Show Me Your Assets
By Dottie Dynamo
Show Me Your AssetsNov 01, 2023
Ep. 47 Self-awareness, recognizing your patterns and the perfection myth
the episode I reference about all or nothing mindset can be found here: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/rPpXecxEQDb
Ep. 45 Versions of you that don't make money
If you believe certain versions of you don't make money, does it become true? Piggybacking on a conversation I had with my old business coach Christina Montalvo this episode we talk about the versions of ourselves we've come to believe don't make money and how that believe can become its own full-filling prophecy as well as how to collect data to prove ourselves wrong
Ep. 44 Building routine with an inconsistent schedule
Building routine into your life can feel challenging when your schedule is constantly changing or inconsistent....like when you work a spicy job. In this episode we take a look into internal (home) routine vs external routine and how cultivating grounding habits build a sense of structure even when your life is constantly in flux. Grab a notebook and pen because we'll do an activity to create a tangible way to track the routine you want to build to counter your brains natural negative bias. I pull methods I use to build structure and routine into my internal world to since my external world is always changing due to being nomadic.
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Ep. 43 Business Transitions, Fosta/Sesta & Sunroom [Road Rambles Episode]
Welcome to Road Rambles a new and sporadic addition to Show Me Your Assets where I’ll record an impromptu episode about the thought’s brewing in my head while I drive.
Today I dive into what’s going on with my biz after THREE instagram suspensions, the impact of Fosta/Sesta and the podcast Operator by Wondery
Ep. 42 Dancing Later in Life + Holistic Wellness for SW'ers with Lucinda of Ess Wellness
This week I join Lucinda of Ess Wellness as we dive into the many facets of stripping that impact our over all well-being. From financial wellness to emotional labor and being stable enough to be able to take time off if personal/traumatic events impacting your ability to work. We also touch on what it's like getting into the industry later in life as we both started dancing later and how ageism in the industry has shown up for both of us.
Lucinda is a stripper, therapist and the founder of Ess Wellness. Ess Wellness is a non-judgemental wellness support For anyone working in stripping or any other form of sex work, adult entertainment or erotic entertainment.
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Ep. 41 A case against starting an LLC
You read that right, this episode is all about why you probably DON'T need an LLC or why you aren't quite ready to file for one. It seems everywhere in the online small biz/sw'er tax space talks about starting an LLC. But do you really need one? Maybe not.
Whether or not you ever file one you should be handling you money like a business and my upcoming course Stripper to CEO will take you step by step thru the process of getting financially set up like the small business owner you are!
*Quick Mentions/Corrections because I was free-flowing
-if you don't dissolve an LLC the IRS doesn't still want self-employment taxes, you will still be responsible for the yearly filing costs such as annual reports.
Ep. 40 Upgrade Your Affirmations
Affirmations are great, they help you change your self talk, which in turn helps you change your feelings. But if you don't fully believe what you're saying your brain will know. There are two tips inside today's episode to help you upgrade your affirmations and get more out of them.
Ep. 39 Tackling the shadow work of your finances as an act of self-love with Money Witch Jessie Susannah
On today's episode I sit down with Jessie Susannah Karnatz aka Money Witch.
Jessie Susannah is the founder and head witch at Money Coven, an online web of magical beings who are healing their relationship with money, showing up for their financial self care, and becoming powerful stewards to their resources.
We dive into topics such as:
*sex work as business ownership
* the powerful energy of cash
* financial literacy and adopting a growth mindset around your finances
* how you spend your money as an act of self-love for current and future you.
Ep. 38 Van Life, Spending Habits & Capitalism
Curious about my life on the road? This episode is everything I've started noticing and learning about my own spending habits and money values after living on the road for a year and a half.
I dive into:
*Money impulse vs needs
*realities of van life
*perks of a lower cost of living
Curious about creating your values ladder after listening to this episode, check out episode 25 about money value here
Ep. 37 Self Care, Sales Skills & Extras in the club with Alexa The House Mom
In this episode, I sit down with Alexa The House Mom an OG Skripper who specializes in helping strippers up their sales skills, mindset, and confidence in the club.
Some of the things we dive into:
* longevity in the industry
* having an exit strategy / managing your money
* dating and self-confidence as a dancer
* fssw and extras in the club
You can find Alexa at:
Ep. 36 Motivation and the game of averages
Struggling to feel motivated? Do you start off on new habits or routines motivated AF but by day 6 you seem to have lost it all? In this episode we dive into why the idea that you should always feel motivated is toxic and what to focus on instead.
Ep. 35 Common Money Myths & Simple Ways to Course Correct Your Finances with My Seester, Jessie Allison
In this episode, I sit down with my older sister Jessie Allison and dive into misconceptions so many of us have about money, why we (especially women) need to talk about money more, and simple ways to get started on your path to a wealthier financial future.
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Ep. 34 Give your money a fresh start in 2023
Do you know where you need and want your money to go this year? January is a great time to make a clear plan for bills, savings, debts, and all things you truly enjoy spending on like brunch, vacations, and getting your nails done. Listen along and build your 2023 spending plan.
Ep. 33 Tips for making tax time easier
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Tax time can be a stressful and anxiety-inducing time but it doesn't have to me. In this episode, I'll go over 6 tips that will help make prepping for your taxes less of a dumpster fire.
I know you're thinking "Taxes? But it's September?" Ah yes but one day after this airs your Q3 payment is due. Not paying quarterlies? Listen along to find out exactly why you should as an independent contractor AND how to figure out how much you need to pay each quarter.
Ep. 32 A Year As Travel Dancer
As I hit the one-year mark of being a full-time nomad I decided an episode dedicated to what my experience as a traveling dancer has been like was fitting.
From what I've noticed about myself and my habits at each new club, to the most common things I observe in every club I dance at, as well as tips and insights if travel dancing is something you're interested in.
Ep. 31 Natural vs Plastic Surgery does it matter?
It's the age-old debate in the SW industry do you need plastic surgery to be successful? Will it open more doors, catapult your career make you more money? But the deeper question to ask is why? Why do you feel you need it, and if you've had plastic surgery why did you get it? If men like all types of bodies why do some clubs still gate-keep based on bs body standards? But most importantly how can you recognize if you're caught up a disordered relationship with food, fitness, and your body?
Ep. 30 The Power of Compound Interest
What is compound interest and why is it so important to not only understand in terms of growing your wealth but in gains in the gym. In this episode I'll break down:
What compound interest is
How it can work for you and against you in terms of money
Why it matters in your approach to fitness and how strength compounds over time
What to look for when opening an account.
*Also I misspoke or did the math wrong in my head in regards to how many workouts you will get in over the course of a year if you workout 2x a week. It should be 104 NOT 148. Proving you can suck at math and still be good with money.
Ep. 29 Making lots of money doesn't equal being good with money
Have you ever caught yourself feeling jealous of another dancer selling lots of rooms or booking higher paying gigs and immediately assumed they must have so much money.. In today's episode, we'll talk about the importance of Minding Your Own money and dispelling the myth that making lots of money equals being rich. Because it's not how much money you make but what you do with that money that matters.
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Ep. 28 5 Mistakes SW'ers make with their money and how to avoid them
In this episode, we dive into five common mistakes sw'er make with their money and tips on how to avoid them so you can start leveraging your income into financial freedom. To get first access to enrollment and waitlist pricing for Master Your Cash Academy, join the Mind Your Money email list here.
The five mistakes I'll cover are:
1. Hoard Cash at home -
2. Not setting aside money for time off / sick days
3. Failing to save for retirement or their exit from the industry
4. Spending money as fast as you make because you think “I can always make more tomorrow”
5. Making personal and werk purchases all from the same account
Ep. 27 You're not just a dancer, you're a business are you handling your money like one?
In this episode we'll dive into why being a dancer or independent contractor means you're a sole proprietor and how that changes how you handle your money. From self-employment taxes, legal business entities, and separating werk and personal money you'll walk away with a greater understanding of the importance of handling your money like a business.
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Ep. 26 Is failing to define consistency leading you to feeling off track?
The topic of falling off track or being behind has been coming up inside Hustle, Grind, Align and I know if my clients are struggling with these ideas you likely are too. In this episode we'll go over:
*Defining consistency for yourself
*Why you can never be behind
*Planning your schedule for more consistency
*Lowering your barrier of entry so you stick to the plan you have for yourself and build up self-trust
Ep. 25 Put your money where your values are
What's so important to you about money and do your spending habits reflect that? On this episode we'll go over building a value's ladder to guide your spending/saving habits towards what you want you money you werk so hard for to provide your future self.
Ep. 24 Why the new name?
In today's episode, I'll talk about the changes in my business that lead to changing the podcast name and what to expect going forward.
Ep. 23 Bish is Back! - on being adaptable in the moment
It's been almost a year since I've recorded or published a podcast episode. Like many of you my life has been in a state of transition since Covid. Over the past two years I left NYC to live with my parents for a year, bought a van, built it out and hit the road. If being a business owner, sexy work included, and van life have anything included have anything in common its the need to be able to be adaptable in the moment. Today that's exactly what we're going to be talking about.
Ep.22 Is your willpower really your problem?
Do you not have enough willpower or are you putting it all into the wrong things? What if the willpower you're lacking is the ability to take a step back, to trust yourself to try a new approach. You might just find you’ve had all the willpower you needed to reach your goals all along, but you were getting in your own damn way.
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Ep. 21 How to get the most out of working with a coach
You've signed up for a new program, you're pumped to get started on the journey to becoming the next version of yourself. This episode will help you break down how to get the most out of it, or like the saying goes "make sure you're drinking the water the coach has led you to"
If you missed out on the last round of Hustle, Grind & Align, get ready because it's coming back in join. Hop on the waitlist here www.fitshowgrrl.com/links to be the first to know when doors open.
Ep. 20 How your thoughts create your circumstances
Today we're diving into how our thoughts not only create our circumstances they lead to our own self-fulfilling prophecies. How to tackle feelings of urgency when negative thoughts consume us and get back on track so we can create more positive beliefs about ourselves and our bodies.
Ep.19 Objectively Tracking Data
Tracking data can be a great tool for measuring what’s going well, what areas you maybe need to work a little harder, noticing patterns in your life around stress/work and how they impact you and your workouts, but can you do it objectively?
Ep. 18 Just a little bit better
In the final installment of our unintentional series I give you a mantra I use both for myself and with my clients...."Just a little bit better" and talk about the many ways in which you can use it.
Ep. 17 What are you missing out on?
Part two in an unintentional series around body fear, this week we talk about all the things you're missing out on in life because of the stories you tell yourself about your body. You've managed to wave your middle finger to the idea that you can't be a sexual creature but how are you still falling into the bs narratives around your body that keep you on the sidelines?
Ep. 16 What are you so afraid of?
We all have fears around our bodies and the stories we tell ourselves about what these fears mean about us. If you want to take the next step toward breaking free of the fear the holds you back, you have to name it.
Ep. 15 Flipping the script on Automatic Negative Thoughts
Automatic negative thoughts dictate our self-talk which can have an impact on how we feel, as well as our mental well-being. Today we'll dive into how to start noticing, naming and flipping the script on our negative thoughts
Ep. 14 The problem with 30-day workout challenges
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You know the challenges 30 day squat challenge, plank challenge, abs, hiit. Odds are you’ve tried one before. These challenges only amplify the feelings of being behind in your workouts, and that's just one of the many problems.
Ep. 13 How to gauge your energy in workouts
You stress level, sleep, emotional state, how much you’re eating…or not eating will impact your energy level and and how hard you should push in the gym. Today we'll go over the RPE scale and how to use it to build auntonmy in your workouts so you can effectively gauge your energy level.
Ep.12 BS Body Standards and The Beauty Myth
There’s a fine line between understanding that upholding a certain body aesthetic holds power in the sexy industry versus getting sucked into the body obsession to a point that it becomes unhealthy. Let's Dive in.
Ep. 11 The problem with relying on stretching
Huslte, Grind & Align is almost here! Go here to get on my mailing list so you're one of the first to find out with doors open.
How many times have you been told to stretch and foam roll after work? That the best thing you can do for you stripper body is stretch? This episode will flip all of that on it's head.
Ep.10 That time I got hit by a car
Sure on the surface this episode is about how I got hit by a car riding my bike into work Labor Day weekend of 2019, but its *actually* about so much more.
It's about how random accidents mean less work and lots of medical bills but less work means less money. It's about how years of strength training saved my ass by allowing my body to recover quicker meaning getting back to full hustle mode faster.
Are you prepared for freak accidents? illness? injury? I wasn't
Ep.9 Sexy Work & Your Self-Worth
Buckle up we address some of the demons of working in the sexy industry and how they impact our self-worth and the decisions we've made around our health & fitness. Be sure to get on the waitlist for Hustle, Grind & Align here to be the first to find out when it launches in March.
Ep. 8 Discovering your burnout cycle
The problem: you hustle yourself into burnout over and over again. Each time it feels like it takes even more out of you and longer to recover, if you even do. Discovering your personal burnout cycle will help you start to notice the signs sooner and plan ahead for inevitable burnout so you burnout less.
Hustle, Grind & Align will be launching soon, you can get on the waitlist here.
Ep. 7 The habits that are draining you
Habits can be either help you or hurt you. From making your bed or brushing your teeth daily to picking up your phone first thing or always saying yes. Getting to know the habits that drain your energy not replenish it can be the first step to filling your cup and avoiding inevitable exhaustion.
Ep. 6 How your hustle affects workout recovery
In the before times you would hit the gym during the day and hustle at night, but despite putting in the time to work on your health you still seemed to be sore, tired and on the brink of burnout. What you may not have considered is the affect of dancing on your workouts. In this episode we'll dive into how your total activity level will depend on your energy level, burnout level and ability to recover. That maybe how often and what type of training you're doing outside the club/stage/bar is impacting your burnout and recovery cycle.
Ep. 5 Why you should be tracking your workouts
Still lifting the same weights you were a year ago? The problem might be that you aren't tracking your workouts. Without a clear image of what you've been doing you're pretty much just spinning your wheels and wasting precious energy that could be used to hustle money away from men. In this episode we go over why you should be tracking your workouts and what you should be tracking so you can become a badass lifter.
Ep. 4 How 'All or Nothing' mindset is holding you back
Constantly feeling like you've fallen off the wagon? That you just need to get your habits back on track? This episode dives into All or Nothing mindset, ways it might be holding you back and what to do about it.
Ep. 3 Your eating patterns are effed.
No matter what you do, count calories, cut out sugar, go on Whole 30 you're eating patterns go back to crap. Sound Familiar? In this episode Dottie goes over what's really keeping you from getting your eating habits under control.
Ep. 2 Why you're too tired to cook
In this episode Dottie dives into the many reasons why you often feel too tired to cook, so you can better support yourself in the future.
Liberating Strippers from Diet Culture
In this episode, Dottie shares her journey from working a 9-5 to becoming a full-time stripper and anti-diet coach for women in sex work. The body struggles through it all and why she's committed to helping you strip away the diet culture you've been fed.