Mentor Of Life

𝑨𝒗𝒐𝒊𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒅𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒔 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒑 𝒐𝒇 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆! I have often talked about how it’s not necessary to be a people pleaser. I have talked about how it can rob you of your life, when you spend all your time and energy, running from pillar to post trying to do the bidding of others. You have no time for your own priorities because you inherently see yourself as less important than other people. Many people pleasers also pick and choose who they will “please” and who they will “recruit” to join their “people-pleasing lifestyle”. Here is a word if you are someone who has a lot of people pleasers in your life: 1. They will subtly try to make you behave like them. 2. They will rather you shut up, and go along to get along. 3. When you stand up for yourself, a people pleaser will make you feel as though you are the bad guy. 4. They may secretly resent the fact that you have agency and you use it. 5. They are NOT victims. 6. People-pleasing is a form of control. People pleasers think that they have to “make everybody happy“. You cannot try to control everyone’s emotions, because you do not want to feel uncomfortable ones. 7. If you find yourself constantly in a tug-of-war with a people pleaser, and you are not one, try your best to extricate yourself from their drama, before they take you down with them.

𝑯𝒐𝒘 𝑻𝒐 𝑫𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒍𝒐𝒑 𝑪𝒐𝒏𝒇𝒊𝒅𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝑨𝒔 𝑨 𝑾𝒐𝒎𝒂𝒏 1. 𝘾𝙚𝙡𝙚𝙗𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙩𝙝𝙨: Focus on your accomplishments and the things you're good at. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Remind yourself of your strengths, skills, and talents, and use them to your advantage. 2. 𝘾𝙝𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙞𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙧 𝙘𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙘: Pay attention to your self-talk and challenge negative thoughts. Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations. For example, instead of saying "I can't do this," say "I'm capable of handling this." 3. 𝙏𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛: Self-care is essential for building confidence. Make time for activities that make you feel good, such as exercise, meditation, or spending time with friends and family. 4. 𝙎𝙪𝙧𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚: Spend time with people who uplift and support you. Avoid those who bring you down or make you feel inferior. 5. 𝙎𝙚𝙩 𝙜𝙤𝙖𝙡𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣: Set realistic goals for yourself and take action to achieve them. Break down larger goals into smaller, manageable steps, and celebrate each milestone along the way. 6. 𝙇𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙣𝙚𝙬 𝙨𝙠𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙨: Building new skills can help you feel more confident and capable. Take a class, read a book, or join a group that interests you. 7. 𝙋𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙧𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨: Speak up for yourself and assert your needs and boundaries. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want or say no when necessary. Remember, building confidence is a journey, and it takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself, and celebrate your progress along the way. Watch, learn, and get my book on Amazon to know more! https://www.amazon.com/FREE-BE-Empowered.../dp/B0B45DXH6W

𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑫𝒂𝒓𝒌 𝑺𝒊𝒅𝒆 𝑶𝒇 𝑨𝒍𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒊𝒔𝒎 10 Signs of Pathological Altruism Do you know that Altruism has a dark side? 𝙃𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙏𝙀𝙉 𝙨𝙞𝙜𝙣𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙋𝙖𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙤𝙜𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡 𝘼𝙡𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙞𝙨𝙢 Check out Dr. Jattu Senessie’s website https://www.essenceofstrength.com/ Check out Rock Your Medical Career https://physicianhealyourself.life/rock-your-medical-career/

𝑯𝒐𝒘 𝑰 𝑺𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒅 𝑨𝒘𝒂𝒚 𝑴𝒚 𝑾𝒐𝒓𝒌𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝑩𝒖𝒍𝒍𝒚! Bullies At Work? Here is 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙩𝙤 𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙙𝙡𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢! If you are a doctor: MD/DO/MBBS/MBChB join my Physician Heal Yourself Group for more! This week, The Rock Your Medical Career 5 Day Challenge is taking place, right in the group https://www.facebook.com/groups/PhysicianHealYourself#drshola #balancewithdrshola #mentoroflife #lifecoach #drsholaezeokoli

𝑯𝒂𝒗𝒆 “𝑵𝒐 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓”? 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒂𝒅!  

Description: If you have ever wanted “More willpower”, 𝙡𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨! You don’t need more willpower, you just need this well kept secret.

 This is how to get it!  Watch, learn, and get my book on Amazon to know more!   

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𝑫𝒆𝒇𝒆𝒂𝒕 𝑶𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒎 𝑶𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝑨𝒏𝒅 𝑭𝒐𝒓 𝑨𝒍𝒍 (𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒔𝒆 7 𝒔𝒆𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒕𝒔)  

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Happy Women’s History Month!

Listen To My Story about discovering self-love and self-compassion as the key to dealing with counterproductive tendencies that we all have 

 THEN….  Check out my latest program for Doctor Moms: 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐋𝐚𝐮𝐧𝐜𝐡 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐇𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞: 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐃𝐨𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫 𝐌𝐨𝐦𝐬  

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Listen in to hear 5 𝒑𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒑𝒐𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓  on this crucial step that most people take for granted!   

𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐞𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐠𝐨𝐚𝐥𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐚?  

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Meet Dr. Uche Njiaju: Oncologist, Author, Biographer, and Publisher  

She shares her journey with me as she evolved from a blogger to an author, to a biographer, and finally a publisher!    

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Everyone acts as though procrastination is a character flaw, but in this video, not only do I show how it is not. I give you real strategies that will help you stop procrastinating.  

Still need help? 

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1. Take care of yourself 

2. Stop feeling guilty 

3. Set boundaries with your children  

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* There are people who are committed to misunderstanding you.  

* There are people who will argue with you even if you believe the same things (they are just contradictory and contrarian).  *

 There are some people who will argue with you just because it’s you.  

* Those same people when they hear from others,  they will not say  “pim” * There are some people whose worldview is vastly different from yours and you still have to co- exist with them * If logic did not get them there, logic will not get them out.  

What to do? 

* Step back 

* Remove your own emotions from the situation

 * Think about a bug, and that you are trying to teach it calculus. 

* Ask yourself: can they receive what I am giving 

* Last but not least, always remember that you can explain something to people, but you cannot understand it for them.

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What happens when our “roles” in peoples lives change?     

  * Instead of trying to fit into someone else’s framework, just to keep the       peace and keep your relationship with them, it is better to be your authentic self and let the chips fall where they may.      

 * If you need to make changes necessary for your growth as a person, do it. It can be argued that anyone that doesn’t want you to grow and become better should probably be at the periphery of your life, and not at the center.     

  * Don’t remain angry when people’s attitudes toward the “New You” change. Instead of being angry and trying to force them to accept this better version of you, just re-direct your energy and emotions to the new crop of supporters that will inevitably come your way.  

    * Don’t over explain yourself. Remember, those who truly matter won’t mind and those who mind don’t really matter.      

* Make your growth a priority. That way, you will not be distracted by other people’s attitudes. 

 *Don’t condescend. Just accept that some people will be ok with the NEW YOU and some people won’t.  

 To get to know how I can help you navigate changing roles, book a call with me here: 

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In these post pandemic days, people have found the need to pivot and transition to more suitable careers, businesses and vocations.

Here are 5 things that you absolutely must consider when you are in that transitional phase

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They say when the going gets tough, the tough get going. Well when life seems to have you in knots and you have more tasks and less time, here is what to do..  

1. Remember you can only do one thing at a time. Worrying about all the things you have to do is not going to get them done. 

2. Making a to do list is so that you don’t forget tasks, not something to beat yourself up with, when you “only” do 25 things out of 50.  

3. Instead of working off a “to do list”, take the things from the list in order of urgency (deadlines) and importance, and assign them spots on your calendar. 

4. Use a calendar/ schedule 

5. Delegate, hire and outsource, and don’t micromanage. 

6. Make peace with an imperfect life. 

7. Do calming activities so that you don’t feel frantic (frantic feelings make you feel like everything is worse than it is)- meditation, breathing exercises, being out in nature etc. 

8. Share your struggles with a close trusted friend.  

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Dear doctor,  

 1. Take care of your health. Don’t pretend to be a superhero. Because, the day you crumble, everything you’re holding up will crumble too.  Also because you just need to.  

 2. Burnout is common, but not necessary. You do not have to fall prey to this scourge.   

3. Develop a healthy identity that doesn’t involve you being a superman, a savior, a martyr, or a fixer.  

 4. If you suffered certain things on your path to becoming a doctor, it doesn’t mean that you get to subject Junior Doctors to the same suffering. Do better.   

5. Get the best job you possibly can.  

6. Don’t fall prey to the belief that there are no better jobs out there. Remember, there is a Physician shortage, not a patient shortage.   

7. Do something that you love every day.  

 I am Dr. Shola Ezeokoli, Physician coach. I help busy physicians defeat and prevent burnout, as well as create options for themselves outside of traditional medical practice.   Watch a free Masterclass on burnout here.  https://physicianhealyourself.life/burnout-to-balance-masterclass-optin/

How?

In my newest program, I show you all these steps.

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In this episode you will learn:

If you are a woman, needing a confidence boost, join me on the 29th of April in my facebook group: Empowered Womanhood for a conversation on confidence with Dr Otito Okpor

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As I launch my brand new Community, Empowered Womanhood in 2022, here are some strategies to true empowerment for every woman. Stay tuned, we launch on 1/4/2022

Happy New Year!

Laurene Dougherty one of my many amazing clients!

Working with me she did the following:

1. Made forward movement in her career

2. Developed more empowering thoughts around food and eating

3. Learn the potential that she has and what she is truly capable of

She sat down with me to share her experience working with me as her coach.

Here is her interview!

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Time is for you, not against you, listen in...

In my work as a coach, I come across people who don’t take the next step of life, career, or a business because of worry about what other people might think.

Through coaching, I can actually help you to stop caring about what people think, especially if it is stopping you from living Your Optimum Life Now.

I am still booking calls for anyone who wants to work with a coach who truly “gets it”.

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Can you really take a vacation everyday? Listen in!

This is from a facebook livestream series so it contains chatter. Also, the program in question was launched in February 2021.

This is from a facebook livestream series so it contains chatter. Also, the program in question was launched in February 2021.

This is from a facebook livestream series so it contains chatter. Also, the program in question was launched in February 2021.

If you are a people pleaser or a recovering people pleaser, you will want to listen to this! Saying NO is a radical act of self-love. Here are three advantages of saying no, and three mindset shifts that need to be made in order to be able to say no without guilt

𝕋𝕙𝕖𝕣𝕖 𝕒𝕣𝕖 𝟜 𝔹𝕀𝔾 𝕞𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕜𝕖𝕤 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕕𝕠𝕔𝕥𝕠𝕣𝕤 𝕞𝕒𝕜𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕞𝕒𝕜𝕖 𝕓𝕦𝕣𝕟𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕨𝕠𝕣𝕤𝕖

𝕎𝕙𝕚𝕔𝕙 𝕠𝕗 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕤𝕖 𝕞𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕜𝕖𝕤 𝕒𝕣𝕖 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕞𝕒𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘?

𝕄𝕀𝕊𝕋𝔸𝕂𝔼 #𝟙: ℕ𝕠𝕥 𝕥𝕖𝕝𝕝𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕥𝕣𝕦𝕥𝕙 𝕒𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕨𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕣𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕪 𝕨𝕒𝕟𝕥.

𝐌𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐳𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐨𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐰𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐬, 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐢𝐭. 𝐖𝐞 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞. 𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧, 𝐰𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐝𝐦𝐢𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐲𝐛𝐞 𝐰𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐞. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐨𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐱𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐨𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐚 𝐧𝐨𝐧-𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐮𝐢𝐭. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐨𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤, 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝, 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐚 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬! 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐨𝐤!!

𝕄𝕀𝕊𝕋𝔸𝕂𝔼 #𝟚: 𝔹𝕖𝕝𝕚𝕖𝕧𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 “𝔹𝕦𝕣𝕟𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕔𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕤 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕥𝕖𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕥𝕠𝕣𝕪”

𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐡𝐮𝐠𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐬 𝐝𝐨𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐬, 𝐰𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐩𝐡𝐲𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐲𝐬, 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧 𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥, 𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐚𝐝𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐬, 𝐞𝐭𝐜. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐚𝐬 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐮𝐭, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐦𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐪𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞, 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐟𝐮𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡! 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞.

𝕄𝕀𝕊𝕋𝔸𝕂𝔼 #𝟛: ℍ𝕒𝕧𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕟𝕠 𝕠𝕦𝕥𝕝𝕖𝕥 𝕒𝕡𝕒𝕣𝕥 𝕗𝕣𝕠𝕞 𝕞𝕖𝕕𝕚𝕔𝕚𝕟𝕖.

𝐖𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐚𝐦 𝐎𝐬𝐥𝐞𝐫 𝐬𝐚𝐢𝐝: “𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐠 𝐝𝐨𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐡𝐢𝐦 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐩𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬” 𝐎𝐧𝐞 𝐤𝐞𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐞𝐝 𝐦𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞, 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐮𝐩 𝐰𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧. 𝐀𝐬 𝐈 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐞 𝐈 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐦 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐲 𝐰𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐢𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐬, 𝐰𝐞𝐛𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐫𝐬, 𝐜𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐦𝐬, 𝐞𝐭𝐜. 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐚 𝐰𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞𝐫, 𝐢𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐣𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐞.

𝕄𝕀𝕊𝕋𝔸𝕂𝔼 #𝟜: ℕ𝕠𝕥 𝕘𝕖𝕥𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕤𝕦𝕡𝕡𝕠𝕣𝕥 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕟𝕖𝕖𝕕.

𝐃𝐞𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐧𝐨𝐧-𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐦 𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭. 𝐍𝐨 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐠𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞! 𝐈 𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐝𝐨𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬-𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐚 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐯𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐞𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐢𝐫𝐞 𝐚 𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐞𝐫, 𝐥𝐞𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐨𝐦 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐚 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞, 𝐢𝐭 𝐃𝐎𝐄𝐒 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 “𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞”

There is nothing magical, spiritually significant, or special about the first day of January except the significance that we ourselves attach to it. I like to remind myself that the Gregorian calendar is man-made and was a reform of a previous calendar( the Julian calendar) which was itself a reform of the Roman calendar. There are also in use many different calendars( the lunar calendar, Igbo calendar, Hebrew calendar, the Chinese calendar, etc) in use, side by side with the Gregorian. The point I am making is that you do not have to “make new year resolutions”; you do not have to fall into despair at the end of the year, and you do not have to wait until the first of January to make the changes that you need to make in life.

The first of January is, however, a convenient time to set goals, and, the span of a year is a good time to review those goals you set( depending on what they were). However, new year resolutions are a total waste of time.

When you live a Balanced Life, you are better equipped to handle what life throws at you.

Why do I prefer to talk about the balanced life, instead of self-care. Self-care conjures up pictures of a spa day, Massage, exercise, and sometimes people throw in meditation. The balanced life, however prioritizes total care for your spirit soul and body. It is divided into five pillars, which I call the five pillars of balance. Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and relational. When “self care” is seen from this perspective, it becomes more than just one spa day every few months. It is a way of life. It is realizing that unless you take care of yourself consistently, you are no good to anyone. Contrary to what seems to be popular belief, a balanced life does not mean giving equal amounts of time, energy, and focus to everything in your life. That is not possible to do. Somethings in your life are more important than others, and some things in your life are more important at certain times than others. Of course, true emergencies are most important, and most urgent. For example, a burst appendix, is always going to be more important than a  therapy session, simply because it is a life threatening emergency. I will now break down the five pillars of balance, and how to be practical about taking care of the whole you.

When you live a Balanced Life, you are better equipped to handle what life throws at you.

Why do I prefer to talk about the balanced life, instead of self-care. Self-care conjures up pictures of a spa day, Massage, exercise, and sometimes people throw in meditation. The balanced life, however prioritizes total care for your spirit soul and body. It is divided into five pillars, which I call the five pillars of balance. Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and relational. When “self care” is seen from this perspective, it becomes more than just one spa day every few months. It is a way of life. It is realizing that unless you take care of yourself consistently, you are no good to anyone. Contrary to what seems to be popular belief, a balanced life does not mean giving equal amounts of time, energy, and focus to everything in your life. That is not possible to do. Somethings in your life are more important than others, and some things in your life are more important at certain times than others. Of course, true emergencies are most important, and most urgent. For example, a burst appendix, is always going to be more important than a  therapy session, simply because it is a life threatening emergency. I will now break down the five pillars of balance, and how to be practical about taking care of the whole you.

Do You Truly Rest?

No, I am not talking about working yourself into the ground and falling asleep, stuporous on your sofa. I read a book on leadership by Reverend Nolan McCants and ironically, the first chapter is on rest! In today’s crazy world, with busy schedules, school, work, home, marriage, children, church, volunteer commitments etc, how do we get ourselves some rest?

 Every three months I go on a one day personal retreat. I save up a few dollars each month, and I use this to book a hotel room within a 30-40 minute distance from my home and I take off. I usually stay for 10 to 12 hours and I have no agenda. As someone who plans out every single minute of her life, this is a refreshing change of pace. I pray, sleep, swim, exercise, eat, read, and do very little by way of work. Since I started taking these personal retreats, my life has moved to a new level. I have become more creative, more productive, more efficient and more peaceful.

Here is the power of a personal retreat when done properly...

How  you handle negative or critical people is key to your growth, and key to living a life of and harmony. Here are eight simple keys to handling haters. 

How you handle negative or critical people is key to your growth, and key to living a life of and harmony. Here are eight simple keys to handling haters. 

Today I will be writing about about choices, challenges and change. These are three things the we are faced with, everyday of our life. We cannot escape these three things and it is vital to a balanced life for us to be able to handle the “C” triplets....

In 2005, we tied the knot. Sealed the deal. Got hitched. Jumped the broom.

A year later, we moved to Chicago. From then on, it was an endless cycle of offenses, silent treatment, outbursts, and make up sex. The next three years of our marriage were rather rocky. Fast forward to 2019, our marriage is thriving, we have helped many people’s marriages not only survive but thrive; we have counseled scores of people getting married, and we have our own marriage charity. So the question is: how did we get from there to where we are now?

Listen in for 5 actionable tips for a thriving marriage

If you are having trouble with limiting mindsets, procrastination, meeting your goals, and getting organized, you may need to take it a step further- hiring a life coach.

What can a coach do for you?

Have you ever felt overwhelmed? Okay, don’t answer that. Everyone at some point in their life has felt overwhelmed with their circumstances. Something we don’t realize, however, is that we do not have to feel that way....

Listen in for the keys to banish overwhelm from your life!

Power is defined as the ability to do something or act in a particular way. Another definition is the capacity to direct or influence.  Yet another definition is the right or authority that is given or delegated to a person or body. Other definitions include physical strength, and energy. What power do you as an individual actually have?

The answer is, a lot!

Discover your purpose in this podcast, that breaks down finding your purpose into actionable steps!