Mentor Of Life

Watch/Listen as I share with you 5 things that all women need to stop wearing today. These are not a good look, ladies! On 9/2/23 my new virtual conference for women: Making Your Own Dreams Come True: The Blueprint To Success In Life, Work And Purpose. Link: https://bit.ly/dreamcode6

𝑯𝒐𝒘 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒘𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒃𝒐𝒐𝒌! If you have ever said, "I don’t have time to write a book", and you know that you really do want to write one, listen carefully to this! There are five things that you need to do in order to create time to write your book. Let me give you a hint: none of them includes going on a two week writing retreat! (if you already don’t have time, how would you do that?) 😁 If you would like to know more about how I can help you bring that dream of having a published book to reality, book a call here: https://calendly.com/drshola/wta

𝑨𝒗𝒐𝒊𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒅𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒔 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒑 𝒐𝒇 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆! I have often talked about how it’s not necessary to be a people pleaser. I have talked about how it can rob you of your life, when you spend all your time and energy, running from pillar to post trying to do the bidding of others. You have no time for your own priorities because you inherently see yourself as less important than other people. Many people pleasers also pick and choose who they will “please” and who they will “recruit” to join their “people-pleasing lifestyle”. Here is a word if you are someone who has a lot of people pleasers in your life: 1. They will subtly try to make you behave like them. 2. They will rather you shut up, and go along to get along. 3. When you stand up for yourself, a people pleaser will make you feel as though you are the bad guy. 4. They may secretly resent the fact that you have agency and you use it. 5. They are NOT victims. 6. People-pleasing is a form of control. People pleasers think that they have to “make everybody happy“. You cannot try to control everyone’s emotions, because you do not want to feel uncomfortable ones. 7. If you find yourself constantly in a tug-of-war with a people pleaser, and you are not one, try your best to extricate yourself from their drama, before they take you down with them.

𝑯𝒐𝒘 𝑻𝒐 𝑫𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒍𝒐𝒑 𝑪𝒐𝒏𝒇𝒊𝒅𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝑨𝒔 𝑨 𝑾𝒐𝒎𝒂𝒏 1. 𝘾𝙚𝙡𝙚𝙗𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙩𝙝𝙨: Focus on your accomplishments and the things you're good at. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Remind yourself of your strengths, skills, and talents, and use them to your advantage. 2. 𝘾𝙝𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙞𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙧 𝙘𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙘: Pay attention to your self-talk and challenge negative thoughts. Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations. For example, instead of saying "I can't do this," say "I'm capable of handling this." 3. 𝙏𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛: Self-care is essential for building confidence. Make time for activities that make you feel good, such as exercise, meditation, or spending time with friends and family. 4. 𝙎𝙪𝙧𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚: Spend time with people who uplift and support you. Avoid those who bring you down or make you feel inferior. 5. 𝙎𝙚𝙩 𝙜𝙤𝙖𝙡𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣: Set realistic goals for yourself and take action to achieve them. Break down larger goals into smaller, manageable steps, and celebrate each milestone along the way. 6. 𝙇𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙣𝙚𝙬 𝙨𝙠𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙨: Building new skills can help you feel more confident and capable. Take a class, read a book, or join a group that interests you. 7. 𝙋𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙧𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨: Speak up for yourself and assert your needs and boundaries. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want or say no when necessary. Remember, building confidence is a journey, and it takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself, and celebrate your progress along the way. Watch, learn, and get my book on Amazon to know more! https://www.amazon.com/FREE-BE-Empowered.../dp/B0B45DXH6W

𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑫𝒂𝒓𝒌 𝑺𝒊𝒅𝒆 𝑶𝒇 𝑨𝒍𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒊𝒔𝒎 10 Signs of Pathological Altruism Do you know that Altruism has a dark side? 𝙃𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙏𝙀𝙉 𝙨𝙞𝙜𝙣𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙋𝙖𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙤𝙜𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡 𝘼𝙡𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙞𝙨𝙢 Check out Dr. Jattu Senessie’s website https://www.essenceofstrength.com/ Check out Rock Your Medical Career https://physicianhealyourself.life/rock-your-medical-career/

𝑯𝒐𝒘 𝑰 𝑺𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒅 𝑨𝒘𝒂𝒚 𝑴𝒚 𝑾𝒐𝒓𝒌𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝑩𝒖𝒍𝒍𝒚! Bullies At Work? Here is 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙩𝙤 𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙙𝙡𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢! If you are a doctor: MD/DO/MBBS/MBChB join my Physician Heal Yourself Group for more! This week, The Rock Your Medical Career 5 Day Challenge is taking place, right in the group https://www.facebook.com/groups/PhysicianHealYourself#drshola #balancewithdrshola #mentoroflife #lifecoach #drsholaezeokoli

𝑯𝒂𝒗𝒆 “𝑵𝒐 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓”? 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒂𝒅!  

Description: If you have ever wanted “More willpower”, 𝙡𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨! You don’t need more willpower, you just need this well kept secret.

 This is how to get it!  Watch, learn, and get my book on Amazon to know more!   

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𝑫𝒆𝒇𝒆𝒂𝒕 𝑶𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒎 𝑶𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝑨𝒏𝒅 𝑭𝒐𝒓 𝑨𝒍𝒍 (𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒔𝒆 7 𝒔𝒆𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒕𝒔)  

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Happy Women’s History Month!

Listen To My Story about discovering self-love and self-compassion as the key to dealing with counterproductive tendencies that we all have 

 THEN….  Check out my latest program for Doctor Moms: 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐋𝐚𝐮𝐧𝐜𝐡 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐇𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞: 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐃𝐨𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫 𝐌𝐨𝐦𝐬  

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𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐞𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐠𝐨𝐚𝐥𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐚?  

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Meet Dr. Uche Njiaju: Oncologist, Author, Biographer, and Publisher  

She shares her journey with me as she evolved from a blogger to an author, to a biographer, and finally a publisher!    

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Everyone acts as though procrastination is a character flaw, but in this video, not only do I show how it is not. I give you real strategies that will help you stop procrastinating.  

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1. Take care of yourself 

2. Stop feeling guilty 

3. Set boundaries with your children  

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* There are people who are committed to misunderstanding you.  

* There are people who will argue with you even if you believe the same things (they are just contradictory and contrarian).  *

 There are some people who will argue with you just because it’s you.  

* Those same people when they hear from others,  they will not say  “pim” * There are some people whose worldview is vastly different from yours and you still have to co- exist with them * If logic did not get them there, logic will not get them out.  

What to do? 

* Step back 

* Remove your own emotions from the situation

 * Think about a bug, and that you are trying to teach it calculus. 

* Ask yourself: can they receive what I am giving 

* Last but not least, always remember that you can explain something to people, but you cannot understand it for them.

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What happens when our “roles” in peoples lives change?     

  * Instead of trying to fit into someone else’s framework, just to keep the       peace and keep your relationship with them, it is better to be your authentic self and let the chips fall where they may.      

 * If you need to make changes necessary for your growth as a person, do it. It can be argued that anyone that doesn’t want you to grow and become better should probably be at the periphery of your life, and not at the center.     

  * Don’t remain angry when people’s attitudes toward the “New You” change. Instead of being angry and trying to force them to accept this better version of you, just re-direct your energy and emotions to the new crop of supporters that will inevitably come your way.  

    * Don’t over explain yourself. Remember, those who truly matter won’t mind and those who mind don’t really matter.      

* Make your growth a priority. That way, you will not be distracted by other people’s attitudes. 

 *Don’t condescend. Just accept that some people will be ok with the NEW YOU and some people won’t.  

 To get to know how I can help you navigate changing roles, book a call with me here: 

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In these post pandemic days, people have found the need to pivot and transition to more suitable careers, businesses and vocations.

Here are 5 things that you absolutely must consider when you are in that transitional phase

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They say when the going gets tough, the tough get going. Well when life seems to have you in knots and you have more tasks and less time, here is what to do..  

1. Remember you can only do one thing at a time. Worrying about all the things you have to do is not going to get them done. 

2. Making a to do list is so that you don’t forget tasks, not something to beat yourself up with, when you “only” do 25 things out of 50.  

3. Instead of working off a “to do list”, take the things from the list in order of urgency (deadlines) and importance, and assign them spots on your calendar. 

4. Use a calendar/ schedule 

5. Delegate, hire and outsource, and don’t micromanage. 

6. Make peace with an imperfect life. 

7. Do calming activities so that you don’t feel frantic (frantic feelings make you feel like everything is worse than it is)- meditation, breathing exercises, being out in nature etc. 

8. Share your struggles with a close trusted friend.  

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Dear doctor,  

 1. Take care of your health. Don’t pretend to be a superhero. Because, the day you crumble, everything you’re holding up will crumble too.  Also because you just need to.  

 2. Burnout is common, but not necessary. You do not have to fall prey to this scourge.   

3. Develop a healthy identity that doesn’t involve you being a superman, a savior, a martyr, or a fixer.  

 4. If you suffered certain things on your path to becoming a doctor, it doesn’t mean that you get to subject Junior Doctors to the same suffering. Do better.   

5. Get the best job you possibly can.  

6. Don’t fall prey to the belief that there are no better jobs out there. Remember, there is a Physician shortage, not a patient shortage.   

7. Do something that you love every day.  

 I am Dr. Shola Ezeokoli, Physician coach. I help busy physicians defeat and prevent burnout, as well as create options for themselves outside of traditional medical practice.   Watch a free Masterclass on burnout here.  https://physicianhealyourself.life/burnout-to-balance-masterclass-optin/

How?

1. Change your identity to a more confident, empowered one.
2. Recognize and conquer confidence blockers
3. Learn skills to build more confidence
4. Learn how to be more confident at work
5. Learn how to confidently face backlash and criticism
6. Have your own confidence road map.

In my newest program, I show you all these steps.

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In this episode you will learn:

• What confidence is
• What confidence is not
• Why you need confidence
• 5 Enemies Of Confidence
• 5 Confidence building tips!

If you are a woman, needing a confidence boost, join me on the 29th of April in my facebook group: Empowered Womanhood for a conversation on confidence with Dr Otito Okpor

Link to join here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1564235207260468/?ref=share

As I launch my brand new Community, Empowered Womanhood in 2022, here are some strategies to true empowerment for every woman. Stay tuned, we launch on 1/4/2022

Happy New Year!

Laurene Dougherty one of my many amazing clients!

Working with me she did the following:

1. Made forward movement in her career

2. Developed more empowering thoughts around food and eating

3. Learn the potential that she has and what she is truly capable of

She sat down with me to share her experience working with me as her coach.

Here is her interview!

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