EQ READY hosted by Mark Tovar, Executive Coach

It does not happen often, but a few weeks ago, I had one of those moments where I thought.

"What the hell Am I doing all of this for anyway?

What happens if it all goes wrong?

What was I thinking?

I was quickly saved from this downward spiral as I reached out to a friend to help me gain perspective.

WE CAN ONLY BE AS EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT AS THOSE WE SURROUND OURSELVES WITH

This week was reminder of how great it is to just talk with other business owners and entrepreneurs outside of what you are doing. We are practicing emotional Intelligence when we not only relate but share with others like us what we have in common and how we struggle. THEN GUESS WHAT? THey share back, and we are reminded that we are humans who struggle together

I frequent these businesses and use them for myself so I know they will be good to you

SPECIAL recognition this week to my friends at: 

It seems like I am always in a race for time. As I read The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks, I was surprised by how much I resist the idea of me owning time and using it versus not having enough.

I know that the things I resist are often what I am weak in. So let us test it and ask that you do it as well.

In February, I attended an entrepreneurial retreat focused on the mindset and implementation of significant changes to their ways of doing business. Some of us even changed professional directions to accomplish to gain personal fulfillment.

This group of hand-selected, highly motivated humans shared  what brought them to this point in their businesses and their lives  Here are some  distinctions that I think are valuable.  All participants: 

- Have high emotional Intelligence   

-Are experts in the field of the human psychology  and have spent two decades treating individuals.

- Had a recent misfortune in their life that caused them to reevaluate their life and work 

-. Are moving into the business or entrepreneurial space  

- Viewed as suspect from others in their profession for trying to incorporate business and entrepreneurial skills into the helping profession.

- Expressed gratefulness for being with a group of like-minded individuals at this retreat. 

- Voiced great importance on being able to visualize, manifest and remain optimistic of results 

-Embraced an abundance (Not scarcity) mindset and believed in sharing openly all they know

Books suggested That are crucial to unblocking old negative programming of the mind

-The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks

- The Last Law of Attraction Book You'll Ever Need To Read: The Missing Key To Finally Tapping Into The Universe And Manifesting Your Desires by Andrew Kap

What followed all this learning, you ask? 

 a 30-day challenge to improve my thoughts and perceptions. 

I recorded personal affirmations (Small sample)  dealing with areas we all struggle with. I Included  at the end of the podcast) 

 I would encourage you to build your own affirmations to fit your unique wants and challenges personally 

Join me and lets elevate our minds together

IF there are any mental health professionals who might be interested in attending this retreat as I did. Reach out so I can get you the information. 

Since childhood, I have been able to connect with people quickly I rarely feel out of my element and fit into most social situations. What I didn't realize then was that I was using the skills of Emotional Intelligence to connect, build, and sustain relationships. 

Today's episode is about recognizing the difference between Person vs. People. I explain how this can be used to focus your relationships through Emotional Intelligence.

This month has brought much tragedy with the death of our family member. 

Still, there is a reason for appreciation and gratitude for others

Emotional Intelligence can still serve us at our breaking point. We can be aware of our emotional situational awareness and remain kind and present. In doing so you provid stability and do not add additional stress to a situation. 

We dedicate this episode to

1. Our family member- Our love for you is eternal 

2. The staff of Methodist Hospital:  Floyd Curl Drive, San Antonio TX 

ER staff 

7th- CENTRAL  

9th floor- SOUTH 

ICU STAFF -CENTRAL 

P.A. Doctors, Nurses, Support Staff 

You are the best at what you do, and we are grateful.   

Emotional Intelligence is about RELATIONSHIPS

An interpersonal relationship is one of the five pillars of the Emotional Intelligence model (Bar-on 1997). Without the ability to seek out and start and maintain personal relationships, there is no EQ. REMEMBER when you were in school and sat at a particular table? Did you ever wish to be invited into groups or tables? We are not far removed from this need to be included even in our adulthood.

Inclusivity is the key!

Empathy is one of the most talked about subjects within Emotional Intelligence. 

How do we get to Empathy? One does not just arrive at Empathy. There are levels of deeper communication. Even if this is a short encounter, the relationship can still be meaningful. 

The secret here is active listening.

Here is an example of levels of communication. The further you move down, the greater the use of your Emotional Intelligence and likelihood of creating positive relationships.  

Hearing  You hear sounds. 

Listening Something you hear has your attention, and you begin to tune in and pay attention.

Understanding cognitively, you are putting it all together 

Empathy Making a genuine connection with someone on a level that you both feel 

Compassion The connection is so genuine it moves you to action. 

We need to stop bad mouthing Millennials. This does nothing but perpetuate a  cycle pf stereotypical negativity. 

Millennials will soon be the majority,  leaving our opinions as the older generation X and Boomers, of little use. 

Perhaps ushering them into a better work environment than we came into would be a better use of our energy? 

Emotional Intelligence would have us encouraging, building relationships, and helping connect then to the next phase of their journey. 

"The ego likes to put us ahead of the previous generation although our success is more a function of time alive, than talent." _Mark Tovar

Quote used in Show 

The world will not by changed by you example, not your opinion Paulo Coelho

The Coaching org I referenced in this podcast

What is psychological safety? 

How do I show this to others? 

How do I make myself more Psychological Safety to others 

Quoted 

Let me guess, You are the hardest-working person you know?

I explain what Emotional Intelligence is in a practical sense.

What it looks like regarding leadership.

Being true to Emotional Intelligence principals, I share some vulnerability in my journey with this topic. 

"Before people will truly listen, they must know that you experience what they have. 

The more you relate, the greater the chance they believe that you are real - Mark Tovar  EQ Executive Coach 

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