Be Your Differentiated Self with Dr. Lorenzo Neal

If you've ever had to cut someone out of your life, you know the emotional rollercoaster that comes with it. We never hope to have to cut someone off emotionally. Sometimes its unavoidable but many times it is preventable. On this episode, Dr. Neal discusses the what, when, and why of emotional cutoff and how one can develop healthy relationships where cutoff is less likely.

When we hear the word fusion, we usually don't associate it with our relationships but it plays a critical part in them. Dr. Neal discusses how fusion and group think contribute to an individual's sense of emotional and behavioral conformity that negatively impacts our desire to be emotionally independent and highly self-differentiated.

All of us desire to have better interpersonal relationships. A big key to this is being emotionally intelligent. Dr. Neal discusses how emotional intelligence is a key ingredient to being a highly self-differentiated person.

On this episode of the podcast, I am joined by my niece the lovely Krisshundria James. She's an author, counselor, entreprenuer, and life coach. We discuss the trauma that impacted her self and put her on a trajectory of success in life. 

Differentiation of self begins with learning to think in systems. Systems thinkning is seeing the self from inter-related perspectives. Dr Neal disccusses how anxiety, emotions, and the self are inter-related and can lead to individuals being higher or lower differentiated selves.

In this short introdcution clip, Dr. Lorenzo Neal gives the initial introduction on what the BYDS podcast is all about.