Dare 2 Date
By Debbie Rivers
I’m an internationally accredited Relationship Expert I’ve been doing this for a decade. I’m consumed with empowering singles just like you to be successful in love. I am obsessed with having bigger conversations about love, dating and relationships. The ones that change lives.
Dare 2 DateApr 19, 2022
84: Why do you keep dating the wrong people? Let's Change that!
Why do you keep dating the wrong people? Let's change that!
Are you tired of dating the wrong people? Do you feel like you're always getting your heart broken? If so, this podcast is for you!
In this episode, we'll explore 6 reasons why you might be choosing the wrong people, and we'll give you powerful steps to break your pattern and find the right person for you.
We'll also discuss:
- How to identify the red flags that you're dating the wrong person
- How to set boundaries and protect yourself from getting hurt
- How to find your worth and attract the right person for you
If you're ready to change your dating life, listen to this podcast today!
You might also want to check out:
Stepping into Love https://debbierivers.com.au/get-the-relationship-you-want/ or
How to Find the Best Match for YOU/https://debbierivers.com.au/how-to-choose-the-best-match-for-you/
83: How to Avoid a Situationship When You Want More!
Are you tired of being in situationships? Do you want to know how to find a real relationship?
In this episode, we'll discuss what a situationship is, why they're so common, and how to avoid them. We'll also give you some tips on how to find a real relationship that meets your needs.
So if you're ready to stop wasting your time on situationships and start dating for real, listen to this episode!
Here are some of the topics we'll cover in the episode:
- What is a situationship?
- Why are situationships so common?
- How to avoid situationships
- How to find a real relationship
- Tips for dating for real
So, grab your favourite beverage, and get comfy to listen to the latest Dare2Date episode now. So you can start paving your way towards the love and connection you've been longing for. 🎉💖
Remember, you deserve nothing less than genuine love and a fulfilling relationship. Let's kick those situationships to the curb and welcome lasting love into our lives.
Stay tuned, stay fabulous, and keep embracing the beautiful journey of love!
Sending you all the positivity and good vibes,
82: Finding Love the 2nd Time Around: Is it Harder?
Finding Love the 2nd Time Around: Is It Harder?
Finding love the second time around can be a daunting task. After all, you've been there, done that, and you know what it takes to make a relationship work. But the stakes are higher this time around. You have more to lose and you're not willing to settle for just anyone.
Finding love the first time around can be tough. But finding love the second time around can be even harder. The stakes are higher, you're more jaded, and you're not sure what you're looking for.
In this episode, I'll talk about the challenges of finding love the second time around. I'll discuss how to overcome your fears, how to be open to new possibilities and how to find someone who is truly compatible with you.
I'll also talk about Kim Kardashian's list for "Mr Perfect" and why it doesn't work. In fact, it may be the reason that you are single. Let's talk about why it is a recipe for disappointment.
If you're looking for love the second time around, this episode is for you.
Listen to this episode to learn:
- The challenges of finding love the second time around
- How to overcome your fears and be open to new possibilities
- Why Kim Kardashian's list for "Mr Perfect" doesn't work
This episode is perfect for:
- Anyone who is looking for love the second time
- Anyone who is jaded about dating
- Anyone who is looking for a realistic and practical guide to finding love
Listen to this episode now!
81: Dating Advice Doesn't Work
Hey there, it's Debbie Rivers, your go-to Dating & Relationship Coach, and I've got something important to share with you in this eye-opening episode. Brace yourself as we dive headfirst into the dating advice world and question the age-old wisdom that's been floating around for ages.
I'll be your guide on this journey as we peel back the layers and uncover why traditional dating advice often falls flat and frustrates us. It's time to challenge the status quo and discover a new path to finding meaningful connections.
If you're tired of sifting through countless advice columns and feeling like you're getting nowhere, this episode is an absolute must-listen. Together, we'll unravel the truth behind the limitations of generic dating advice and explore an approach that works.
Get ready to blow your mind as we shatter common misconceptions and offer practical tips for creating genuine, fulfilling relationships. This isn't your run-of-the-mill advice; it's a game-changer that will transform your dating life.
I'd like you to join me as we flip the script on what you thought you knew about dating and relationships. It's time to break free from ineffective advice and embrace a fresh perspective.
So, grab your favourite headphones, open your mind to new possibilities, and immerse yourself in this episode. Together, we'll rewrite the narrative and empower you to take control of your romantic journey.
Get ready, because things are about to change for the better. Let's embark on this transformative adventure together!
80: Dogfishing, Wokefshing, Kittenfishing & Hatfishing: Are they the real reason you aren't getting a 2nd date.
In this week’s podcast, I delve into the world of Dogfishing, Wokefishing, Kittenfishing, and Hatfishing, and explore whether they might be the real reasons you aren't getting that coveted second date. 🐶🎣😺🎩💔
I'll answer your burning questions like:
🐕❌ What Dogfishing is and how does it impact your dating experience?
🌍❌How can Wokefishing hide who someone really is, leaving you feeling misled?
😺❌ What Kittenfishing is, and how can it sabotage genuine connections?
🎩❌And how does Hatfishing play with our perceptions of attraction and authenticity?
The podcast will give you the knowledge to recognize these behaviours, avoid common pitfalls, and empower you to navigate the dating world with confidence and clarity. I'll share practical tips and strategies for identifying and addressing these dating dilemmas, ensuring you can build meaningful connections based on honesty and authenticity. 💪💖
So, if you're ready to unmask the truths behind Dogfishing, Wokefishing, Kittenfishing, and Hatfishing, and discover how they may be impacting your dating life, tune in.
Subscribe now and be part of the conversation that will revolutionize the way you approach dating! 🎉🎙️✨
#UnmaskingDatingDeceptions #DatingTruths #AuthenticConnections #DecodeTheGame
79: The Story Of How I Started Dare2Date and Became a Relationship Coach
A question I am asked all the time is how did I decide to run singles events and become a Dating/Relationship Coach.
In this week's podcast, I share my personal story about why I started Dare2Date.
78: Mindful Dating with Special Guest Lauren Smith
In this week's podcast, I interview Lauren Smith from New Jersey in America about Mindful Dating. Lauren shares with us:
- What Mindful Dating is and how it will help you get the relationship you want.
- How to deal with dating anxiety.
- How to give yourself self-compassion.
- Specific tools you can use to deal with your anxiety.
Lauren is an author, speaker, and host of the Date in Peace Podcast. Lauren combines her own personal success story with her professional mindfulness training, to empower singles to ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they so deeply deserve.
You can find Lauren on:
Instagram - @mettadate
Website - https://www.mettadatestudio.com
Combining her own personal success story with her professional mindfulness training, Lauren empowers singles to ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they so deeply deserve.
77: Is there a way you can make sure someone is the right for you on a first date?
Last week I had a radio interview where I was asked a question that came from a reddit feed where a woman said how she tested men on dates to make sure they were suitable. She would meet them at a place where you BBQ'd your dinner and also shucked oysters. She felt that this was a great test to see how they dealt with doing something outside of the square. Also that shucking oysters is challenging and felt that it is a good test of the person's character to see how they respond.
In the radio interview, I was asked if this was a good test or not (find out my answer in this podcast).
This got me thinking about how do you make sure the person you date is right for you?
Should you look for red, green, or beige flags on your date? Or is there a specific test that will guarantee you don't end up with another person who wastes your valuable time?
Let's face it you don't want another narcissistic, user or unavailable single.
In this week's podcast, I let you know what my answer was to the radio interview as well as answer these questions for you.
76: Do You Have a Broken Picker?
In this week's podcast, I am talking about having a broken picker!
What does this mean?
It means you keep dating the wrong type of people for you. You might think that they look different on the outside, and have different personalities but underneath all of that, they have the same behaviour as your ex.
Or you just have a habit of picking and being attracted to people who aren't good for you or want the same thing that you do.
Maybe you keep dating people who:
- Cheat on you
- Are unavailable
- Who just take and don't give anything back.
- Who are selfish
- Are controlling
Maybe you think if only someone could choose for you, you could get the relationship you have always wanted.
I take a closer look at what will work to get you that relationship!
75: True Love After Dating Every Disaster @@!
Time for another success story to give you hope that yours is on the way! There really isn't anything better than hearing someone's story who has been where you have been.
In this podcast, I talk to Donna Maree, who has a wonderful love story and is married to her soulmate.
Before meeting him, Donna told me that she dated every disaster in Perth, Melbourne and overseas (slight exaggeration, but you get the picture, right)!
I ask Donna:
1. How did they meet?
2. How she got over all her dating disasters.
3. What type of ‘work’ did she need to do on herself to get the relationship she had always wanted?
4. And so much more.
- Instragam - @donnamareerichardson
- Website - https://www.donnamareepsychic.com/
- Podcast - Beyond with Donna Maree Psychic Medium
74: Are you Suffering from Emotional Fatigue from Dating?
In this week's podcast, I am talking about what you can do to move from emotional fatigue in your dating life.
Dating can be full of people who:
- Want to boost their self-esteem but do not want to date.
- Have bad behaviour.
- People who are chatting to ease their loneliness
- Singles who only want a hook-up and to move on to the next person.
- People who want a long-term relationship.
You will experience:
- Narcissists, players and love bombers!
- You can be objectified
- Or continually rejected.
Often there are no social ramifications for bad behaviour as there would be in a real-life situation.
I talk about what you can do to go from being a victim of your circumstances to changing the outcome.
So you can translate your matches into real-life dates.
73: Do Great Relationships Just Happen? Interview with Amanda Lambros, Love Coach & Forensic Sexologist
I’m excited to be having a special guest on the Dare2Date podcast this week. Amanda Lambros.
Amanda is a Counsellor, Love Coach, Sexologist, Author, Speaker and Academic. Amanda helps individuals and couples become happier, more connected and begin to finally feel appreciated and heard.
In the interview, we talk about what it takes to create and maintain a wonderful relationship.
I also ask Amanda:
- 1. What does a Sexologist do and why Amanda decided to train as one?
- About the effect that sex has on relationships.
- Is it just a matter of meeting the perfect person and everything will work out?
- Amanda regularly works with couples and sees the issues and challenges they face. So, I asked Amanda what advice she would give to singles to find the right person for them.
- People are also talking about how you have to do the work, what does that even mean?
- What are the most significant things that you wished singles knew before finding love?
You can find Amanda on: Instagram - @AmandaLambros https://www.amandalambros.com/
72: A Real Life Love Story - Finding Love Over 40 with 2 Young Children
There are so many dating horror stories out there that it is easy to feel that it is impossible to meet someone you like let alone are able to fall in love with. I have decided to do a series of real-life love stories to help you see what is possible for you. Because there is nothing like hearing a love story from someone who is in a similar position as you are to see what is possible. The love stories will be sprinkled in with my regular podcast.
You are in for a treat in this week's podcast.
I am interviewing Becca Maxwell from Do Divorce Right about how she found love after divorce. Becca had divorced in her 40s, had two young children and lived in Asia at the time. She couldn't see how it would be possible to date let alone find love.
Today Becca is in a beautiful relationship with a man she adores and who adores her. They have created a wonderful blended family where her children adore her partner and his children love her.
I ask Becca:
1. How did they meet?
2. How she was able to open her heart up after the divorce?
3. What type of ‘work’ did she need to do on herself to get the relationship she had always wanted?
4. When they introduced their children to each other?
4. How they were able to manage the blended family?
You can find Becca on:
- Instragam - @dodivorceright
- Website - www.dodivorceright.com
- Podcast - Do Divorce Right
71: Exclusive Interview with the Founders of the Dating App Ziinkle - Elisse Alexander and Melanie Leahy
This. is a podcast interview that you don't want to miss! I am talking to the founders of Ziinkle, Elisse Alexander and Melanie Leahy. Ziinkle was launched in March 2022 and is a next-gen dating app that gets people meeting in real life by providing real-time information about which venues are buzzing with singles. Elisse and Melanie describe Ziinkle as a dating GPS for singles so you're in the right place at the right time.
it's not every day that you get to talk to the founders of an innovative dating app like Ziinkle.
In this podcast, Elisse and Melanie talk about what Ziinkle is and why they created another dating app.
I then asked them :
- What trends they are seeing on Ziinkle? You definitely need to listen to their answers about. the trends Australian daters are experiencing. Ziinkle has also just completed their 2023 Dating Trends and Insights Report on what trends they see in their dating.
- I asked them what makes people successful on dating apps. and whether algorithms are really to blame when you are unsuccessful.
- We talked about the ratio of male to female users.
- Plus so much more.
70: Let's Talk about Gender Stereotypes in Dating/Relationships!
In this week's podcast, I discuss gender stereotypes when it comes to dating and relationships.
- What is a gender stereotype?
- Are gender stereotypes alive and well?
- Are they accepted and even expected?
- How do your unconscious views affect your dating life?
Talking about gender stereotypes can be a controversial polarising subject. Why? Because everyone has a different view.
You only have to Google masculine and feminine energy and you will find a lot of information that can easily be misunderstood.
I touched on this subject in Episode 51 - The Romance Gap. In this podcast, I will dive a little deeper.
I would also love to hear your thoughts on this subject!
69: "Deb, I don't want to waste anymore time! I'm ready to meet someone, can you help me?"
As a dating/relationship coach, there are common problems that people contact me about, one is around wasting time
Each week I speak to 1 to 2 women who call me and say:
"Deb, I don't want to waste any more time. I am ready to be in a relationship and know what I want. Can you help me?"
My answer is YES!
For many of these women, the stakes are high. They could be in their 30s and want a family or they are looking for love the 2nd time around and know that who they choose to be with will impact their children.
The problem is that having the mindset that they don't want to waste time often makes them waste even more time.
Have you ever noticed when you are in a hurry for something to happen or to do something? Often when you are in a rush you can make silly mistakes, or even miss out on or not notice opportunities.
In this week's podcast, I let you know why not wasting time is a problem and let you how to change the wasting time mindset so you don't waste your time.
Instead, you can slow down to save time!
In the podcast, I talk about a process I take my clients through that works. If you don't want to try coaching, you can find how to work through this process in the How to Find the Best Match for YOU".
68. The Top Dating Trends and Predictions for 2023
The last couple of years of COVID has been tough for single people. I am sure you have asked yourself if 2023 be any better.
I have good news for you the majority of the dating trends and predictions for 2023 are positive!
Singles are entering 2023 with possibility and positivity - YAY!
A trend is something that is -
The general direction that something is developing or changing. or
The trends and predictions are based on a significant amount of data.
Listen to this week's podcast to find out what to expect.
67: 10 Tips on What to do if you are Newly Single and Not sure what to Do!
You aren't alone! Did you know that:
- 39%of people on Bumble have ended a marriage or a serious relationship in the past two years.
- 36% of those people are using dating apps for the first time. This means that more people are learning to navigate what dating looks like now.
The question I was asked so many times over the past fear weeks is:
I’m newly single and am nervous about trying internet dating as I’ve never done it. What tips can you give me?
There are so many tips I can give you that I’m not sure where to start!
Maybe you keep hearing from friends and everyone else that dating is horrific or it's a jungle out there.
In this week's podcast, I will give you practical tips so you know what to do and how to have fun in the process.
If you have been single for a while, the podcast may give you a fresh perspective.
66: How do you Deal with Christmas When you are Single and Make the Most of it
How do you deal with Christmas and make the most of it? I know some people LOVE Christmas and others HATE it! It doesn’t matter which one you are because no matter how you feel, it happens every year!
The last few years have been like no others! For me, 2022 was particularly hard as my mum passed away. For many people, including myself, it has made me appreciate the personal relationships in my life more than anything else. With that in mind, let’s use Christmas 2022 to celebrate the relationships we do have and rather than focusing on what annoys us or what we don’t have,
It can be tough being single when you don’t want to be and I have some specific tips to help you out in my blog How to Get Through Christmas Being Single. I know you may have to spend more time with those tactless relatives and friends who say something that upsets you, so it helps to have ways to deal with Christmas. This podcast is all about how to make the most of the day and how to deal with Christmas, I hope it helps you.
65: Are you Smart & Successful but aren't getting the Same Results in Your Love Life?
The question I am often asked is:
I am smart and successful. I have achieved results in my life but I’m not getting the same results when it comes to love and relationships. Why can't I get the same success in my love life?
This is a question I am asked all the time. Now if you asked me this in a coaching session I would take a deep dive and look at exactly what is happening in your life and why this is the case because of course everyone's situation isn't the same.
In this week's podcast, I’m unable to do that. So, I will answer the question generally with some of the common reasons that it happens.
I will also give you a step-by-step guide for what you can do to change this.
In the podcast, I ask some reflection questions. In case you didn't manage to write them all down, here they are:
As the year comes to an end, it is time to take a step back and reflect on the year you have lived. Let’s look at what happened in your life and what you did to achieve that.
- What were the main events and milestones in your life in 2022?
- What did you create, achieve and make happened (the big and the small)
- What were your happiest moments?
- When did you have the most fun?
- When and where did you feel the most peace?
- What was the most unexpected thing about the year?
- What did you discover about yourself?
- What are you proud of?
- When did you feel the most love?
- What were your hardest moments?
- What were your biggest challenges?
- What are the lessons you have learned?
- What will 2022 be remembered for in your life?
Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for abundance.
What do you want to happen when it comes to love in your life?
64: Are you Waiting & Hoping to Meet Someone and It Hasn't Happened for YOU?
I have just come back from an overseas trip to India/Singapore. It was delightful to be able to go overseas again and one of the best parts of travelling is the conversations that you have along the way.
As a Dating/Relationship Coach, people open up to me with their love stories, their heartaches and everything in between and this trip was no different.
While I was in Hyderabad I met a 71 lady who told me told me her sad story and unfortunately it is one I hear all too often. In this week's podcast, I talk about her story and how you can make sure that her story doesn't become your story.
This weeks podcast is for you if you are waiting and hoping to meet someone and it hasn't happened for you.
63: Is this Getting In the Way of Your Dating Success
Are you single and don't want to be? Are you getting frustrated that you just aren't getting the results that you want when it comes to meeting someone you like.
In this week's podcast , I give you some insight into what could be getting in the way of your own success and how to change that.
The reality is you are not given the desire for love without the capacity to make it happen.
62: Manifest-dating is the Latest Trend - Let's Unpick it!
The latest trend is manifesting and everyone is talking about it. They have even come up with new terminology - ‘manifest-dating’.
On TikTok any videos that have the hashtag, #manifestation have received 20.2 billion views. Yep, you heard right 20.2 billion views! That is an enormous amount of views!
You may hear the word manifesting and feel like it sounds woo-woo. Yet you only have to look at the 20.2 billion views to see that people are into it.
According to the dating app Badoo – who can up with the term manifest-dating – there have been more than a quarter of singles who have already tried manifest-dating and then there are almost two-thirds who want to try it.
Why is manifest-dating so popular? It is because dating can feel so tough nowadays and daters are looking for how to change that. They want answers!
More research from Badoo found that 96% of daters struggle with negative thoughts, nerves, and self-sabotage when it comes to dating and love. The research found that the most common worry for 38% of singles was doubting that their date is interested in them.
The good news is that Badoo found that 74% of people who have tried manifest-dating have become luckier in love as a result.
In this week's podcast, I explore the world of manifest dating and how it can work for you.
61: How to Deal with Rejection and Not Take it to Heart
Is your biggest fear walking up to someone and being rejected?
Does the fear of rejection stop you from taking action to meet someone?
If you have answered yes, this week's podcast is for you!
I am sure you have heard the cliche advice, 'Don't take it Personally' but how do you do that when it feels personal?
Listen to find out the way to deal with rejection and get the results that you deserve!
60: The Rise of The Single Lonely Man
An article by Psychologist Greg Matos has gone viral. You will see it everywhere! In the article, Greg talks about the rise of the Lonely Single Man and three broad relationship trends.
He starts the article by saying that younger and middle-aged men are the loneliest they’ve been in generations. That over the last 30 years, men have become part of the larger group of the growing number of long-term single people. The problem is that research has found that men are generally happier and healthier when they are in a relationship than being single.
He then discusses the 3 reasons why.
In today's podcast, I talk about the article. Then I discuss what men and women can do to get success in the dating world rather than increase their loneliness.
59: Ghosting - What is It and What do 335 Singles Think About it?
Ghosting is a modern phenomenon! You may be lucky enough not to have never been ghosted and wondering what it is! It is when someone you have been chatting to on an app, dating or in a relationship with disappears from your life. This could be after chatting online, a date, months or years!
People have been ending relationships badly since the beginning of time but it has become so much easier on mobile phones and dating apps have made this so much easier. Ghosting people you barely know and who aren’t part of your daily life is easy to do without facing or seeing the effects.
I have been collecting the survey results of What Singles Think. In the survey, I asked lots of questions and three specific questions on ghosting.
- Have you Ever Ghosted Someone?
- If yes, why did you ghost them?
- Do you believe ghosting is okay?
In this week's podcast, you will find out what 335 singles thought about ghosting.
As a coach for men and women, I talk about how ghosting on dating apps is causing people to miss out on amazing singles. As well as how to date without ghosting and how to deal with ghosting.
58: Are you Confusing a Wound Mate for a Soul Mate?
Do you want to meet someone and feel something you haven’t felt before? Are you looking for that wonderful spark and to meet your soul mate?
It’s natural to look for that wonderful feeling. However, basing who you chose to be with solely on chemistry can be a recipe for disaster rather than happiness.
Let me explain why.Basing the choice on chemistry and lust can lead you to a Wound Mate rather than a Soul Mate!
What can happen is you are attracted to people due to unresolved issues within you then you go on to recreate those very issues in your relationships.
This can happen from one failed relationship or even a series of failed relationships. Or it can come from childhood without you even realising it.
In this week's podcast, I explain what a Wound Mate is, and why it initially feels so good but doesn't stay that way.
I also talk about how you can break this pattern to choose a healthy relationship instead.
57: Fours Steps to Falling in Love & Keeping Love Alive
Do you think you will just meet someone and just know they are the one because you are pre-destined to meet? That you will click, feel chemistry or that elusive spark?
Do you base your decision on who you will date purely on physical attraction?
Dating apps have made dating more superficial than ever before but it takes so much more to fall in love.
Did you know that there are four parts/steps to falling into love and physical attraction is only one part of that?
With approximately 50% of first marriages ending in divorce, it helps to know what they are. It is also important to follow the same steps to keep your relationship strong and healthy.
In this week's podcast, you will take a look at what it takes to fall in love and keep your love alive.
56: Ok, you're single and want to meet someone, how do you guarantee you will have a good relationship?
You're single and want to meet someone and have an amazing relationship.
But how do you guarantee that it will be a good relationship?
What should you look for and what should you do why you are waiting to meet the right person for you?
In this week's podcast, I tell you what research of 11,196 couples found were the three things to look for that make you much more likely to have a wonderful, healthy relationship.
55: Do You Need to Love Yourself to Find Love?
I came across a meme on Instagram that said:
Stop telling people that no one will love them until they love themselves. Stop planting the idea in people's brains that they are unworthy of love because of their own struggles.
In this week's podcast, I talk about whether you need to love yourself to find love.
54: Is the Dating Pool Stagnant?
I recently saw a meme with a green stagnant swimming pool with the heading, 'The Dating Pool' and the comment missing the sharks!
I regularly see memes like these talking about how bad the dating pool is. However, is it?
In this week's podcast, I give you the answer as well as the top 6 ways of thinking that could be keeping you single.
53: How your conversation can either spark attraction or kill it!
It doesn't matter where you meet someone you will always need to have a conversation with them.
Did you know that that conversation can either get you a date or guarantee you don't see the person again?
In this week's podcast, I am talking about what works and what doesn't. This is based on over a decade of experience seeing singles meet in action.
52: Red Flags, Pink Flags or Greens Flags - What do you Look For?
It is easy to get obsessed with all the negatives in the dating world. The horror stories, the bad behaviour and you might even find yourself getting caught up in all toxic dating trends like ghosting, haunting, benching, situationships, etc.
It leaves you looking for red flags so you don't end up in a bad relationship.
If you are wondering what red flags are - they are a warning sign that something is wrong!
You could end up spending so much time focusing on red flags that, that is all you see.
Does it work to look for red flags or should you be looking for green flags instead? Green flags are the opposite of red flags. They are the positive behaviours and actions that you want in a partner.
Do you look for red or green or both?
I answer this question as well as what you can do to make sure you create the healthy, wonderful supportive relationship you have always dreamt of.
I also promised I would give you the link to - How to Choose the Best Match for You.
51: The Romance Gap
I am sure you have heard of the gender pay gap and gender equality but have you heard of the Romance Gap? It’s like the pay gap but for your love life! The dating app bumble commissioned a survey with interesting results. They found that 86% believed that equality was important in dating and relationships. However, 74% of respondents said there were different expectations and expected behaviour depending on your gender when it comes to relationships.
They found that traditional gender roles and expectations are still very present, and even, accepted in dating. In fact, they found that some of the actions we feel are romantic for men are seen as negative/bad when women do them.
For example, it is seen as passionate when a man says he loves you after a month but needy if a woman does the same. When a guy doesn’t text, he is seen as playing it cool but when a woman doesn’t text back she is playing hard to get.
In this week’s podcast, I discuss what they found and what the solution is.
50: Does Strong Chemistry Guarantee that a Relationship will Work?
Everyone I talk to wants to meet someone they like and someone they feel something they have never felt before. They want to meet someone with who they have that wonderful, mysterious spark of attraction. Hoping when they follow that intense attraction for the other person that they will be lucky enough to find someone who is also compatible, who has a good character and who they can trust.
However, I see too many single people looking for a solid type of love from someone who is simply unable to give it to them.
There is a Buddhist saying - 'If you meet someone and your heart pounds, your hands shake and your knees go weak - that's not the one! When you meet your soulmate you will feel calm, no anxiety, no agitation!
In this week's podcast, I talk about why that initial attraction is no guarantee that your relationship will work out. I also talk about why the initial attraction can die out for one person and how to avoid this.
49: Date Smarter Rather than Harder
Do you hate being single and want to get results.
Singles tell me every day just how frustrated they are.
Being a Dating/Relationship Coach I always ask them what they are doing about meeting someone!
They often answer ‘Not much’ and add ‘it doesn’t work so why bother!’
Or for others, they are exhausted from spending a lot of time on apps swiping obsessively. Yet when I look at what they are doing they don’t send messages or arrange any dates.
The reality is that this is the reason why way too many singles are not getting results on dating apps. They are doing dating apps by not doing them!
Spoiler alert, if you don’t do anything you are going to stay single. Dating, just like anything else in life it takes some type of effort on your part. Laziness doesn’t get results nor does avoiding it!Can you relate to this:
Do you Hate Being Single But......
- Say no to everyone
- You don't bother to reply on apps for days or weeks
- Send minimal responses
- Unmatch for the dumbest things
- Cancel dates cos you don't feel like the effort
Okay maybe you are a hopeless romantic and you are hanging out for that rare love story where you meet serendipitously (found by some miraculous chance) as it is your destiny. But, I see way too many singles who have waited for a decade and nothing has happened. The reality is that you can’t count on that chance meeting. What you can count on is putting some real effort into getting results on dating appsIt is all about being smarter in how you use dating apps rather than working harder! In this week's podcast, I am going to tell you how!
48: Having your Sh*t Together is Dead S*xy!
Having your shit together will instantly make you more attractive to the type of person you want to meet!
This isn't just based on my opinion, it is based on research and data from all the major dating platforms/apps.
Back in 2019 singles rated physical attractiveness as the thing they most wanted in a partner, yet in 2022 only 70% did.
In 2022, singles are looking for people who want to be the best versions of themselves and put more importance on stability and security.
I tell you more in this week's podcast.
47: Ladies Don't Owe You Pretty
This week I talk about how women don't owe you pretty. I will also talk about why safety matters to women and why approaching women you don't know calling them pretty doesn't work as it does in the movies!
Men and women are equal but the reality is that they think and act completely different in ALL areas of their life, particularly dating! Those differences are what gets in the way of success.
Both men and women put themselves out there holding to be loved, accepted and validated. However, in the superficial world of dating, they often get the opposite - rejection, disappointment or crappy relationships that even border on abusive!
Maybe it makes you feel like you need to kill, change, squish or minimize who you are to be wanted!
That doesn't work, in fact, it leads to more unhappiness and losing who you are just to be wanted by someone else.
In this podcast, I will have the conversation about what you can do and how you can feel good about yourself.
46: Simple Tips that Work to Keep Yourself Safe When Dating Online and IRL
At the moment in an uncertain world where you still want to meet someone, online dating is a good option. 1/3 of all Australians and around 50% of Americans meet and marry someone they met online.
The problem is that you have heard all the horror stories about online dating and it scares you.
How do you keep yourself safe from dating scams and even date rape?
In this week's podcast, I give you the simple tips that will keep you safe and allow you to enjoy online dating without being scared that you will be another terrible statistic.
45: How Self-sabotage can Get in the Way of Your Happiness
If you have come out of a string of failed relationships, you might not be able to trust yourself anymore.
Maybe you have a habit of picking someone who isn't over their ex, someone who doesn't want the same type of commitment that you do or worst of all people who cheat on you. You may want to meet someone but don't trust yourself not to choose another loser.
After a string of failed relationships, it is hard to trust your own judgement! So, you think what if someone could just choose someone for me, surely then it would work out.
But you only have to watch an episode of MAFS to see that isn't always the case as you may be stuck in the trap of self-sabotaging your own happiness.
In this week’s podcast, I talk about how self-sabotage can get in the way of your happiness even when you meet the right person.
44: What's Getting in the Way of Your Results Meeting Quality Singles
Did you decide that 2022 is your year to date but you still aren't getting the dates or the results that you want?
When things don't work out it is easy to come up with stories as to why! Maybe you tell yourself that it's because there aren't any good singles out there, that all the good ones are taken or you are not getting results because the online profiles are fake! It is easier to say all men are...... or all women are....
Some of the stories/reasons may make sense and some can be crazy, yet when you are struggling with things, of course, you will come up with all these reasons because looking at yourself and taking responsibility is not always the first thing any of us do.
Let's look at what may be getting in the way including what we expect from relationships nowadays.
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43: Did you set a new year's resolution to find a relationship in 2022?
I was excited to do my 1st Podcast for 2022 and it was the perfect day for it - National Ditch the New Year's Resolution Day! It seems the 17th day of the new year is the day people decide to ditch their new year's resolutions. You know they decide to ditch the torturous diets and horrible exercise regimes and celebrate with an extra glass of wine!
Did you set a new year's resolution to find love in 2022 and already feel a bit disappointed with how things are going? Or have you decided you want this year to be different but it seems the same as any other year?
If you have answered yes, then this podcast is for you!
'Each day is a blank page in the diary of life. The secret of success is in turning that diary into the best story you possibly can.
Every day, you're given a chance to determine what the words will say and how the story will unfold. The more joyful and rewarding you make each page, the more amazing each chapter will be.
And I hope you turn the story of this whole year into a masterpiece.' - Douglas Pagels
42: January is Peak Online Dating Season -Here’s How to Succeed
The new year is about new beginnings, resolutions and setting goals. At the top of many single’s list of new year’s resolutions is finding love or simply getting a date. Multiple dating apps report that the first Sunday in January is the busiest day of the year, with all the major apps seeing a significant spike in new members. So, if you’re looking for love or someone to date, January is the time!
In this week's podcast, I give you tips on how to succeed and get the results that you deserve. succeed:
I didn't cover what to chat about in the messages when you get a match, as it would have been too long. So, I have included this link to my blog - 3 Startling Examples of Online Dating Messages that Get Results
41: Interview with Dave Rogers How Men can Laugh more and Get Past their Anger
In this week's podcast, I interview Dave Rogers who is passionate about men's mental health. We have a real conversation about dating, men's anger and their mental health. Dave provides practical strategies for men to increase their confidence and get past the anger they are feeling and even find out how they can laugh more.
Dave shares how to have the perfect date, how to laugh at yourself, how to express your feelings and how to be impeccable with your words to others and especially to yourself.
Dave Rogers is a Global Mentor, Author, Ex Banker, Yoga Instructor, mental health advocate and also led coaching initiatives in more than 15 natioNS.
If you want to see more of Dave check out his YouTube Channel Continual Shift
40: Let's Talk about When to Have Sex, Wasting Time and the 10 Date Rule!
This week's podcast is for the ladies out there, especially those who are sick and tired of wasting time on men who don't want to commit or who change their minds about being in a relationship.
I have the bigger conversation about sex when to have it, does it matter and what are the odds of a one-night stand turning into more.
I also talk about what the 10 Date Rule is, as well as the pros can cons of the 10 Date Rule.
In this week's podcast, I give you the answers.
39: How to Survive and Thrive the Christmas Period and the Actual Day
Single? How do you survive and thrive in the lead up to Christmas and the actual day?
Expectations run high, right?
There is stress related to money, family, overspending and loneliness. In fact, 1 in 5 feel lonely and almost 50% dread Christmas. All these stresses can remain hidden the rest of the year but are in your face during the Christmas period.
Being single can be tough at any of of the year but it can be worse at Christmas when it can feel like an ordeal you need to survive!
It is all too easy to look around you and see happy families/couples EVERYWHERE! You see it on TV - those cheesy Christmas movies with people with picture-perfect lives, hear about it on the radio, billboards and as you go about daily life. It can bring up all sorts of regrets, especially if you are divorced and not part of the happy family that you had always imagined you would be.
In this podcast, I give you practical tips to survive and even thrive!
38: Are you Stuck in the Instant Trap?
Are you stuck in the Instant Trap and is that preventing you from being successful in meeting the right person for you?
We live in an age where things happen instantly! You can send a message to someone on the other side of the world in real-time, you can have a photo instantly, download the novel you want to read instantly without leaving your house, there's instant coffee, ready-made meals - you don't have to wait for anything.
We live in an age of instant results and expect the same when it comes to meeting the right person.
In this week's podcast, I am talking about how to avoid the instant trap as well as not fall into the scarcity trap.
37: How to Avoid Dating Burnout and Actually Enjoy Dating
Most people have heard of burnout – the term was originally related to work and happened when people felt exhausted and disinterested in work and often life in general.
What is dating burnout? Pretty much the same as regular burnout – you can’t bring yourself to get ready for yet another date, you experience a lack of interest in dating overall, you feel exhausted and you have lost hope of meeting anyone remotely decent.
Dating has significantly changed in the naughties – we have more access to singles through different means, yet it has never been harder to meet ‘the one’ or someone we at least want to date. Now because there appears to be so many options and singles available it is more depressing when you don’t find the relationship you are looking for.
In the age of Tinder and internet dating, dating really can feel like a 2nd job. Dating apps can be accessed through your mobile phone so the whole dating world is EVER present.
Now 2 things can happen at this stage:
- You become overwhelmed by the contact; and/or
- You don’t have much luck. So you feel like there is no hope. You think with all those singles out there that you still can’t find anyone.
The frustration you feel at this point is totally understandable and it is now you are susceptible to dating burnout!
In this weeks podcast, I give you tips to AVOID dating burnout and enjoy dating.
36: The Real Honest Truth that is stopping getting results on your dates!
Both men and women are frustrated with dating just now. In fact, there are wonderful singles who miss each other EVERY SINGLE DAY!
The reality is that men and women approach dating and relationships in a way that doesn't work for the opposite sex.
There are common mistakes that men make and common mistakes that women make. Understanding what they are and how to avoid them is a game-changer when it comes to getting results!
The REAL HONEST TRUTH is that most guys are bad daters as they often don't know what they SHOULD be doing. The guys who are great at dating are often the charmers, the players, the narcissist and the psychopaths and they are the ones you don't want as it is all about them!
In this week's podcast I talk about what you could be doing that is stopping you getting results on your dates and causing you to miss out on the person who could have been PERFECT for YOU.
35: What's Getting in the Way of Smart Successful Women Finding Love? Interview with Ronnie Ann Ryan
In this week's podcast, I interview Ronnie Ann Ryan who is a Dating Coach in the US who helps smart successful women find love or thrive with magic.
I LOVED talking to Ronnie and she is saying everything that I do! It is great to have this re-enforced from someone who is on the other side of the world in New York!
Ronnie also shares her personal story of being single and frustrated in her 40's when she was getting in the way of her own success. Ronnie went on 30 dates in 15 months and is happily married 20 years later! Ronnie believes (and so do I) that if you want love you can get it at any age.
We talked about:
- What keeps women smart, successful single and how to avoid it.
- How to spot the unavailable men (Ronnie and I can spot one a million miles away after doing coaching singles every day)
- How men can be successful too, the podcast isn't all about the ladies, there are some great insights for the men as well.
- How a degree doesn't = smart when choosing a man.
- What do men think about women's bodies as they get older in their 40's, '50s, 60's and 70's.
And so, so much more. It was an absolute pleasure to chat with Ronnie, I hope you enjoy our chat as much as I did
Ronnie Ann Ryan is a Love & Cosmic Coach who has helped 1000s of women find love for 20 years, An author of six books, and a seeker of everyday magic, she also hosts the podcast, Breathe Love & Magic. She is a down-to-earth mystic with a sense of humour, an Akashic Records reader, medium, psychic, Reiki Master, and workshop leader. Her warmth, directness, and keen insights are memorable. Ronnie’s been featured by ABC, NBC, and Fox News, BBC, NPR, MSN.com, Huffington Post, Yahoo.com! among others