Believe you ARE a Good Mom with Emily Wardrop
By Emily Wardrop
She is also the "T1D Moms Coach" helping Moms who have a child with Type 1 Diabetes manage themselves while managing their child's diabetes. She helps these warrior Moms feel less stress, scared, and sad and start feeling more calm, confident, and connected.
Believe you ARE a Good Mom with Emily WardropJun 09, 2023
"Raise Confident and Resilient Children" with The Parenting Mentor, Susan Groner
As an experienced mother of 2 young adults, Sue Groner knows how stressful and overwhelming parenting can be at times. She founded The Parenting Mentor to provide an ally for parents in their quest to raise confident and resilient children. Sue is the author of Parenting with Sanity and Joy. 101 Simple Strategies, is the host of The Parenting Mentor Sessions Podcast, and is a certified Positive Discipline parent educator. Sue is also the creator of the CLEARR™ method of parenting, developed through years of trial (and her fair share of errors!) with her own family. CLEARR™ adheres to the belief that parenting strategies should be grounded in six important pillars: Communication, Love, Empathy, Awareness, Rules, and Respect. This has become the cornerstone of her practice as The Parenting Mentor. A graduate of the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania and a former advertising executive, Sue is a frequent guest expert on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox to name a few, and provides advice for many national publications and websites such as The Wall Street Journal, Parents, Real Simple, Today.com, HuffPost, and Katie Couric Media. Sue resides in New York City and Bedford, NY with her husband, and when she’s lucky, with her children. She is available for speaking engagements as well as for private and group mentorship sessions(in-person or virtual) nationwide for individuals and corporations.
"Sex is for you! Even while your kids are young" with Amanda Louder
You are a Mom of young kids. Your life is crazy, chaotic, and busy. Everyone is pulling you in a thousand different directions all the time. You never get a break.
Day in and day out (and all through the night!) you are meeting everyone else's needs.
You are nurturing relationships with each one of your children and that takes a lot out of you.
You love your kids fiercely and you are also a person. That needs taking care of.
When and how do you take care of yourself?
My friend and fellow life coach Amanda Louder believes that one way we, as women, and as moms, can take care of ourselves is through sex.
A lot of us have been conditioned to believe that sex is for the man. And that our husbands are just one more person that we need to take care of. But if you look at the sexual differences between men and women, maybe God actually had something different in mind.
Listen in to this episode to learn more.
Amanda Louder is a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach who helps Christian men & women overcome their obstacles to create a more emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically intimate relationship. She is also the host of the Sex for Saints Podcast that has over 1 Million Downloads.
In addition to being a coach, Amanda is also a wife to Kevin, and mom and step-mom to 5 kids, ranging in ages from 14-23. In her spare time, she enjoys reading, watching her kids play sports, fishing, and camping.
If you are ready for support in this area, you can contact Amanda through her website or on instagram:
And, as always, when you need a boost in any of your relationships, sign up for a FREE RBC (Relationship Boost Call) at dropthewar.com/appointments
Stop LYING To Yourself!
Satan is the father of lies.
He takes truth and changes it just enough so it's harder to discern that it is a lie.
We have to be aware of this.
And consciously sift through the 60,000 thoughts we have a day to find and discard the lies.
You do not have to believe every thought that crosses your mind.
A LOT of them are lies.
We need to get awareness with acceptance in order to live in alignment.
How do we know if what we're thinking is true or not?
Your body will tell you.
Thoughts all cause vibrations in the body that we refer to as emotions.
How does that thought feel?
What is the message that your feelings are trying to tell you?
Is it true?
You ARE Not your feelings.
If you are in the habit of saying "I am Angry or I am impatient", those are lies.
You ARE Good. And you FEEL all the feels. And that's ok. You don't need to IDENTIFY with the feeling. It's just an emotion. Not a label.
You also might be lying in your Action Line.
What are you doing that is out of alignment with your true self?
We may even be lying unconsciously in our actions. Our efficient brains memorize patterns of behavior that send out lies to those around us.
If we are practiced at being overwhelmed and frustrated, we are snippy with our kids and annoyed when they interrupt us, and the child will interpret our actions as the lie that we don't love them. Of course we love them! And we are feeling feels that are driving actions that are lying.
We HAVE to stop lying to ourselves and to everyone around us!
Through my AAA coaching framework. Awareness, Acceptance, and Alignment.
Go to dropthewar.com/appointments and sign up for your FREE RBC and I can support your in this journey to stop lying to yourself! It will change everything for you! Let's do it!!
"ADHD in Us and In Our Kids" with Brigette Little
Do you wonder if you or your kids have ADHD and what should you do about it? Brigette is here to answer a lot of those questions for us.
Brigette Little is a Certified Coach and Proud ADHDer
She is the Mom of 6 and Parent of ADHD kids
Avid learner and lover of all things funny and interesting
To learn more from her:
Instagram: @brigettelittlecoaching Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100041630636373 Website: https://www.brigettelittlecoaching.com/
And if you're ready to boost your relationship with one of your kiddos (especially as school is ending and summer is here!) I'd love to chat with you on zoom to support you! Sign up for your FREE RBC Relationship Boost Call at dropthewar.com/appointments
"Following your Intuition by Calming your Nervous System" with Megan Nicole Windhorst
Intuitive Parenting is being your own parenting expert and not having to look to outside sources for answers. You know best how to parent your own children.
Last episode we discussed that our sacred bodies are the user manual for this earth life, today is some specific hows to actually do so.
I have special guest and Intuition Coach, Megan Nicole Windhorst joining me to teach us more about how to tap into our own inner wisdom, heal our childhood wounds, believe in ourselves, reparent, etc. We've got ALL the goods for you today! Including actionable ideas that you can implement right away to start calming your nervous system in order to connect with your own intuitive parenting style.
Megan Windhorst is the owner and CEO of Megan Nicole Coaching LLC.
Megan is an intuition coach and nervous system expert helping women heal and connect deeply to their own inner knowing so that they can follow their soul's calling confidently. Megan is a former school counselor and teacher turned full time online entrepreneur. She holds a master's degree in counseling and a bachelor's degree in education. Megan is a best selling author, certified Reiki Master, certified breath-work facilitator, and an Intuitive.
Get access to all of her incredible offers here:
Free facebook group Intuition Connection https://www.facebook.com/groups/567386201090051/?ref=shareWww.instagram.com/coachmegannicole
Facebook: Megan Nicole Coaching https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100057541642008&mibextid=ZbWKwL
As always, if you are ready to boost any relationship, sign up for a FREE RBC with me at dropthewar.com/appointments
And if you or anyone you know has a child with Type 1 Diabetes also, get access to our free T1D Moms Support Group call and all other resources at dropthewar.com/t1d
Your Sacred Body
Satan doesn't have a family or a body.
So he uses ours as his centers for attack.
We frequently talk about how to protect our families with love.
How about our bodies?
Body love is a hot topic right now and I think that is awesome.
Cause our prior cultural body shaming tactic didn't work and actually caused much more harm than good.
You cannot beat yourself up better.
Love and Acceptance is the only way to change.
I am offering a new 8 week coaching package to support you in your journey of self-love, body-love, and transforming into your aligned eternal self both inside and out.
Learn more in this episode and sign up for your FREE RBC if you want to ask me any questions before signing up for this great new offer!
How to get the Mother's Day that YOU WANT
Mother's Day is coming up and I want to help you get the Mother's Day experience that YOU WANT!
Listen in for all the tips tricks and tools to have the BEST Mother's Day EVER!
Because You ARE a Good Mom!
And when you believe that, you can receive the love and compliments from everyone else around you.
Happy Mother's Day, my friends!!
Be sure to listen before Sunday so that you can make it all that you want it to be!
Getting on the Same Page
Co-Parenting is so hard.
Your brain's job is to prove itself right.
So you are right.
Which means your husband must be wrong if he doesn't agree with you.
This is not a useful function of our brain in this circumstance.
We need to manage that default setting with some intentional thoughts that will serve us and our families better.
On our T1D Moms Support Group call today we talked about how to get on the same page with our spouse.
Do you ever struggle with that?
Whether you have a child with type 1 diabetes or not, if you have a child and you have someone else who you coordinate care of that child with, this episode is for you!
I am sharing a bouquet of new thoughts for you to try on right in time for Mother's Day!
Let your husband and kids appreciate you in the best way that they know how. It won't be exactly right but they are trying.
And when you believe that you ARE a Good Mom, you will receive that love more graciously.
More about that on my upcoming Mother's Day Podcast
"Raising a Son with Type 1 Diabetes" with Dr. Sheila Owens-Collins, MD MPH MBA,
I am the T1D Moms Coach.
Two of my five kids have been diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes in the past few years and so I love to support other moms with T1D children. Because we do SO much to keep our kids healthy and well, but how much time and energy does that leave for us to take care of ourselves? And if we don't do it, who will?
And, of course, the mental and emotional load of caring for young kids is taxing enough but then add the constant stress, scared, and sad feelings and we've got quite the hot mess of a mom trying to manage her child's diabetes. Not ideal. We need clear minds and bodies ourselves in order to take care of everyone else. So I teach strategies to generate on purpose more feelings of connection, calm, and confidence instead!
So, I've got you Momma!
And today I have an extra special treat for you. Dr OC and I discuss her personal journey being a T1D Mom herself in addition to her pediatric career. And her son is all grown and doing amazing things in the T1D world now also! So it is really fun to be able to learn from her years of experience and "light at the end of the tunnel" perspective.
To join our Tuesday Morning T1D Mom Support Group Calls, get access to replays of past calls, and all my other T1D specific support, go to www.dropthewar.com/t1d
Dr. Sheila Owens-Collins, MD MPH MBA, is an accomplished and experienced pediatrician
with a subspecialty in neonatology. She is a dedicated clinician and health care executive who
has worked tirelessly for over 20 years to improve care coordination and foster healthier
outcomes through policy initiatives and quality of care. Dr. Owens-Collins has also conducted
extensive research on the social determinants of health that shape disparities in health outcomes.
Her passion for children's health was further galvanized when her oldest son was diagnosed with
Type 1 Diabetes at age 13, inspiring her to write the upcoming book “A Parent’s Guide to Type 1
Diabetes: Helping Your Child Balance the Highs and Lows” which will be released in June 2024.
Her son would go on to not only play football at Yale University but also make the All-Ivy
League Team his senior year; he is currently a Chief Resident in Psychiatry at Stanford,
specializing in sports psychiatry and neuroscience of resilience while speaking frequently on
subjects related to mental health such as burnout, resilience, and how exercise can bolster both
physical wellness and overall wellbeing. Dr. Owens-Collins’ vast knowledge, experience and
dedication make her one of the foremost voices advocating for improved children's healthcare today.
Click Here to see Dr Roy Collins' presentation about using exercise to build resilience with physical and mental strategies to combat diabetes burnout.
Loving and Accepting Yourself
When I tell you that you ARE a Good Mom, what comes up for you?
All the "yeah buts"
"reasons" why you think that you are not a good mom.
But nothing you can tell me that you did, thought, or felt will convince me that you are anything but a Good Mom.
Because I know that God Loves and Accepts you.
Just as you ARE!
Even just as you are today.
In your imperfect state making all sorts of mistakes.
And when you can love and accept your flawed self, then and only then can you make improvements.
I promise that this is how it works.
If you don't believe me, just try it!
(and take my free masterclass at dropthewar.com/believe)
And if you want to join me and thousands of others who are working on retraining our brains to love and accept ourselves, get Brooke Snow's Co Create App at https://brookesnow.com/app/
Your Child's Behavior
No matter how old your kids are, the number one LIE that your brain is telling you is that their behavior means that you are a bad mom.
That is just NOT TRUE!
You ARE a Good Mom! No matter how your child is behaving or no matter how they "turn out"!
Just try to believe that with me for a minute.
Your child's behavior does NOT determine whether you are a good mom or not.
Well then, what does?
How do I know if I'm a good mom?
You just decide right now to believe that you inherently ARE Good.
It's who you Are!
And that doesn't change by what you do or by what your kids are doing.
We all make mistakes but those mistakes do not affect our worth.
If you need help disbelieving this lie, check out my free prerecorded masterclass at dropthewar.com/believe
For more on this secret and my other top 3 secrets to keep your sanity as a mom dropthewar.com/4-secrets
And if you're ready to get support, I'd love to help you drop your limiting beliefs on a free zoom chat dropthewar.com/appointments to find a time that works for both of us.
You don't have to believe every lie your brain wants to tell you.
Take charge of your own beliefs that serve you best.
Believe you ARE a Good Mom!
No matter what your kids are doing!
"Up-Leveling our Lives" with Heather Rackham
Heather Rackham is the face and voice of the Latter-Day Saint Life Coach Directory.
She is also the host of the Latter-Day Life Coaches podcast.
After making such amazing transformations in her own life from coaching, Heather certified as a life coach herself and then decided that one way that she could help the most people get those same transformations is by creating a place where latter-day saints can come searching for a coach in one place. And the directory was born.
In our chat today we dig in deeper to what those personal transformations were for Heather and why it is so awesome to have a coach!
Maybe you already love your life. So what is a coach for, then? Well, what if there is more? It's fun to up-level from good. There doesn't have to be a big problem that we need to fix, but as humans, we are wired to progress and to grow. We crave the need to continually move forward.
We all understand the basic physical maintenance that our bodies need. We go to the doctor and dentist for routine check ups. A life coach does the same for our mental and emotional health.
Listen in for more about that and be sure to check out the directory to find a coach that resonates the most for you.
and on instagram where we go Live every Wednesday with different topics combining faith and coaching.
Heather and I, along with dozens of our amazing coach colleagues also recently participated in a virtual summit which you can purchase lifetime access to HERE! The Courageous Discipleship Summit. How to keep your faith strong while your loved ones are questioning their beliefs.
And, as always, if you'd like to up-level any relationship in your life, sign up for a FREE RBC with me at dropthewar.com/appointments and to learn more about HOW to Believe you ARE a Good Mom, check out my free masterclass at dropthewar.com/believe
You ARE Special by Max Lucado
You ARE Special! and You ARE a Good Mom!!
Are you familiar with Max Lucado's children's book called "You Are Special"?
It's a great book for humans of all ages, actually.
I love love love it!
It's my favorite!!
And that is really saying something cause I love a LOT of children's books.
In this book he tells the story of a little wooden boy named Punchinello who gets lots of bad marks and decides to make that mean that he is a bad Wemmick.
But he meets a friend named Lucia who doesn't have dots or starts, nothing sticks on her!
I won't spoil the whole book for you, but listen in to the episode to learn HOW to Believe you ARE a Good Mom from Max Lucado's book.
And be sure to be the Lucia in your friend's lives by sharing this episode and this podcast.
We don't have to let other people's judgements define who we are!
God made you, you ARE Good!
You are not a mistake. You make mistakes, but that's all part of the plan for our learning and growth.
Through Jesus Christ, we can be make stronger through the repeated mistakes, picking ourselves up, not beating ourselves further down, quickly forgiving ourselves, asking for forgiveness from God and the offended, dust it off, and try again. and again. and again. Through the reps we get stronger! Jesus will help us!
Daily as we turn to God and remember who we ARE we will make the improvements we are yearning for.
You've got this Momma!!!
You can purchase this and so many more amazing books by Max Lucado here. Thank you for shining your light, Max, and sharing your love and wisdom with the world!!
Being Present is the BEST Present!
Our kids want to be heard and understood.
When they talk and we interrupt with corrections, comments, or critiques, they will stop talking to us.
And that would not be good!
So if you want to join me on this journey of getting more present in order to listen for understanding, check out today's podcast!
In our busy world, busy schedules, and busy brains it is really hard to silence the noise and listen.
It is hard to even find the time to be present with our kids and when we finally find the time, they're not in the mood.
So we have to be sure to have our needs met in order to be ready for them when they need us.
This is what we work on in coaching.
Give it a try with your FREE RBC Relationship Boost Call.
Who is your kid that you have the hardest time keeping your cool around? Who pushes your buttons the most? Who knows exactly how to trigger you?
Let's improve your relationship with that sweet kiddo!
God gave you them for a reason!!
There is SO much goodness you can learn from your triggers.
There are glorious opportunities to re-parent yourself, to heal your own childhood wounds.
Let me guide you, it's so Good!
Sign up for a free zoom chat with me at dropthewar.com/appointments
How to Not Burn Out with Wendy Schofer MD
Feeling a little burnt out?
Dr Wendy Schofer generously shares her burn out story with us and gives us tips on how to not burn out in our Motherhood.
If our energy levels come from our thought/feeling combinations, paying attention to what our thoughts and feelings even are gives us half the battle of regaining more precious energy in our busy days.
You are not failing, you are just burnt out from beating yourself up with thoughts of not being enough.
We have to catch those sneaky thoughts, remind ourselves that that they are lies, and redirect to the truth that you ARE a Good Mom!
Wendy Schofer, MD is the straight-talking pediatrician and life coach who specializes in helping parents learn how to raise kids to be healthy at every weight. Life doesn't revolve around portion control and the scale, and neither should our approach to health.
Learn how to love your kids and let them love themselves as they are, while creating lifelong healthy relationships with food, body and self.
Free "Weight Loss 101 for Your Whole Family" Mini-Course: www.wendyschofermd.com/weight-loss-101 ----
I KNOW! Parents kept asking me, "Where is Weight Loss 101?"
I answered that question and more: with the info that they actually need to hear, like why weight loss shouldn't be the focus for kids.
And when you are ready to really start believing that you ARE a Good Mom, check out my free masterclass at dropthewar.com/believe
Want help with your relationship with your kiddo?
I am still doing FREE RBCs!! Relationship Boost Calls!
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Good Friday and Good Moms
Happy Holy Week, my friends!
What are you and your family doing to celebrate the most important weekend of the year?!
We all make a big deal out of the Birth of the Savior at Christmas, but if it wasn't for Easter, there would be no Christmas.
Jesus Christ overcame sin and death! We can be forgiven, we are strengthened through our trials and sorrows, and we will be resurrected just as he was on Sunday Morning!
Today is Good Friday. Why do we call the darkest day of the year good? The day that Jesus suffered for every sin of every human being. The day that he felt everything that we feel? Do you only feel good? He felt all of the good, the bad, and the unbearable. He suffered for all. He knows you. He knows what you are going though. He's felt it all. And because he's been there, he can support us through it. And that IS Good! That is the Good News of the Gospel of Jesus Christ!
You ARE a Good Mom! But sometimes our good feels like Good Friday. Heavy, dark, betrayed, accused, bleeding, sorrowing, sinful, guilt, hurt, sad, and lonely.
We all have to go through the hard stuff.
It’s an important part of life.
And it IS endurable when we know the bigger picture.
Sunday will come!
Light, love, happiness, joy, peace, hope, and new life!
Hang on through the dark times, morning always comes.
Because of Him!
Happy Easter, my friend! May the love, joy, and peace of Christ be with you this week and always is my prayer for you!
In the name of Jesus Christ, the Prince of Peace Himself, Amen!!
How to find answers to your parenting questions with Marielle Melling
Are you having a hard time with your littles and you don't know what to do?
Is life so crazy, chaotic, and you get swept up in the mayhem?
Did you know that you can feel peace amidst the chaos?
And that You have the answers within yourself!
Marielle Melling helps us today with finding answers to our questions. She uses her AWAY framework.
A-Apart, take some time apart from the problem to study and get in-tuned
W-Walk in your child's shoes, try to see things from their point of view
A- Appreciate what's going well
Y-You can do, focus on what's in your control
Marielle shares more of this wisdom live every Wednesday on instagram "Move and Muse"
You can also find her at
When you're ready to learn more about How to Believe you ARE a Good Mom, get my free masterclass at dropthewar.com/believe
And all you other T1D Moms, join our free support group calls on Tuesday mornings, sign up at dropthewar.com/t1d
"Alone Time is NOT Selfish!" with Elizabeth Andreyevskiy
Nobody benefits when you're running on empty, and nobody suffers when you take care of yourself.
It's not that you are more important than your kids, it's that you Are important also!
Self care and alone time, my friends, is NOT selfish!
You cannot pour from an empty cup and you must put on your own oxygen mask first.
Elizabeth is a stress coach for Christian moms. She is the host of Emotionally Healthy Legacy podcast and a mom of 4. Elizabeth is super passionate about mental health and emotional wellness in motherhood. She helps overwhelmed Christian moms reduce the mental stress so they can respond with patience and calm towards their kids. She teaches proactive ways to be less stressed, prioritizing moms needs without guilt and ways to regulate emotions when feeling triggered.
To get her help with "5 ways to calm down when you are getting triggered"
If you are a T1D Mom, sign up for our support group calls HERE
FREE RBC Relationship Boost Call HERE
Believe you ARE a Good Mom Masterclass HERE
You ARE 100%
Your worth is NOT determined by your works!
You ARE 100% Valuable
You Are 100% Good
You Are 100% Beautiful
You Are 100% Magnificent
You Are 100%.
You Are 100% Lovable
You Are 100%!
You just ARE
Your value is set
There is nothing you can do to change it.
Who you ARE never wanes.
It's not one of your batteries that drains and needs to be recharged.
It just IS.
The worth of souls is Great in the sight of God.
You are 100% Great!
You just ARE!
Because of HIM.
Jesus Christ makes it all possible.
Happy Palm Sunday, friends!
For more celebrations of this Holy Week check out Easter.comeuntochrist.org
Jesus Christ is the strength of YOU.
He is the strength of families.
He is the strength of parents.
As we learned from Elder Uchtdorf yesterday
Rewatch that talk and all the others from General Conference at www.churchofjesuschrist.org
And to start applying it specifically to you, dropthewar.com/believe for the free masterclass to Believe you ARE a Good Mom!
Welcome Jesus into your Life
Have you heard of the most awesome, inspiring, motivational, uplifting, FREE Event that is happening THIS weekend?!! And you can tap in virtually from your own couch in your jammies?!
We call it General Conference which sounds stuffy and boring but it is packed with the Holy Spirit and messages straight from Jesus Christ to his Prophet and Apostles in our day!!
What?! Yes! God has called a prophet to the earth again! A modern day Moses! The people in Noah's day needed to be warned about the flood if they didn't repent. What do we need to be warned of? What does God want to tell us now? What messages does He have for YOU specifically?
Come find out!!
Live stream all the sessions from www.churchofjesuschrist.org to celebrate Palm Sunday weekend!
I can't wait!!!
And if you miss it live, you can watch the recordings anytime. In fact, you can watch all of the past conferences on there now to get a taste of what's to come. It is literally the BEST event happening in the WORLD this weekend!!
"Sidekick to Hero" with Joey Mascio
Joey Mascio is a life coach for teens and you're not going to want to miss this incredible app that he is developing to help our kids learn all of the important mental and emotional resilience principles! Check it out at: www.sidekicktohero.com And more from Joey at: www.joeymascio.com Secrets for an Awesome Life Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/secrets-for-an-awesome-life/id1504492900 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joey_sidekicktohero/
"I just want something" with Jennie Lakenan
Are you living your dream as a Stay at Home Mom but sometimes it doesn't feel like the "Happily Every After" you thought it'd be?
Do you find yourself saying "I just want something" to help you feel more alive, more like yourself, more fulfilled, more validated?
Then do you feel guilty that being a mom just doesn't feel like enough even though you're thoroughly exhausted and drained?
Do you feel bad wondering about getting fulfillment outside of motherhood?
As if being a mom is supposed to be the end all be all of your existence and should meet all of your very complicated human needs?
If so, Mama, You are NOT alone!!
A LOT of us have felt this way and on the podcast today I have special guest Jennie Lakenan who will share with us her similar story.
She resisted a lot of these feelings also but after she found coaching, she realized that it was not only ok to feel this way, but embracing her true self and her God-given desires was actually the biggest gift that she could give her children!
Jennie Lakenan is now a certified digital business consultant and certified life coach in addition to being a Good Mom to three young girls. When she discovered coaching in 2018, her life transformed for the better. She quickly saw the need in the coaching industry for website services for coaches, and founded her design agency. Her mission is to get more coaching into the world by helping other coaches to promote and grow their businesses via extraordinary websites and strategic marketing. jennielakenan.com
And if any of this resonates with you and you'd like to learn more about coaching and how You can also embrace all the feels to create your dream life, sign up for a FREE RBC Relationship Boost Call with me at dropthewar.com/appointments to get started! You CAN live happily ever after in the life that you choose!
Motivations to Be a Good Mom
What is your motivation to be a good mom?
What are you trying to prove?
Who are you trying to impress?
Or is it just who you Are?
Tap in to find out more
And when you're ready to really start Believing that you ARE a Good Mom, get the free masterclass at dropthewar.com/believe
"Break Through the Hard" with Kimberly Nichols
Kimberly Nichols is the Resilience Coach for Moms. She helps moms find more joy even when mom life is hard and discover their power & strength within to be the mom they want to be for their teens & tweens.
Being a mom is part of the adventure of becoming. It doesn’t have to be a struggle. She believes that you can still love your life even when it’s hard.
4 Power Thoughts to Help You Get Through the Hard
When we think that we are supposed to feel happy all of the time, we also think there is something wrong with us when we don't. But as Kimberly has learned and now teaches through life coaching, that just isn't true. There is nothing wrong with you if you are feeling any sort of way. It's all part of the human experience.
The journey from caterpillar to butterfly is a beautiful symbol in nature of Our Eternal nature. This earth life often feels like the gooey middle phase but we can break through the hard and come out the beautiful butterflies that we are destined to become through Jesus Christ who strengthens us and enables us to do the hard things we can't do alone yet.
When we believe that all of the hard stuff is for our growth and development, it helps us endure it faithfully and gives it purpose.
Learn more from Kimberly @ chrysaliscoachingwithkimberly.com/links
And get your FREE RBC with me and if you are a T1D Mom, sign up for our support group calls, get the replays that you've missed and all other Type 1 Diabetes content at dropthewar.com/t1d
"Inclusion and Belonging" with Jodi Schilling
Jodi Schilling is a certified life coach for world-changers, a mental health advocate, and behavior support specialist in schools. She’s also a mom of 4 neurodiverse adult kids and the host of The Good Mom podcast. She believes strongly in equity, inclusion, and strength-based approaches to problems.
When asked what changes she would like to see in the world, we had a great discussion about inclusion and belonging. Acceptance goes both ways and it starts with accepting ourselves. Listen in for more!
To find more of Jodi check out her here: www.linktr.ee/jodi.schilling.lifecoach
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Wounds will be Dressed
Not one soul of them did perish AND neither was there one soul among them who had not received many wounds.
Immediately gave orders that my men who had been wounded should be taken from among the dead and caused that their woulds should be dressed.
To read the full story https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/bofm?lang=eng
Take hope in the story of the Stripling Warriors.
You have taught your children to trust in God.
Now You have to trust in the "long game"
If your children are currently out on the battle field,
there is hope.
They will receive many wounds.
But Christ will dress their wounds,
Their SOULS will Not perish!
Do not judge yourself too harshly or too soon.
The end is not yet.
We are in the messy middle.
It's not too late for you or your kids.
The battle is real and it is wounding
But Christ is real also and he will dress those wounds.
Your job is just to continue in hope and faith.
Lengthen your lens.
Use this story as a light of hope.
not as one more indication of failure on your part and another weapon to wound yourself with.
Do not doubt. God WILL deliver them.
If He hasn't yet, He will!
It's never too late.
No matter how old your kids are.
No matter what they are doing.
You are still their mother and your faith will help them.
The stripling warrior's fathers had all been killed but God still delivered them.
In an eternal perspective.
Their mothers had experienced that.
So they knew that their sons would also be delivered.
We can also have that kind of faith
and teach it to our children.
Even after receiving many wounds,
Jesus Christ will dress the wounds.
God will deliver them!
"Empowering your Kids" with Jane Copier
Jane Copier is the Empty Nest Coach for midlife women so she is frequently helping Moms empower their children to make their own decisions and fix their own problems. And I propose that we can do the same for our kids even while they are small.
Jane is starting an amazing group program on April 3 called "Empty Nest Academy" so be sure to check out her website for that info and get the early bird freebies right away.
IG: Jane.Copier.Coaching https://www.instagram.com/jane.copier.coaching/
Tiktok: CoachForMidlifeWomen https://www.tiktok.com/@coachformidlifewomen
FB Group: Midlife Thrive Tribe for Women https://www.facebook.com/groups/makeyourmarriageamazing
For access to the "Courageous Discipleship" Virtual Summit that we both participated in,
To join our T1D Moms Support Group Call, get access to the replays, and all other Diabetes content, check out dropthwar.com/t1d
And to get your Free RBC Relationship Boost Call, dropthewar.com/appointments
God is perfectly patient.
We are not.
So we need patience with our own imperfections.
And faith in His perfect patience.
Learn more about how in this episode.
And if you are also a Mom of a child with Type 1 Diabetes, join us for our weekly support group calls, get access to the replays, and all the other T1D Mom content at dropthewar.com/t1d
Check out the Latter Day Life Coach "Courageous Discipleship" summit here and the Latter-Day Life Coaches podcast here.
Trust Yourself with Bridget Lundrigan
Bridget Lundrigan is one of my Mommy Mentors.
She is my first guest who is not another certified life coach but she has always been one of my "unofficial" life coaches.
We have been friends since her first son was a newborn and mine was about to be.
Bridget has always been such a great example to me of a Mom who trusts herself.
She knows who she is and she knows that she knows what's best for her and her family.
After I got to know Bridget a little better, I did find out that she isn't perfect ;) and that gave me the realization that NO ONE IS!!
The idealized "good mom" is illusive and delusional.
Not one real life human can live up to the expectations we put on ourselves.
Bridget has so much wisdom and I'm so thrilled to share her with all of you instead of hogging it all to myself on Marco Polo 😉
I was also thrilled that Bridget finally "let me coach her" and she experienced my amazing Free RBC! So if you stay to the end, you can hear her testimonial about how you can also boost your relationships on one quick and easy call with me.
Sign up for your free Relationship Boost Call today at dropthewar.com/appointments
Just Breathe! T1D Mom Instructional Call
Love is one Breath away.
Calm is one Breath away.
Peace. Sanity. Patience.
Getting in touch with your Spirit, your True Self.
It all just takes a PAUSE.
In the very heat of the moment,
All you have to do is Remember to Breathe!
Get your brain back online.
It takes one intentional breath.
This week was our second T1D Mom Support Group call. We are spreading the word and the excitement and didn't have too much live participation yet so I got to spend the whole half hour in instruction and wanted to share with all of you also. Future calls will have more interaction, coaching, meditation, BREATHING, prayer, and yes teaching also. I have SO many tools that have helped me as a Mom and especially in our Type 1 Diabetes journey, I'm excited to share what has helped me and you can try it out and take it or leave it.
If you or anyone you know has a child with Type 1 Diabetes, sign up for the calls, get access to the replays, and all the other T1D Mom Support at dropthewar.com/t1d
Women at the Well with Hyo North
Hyo and I are both starting women's support groups.
Hers is for her "Divorce and Discipleship" women and mine is for my T1D Moms.
Listen in today as she describes what her group will be like and send all your friends who are going through a separation or divorce over my dear friend's way, she will take great care of them! Hyo has been and is still in the thick of it and has great tools and experience in turning to the Savior in the most trying times in life.
Hyo is a Spiritual Mastery Coach and has such a soothing and pensive approach to coaching that helps me on the daily with whatever I'm stressed about. I am delighted to share her with all of you.
Scheduling link: https://hyonorthcoaching.as.me/ (https://hyonorthcoaching.as.me/)
Instagram handle: Hyo North, Spiritual Mastery Coach (@hyonorth_coaching) • Instagram photos and videos (https://www.instagram.com/hyonorth_coaching/)
Website: Hyo North Coaching – Life & Spiritual Mastery Coach (https://hyonorthcoaching.com/)
Waitlist for Women at The Well:
And to get more information and sign up for the T1D Moms Support Group dropthewar.com/t1d
Please share with anyone you know that has a child with Type 1 Diabetes
Elevate with Kami Banks
Drop the "Shoulds"
Drop the "Do Betters"
We are expansive beings so we will always want to elevate our perspectives.
Nothing wrong with where you are, you ARE Good.
AND you can move to a different perspective.
Kami Banks helps moms who want to move reach new heights.
In this episode you will learn how to (similar to my AAA Battery framework) go from the island of awareness, through the sea of C's to get to your islands of Excellence. We also discuss the idea of listening to your body and the continuum between indulging in our primal brain comfort and pushing ourselves too hard. When is it "no pain, no gain" and when do we "let ourselves off the hook"
To learn more from and work with Kami, check her out:
"Beyond Your Comfort Zone" podcast
To sign up for your FREE RBC with me head to dropthewar.com/appointments
and send your friends and family who have a child with Type 1 Diabetes to dropthewar.com/t1d to sign up for the free T1D Moms Support Group Calls and all the other resources.
Patience NOT Perfection
I know you think that a Good Mom is Patient.
With her kids.
But what about Patient with yourself?!
Has it ever bothered you that in the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus commands us to be perfect?
Like the "higher law" isn't too high already, how the heck does He expect this also?!!
On today's episode I shed some light and a lot of HOPE on all of this.
If you're struggling to believe you Are a Good Mom no matter what you do or don't do, please check out my masterclass at dropthewar.com/believe and get some more free help. And when you're ready to chat with me about it sign up for a FREE RBC Relationship Boost Call where we can work on any relationship you are struggling with including your relationship with yourself which is at the heart of any perfectionist tendencies. I'd love to give you a quick boost there also! See ya on zoom!
ALSO, remember to send your Type 1 Diabetic Mom friends my way! I just started a new and amazing T1D Mom Support Group call and I have lots of other resources at dropthewar.com/t1d
To sign up for the Virtual Summit: https://summits.ldslifecoaches.com/?ref=2f6135
I am so excited to be part of a free virtual summit on February 21st and 22nd:
Courageous Discipleship--courageously be a disciple of Christ when you or those around you are questioning their traditional religious beliefs.
Patrick Mason, Fiona Givens, Ben Schilaty, myself and 33 of my life coach colleagues, have joined together to create an amazing resource full of tools and real life applications that will leave a lasting impact on all viewers. Whether it’s you, your spouse, children, adult children or friends that are questioning traditional beliefs, you will find resources here.
The summit is free to view at any time on February 21st and 22nd. And just in case you can’t view it on those days, you have the option for extended access.
And to sign up for the T1D Mom Support Group Calls: https://dropthewarlifecoach.as.me/t1d
And our message for today comes from Mathew 5: 25 where the footnote for "Agree with thine adversary quickly" helps us understand that perhaps what Jesus was inviting us to do is not necessarily agree per se but "Quickly have kind thoughts for, or be well disposed toward" those who you are disagreeing with.
It is literally a very important part of God's plan for us all to be different. We aren't supposed to think and feel about things in the same way. How boring would that be?
So no one has to be right or wrong, we're just different.
Learning to manage our differences and still love is the challenge of this lifetime.
A quick and easy brain hack to drop the war on disagreements is to remind yourself that "they can think that if they want to"
Cause, guess what? They CAN! And the Do! And they will.
So what are you going to do about it? They aren't changing their mind. They don't need to. They're not wrong.
And You don't have to change either, you're not wrong.
"There ain't no good guys. There ain't no bad guys. There's only you and me and we just disagree."
And we ARE Both Good!
And when you get stuck, let me help you out with a FREE RBC! Relationship Boost Call. Sign up at dropthewar.com/appointments
"Your Relationship with Diabetes" with Andelin Price
You know that you have a relationship with your child, but did you know that you have a relationship with their Type 1 Diabetes also?
In this episode fellow life coach Andelin Price and I chat about our experiences having children with T1D and how life coaching tools have helped us manage ourselves as we manage our child's diabetes.
The way we think about the disease matters and it can make it harder or easier on you as the Mom.
Whether your child has T1D or not, the principles discussed in this episode can be applied to any struggle you are dealing with.
Please forward this podcast to any Moms you know that do have children with Type 1 Diabetes, there is so much additional suffering that can be eliminated as we work together to manage our relationships with Diabetes!
And spread the word about my new T1D Mom Support Group Calls that are starting next Tuesday February 21st at 9:30 AM Mountain Time.
Use this link https://dropthewarlifecoach.as.me/t1d to sign up for the free zoom call where you can come and get rejuvenated. We need to take the time for ourselves to fill our own cups in order to have anything to pour into our children. We are building an uplifting community of Moms going through similar struggles where we can all strengthen each other as we go.
For more help from Andelin, check her out on her Website: Andelinprice.com
Marriage Bites! Podcast https://anchor.fm/andelin-price
You ARE Loved
Happy Valentine's Day!
On this day of Love, let's remember that
"The first great truth of all eternity is that God loves us" -Elder Jeffrey R Holland
John 3:16 For God so loved YOU that He gave his only begotten son.
Today we are exploring what might be keeping you from Believing this and feeling His Love.
Remember, it's not about what you DO. You can never earn his love or do anything to lose it!
Once you are filled with God's Love, and experience the unconditional-ness of it, you can more easily love yourself and then you can release yourself from expectations of perfectly being unconditional to your kids and release your husband from the impossible task of making you feel loved.
Let's fill our own buckets, enjoy other's attempts at showing us love, and love hard on all of them!
Enjoy your Valentine's Day of Love!!
And if you would like a boost in any of your relationships, this is a great time of year for that! No matter how it goes today, You can generate your own love. Join me for a FREE Relationship Boost Call RBC sign up at dropthewar.com/appointments
Conscious Parenting with Bryana Kappadakunnel
Our special guest on the show today is "The Conscious Mommy" on IG (etc) and she is here today to teach us more about how to be a conscious parent.
Bryana is a licensed marriage and family therapist, an infant family early childhood mental health specialist, a perinatal mental health specialist, and a certified conscious parenting coach. 𝐒𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐨 𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐬 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐚𝐝
Classes & Coaching: www.consciousmommy.com
For more information on HOW to Believe you ARE a Good Mom, get the free prerecorded masterclass at dropthewar.com/believe
And to sign up for your Free RBC Relationship Boost Call or to attend the T1D Moms Support Group calls, head to dropthewar.com/appointments
**T1D Moms Support Group Announcement!**
**BIG Announcement Day!!***
Starting February 21, 2023
Every Tuesday Morning at 9:30 AM MT
I am going to host a support group for Moms with children that have Type 1 Diabetes on zoom.
Sign up at https://dropthewarlifecoach.as.me/t1d
Join us for a supportive half hour of taking care of yourself!
You work so hard to take care of your child's diabetes, now let me take care of you with a quick break of stress-free bucket filling rejuvenation for YOU, Mama!
You have your doctors and nurses to help you manage the T1D, let me help you manage your own thoughts and emotions
So that you can go from feeling stressed, sad, and scared. To calm, confident, and connected!
Create more Peace in your Parenting
Live into the Good Mom you already ARE!
It's going to be completely FREE and you don't have to do anything! Just show up and let me pamper you. We will breathe, relax, and learn emotional regulation tools so that you can leave the call rejuvenated and ready to take on your life again!!
Please spread the word to any and all T1D Moms that you know. The more the merrier! See ya then!
Connection for Cooperation
Happy Groundhog Day!
This is a very important holiday at our house because we all love the summer/spring so much! Any chance that winter is ending is a cause for celebration!!
Don't let your life turn into a perpetual groundhog day! You don't have to repeat the mistakes from yesterday today and tomorrow and forever!
Yes we will always be human and we will continue to make mistakes but that's all part of the learning and development of this mortal life. And learning and growth don't happen in ease and perfection. Growth also doesn't come from making the same mistakes over and over. That's insanity.
So, with our recharging our Triple A Battery coaching framework, we can actually learn from the Awareness of our current mistakes, be ok with them as we fill up our Acceptance battery, and then live into Alignment with the truth of who we ARE.
Please go and learn all you want from the "parenting experts" and then come back to me to reassure you that you ARE Good even if you currently are not doing all of their great advice.
There is a reason you can't quite get that "A line" dialed in. Your actions are not aligned because you don't have the first two batteries filled. We have to know where you're starting from and know that it's not a problem that needs to be fixed.
Today I give you an example of how this works.
One of my guiding parenting principles is "Connection for Cooperation" but yesterday there was a serious lack of both in my house trying to get the kids out the door. Listen is as I walk you through how the learning and growth AND CHANGE can happen through these coaching tools, both human and divine.
Then when you're ready to try it out yourself, let me know how it goes! You can DM me on FB, IG, email me at email@example.com, or sign up for a free zoom chat at dropthewar.com/appointments and I'll walk you through how you can apply all of this to your specific struggles with connection for cooperation.
Let's Get Funky!
Are you "in a funk"?
Or do you sometimes or often feel like you're in a funk?
That's my favorite way to describe the low energy, low motivation, especially during the winter mood that comes and goes and
It's not a Problem!
Nothing has gone wrong here.
If you really believed that your worth does NOT depend on your productivity, the acceptance of the funk would come easier.
I've been working on this myself lately as I've been riding some gnarly waves of funk and illness.
I finally got my voice back so I've recorded a few of my percolating thoughts on the subject for you.
If any of this resonates and you want to apply it to yourself, your funks, or anything else you're struggling with, I'd love to hop on a free call with you and work through it together. dropthewar.com/appointments
Your Daily Compass with Marla Beech
Marla Beech is a self connection coach. She helps her clients really learn how to connect with themselves in order to live their best lives!
In this episode she walks us through her Daily Compass routine to start our days off with purpose. This includes self care to service, a spiritual practice, and affirmations. Listen in for all the details!
Just can't get enough? I was on her podcast "Overburdened No More" today also! To listen in on another different conversation we had, check that episode number 82 at this link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/overburdened-no-more/id1574759560?i=1000596466465
And here is more from Marla!
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And if you're ready to uplevel any relationship, jump on a free zoom call with me for your RBC (Relationship Boost Call) at dropthewar.com/appointments
Jesus is the Answer
No matter what the problem is,
Jesus is the Answer
Anything you are struggling with right now, Christ can and will help you. He makes meaning out of all of the mess of this life. Without Him nothing makes sense, but with Him, we can understand the purpose behind all of the hard.
There is no growth in ease. We are here to progress. To learn and grown. We can't learn if we don't make mistakes and we growth requires resistance.
Lean in, team up with Him in His yoke.
In this episode I share with you the talk I gave at church yesterday about the Savior's role in the Plan of Salvation. There is no Salvation without Jesus so that was an easy topic.
No matter what you are struggling with, no matter what the question is,
Jesus is the Answer!
All things are present before God (D&C 38:2 and Moses 1:6)
Past, Present, and Future are just mental constructs created in this mortal state that we are living in right now.
But we are divine eternal beings.
So we can try to keep an eternal perspective and "time bend" the way God can.
When we trust that He created us and called it good, then we get a glimpse into remembering our eternal goodness.
You ARE Good because you always have been, always will be, and therefore are now in the present also.
Even though you made mistakes in the past and you are trying to be better in the future.
If you could bend time and put the past and future into the present, you could believe that you Are a Good Mom and then easily live into that.
Still never perfectly cause we are limited by our mortality but trusting in the immortal state of our souls, we can tap into our divine goodness more often and with so much more grace and compassion.
Try it on. Try time bending. It's life changing. Literally. Cause we are so used to living in a world misguided by the human invention of the clock and calendar.
But if you believe in your eternal presence, you can be her now. You are her now. You're not what you did in the past or how you hope to behave in the future. You just are who you are. Believe that and you'll be ready to enjoy the. miracles of being who you've always been.
If you want some solid help applying this woo woo concept, sign up for a free chat at dropthewar.com/appointments
Use the link for the RBC and we can do both. Relationship Boost Call and talk about time bending. I'm so down! Let's Go!!
How to Approve of Yourself with Stacy Saunders
Stacy Saunders is a certified life coach who coaches moms of kids with food intolerances. She is the Mother of 3 and is a Member of Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. And is a Homeschooler.
In this episode, Stacy and I have a great conversation about how to approve of yourself.
Being a mom is hard and it only gets harder when we are so hard on ourselves!
But if we can shift the narrative from "I'm going to do that cause I should or If I was a good person then I would" to really believing that we don't do things in order to earn our own approval, things can shift dramatically.
Instead thinking that "I Am a Good Person and that's why I Want to"
Stacy recently made this shift and explains how it has changed her life so much.
For more tips and tools on believing that you ARE a Good Mom, check out my free prerecorded masterclass at dropthewar.com/believe
And to schedule your FREE RBC Relationship Boost Call go to dropthewar.com/appointments
See ya there!
Happy2BeMe with Barbara Stacey
When Barbara coaches moms of adult children, the same fears, doubts, and lies come up for them as come up for my Moms of young kids!
No matter your age or your child's age, Believing that you ARE a Good Mom can be a challenge.
Reprogramming your brain to just believe in your inherent goodness that is not dependent on your actions is a new skill for most of us.
Listen in today as you learn from Barbara's experience and wisdom and start believing.
If you want more help on your journey to believe you Are a Good Mom, check out my free prerecorded masterclass at dropthewar.com/believe
And to get your FREE RBC Relationship Boost Call, go to dropthewar.com/appointments
For more from Barbara Stacey go to:
and the happy2bme podcast
You ARE Always Right with Jill Wright
You are not wrong. You don't have to make yourself wrong. Even if other people are doing things differently. And even if your own true self would do something differently, the way you just did it was right for that time.
Connection coach Jill Wright helps all of us believe that we ARE Right Also! (we're not Wright like she is but we ARE Right!) You are not wrong!! You Are Always Right!!
You ARE with a capital letter A!
Your (capital letter) D Desires are who you Are!
What you Want matters!
If your brain is always going to judge, at least we can drop the war with it by calling it discerning instead. And if we have to compare, let's compare ourselves to something useful, like our eternal self. We always have been and always will be but we need to remember who that is.
Instead of trying to make the right decisions and do everything right, let's just make decisions, make them right and believe that we ARE a Good Mom!
You have all the information that you need. You don't need another book, blog, email, or IG post to give you more information on how to be a good mom!! You already ARE and when you believe that, along with acceptance of the awareness of where you are now, then you will live in alignment with who you've always been! And it's SO Fun!!
Learn more at dropthewar.com/believe
Sign up for a FREE RBC Relationship Boost Call at dropthewar.com/appointments
And find more of Jill's amazingness at
My website: https://jillwrightcoaching.com
I currently have a fun freebie where people can get their 2023 Word of the Year on a bracelet. They can get that here: https://jillwrightcoaching.com/bracelet
Systems for Sanity and Survival with Laura Hernandez
Laura Hernandez is also a Mama Coach and we have a super fun conversation about how Systems can help us keep our Sanity and get us out of Survival Mode.
Here is a little more about her:
"I am the owner of Mama Systems and the mother of ten children.
In just five years, My husband and I added six children to
our family - three biological and three through adoption. Four of the kiddos
attend public school, we home-school five children, and I
manage 20+ appointments a week for our four special needs children.
I am passionate and dedicated to helping women bring more peace to their
Designing customized systems that help a family run more smoothly and
reduce a mother's daily workload is my specialty."
To work with Laura check out her website at www.mamasystems.net
If you want to learn more about HOW to Believe you ARE a Good Mom, get my free prerecorded masterclass at dropthewar.com/believe
If you have children with Type 1 Diabetes, I have specific help for you at dropthewar.com/t1d
And for your FREE RBC Relationship Boost Call, sign up for a time that works for both of us at dropthewar.com/appointments
Peace ✌️ ☮️ !
Here at Drop the War life coaching we drop power struggle wars with our kids to create more PEACE in our parenting!
So today we are delving deeper into what Peace even is.
Where does it go in "the model"? Is it a circumstance, thought, feeling, action, or result?
Peace is fun to play with because it could actually go in any of those categories.
And I believe it is such a complicated mental construct because peace is not actually of this world.
In John 14:17, Jesus promises us that "Peace I leave with you. MY peace I give unto You. NOT as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid."
So there is a worldly peace which fits in the model but Jesus is giving us HIS Peace! Which is not as the world giveth.
Awesome! So what does that look like for you? In this episode I explore a bit about what that is meaning for me right now. (which is always up for evolution, of course)
If your heart is feeling troubled right now whether by the global wars or your own personal wars, I invite you to Drop the War and enjoy the Peace that only Jesus Christ can bring. It surpasses this world and all the stress and worry of this world. You can feel peaceful amidst all the full range of human emotions a the same time. Make peace with feeling your worry. Just let the emotions be human emotions and know that you are more than a human. You are a celestial being so in the eternal perspective, there is nothing to be afraid of.
What is Your 4 Minute Mile?
What does your heart yearn to do but your brain tries to tell you is impossible?
We are buried in limiting beliefs that keep us living small. But you are an eternal being. What does your soul know that your mortal brain has forgotten? Your desires give you clues into who you cosmically are.
Now is the time of year that we let ourselves remember. We tap into more of our potential as we get intentional about what we want the new year to bring.
What would you love to believe is possible? that the world has conditioned you into believing is impossible?
The world was flat until it wasn't. It wasn't humanly possible to run a mile is less than four minutes until someone did it.
What record to you want to break?
What goal would people laugh at you for if you shared it with them?
That's a good goal. Probably not a "SMART" goal but who cares?
Let's do the impossible this year!
Let's break records and tear down our limiting beliefs so that we don't feel stuck anymore!!
Who's with me?!
Dropthewar.com/believe to get started
Believe in Yourself Because You Can with Marci Owen
Marci Owen is a dear coach friend of mine. She puts on an incredible coaches retreat which I got to attend a couple years ago and it was amazing!
On this episode, she shares with us a couple of her very impactful personal stories which I find so inspirational in motivating me to Be Myself, believe in myself, and to live my dreams, "Because I Can!"
Believing that you ARE a Good Mom IS Believing in Yourself so this is the perfect message to share on this podcast and at the perfect time of year as many of us are embarking on a New Year, New You!
Earn the confidence to be this new version of yourself by doing the thing that scares you. Feel the courage by feeling the fear and doing it anyway. And by doing so, you develop the confidence you're seeking.
Enjoy the episode and don't forget to sign up for your FREE RBC Relationship Boost Call! dropthewar.com/appointments
As a life coach, I help Christian moms over the age of 30 tap into their inner strength and confidence. I understand that it can be easy to doubt yourself and feel unfulfilled, especially as a mom, but my goal is to help you believe in yourself and your potential. By working together, we can revamp your beliefs about yourself and empower you to take control of your life and pursue your passions with purpose and meaning. Let's work together to fully engage with your life and create the future you desire.As mentioned on the podcast: Discover the power of reflection with my free pdf journal: The Journey. Imagine looking back on the past year and being amazed at all the progress you’ve made. That’s exactly what my free journal will help you do. By setting aside a couple of hours to reflect and recognize events from 2022, you’ll discover hidden strengths, talents and moments of courage that you may have forgotten about. Plus, as a bonus, you’ll also receive a guide to help you intentionally plan for the year ahead. I promise the way this is laid out is actually fun! Let’s do this!Email me at: firstname.lastname@example.org and we’ll send it straight to your inbox.
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Service, Selfishness, and New Born Babies
I am a baby whisperer
I am also a new born Mommy Whisperer.
What do I want to whisper to you Momma?!
You are amazing! You just did something miraculous and spectacular and you are a rock star!
Your Worth does NOT depend on your productivity!!
It is time for rest.
Let other people help you.
What you do or don't do does not make you a good mom!
You ARE a Good Mom!!
It is in your divine DNA. It is your inherent identity.
No matter what even if and especially when!
AND that NEVER changes!!
Imagine a world if we all actually believed that.
That is my mission.
To believe that I AM a Good Mom and to help ALL the Moms of the world believe it also!!
Because Believe Achieve!
So, lay back and relax and enjoy being a mom!
And let everyone else enjoy your baby also!! Those of us who have moved out of that season, LOVE taking care of babies because we don't "Have" to anymore. We WANT to! So let us!! So that you can fully experience whatever you are going through. It's all good and rigged in your eternal perspective favor. Trust that God is in the details. He's got you. No worries. You will feel ALL the feels!! Embrace it all. The good, the bad, the ugly. It's all part of this incredible journey called life.
AND if you're not a newborn mom, STILL Your Worth does NOT depend on your Productivity!!
Let's rethink the way we think about service and selfishness.
Is the way you are thinking about them serving you? or your family?
If not, then drop the war on those thoughts.
Need help with that? Sign up for a FREE RBC! Relationship Boost Call at dropthewar.com/appointments
New Year, New You!
It's Day Two of the New Year!!
Are you a whole new person since switching out the calendar?
Did everything you resolved to do daily without fail, fail on day one? Me too. So, let's just throw in the towel, shall we? Why not, that's how most years go. Let's just add one more to the failure pile...
No! Let's not do that. Let's come up with some realistic expectations of ourselves this year instead, eh?
You do not have to be perfect overnight. It's not a new you from Dec 31 to Jan 1 but rather, what "new you" would you like to see in the mirror on Jan 1 of 2024?!
That is something we can work towards! We can't white knuckle will power our way through the whole year. Change is not an overnight one and done process. It is slow and has ups and downs. So let's plan to fail forward instead of messing up and giving up this time.
I propose that you resolve this year to the meta skill of believing you ARE a Good Mom!! This will help you with all the other goals you have for your parenting, I promise! And in this episode I explain a little more about how that works.
Perhaps you've resolved to be more kind and patient and loving to your "hardest" child. How many minutes on January 1st were you able to do that? You woke up with the same brain that has the same memorized patterns. It takes time effort and especially compassion to change those patterns. I'd love to help you do that. Don't beat yourself up that you'll never change and that all because the date changed, you weren't able to. Yet! Change is possible and actually quicker than you might expect but your brain is stuck in its own lies that it has developed lots of evidence for over the years. A coach can help you navigate all of that.
Sign up for a FREE Relationship Boost Call (RBC) and let's get started! In just 20 minutes on zoom, I can help you change your relationship with that hardest child! dropthewar.com/appointments You can be a new you this year. You can live into the Good Mom that you've always been. One relationship boost at a time!
You Inherently ARE Good with Tyson Bradley
My Coaching Origin Stories Series Part 3
I always wanted to be a Mom and after Jody helped me love living my happily ever after, I decided to combine what she'd taught me with the parenting coaching from many different coaches and experts over the years and become a Peaceful Parenting Life Coach. Then after Crystal helped dig me out of layers of shame about my own parenting, I was ready to get back to my commitment to my business.
I always wanted to combine Jesus, Jody, and parenting skills. But I wasn't doing it at home or in my coaching practice. I knew that the life coaching tools and the parent coaching tools fell flat when they weren't backed by the actual enabling power of Jesus Christ but I was still trying to figure out how that actually works and how to share it.
Enter Tyson. Tyson was doing it! He started a group called Entrepreneurs of Christ and he was talking about Jesus and business together. Just like I wanted to be doing with parenting. Partnering with Christ to build and grow a business. And he seemed as awkward and uncomfortable as I was feeling but he was doing it anyway! So I decided to join him in his journey and our business calls felt more like sunday school lessons on steroids than funnel building and ad improving. And I loved it!!
So I've been in on the ground floor and seen how Christ has been transforming Tyson's message and that has helped mold my message also.
He transitioned from Entrepreneurs of Christ to "Inherent Identity" and as we all worked on remembering who we Inherently ARE, I could feel in my heart and soul that I AM a Good Mom! It's who I have always been and as my identity, it didn't matter anymore what "a mess" as a Mom I was, I knew my inherent worth and nothing I did or didn't do could change that.
Growing up in Primary we learn that we are Children of God and in young women's I firmly believed that I was a Beloved Daughter of Heavenly Parents who loved me and I loved them. I didn't start to forget what that identity meant for me until I got married and had kids. Irony of life since that, I thought, was supposed to be God's whole plan for me!
It's easy to believe we are good and loved when we are doing good but what about when we make mistakes? Does that affect/effect our worth in the sight of God? No! Of course not. We still are as 100% valuable on our good days as on our not so good days. Or moments.
Once I really started believing that! wow!! the magic really started!
It's as simple as "the model" really. When we think "I am a good mom" then we feel confident and show up in the ways that we want to and our result is that we are a good mom. But we are usually in a shame model from the lies that our brain feeds us that whatever we did or didn't do makes us a terrible mom and then that is our result.
I understood that. But adding on the inherent identity process from Tyson really solidifies the truths and helps me chip off the lies daily.
None of this work is "one and done". Every single day I need to connect to Heaven and be reminded of my worth and that I am a Beloved Daughter.
And then showing up as the Mom I want to be and the Good Mom that I've always been is so much easier!!
All of this came together for me through the ground breaking work that Christ has been revealing to Tyson and he is about to launch the Inherent Identity Family on New Years's Day so if any of this resonates with your soul also, please come join us! We hold loving space for each other to be able to safely tap into the powers of Heaven for help in your life! In whatever areas you are needing help with. Get all the information you need at InherentIdentity.com and I'll see you there!
10/10 Mom with Crystal, The Parenting Coach
My Coaching Origin Story Series Part 2
Crystal Haitsma is "The Parenting Coach"
She was my parenting coach after I finished coach training and was drowning in imposter syndrome.
I wanted to be a peaceful parenting life coach because I wanted to combine the life coaching world with the parenting coaching world that I'd been learning from and I didn't know of anyone who was doing that. But then when I learned about Crystal I thought," oh good. someone is doing it so I don't have to." Ha ha! Cause one coach can really take care of all the moms in all the world?! Not so much!
The first time she coached me, she told me that (yeah yeah bla bla I know I know...) there are people out there that need my specific voice. I will say things differently and in a way that will resonate with them.
But I still felt way too off in my own parenting to be of any help to anyone else. Until she asked me this one life changing question.
What if you are a 10/10 Mom already?
What? Surely, that couldn't be true. I long ago dropped the war on expecting myself to be perfect. No one on this earth except Jesus was ever perfect and that's obviously because He didn't have kids!! ;) So the thought took a while to seep in but when I changed the 10/10 from meaning perfection to just being a fact that I am a 10/10 Mom.... whatever my best is for today is the best i could do today and nothing has gone wrong here? Could that possibly be true?!
Pair that with the Inherent Identity work with Tyson Bradly (episode coming soon!...) and i was off! In a good way this time. I finally had a message. I found a truth that I could believe and that actually did start changing things for me in my parenting!!
Between Crystal's 10 out of 10 Mom idea and Tyson's "I Am Me" work, I birthed MY Belief that
I AM a Good Mom!
And believing that I inherently AM a 10/10 Mom, changed me. I am far from perfect still but I am so much closer to staying aligned with who I Truly AM more often and when I don't, I have so much more grace for my human self that is going to mess up. A lot. But I don't make those mistakes mean anything about my inherent worth anymore. I've peeled off so many layers of shame, I am finally free! The truth has set me free!! And now I AM ready to help other Moms break free also. By Believing that You too, my friend, YOU ARE a Good Mom!! You are inherently a 10/10 Mom!! Believe it to Be it! Cause you already are. Always have been. Always will be. It's just who you ARE.
Still don't believe me? That's ok. I know the brain takes a while to believe new things. I have a prerecorded masterclass just for you. To step you through how to believe you ARE a Good Mom. Get it for free at dropthewar.com/believe
And if you or anyone you know has kids with Type 1 Diabetes, I have content specifically for T1D Mamas at dropthewar.com/t1d I get it! I have two T1D daughters myself! And it is a wild ride!!
Crystal has a really fun new offer CLICK HERE to get access to her new "Burn this Book" workbook that steps you through a daily self coaching routine. She has all of her best tools all in one place complete with QR codes to lead you to video trainings to help guide you through. If you've been interested in these tools but need more guidance, get this workbook today!
And connect on FB and IG at Crystal the Parenting Coach and her website is https://www.coachcrystal.ca/
Jody Moore "Following God's Plan for You"
Jody was the first life coach I had ever heard of and she continues to be my life coach to this day, over 6 years later.
She helps me love my life. What else would you expect from a life coach?
My whole life, I always wanted to be a mom and once I finally got my "Happily Ever After" most days it felt more like a nightmare than living the dream. Everything was perfect, no actual problems. So why did I feel so terrible? What was wrong with me? Why couldn't I just enjoy my blessings?
Enter Jody Moore. Life coaching tools changed everything for me and then Jody helped me birth a new dream: to help others the way she had helped me.
When I was 11, I cross stitched a pillow that said "I can follow God's plan for me" and for decades I thought that plan was to get married and make babies.
Turns out as Jody puts it, that was a "gross oversimplification".
Now that I am married and finished making babies, what is God's plan for me?
To learn how to love that amazing husband and adorable kiddos more fully? Yes!
AND what else?!
Did you know that it's ok to yearn for more?! It doesn't mean that you're ungrateful or unappreciative of what you have.
On the contrary, it magnifies all that you have when you continue to expand yourself.
You are a person also, Momma! Not just a Mom. You ARE a Good Mom! And you ARE a Good Woman. What does she WANT to do? Who IS She?
AND what else?
Enjoy your bounteous blessings this beautiful Christmas Eve AND allow yourself to dream big. To get what You Want! To let ideas flow. Open your heart to your true desires. Let those desires take root and grow and flourish. Be more of who you are. Who you've always been.
If this sounds impossible or out of reach, I've got you!
Start with a FREE RBC this year. Relationship Boost Call. Maybe it's your relationship with yourself that you want to boost.
If you want to Believe that you Are a Good Mom but you just can't figure out how, I put together a free masterclass just for you.
And if you or anyone you know has kids with Type 1 Diabetes (I have TWO myself!!) I have specific help for T1D Moms also.
You can get more of Jody's amazingness at JodyMoore.com and on her "Better Than Happy" podcast.
Sign up for her coaching intensive "Get Your Goal" coming up in January. And I'll see ya in "Be Bold"- my favorite place to hang out!
The Purpose of Life
Merry "Christmas Adam"!
Or so we called the day before Christmas Eve growing up.
Cause we wanted to open a present early early.
I have an early Christmas Present for YOU! Yes, YOU!!
Sign up at dropthewar.com/appointments
Now, on to our topic for today! The Purpose of Life!! That sounds a bit heavy but come on, it's me. We keep everything light and fun, right?
No spoilers, if you want to explore with me some of my thoughts on the purpose of life, tap into today's episode!
Episode Art: https://www.agospelcenteredhome.com/2020/07/30/the-plan-of-salvation-equals-love-family-home-evening-lesson/
My Origin Story Intro
I love stories. I love to hear people's experiences. To understand better where they are coming from. To get to know them better.
Today I am sharing an overview of my coaching origin story. The quick google search definition of origin is "the point or place where something begins, arises, or is derived."
So in today's story I explain why I got into coaching, how it helped me, and then why I wanted to become a coach myself to pay it forward and help others.
My origin story includes three of my coaches whose influence helped me form the messages that I share with you today. There are countless other friends, family, coaches, and teachers who have influenced me and continue to do so. Many of them I have already shared with you.
In the coming weeks I will share these three coaches with you in what I am calling my special "origin story series".
So be sure to subscribe to the podcast so that you don't miss the incredible episodes I have coming up with Tyson Bradley, Crystal The Parenting Coach, and the original of the origin, the one and only Jody freakin Moore!
Jody Moore started it all and was so gracious and generous to give me the Christmas Gift of an hour of her time yesterday to record an origin episode where she shares my story from her perspective.
No more spoilers, gotta be sure to be subscribed to the podcast so that you don't miss when these incredible episodes drop.
And don't forget to sign up for your FREE RBC as my Christmas gift to you! You can redeem your gift any time in 2023. Relationship Boost Calls for all! All you have to do is jump on a zoom call with me with a relationship in mind that needs a boost and you will come off the call feeling like a whole new person ready to enjoy that person like you never have before.
Believing IS Seeing
Believe is a theme that we hear a lot at this season.
My kids LOVE "The Polar Express" book and movie and music so Josh Groban is constantly reminding me when we're driving in the van that "you have everything you need if you just believe" He admonishes us to "believe in what your heart is saying" and "believe in what you feel inside"
So, when you think that you're a terrible mom, that is a lie coming from your head. But drop into your heart. What do you feel inside? The truth that you ARE a Good Mom! Believe in what your heart is saying.
It's a practice to get out of your head and listen to believe your heart.
Believe, my friends!
Because Believing IS seeing.
Faith IS the evidence of things hoped for but not seen.
Once you believe something, then you start seeing evidence for it everywhere.
That's the way that brains work. Their job is to prove themselves right.
But sometimes its thoughts are not useful or helpful.
So then we intentionally from our heart space, remind the brain of the truth.
You ARE Good. God is Good and He made you. God don't make no junk.
As Christmas approaches in a few days, remember that thanks to that Baby in the manger, You ARE Good. Even when you're not doing good. That doesn't change who you inherently ARE. And thanks to Jesus Christ, we can be forgiven of all the non-good and it can all be for our eternal good.
Now that's a reason to celebrate!! What a Gift!
And speaking of gifts, I have a Christmas present for YOU!! www.dropthewar.com/appointments to claim your FREE RBC (Relationship Boost Call) I would love to help you this year improve any relationship in your life that is struggling. I have a quick, fun, and easy 20 min process we do on a zoom call that will have you feeling better toward this individual in just one call. Why not give it a try? Merry Christmas!
True Confidence is Remembering Who You ARE with Laura Dry
Merry Christmas! I want to give you all a gift! I want to gift you a better relationship! Who doesn't need that?!
Go to www.dropthewar.com/appointments and sign up for your FREE RBC!
What's an RBC you're wondering?
Well, I'm not giving you the Royal Bank of Canada, that's for sure!
I am giving you a free
In a quick, easy, and fun 20 minute call with me on zoom, I will help you boost any of your relationships.
Do you have one particular kid that's really been getting on your nerves?
Or maybe it's your husband?
Are you struggling with dread about an upcoming holiday social gathering?
Who do you need a little work on your relationship with?
I've got you!!
AND on to our podcast for today!!
Laura Dry is a connection coach for Moms and so we have a really fun conversation where we share our stories of becoming a mom and struggling with confidence and our journeys (that are ongoing) on becoming more confident Moms.
Listen in, Laura drops some serious wisdom.
And to work with her further, you can check her out at:
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Flip the Script
We've all heard of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Well, today we are flipping the pyramid on it's head! I think we need "self actualization" the MOST and it is the highest priority. And after we have charged those batteries, the basic needs fall into place.
Especially with Faith in Jesus Christ! Because He himself told us in Matthew 6 to take no thought for the things at the bottom of the pyramid. He's got us! He has our air, food, shelter, water, even reproduction in His control. He tells us to seek FIRST "the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you"
So what does that mean exactly? Well, that is up to you to figure out for yourself but today I share some of my recent thoughts on the subject.
What is your job as a Mom anyway? Aren't we supposed to take care of our children's basic needs? And our own? And our husbands? Are we?
or is your job to take care of their "higher needs" things up higher on Maslow's pyramid?
Like Dr Paul Jenkins always says, that our job is to LOVE our Children. That's not till the middle of the layers!
(and ps, check me out on Dr Paul's podcast here)
I propose that our number one job on this earth is to REMEMBER. Once we remember who we truly ARE, then we really start living. We aren't just bogged down by the earthly problems. We find meaning in the struggle and know that there is learning pains but that they have purpose. WE have purpose.
Who are you? You are a beloved daughter of Heavenly Parents. What does that mean to you? For me it reminds me that I have a divine mission to help their other Daughters remember who they are also. That is my higher cause, the world needs self actualization. And not just as a tiny triangle at the top of the pyramid if we have enough bandwidth after stressing and worrying about our "lower needs". Flip the pyramid on it's head, my friends!
We can easily get lost in the weeds of the basic needs, especially with a house full of littles whose basic needs can take all day every day over and over. It's beyond a full time job just to keep these kids fed-especially with the T1D!!
But God said to consider the lilies of the field and the fowls of the air. "for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.. and all these things shall be added unto you. Take therefore no thought.."
So you have permission to stop worrying and stressing about the basics. God will provide. Have Faith. Trust in Jesus.
And now with that load off your mind, what do You WANT to do?!
Your desires are from God. He is trying to communicate to you what your life is for. Listen for it. Trust the messages.
I can help you with this.
Maybe our job is to trust Him, Rely on Him, and our number one job as a Mom is to Remember who we ARE. and then remember to BELIEVE it!
Believe you ARE a Good Mom, my friend! I promise, when you flip the script, it will change everything for you!!
Get Ready, It's Time!!
GRIT is my word for the new year!
What is it time for for you? What resolutions are you thinking about setting? What goals do you have for 2023?
Life Coaching is the perfect support you need to actually reach those goals, meet those resolutions and fulfill the yearnings of your heart!
This year I am gifting 365 FREE coaching sessions. Never too soon to get started! Sign up now to jumpstart your resolutions with a useful mindset going into the new year. Get help even setting a goal. I can support you in discovering what your heart has been trying to tell you. Let's discover who you truly are and improve your relationship with Self, with God, and with your family this year!
You can sign up for as many of these free sessions as you want throughout the year! Absolutely no strings attached. I'm just ready! It's time!! Let's get serious about making the changes we've been putting off.
This is YOUR Year also!
Get ready, it's time!
www.dropthewar.com/appointments to get started!
Band Aids and Ribbon Bows
What is your New Year's Resolution?
How confident are you that you'll be successful with it?
I would love to help! Life Coaching is for people with beautiful wonderful lives like yours AND you also yearn for more. And you might feel guilty about that. You have it all. You've always wanted to be a mom and you finally are. You have a great and supportive husband. And it's still a struggle. Why? And what do you do about it. A life coach can help you answer those questions! I'd be honored to be that life coach.
My New Year's Resolution is to do 365 FREE Coaching Sessions this year!!
Do you know what life coaching is? I explain a little bit in this episode but basically, let's just chat. Just you and me. On zoom. It's a total fiesta! I'm a good time. It's fun! And I can help you with whatever you are struggling with. Just try it out! I promise, no strings attached. Just a free zoom chat. A free coaching session. Grab one of the first 365 at www.dropthewar.com/appointments
Breathe in the Shalom Peace
Shalom is a Hebrew word meaning Peace!
We are all about dropping the war to create more peace in our parenting here at Drop the War Life Coaching!!
So I love this idea of Shalom!
It is a peaceful wholeness, perfection, and tranquility.
Peace be with you, my friend! Especially at this Christmas time of year when we are all about Peace on Earth. And especially at this Hanukkah time of year also!!
How do we create more peace when it's just chaos of kids swirling around us all the time? That is what we explore in this episode!
Peace be with you, my friends! Shalom that is not an absence of trials or of "negative" emotions but a Peace that comes from believing that you Are a Good Mom and that it is all part of the plan. It's all good. It's all for your good. Eternally. You are a good eternal celestial being and in order to continue to progress, we are in this mortal experience and it's all for our learning, growth, and development. It's all good. Even the bad. For me, with this perspective, I get into a Peaceful state of mind. A way of being. Shalom Peace is a calm reassurance that everything is as it should be.
When things start getting wild, breathe in the Shalom! Acceptance. They are doing what they're doing. You are reacting the way you are reacting. It's all part of the human experience. Shalom. Acceptance. Peace. It is as it should be. It is as it is. Literally stop and breath it in.
Breath in the Shalom for Peace, my friends! You can do it!! And of course as always, if you need help, I'm a free zoom chat away dropthewar.com/appointments
Shalom Chaverim "Goodbye and be safe my friends. Until we meet again, have peace."
See Christ in Christmas
Merry Christmas season, my friends!!
Hope you are all enjoying the decorations and symbols of Christ all around us at this glorious time of year!
Today's episode is "story time" so grab your teddy and gather around on the carpet criss cross apple sauce for me to read you this great book By Melissa Sunday and Alyssa Parker "See Christ in Christmas. 12 symbols of Christmas"
In this beautiful book, Melissa and Alyssa remind us of how each symbol around us represents Jesus and helps us to see Him everywhere at this time of year.
I love this so much and I love to see Him everywhere at all times of year and that, my friends, is how we drop the war to find more Peace in our Parenting. It is through Jesus Christ. No matter what mayhem and chaos comes with raising all these little kiddos, Peace is always still available. One breath of heaven away.
Enjoy a peaceful Sabbath day today with love and laughter. And fighting, tantrums, and whining. ;) My wish for you today and all season is that you soak it all in deeply. It is going by so fast. No time to wallow in self pity with blame and shame. Give yourself the gift this year of dropping those wars and enjoying the peace that comes from loving your life! Love on those littles so hard. They are only little for so long. And we have the rest of eternity to look back with fondness to this magical time when we can celebrate Christmas with our small children! Don't let the stresses and task distract you from the love and joy and peace.
I Love You, dear listeners. Thank you for being on this journey with me!
Let me know what you're struggling with so you can find maximum Joy to YOUR World this Christmas season! www.dropthewar.com/appointments
"What is Your JuJuJuice" with Zil Eiler
I frequently talk about your need as a Mom to fill up your cup first. You can’t pour out of an empty pitcher. And you have to put on your oxygen mask first in order to keep anyone else alive also.
So in these metaphors, what is the oxygen exactly? How do you put on that mask? How do you fill your cup? And with what?
The amazing and lovely coach Zil Eiler tells us her story today of when she was a struggling young mom who was filling her cup with the wrong juice. She loves Orange Juice and maybe she was drinking that but must have been trying to drink it from a sippy cup. Ever try to drink freshly squeezed OJ from those tiny holes? Doesn’t work! Or maybe it was milk. Are you trying to fill your cup with the wrong bev?
In modern-day slang, “juju” typically refers to a sort of positive, magnetic power — an energy, feeling, or vibe that any of us can create, give off, or experience.
I’d like to offer that we all fill our cups with our own personal form of juju juice. You have to discover what that is for you specifically. And it can change with your changing seasons. But what works for one person doesn't necessarily fill someone else. You are an individual. Your job is to learn who you are. And what fills you.
You ARE a Good Mom! If you don't feel that, maybe you haven't discovered your flavor of jujujuice yet. But you can. Keep exploring. Keep trying.
And know that you are worth it! You are a person also. You have talents and gifts and interests and the world needs them. You are a Mom AND you Are YOU!
Find out who that is! Living in alignment with your inherent self is awesome!!
If you would like some guidance in all of this, I'd love to help! Let's chat
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"You are a Rock Star!" with Brooke Oniki
Brooke Oniki coaches moms who are in the transition from raising the kids to letting them go off on their own in the world.
Her perspective not only gives us light at the end of the tunnel but also we can see the pitfalls that the next season of life can bring if we completely lose ourselves in this phase.
Of course we love our children and want to support them in their interests, but what are your interests outside of them and theirs?
This is a tough question for a lot of Moms who have just been trying to survive the early years of raising kids but it is an important one to ponder.
Brooke often walks up to busy Moms at the store and makes sure that they know what a rockstar they are! This is no easy task we've undertaken and we are way too hard on ourselves. So listen in and let Brooke give you a big warm virtual hug for this holiday season and take our permission to give yourself all the things you need this Christmas! Emotionally and physically.
You are amazing! You ARE a Good Mom!! I hope you enjoy listening in to this conversation as much as I did having it!
And if you also are an empty nester, get more support from Brooke at these links...
Agency and Codependency with Alyssa Jaco
Alyssa Michaela Jaco is a People-Pleasing Expert and Health and Life Coach. She stopped waiting to be saved & became the hero of her own story.
Now she is helping you feel better, love yourself, be yourself & love your life!
Alyssa shares with us her journey and how coaching has helped her. She said that before coaching she never knew that she had choices.
Of course we know we have agency, but do we really know we have agency?
If someone wants you to do something and you want to do something else, which do you do?
How free do you feel to make that choice?
Learning how to own your own agency is liberating, and a bit scary on how it will affect those around us.
But if you don't take care of yourself, who will?
Codependency can come into play when we are trying to control other people's emotions with our choices.
We are free to choose what we want and they are free to choose how they want to feel about it.
And that is differentiation in our relationships. So that we can be interdependent. Not too independent and not too dependent.
And we are all dynamic people who swing from one end of the continuum to the other all the time. We can't arrive at a static destination and stay there forever. And we don't need to identify ourselves by any certain action or trait.
None of this work is one and done.
That's why we all need a coach or two all the time! Cause we'll never coach ourselves out of being human.
You ARE a Good Mom and that is not determined by how your family is feeling. Truly. Don't believe me? Let's chat! www.dropthewar.com/appointments
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How to Recharge Your Batteries
We use rechargeable batteries which I think is AWESOME!
Today we are going in depth into my coaching framework which I call
Recharging Your Triple A Batteries!
AAA are Awareness, Acceptance, and Alignment
No spoilers here, you've got to tap into the episode for the details on how to recharge each. And seriously, this is the secret sauce, my friends! The secrets to getting the life you've always wanted. To becoming the Mom you've always desired to be.
Listen in, this is So Good!!
Then hit me up at dropthewar.com for more goodness
The Shame/Blame trap AND How To get out of it!!
My life coach, Jody Moore, taught me that what my brain is (almost always!) doing is what she calls the Shame/Blame trap.
I'll teach you what that is in this episode
AND I will teach you the quick and easy brain hack to get you out of the trap!!
It's all quick and easy in theory and if you need help putting it into actual practice, hit me up on FB, IG, or sign up for a free zoom chat at www.dropthewar.com/appointments and we'll work through it together. I've got you!
Let's create some more Peace on Earth this Christmas starting with Peace in yourselves and with your families!! One Good Mom at a time!!!
We Believe What We Think with Dr Paul Jenkins
Dr Paul Jenkins is a clinical psychologist specializing in the science and practice of positivity. He is the author of "Pathological Positivity" and hosts the "Live on Purpose Radio" podcast which he started in 2007! On Dec 15th 2022, episode 526 will drop and it is another conversation that we had for his show, so check me out over there in a couple of weeks!
Dr Paul says that the number one error in our thinking is that we believe what we think.
This is only a problem if what we're thinking doesn't serve us.
So think something useful to believe!
For Instance, that you ARE a Good Mom!!
On this episode, Dr Paul teaches us about his model which helps us understand that our brains have two processes that you can't turn off. They will always be evaluating and they always need to be creating.
Evaluating, or in other words, judging. Things can always be better or worse. There will always be a comparison to some standard. So decide what standard you intentionally want to be comparing yourself to. And then go create the beautiful life that you've always envisoned.
Because you ARE a Good Mom! And your brain wants to believe what you think. So think that you are and you will start believing that and then you will be. www.dropthewar.com/believe to get that process started!
You can find more wisdom from Dr Paul at his website DrPaulJenkins.com Your go-to source for positivity! And who doesn't need more of that in their lives?
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Do Your 1/11th with Ben Pugh
Are you trying to get on the same page with your husband and kids? How is that working for you? When you think about it like that, how do you feel and act?
What if we look at it like being on the same TEAM instead? Each player on the football team has a different job to do and if they try to be someone else, the team as a whole struggles. Same with our families. Just do your own 1/11th and then trust that team work will make the dream work!
Ben Pugh is a friend and fellow coach who also coaches Moms to believe that they ARE a Good Mom!! Because the way you think about things not only affects your results but also you child's. In this episode we explore how that works. Whether your kids are teens that Ben usually coaches or toddlers Moms that I coach, these principles can blow your mind a little in all the best ways.
Agency, Control, Respect, All the emotions are ok, The goal is not to make them happy, etc, etc, etc. Learn more about my parenting philosophies at https://dropthewar.com/parenting-philosophies, get specific help with your Type 1 Diabetes child at dropthewar.com/t1d, and for more help with Believing that you ARE a Good Mom, www.dropthewar.com/believe.
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Finding Balance in Motherhood with Ceri Payne
Ceri Payne is an incredible business coach for entrepreneurs and executives. She is also and Mom and built a thriving business while serving as RS Pres in her ward! She knows how to juggle all the hats!
We have an incredible conversation around rethinking the concept of Balance in order for you to feel better about the way you spend your time.
Ceri helps us define our True Priorities so that we CAN Believe we ARE a Good Mom.
For more from Ceri check her out here:
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Working Moms in Military Life with Sarah Larsen Shiozawa
Sarah Larsen Shiozawa is a Leadership Coach! She is also a Good Mom to 4 year old twins and a 6 year old so she is in the thick of it with us and gives the working mom perspective plus she does a lot of work with Military Moms! She has a Masters in Public Administration and tells us a little bit about her work in Washington DC back in her single days. I love how she describes "interpersonal dynamics" whereas I tend to call that "drama" in my house. I think I'll do that thought switch to see the kids fighting as interpersonal dynamics and my role as preparing them for having these dynamics outside of the home already and forever throughout their lives. Drama is just part of life and doesn't have to be such a negative thing. Seeing it as such usually just exasperates the conflict.
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Be Your WHOLE You
If you need glasses to see clearly, you understand why we enjoy modern medicine for thinking clearly also.
I am not anti any of this. Yes to glasses. Yes to medicine that helps you live your life the way you want to.
As a general society, we are terrible at accepting the full range of emotions and the ebb and flow of ups and downs in our days and in our whole lives.
Seasons and cycles in the world give us a pattern to help us understand ourselves better.
We erroneously expect ourselves to think, feel, and behave a certain way all day every day day in and day out.
This is unsustainable and unfair to expect of ourselves, our kids, and any other human.
It's just not how we are made.
Our inherent selves are not stagnant or flat either. We need to be careful in our efforts to "get better" that we're not breaking our own spirits to fit into a cookie cutter mold that we were never meant to fit into.
If God made every single tiny snowflake unique, why do we think that He expects us to conform to some cookie cutter person? No! It is majestic to ponder on each of our uniqueness.
Find out who you really are. Live into Her. She has depth that only your shadow side can bring out. If you're feeling the darkness, that means that there is light. Light is what casts the shadows. Both sides are Good. It's all good. It's all part of the plan. Opposition in ALL things.
If we succeeded in getting rid of all of the "negative", we would never comprehend the positive.
Embrace it ALL my friends, your WHOLE YOU!
Love Always Wins with Bonnie Lyman
Special Thanksgiving edition of the podcast today we have special guest Bonnie Lyman!
As we are spending more time with our families this week, remember that your only job as a Mom is to Love your children. When you Believe you ARE a Good Mom no matter how they behave, you can drop the judgement and be free to just love them for who they are.
Bonnie coaches Moms about their relationship with their adult children. And I coach moms about their relationship with their young children. So send your Mother In Laws to Bonnie at bonnielymancoaching.com or send your Daughters in Law to dropthewarlifecoach.com to work with me! Either way, no matter how old you are and how old your kids are, Love always wins. Love is the answer. So go Love on Purpose, my friends and Believe you ARE a Good Mom! (that is the name of both of our podcasts ;)
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For more info on HOW check out www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe
Love your Shadow Side with Elisa Fucci
We are all eternal beings having an earthly experience which includes the full rich human experience. Which includes ups and downs. Good times and bad times. We are everything. The good, the bad, and the ugly.
So when I say to Believe that you ARE a Good Mom, that includes your shadow side. You ARE Good. God made you, He is good, He called it very good after he made woman. You ARE Good. It's who you eternally Are.
AND you are a human being feeling all the feels, experiencing all the roller coaster of emotions, doing all the things, the full rich human experience.
And it's all good. It's ALL good. It's for our eternal good. The good, the bad, and the ugly will all lead us to our ultimate capital G Good.
So. Today Elisa and I talk about how embracing all of us, even the parts we can feel ashamed about, will set us free.
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Connection not Contention in Conversations with Meredith Gardner
Meredith Gardner is The Hard Conversation Coach. She and I were going to talk about how no matter the outcome of the conversation with your children, you Are a Good Mom! Your child’s behavior, your behavior, and the way the conversation goes doesn't determine your worth as a person or as a Mom. Or the worth of your child. You are both Good. No matter what.
But of course, I digress. So instead she ends up coaching me a bit on conversations with my husband.
Then Meredith shares several of her tips for more connecting conversations instead of creating contention. Which is something we can ALL work on!
To get more of her wisdom, be sure to sign up for her weekly email and hop on her "pop in calls" they are both fantastic!
And if you love uplifting emails, sign up here for mine also! And get your free prerecorded masterclass on how to Believe you ARE a Good Mom here.
You ARE Enough!
You ARE Enough!
Do you believe that?
Or is your brain giving you some resistance thoughts?
But what is your heart telling you about the truth of that?
You are 100% worthy, lovable, and valuable.
AND you are an expansive being that needs to progress.
We are eternal beings that are Good!
AND we are mortal beings that are here to learn and grow and develop.
How can both be true?
There are a LOT of dualities actually.
yin and yang
They both are true.
Believing in who you eternally ARE while you're in the midst of this earthly mortal experience is a challenge but it's also the secret.
You want a better relationship with your kids? You need to know who you are first. When you remember your inherent worth and you remember your child's inherent worth, kindness, compassion, love, and yes even patience come a lot more naturally and sustainably.
So come with me on the journey of believing you ARE a good mom. Start with my prerecorded masterclass at www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe
oh and if you love this cover art, you'll love my friend Jackie! Check her out @jackieinspires on instagram cause she does inspire. She has always inspired me with her resilience and faith in the midst of adversity! Love you, purple flower!
Your Cosmic You with Davina Fear
Who Are you? Really? Who were you before you can remember? If you knew, how would that affect who you are being now? How do we find out?
Davina Fear is here to help us!
Seeing the truth of who we are helps us in an eternal perspective but it also helps us see our day to day drama clearly.
If you find yourself thinking things like "I'm always yelling at my kids" "she is always pitching a fit" "they are always fighting" pretty much anything with "always" in it cannot be a fact. No one is ALWAYS doing anything. If for no other reason than, they probably aren't fighting in their sleep and even if you think that they "never sleep" that can't be 100% true....
Davina helps women understand the truth of who they are!
(and so do I! The truth is that you ARE a Good Mom!! ;)
In her own words she is "mom to four kids, married for almost 25 years to Hot Guy (Mike).
I have been working with women in all kinds of capacities for over a decade.
Being with women, as a photographer and coach, on their most memorable and big days as well as in their everyday, in-the-trenches-kinds-of-days, is my specialty.
Seeing women, like you, at their best AND in their most challenging moments and being amazed and inspired by them.Davina
Learn more from her awesomeness at Life with Davina and you HAVE to check her out on IG @davinafear. You'll never be the same!
And as always my friends, come learn more about how to believe you ARE a Good Mom at www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe
Having a Coach for a Mom with Caleb Price
Caleb the college coach was raised by an amazing mom who didn't necessarily believe that she was a good mom until she became a life coach. Huh, that sounds familiar! ;)
Listen in to this episode to get an interesting perspective on motherhood- from the pov of the son himself! He had a great life with a great Mom AND he can testify to the difference that life coaching can make on the Mom and the whole family, for generations to come! When she felt better about herself, he could tell that parenting became lighter, not so heavy. Loving yourself has more of an effect on the rest of the family than anything else can.
We all think we need to DO all the things in order to BE a good mom. Caleb and I chat about why we don't think that is the case.
Trying to control another person's emotions is the biggest uphill battle you'll never win.
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And as always, to learn more about how to Believe you ARE a Good Mom, get the free masterclass at www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe
Control What You Can Control with Jenn Mullins
Jennifer Mullins is a Small Biz accountant and advisor.
In this episode we discuss how coaching has helped us so much.
One of the main concepts is learning what we can and what we can't control in order to empower ourselves in our lives no matter what choices the other people around us are making.
If you are also a small business owner, Jenn would love to help you out with your finances.
Don't let the money fear drama stop you from creating your dream life!
You can find more from Jenn on Instagram @jcm_accounting
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Toddlers and Teens with Cheree Murdock
Cheree Murdock coaches teens so today we are talking about how we can help our kiddos learn about how to manage their emotions in a healthy way so that when they grow up, they know better what to do with their feelings instead of escaping or distracting from them.
We can even find Connection through our Emotions. Being human is all about emotion. None of them are good or bad and if we can actually believe that about our own feelings, we can give that grace to our kids also and let them feel all thier feels also.
Feelings are not a problem we need to fix. Ours or theirs.
We don't need to escape, distract, buffer, or act out our emotions. We can just feel them through our bodies.
And when we don't make ourselves wrong for feeling any sort of way, we can then receive the message that those emotions have for us to learn.
If you have a teen that needs some help, you can find Cheree at:
Facebook- Cheree Murdock Coaching
And if you'd like to learn more about how to self regulate so that you can model this for your kids while they are still young, I'd love to help you with that. www.dropthewarlifecoach.com
Do vs Be
When I ask you "What kind of Mom do you want to be?" what comes up for you?
When you get to "define for yourself" what kind of mom you want to be?
Look at what you wrote down (or thought of)
Is it a big long list of DO's. And don't do's?
It's all in your action line, right?
Maybe with some feelings you want to feel.
And maybe even some thoughts you want to think.
What does a "Good Mom" look like for you?
Does your brain interpret that mostly as 'What does a good mom DO?"
Let's talk about the difference between BEing and DOing!
You are a human BEing which means you are going to DO a bunch of messy stuff that's not your ideal.
But who ARE you actually?
You Are actually an eternal being, not just a human being.
And our job is to REMEMBER who She IS!
It's not actually about what you DO. It's about who you ARE.
Not even who you are becoming, cause you already Are Her.
You just need to remember who She IS!
And then live into in. Meaning your thoughts, feelings, and yes, Actions will align eventually once you believe and remember that you already ARE Good!!
So, instead of "What kind of Mom do you want to DO?" which is your your brain might have interpreted that first question, just know that You already Are the kind of Mom you Want to BE! Cause your desires (your wants) yours, your specific to you! tell you who you ARE.
What kind of Mom ARE you? (not what kind of Mom are you doing?)
Who have you always been? Your spirit is trying to tell you. Listen to your heart to find out. And the rest of the model will follow along.
Believe you ARE a Good Mom, my friend! It'll change everything for you!
Ready to get started on the How To?! www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe
Mom Fulfillment with Amber Haider
Amber and I are gonna start the "vibrant hair coaching club" 😉
Amber Haider is no hater! She is full of love and fun and she shares her story of always wanting to be a SAHM but not loving it like she thought she would and her journey to now loving life to the max!
Listen in especially if you are feeling unfulfilled in your role as Mommy and you feel bad about that. You think you should be happy and loving life since this is the most important gig there is, then why do you feel so terrible while doing it?
Cause "Isolation, resentment, frustration… not good fuel for momming"
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And as always, to learn more about how you can Believe you ARE a Good Mom, get my free prerecorded Masterclass at www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe
Butterflies and The Messy Middle
You ARE a beautiful butterfly!
And you might be feeling like you are in the "Messy Middle" phase between when a perfectly content and happy caterpillar transforms into that beautiful butterfly!
But the inherent divine DNA is in your goop!
Nothing has gone wrong here.
You are experiencing exactly what you need to be in order for you to fully develop the way you need to in order to fly, my friend!
Endure the is goopy messy middle well and you will be that beautiful flying you someday.
When you believe in the process, in the Plan, then you have the eternal perspective that makes the insanity of this life make a little more sense.
Trust in the creator of the plan.
God gave us physically a symbol of His plan for you in the journey of a caterpillar to goop to butterfly.
If you need supported through your messy middle goop phase, I'm here for you, my friend! I'm one free zoom chat away. No strings attached. I'm here to just listen and/or coach you. Whatever you need. www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/appointments
Soy Una Buena Madre con Cris Berlingeri
Coach Cris Berlingeri MD wears many beautiful hats! She is a physician, a baker, a business owner, a coach, and of course a wife and mother!
And in all her roles she is a Christian through and through!
I have always admired her faith ever since we went through coach training together years ago.
In this episode we discuss how coaching and Christianity have helped us in all aspects of our lives.
To find more from Cris:
And to learn more about how you can believe you are a good mom, check out my free masterclass at www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe
You're Not Wrong!
To my dear friend with her first baby wrapped in her arms hoping that she's "doing it right", girl! I have a message for you today!
And for the rest of us:
How do you feel when you sing this song with your kids...
"There's a RIGHT way to live and be happy. It is choosing the RIGHT everyday..."
For me, I cringe a little every time.
Yes, I believe in Choosing the Right. I have worn CTR rings my whole life also.
But not until recently have I noticed how that thought doesn't actually make me feel so great.
If there is a right or wrong way to do things, I am often, if not always, doing them wrong. And that feels terrible. And my brain makes that mean that I must be a terrible mom.
But I am trying to Believe that I AM a Good Mom!
And You ARE a Good Mom!!
You are not wrong!
You do not have to make yourself wrong!!
You may do things that you wish you hadn't. You may have a long list of things that you want to do but can't seem to make them happen.
You are still not wrong. You are Good. And you are trying. "Beating yourself up" is never helpful.
So say it with me now... "There is no right or wrong way to be a Mom!"
again. "There is no right or wrong way to be a Mom"
If your brain rejects that idea and may even feel like it's a little bit scary, I get it. I grew up with the all or nothing "black and white" thinking also.
But I've noticed over the years how this thinking is not serving me.
When I believe that there is a right or wrong way to do this gig, I feel pressure and I choke. Every time.
But when I believe in loving Heavenly Parents who sent me to earth with my divine attributes that I inherited from them, full well knowing that I'd use my agency and "mess up" time and time again so they also provided me with a Savior?! Oh yeah. That's when I can start living! I'm not paralyzed by the prospect of perfection or perish. I am actually free to choose joy and eternal life by not being scared of making mistakes, failing, and going to Hell.
I believe that because of Jesus Christ, I can use my agency to choose whatever I feel directed by Him to do.
It's not about right or wrong, per se. It's about making choices and learning and growing which only happens through trial and error and strength from the Lord to try again. To repent over and over and over and over again.
You will be a Mom forever. You have a long time to practice, refine, repair, and practice some more.
It's all Good, my friend! And you ARE Good!
As always, if you'd like some help with any of this, please reach out! I'd love to help you believe you ARE a Good mom! And then you will start living into who you have been all along. It's awesome!! Let's get started. You've got this!!
Not doing a good enough job?
Do you sometimes feel like you are not doing a good enough job at being a Mom?
Is that what is keeping you from feeling like you are a good Mom?
Listen in today as we explore this idea!
In this episode I reference my interview on "The Confident Mom" podcast with Laura Dry. Check that out here!
And when you're ready to take next steps to really believing in your bones that you ARE a Good Mom, inherently, it's who you truly ARE, grab your copy of my prerecorded masterclass at www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe. Let's do this! You can believe it! Cause you ARE a Good Mom!!
Marriage, Mommy-ing, and Master Certified Coach Candice Toone
Today my guest host is none other than the relationship expert and Master Coach Candice Toone!
Candice helps women stop wondering if they married the right man and start putting all their energy toward having the marriage they imagined when they said "I do."
I love helping women do the same with their parenting also! Before we had kids, we imagined such beautiful relationships with our children someday. We were going to be the perfect mom. And then one day we woke up and our happily ever after dream feels more like a nightmare.
Candice and I discuss how it's our own list of "rules" or "expectations" of ourselves and our families that causes this disconnect.
Check out all of these additional resources from Candice here:Check out the Defying Gravity Revolution – a Candice-led community of Bees committed to stop wondering if they married the wrong guy so they can enjoy the marriage they imagined when they said “I do.” Grab your free e-copy of “Wife on Purpose” and the companion workbook HERE Join the Bees for four days of totally free book club discussion and coaching sessions – December 5-8, 2022 This is your chance to get a no-strings-attached taste of what coaching is all about If you’re a coach who wants to up the trauma-informed factor in your sessions and your business, join the Trauma-Informed coaching interest list HERE. Follow Candice on Instagram and Facebook
And to learn more about how You Can Believe you ARE a Good Mom! Sign up for my free masterclass at www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe
Diabetes Awareness Month
November is national diabetes awareness month so in this episode I am doing my small part to spread awareness of especially Type 1 Diabetes, which two of my little sweet daughters have been diagnosed with in the past couple years. It is the real deal! So much diabetes drama around here and I literally have no idea how I would survive without my "coaching tool belt" to manage myself while managing their diabetes.
These sweet innocent little people have a pancreas that has called it quits and now we have to essentially try to recreate all the magic that a God made body organ can just do automatically. Absolutely unreal to try to comprehend how intricate our bodies are! And what they do for us every second of every day and night! And when any part malfunctions, how we finally can recognize that.
Having to "be a pancreas" is a full time job. Luckily we have a lot of medical technology to help but it is still a LOT! Physically, medically, and also mentally and especially emotionally!
As a coach, that is the support that I can offer. Mental and emotional support for the worn out, exhausted, heart-broken, and overwhelmed Momma of these sweet T1D kiddos.
PLEASE, if you meet any of these moms, send them my way! I'd love to help and support them on this roller coaster that never ends!
Cotton Candy with Theresa Diulus
What does Anxiety and Cotton Candy have in common? Find out in today's episode with special guest Theresa Diulus!
Whether it's anxiety specifically or any other emotional overwhelm you may be feeling- especially with the holidays coming up!, Theresa shares with us some great practical tips of managing all the feelings!
To find more from the amazing Theresa Diulus, check her out at:
Embracing all the emotions with Angela Adams
Angela Adams from the "Embrace it all" podcast helps women who are struggling with anxiety understand that anxiety and overwhelm do not need to define who you are. You can embrace your hard emotions and thrive in your life.
She is in the "empty nester" phase of Mothering and has some great advice for us as Moms of Young Kids!
Learning how to embrace your emotions and your child's emotions is one of the most powerful tools you can have in your Mommy toolbox!
To get more help from Angela, check out all her offerings at https://linktr.ee/AngelaAdamsCoaching
And as always, click here to get my how-to prerecorded masterclass on Believing you ARE a Good Mom.
Your Mess becomes your Message with Candice Noss
My friend Candice Noss is a shining example of the message that she teaches: You are designed for Greatness!
Candice is a physical therapist and Life Coach at "The Mind, Body, Spirit Trifecta".
This is a really fun conversation with her where we can really see demonstrated the power of acknowledging our own self talk, recognizing whether those thoughts are from God or from the Adversary and intentionally choosing what thoughts we want to believe about ourselves and take on as identities. Like believing that you Are a Good Mom!
To get more of Candice's greatness check out her website at www.candicenoss.com.
She sends out a "Thankful Thursday" email every Thursday which anyone can sign up for on her website.
Link to Body Love Program
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Click on "Is Your Brain Keeping You Fat? 3 Brain Shenanigans to Watch for and Reject in Order to Reach Your Goals"
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Dropping the Shame with Diane Payne
Diane Payne from "Modern Mental Health for LDS Moms" teaches us that "Inadequacy is the root of ALL Anxiety"
We discuss the difference between mom guilt and mom shame and how to drop the war with it, along with SO much more!
Enjoy our chat! and learn more from her at:
And to learn more about how to believe that you Are a Good Mom, get my free pre-recorded Masterclass at www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe
Some of us love to talk.
We love having someone who will just listen.
Sometimes when we don't know what to say, we avoid the conversation all together and that can hurt more than saying the "wrong thing".
Sometimes what people need is not for you to say the right thing, but just to know you are there for them.
Even our children.
They are little humans that need to be heard also.
If you don't know what to say or ask, just use a phrase that I learned from my Peaceful Parenting coach, Lisa Smith, "Tell me more"
If you are trying out these ideas and need more support, I'd love to hop on a free zoom chat with you and if you're having success and would like to be featured on the podcast, you can sign up for that too!
To learn more specific "How To's" of believing you ARE a Good Mom, get my free prerecorded masterclass at www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe
How Do You Do It All?!
Do people look at you with your "litter" of children at church and say comments like "I don't know how you do it all!" or ask you "How do you do it?!"
What is "it" exactly?
Cause when people ask me that, my answer is that I don't do it "all". Who could? Who does?
I don't think that anyone can or does "do it ALL"
We all have to make decisions all day long about what we are going to and not going to do. Sometimes we make those decisions unconsciously but regardless, the decisions are being made. I suggest you get intentional it and "pick your fights" where it best serves you and your kids.
And remember, if it doesn't determine whether you are a "good mom" or not, then just decide by what you want to do and not do.
You get to decide! You are the mother here now! No parenting expert on instagram or even your own mom can decide for you. You know you, you know your kids, and your desires will lead you to your best life. So start paying attention to you! You can be your own parenting expert. You have The Almighty God in your corner! He will lead you and guide you and walk beside you. He gave you the exact kids that you need and that need you for the optimal earth life experience. Trust the process. And do what you feel called to do. And drop the war on the rest!
You've got this Momma! You don't have to do it ALL, you ARE a Good Mom no matter what.
Still don't believe me? Or just want more support in making these deliberate decisions for yourself? I've got you! www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe
Ser vs Estar
Feliz Dia de los Muertos! (Almost) we love Halloween at our house and we love Day of the Dead now too (thanks to Coco!)
Today's episode doesn't actually have anything to do with Halloween or Dia De Los Muertos but it does have to do with Spanish.
In Spanish, they have it figured out how to differentiate between "I Am" and "I Am" (see how we don't have this figured out in English?)
Find out what this has to do with Mothering in today's episode! And tap in on Spotify if you want to see the video!
And as always, to learn more head to www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe
and www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/t1d for specific support with managing your own mental and emotional needs while managing your child's Type 1 Diabetes!
Drop the Power Struggles
At "Drop the War Life Coaching" we are all about dropping power struggles with your littles to create more peace in your parenting.
In this episode I demonstrate how I successfully did that with my 3 year old this morning before preschool.
I am far from perfect at doing this on the regular And I am STILL a Good Mom!
To learn more about you You too can Believe you ARE a Good Mom, get the free prerecorded Masterclass here.
And if you or someone you know has a child recently diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes (I have two T1D daughters myself) send them to www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/t1d for more resources to help them through the mental and emotional roller coaster that that can be!
Mommy Report Card
Secret Number 1: There is NO "Mommy report card"
or in other words, your child's behavior does not reflect on you as a Mom.
You ARE a Good Mom and your kid is just being a kid!
If you don't make their "misbehavior" mean that you're a terrible mom, then it doesn't have such weight. It wouldn't "drive you crazy" when they do what they do if it meant that it was just them being them. AND you are Still a Good Mom!
You ARE a Good Mom and they ARE a Good Kid. And you both are humans doing the best you can. Now you can relax and wonder what's going on for them that is making them act this way and you can confidently handle the situation instead of feeling panic and needing them to stop asap so that you can feel better.
Feel better first by believing that you are a good mom, and then step in as that good mom that you know you are.
Try on the idea that there is no mommy report card. You are not failing if your kid is acting like a kid. (and he isn't either!)
Learn more and get the other three secrets to help keep your sanity here.
And if you or someone you know has a child with Type 1 Diabetes, click here for the T1D Moms guide to help manage yourself while managing their diabetes. You can feel less scared, stressed, and sad and start feeling more confident, calm, and connection.
How do you Identify?
Identity is sometimes yes or no and sometimes a little more complicated.
Are you a Mom? Yes
Are you a good Mom? More complicated?..
It doesn't have to be.
Try it on...
Are you a Mom? Yes
Are you a Good Mom? Yes!
Say it with me now, "Yes! I AM a Good Mom!'
If you still don't believe it, check out www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe to get the free masterclass.
Productivity and Worth
Drop the War on the connection between productivity and worth.
You can not DO enough to prove to yourself that you ARE enough!
Believe that you ARE Good and then you will do good!
You were not "productive enough" today AND you ARE Still a Good Mom!
Still don't believe me? Check out the free masterclass. It will change everything for you!
Are you struggling with potty training, screen time usage, sibling rivalry, (the list goes on and on...)
Those are symptoms of an unconscious limiting belief keeping you stuck.
I can help you with both!
Head to www.dropthewarlifecoach.com and let's get started!
We think that we are a good mom if we do what we are "supposed" to do. And we come to this conclusion because that's what our parents taught us with their positive affirmations of "good girl!" when we did what they wanted us to do. And we continue to do that to our kids. When they cooperate we tell them good job. When they are getting along and playing nice we label them as a "good sister!" So of course we label ourselves that way also. Because surely if we just lost our temper, we are no longer good. right?... Wrong!
I'd argue that who you ARE always IS. Always. No matter what, even if, and especially when.
You ARE Good. And you ARE a Good Mom. AND you do things that are not good sometimes. You do things that are out of alignment with who you truly Are.
And that's OK!
Learn more in today's episode and when you're ready to take it to the next level, I have a hands-on how-to FREE Prerecorded Masterclass to get you closer to Believing that you indeed ARE a Good Mom! Then sign up for a free zoom chat where we can apply your specific examples to get you the best results. All your dreams of the Mom you imagined being are possible!
Faith and Repentance part 2
In the Book of Mormon, Mosiah 18:20 says that the prophet Alma "commanded them that they should preach nothing save it were repentance and faith on the Lord, who had redeemed his people" In that spirit, I am sharing with you today in a two part series what Faith and Repentance have to do with Peaceful Parenting.
This second part is available in video on Spotify or you can watch it on YouTube.
I am excited to share with you today my thoughts on how Faith and Repentance go hand in hand with Life Coaching and that it all can help you believe that you ARE a Good Mom!
Learn more in my free masterclass.
Faith and Repentance part 1
In the Book of Mormon, Mosiah 18:20 says that the prophet Alma "commanded them that they should preach nothing save it were repentance and faith on the Lord, who had redeemed his people"
In that spirit, I am sharing with you today in a two part series what Faith and Repentance have to do with Peaceful Parenting.
When I decided to become a Life Coach, my vision was to combine all the strategies that had helped me so much in my parenting journey which simply put involved Life Coaching, Parent Coaching, and Jesus Christ. We are tapping into more detail on that latter today.
In my journey of Believing I AM a Good Mom, I have to remember Whose I Am. The Great I Am. Christ is our redeemer who makes it ok that we are imperfect AND we are Still Good. He is Good. We are Good. It's all Good. Find out more in this and the next episodes.
(episode art:Image by brgfx on Freepik)
Check out my free masterclass for more tips on Believing you ARE a Good Mom.
Style Coaching with Sheri Brasier
Today you get to meet my bestie, Sheri Brasier! She is a STYLE Coach! What?! Did you know that those exist?!
If you are in the thick of raising small little humans right now, like I am, you may wonder why you would need a style coach?
Well, maybe style was something that used to be important to you but in this new life and in this new body, you just don't seem to have the bandwidth to even begin to think about what to wear or how to accessorize it!
Maybe you just need someone to help with the "heavy lifting" beforehand so that you know what you're actually looking for before you even step into the store.
Sheri helps Moms like you with these scenarios and so much more!
She shares some practical tips with us today like how to actually planning in advance for our family photo shoots and to schedule a time that you don't have the kids with you to go try things on at the store.
We also explore the similarities between style and parenting! Who knew?!
I love Sheri! She has coached me about the mental drama around my own self image and she has some great wisdom to impart in this episode.
If you want to get started with a wardrobe capsule, she has a free starter kit that she will email to you when you sign up for her free life and style edit.
Which is her amazing weekly email that has all the goods.
And while you're at it, sign up for "Wednesday Wisdom from Emily Wardrop" here and you'll hear from both of us weekly to keep this party going!
Single Mom Spirituality with Hyo North
Hyo North is a Spirituality Coach for women going through a separation and divorce. She helps her clients really learn to rely on the Lord Jesus Christ to get them through some of the toughest experiences they've ever had to navigate.
I love learning from Hyo's deep spiritual wisdom and in this episode we explore how Believing you ARE a Good Mom can help moms who are extra piled in guilt drop the shame that their brains want to offer them in their difficult circumstances navigating being a newly single mom.
To learn more from Hyo check her out on IG, FB, and her website at Hyo North Coaching
And as always, if you want to learn more about how to believe you Are a good mom, get the free masterclass here.
Break the Rules!
The main reason I find that people think that they are a "bad mom" is that they are not able to comply with a long list of expectations or "rules" that they have for themselves which qualifies them as a good mom. I think that this is all a big thought error. You ARE a Good Mom! Inherently. You just ARE. AND you do and don't do things that are not on that list. And it's ok.
One of the first things I do with my clients is get awareness of this "list of rules" that we have for ourselves and our kids. Our unrealistically long list of expectations is what is causing all the havoc in our lives. It's not that we are a bad mom, it's that we don't understand that we are a good mom no matter what, even if, and especially when.
So break the rules. Who cares? Who made up this rule? Why should you comply with it? You're probably breaking it anyway but you're beating yourself up about it. Let's drop that second part and then we can work on "following" the rule if you decide it's actually something that is important to YOU. Not to your mom or your neighbor or sister or the author of that book you read. YOU! You are the mother here and you get to make the rules. Make the list short and doable and break all the rest! It is amazingly liberating!!
And as a bonus tangent concept in this episode I go on my rant about how you don't HAVE to do anything and if you are doing it, then you DO actually WANT to.
To learn more about Believing that you ARE a Good Mom, check out the free Masterclass.
And when you're ready to work with me on your specific trouble spots, sign up here for a free zoom chat.
What are you making it mean?
When I ask you if you are a good mom you might actually say Yes! Awesome!! That's the goal, right? But do you believe that about yourself 100% of the time? No matter what, even if, and especially when?
How about on a scale of 1-10? If "good mom" is a 10, where are you? Why?
If you're an 8, maybe you're having a potty training issue or your son keeps hitting his sister or maybe you yelled at them about that and that is making you think that you are 8 out of 10.
In this episode I will break down for you what we do in coaching that gives you awareness of your subconscious thoughts that are still trying to make it mean that you are a terrible mom, even when consciously you know that you are good.
Because if you are struggling with your relationship with your kiddo, it's not because they still aren't potty trained yet and you're fed up with cleaning up the messes. The real problem is buried layers deeper in what you are making it mean.
What are you making it mean? Is a question we use as coaches to help you figure out what the real problem is. So your daughter is 4 and not potty trained. So what? You think kids should be trained by 2. So what? Then there must be something wrong with. my kid. So what? So there must be something wrong with me. I haven't been able to figure this out yet. So? There's something wrong with me. There it is. I'm not a good mom. That's why I'm an 8.
So when we clean that up, then we can peel off the layers starting at the bottom there. Do you see how that works?
If you have no awareness that your brain is making it mean that you're a bad mom, then you can't change that and create the peaceful parent that you want to be. First step is awareness. Without judgement and dripping with self-compassion and grace.
Asking yourself what you're making it mean will get you that awareness.
And then you'll be ready to work with me to turn all your behavior issues (yours and theirs) into opportunities to solidify your new belief that you ARE Good. No matter what, even if and especially when.
And when you're ready for a coach to help you through, chat with me for free and then use coupon code "Christmas" to get 11% off and your kids will get the best Christmas gift this year: a Mom who knows who she IS! Consciously and subconsciously. Let's get started changing those neuropathways!
"That's Fine" with Brooke Sann
My friend Brooke Sann is a Relationship Coach who helps put the spark back into your relationship with yourself which ignites all other relationships, especially your marriage. She is also a Momma to three boys! She used my brain hack to add "and you are still a good mom" and as she describes it, it didn't just help. It changed everything!
To learn more about Brooke and to work with her go to www.BrookeSann.com
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Drop all Arguments
Going along with "Letting him be him" another thought I love to remind myself (and my kids!) which immediately drops all the wars is
"She can think that if she wants to"
All arguments stop dead in their tracks when you use this phrase.
The best way to drop an argument war is to understand that the other person has their own agency and truly can think that if they want to. They don't need to agree with you. Different opinions and ideas make our world the amazing place that it is. We don't want to live in a "Stepford Wife" or "Truman Show" life. No one needs to agree with you. You can think what you want and when you get your own back about it and don't need validation from other people agreeing with you, you also can let go of controlling what everyone else thinks also. And you may learn a thing or two from a differing perspective.
Read more on the blog or see the video on youtube.
And when you're ready to apply these ideas to you and yours, I'd love to help. We can chat for free on zoom.
And check out my free video training Top 4 Secrets to Keep Your Sanity with Little Kids in the House.
"Let" Him Be Him (and Her be Her) ((and you be you))
K now we are getting into it. The tips, tricks, and tools to stop power struggles with your littles, create more peace in your parenting, and believe that you ARE a Good Mom!
The more expectations you have, the more disappointed you will feel. If your only expectation of your son is for him to be him, you will not be annoyed (by your thoughts) every time he does exactly what he does. Instead, you will expect him to do that cause he always does! He has his agency. He's going to do what he does. We can try to influence our kids and teach them, but ultimately we can only control ourselves. So "let" him be him cause he's going to anyway. And then, occasionally he may actually surprise you and behave the way you would rather him show up.
After you've practiced this with your children, you'll notice it applies to you also. Instead of beating yourself up every time you "mess up", just expect that you will continue to be a human making mistakes and when you cut yourself some slack, you'll be pleasantly surprised that you actually start showing up "better" also!
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How to Be a Good Mom
The ONE simple secret on How to BE a Good Mom!
Watch the whole "talking presentation" video on Spotify!
Learn more at the FREE prerecorded masterclass
HOW to Believe that You ARE a Good Mom
In this episode I "pull back the curtain" and give you an inside look at what we will do in my coaching program.
It is an 8 week 1:1 coaching package that will teach you exactly HOW to Believe that You ARE a Good Mom!
We start exactly where you are. And we will work together to turn all of your dreams into reality.
What is your own definition of a good mom?
Why do you feel like you aren't her yet?
What resistance do you have when I tell you that You ARE a Good Mom?
We will coach on all of that and more.
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Intro to coaching on Type 1 Diabetes
Two of my daughters have been diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes.
So in addition to helping all the moms of the world believe that they ARE a Good Mom,
I really love helping other T1D Moms manage themselves so that they can better manage their child's diabetes.
Click here to learn more about it.
And of course, please forward this episode on to any parents you know of children with Type 1 Diabetes.
I'd love to get them the specific support for maneuvering that challenges that comes with T1D.
I help my clients go from overwhelm, stress, and guilt to love, connection, and peace.
They have all the doctors and nurses to help manage the child's blood but what about the parent's emotional health?
I'm your girl! Let's do this!!
What is an Advanced Certified Peaceful Parenting Life Coach?
My official title is "Advanced Certified Peaceful Parenting Life Coach". That's a lot. What does that even mean? In this episode I explain what I mean by all of those words. I do a quick overview and then a more detailed explanation. But really to experience what that is, you can check out my website to learn more www.dropthewarlifecoach.com.
Including my parenting philosophies page here.
Episode 1 "Spastastic Introduction"
Welcome to the "Believe You ARE a Good Mom" podcast!
I am Emily Wardrop from 'Drop the War Life Coaching' where we drop the power struggle wars to create more peace in your parenting. I am an advanced certified peaceful parenting life coach and I am on a mission to help ALL the Moms of the World Believe that they ARE a Good Mom! Inherently. It's who you ARE. At your core. You are not what you think, feel, or do! You Are who you are. I believe that God is good, He made us, and so we Are Good also. Full Stop!
To learn more www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe for the masterclass
and get all the goods straight to your inbox weekly in "Wednesday Wisdom with Emily Wardrop" www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/www
And if you are listening to this "real" time, it's the end of 2022 and I have the BEST Christmas gift for you and your kids. The Gift of a Mom who Knows Who she IS! Use coupon code "Christmas" to get 11% off your coaching package with me. In eight weeks of just 30 mins on zoom a week, you Will Believe that you ARE a Good Mom! And from that foundation, we will build all your other parenting dreams into reality!
You ARE Good with Kayla Giles
Kayla is an LDS Convert Coach. She helps new members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints adjust to the culture shock that accompanies converting and helps them through the challenges of the lifestyle changes they are making. In this conversation we find similarities between our coaching practices. I help all the moms believe that they Are a Good Mom and she wants her clients to believe that they Are Good! We don't need to be perfect to be good. We don't have to follow a long list of expectations we have for ourselves. Or a long list of expectations that we think God has for us. The greatest commandment is to Love. Love God, each other, and ourselves! I've found that the easiest way to make progress toward obeying that commandment is to believe that I am good, you are good, we are all good. God is Good. He made us. So we ARE Good also. Full Stop.
To learn more about HOW to Believe that you ARE a Good Mom, click here for the masterclass.