Be Your Differentiated Self with Dr. Lorenzo Neal

If you've ever had to cut someone out of your life, you know the emotional rollercoaster that comes with it. We never hope to have to cut someone off emotionally. Sometimes its unavoidable but many times it is preventable. On this episode, Dr. Neal discusses the what, when, and why of emotional cutoff and how one can develop healthy relationships where cutoff is less likely.

When we hear the word fusion, we usually don't associate it with our relationships but it plays a critical part in them. Dr. Neal discusses how fusion and group think contribute to an individual's sense of emotional and behavioral conformity that negatively impacts our desire to be emotionally independent and highly self-differentiated.

It's often a struggle to find motivation to do well in interpersonal relationships. Extrinsic and Intrinsic motivators play a role in helping us find a path to rewarding relationships even when we don't believe we have the capacity to do.  Support on Patreon Like Dr. Lorenzo Neal on Facebook Here's the link to the article quoted from Psychology Today  Music-Your Call by Kevin MacLeod find more like this here

All of us desire to have better interpersonal relationships. A big key to this is being emotionally intelligent. Dr. Neal discusses how emotional intelligence is a key ingredient to being a highly self-differentiated person.

On this episode of the podcast, I am joined by my niece the lovely Krisshundria James. She's an author, counselor, entreprenuer, and life coach. We discuss the trauma that impacted her self and put her on a trajectory of success in life. 

In this long delayed episode of the BYDS podcast, Dr. Neal discusses his personal stressor response to the COVID-19 pandemic and the shelter in place quaratined life. Sometimes we need to escape from the negative stress responses to have an empowering existence in the present moment andin the days to come post quarantine life.

Dr. Neal introduces the concept of Jungian Archetype as part of the development of self identity for interpersonal and intra-personal growth

The letter I is a simple letter but when seen within the broader scope of human existence, it can be one selfish letter. On this episode of Be Your Differentiated Self, Dr. Neal discusses how the I-Position in self-differentiation can be one that is empowering and liberating for the individual and the broader family or organization unit. Drawing from a number of sources, Dr. Neal takes us on a journey of exploration to developing a healthy I Position. Remember the Titans- Disney Movies 2000  (Fair Use) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFObqUd5uzA Music- Your Call by Kevin Macleod Research notes- Bowen Center https://www.bowencenter.org/ Institute for Dialogical Researchhttp://www.dialogicalinstitute.com/ Two Months of Free Premium Skillshare skillshare.eqcm.net/c/1939542/476278/4650

Everyone wants to belong to something. There is a human need to be connected in various ways. Dr. Neal discusses how belongingness and the self are connected and serve as motivation towards creating a healthier emotional self and better, more fulfilling and rewarding relationships.  Get Two Months of Free Premium on Skillshare when you sign up a.impactradius-go.com/gen-ad-code/1939542/476278/4650/ Suppport on Patreon -www.patreon.com/LorenzoTNeal

Is there a way to measure Self-Differentiation? Of course there is and Dr. Neal walks us through the Differentiation of Self Inventory better known as the DSI. This self-taking inventory provides questions on a Likert scale instrument to help individuals assess where they are on the self-differentiation spectrum. The four categories of the DSI- Emotional Cut-off (EC) Emotional Reactivity (ER), Fusion with others (FO), and I-Position (IP) help individuals discover where they are emotionally in relations with family of origin members, spouses, and children but is also applicable for use in professional, organizational, and community relationship assessments.  Music by Kevin Macleod Sign up for Two Free Months of Skillshare Premium here: http://a.impactradius-go.com/gen-ad-code/1939542/476278/4650/

Differentiation of self begins with learning to think in systems. Systems thinkning is seeing the self from inter-related perspectives. Dr Neal disccusses how anxiety, emotions, and the self are inter-related and can lead to individuals being higher or lower differentiated selves.

This episode explains the concept of differentiation of self as part of Dr. Murray Bowen's Family Systems theory of family counseling. Dr. Neal explains the eight concepts of Bowen's Family Systems theory and the four sub categories of differentiation of self and how these concepts present a construct for interpersonal relationships across all spectrums of life. If you want to further explore Bowen's concepts vist here http://thebowencenter.org/theory/  Learn Something New and Get Two Free Months of Premium Membership //skillshare.eqcm.net/c/1939542/476276/4650 Support on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/lorenzotneal and Paypal paypal.me/LorenzoNeal

In this short introdcution clip, Dr. Lorenzo Neal gives the initial introduction on what the BYDS podcast is all about.