Thrive Like A Parent
By Dr. Brooke Weinstein
New episode every Friday.
Thrive Like A ParentSep 22, 2023
It Is Ok Not To Be Ok
EP:56 It is ok for you to be an individual.
It's okay to not have the same opinions. It's okay to feel things that others don’t.
It's okay to be a quote sensitive human. It's okay when others tell you to get over it and are not ready, and it affected me and that's okay.
All of our brains function differently. And if you're trying to model someone else or a generation or you're trying to keep up with something that was taught to you that you quote should be keeping up with but deep down you're you feel empty… Listen to that!
When Are You Fully Healed From Truama?
EP:55 A question I get asked all the time… When do you know you are finally healed from trauma?
The truth is… It's not about when is the healing over. It's about gaining awareness to understand that you actually do have control over how you feel in the midst of a trigger.
It is the ability to say, I know that I can support myself through this. I know I have the capacity to do it. I've done it before. And I know I'm going to feel okay on the other side. And that is what it's about.
The healing and work always continues. Am I more healed now than I was a year or two ago or five years ago, you bet. But I also love the person that I am here today. And I also look forward to the person I will be in a year. Like I look forward to that. And it's okay to accept it all. Healing can happen, but it does happen very slowly. And I do believe that we become wiser as we get older, we become more comfortable within our skin and more comfortable with the choices we're making and who we are and how we choose to lead our lives and not caring about what others think as much like all that happens with with time, right and experience, but also healing. So best of luck on your healing journey and know that it's okay to go slow.
What It Means To Be Sensory Sensitive
EP:54 Although being sensory seeking can be difficult at times.. You're feeling, hearing, seeing and tasting everything that most others are not. The stimuli can be overwhelming...But it can also be a beautiful benefit, personality trait and neurological trait that can support you and your life and help you find your magic, help you find what you're best at and your strengths.
Your sensory sensitivity is not a weakness friend, it’s your superpower!
After you listen to this podcast, if you have any more questions on this or are interested in working with myself or my team and get support in truly understanding how to support your brain please reach out. Let's chat, because you deserve to live a full life that support your individual nervous system and you absolutely CAN HAVE THAT.
The Podcast is 1 Year Old!
EP:53 It has officially been one year since I've started my Thrive Like a Parent podcast!!!
I am so grateful that you have chosen to trust me.
That's why I push so hard to make sure that this is done the correct way.
Thank you for trusting me in supporting you and giving you the knowledge to understand how your brain functions, how your children's brain functions and how to support both.
I can't thank you enough for your love and support for myself, my family and my children.
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Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself with Dr. Morgan Cutlip
EP:52 On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast, I was fortunate to be joined by Dr. Morgan to discuss her book coming out called Love Your Kids Without Loosing Yourself in the Process.
I was very lucky, I got a little preview. We will discuss a few things in it and a little teaser for all of you listening to my podcast to hear kind of what to expect.
I personally cannot tell you enough positive things about this book and I would love for all of you to grab yourself a copy because Dr. Morgan could not be more on the money with this book.
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First Steps Toward Healing From Fight or Flight
EP:51 On this weeks episode of Thrive like a Parent podcast we will talk steps and signs of what happens when you finally begin the process of feeling your body come out of fight or flight. And it is so crucially important to understand this because you it's going to feel not as good as you want it to feel.
is so crucially important to have this knowledge so that you don't spiral. That you don't think you're in a deep dark depression so that you don't think it's never going to end so that you know that your brain is doing exactly what it needs to do.
Spit Fire on Frequently Asked Questions
EP:50 This week I decided to do something a little different on my Thrive Like a Parent podcast.
I want to say thank you to each and every one of you who trust me to support you through this crazy journey of life and dm me your questions.
I know I don’t have the time to answer all of your questions but I will do the best I can to do that in these podcast episodes.
Tell us how you're liking the podcast in the comments below, ask questions here! This will be the easiest place for me to see them.
-> If you have any requests on specific topics let me know in the comments below.
How To Teach Our Kids Feelings
EP:49 We can support our brain into rewiring.
We can support our brain into healing.
We can support our brain into gaining more fluency within each different portion of our brain.
Your brain might push and resist away from saying the hard emotional things because your brains not used to it NOT because it can't. It's just that muscle has not been flexed enough.
That is why it is so important to teach our children how to understand feelings, what they are and how to verbalize them.
It is our responsibility as parents to teach our children this consistentely within the safely of our home so they can continue to do the same out in the world.
Join me on this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent to learn how to teach your children feelings.
Living with Hashimoto's Autoimmune Disease
EP:48 I have officially been diagnosed with Hashimotos.
It's an autoimmune disease, where your thyroid can bounce into hypothyroidism and hyperthyroidism.
It's been a hard one, it's been a real hard one to swallow.
But this will now be part of my story that I share with you and hopefully share my healing journey of what this looks like and how I am stepping in to supporting myself even more. And at the end of the day. It first and foremost starts with me on apologetically, taking care of myself.
So I choose to move forward with the awareness, with more knowledge, more grace, more understanding, more self love, and more healing. Because at the end of the day, health is the most important thing. Mental and physical. So take this today as a reminder to slow down. Take care of yourself.
How Our Choices Will Help Dictate The Next Generation
EP:47 Technology is sucking the money out of the world. It's absolutely crazy. And so many are going along with it.
It's so upsetting to me. It's so upsetting for our future generations and our children. This is not what I signed up for when I decided to have a family and have kids.
we've got to start living in reality and teaching our children that reality exists. And what that reality looks like is up to you to decide. You get to decide what this life looks like for your children, what you have them engage in and what you have them not engaged in.
On this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast, we will dive deep into how our choices will help dictate the next generation.
Parenthood and Why it is Flipping Exhausting
EP:46 The first number one step to taking care of yourself within the exhaustion of parenthood is awareness, and acceptance.
Ask yourself… How do I feel? It is ok for the answer to be I feel exhausted. You get to feel that feeling. Exhausted does not mean you're weak. Feeling exhausted does not mean that you're a bad parent. Feeling exhausted means you're probably doing a phenomenal job.
When you accept how your brain and body is feeling, you are then allowed to go after the mental health that your brain and body is craving deserves and longs for.
But in order to truly support ourselves, not only do we have to have the awareness and acceptance, but we have to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. We have to learn how to regulate ourselves.
You are so worthy of finding that self care, you are so worthy of gaining support, no matter who it is. You are so worthy of finding a community, you're so worthy of asking someone for support, you're so worthy of having a moment of silence or just to stretch before you go to bed. You are so so worthy of that. But I cannot give that to you. You have to decide for yourself.
This week on the Thrive Like a Parent podcast, we are going to discuss owning your exhaustion in parenthood and steps to take care of yourself through it without any guilt or shame.
Transitions For Our Children And Why They are Crucial To Understand
EP:45 When there is a transition, your brain is feeling discomfort.
We as parents have to support a child's brain into helping them become aware of the discomfort.
We have to guide them through the process of helping them BECOME AWARE, having lots of conversations.
There's no cure here. There's support. We cannot fix immediately, we have to support over the long haul. And consistency is key.
On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent, I dive deep into how to support your child through transitions, teach them to continue allowing their brain to say, I'm going to keep going despite the discomfort, I'm going to keep going despite the fear, I'm going to keep going despite the lack of knowledge of where the where the heck this is leading me to and set them up for success.
Why It’s So Hard to Take Time For Myself Away From My Children
EP:44 On his week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast… we're going to talk about why it's so damn hard to take time for yourself away from your kids.
I believe that we get in this state of only focusing in on our children that we totally forget that we too exist.
I promise you, it doesn’t have to be that way.. In fact it SHOULDN’T be that way!
What I'm telling you is there is an incredible ability for you to become the captain of your own ship, despite the feelings discomfort, guilt, shame.
It might be wildly uncomfortable.
But is it worth it? You better fucking believe it's worth it. It's worth every ounce of moments away and self care and self love and you better believe it.
Because when you come back, it's magic.
Because you have given yourself what you need to then show up for your children, to show up for your partnership, show up for yourself. You have gifted yourself the gift of honor and mental health.
Join me to dive deep into how you too can enjoy time away from your kids without any guilt or shame.
Stop Telling Your Children How They Feel
EP:43 Our children have feelings and they are in there. They may not understand or be able to identify the word but they sure as hell have them and it is up to us to help them feel the safety and comfort of pulling it out of their body and to be able to verbalize it.
So crucially important.
We don't want to minimize, we don't want to belittle, we don't want to overshadow… We just want to validate that's it. Just be present that's it just be present to the vulnerability of our children.
That will get you so much farther in trust with them and connection with them. And the ability to know that they are okay. And that they have the tools to spread their wings and fly.
Join me on this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast for tools, actionable steps into how to help your children find the feelings themselves, how to help your children learn how to communicate their own feelings, rather than us giving it to them.
Post Partum Rage and Dysregulation
EP:42 This week on the Thrive Like a Parent podcast we are talking about a topic that was requested by YOU the listeners, which is postpartum, rage and dysregulation within postpartum.
In order to understand how we get to that place of postpartum rage and dysregulation, we have to take a step back in terms of how we've gotten to that place.
We have these expectations of I've always wanted to be a parent. But the true question is... Do I really understand what that will look like when the baby finally comes out?
Most of us don't realize that dysregulation and rage and sadness and postpartum depression is a form of grief, you are grieving your old life. Because within a blink of an eye, you, your body, your entire life has changed forever.
The dysregulation is coming out because you're living in a state of survival from the moment you start having contractions and we are neglecting the amount of physical, mental and emotional effort it takes to actually deliver these humans.
Knowing how to take care of your body. Give yourself what it needs. That's the ultimate parenting guide one on one.
This and so much more on this week's episode..
Emotional Eating and how To Break the Cycle Through Regulation
EP:41 What most don't quite understand is that emotional eating is not psychological. It's neurological.
And on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast, I am going to give you the tools you need to break that cycle through regulation!
You absolutely can have an intuitive and healthy relationship with food. Without any shame.
Create awareness behind how you're feeling and why you might feel dysregulated or heightened or overstimulated. Why is your brain seeking regulation?
I urge you to BE CURIOUS, listen to your body and what it wants.. Go slow. Tune in with your body and your brain. Building new patterns takes time. Be kind and loving to yourself through the process.
Join me to dive deep into the steps to break the cycle of emotional eating, trust yourself and create a healthy and intuitive relationship with food on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast.
The Fear of Slowing Down and Why It's Key To Enjoying Your Life
EP:40 In today's world it has become incredibly hard for humans to slow down.
People are now glorifying hustling and bustling and we seem to be in a constant race against time in juggling numerous responsibilities, roles and keeping up with the daily demands of life.
These days, the busier you are, the more relevant you become and more jobs mean more food on the table.
But what happens when we start contemplating the idea of hitting the brakes and taking things a little slower?
Well, that's when this fear creeps in.
Why? Because slowing down in our society could mean insufficiency, failure, or stagnation.
For most of us, slowing down means less income, missed promotions, and less money for our family's needs.
Deciding to slow down means something important has to be given up.
And we don't want that because our brains thrive on structure, stability, and control.
Because of this fear, we keep going, we normalize multi-tasking, and we keep on pushing ourselves harder to our limits until we get exhausted, irritable, burnt out, and dysregulated!
But what if I told you that there's another side of that fear that could unlock the door to a happy, confident, satisfied, and joyful living? -- where it's ok to chew slower and walk slower; where it's safe to ride the waves, smell the flowers, and feel settled; where it's guiltless to comfortably lie down on the couch, enjoy, and REST!
So in this week's Thrive Like A Parent podcast episode, let's talk about one of society's most intriguing topics --
The Fear of Slowing Down and Why it's the Key to Enjoying Your Life.
Join me as we start to learn about creating new patterns to slow down your brains and live the life that you truly want for you and your family at a pace that's
good for you and that works for you!
Yes! You can do that!
Feeling Like You Are Roommates with Your Partner
EP:39 For this week's episode, join me as I talk about one of the things that usually happens at homes that no one really talks about--
It's the feeling of being like roommates with your partner.
This situation is so inevitable in every relationship as time goes by. It easily happens; it's somehow bound to happen; and it's absolutely normal.
However, it's like a super taboo issue that nobody can comfortably bring up without the fear of being shamed or judged!
Why?? Because we all want to put our best faces in everything, especially with what's happening inside the four corners of our homes! We always want to project that we are so in control at home, especially in front of others. Right??
What usually causes the drift?? Overfamiliarity, too much comfortability, overwhelming tasks, and routines, piled up work, new responsibilities, raising kids, insecurities, lack of intimacy, fear, resentment, and so much more.
While this is a common phenomenon among partnerships, it takes a lot of effort to change this shift. This takes brain rewiring and so much decision making.
As we know, matters like this never changes overnight. It needs the key elements of time, communication, and enough vulnerability to be able to see that spark and joy in the relationship again!
All these and more on the Thrive Like A Parent podcast.
A Raw Look Into My Grieving Journey
EP:38 On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent I am so excited to be joined by Lolo to discuss my grief journey through another lens. Lolo has been my rock and partner in crime through every step of this.
Lolo has supported me and my boys through an unimaginably tragic time of our lives. I can not be express into words how incredibly grateful I am to Lolo and her husband Chris. I am so thankful for the choice they made to unconditionally support us through this wild ride.
We all need support. We are not meant to go through this journey alone and there is no shame in admitting, seeking and getting what you need, what your brain needs and what you body needs.
Join us as we dive deep into the last three years of our lives.
It's Ok Not to Love Every Moment of Parenthood
EP:37 On this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast we are getting real about parenthood because the truth is... This shit is hard!
We crave that control and structure and stability within parenthood. That structure stability and control is an illusion, it is not reality, and it does not exist.
Waving the white flag and admitting that this just is what it is. It's going to be ups and downs and highs and lows and that is ok!
There are hard moments, that doesn't mean that you don't love parenting. It doesn't make you a bad parent. Hard moments are just that.. A hard moment. When you finally accept that it's just a moment and release the guilt and shame... Happiness, joy, peace, calm and acceptance will start flooding in.
And you can have that. You are worthy of that!
Vulnerability And The Role It Plays In The Journey Of Healing
EP:36 I am soooo excited to be joined by the one and only @thetireddad or otherwise known as Jon Gustin on this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast.
I was so incredibly drawn to Jon because of his vulnerability, and his willingness to put his healing journey out there from day one and I am so grateful to be able to bring his perspective to all of you.
We will diving in deep into dad life and the struggles and challenges that are so very much not talked about enough!
“Vulnerability opens up so many conversations and gives voices to so many people that didn't have the courage or were scared to step out.” -Jon
Join us as we discuss parenthood struggles, mental health, substance abuse and so much more.
Why Noise Is So Triggering
EP:35 Whether we're sensory seekers or sensory avoiders, we always have those days when we're triggered by noise in all forms-- be it from crying babies, whining and bickering toddlers, fighting siblings, or even just from playing kids while in the bathtub. Does that make us broken? Does that make us bad parents?
Definitely not! There are noises that we just can't tolerate!!! That's just how our brain is wired and programmed.
And until we have awareness on what's going on inside, we will never have clarity and understanding of why certain things easily trigger us.
Being mindful of how our brains tick will absolutely help us in finding the right tools for us to regulate every time we are over functioning and overstimulated.
So even when the noise is just overwhelming, we can recognize what our brains and bodies need and remind that we are in a safe space. You can give your body what it’s craving without any guilt, shame, and fear because our nervous system knows that it is safe and OK!
All these and more on this week's episode in Thrive Like a Parent podcast.
The Most Common Questions Finally Answered
EP:34 On this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast I want to talk to you about literally the most asked question of all time… And that question is, can I be a seeker and an avoider?
The answer is YES. 10000% YES.
There’s a whole spectrum of feelings and emotions and lots of hormones that are being pushed through the body.
The ability to train your brain into understanding how to support it in that moment of how do I feel? Where do I feel in my body? What do I need? How do I how do I go get it is beyond life changing.
What we ultimately want is to find a balance between seeking and avoiding.
What we want is to ultimately find a balance within regulation and get out of survival mode.
we should be supporting our nervous system on a daily basis, on a regular basis.
It is ok to be both… The shift between seeking and avoiding depends on how regulated you are and what your brain and body can tolerate at the time. If you’re living in a state of survival… If you’re living in fight or flight.. You’re probably going to be a lot more sensitive to stimuli. Because your brain and body is on alert.
We’re living in our vessels and our bodies without completely understanding how they function. And that’s what’s leading to so much mental health disorders is the lack of awareness.
What if it’s not that you’re broken? What if it’s that you just need a little bit of support, and knowledge?
If you want that for yourself, if you want that for your children, if you’re wanting so desperately to understand your child better, if you’re wanting to be able to support them in a way that you know, you can trust because it’s with a neurological lens…. Apply for Thrive starting in September. I promise you it will be worth it. Because it changed my life.
Extracurriculars And The Crucial Role They Play For Our Children
EP:33 Observing your child is key to determine what extracurriculars are best for them. As parents we have to know how our child's brain ticks.
Finding out what activities our children enjoy would help us figure out how to help them regulate their brains on a daily basis.
Extracurricular activities are effective tools in regulating your childs’s nervous system that will last a lifetime.
Swimming. Dancing. Ball games. Martial Arts. Playing musical instruments .
Anything that has lots of movements in it. Anything that they enjoy doing!
We don’t need them to win. We don't need to be too competitive.
We only need to show up and watch our children do things that are healthy for their brains and bodies!
Rage And How It Shows Up With Ourselves And Our Kids
EP:32 This week on Thrive Like a Parent Podcast, we're going to be talking about rage. Rage in parenthood, mom rage and even rage that shows up with our children.
I am joined by Maria Gonzalez, who is an incredible member of my team. She is a huge part in supporting allll the parents in our community.
This is a hot topic in our community. Is it ok to rage? Is it okay for our children to rage? Should we allow it?
We are going to dive deep into what that means neurologically and emotionally.
Rage is a complete loss of control, a disconnect between your ability to regulate and needing to move through these big emotions. Rage stems from UNMET NEEDS. You are not broken.
It is your brain fighting for what it needs.
Tune in with us as we go through real-life examples from our own lives and how we ourselves have moved through recognizing those emotions and regulating them.
Raising Strong Willed Children Without Losing Your Mind
EP31: On this week’s episode of Throve4 Like a Parent podcast, we are going to talk about raising strong-willed children…
They are going to test you like none other to the point where you are literally wanting to pull your hair out.
You absolutely will be exhausted, you absolutely will lose your shit. You will snap, AND THAT IS OK!
However, there is a way to honor their feelings because their feelings absolutely do matter but still set boundaries… You are in the driver's seat.
Trust in your abilities. Trust that you are doing this for your children, and you are doing this to support your child and you're doing this because you love yourself and you are also in this dynamic as well living in this home. Everyone matters. Everyone matters in this situation. Every single one of you in that home. It's okay for you to accept that you matter. And so please take care of yourself. Please support your brain and body, not just your children's.
Tune in with me on this week's episode to talk about setting boundaries and supporting our children's emotions while remaining in the driver's seat.
What It Means To Be A Sensory Avoider
EP:30 I am so excited to dive deep into what it means to be a sensory avoider on this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast.
A true sensory avoider means that you experience sensory stimuli or input into your brain more intensely than the average human, which means you then avoid it because it's so overwhelming.
Here are some signs that you may be a sensory avoider:
You startle easily with sounds
You avoid bright lights
You zone out on your phone to escape the chaos
You prefer more bland food
You need the house to be clean and in order
You crave calm, quiet, peaceful environments
You are upset by unexpected touch
Often times I find that you humans with sensory avoiding tendencies place sooo much guilt and shame on themselves. Guilt to the point of anxiety and depression. Everyone else is going after it.. Why can’t I?? So they push and push and push. Doing the complete opposite from what their body and their brain actually wants and needs.
Therefore awareness is KEY. You must understand how your brain functions, how your children's brain functions and how to support that brain, that will lead to the most beneficial, healthy, joyful life you could ever imagine. Because you're supporting the brain in a way that suits your own individual brain.
Transition Into Motherhood And What No One Talks About
EP:29 A transition means that your body and your brain is moving from one state to the next with different stimuli and different surroundings.
On this week’s episode of the Thrive Like a Parent podcast, let’s discuss transitioning into motherhood and what that means for your body and your brain.
No books, no courses, no classes, literally nothing. Nothing can prepare you for parenthood.
But if you understand your brain and your body from a sensory level, you can support your brain and body from the beginning through this transition into a new and beautiful phase of your life.
You get to decide what this transition looks like for you. You get to decide what you want your life to be like.
You get to be a human outside of parenthood. And you get to figure out what that means for you.
Is It Ever to Late to Repair with our Children
My goal with this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast is to help you understand and go to sleep, trusting that you are doing enough that you're a great parent, you love your kids, and to stop shaming that brain.
Everything leads back to sensory and emotional regulation.
Neurologically supporting the brain affects your children in a very beautiful repair healthy way. If you learn to regulate your nervous system, what ends up happening is you learn to have a much healthier co regulation with your children. Because if you can support your brain in your body into repairing your own emotional state and repairing your own sensory state, then you can support your child as well...
Join me on this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast to dive deep into how to release the guilt and repair the relationship with your child.
ADHD And How It Relates To Regulation And The Nervous System
EP:27 It's time to rip the band aid off. We just need to accept and understand our brains and support our brains. And we need to accept and understand that the world functions probably 10 times faster than it did when our parents were raising us. And that's what we're up against with our kids.
The rat race and the hamster wheel we live in is pushing your brain to its breaking point. There's such a crisis of depression, anxiety and dysregulation. A mental health crisis.
AND everything leads back to regulation.
How you interact with humans and most importantly your children when you are dysregulated vs regulated. There is a difference. And if you're aware of it, and you EXPERIENCE it, and LEARN how to feel the difference. You CAN GET BACK IN THE DRIVER'S SEAT.
That's exactly why Dr. B created my Battling Burnout course. It is her absolute desire to be able to teach alll of you this information in the most cost effective way and make it accessible to every human.
Want more details about this course? -> https://drbrookeweinstein.com/battling-burnout/
Join Dr. B on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast to dive deep into how ADHD relates to sensory and emotional regulation.
Unspoken Truths About The Male Brain
EP:26 There are no conversations about dads struggling or how to support them or what to do about it. We need to BREAK that silence. The silence that dads experience in terms of just letting them know it's okay to struggle and letting them know it's okay to feel burnt out and exhausted and depleted.
Not only do men have a hard time saying "hey, I think I'm struggling over here." Men have a hard time finding what language to use, how to feel what they're feeling, or how to process it.
That portion of the male brain is not flexed. It's literally like going to the gym, working out and feeling that burn? That's what we need to do in the male brain to increase the fluency for you, Dads, to be able to flex that muscle of your brain to share your feelings. It's is so important on a societal level, not just for parents, not just for dads, but for the male brain to understand the male brain.
We've been led to believe psychologically, that we are broken, we are the ones that need to be fixed. And we need to be able to fit in with societal norms, it is not the case. That's literally what Dr. B's entire platform and message is about.
Join Dr. B on this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast to dive into the unspoken truths about the male brain.
Fearful vs. Fearless Parenting
EP:25 Parenting from a place of fear stems from wounds we feel from our own childhood. We want different for our children.
However, there is an ability to find a balance between conscious and gentle parenting versus fearless parenting versus owning your boundaries, taking the time to teach our children how to communicate in a beautiful, supportive, healthy manner.
Parenting is HARD. It is hard to show up. I 100000% know how hard this is to make sure that our children are taken care of emotionally, financially, in extracurriculars and allll the things. We are all doing the best we can. That deserves some level of mutual respect.
We can teach our children how to stand up for themselves. But do it with tact and respect. And that is possible through FEARLESS Parenting.
Join Dr. B on this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent Podcast to dive deep into how we got to this place of fearful parenting and how to make the shift into fearless parenting while still showing up in a conscious and loving way.
The Danger In Perfectionism And How To Release It In Parenthood
EP:24 Join Dr. B on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast to dive deep into the danger in perfectionism and how to release it in parenthood. A lot of times perfectionism comes from the guilt and shame that we place on ourselves. And when you do that self-talk... You are creating a pattern within your brain.
You're bashing yourself. You're telling yourself, I need to do more. So then you push harder, and you push harder, and you push harder. And when you push harder, you shove everything else down, that you really need to get out or you shove everything down that is really affecting you to the point of losing your marbles with your kids.
Join Dr. B to learn how to stop shaming yourself and instead accept that simple phrase of it's okay. If you want to be able to begin the process of releasing that perfectionism... Tune in!
Sibling Rivalry- Why It's a Pain In The Fanny Pack And How To Parent Through It
EP:23 Today on the THRIVE Like a Parent Podcast Dr. B is going to be talking about sibling rivalry. She's been about this topic countless times and what seems very clear is that most have literally no idea what to do, how to do this and where to start. So join Dr. B to dive deep into:
WHY it happens?
WHEN do we intervene?
The SHIFT between sibling rivalry to best friends.
HOW to set non-negotiable boundaries.
How to take care of YOU in the midst of chaos.
Dr. B will talk through a routine that will help your children build resilience. It will help them build an awareness and understanding that they can figure this out on their own. They are strong enough and brave enough and capable enough to figure this out and communicate. And when they're not. That's when you step in.
Building Your Career in the World of Social Media as a Mom
EP:22 Dr. B is joined by Emily Vondracheck on this episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast to talk about the world of social media and what it's like, as a mom doing this.
Of course it's fun, and they get to get all of their creative juices out. But the truth is this is also a way for them to bring in finances into their home. That means it's a job, which requires time and energy and effort and what's behind all that. So if you are someone who also has a quote, side hustle or trying to build your career through social media, stay tuned and listen up, because Dr. B and Emily are going to dive into all of that.
What It Means To Be A Sensory Seeker?
EP:21 On this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast Dr. B talks about what it means to be a sensory seeker.
Think of your brain as a car. There is the accelerator and the brake. And if you're in a manual, the throttle. If you are a sensory seeker, you're a gas pedal!
Sensory seekers crave a lot of stimuli.
Go from task to task to task.
Can't sit still at a desk
Brain constantly going.
Love strong strong flavors
Enjoy being close to people who wear perfume
Like constantant physical touch and intercourse tons.
This is a gas pedal. This is a sensory seeker.
When you live in a constant state of gas pedal, your brain will pattern itself to stay there. You will expend so much energy and deplete your gas tank to E.
NEXT COMES THE CRASH AND BURN....
Therefore we MUST create new patterns within your brain. We have to help your brain feel safe when throttling. We have to help your brain feel safe when stepping on the gas and stepping on the brake right like you have to be able to do that for yourself and feel that in figure out what you need and how to take care of your brain and body.
Listen until the very end for some tips that Dr. B has to start regulating your body today!
Myths of Conscious and Gentle Parenting
EP: 20 On this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast Dr. B will discuss the myths of gentle parenting and conscious parenting.
Dr. B will discuss the differences between the neurosensory based parenting method that she teaches versus principles of gentle parenting and conscious parenting.
Dr. B focuses on helping you understand what needs, support and guidance your child requires to help them learn how to long term INDEPENDENTLY, support and regulate their nervous system.
That's where parenthood needs to get to. The bottom line is understanding your child's brain and understanding your brain will help you feel less burnt out and exhausted and depleted. Support your brain and your body to truly THRIVE in parenthood.
How to Release Guilt in Parenthood
EP:19 What does guilt mean?
Guilt in a noun form is the fact of having committed a specified or implied offense or crime.
Guilty in a verb form is to make someone feel guilty, especially in order to induce them to do something.
We as parents rip ourselves apart with guilt and shame. This creates that narrative or pattern within your brain, it's not going to do any positive.
If you are feeling that guilt every single day, ask yourself:
Is that guilt serving me?
Is it allowing me to see all the beautiful parts of me and what I am doing?
Is it allowing me to show up as my best self for my children and for myself in parenthood?
And change the narrative within your brain because the guilt and shame is causing anxiety, it's causing depression, it's causing a lot of mental health because you're ripping yourself apart.
Dr. B has gone through so much guilt through her own parenthood and had to learn how to release that through understanding sensory and emotional regulation, doing this on herself and doing this WITH her kids.
Join Dr. b on this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast to dive into the work of releasing guilt in parenthood.
Finding Your Voice in Parenthood
EP:18 One of the biggest reasons Dr. B did this work for herself and one of the biggest reasons that she now unapologetically owns her voice in parenthood is because she wants to teach her children how to own their own voices.
The number one reason people stop themselves is because they say this feels selfish. The discomfort that shows up within their brain in their body stops them from allowing themselves to go after and get the thing that they know they most desperately need, want and longed for, which is support to figure out how to do this.
If you can start requesting your needs and allow your partner to also request their needs, you will find your voice, you will be able to show up for yourself, you will be able to support your brain and your body in a way that it truly needs. This shift will allow you to give so much more back to your partnership and to your children.
Join Dr. B on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast to dive into her journey of finding her voice and unapologetically and authentically showing up for herself and her children.
Another Layer of My Grief Story
EP:17 Join Dr. B on this week's episode of the THRIVE Like a Parent Podcast as she shares another layer of her grief story.
If you yourself are struggling, if you are a caretaker, or a support to anyone who is not doing well, mentally, emotionally, physically this episode is for you.
Join Dr. B as she shares some of her personal stories about what it looks like to support a loved one through mental illness.
Dr. B believes that TALKING IS PROCESSING. You get to talk about the things that matter most, you get to talk about your deep, dark, and hidden.
Tune in with Dr. B as she looks back at what it was like supporting her husband while he battled severe depression and anxiety in hiding from the world outside their home.
Why It's So Hard To Set Boundaries With Our Children?
EP:16 On this episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast Dr. B will dive deep into why it's hard for us to set healthy boundaries with our children.
Why is it important?
How to support yourself when setting a boundary with your child?
And the emotional brain benefits of what it means to set boundaries with your children.
The hard part comes when they begin to show up as individual humans!
Dr. B personally believes that is the work of our PARENTHOOD Life. Helping our children understand how to have boundaries for themselves and you recognize how to step away, inch by inch, very slowly.
Your child's brain needs to learn that they can sit in discomfort and still be safe. And that's how we learn.
Join Dr. B on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast to learn exactly HOW TO set healthy boundaries with our children AND support them through the discomfort of stepping into being a self-sufficient human.
Parenting in Widowhood
EP:15 Join Dr. B on this episode of the Thrive Like a Parent podcast to discuss the journey of parenting in widowhood. On this episode she will be joined by Emily Toledo, a fellow widow sister and a Thrive Certified Coach.
There is no Hall Pass for grief. We still have to get out of bed and show up for our children, there is NOT A HALL PASS so we have to be able to step into looking at our children and sharing. I feel sad today or just crying in front of them or saying I just feel frustrated.
Allow it, let it out and show your children how to truly feel emotions.
Dr. B's hope is that this will help a lot of moms and dads and anyone who's listening to be able to know that it's okay to talk about and it's okay to have highs and lows and all the in between. All of our stories matter, ALL OF THEM MATTER.
How is Judgement on Social Media and Cyberbullying Affecting Your Child?
EP:14 On this episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast Dr. B is going to talk to you about judgment and cyber bullies and how that affects us as HUMANS and how that affects our children and the concerns that she has.
Social media has become a very influential part of the world we live in today. It especially affects our children and their particular generation.
There is so much hate and cruelty that Dr. B herself has experienced in the last few years as she slowly began to share her story. This is very concerning ESPECIALLY for our children. The world they are growing up in is NOT the world that we grew up in. We didn't have likes, dms, comments that could traumatically impact the rest of our lives.
There is no doubt that your child will one day want a social media page.
Therefore it's okay to have boundaries with that for your children because we don't know what our children do on their phones behind the closed doors of their bedrooms.
The only solution Dr. B sees in supporting our children through this, and making changes and shifts, is to support our children first and learning how to do that on a sensory level and supporting their mental health. Making sure that our connections with our children are strong.
If we help our children understand how to connect emotionally with others, the hate and the ripping apart of others and the judgment will slow down.
Focus on that, the rest will fade away and pan itself out.
Join Dr. B as she talks through her own experiences with cyberbullying and judgement through social media.
Why is My Kid Always Snacking?
EP:13 Today Dr. B is going to talk to you about why your kiddos snack so much, why they request snacks so much AND how to stop all the snacking.
Dr. B herself, used to allow this in her home, way, way, way, way, way back in the day, because it was a simple, easy fix to get your kiddos to stop nagging you right when you're exhausted and simply done and they want something to be able to occupy themselves, right?
Dr. B will give you tons of information today about WHY they are doing that. And then how you can support them as well as what to do in those circumstances.
We want our children to have really beautiful healthy intake, and understand a really great balance of what it looks like to have a relationship with food.
Dr. B always says your body and your brain is your compass... This 100% implies to constant snacking for kids AND adults.
Tune in with Dr. B on this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent Podcast to learn how you can use neuroscience-based strategies to help guide your children to a healthy relationship with food that will create a foundation for the rest of their life.
How to Slow the F Down in Parenthood
EP:12 On this episode of the Thrive Like a Parent podcast Dr. B is going to be discussing how to slow the F down in parenthood.
We go from task to task to task where we feel like we're on a hamster wheel that never ends, right? That little ball that you think of when hamsters run around all over the place, it just NEVER ENDS.
So how do we figure out how to slow down? And how do we figure out how to enjoy our life in parenthood?
The hardest part about slowing down is recognizing that you need to. Most of the time you're just on autopilot. Slowing down may not even seem like an option. You continue to go through the motions. Pushing your body and your brain to a breaking point. You get stuck on the cycle of burnout!
AND there is a very special guest on this episode. Her name is Brittany Wood. Brittany has worked with Dr. B for a very long time. She now mentors other women in Dr. B's community. Brittany is an absolute bundle of energy.
Tune in to this week's episode with us to dive deep into what it takes to SLOW THE F DOWN in parenthood!
Navigating Hard Conversations About Uncomfortable Things with Your Kids
EP:11 Join Dr. B on this episode to talk about having the hard conversations with our children about the uncomfortable things.
Dr. B first had to tell her children and use the word divorce. Mommy and daddy are getting a divorce. That wasn't so easy. Then she had to navigate having to tell her children that daddy died. Daddy's gone.
There are so many other difficult conversations that come up for us as parents, that is why it is so important for you as a parent to understand how to approach those conversations.
We don't give their little brains enough credit for all the resiliency and all the unimaginable strength that they have as little humans, it's my biggest belief that our brain needs time to heal.
The reason Dr.B created the model of how she teaches you sensory neuro based parenting is because she wants your child's whole brain to be taken care of, on the logic and emotional brain side. Which means she wants our children to know boundaries, see them, understand them, respect them, and also be able to have them themselves.
Dr. B wants her children to know that no matter what, they can ALWAYS talk to her. And if we don't share the discomfort and show and model to our children that uncomfortable conversations are okay, they can take place and we are going to survive through them. It allows their brain at a very early age to find that resiliency within their brain to get through hard conversations.
Tune in with Dr. B as she shares personal stories about some heartbreakingly hard conversations she's had with her own kids.
Why Won't My Kids Listen to Anything I Say?
EP:10 Dr. B is going to talk to you today about HOW to get our kids to listen and WHY they don't listen. This is actually a two part kind of conversation.
What Dr. B will dive deep into with you today is NOT just how to understand how to get your kids to listen, but the reason WHY.
WHY ARE THEY NOT LISTENING?!!! That makes you want to pull your hair out right?! Dr.B knows it makes you want to literally run. Run away and just be done. You just can't anymore.
Dr. B will define a huge aspect that's overlooked. Sometimes it;s not that your child is not listening, it is actually COMPLIANCE. Understanding where their brains are at when we're asking them to do something. And Dr. B is going to give you a few tips and tricks and tools of how to help with that compliance.
Rule of thumb is less compliance, less words, if your child's talking a mile a minute and you're like I understand it, and you're trying to talk over them and you're trying to keep going and trying to explain it, that's going to do nothing except for expend a lot of energy on your part.
Join Dr. B on this episode to learn how to save your energy for logical, connective moments with your children. And how to truly connect with your child in those moments.
Sharing My Grief One Story at a Time
EP:9 The reason that Dr. B feels so compelled to share her story is really her why. She wants to be able to process it. And she wants to be able to heal it for herself. And she wants to be able to make sure that she feels very comfortable sharing her personal life, sharing that part of her life with so many.
Dr. B wants the human who goes to bed at night worrying that their partner is going to hurt themselves and wondering how much longer they can go on like this. And the person who loves their partner to death and wants to spend the world with them and is trying and trying and trying and trying and trying and doing anything and everything to help and this and just completely self neglecting themselves. She is not wanting that person to listen to this and run but Dr.B wants this person to find a little sliver for themself.
Dr. B's story is one of love and happiness, manipulation, emotional abuse, strength, courage, trauma, and a naive young girl, but it's okay. It's okay that it's all those things. Because what she's learned through that, and how much she's grown through all of that is unfathomable.
Join her on this episode of her podcast as she begins to tell her story. It’s time to slowly share her story. It’s time to answer some questions. And Dr.B more than ready.
From "Yes" Parenthood to Thriving Authentically in Parenthood
EP: 8 Join Dr. B to talk about parenthood and doing all the things and being the YES PARENT. Trying to say yes at all costs. Doing it all and feeling just completely spent in the process.
And it's not just Dr. B today, she is so excited to have Maria Gonzalez join her. Maria is one of her support moms, she's currently supporting some of the other women that Dr. B works with today.
You're not going to only get an inside look into what it's been like for Dr. B to start saying no and show up for herself and not be the people pleaser that she feels that she used to be. But you're also going to get to hear from Maria and hear her story as well. You will get to hear from both of us on what it's been like to step away from constantly doo doo doo doo doing in GO SURVIVAL MODE and start finally enjoying their life in a completely different way than you would ever expect.
Join Dr. B and Maria today as they dive deep into this crazy beautiful journey of parenthood.
When Parenthood Takes a Toll on Your Partnership
EP: 7 Join Dr. B today to talk about when parenting begins to take a toll on your relationship. This is hands down not discussed enough, it is not discussed enough openly. And it is not addressed nearly as much as it should be in terms of the steps we can take in order to either prevent it, or to acknowledge it and support the rift or strain within your dynamic and your personal relationship with your partnership.
Dr. B has been through it all. And she is going to share with you a lot about her partnership today that she has never shared before.
She chose to share it so that you don't feel alone. So that you know that it's okay to struggle, that it's okay for your partnership to struggle. And the lessons that Dr. B learned through one heck of her own partnership. And not only just her partnership, but supporting other parents through their journeys.