The Empowering Parents Podcast - Child Behavior Help The Total Transformation Way

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is the 7th and final segment of our free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. In this episode, James continues to discuss in-depth the characteristics and practices of kids with obnoxious and abusive behaviors. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is part 6 of our free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. In this episode, James continues to discuss in-depth the characteristics and practices of kids with obnoxious and abusive behaviors. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is part 5 of our free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. In this episode, James continues to discuss in-depth the characteristics and practices of kids with obnoxious and abusive behaviors. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is part 4 of our free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. In this episode, James begins to discuss in-depth the characteristics and practices of kids with obnoxious and abusive behaviors. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is part 3 of our free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. In this episode, James discusses the important concept of the "good enough" parent. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is part 2 of our free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. In this episode, James discusses the issues of self-esteem, learning disabilities, and other special challenges that are often used to excuse abusive and obnoxious behaviors in our kids. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is a free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. You won't want to miss this. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Some kids act out by giving us the silent treatment. The silent treatment gives your child a feeling of power and control over you, and it’s how they push your buttons and get you to leave them alone. To us parents, it can be frustrating and hurtful. And for kids, it's a destructive way to learn to manage relationships. Here's what you can do as a parent if your child is giving you the silent treatment. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/does-your-child-give-you-the-silent-treatment-6-rules-for-getting-kids-to-talk/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Anger is a normal emotion in kids and adults alike. But how we express and deal with our feelings of anger is the difference between living in relative peace and feeling like we are at our wits’ end. Here are 10 essential rules for handling an angry child. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/angry-child-outbursts-the-10-rules-of-dealing-with-an-angry-child/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Consequences are important, but you need to know how to use them effectively. Kimball shares tips for listeners. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-give-kids-consequences-that-work/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Is your child’s answer to everything, “I don’t care” or “It doesn’t matter?” Parents often think that if they can find a new way to encourage their child, he or she will magically start achieving more. I don’t think it’s like that at all. I think the problem is that these kids are motivated to resist, to withdraw, and to underperform. They act out by acting in. Here's what you can do as a parent if you find yourself in this situation. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/motivating-underachievers-part-i-when-your-child-says-i-dont-care/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Do you have a picture of what the holidays should look like? Most of us do whether we admit it or not. And when the reality doesn’t match the expectation you have in your head, it feels awful. Here's what you can do as a parent. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/9-ways-to-get-through-the-holidays-with-a-defiant-child/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Do you have an ODD child or teen who constantly argues and fights your authority, refusing to follow the rules of your home? When the number for their school shows up on your caller ID, do you cringe in fear of what trouble they’re in now? Believe it or not, some definite strengths go hand-in-hand with that challenging ODD personality. We will show you how to see your child through a different lens, including stories of ODD kids with whom we’ve worked. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/strengths-oppositional-defiant-child/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program (includes The ODD Lifeline): https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Has your child been caught stealing from you or someone else? Have you found them using your credit card for online gaming, taking money from your wallet without asking, or even taking big-ticket items from your house? If so, this is the episode for you. ADDED BONUS: listen to a sample of The Total Transformation Program with James Lehman. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/kids-stealing-from-parents-what-you-need-to-know-now/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Countless parents write to Empowering Parents and say, “I don’t know how to make my child behave. He’s out of control, and people blame me for his behavior. I feel guilty and ashamed most of the time and very alone. It’s the worst feeling in the world.” Here's what you can do to let go of your parenting guilt and parent more effectively. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/am-i-a-bad-parent-how-to-let-go-of-parenting-guilt/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

The title says it all: here's how to manage tantrums, misbehavior, and meltdowns during this holiday season. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-manage-tantrums-misbehavior-and-meltdowns-during-the-holidays/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Every parent’s goal should be to teach and coach their child to better behavior. And the most effective way to change your child’s behavior—and assert your parental authority—is through clear and consistent consequences that are tied to that behavior. Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Does your child always insist that they’re right and everyone else is wrong? Some kids have a bad habit of asserting their opinions by drowning out everyone else in the room—regardless of whether or not they know what they’re talking about. Understandably, this overbearing behavior can be very annoying and frustrating for both parents and family members alike. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/im-right-and-youre-wrong-is-your-child-a-know-it-all/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Sometimes you have to let your child fail. Parents often do their kids a disservice when they protect them from natural consequences when they take over for their kids to ensure that their kids don’t fail. While it’s natural for parents to worry about failure, there are times when it can be productive for kids—and a chance for kids to change for the better. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/why-you-should-let-your-child-fail-the-benefits-of-natural-consequences/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

For many parents, the peace of a child-free home is short-lived, if it even happens at all. At EmpoweringParents.com, we hear from many parents whose children either never left home or returned after a brief experiment with the adult world. This podcast discusses setting up a living agreement with your adult child living at home. Article referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/ground-rules-for-living-with-an-adult-child-plus-free-living-agreement/ Link to mutual living agreement template: https://cdn.empoweringparents.com/living-agreement-adult-children-template.pdf Index of all our adult child living at home articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article-categories/ages-and-stages/adult-children/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

If your kids are like most, they are masterful at finding creative ways to wear you down to get their way. You might think, “My child is just too smart for his own good!” Listen for some great tips on how to deal with a manipulative child. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/manipulative-child-behavior-my-kids-are-too-smart-for-their-own-good/ The Calm Parent AM & PM Program by Debbie Pincus: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/the-calm-parent-am-pm-subscription/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

When children use anger to get what they want, it can feel for all the world like they’re pointing a loaded weapon at you. As a parent, you dread the ugly and sometimes violent emotional outbursts that come with this type of behavior. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/anger-as-a-weapon-when-your-child-points-the-gun-at-you/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Kids learn at a very early age that if they get angry and act out—or threaten to do so—the people around them will give in. In effect, they’ve learned how to blackmail their parents to give them what they want. A child who uses anger with an angle looks like they’re losing control. But in reality, they’re using anger to gain control of their parents and the situation. The anger gets them what they want, whether it’s a candy bar at the store or avoiding homework and chores at home. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/anger-with-an-angle-is-your-child-using-anger-to-control-you/ Index of all EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

This week we spoke with Dr. Maria Gilmour about a wide range of parenting topics. Dr. Gilmour is a parent educator and board-certified behavior analyst who has been working with families and schools for the past 20 years to help parents bring their home life back to the loving basics. She is the author of the recently published book, "Seven Superpowers: How Parents Can Shift from Punishment and Control to Comfort and Success!" She also serves as CEO of Wynne Solutions which provides families with tools to help address behavior challenges. Seven Superpowers Website: https://sevensuperpowers.com/ Seven Superpowers on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3f3bWRU Wynne Solutions: https://www.wynnesolutions.com/ Wynne Solutions on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wynnesolutions Index of ALL EmpoweringParents.com articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

What causes bad child behavior? James Lehman says it happens because children don’t yet know how to solve problems effectively. To put it another way, they act out as an attempt to handle life’s problems. And they continue to act out, frankly, because it’s working for them. This episode discusses how understanding this will help you to improve your child's behavior. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/the-surprising-reason-for-bad-child-behavior-i-cant-solve-problems/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Does your child complain constantly? No matter how hard you try, something is always wrong: from what you made for dinner, to the horrible school you force them to attend, to the unfair rules in your house and everything in between. Here's what you can do as a parent. Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Some degree of backtalk is normal for adolescents and teens—it’s how they learn to assert themselves and become independent. But too often, they don’t assert themselves appropriately, and their backtalk becomes disrespectful and obnoxious. At this point, parents need to take action for their own sanity and for the sake of their kids, who need to learn to assert themselves appropriately to become well-functioning adults. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/teenagers-talking-back-how-to-manage-this-annoying-behavior/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Meltdowns and tantrums are inevitable. But, depending on how we respond, we can manage the frequency and intensity of these behaviors with these tips. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/managing-the-meltdown/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

If your child is unmotivated you need to know that yelling and fighting won't solve the problem. If you’re yelling and fighting over these issues, you’re giving your child more power in the struggle, and you don’t want to do that. In this week's podcast, we discuss what parents can do instead. Articles referenced in episode: Motivating the Unmotivated Child: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/motivating-the-unmotivated-child/ How to Give Kids Consequences That Work: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-give-kids-consequences-that-work/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Every parent of an acting-out child knows that once your kid has a reputation for being a troublemaker at school, it’s very difficult to undo that label. That’s because your child becomes the label. When the teacher looks at your child, the teacher often just sees a troublemaker. Here's what you can do this school year if your child is a class troublemaker. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/acting-out-in-school-when-your-child-is-the-class-troublemaker/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

You’d do anything for your child, but you feel guilty about admitting the truth, even to yourself. The truth is, sometimes you don’t like your child very much. It’s a secret that many parents of acting-out kids share but rarely confess to anyone. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/i-love-my-child-but-sometimes-i-cant-stand-him/ All Our Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) Articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article-categories/conditions-diagnoses/oppositional-defiant-disorder/ Our parenting program "The ODD Lifeline" is available when you sign up for The Total Transformation Program at the following link: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

If the thought of your child starting school fills you with dread, you’re not alone. Right now, thousands of parents across the country are asking themselves, “How am I going to get my child up on time, get them to do their homework, and make sure they stay out of trouble this year?” Here are seven things you can do now to make sure your child is prepared for the new school year. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/prepare-your-child-for-the-new-school-year/ Power struggle articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article-categories/child-behavior-problems/power-struggles/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

If you have siblings in your household, there is a good chance that they don't always get along. Some sibling rivalry is normal, but when it gets out of control you need to put a stop to it. Learn how to help your kids cope with rivalry and jealousy. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/siblings-at-war-in-your-home-declare-a-ceasefire-now/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Do you tiptoe around your child out of fear they will act out? Do you walk on eggshells hoping your child doesn't explode and start another screaming fight. Kids who act out want their parents to tiptoe around them — it's how kids control their parents. To the child, it's "leave me alone or else." Or, "give me what I want or else." It's a form of manipulation kids use when they don't yet possess more appropriate problem-solving skills. Here's what you can do as a parent. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/gut-check-do-you-tiptoe-around-your-child/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Here are eight practical steps you can take today to manage your acting-out kids. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/8-ways-to-manage-acting-out-kids/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

There are few things in the world that hurt a parent more than hearing their child say, “I hate you.” The words cut like a knife. The child you love so much and have sacrificed for in so many ways now says they hate you. In today's podcast we discuss why our kids talk to us this way and offer some effective ways to respond as a parent. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/i-hate-you-mom-i-wish-you-were-dead-when-kids-say-hurtful-things/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

How do you know if your child is going through an adolescent phase or if their out-of-control behavior is here to stay? Here's what you need to know as a parent to tell the difference between normal teenage behavior and something more serious. Article referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/is-it-an-adolescent-phase-or-out-of-control-behavior/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Parents who don’t have effective parenting skills will often use aggression as a substitute. When you use aggression as a parenting style, it often solves your short term problem of controlling children. Aggressive parents can get the compliance they are looking for, at least initially. But it comes at a cost. In this podcast, we discuss why aggressive parenting doesn't work and what you can do instead. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/the-bullying-parent-why-aggressive-parenting-does-not-work/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

It’s important to teach kids how to negotiate because it’s a necessary life skill. But don’t let them negotiate away your power as a parent. Unfortunately, this is what happens when you give in or over-negotiate with your kids. Join Kimball Lewis as he discusses how and when to negotiate your child's curfew. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/teen-curfewsshould-you-ever-negotiate/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

You are your child’s authority—that’s your role and responsibility. Do you have an emotional relationship with your child? Yes. But if you try to be friends with your child, it comes at the cost of your authority, and it undermines your role as a parent. Learn more about this important topic in today's podcast. Article referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/your-child-is-not-your-friend/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Effective consequences are a critical component of improving your child's behavior. But consequences alone are not enough. As a parent, you need to learn how to coach your child on how to behave better. You need to be able to offer your child effective ways to solve their problems without having to resort to abusive or defiant behavior. In this episode, Kimball introduces listeners to the three key parenting roles that are taught in The Total Transformation Program. Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Consequences are a key component of improving your child's behavior, but you need to know how to design and use them effectively. In this week's episode, Kimball shares 14 tips to ensure that your consequences are effective. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article-categories/parenting-strategies-techniques/consequences-rewards/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

When your child lies to you, it stirs up a potent mix of emotions. You might feel angry, hurt, and offended all at once. Lying is extremely upsetting for parents because it shakes the foundation of trust we have in our child. In this episode of The Empowering Parents Podcast, Kimball explains how to talk to your child about lying. Also included in this episode is a clip from The Total Transformation Program where James Lehman discusses the issue of lying. Index of articles on lying: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article-categories/child-behavior-problems/lying/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

This week, Kimball responds to a question from one of the parents we work with at Empowering Parents, who asks, "is the consequence we gave our child too harsh?" Also in this episode is a special message from James Lehman in The Total Transformation Program. Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Over the years, many parents in blended families have come to Empowering Parents about stepchild disrespect. In some cases, their stepkids didn’t respect them, and in others, their biological child didn’t respect their new spouse. Here's what you can do if you are a struggling parent in a blended family. Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

It’s incredibly frustrating to deal with a child who refuses to take care of himself or herself—a child with bad hygiene. They look bad, and we often see it as a poor reflection of our parenting. In this week's podcast, Kimball talks about what you can do as a parent if you are struggling with this difficult and awkward issue. Behavior charts: https://www.empoweringparents.com/free-downloadable-charts/ Power Struggles: Are You at War with a Defiant Child? https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/power-struggles-part-i-are-you-at-war-with-a-defiant-child/ When You Should Let Your Child Fail: The Benefits of Natural Consequences https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/why-you-should-let-your-child-fail-the-benefits-of-natural-consequences/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Many parents who use the Empowering Parents coaching service complain about their kids’ rooms being so messy they can’t walk through them. In this week's podcast, Kimball shares four tips to help you get your kids to clean their room by themselves. We especially love this episode because it shows you how to apply our Total Transformation Program approach to a specific problem. Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Every parent’s goal should be to teach and coach their child to better behavior. And the most effective way to change your child’s behavior—and assert your parental authority—is through clear and consistent consequences that are tied to that behavior. Learn more on how to do that in this episode of The Empowering Parents Podcast. Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Threats and abuse from your own child are frightening, disturbing, and heartbreaking all at the same time. Parents need to have a systematic way of dealing with threats and abuse so that they don’t simply move from crisis to crisis with their child. Here's what you can do as a parent. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/when-kids-get-ugly-how-to-stop-threats-and-verbal-abuse-part-2/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Verbal abuse and intimidation by children and teens isn’t just a phase that goes away—it doesn’t just happen. It often has deep roots that begin early in a child’s development. And it often begins as a way for kids to try to get power through controlling their parents. Article referenced in podcast: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/kids-who-are-verbally-abusive-part-1-the-creation-of-a-defiant-child/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Most kids go through phases where they are sassy, sarcastic, mouthy, or disrespectful. As a parent, it’s hard to know when to let it slide and when to address the problem. Here's what you can do as a parent. Articles referenced or sourced for this podcast: When Kids Get Ugly: How to Stop Threats and Verbal Abuse https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/when-kids-get-ugly-how-to-stop-threats-and-verbal-abuse-part-2/ Kids Who are Verbally Abusive: The Creation of a Defiant Child https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/kids-who-are-verbally-abusive-part-1-the-creation-of-a-defiant-child/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

If your defiant or acting-out child has low self-esteem, this podcast is for you. Empowering Parents breaks down many of the myths of the self-esteem movement and gives you practical advice on the best way to improve your child's behavior and their self-esteem. Article referenced in podcast: Low Self-Esteem in Kids: Forget What You’ve Heard—It’s a Myth https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/low-self-esteem-in-kids-part-i-forget-what-youve-heard-its-a-myth/ Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

A round-up of our top 8 parenting tips. Plus, a Total Transformation tip from James Lehman. Don't miss this one! Index of all our articles: https://www.empoweringparents.com/articles/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

For many parents, getting their kids to do their homework is a nightly struggle. Some kids refuse to do their homework. Others claim that they don’t have homework, but then the report card comes out, and you realize that their work was not being done. Here's what you can do as a parent. Related article: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/will-my-kid-be-messed-up-forever/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Parenting is hard. Parenting a difficult child is especially hard, and it's devastating to watch your child make bad decisions and head down the wrong path. In this episode, we address the heartbreaking and understandable question that many parents ask us: "Will my kid be messed up forever?" Article referenced in podcast: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/will-my-kid-be-messed-up-forever/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

When you catch your child in a lie, it’s natural to feel betrayed, hurt, angry, and frustrated. But here’s the truth: lying is a normal child behavior problem. It needs to be addressed, but for most kids, it’s not a character flaw, and it’s not an issue of morality. Here are 5 tips for dealing with lying in children and teens. All of our articles on lying: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article-categories/child-behavior-problems/lying/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

You usually can’t end an argument—or make a child do something—by trying to make them understand and agree with you. The fact is, most of the time they don’t understand you. They’re going to see things differently. Children and adults have different perspectives. Parents can spend a lot of time and energy trying to make a child accept their logic. And it’s just not going to happen. Includes special bonus message from James Lehman. Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Eye rolling, curses, insults, backtalk, name-calling, ignored requests, snide comments: disrespect from your child or teen comes in many different forms. In today's episode, Kimball Lewis, CEO of EmpoweringParents.com, talks about what to do (and not to do) when your child is being disrespectful. Special bonus: Listen to James Lehman talk about disrespect in The Total Transformation® program. Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

Parents, are you tired of the constant power struggles between you and your kids? Does it feel like every conversation turns into an argument? On today's podcast, Kimball Lewis, CEO of Empowering Parents provides insight on how to stop arguing with your child. Get the help you need and start forming that better parent-child relationship today Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingAdvice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empowering_parents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Emp_Parents

How would you stay alive if you had to hunt and grow your own food, search for fresh sources of water and live without electricity, using only your wits and skills? The truth is most kids don’t possess those extraordinary life skills, let alone the mundane ones we all need to make it in the real world—like balancing the checkbook.

When you’re out in public places with your kids, it can feel like your every move is on display. It’s like theater, where everyone is a critic. For Empowering Parents Contibuting Editor Jennie Wallace, her family took center stage this past weekend.  

A few months ago, we asked Empowering Parents readers to share how they respond when their child acts out. There were three parenting styles that readers consistently told us they were using and weren’t working the way they would like. The common denominator?  All three undermine your authority as a parent.    

Siblings bicker; it's what they do. They tease, taunt and fight. It can drive parents crazy and wear us down, making our homes chaotic and at times, unlivable. On today's podcast, learn 6 ways you can stop sibling bickering and rivalry--from calm parenting expert, Debbie Pincus.

When your child lies to you, it stirs up a potent mix of emotions. You might feel angry, hurt and offended all at once. Lying is extremely upsetting for parents because it shakes the foundation of trust we have in our child. Learn how you can talk to your child about lying on today's podcast.

As parents, we all have our triggers: the things our kids do and say that set us off.  And many of our triggers are related to backtalk and the shocking and hurtful things kids say when they’re angry. Learn when you should ignore backtalk and when you shouldn't on this week's podcast.

On today’s podcast we’ll be going over 4 constructive steps you can use to change your child’s behavior. To download our free Goal Worksheets, go here: www.empoweringparents.com/4-steps-change-child-behavior.php  

Parenting is one job that never takes a holiday vacation. As families are celebrating holidays, parents are also coping with sibling bickering, backtalk, temper tantrums, and power struggles. Use these 8 Parenting Tips to help you prepare for the New Year.

The holidays can be a tough time for everyone. And when you’re parenting an oppositional, defiant or challenging child, the holidays can be more than tough; they can be downright awful. In response, Kim Abraham has written a Message of Hope for Parents of Defiant Children.  

When your child acts out or breaks the rules, it’s normal to feel your authority as a parent slip away. If you’re like most parents, you’ve tried everything: you’ve taken the car away, locked the video games in a cabinet, and have even considered cancelling Christmas or a birthday party. You’ve probably also seen that these things haven’t worked.  

Sometimes disrespect comes along with adolescence; other times a child may show disrespectful behavior from an early age. Either way, it’s a behavior that can push any parent’s emotional buttons! Learn how you can respond with these 5 techniques, from the authors of The ODD Lifeline program.  

As parents, we want to give our children what makes them happy; we don’t want them to feel left out or get teased because their boots, phone, or brand name hoodie is last year’s model. And when we’re unable (or even when we’re unwilling) to buy the “latest and greatest,” we often feel terribly guilty. To avoid those feelings of guilt, here are 8 questions to ask yourself before buying anything.  

You put in the work: you raised your child, got them through school, and prepared them as best you could for living on their own as an adult. You were really looking forward to having the house to yourselves again. Finally, a little peace and quiet! Then, you find out your adult child has decided to live at home. Now what? Learn new ground rules for how to manage this situation on today's podcast.  

You thought “The Terrible Twos” were bad. Now you’re dealing with “The Terrible Thirteens,” and it’s just as bad, if not worse. On today's podcast, Dr. Michael Kramer writes how you can stop teen temper tantrums in just 3 steps.  

Do you have an ODD child or teen who constantly argues and fights your authority, refusing to follow the rules of your home?Believe it or not, there are definite strengths that go hand-in-hand with that challenging, ODD personality. This week, we’re going to show you how to see your child through a different lens,with stories of ODD kids who have worked with Kimberly Abraham and Marney Studaker-Cordner, the authors of The ODD Lifeline program.    

“Why can’t I get my kids to get their homework done and off to bed without the constant screaming, bickering, and crying?” If you’ve asked yourself this question regularly, you’re not alone. Parents say that homework and bedtime battles are some of the most nerve-wracking, exhausting moments of parenthood. We're here to help you get through it with 8 Tips for Calmer Nights with Kids.

Do your kids make you feel like an ogre when you set limits? Does the word “no” kick off whining, yelling and protests?It can be hard to know if the limits you set are reasonable or not. On top of that, how do you know that the limits you set even work? Whether you’re just beginning to set limits, or you’re adjusting your limits to match your child’s unique needs and developmental changes, it doesn’t hurt to have a little help.

Some parents go to conferences expecting glowing reports, but many of us dread them. Maybe it’s because you’ve had a prior bad experience and felt powerless, or that you weren’t a good enough parent. If you're dreading parent-teacher conferences, try Anna Stewart's new approach.  

Jerry Sandusky. Michael Jackson. Mary Kay Letourneau. All of these individuals were accused and/or convicted of committing unspeakable crimes against children. While certainly upsetting, these high profile cases are a good opportunity to spark a conversation with your kids about staying safe, as parents are the first and most powerful line of defense against predators.

What do you do when your morning routine just isn’t working? On today’s podcast, we’ll help you get back on track for the school year with 6 Ways to Fix Your Morning Routine, by Megan Devine.    

When you look at kids and people in general, it’s easy to see that we all have differences in our “wiring;” in how our brains work. As a parent, you see these differences between your children every day. On today’s podcast, child psychologist and author of The Total Focus program, Dr. Robert Myers, writes 6 Brain-Training Exercises For Children and Teens.  

Sometimes us parents don’t think we’re anxious because we’re not trembling in our boots. There’s often no visible signs of how anxious we are. Yet when we look inside our heads, we notice that we spend a lot of time thinking about our kids—sometimes scary thoughts about things that haven’t even happened. On today's podcast, learn 5 ways you can relieve parental anxiety.  

Why can’t your kid just follow one simple direction? It’s annoying, right? It’s not like you’re asking them to do something complicated. What you ask is really quite simple:  Fold your laundry. Walk the dog. Take the trash out. Clean your room. So why do you have to say the same thing fourteen times, with your voice and your blood pressure rising every time? On today's podcast: Ask Once and Your Kid Does It: 5 Ways to Make It Happen, by Megan Devine.  

Even as adults, managing our anger can be hard, and we’ve had years of practice. For our children, who are just learning about their emotions, keeping their anger in check can be especially difficult. As parents, we can help by teaching our children to recognize what sets them off so that they too can keep their anger in check. On today's podcast, learn 8 Steps to Anger Management for Kids.  

What can you do when your child just refuses to get up and go to school? You’ve yelled, nagged, pleaded and even tried bribing her, but she just digs her heels in and says, “Nope, not going, no matter what you do.” Maybe this has never happened to you—or maybe it happens every day. On this week's podcast, learn exactly what you can and can't control as a parent.

What causes bad child behavior? James Lehman says it happens because children don’t yet know how to solve problems effectively. To put it another way, they're trying to handle many of the situations that life throws at them by acting out. On today's podcast, 5 tips to help you cope with bad child behavior.

Does it seem like every time you tell your child “No,” it turns into a tug-of-war? Many parents find themselves in a negotiation with their children when they are met with any kind of resistance. On today's podcast, 5 tips to help you avoid over-negotiating with your child.

As parents, we know the importance of parenting from our principles, things like teaching our children to own up to their actions and face the fallout when they make poor choices. And you’ve tried. You’ve talked to your child over and over, you’ve explained your reasoning repeatedly. You’ve given them restrictions, taken things away and grounded them for a month. Yet nothing seems to be getting through. It could be time to look at the difference between punishing your child and using consequences.

While you likely have good intentions, doing too much for your child can have unforseen consequences. Find out if you "over-do" for your child and learn how to fix it on today's podcast.  

Many of us can recall summer days spent playing games outside with friends, riding bikes, playing hopscotch, or making forts in the woods. Now, though, it seems like most kids prefer to lead a wired existence, constantly connected to some electronic device.On today’s podcast: 4 steps you can take to manage your child’s screen time, by Sara Bean.    

We don’t always like our kids. It’s a truth we don’t often admit, even to ourselves. It’s important to accept the fact that you won’t always like your kids—and they won’t always like you. This is especially hard for parents of difficult, acting out kids to deal with. But the fact is, you’re on your way to less guilt and a better relationship with your child when you can acknowledge your feelings.  

Since Colorado voters passed a law earlier this year legalizing the sale and purchase of marijuana, many parents have wondered what this means for their children’s future. As a resident of Colorado, Dr. Joan Simeo Munson has been bombarded with questions from concerned parents wondering not only how to broach this topic with their kids, but how to frame their responses and keep kids healthy and safe.

Many parents are at a loss for what to do with their older children during the summer months – they may get the summer off, but you probably don’t. That leaves a whole chunk of time to fill each day. How do you know if your child is responsible enough to be left home alone? What if you know he isn’t, but he won’t stop begging to be in charge of his own schedule this summer?

Have you ever wondered what’s going on inside of your teenager’s head? What was she thinking when she made that choice? Why won’t he listen to what I’m telling him? It can seem as if an adolescent is completely wrapped up in a separate world, feet planted firmly in the air instead of on the ground. As parents, we often come away bewildered or frustrated when our teen’s perspective seems so utterly different from our own.

Is your child forgetful, irresponsible, moody and prone to daydreaming? Does he seem to lack motivation and become easily bored? This behavior could be related to SCT, or "Sluggish Cognitive Tempo Disorder." This new way of looking at certain ADHD-like symptoms in kids has been generating quite a bit of controversial buzz in the media lately. Listen for 4 ways to help your child focus.

We all know that kids can act in many disrespectful and rude ways to parents: they can slam doors, roll their eyes, and tell you they hate you, to name a few. It’s natural to get very worried and frustrated and wonder if these types of behaviors constitute out-and-out abuse, or just “rudeness and mild disrespect.” How can a parent know when these rebellious and rude behaviors have crossed over a boundary and gone way too far?

When Anna Stewart's son received his GED this year, she put together a small scrapbook for him with photos, quotes, and cards from his friends. She also considered the life skills he’s already mastered and thought about the ones he’s still working on. The big "aha moment?" Realizing that everything else in life builds upon the ability for kids to be able to do these five things.

You know the drill: you’re trying to talk to your teen about curfew. Or dinner. Or absolutely anything—and they pretend they can’t hear you. They start an argument with you, or give you an eye roll and a "Whatever." Licensed clinical therapist and regular Empowering Parents contributor Megan Devine writes 3 ways to get your teen to listen, on this week's podcast.

What is at the heart of most helicopter parenting? Anxiety—about our kids’ safety, happiness, and ability to navigate in the world. Many of us spend a large percentage of our time second guessing every move we make as parents. Our minds cause us to project our worst fears onto them – we love them so much and we want to protect them from any harm. Learn how you can stop worrying and avoid helicopter parenting with these 6 tips from Debbie Pincus, author of The Calm Parent: AM & PM

The truth is, from the very beginning being a mother is a balance of taking care of your kids while letting them grow up and learn from their mistakes. Your role of simply loving and protecting your baby from pain and discomfort changes to one of accepting that your child or teen will need to experience natural consequences for his or her actions. The hard part (for them and for us!) is that these consequences almost always include some discomfort, disappointment or pain.

When we think of peer pressure, we typically have a picture in our minds of a kid handing another kid a cigarette, a joint, or a beer and saying something like, “Come on, just try it.” But at times, peer pressure can be felt without a single word being spoken.This week we're talking about five of the top peer pressure situations, with ways you can help your child or teen handle them.  

Do you ever struggle with temper tantrums at your house? You know what they involve: yelling, screaming, bad language and all-out loss of control until you almost can’t take it anymore. Maybe you just want to…put yourself in time out? Yes, we're talking about our own parental "temper tantrums," which we’ve all been known to experience at one point or another as we raise our kids. Listen now for Dr. Joan's tips on how to stay in control.

“I love my son, but things are getting really rough. I never expected him to still be living at home in his twenties. I don’t mind helping him while he gets on his feet, but most of the time he acts like he’s still thirteen – and he’s twenty three! This is not what I pictured!” If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. Listen now to learn how you can promote healthy boundaries in your home.

At Empowering Parents, we talk a lot about “effective” versus “ineffective” parenting styles. In fact, James Lehman reminds us that it’s not about whether your parenting style is right or wrong, it’s about whether it’s effective. Listen now for 5 ineffective things to avoid doing when parenting teens, and what you can do differently.

When your kids are driving you crazy, it’s natural for the negatives to loom larger in your mind than the positives. Soon we start to see certain traits as something we need to “fix.” While it’s important to address misbehavior, the actual characteristic that aggravates you in your child may not necessarily be a bad thing. “Changing the lenses in your glasses” can help you see your kids’ behaviors in a different light so you can parent more effectively.

Do you ever find yourself wondering, “When will this child stop defying me and just start doing what I ask?” Dealing with a young child or toddler can be incredibly frustrating, not to mention exhausting and annoying. The good news is there is help in dealing with defiance in young kids—and the solutions are easier than you may think.

On this week's episode we're talking about a difficult subject that is sadly becoming more prevalent: when kids and teens' behavior crosses the line and becomes abusive. Learn the warning signs and responses to parental abuse with tips from Kim Abraham and Marney Studaker-Cordner, co-creators of The ODD Lifeline Program and Life Over The Influence.

Is your child or teen fighting with you every step of the way, from refusing to get up on time in the morning, to complaining about homework at night? Janet Lehman, renowned child therapist and co-creator of The Total Transformation Program, shares her insight with 5 tips to help your child or teen get more motivated.

All kids push the limits, but the stress this causes parents can range anywhere from overwhelming to nearly unbearable. These parenting tips will help you learn exactly what to say and do in these difficult situations.