Be Your Differentiated Self with Dr. Lorenzo Neal
By Dr. Lorenzo Neal
Be Your Differentiated Self with Dr. Lorenzo NealDec 24, 2019
The Emotional Roller Coaster of Cut-Off
If you've ever had to cut someone out of your life, you know the emotional rollercoaster that comes with it. We never hope to have to cut someone off emotionally. Sometimes its unavoidable but many times it is preventable. On this episode, Dr. Neal discusses the what, when, and why of emotional cutoff and how one can develop healthy relationships where cutoff is less likely.
The un-Fused Self
When we hear the word fusion, we usually don't associate it with our relationships but it plays a critical part in them. Dr. Neal discusses how fusion and group think contribute to an individual's sense of emotional and behavioral conformity that negatively impacts our desire to be emotionally independent and highly self-differentiated.
The Motivated Self: Finding the Path to Relational Satisfaction
It's often a struggle to find motivation to do well in interpersonal relationships. Extrinsic and Intrinsic motivators play a role in helping us find a path to rewarding relationships even when we don't believe we have the capacity to do.
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The Self and Emotional Intelligence
All of us desire to have better interpersonal relationships. A big key to this is being emotionally intelligent. Dr. Neal discusses how emotional intelligence is a key ingredient to being a highly self-differentiated person.
Blossum Up the Self with Krisshundria James
On this episode of the podcast, I am joined by my niece the lovely Krisshundria James. She's an author, counselor, entreprenuer, and life coach. We discuss the trauma that impacted her self and put her on a trajectory of success in life.
The Quarantined Self
The Architect or Archetype
The I's Have It
The letter I is a simple letter but when seen within the broader scope of human existence, it can be one selfish letter. On this episode of Be Your Differentiated Self, Dr. Neal discusses how the I-Position in self-differentiation can be one that is empowering and liberating for the individual and the broader family or organization unit. Drawing from a number of sources, Dr. Neal takes us on a journey of exploration to developing a healthy I Position.
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Research notes- Bowen Center https://www.bowencenter.org/
Institute for Dialogical Researchhttp://www.dialogicalinstitute.com/
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The Self and Belonging
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The Differentiation of Self Inventory (DSI): Seeing Your Differentiated Self
Is there a way to measure Self-Differentiation? Of course there is and Dr. Neal walks us through the Differentiation of Self Inventory better known as the DSI. This self-taking inventory provides questions on a Likert scale instrument to help individuals assess where they are on the self-differentiation spectrum. The four categories of the DSI- Emotional Cut-off (EC) Emotional Reactivity (ER), Fusion with others (FO), and I-Position (IP) help individuals discover where they are emotionally in relations with family of origin members, spouses, and children but is also applicable for use in professional, organizational, and community relationship assessments.
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Thinking in Systems: Anxiety, Emotions, and The Self
Differentiation of self begins with learning to think in systems. Systems thinkning is seeing the self from inter-related perspectives. Dr Neal disccusses how anxiety, emotions, and the self are inter-related and can lead to individuals being higher or lower differentiated selves.
So What is Differentiation?
This episode explains the concept of differentiation of self as part of Dr. Murray Bowen's Family Systems theory of family counseling. Dr. Neal explains the eight concepts of Bowen's Family Systems theory and the four sub categories of differentiation of self and how these concepts present a construct for interpersonal relationships across all spectrums of life. If you want to further explore Bowen's concepts vist here http://thebowencenter.org/theory/
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Be Your Differentiated Self (BYDS) Podcast Introduction Show
In this short introdcution clip, Dr. Lorenzo Neal gives the initial introduction on what the BYDS podcast is all about.