to date, January is the time!
In this week's podcast, I give you tips on how to succeed and get the results that you deserve. succeed:
I didn't cover what to chat about in the messages when you get a match, as it would have been too long. So, I have included this link to my blog - 3 Startling Examples of Online Dating Messages that Get Results
41: Interview with Dave Rogers How Men can Laugh more and Get Past their Anger
In this week's podcast, I interview Dave Rogers who is passionate about men's mental health. We have a real conversation about dating, men's anger and their mental health. Dave provides practical strategies for men to increase their confidence and get past the anger they are feeling and even find out how they can laugh more.
Dave shares how to have the perfect date, how to laugh at yourself, how to express your feelings and how to be impeccable with your words to others and especially to yourself.
Dave Rogers is a Global Mentor, Author, Ex Banker, Yoga Instructor, mental health advocate and also led coaching initiatives in more than 15 natioNS.
If you want to see more of Dave check out his YouTube Channel Continual Shift
40: Let's Talk about When to Have Sex, Wasting Time and the 10 Date Rule!
This week's podcast is for the ladies out there, especially those who are sick and tired of wasting time on men who don't want to commit or who change their minds about being in a relationship.
I have the bigger conversation about sex when to have it, does it matter and what are the odds of a one-night stand turning into more.
I also talk about what the 10 Date Rule is, as well as the pros can cons of the 10 Date Rule.
In this week's podcast, I give you the answers.
39: How to Survive and Thrive the Christmas Period and the Actual Day
Single? How do you survive and thrive in the lead up to Christmas and the actual day?
Expectations run high, right?
There is stress related to money, family, overspending and loneliness. In fact, 1 in 5 feel lonely and almost 50% dread Christmas. All these stresses can remain hidden the rest of the year but are in your face during the Christmas period.
Being single can be tough at any of of the year but it can be worse at Christmas when it can feel like an ordeal you need to survive!
It is all too easy to look around you and see happy families/couples EVERYWHERE! You see it on TV - those cheesy Christmas movies with people with picture-perfect lives, hear about it on the radio, billboards and as you go about daily life. It can bring up all sorts of regrets, especially if you are divorced and not part of the happy family that you had always imagined you would be.
In this podcast, I give you practical tips to survive and even thrive!
38: Are you Stuck in the Instant Trap?
Are you stuck in the Instant Trap and is that preventing you from being successful in meeting the right person for you?
We live in an age where things happen instantly! You can send a message to someone on the other side of the world in real-time, you can have a photo instantly, download the novel you want to read instantly without leaving your house, there's instant coffee, ready-made meals - you don't have to wait for anything.
We live in an age of instant results and expect the same when it comes to meeting the right person.
In this week's podcast, I am talking about how to avoid the instant trap as well as not fall into the scarcity trap.
37: How to Avoid Dating Burnout and Actually Enjoy Dating
Most people have heard of burnout – the term was originally related to work and happened when people felt exhausted and disinterested in work and often life in general.
What is dating burnout? Pretty much the same as regular burnout – you can’t bring yourself to get ready for yet another date, you experience a lack of interest in dating overall, you feel exhausted and you have lost hope of meeting anyone remotely decent.
Dating has significantly changed in the naughties – we have more access to singles through different means, yet it has never been harder to meet ‘the one’ or someone we at least want to date. Now because there appears to be so many options and singles available it is more depressing when you don’t find the relationship you are looking for.
In the age of Tinder and internet dating, dating really can feel like a 2nd job. Dating apps can be accessed through your mobile phone so the whole dating world is EVER present.
Now 2 things can happen at this stage:You become overwhelmed by the contact; and/or You don’t have much luck. So you feel like there is no hope. You think with all those singles out there that you still can’t find anyone.
The frustration you feel at this point is totally understandable and it is now you are susceptible to dating burnout!
In this weeks podcast, I give you tips to AVOID dating burnout and enjoy dating.
36: The Real Honest Truth that is stopping getting results on your dates!
Both men and women are frustrated with dating just now. In fact, there are wonderful singles who miss each other EVERY SINGLE DAY!
The reality is that men and women approach dating and relationships in a way that doesn't work for the opposite sex.
There are common mistakes that men make and common mistakes that women make. Understanding what they are and how to avoid them is a game-changer when it comes to getting results!
The REAL HONEST TRUTH is that most guys are bad daters as they often don't know what they SHOULD be doing. The guys who are great at dating are often the charmers, the players, the narcissist and the psychopaths and they are the ones you don't want as it is all about them!
In this week's podcast I talk about what you could be doing that is stopping you getting results on your dates and causing you to miss out on the person who could have been PERFECT for YOU.
35: What's Getting in the Way of Smart Successful Women Finding Love? Interview with Ronnie Ann Ryan
In this week's podcast, I interview Ronnie Ann Ryan who is a Dating Coach in the US who helps smart successful women find love or thrive with magic.
I LOVED talking to Ronnie and she is saying everything that I do! It is great to have this re-enforced from someone who is on the other side of the world in New York!
Ronnie also shares her personal story of being single and frustrated in her 40's when she was getting in the way of her own success. Ronnie went on 30 dates in 15 months and is happily married 20 years later! Ronnie believes (and so do I) that if you want love you can get it at any age.
We talked about:What keeps women smart, successful single and how to avoid it. How to spot the unavailable men (Ronnie and I can spot one a million miles away after doing coaching singles every day) How men can be successful too, the podcast isn't all about the ladies, there are some great insights for the men as well. How a degree doesn't = smart when choosing a man. What do men think about women's bodies as they get older in their 40's, '50s, 60's and 70's.
And so, so much more. It was an absolute pleasure to chat with Ronnie, I hope you enjoy our chat as much as I did
Ronnie Ann Ryan is a Love & Cosmic Coach who has helped 1000s of women find love for 20 years, An author of six books, and a seeker of everyday magic, she also hosts the podcast, Breathe Love & Magic. She is a down-to-earth mystic with a sense of humour, an Akashic Records reader, medium, psychic, Reiki Master, and workshop leader. Her warmth, directness, and keen insights are memorable. Ronnie’s been featured by ABC, NBC, and Fox News, BBC, NPR, MSN.com, Huffington Post, Yahoo.com! among others
34: Do you fall into this common trap that repels rather than attracts the opposite sex?
You are single and want to meet someone! You thought that dating and meeting people would be fun but that's not your reality, is it? Instead of it being fun you are frustrated.
After weeks and weeks and weeks of bad conversations and dates, you feel so much frustration! You feel so disheartened and wonder if it will ever happen. Nothing prepared you for the frustration you would feel.
Why, why, why does it have to be this hard for you, everyone else seems to be meeting people?
You just aren't getting the results or meeting the types of people that you want you.
You know you don't want to settle but not sure how it's ever going to happen, going on what has happened so far.
It is much easier to focus on other areas of your life like your job, your family or literally anything else!
But as good as they are, they just don't feel the void inside you. You can't help feeling you still want to meet someone.
You are a nice guy/woman why can't they see that. It is that nice guys finish last or that men only want younger women for relationships? You even ask yourself if everyone is too broken to want a real relationship. Or is it just that all the good ones are taken?
There is one thing I know I see so many singles do that is repelling rather than attracting the opposite sex. Are you guilty of falling into this common trap?
Listen to this week's podcast to find out what it is and how to change it to get the results you deserve!
33: The Most Important Relationship you will EVER Have - Your Relationship with Yourself!
The most important relationship you have is the relationship that you have with yourself. It sets the tone for every other relationship in your life.
One of my favourite sayings if from the Perks of Being a Wallflower and it is, "We accept the love that we think we deserve!" When you are able to love and accept yourself you will also be able to accept healthy love.
Self-love, self-acceptance, self-esteem are often given a bad wrap! They are seen as being a moral flaw, selfish, conceited, egotistical or at worst narcissistic! However, the reality is that loving yourself is a basic human necessity and one that will give you a life you enjoy.
In this week's podcast, I give you insight and tips on how to love and accept yourself so that you will allow someone else to.
32: Spring Clean Your Life, Your Relationships & Dating
Spring is the time for new possibilities.
It’s been a wet, cold winter and finally, it’s spring. Time to look at what is possible and clean up what isn't working ready for summer. Spring is the perfect time to look at what is and isn’t working for you when it comes to life, dating and love. It is time for a fresh perspective before summer. Oh and whatever you plant now will get the chance to grow by summer!
Did you know the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago and the next best time is now?
This is the time you spring clean as spring sheds light on what you couldn't see in the dark, cold winter. The sunlight also gives you the motivation to do it. So it's time to spring clean your dating and love life and in this week's podcast, I let you know how with five practical tips.
1. Make space
2. Clear Away the negative, just like you might get rid of the weeds in the garden.
3. Fresh Mindset - putting in the nutrients into the soil so the right plants will grow.
4. Fresh look and new profiles
5. Acknowledge how awesome YOU are for doing all the hard work!
31: Are you getting in the way of your own happiness?
Are getting in the way of your own happiness when it comes to life, dating and relationships? When you read my question you might dismiss it, thinking why would anyone do THAT!?
But I want you to think about it for a moment. Do you avoid doing things because they are too hard, because you may fail or get caught up thinking what's the point as things haven't worked out before?
So as much as you might want something or something to happen you don't do anything about it!
This can happen in all areas of your life and not just in relationships.
But let's look at dating - maybe you don't date because it is too hard, or you have been rejected too many times so what is the point.
Or you might have had the person you loved the most in the whole world leave you or betray you and you are scared that it will happen again.
So as much as you want to meet someone the thought of being rejected again scares you. You might stop dating altogether, date unavailable singles or push people away.
When these types of things have happened to you then you start to protect yourself from it happening again.
But instead of protecting yourself are you self-sabotaging your own happiness? Sabotage means deliberately damaging, destroying or obstructing your own happiness! When you see it written that way it would seem a crazy thing to do but it happens more often than you think.
In this weeks' podcast, I talk about why you may be getting stuck in the pattern of self-sabotage as well as how to break it so you can have the happiness you deserve.
30: Do You Feel you have Been Unlucky in Love and that If you Just Meet the Right Person It Would Work Out?
In this week's podcast, I talk about the myth that if you just met the right person everything would just fall into place. As well as how having the mindset that you are 'unlucky' in love is making that a reality!
This podcast will teach you two things:Dispel the myth that everything will fail into place with the right person. How to be Lucky in Love
Great relationships aren’t delivered to you by cupid or the love fairies. The reality is that they are created by two very imperfect humans who have insecurities, baggage, past experiences and yep – flaws!
Conflict is Inevitable even in healthy relationships! No matter who you chose to be with you need to be able to communicate what you want and need, as well as being able to listen to what they want and need!
After listening to this week's podcast you will learn how to change YOUR luck.
29: Easy-peasy Ways to Build Attraction Through Text and Messages
Like it or not text messaging is a HUGE part of how you date in the 21st century. It's a pretty new skill that you HAVE to have to get results.
If you want to be successful in getting a first, second or third date you need to have good texting skills otherwise you will miss out on dating the person you want. Especially when it comes to online dating, where it is your first ever conversation.
When you text, you don't get to see how the other person feels about what you are saying. You don't get the chance to see if they are smiling or offended like you would in person! Texting is SO open to misinterpretation and is one of the biggest reasons you could be missing out on meeting the person who is right for YOU.
As a Relationship Coach for men and women, I see how simple mistakes from both sexes STOP them from getting dates. I see how the assumptions they make get in the way of results.
Men and women tend to communicate differently by text message and I see this every day when I see the text message they send and can instantly tell why they are missing the mark.
Men often treat messages as outcome-based and transactional. They will use them to communicate a set outcome like - 'Let's meet for dinner at the Queens at 7 pm. Rather than having a conversation to get the lady, they are talking to feel comfortable enough to meet them.
Women on the other hand want to get to know someone a little, to feel safe and comfortable and do this via a text message conversation.
Women get frustrated, thinking if a guy was really interested in them, he would make the effort to be interested when he is talking to her via text.
The problem is men aren't always super great at messaging and ladies you miss out on quality guys who can't message - which is a high percentage of them!
In this week's podcast the ladies will find out how to stop doing this and the men will find out easy-peasy ways to text to get results!
28: Nice people and people pleasers - can you ask for what you want in a relationship?
Do you know what you want in a relationship? Do you know what you want to feel or are you so used to putting everyone else's needs first?
Today I want to talk to all the nice people out there, those who are busy making everyone else happy but who don't get their needs met.
Maybe, that is ok to start with but as time goes on your resentment grows because all that you give to others doesn't come back to you.
How do you change this without being a b..tch or an ar...ole.
In this week's podcast, I give you the answer as well as a challenge.
27: How to Understand the Opposite Sex (Big Call I Know) & Get Results!
I had to record this podcast four times to get it right. It can feel tough talking to yourself on a podcast to explain how men and women are going about meeting the opposite sex that isn't working for them.
I see wonderful men and women miss each other because of how they approach dating and talking to the opposite sex.
Men and women want the same things but miss each other because they don't understand how the opposite sex thinks and acts.
Men and women are equal but different - like chalk and cheese!
As a Dating/Relationship Coach for men and women, I get to see firsthand and it still sometimes blows me away just how different we are in how we think.
Men and women want the same outcome - to meet someone that feels good to be around, but they go about it in a completely different way. As a result, they miss out on the very thing and person that they want.
In this week's podcast, I act as a translator so you can both understand how the opposite thinks. This is so important because it will STOP you from missing out on meeting the type of singles that will make you happy.
It will give both men and women insight into what works and there are nuggets of gold this week that will change your life - ha I know a big call but it is true.
26: Is this Weird Thing Keeping you Single?
There is one thing that I hear EVERY - SINGLE - DAY from single people no matter how old they are.
I hear it from 20-year-olds, 30-year-olds, 40-year-olds, 50-year-olds, 60-year-olds and 70-year-olds.
This one thing is often a way of thinking that is keeping them single
Can you guess what it is?
Listen to the Podcast to find out what it is and how to change it.
25: Do you need to Love Yourself to Find Love? What the f..k does self- love even mean?
Have you heard that you need to love yourself to find love? Is this fact or fiction? True or false? You might have heard about self-love, self-compassion, self-esteem, self-worth and self-compassion.
What do they mean? Can you find the right relationship without them?
Or if you love yourself will you end up being a narcissist?
In this week's Podcast, I answer these questions and more as well as tell you the 'how'.
24: Vulnerability - what does that even mean?
You hear that you need to be vulnerable, that you just need to open your heart and that you should be yourself! This is all generic, cliche advice that you will find out there that isn't useful unless you know what it means!
You may have heard that you need to be vulnerable but what does that even mean and what is it?
People mistake oversharing for vulnerability or they find it easy to sleep with someone but not ask what the relationship is.
In this week's podcast, I talk about vulnerability in dating.
I let you know what it really is and how to use it to get a 2nd date or success at speed dating.
This episode focuses on the early days of dating and how to be vulnerable to get a 2nd date or even a match at speed dating.
23: You didn't think finding someone would be this hard! Are all the good ones taken?
You didn't think it would be this hard to find someone you liked. It's left you thinking that all the good ones are taken and that there simply aren't any simples out there. I hear you and
Maybe your friends have told you that you are too fussy, too picky and you need to settle for what is available.
I don't believe that you should EVER settle as research has proven that the person you chose to be in a relationship with has the biggest impact on your life.
If you chose the right “type” of person they will support you, have your back and inspire you to be a better version of yourself. They will keep you laughing along the way, help you see what’s important, stick to your goals, keep you on track as well as not take yourself too seriously. However, when you chose the wrong 'type' of person it can grind you down until you are barely visible.
In this week's podcast, I talk about what can be holding you back from finding that person, because I can tell you that there are plenty of good singles out there and the good ones aren't all taken.
22: Finding Love Over 50 on Tinder - A Real Life Success Story
I am genuinely excited about this week's interview on the Dare2Date Podcast. I am talking to Tracey Regan, a successful Author and Copywriter from All Things Writing. The interview is about how she found love with a wonderful conscious man over 50 on, drum roll........ Tinder!
Yes, you heard right! Tracey's couldn't be happier and is living proof that quality men can be found anywhere! Yes even on Tinder.
We talk about the what and the how of meeting her wonderful man. Interestingly, they could have missed out on meeting each other due to superficial ideas that didn't actually count or matter.
Tracey took action but timing also played a huge role in their successful love story.
Tracey's story shows that you can find true love on a dating app and that it is never too late to find the love and the relationship you have always wanted.
21: How to Get the Best out of Socials without Comparing Yourself and Feeling Despair!
Socials, Social Media (SM) is a way of being connected with friends, family and business contacts it can be amazing and you can get the best out of it. However, you can fall into the trap of comparing yourself with others and end up feeling despair.
Did you know that people spend an average of two hours per day on social media!
That's almost a 5th of your waking day!
Yet couples only spent an average of 10 minutes a day talking to get other and then it is often about their to-do-lists or children.
Singles often spend more time on socials than with real people.
In this week's podcast, I talk about how to get the best out of socials and the traps to avoid so you can feel good about yourself and your relationships.
20: Is giving emotional consent the answer to bad dating behaviour?
Should emotional consent be talked about in the same way as physical consent when dating new people?
Often singles meet someone they like and go with the flow without saying where they want things to end up. They worry that if they push the issue, they’ll jinx it and drive the other person away.
They go on dates and have sex without having ‘the’ conversation. It may go well for a while, then the other person ghosts or drops them because the grass might be greener with someone else they just matched with.
A certain level of trust and respect gets broken each time and gives birth to a whole world of pain in the modern dating world.
In this podcast, I talk about whether the answer is emotional consent.
19: Is it OK to Approach Women, especially Post #me2
Is it OK to approach women is one of the most common questions I am asked by men?
Men want to meet women in the real world but don't want to come across as creepy and worry about being rejected.
In this week's podcast I answer this question as well as give you some valuable tips.
18: Are the Dating Horror Stories True? Can you Actually Find a Relationship in 2021?
In 2021 there are more ways to meet singles than at any other time. Yet, there it's never felt harder!
You hear the horror dating app stories in the media, as well as dating horror stories from everyone around you. Venting about them makes you feel better!
Is it possible to actually find a relationship in 2021 without having to settle?
The answer is a huge YES!
In this week's podcast, I tell you Sally and Julie's story of how got results so YOU can too!
17: Love Bombing - Is it Love Bombing or the real thing?
How do you know the difference between love-bombing and the real thing?
In this week's podcast, I give you the answer so you don't fall victim to one. The purpose of this podcast is to make you aware of toxic behaviour, rather than hyper-focused on what could go wrong. Becoming the victim of love bombing can leave damage that will have a lasting impact.
It is much easier to recognise the difference rather than have to heal after a toxic relationship.
I will give you 6 easy steps to stop the difference between a lover. bomber and someone who is genuine.
Dating can be tough and it can feel hard to meet someone who you like and who likes you back. If you have experienced people ghosting you, had a string of horror dates or been dating people where you just don’t know where you stand then it is easy to get excited when you finally meet someone who shows they care!
For a minute I want you to imagine how it would feel to meet someone who gives you all the attention, affection, appreciation and love you have always wanted.
They give you flowers, compliments and want to be with you all the time.
It would feel amazing right? Like all your dreams have finally come true.After being around people who didn’t give you what you felt you wanted and even deserved it is intoxicating to finally find someone who wants YOU.
So much so that you overlook the red flags and the things that just don’t feel right. You feel like it is hard to meet someone so why would you pass this up.
But what if that attention was toxic instead of being real love?
You could be experiencing love bombing instead of the real thing.
16: Communication - Expectations are the Root of Heartache in Relationships
Communication is the foundation of every healthy relationship including dating, love, family friends and work. Yet with the people, we are the closest to, we assume that they will know us well and will automatically understand what we want and what we need from them. When that doesn't happen you get disappointed and it can build resentment in your close relationships.
When you first click with someone, they do get you and it happens easily. It feels amazing to just click with them and have someone finally gets you! You feel heard, seen and understood. It generally happens without any effort.
You will finish each other sentences, do anything to make each other happy and feel you 'get' each other and easily meet each other's needs.
Then life gets in the way and those things fall away.
This is the time when communication issues come up. You may hear yourself saying - 'If they really cared they would have .......', 'If they loved me they wouldn't have acted that way'.
You expect that if they really cared they would know what you need and end up feeling resentful when they don't.
In this podcast, I talk about how that happens and how to communicate so you are heard.
15: Nice Guys Finish Last - Is this a Myth or is it True?
I am sure you have heard that nice guys finish last. Is this true or is this a myth?
You might say that you see the evidence of this every S.I.N.G.L.E DAY with women choosing to be with the arsehole or bad guy. The one who gives her crumbs and treats her badly. You can instantly spot he isn't a good guy, so why can't she?
In this podcast, I give you the answer as well as what women really want in a man and how you can win her over.
14: Honesty Bombing the Emerging Dating Trend & How to Spot 10 Common Lies Singles Tell
Honesty bombing is the new black and the new emerging dating trend.
It's the dating trend that's good news for singles.
Are you thinking about getting back out there at events or going online, yet scared that people will tell lies about who they are?
You are not alone, it is a HUGE concern for singles out there.
In this week's podcast, I talk about honesty and dating.
I also talk about the 10 Common Lies Singles tell and how to spot them.
The reality is in a world that has been interrupted by COVID singles don't want to waste any more time!
Singles are over been lied to and game playing when it comes to dating, and want honesty!
Rather than playing the pre-pandemic dating game of trying to present yourself in the best possible way and hiding your baggage, singles are being honest from the start. Why? Well, no one wants to waste any more time. They can't be bothered trying to create that perfect persona.
Being transparent about who you are and what you want is the way forward.
Time to be honest, real and authentic as you will get much better results when you do.
13: How to Make a Killer First Impression
First impressions matter, especially in the competitive dating environment. You only get one chance to make a first impression in the superficial world of dating! First impressions matter and you have a short amount of time to make yours.
You want to make a good impression but you don't want to lead anyone on, give them the wrong idea or even worse hurt them. You want to make the most of your time and opportunities as you feel you don't want to waste any more of your. precious time.
So how you make that killer first impression and be remembered for all the right reasons?
This Podcast will tell how! You will found out why first impressions are crucial as well as how to make that first impression that gets you the results you deserve!
12: Why Writing.a list of What you Want Won't Find You Love
Have you ever been told that you need to write a list of what you want in a relationship? You know a bit like a shopping list, except for a person! I am sure everyone wishes it was that easy! It is common advice to tell you to write a list to make sure you find the right person. In this video, I tell why that 'traditional;' list doesn't work when you are looking to find the one!
11: Breakups are one of the most painful experiences, how do you deal with them?
When someone you love breakups with you it is one of the most painful experiences you can go through. You might not be able to eat, sleep or function. Your friends and family may be sympathetic for a while but then start to tell you that it happened for a reason, that there are plenty of fish in the sea and you will meet someone better. They mean well, but that advice doesn't help in fact, will often make you feel worse. In this Podcast, I give you advice on how to get through the breakup.
10: Ghosting - What is it and How to Deal with It!
In this week's podcast, I will give you Sara's story as well practical tips to deal with ghosting, breakups and rejection.
Ghosting is a modern phenomenon! You may be lucky enough not to have never been ghosted and wondering what it is! It is when someone you have been dating simply disappears from your life without a trace or explanation. This could be after a couple of dates or even months of dating!
People have been ending relationships badly since the beginning of time but it has become so much easier in the technological age. Ghosting people you barely know and who aren’t part of your daily life is easy to do without you seeing the effects.
25% of singles admit to doing it even though they don't like it!
If someone has ghosted you, didn’t want a second date or broke up with you after dating for a while. What do you do when someone doesn’t want you? How do you cope with that rejection?
Rejection hurts! In fact, rejection SUCKS! Rejection NEVER EVER feels good!
It may be hard to reject someone but it is always worse to be on the receiving end.When you are ghosted or rejected, it leaves you with many unanswered questions about why. What was it that they didn’t like about you, were you not hot enough, smart enough, rich enough – what was it? It can end up driving you crazy thinking about the why and when it comes to ghosting it is even worse!
Many times the rejection is not personal. Don’t ever let rejection define you. You are not a failure because someone wasn’t interested in you.
You can be ghosted for so many reasons that just aren't personal. Maybe they weren't over their ex, or not ready for the type of commitment you are, they could be having personal issues or they were looking for an ego boost., or simply weren't in the right place to give you what you want.‘Every time I think I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being redirected to something better.’ Dr Steve Maroboli
Many times the rejection is not personal.
If you are struggling with the effects of ghosting, rejection or a breakup, why not book in a free discovery call? Click here to chat with me.
09: Three Simple Ways to Know if he Wants to be Your Boyfriend
I see way too many single women waste time on men who are happy to spend time with them but don't ever want to take things any further. The ladies think the guys will see how amazing they are and change their minds. However, they don't and the worst part is that it can take women years to realise this.
Not every man you meet or go out with will want to make you happy (which is a huge red flag). There are many guys who want to enjoy your company without commitment. How can you tell the difference, especially when it feels so good when you are together.
I understand how you feel, after dating people you aren't attracted to it feels good with him someone who you are attracted to. You have told him what you are looking for and hope he is on the same page.
So how do you know?
It is actually simple when you know what to look for.
For me as a coach for men and women, it is easy for me to see the signs and I am going to let you know exactly what to look for so you don't waste your precious time.
This podcast will give you the answer to the question!
08: Can we officially put the Fairytale to Bed?
I saw a headline that said - can officially put the Fairytale to bed and forget about marrying the Prince and living happily ever after. The article was about Megan and Harry, in this podcast, I am talking about fairytales and happily ever after. How can you see the signs that a relationship will work or won't and how you can create your own fairytale rather than fall into a personal nightmare.
07: How Men Can Increase their Confidence - Interview with Dave Rogers
Dating in the modern world can be particularly tough for men and it’s only getting harder. Dating dynamics have changed, and many men are apprehensive to approach a woman when they’re out. Online dating is not very encouraging either, with surveys showing men are only getting replies around 17% of the time.
A recent study with 20,000 responses looked at the reason’s men believe they’re single. 1. Poor looks. 2. Low self-esteem. 3. Lack of effort. 4. Not interested in a relationship. 5. Poor flirting skills. 6. Introverted. 7. Recently broken up. 8. Bad experiences from previous relationships. 9. No available women. 10. Overweight.
So how can men overcome this confidence crisis?
In this week's podcast, I interview Dave Rogers who is passionate about men's mental health and who talks about practical strategies for men to increase men's confidence.
Dave Rogers is a Global Mentor, Author, Ex Banker, Yoga Instructor, mental health advocate and also led coaching initiatives in more than 15 nations.
This is my first ever podcast interview and I was lucky Dave was so good!
If you want to see more of Dave check out his YouTube Channel Continual Shift
06: Where To Meet Quality Singles?
This is the number one question I am asked as a Relationship Coach - 'Where can you meet quality singles?' Nowadays there are more ways to meet other single people than ever before yet people are more likely to remain single.
In this week's podcast I give you the answer so you can get the relationship that YOU deserve!
05: Why do Women Choose the Bad Boy and Nice Guys Finish Last?
Why do women say that they want to meet a great guy, then end up liking the bad boys?
You know they seem to choose the narcissist who only thinks about what’s in it for them, the arsehole who doesn’t care about their feelings or the player who will just play them and leave them hurt.
A bad boy (arsehole, narcissist, player) is a guy who doesn’t care about the women’s needs or wants – it’s all about him and what he wants. He is heartless and the equivalent of a bitch!
Seems crazy to choose people who are going to be bad for you, yet women do it time and time again.
Leaving the nice guy feeling like he is totally out of luck as he just can’t get the girl!
It might seem like a crazy thing to do but there is actually a good reason why women don’t choose the nice guy and I am going to let you know what that is. Oh, and It is not that the women are choosing to deliberately cause themselves pain.
This podcast will give women the reason why they do this and help men understand what they can do be successful. b
04: The Spark Everyone is Looking For
I love the language we use when we talk about love - we say we fell in love, that we are madly in love or even crazy in love! In the Western world where we spend so much time in our heads, we love the feeling of being out of control and giving ourselves over to something we can't control!
In this week's podcast, I talk about that elusive spark that everyone is looking for. It doesn't matter how young or how old you are, everyone wants to meet someone where they feel something that they haven't felt before.
I talk about what the spark is and some of the common myths that could be stopping you getting the very love you want.
03: Why People Find Love When they Least Expect it!
Maybe you have been given the advice that – ‘you will find love when you least expect it’. Or you have heard the cliche? Things are usually a cliche as they happen so often. In this week's podcast, I let you know why people do find love when they least expect it.
02: Find the 1 in 2021
Do you want to know how to get a relationship in 2021?
Maybe you were looking for a relationship in 2020 and it just didn’t happen? You might have started the year full of hope only to be hit by a global pandemic that changed everything! COVID changed our lives and that included dating!
Maybe you even started to feel like even the universe/God was against you especially after experiencing a global pandemic!!
Don’t lose heart, if you didn’t find love in 2020 then 2021 can be your year.
This podcast tells you how!
Here is the blog mentioned in the podcast - https://www.debbierivers.com.au/12-hacks-for-a-winning-online-dating-profile/
01: How Did I Get Started as a Relationship Coach
As a Relationship Coach, I am always asked this one question I’m often asked is "How on earth did you get started in all this?"
It's a great question and one I answer in my first podcast along with what I do!
I’ve been doing this for over a decade. I’m consumed with empowering singles just like you to be successful in love. I am obsessed with having bigger conversations about love, dating and relationships. The ones that change lives.
I want to cut through the superficial stuff that just doesn't work.