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Essential Stepmom Podcast

By Essential Stepmom

Your trusted source for unconventional advice and inspiration about the Womanly Art of Raising Someone Else's Kids.
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111. Step-couple triggers with Dr. Jessica Higgins

Essential Stepmom PodcastFeb 16, 2023

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111. Step-couple triggers with Dr. Jessica Higgins

111. Step-couple triggers with Dr. Jessica Higgins

Dr. Jessica Higgins is the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast, check it out here: https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/

Dr. Jessica has a free resource available called "Shifting Criticism for Connected Communication" which you can access right here: https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication

Tracy Poizner also offers dad-specific advice for parenting through and around parental alienation and other problems of post-divorce family life via the UnDeletable Dad podcast: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/undeletable-dad/id1592210062

You can find a range of courses and programs at https://undeletabledad.com

Reach out to Tracy with comments or questions any time at info@essentialstepmom.com

Feb 16, 202342:23
110. The Magical Apology
Mar 29, 202217:53
109. Nail your timing.

109. Nail your timing.

OK, this is a bit of a weird episode - it's actually the audio from a livestream video I did in my Spectacular Stepmom Facebook group. I'm talking about how to get better at knowing exactly when to say your peace and when to hold back - when to act and when to wait. This is all about the shadow and power archetypes, and about the real difference between logic and magic.

I offer a unique style of coaching for couples where you work with me individually on alternating weeks. Email me for more information at info@essentialstepmom.com 

Mar 23, 202241:38
108. This is the end of Parental Alienation.

108. This is the end of Parental Alienation.

Legacy Mastermind is exclusively for the divorced dad who feels helpless against the ongoing high-conflict that's drawing his children away from him. In this program he will be coded to strike the tone of fatherhood and develop the magnetic quality that will draw his kids back into his orbit and keep them there forever. It starts this week, Feb. 17th. There's still time to join - apply by email to info@essentialstepmom.com.

Feb 15, 202216:59
107 You're not crazy - magic is real.
Dec 23, 202109:51
106 It smells like home!

106 It smells like home!

Just two more days left to register! Restorative Parenting for Divorced Dads begins Wednesday November 2. 

By Christmas, you could become that dad who knows the trick to following through on what he says without using heavy-handed parenting tactics, how to get rules made that your kids will actually follow (it's true!) and to make sure that your kids really feel safe, loved and seen with you, no matter what they hear from their mom!

Go to bit.ly/dadcodes to register. Upgrade to the VIP package for unlimited 1:1 support from me over Voxer - I'll personally walk you through all the implementation so you don't fall through the cracks!

Nov 02, 202113:37
105 The Alienated Stepmom

105 The Alienated Stepmom

Want to learn how to get through to kids who are being brainwashed about you? Sign up for my FREE 3-part workshop October 27-29, 2021 called Reversing Parental Alienation.

Go to bit.ly/alienationstrategy to register and don't forget to join the private Facebook group just for this event!


You can always reach me at info@essentialstepmom.com. Limited 1:1 coaching spots are still available.

Oct 26, 202112:22
104. SURPRISE!
Oct 19, 202110:52
ESP 103 Nacho Role-play with Lori Sims (part 3)
Sep 13, 202123:49
ESP 102: Nacho Role-play with Lori Sims (Part 2)

ESP 102: Nacho Role-play with Lori Sims (Part 2)

"I thought David was a pretty good parent - until we got married!"

Here's a link to the episode with Lori's husband David: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/episodes/ESP-6-3-David-Sims---Pulling-it-out-of-the-fire-elkg5g

I do a livestream video every Monday in my Facebook group The Spectacular Stepmom. Tomorrow's session  (Monday Sept 13) at 1pm EDT is called Bouncing Back From Stepmom Burnout - Before It's Too Late. Join the group by sending a join request to facebook.com/groups/thespectacularstepmom or email me at info@essentialstepmom.com to ask for a link to the replay.

Sign up for the Ultimate Stepfamily Summit at bit.ly/tracysummit. It's FREE!

Sep 12, 202121:42
ESP 101: "Nacho" role-play with Lori Sims (part one)

ESP 101: "Nacho" role-play with Lori Sims (part one)

It's a Nacho Role-play with Lori Sims, the original Nacho Mama! You can learn more at nachokids.com.

Sign up for the Ultimate Stepfamily Summit (Sept 15-17) at bit.ly/tracysummit

Would you be so kind as to pop over to Apple podcasts and leave a quick review? If you screenshot it and send it to me at info@essentialstepmom.com, you can win a 60 minute coaching with me!

Sep 11, 202116:36
ESP 11.3 EPISODE 100! Part 3 of my chat with Seth Nelson about what really matters.
Sep 10, 202117:40
ESP 11.2 Attorney Seth Nelson: Should you settle for 60/40?
Sep 09, 202118:13
ESP 11.1 Divorce Attorney Seth Nelson

ESP 11.1 Divorce Attorney Seth Nelson

"Live your life, not your divorce!"

Seth's podcast is called "How To Split A Toaster: A divorce podcast about saving your relationships". Here's a link to the show on Apple podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-split-a-toaster-a-divorce-podcast-about/id1527497405

You can contact Seth's office in Tampa, Florida via his website, https://nelsonkoster.com

Sign up for The Ultimate Stepmfamily Summit with my link to get my special registration bonus, access to over 50 of my stepmom video tutorials!

Click here: https://bit.ly/tracysummit

My gift is crafting ingenious parenting/custody/life strategies for the divorced dad. Contact me at info@essentialstepmom.com for more information about my comprehensive 6-month 1:1 Undeletable Dad coaching offer.

Sep 08, 202115:45
ESP 10.6 Anna De Acosta in conversation

ESP 10.6 Anna De Acosta in conversation

Visit Anna's website at https://annadeacosta.com.

The Ultimate Stepfamily Summit is happening from September 15-17. It's FREE! Sign up now at bit.ly/tracysummit to get my special bonus offer of lifetime access to my library of over 50 Livestream stepmom tutorial videos! You'll never be at a loss for something to listen to again!

Sep 01, 202144:17
ESP 10.5 The Loyalty Bind, and what to do about it.
Aug 24, 202129:45
ESP 10.4 What your therapist doesn't 'get' about your family.
Aug 04, 202116:37
ESP 10.3 Boundaries: The Bricks and Mortar Edition.
Jul 20, 202116:16
ESP 10.2 Why don't you have better boundaries?

ESP 10.2 Why don't you have better boundaries?

Everything comes down to boundaries. I'll break this apart and show you why yours aren't doing the job. 

Do you know a divorced dad who wants to protect his relationship with his kids and maximize his ability to raise them the way he wants? Maybe he'd also like to keep his finances from getting shredded over the long haul of a high conflict "co-parenting" environment?  Invite him to book a time on my calendar at bit.ly/CALLTRACY and we can talk about my 6-month comprehensive 1:1 coaching offer for Undeletable Dads!

Jul 14, 202117:42
ESP 10.1 Raising a step child on the Autism Spectrum with Dr. Sonia Cann-Milland

ESP 10.1 Raising a step child on the Autism Spectrum with Dr. Sonia Cann-Milland

You can contact Dr. Sonia via her webiste, http://renewedbeliefs.com

Her research paper about autism and stepfamilies can be accessed via Google Scholar or with this link:
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0192513X20959109p

You can reach me on my private email at info@essentialstepmom.com.

If your husband/boyfriend/partner is looking for help to get his high-conflict custody or parenting situation under control, he might be interested in my premium 6-month coaching offer that includes 1:1 sessions, unlimited Voxer support and my signature tool for establishing himself as an engaged and competent parent before the courts. Set up a no-obligation call to learn more and see if we'd be a good fit to tackle this project together!  http://bit.ly/CALLTRACY

Jun 29, 202137:35
ESP 9.9 Peter Maestrey exposes the unspoken rule
Jun 22, 202140:41
ESP 9.8 Peter Maestrey on Divorce - The First Six Months

ESP 9.8 Peter Maestrey on Divorce - The First Six Months

Peter Maestrey is an award-winning filmmaker and producer. He's also the host of a podcast called Divorce - The First Six Months. You can find him at divorcethefirstsix.com

The Visible Man Discord is open to men and women who want to have spontaneous, respectful, private conversations about how to recover and move on from the really big shit. There's also a pretty good poker game and some fantasy football, I'm told! Go to bit.ly/visiblemandiscord

You can reach me any time on my personal and private email info@essentialstepmom.com, or at tracy@undeletabledad.com.

I offer individual coaching for stepmoms, and a 6-month in-depth program for dads covering parenting strategy as well as custody planning and protection of financial resources. Learn more at undeletabledad.com

Jun 15, 202129:59
ESP 9.7 Reconciled - the book tour!
Jun 01, 202125:26
ESP 9.6 Greg Menendez on how the mind works

ESP 9.6 Greg Menendez on how the mind works

Greg Menendez teaches people how the mind works - and then, they never look back! Greg can be found at likeneverbefore.co.nz

I have a Facebook community for stepmoms where I'd be glad to see you - join The Spectacular Stepmom by sending a join request to facebook.com/groups/thespectacularstepmom

If you're a dad, you can connect with me in 3 ways:
1. My private Facebook group is called One For The Dads - send a join request to facebook.com/groups/oneforthedads

2. I'm on the private and anonymous Discord server at VisibleMan - use this link to join: https://discord.gg/vf9NTJ9TPz

3. I send weekly messages to my email community and I'd be glad to include you. Message me at tracy@undeletabledad.com

May 18, 202141:23
ESP 9.5 Jeff Hoffman and Jack Rollins: Visible Man, the Discord Server

ESP 9.5 Jeff Hoffman and Jack Rollins: Visible Man, the Discord Server

"People sign up - we don't know who they are unless they tell us."

Jeff Hoffman and Jack Rollins invite you to join their anonymous "Visible Man" Discord server with this link:
https://discord.gg/vf9NTJ9TPz

Men and women are welcome! Men will be subsequently enrolled in a private men-only room by voice verification.

If you'd like to experience coaching first-hand, schedule a free session with me any time by popping into my calendar and grabbing the open spot that suits your schedule:
bit.ly/CALLTRACY

I'll set aside some time for you to help you untangle your big hairball of a situation. If you'd like to continue to work together after that, we can discuss how I can best serve your unique circumstances.

May 11, 202143:09
ESP 9.4 "High Conflict" by Amanda Ripley

ESP 9.4 "High Conflict" by Amanda Ripley

You can buy High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out from Barnes and Noble with this link:
https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/high-conflict-amanda-ripley/1137938562

Learn more about your listening style from oscartrimboli.com

Work with me 1:1 to create your perfect parenting strategy and I'll help you implement it in real time, in your home. Reach out for a phone call to learn more:
bit.ly/CALLTRACY

May 04, 202125:23
ESP 9.3 The Archives of Essential Stepmom Podcast

ESP 9.3 The Archives of Essential Stepmom Podcast

Sorry for my podcast fail this week, but join me reading Amanda Ripley's High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Here's a link to order from Barnes and Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/high-conflict-amanda-ripley/1137938562

If you're ready to address your deepest stepmom anxieties, or get to work on overcoming that post-divorce "parenting paralysis" that seems to strike even the most professionally successful dad, give me a shout about working together 1:1. You can book a free call with me at bit.ly/CALLTRACY

Here are the episodes I suggested from our archives:

9.1 Expectations vs Agreements

8.1 The Teenage stepdaughter with Mary Kelly

7.5, 7.6 Up-leveling as a dad with Rich Bolus of The Dad Mindset podcast

6.5, 6.6 Trystan Reese author of How We Do Family

5.5  Kate Anthony - first wife forever syndrome

4.4 Me: How do you bond with a kid who wants nothing to do with you

3.10 Me: Evil Stepmom archetype

3.6 Me: Unbrainwashing your alienated child

2.9 Me: Disengaging for Beginners

1.1 Me: Overstepping

Apr 28, 202106:00
ESP 9.2 Q: "How do I merge the best parts of myself with my stepmom role?"
Apr 20, 202131:34
ESP 9.1 Change your expectations - into agreements!

ESP 9.1 Change your expectations - into agreements!

This episode is chock full of quotes from author Steve Chandler's audio lecture Expectations vs. Agreements. You can hear it for yourself here:
https://beingdaring.com/2017/06/expectations-vs-agreements/

You can learn more about Steve and check out his books at https://stevechandler.com

If you'd like to chat with me about improving your communication with your spouse, your partner, your kids or your ex, you can book a call with me by clicking here: bit.ly/CALLTRACY or by sending me an email at tracy@tracypoizner.com

Apr 14, 202118:17
ESP 8.7 When the ex won't play by the rules - with Jen Szeghi

ESP 8.7 When the ex won't play by the rules - with Jen Szeghi

Jen Szeghi is a trained psychologist, mediator and parent coordinator, and brings all that expertise to her parent coaching practice. You can connect with Jen at her website successfulparentingLLC.com

Watch for her YouTube channel coming up, The Alienator's Chess Game!

You can find me, temporarily, at tracy@tracypoizner.com, at least until my Essential Stepmom website is all hooked up again.

Ready to jump on a call? I'm all ears. Sign up for a free call to experience what coaching feels like for yourself , no strings attached. If you like how I work, and I really think I can help you, we can talk next steps!

bit.ly/CALLTRACY

Apr 06, 202144:25
ESP 8.6 Judith Yeabsley on kids who say NO!

ESP 8.6 Judith Yeabsley on kids who say NO!

Find more of Judith Yeabsley at theconfidenteater.com and on Facebook at The Confident Eater

You can reach me at tracy@tracypoizner.com or on Facebook at Essentialstepmom/UndeletableDad

I'd love to help you chisel up your big problem into little wee pieces and give you just the right tools to crush them into dust! Set up a free call and let me show you what that could feel like: bit.ly/CALLTRACY

Mar 30, 202138:28
ESP 8.5 Jonnie Jensen: dad, stepdad, superdad
Mar 23, 202150:37
ESP 8.4 How to find the sweet spot of stepparenting!

ESP 8.4 How to find the sweet spot of stepparenting!

The show I watched and adored is called Undone. You can find it on Amazon Prime.

I'd love to hear from you! Email me at info@essentialstepmom.com

I'll be live on my public Facebook page, @essentialstepmom from March 22-26 with 5 days of tips for staying in contact with kids who you can't access. I'd love to see you there!

If you'd love one to one help but can't imagine carving out an hour of privacy in your hectic schedule, I'm now offering a Day of Voxer alternative! Let's hang out together for a whole day and chat over this private voice message service. No pressure, pop on and off as you have the time and attention. If that sounds interesting, email me to learn more!

Mar 16, 202117:07
ESP 8.3 Carly Israel says "Thanks, but no thanks!"

ESP 8.3 Carly Israel says "Thanks, but no thanks!"

You can find Carly at carlyisrael.com and her podcast is called In Your Corner Divorce.

Her book, Seconds and Inches is available at Barnes and Noble, Amazon and Bookshop.org.

Find more information about the Nacho Kids Academy at nachokidsacademy.com/theessentialstepmom. That's the link that will let them know I sent you, so they can sponsor my work here at The Essential Stepmom too!

You can always reach out to me with your questions or comments at info@essentialstepmom.com. I'd be very glad to hear from your partner, too.

My Undeletable Dad program might be just the thing to get him back up onto that pedestal of fatherhood where he belongs!

Book a phone call, no strings attached, and let's see if we're a good fit! bit.ly/CALLTRACY

Mar 09, 202158:46
ESP 8.2 Nurture Burnout with Anne Cullen
Mar 02, 202143:45
ESP 8.1 The teenage stepdaughter with Mary T. Kelly

ESP 8.1 The teenage stepdaughter with Mary T. Kelly

Mary Kelly is probably the most experienced therapist in America for stepfamilies and their kids with over 18 years of experience dealing with this family dynamic. She's a regular contributor to Stepmom Magazine, HuffPost and other publications.

Find her at realstepfamilies.com

Her Facebook page is Real Stepfamilies, Real Solutions and she's on instagram @realstepmoms.

Email me at info@essentialstepmom.com and say "Add me to your email list!" for my weekly messages.

Book a free call, no strings attached to ask about coaching or to learn about Undeletable Dad: bit.ly/CALLTRACY

Feb 23, 202152:51
ESP 7.8 How to Raise a Boy - with author Michael C. Reichert

ESP 7.8 How to Raise a Boy - with author Michael C. Reichert

There's a lot of talk about helping girls to take their power and shed limiting stereotypes, but our boys suffer from limits too. How can we stop our unconscious role-typing of boys and girls? Don't we want boys to become compassionate, sensitive, heart-centered husbands and dads?

Michael C Reichert can be found at MichaelCReichert.com and his book How To Raise A Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men is available from Amazon and Barnes and Noble

Join my mailing list by sending me an email message at info@essentialstepmom.com. I'd love to connect with you!

Book a free call to learn about my 1:1 coaching program for dads who want to help their kids over parental alienation and get on with being a regular father again. bit.ly/CALLTRACY

If you're a social media kind of person, join my closed Facebook group, The Spectacular Stepmom and meet some really nice women you can relate to!

Feb 16, 202150:04
ESP 7.7 The Addicted Child - with author Richard Capriola

ESP 7.7 The Addicted Child - with author Richard Capriola

Richard Capriola has been a mental health and addictions counselor for over two decades. He's been licensed in Illinois and Texas and recently retired from Menninger Clinic in Houston where he worked as an addictions counselor for adolescents and adults diagnosed with psychiatric and substance abuse disorders. He is the author of the book "The Addicted Child: A Parent's Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse".

You can find all the information you need at his website: helptheaddictedchild.com

Send your questions on the topic of kids and substance abuse and Richard will address them on a future episode! You can send them to me at info@essentialstepmom.com and I'll forward them to him.

Reach out for help with your parent-child relationships and build the kind of connection that will help immunize your child against falling into the substance trap. Let's talk about retrieving your damaged family dynamic and putting you back up on the dad pedestal where you belong! Book a free, private, no-obligation phone call by visiting bit.ly/CALLTRACY

If you're a stepmom, I'm always glad to chat with you, too! Hit the same link and let's get acquainted!

Feb 09, 202140:37
ESP 7.6 Rich Bolus part 2 "Am I robbing them of these experiences?"

ESP 7.6 Rich Bolus part 2 "Am I robbing them of these experiences?"

Send your partner over to listen to some episodes of The Dad Mindset Podcast with Rich Bolus at TheDadMindset.com 

Book a call and let's talk about whether coaching is the right kind of support for you - bit.ly/CALLTRACY


I have a free parenting guide for dads who need to make a stronger connection with their kids in a post-divorce family. Grab my RESTORATIVE PARENTING QUICKSTART GUIDE here: bit.ly/dadagain I love hearing from listeners - shoot your questions and suggestions over to info@essentialstepmom.com

Feb 02, 202131:21
ESP 7.5 The Dad Mindset with Rich Bolus (part 1)

ESP 7.5 The Dad Mindset with Rich Bolus (part 1)

Rich Bolus hosts The Dad Mindset podcast which you can find at http://thedadmindset.com

You can download my free Restorative Parenting Quickstart Guide at bit.ly/dadagain

I have two email addresses - both are super-private! Try either info@essentialstepmom.com or tracy@tracypoizner.com

Did you know I have a Facebook group for divorced dads? It's called One For The Dads - send a join request: facebook.com/groups/oneforthedads


Jan 26, 202154:38
ESP 7.4 Best-of-Essential-Stepmom, Red Flags with Lori Sims

ESP 7.4 Best-of-Essential-Stepmom, Red Flags with Lori Sims

Lori Sims is the creator of the ingenious Nacho Kids method and the Nacho Kids Academy which is saving blended families and second marriages every single day.

Check out the Nacho Kids Academy with this link and she'll send some support right back to this podcast!
NachoKidsAcademy.com/theessentialstepmom

Shoot me an email at info@essentialstepmom.com

Ready to just book yourself in as a coaching client? Here's my calendar:
Book Your Coaching Appointment Here!

Is your husband/partner ready to conquer alienation through parenting mastery, mental resilience and a kick-ass system to track his brand-new parenting wins? Here's my coaching program for divorced dads:  UNDELETABLE DAD

Jan 19, 202148:25
ESP 7.3 For the weary dad who feels like giving up.

ESP 7.3 For the weary dad who feels like giving up.

Alienated kids can be awful to their divorced parent. Does your partner ever just feeling like giving up? It's pretty normal to run out of steam and it's OK to take a break but don't give in to despair. Miracles happen all the time - you can even make them happen yourself! Grab my free "Restorative Parenting Quick start Guide" by going to bit.ly/dadagain .
Join the awesome Spectacular Stepmom group at facebook.com/groups/thespectacularstepmom
Tell your partner to send a join request to One For The Dads at facebook.com/groups/oneforthedads
Let's be pen pals! Here's an invitation to my email community where you'll get a funny or useful or heartfelt message from me once a week and you can write back to me any time you like! Send a message to info@essentialstepmom.com and say "Email list please!"
Jan 14, 202133:32
ESP 7.2 A bit of "woo" - from me to you.
Dec 22, 202013:55
ESP 7.1 Not Just A Stepmom with Heidi Farrell

ESP 7.1 Not Just A Stepmom with Heidi Farrell

Heidi's blog can be found at notjustastepmom.com

Grab my free Restorative Parenting QuickStart Guide at bit.ly/dadagain

Would you (or your partner) share your experiences of parental alienation with me? Email me at info@essentialstepmom.com to set something up, or just go ahead and jump onto my calendar to book any time you see that works for you:
https://tracypoizner.bookafy.com/service/invitation-to-chat

Dec 15, 202045:58
ESP 6.8 F_Divorce: Jack Rollins

ESP 6.8 F_Divorce: Jack Rollins

Jack is not a dad but he's divorced and he has some valuable insights into one husband's emotional experience after a failed marriage. You can find him on instagram at @f_divorce, on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/fdivorce and on the F_Divorce Podcast

Join my Facebook group "One For The Dads" by sending a join request to facebook.com/groups/oneforthedads. You'll find a bunch of fellas there who will be glad to know you!

Grab my FREE Restorative Parenting Quickstart Guide here: bit.ly/dadagain

Ready to stop horsing around and stop feeling the effects of parental alienation in your family? Give me a call and let's talk about how I can guide you to resolve that problem "unconventionally", the way we did it and other families are doing it with similar success. There's no obligation to sign up but you won't know if you're right for my program unless you ask! Click the link and book a call.


https://tracypoizner.bookafy.com/service/free-discovery-call


Dec 08, 202035:49
ESP 6.7 The completely amazing, totally absent bio mom.

ESP 6.7 The completely amazing, totally absent bio mom.

Are you sick and tired of hearing about your stepchild's fantastic mom, when you're the one showing up for the child in all the way's she's not?

Let's talk this through, and we'll talk about life coaching too - maybe you're finally ready to make a step towards letting go of the filters that are keeping you from having a better experience of stepmom life.

Send me an email at info@essentialstepmom.com and say "I'm not sure yet, but talk to me about what coaching involves".  We have to BOTH believe that I'm the right coach for you, so you won't ever be pressured. Anyway I hope you know that pressure isn't my style!

My blog is at essentialstepmom.com, my Facebook group is The Spectacular Stepmom and there's even one for the dads called One For The Dads!

Dec 01, 202021:53
ESP 6.6 Trystan Reese Part 2

ESP 6.6 Trystan Reese Part 2

Pre-order Trystan's book "How We Do Family" from Amazon, or support one of the last standing independent booksellers, Powells of Portland Oregon:
https://www.powells.com/book/how-we-do-family-9781615197569

Trystan is on Facebook and Instagram @biffandi

Interested in learning tools to share with your child or stepchild to help them be resilient in the face of emotional or psychological pressure from their other parent? Join my webinar this Thursday November 19 at 7:30 pm EST:

CHILD FRIENDLY TOOLS FOR COPING WITH A TOXIC PARENT - https://training.essentialstepmom.com/child-friendly-tools/

You'll be getting life-time access to the replay and transcript so no worries if you miss the live web event!

If you'd like to know more about UNDELETABLE DAD ACADEMY, my 6-month premium coaching program to prevent parental alienation from disrupting your ability to be an effective and authentic parent to your kids, email me at tracy@tracypoizner.com. I'll be glad to send you more information or to add you to the waitlist for next year's round of the program.

Nov 17, 202032:03
ESP 6.5 Trystan Reese shines a bright light on your secret fears (part 1 of 2)
Nov 10, 202026:54
ESP 6.4 Man the F_%@ Up! with Deuce Almightee
Nov 03, 202051:54
ESP 6.3 David Sims - Pulling it out of the fire

ESP 6.3 David Sims - Pulling it out of the fire

"My expectations set her up for failure". That's what David Sims has to say about his experience of blended family life before he and his wife Lori figured out how to step back from the edge of divorce and put their marriage and family back together. They founded the Nacho Kids method and now they're saving other people's marriages and families.

Check them out at www.nachokidsacademy.com/theessentialstepmom and if you decide to join, you get a 30-day money back guarantee and this podcast automatically gets your support!

Join my closed Facebook group for divorced dads, One For The Dads

If you're interested in putting your name on the waitlist for my 6-month group coaching program Undeletable Dad, send me an email at info@essentialstepmom.com or book a free call to learn more here:
tracypoizner.bookafy.com

Oct 27, 202048:47
ESP 6.2 The Divorced Dad Diaries with Stephane Jutras

ESP 6.2 The Divorced Dad Diaries with Stephane Jutras

You can find Stephane's podcast on every platform, and by visiting his website, 

thedivorceddaddiaries.com

You can find my blog and other resources at essentialstepmom.com

If it's time for you to get another level of support for your stepmom journey, reach out for a 1:1 coaching session or two.  Email me for more info at info@essentialstepmom.com or just go ahead and book your first appointment at tracypoizner.bookafy.com

Oct 20, 202033:24
ESP 6.1 Visible Man with Jeffrey Hoffman

ESP 6.1 Visible Man with Jeffrey Hoffman

Jeffrey Hoffman can be found at visibleman.org

I can be found at essentialstepmom.com

I'm gearing up for a free Facebook Live 5-day challenge where I'll walk you through how to create immunity from interference in your parenting, and how you can build it right into your parent-child relationships. Just shoot me a message at info@essentialstepmom.com and I'll keep you in the loop!

Oct 13, 202046:07
ESP 5.7 Are you panicking about college fees yet? Part 2 with Denise Thomas

ESP 5.7 Are you panicking about college fees yet? Part 2 with Denise Thomas

You heard it right - college scholarships are available even for kids in kindergarten! You don't have to go nuts with it, but it's truly never too early to start learning about what's involved in getting your kids a full ride. Learn to line up your ducks and you can save tens of thousands of dollars.

Denise Thomas can be found at http://bit.ly/aheadoftheclass - this is an affiliate link, so if you sign up for one of her awesome programs, Denise will send back some support to this podcast!

Want a scholarship for a free 60-minute coaching with me? Just write a review of this podcast on iTunes, take a screenshot of it and send it to info@essentialstepmom.com. Every application is a winner!

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Oct 06, 202032:11
ESP 5.6 Are you and your partner stressing (or fighting) over college fees yet? It's coming!

ESP 5.6 Are you and your partner stressing (or fighting) over college fees yet? It's coming!

My guest Denise Thomas dug herself and her family out of bankruptcy and researched her butt off to get $199,000 in college scholarships for her two home-schooled kids. She says it's not about marks, it's about smarts! She'll dish some secrets in this episode and the next one - it was too much goodness for just one show! Learn more about Denise and her programs at http://bit.ly/aheadoftheclass. (This is an affiliate link - if you sign up for any of Denise's great programs, she'll send a portion of your registration fee back here to support this podcast!)

Would you like a scholarship to Essential Stepmom University? Just kidding, I don't have a university, but I CAN offer you a free 60-minute coaching session where I could teach you a heck of a lot in just half an hour. Here's how to apply:
1. Find this podcast on iTunes

2. Write a review of 25 words of less.

3. Take a screenshot and share on the Essential Stepmom Facebook page (or send it to me by email at info@essentialstepmom.com). Every application is a winner!

Sep 29, 202044:01
ESP 5.5 Kate Anthony talks First-Wife-Forever Syndrome!

ESP 5.5 Kate Anthony talks First-Wife-Forever Syndrome!

Do you know anybody's first wife who seems to cling energetically to him years, even after she gets a new partner? Turns out this is not such a rare phenomenon.  Today's guest gets full marks for putting her experience as "that" bio-mom on the table, crumbs and all!

Kate  Anthony is a gem. She's the host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide  Podcast and the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, Should I Stay or Should I Go? which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives  using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and deep self-work.

Kate  empowers women to find their strength, passion, and confidence even in the most disempowering of circumstances and helps them move forward with concrete plans set on a solid foundation, putting their children at the center (not in the middle) of all their  decisions.

In  addition to her online programs, Kate works privately with clients all over the world.

Kate  lives in Los Angeles with her teenage son (whom she lovingly co-parents with her ex-husband), their two dogs, and a handful of fish.

Want to connect with Tracy? Shoot me a message on my personal and private email, info@essentialstepmom.com

You can find my blog at essentialstepmom.com and my highly engaged, very polite Facebook group is The Spectacular Stepmom.

Sep 22, 202034:17
ESP 5.4 The hidden cost of Parental Alienation
Sep 16, 202018:06
ESP 5.3 High Conflict: The Drama Behind Parental Alienation
Sep 08, 202019:31
ESP 5.2 It's the stepmoms who find the answers
Sep 01, 202017:29
ESP 5.1 Dorcy Pruter on healing the damage from Parental Alienation

ESP 5.1 Dorcy Pruter on healing the damage from Parental Alienation

Dorcy Pruter is the founder and CEO of the Conscious Coparenting Institute. She runs a 4 day intensive workshop called High Road to Reunification that boast a stunning 100% success rate! Learn more about her work at:
https://consciouscoparentinginstitute.com

Dorcy has prepared a free e-book called "Stepping In: The Step-parents' Guide For Parenting" which you can grab here:
https://www.consciouscoparentinginstitute.com/step-parents-guide/

The Stepfamily Summit 2020 is a FREE online event taking place September 16-18. Register with this link bit.ly/tracysummit and the Summit will support this podcast in turn! I hope you'll tune in to hear my interview: "Brainwashed or Gaslighted: How to Get Through To Your Alienated Child". Date and time to follow.

Aug 25, 202053:45
ESP 4.6 Bobbi Brooks Wilcox on Reconciling and More

ESP 4.6 Bobbi Brooks Wilcox on Reconciling and More

Blended Families United is Bobbi's website and organization. Her work centres around helping couples who are planning or just starting their stepfamily journey. Her book Reconciled is available from Amazon.

Yes, I offer personal coaching for stepmoms and focused support for families struggling with parental alienation, manipulation or brainwashing. Reach out for a chat any time and we can talk about what working together might bring to your family situation. 

Book a call at https://tracypoizner.bookafy.com/service/invitation-to-chat

Aug 18, 202021:31
ESP 4.5 Bobbi Brooks Wilcox wrote the book on getting it wrong and turning it around.

ESP 4.5 Bobbi Brooks Wilcox wrote the book on getting it wrong and turning it around.

You can find Bobbi’s website at blendedfamiliesunited.com and her book "Reconciled" is available from Amazon.
Try the Nacho Kids Academy at no risk for a month and support this podcast at the same time by using this link:
NachoKidsAcademy.com/theessentialstepmom
Grab my free download 3 Secrets of Successful Stepmoms from my website at essentialstepmom.com
Aug 11, 202033:57
ESP 4.4 How do you bond with a kid that wants nothing to do with you?
Jul 28, 202021:21
ESP 4.3 Go Blend Yourself: Busting More Stepfamily Myths

ESP 4.3 Go Blend Yourself: Busting More Stepfamily Myths

This is my new go-to comeback for anyone who wants to give me unsolicited advice about my stepfamily dynamics. They can try whatever they like on their own family!

Visit my website at essentialstepmom.com

Join my Facebook community by sending a join request to The Spectacular Stepmom

Jul 21, 202020:42
4.2 Busting Blended Family Myth #2

4.2 Busting Blended Family Myth #2

Myth #2 is that Blended Families are forever families. Truth is, they unblend just the same as other stepfamilies do. What can we do to make our families stand the test of time, despite messed up custody schedules, high conflict personalities, loyalty issues and more?

Listen up and we'll get started.

Visit me at essentialstepmom.com for my blog and other info.

Join the Facebook group by sending a join request to The Spectacular Stepmom

Jul 07, 202013:38
4.1 The Myth of the Blended Family

4.1 The Myth of the Blended Family

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that stepfamilies aren't required to blend. They have a much more noble mission in my opinion, which is to "mend". When you shift your focus, everything could change for your family.

The book I mentioned is Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach.

Visit my website at essentialstepmom.com. Contact me with your thoughts about this episode, or just to say hi at info@essentialstepmom.com

I hang out with a bunch of wise, supportive and compassionate stepmoms on Facebook in a private community called The Spectacular Stepmom. Send us a join request!

Jun 30, 202015:48
3.10 The Evil Stepmom Archetype: #notme
Jun 23, 202014:34
3.9 3 easy steps to conquering Guilty Parent Syndrome

3.9 3 easy steps to conquering Guilty Parent Syndrome

Is your partner struggling with guilty parent syndrome? Here’s help in 3 easy steps.

Grab my free cheat sheet: 100% Dad In Half The Time

Interested in hanging out on social with some other dads in the blended family dynamic? Send a join request to my Facebook community, One For The Dads . It really IS for the dads, no girlfriends or wives allowed.

Visit my website at essentialstepmom.com and reach out if you're interested in couples or individual coaching!

Jun 16, 202016:28
3.8 Why feeling bad might be the best thing that ever happened to you [and to your stepkids].
Jun 03, 202017:40
ESP 3.7 Jessica Kuiken has help for your transition-day troubles.

ESP 3.7 Jessica Kuiken has help for your transition-day troubles.

Jessica Kuiken is a nutritionist, NLP practitioner and a Diamond Leader with DoTerra, my personal favourite supplier of essential oils. You can find her at jessicakuiken.com and her Facebook group is called SpOIL the Soul.

I'm looking for input to help me prepare my live webinar about Unbrainwashing the Alienated Child. Please reach out to me if you have such a child in your family, or if this ever happened to you as a child. I'm getting a great deal from hearing about your experiences and it will help me a lot to prepare the most helpful webinar on this topic! Send an email to info@essentialstepmom.com OR

Just hit this link and make a time to talk on the phone! CHAT WITH TRACY



May 26, 202032:38
ESP 3.6: Un-Brainwashing Your Alienated Child
May 19, 202022:36
ESP 3.5: Your Mother's Day Readiness Checklist
May 05, 202022:23
ESP 3.4: True Confessions: I've lost it on someone else's kids - more than once.
Apr 29, 202016:31
ESP 3.3 Five Fast Ways To Shake Off Negative Emotions
Apr 15, 202021:25
ESP 3.2 Join me for a little "self-care"!

ESP 3.2 Join me for a little "self-care"!

Come with me for a little walk. We'll talk about getting what you need during these extra difficult days.

Visit my website at www.essentialstepmom.com

If you'd like to hear my webinar where I shared suggestions from homeopaths around the world for treating symptoms of this virus, just send me an email at info@essentialstepmom.com

I"m always up for a chat if you just need to hear a friendly voice. Book a free call at tracypoizner.bookafy.com

Apr 07, 202017:32
ESP 3.1 Mothers In A Dangerous Time
Apr 01, 202022:45
ESP 2.21: Five Kinds of Stepmom Who DON'T Need to "NACHO"!
Mar 24, 202044:08
ESP 2.20 More with Tamasin Thomas on stopping those Matrimonial Money Fights!

ESP 2.20 More with Tamasin Thomas on stopping those Matrimonial Money Fights!

Part 2 of a 3-part series with Tamasin Thomas, therapist and financial expert. 

Grab her free e-book, 3 Steps to Resolving Financial Conflict from her website at tamasinthomas.com

My book of Boredom Busters is also available at no cost during this challenging time - find it at essentialstepmom.com

With all the "social distancing", I'm extra glad to hear from you. Reach out for a messenger chat or a free phone call with this link:
tracypoizner.bookafy.com

Mar 17, 202041:21
The cure for picky eating [and BONUS: The cure for ANGST over picky eating!].

The cure for picky eating [and BONUS: The cure for ANGST over picky eating!].

CLICK BELOW to join my 4 day livestream video challenge from Monday March 9 to Thursday March 12, 2020. You can watch live, on replay or listen in audio only mode and download the tips and recipes too!

bit.ly/stepmomtricks

The book I mentioned is The Collapse of Parenting by Leonard Sax.

Please come on over and join us on social media, if that's your jam. We're at The Spectacular Stepmom on Facebook.

Ready for some one on one advice you so you can feel lighter and more optimistic about stepfamily life? Want to learn how to support your husband through the challenge of parental alienation? Set up a free call and we can talk about what this kind of support might look like for you!

BOOK A FREE 20-MINUTE STRATEGY SESSION

Mar 03, 202024:34
Confessions of a people-pleasing stepmom [and the 3 stages of a recovery-in-progress]
Feb 25, 202019:20
ESP 2.17 Stop the "Stepmom Spiral": 3 ways to conquer the habit pattern of negative thinking.

ESP 2.17 Stop the "Stepmom Spiral": 3 ways to conquer the habit pattern of negative thinking.

Want my free gratitude journal template? Grab it here:
bit.ly/123gratitude


I love to hear from you - really, it just makes my day every time. You can find me at my personal email, info@essentialstepmom.com.

If you'd like to chat, I encourage you to book a free 20-minute strategy session:
BOOK A CALL WITH TRACY

Learn more about me and my work at essentialstepmom.com

Finally, I have a Facebook group for stepmoms and one for their partners. Hope to see you there!

Feb 18, 202022:59
ESP 2.16: Who pays for what, and how is that working out for you?

ESP 2.16: Who pays for what, and how is that working out for you?

Do you and your spouse ever argue about money? Does it drive you crazy that he spends too much on his kids, or that his ex is making poor choices with the child care payments coming out of your joint bank account?

My guest Tamasin Thomas is a certified financial planner AND a certified therapist. She's also the host of a wonderful podcast called
The Psychology of Money that you can find wherever you're listening to this podcast or by clicking the link above.

Her website is tamasinthomas.com and you can grab a free resource there called 3 Steps to Resolving Financial Conflict to help couples get through their tough money conversations. 

Connect with me any time - I love to hear from you! Drop me a line at my personal and private email address, info@essentialstepmom.com or book a free 20-minute strategy session with me here:
BOOK A CALL WITH TRACY

Feb 11, 202042:09
ESP 2.15: For those days when you think you just suck at this.

ESP 2.15: For those days when you think you just suck at this.

Everyone has days like this, I know I have had my share. Days when you think you just suck at being a stepmom and everything that's going wrong is your fault. I made a live video last year for my Facebook group, The Spectacular Stepmom and I decided to share it with you here.


If you'd like to know more about Vipassana meditation, and how you can sign up to do a 10-day course like the one I'm at now, here's the link:
www.dhamma.org  Click on wherever you are in the world to go to the website for a centre near you. 

Visit me at essentialstepmom.com or book a free 20-minute strategy session with me here:

BOOK A FREE PHONE CALL WITH TRACY

Jan 28, 202020:02
ESP. 2.14 Dads, Kids and Consequences (and the 4-minute mile)
Jan 21, 202024:20
ESP 2.13 Dealing with Alienated Teens

ESP 2.13 Dealing with Alienated Teens

This is from a live video I made for my Facebook group called One For The Dads. If you'd like to join (and you're a biological dad) send a join request!

If you're a stepmom and you're looking for a social media community, join us at The Spectacular Stepmom

I'd love to hear from you! Reach out any time to my personal and private email account at info@essentialstepmom.com

Please take a moment to rate or review this podcast on iTunes. You'll be helping another stepmom out there somewhere to find this great resource!

Jan 14, 202021:24
ESP 2.12 Riffing on Brene Brown's "Dare To Lead"
Jan 07, 202021:45
ESP. 2.11 My Christmas Miracle + REPLAY: OVERSTEPPING
Dec 31, 201928:04
ESP 2.10 Something for your heart this holiday season

ESP 2.10 Something for your heart this holiday season

This is just a quick message about opening your heart, taking the high road and being the better person. It's the holidays, after all!

Dec 24, 201908:39
ESP 2.9 Disengaging For Beginners - 3 Easy Steps

ESP 2.9 Disengaging For Beginners - 3 Easy Steps

What do you know about Disengaging? Here's a "start where you are" guide to finding your way to better stepfamily relationships via a detour from the path you thought you were supposed to take!

Connect with me at essentialstepmom.com. I'd love to hear from you!

Dec 17, 201921:29
ESP 2.8 On Being A Childless Stepmom

ESP 2.8 On Being A Childless Stepmom

In response to a listener request, I interviewed Sonia Richter - artist, stepmom and blogger. Sonia opened her personal struggle with childlessness to the public when she wrote a blog called Raw Brutal Honesty On Being a 44 Year Old Childless Stepmom Artist.

You can read that at soniarichter.com

I want to hear from you, especially if you resonate with this topic. Drop me a line at my personal and private email, info@essentialstepmom.com

If you'd like to get a sense of what it might be like to have my personal support on your stepmom journey, go ahead and book a phone call. There's absolutely no obligation and no charge, just a few minutes of free advice:
https://tracypoizner.bookafy.com/service/20-minute-support-call

Dec 10, 201929:05
ESP 2.7 Five thousand desperate stepmoms Googled THIS phrase and found ME on YouTube!
Dec 03, 201916:09
ESP 2.6 Control Junkie No More!
Nov 26, 201942:47
ESP 2.5 Step-parent Burnout Syndrome
Nov 19, 201936:21
ESP 2.4 She wants her mom and dad to get back together...

ESP 2.4 She wants her mom and dad to get back together...

...and other cute things stepkids say. In this episode, I chat with Tania Heinemann who I invited onto the podcast to talk about recovering from burnout and specifically about healing adrenal fatigue. Fortunately, we got carried away with a discussion about her family, how her kids are coping with loss, her co-parenting relationship with her ex, and their parenting dynamic with her new husband, the stepdad. You'll have to wait until next week for the part about adrenal fatigue, so hang on a few more days!

I'd love to chat with our listeners in Berlin, Rome, Tijuana and Christchurch. Hit me up at info@essentialstepmom.com and let's book a virtual coffee date!

Nov 05, 201930:33
ESP 2.3: The Heartbreak Of Feeling Invisible.
Oct 30, 201925:31
ESP 2.2 Duda Baldwin - Spiritual Teacher and Stepmom

ESP 2.2 Duda Baldwin - Spiritual Teacher and Stepmom

Duda Baldwin is the creator of the Little School of Buddhism and she's a life coach who brings a spiritual edge to learning to crush your goals while staying true to yourself.  You can learn more about Duda at kickassmuse.com.


Tracy's articles have been published in ThriveGlobal, Medium and Elephant Journal. Send your comments or questions to her via info@essentialstepmom.com.

If you're not already part of her Facebook community, send a join request to The Spectacular Stepmom.

Grab this free resource - Healing Stepmom Burnout: A Quickstart Guide

Oct 22, 201944:25
ESP 2.1 Who Gets To Be Part Of Your Tribe?
Oct 16, 201918:25
ESP 15: The Disengaging Essay

ESP 15: The Disengaging Essay

My guest Maarit Miller created and published a version of the Disengaging Essay that made it famous in the stepmom world. You can read it on Maarit's blog, Blended Family Frappe.

I'll be taking a break for the next while as I focus on helping the participants in Stepmom Success Lab. There's still room for you there too - come and join us and be supported with a small community of women who are learning the stepmom ropes right alongside you. Start feeling more relaxed and confident ASAP! Get all the info here:

STEPMOM SUCCESS LAB


Aug 27, 201959:10
ESP 14: Guest Shannon Bally on being a stepdaughter and a bio mom.

ESP 14: Guest Shannon Bally on being a stepdaughter and a bio mom.

Shannon Bally is the host of a podcast called The Bumpcast. Her life so far includes having 4 children and 3 stepmoms. Her husband is stepdad to her oldest 2 children and she can speak to what it looks like as a bio mom when the kids come back from visiting dad!

Here's a link for Shannon's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-bumpcast/id1412697251

There's just one more episode this season - don't miss Maarit Miller talking about her part in making the Disengaging Essay available to stepmoms so they can make the changes that really help their whole family relate better to each other.

After next week, I'll be on a break until mid-October so I can focus on the women in my Stepmom Success Lab program. You can still be one of them! Check it out at training.essentialstepmom.com


Aug 20, 201935:24
ESP 13: Is it mean not to share your cookies?
Aug 13, 201924:16
ESP 12: Infertility - Support and Transformation with Dr. Stacy Thomas

ESP 12: Infertility - Support and Transformation with Dr. Stacy Thomas

Dr. Stacy is a Clinical Psychologist in private practise in Toronto, Canada. She specializes in helping women manage the emotional challenges of infertility.

Her free guided journal is available at 

http://growingforwardjournal

Learn more about Stepmom Success Lab, my 6-week turbo-training program for women who want to quickly fill in the important blanks in their own knowledge about parenting, step-parenting and step-family life at training.essentialstepmom.com

Connect with me at info@essentialstepmom.com



Aug 06, 201901:01:55
ESP 11: Parental Alienation Part 3

ESP 11: Parental Alienation Part 3

This final episode of my 3-part series on Parental Alienation is about how to support yourself and your partner to weather the emotional wear and tear of this kind of situation.

Please rate us on iTunes so other stepmoms can find us and listen along with you!

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Here's my free Gratitude Journal template - join my email community and it will be sent right to your inbox! 

http://tracypoizner.lpages.co/gratitude-journal

Stepmom Success Lab is my 6-week turbo program to help you quickly and painlessly fill in the gaps in your knowledge about parenting, step-parenting and step-family life. Launching for the fourth time on September 1st - EARLY PRICING AVAILABLE NOW! Take a peek here:

Stepmom Success Lab

 Connect with me and submit your questions at info@essentialstepmom.com


Jul 30, 201929:52
ESP 10: Parental Alienation Part 2

ESP 10: Parental Alienation Part 2

Kim Wilson describes her experience being completely alienated from her mother from age 1 to age 7, and the effect this had on her future relationships. I find it incredibly helpful to hear from adults who lived through this because they can explain to us what it felt like and how it resolved for them. My research - a survey of over 200 women who reported being alienated as children - confirms that the vast majority of kids eventually seek out the erased parent and enjoy a deeper relationship with that parent than they have with the one who controlled them.

If you're not already a member of my closed Facebook group, please come and check us out!
http://facebook.com/groups/thespectacularstepmom

My website is http://essentialstepmom.com, and you'll find my blog there and other stepmom-related resources.


Jul 23, 201933:34
ESP 9: Parental Alienation Part 1 - 10 Practical Tips
Jul 17, 201931:28
ESP 8. Understanding Loyalty: Loving The Stepchild Who Won't Let You In

ESP 8. Understanding Loyalty: Loving The Stepchild Who Won't Let You In

The loyalty bind, or loyalty conflict as it's sometimes known, is possibly the most insidious barrier to a healthy relationship between a stepmom and her partner's children. It's not always noticeable at the start of a new family and it can become a problem at any time, even years down the road. Its very hard to help by giving love, when the problem is that the child can't allow him or herself to love you back!

1. It can happen at any time, whether bio mom is very present in their lives or not around at all.

2. It's not about you! A true loyalty bind is about the child not being able to figure out how to reciprocate your love without feeling bad inside.

3. We're not wired to have two moms at the same time (no reference to same-sex parents!). Be aware of overstepping as a "mom".

4. Choose another avatar or persona. You can be loved as an auntie or a friend's mom instead of rejected as a "bonus" mom.

5. Click here for my blog on that topic or visit http://essentialstepmom.com/blog/6-ways-to-be-a-stepmother-who-is-not-a-mom.html

6. Give more space to dad to fill their need for connection.

7. Let them choose how to show affection - propose alternate gestures like a special handshake to stand in for hugging.

8. Give it time, expect it to reappear. Recognize this vulnerable place in the child and respect it.


Please help other stepmoms to find this show by rating us on iTunes. I welcome questions from listeners and I'll be glad to address them ANONYMOUSLY of course, on a future episode! You can send an email to me at info@esentialstepmom.com

Jul 09, 201921:12
ESP 7: The Spiritual Work of Step-parenting (part 2)
Jul 04, 201914:34
ESP. 6 The Spiritual Work of Step-parenting (part 1)
Jun 26, 201926:38
ESP 5: Drop The Knives! Part two of my conversation with Christina Providence

ESP 5: Drop The Knives! Part two of my conversation with Christina Providence

Dropping the knives is a brilliant metaphor for thinking in a new way about working at the edge of your capacity (or the end of your rope, as a stepmom!) and how to get what you need to stay in "growth mode" instead of falling into "stress mode".

I do provide that "outside eye" to help stepmoms creatively source the best quality support. Shoot me a message at info@essentialstepmom.com, or go ahead and book a free 20-minute strategy and support session by phone or Skype with this direct link:

https://tracypoizner.bookafy.com/service/20-minute-support-call

Jun 18, 201928:03
ESP 4: When High-Challenge Is Your Normal: Part 1 Of A conversation with Christina Providence

ESP 4: When High-Challenge Is Your Normal: Part 1 Of A conversation with Christina Providence

Christina Providence is an energy coach who helps high performing women recover from burnout and get back their physical, emotional, mental and spiritual energy so they can feel like themselves again. She shares a great metaphor about working at the limits of your capacity and how to continually stretch your zone of growth by creating and sourcing the support you need to achieve at higher and higher levels.

Notes:

2:28  Hold the umbrella, but don't try to stop the rain

3:20  Christina Providence helps high performing women get back on top of their game with her "Cycle of Creating Healing"

4:12 There's nothing wrong with you when you're exhausted, you've just reached the point of diminishing returns

4:40 Hard work produces results, overwork does not!

5:15 Stretch mode is great if you have high positive energy

5:43 High negative energy is survival energy leads to a crash

7:30 Even sleeping requires energy

7:41 What makes you crash

8:05 What's low quality recovery and what would make it better?

9:45 The point of diminishing returns

10:19 Human energy oscillates up and down by its very nature - we move from high performance mode to recovery mode

12:45 Getting that rich support and recovery allows you to keep stretching and growing

14:55 Drop the knives! Tune in next week to hear the rest of my interview with Christina.


You can reach Christina at:

https://theprovidencemethod.com

facebook.com/groups/sidehustlethinktank

facebook.com/groups/rainmakerhivemind


You can find me at:

http://essentialstepmom.com 

Download my free guide, "Easy Ways to LEVEL UP As A Stepmom"


Jun 11, 201916:39
ESP. 3: The trouble with chores
Jun 04, 201932:29
ESP 2: Red Flags and How To Spot Them with Lori Wilkins Sims
Jun 03, 201938:25
ESP 1: Overstepping

ESP 1: Overstepping

Overstepping boundaries is almost inevitable as a Stepmom. How can we recognize when we've done it, and more importantly, how do we recover from it and make things right?

Download my free guide, Easy Ways to LEVEL UP  As A Stepmom: 32 Simple Tips to help you earn bonus points while saving your energy!

Join my Facebook community at The Spectacular Stepmom

My podcast for divorced/separated fathers is called UnDeletable Dad - here's a link: anchor.fm/undeletable-dad 

PATRONUS COLLEGE is the world's first School Of Magic For Alienated Dads. This semester is already underway but I have a waitlist for the next cohort which will start in February. Contact me at tracy@undeletabledad to make sure you get notified! Learn more here: https://essential-training.thrivecart.com/patronus-school-of-magic/

Jun 03, 201922:02