The Ex-Philes with Janice Formichella: Break-ups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On

The home is an often overlooked player in healing from a breakup. Reclaiming it as our own can add power to your proess that could be a huge game changer that allows you to turn a sharp corner with things.  In today’s episode, I talk about what reclaiming my space has done for me after more than one breakup, the science behind why it works, and NINE ways to do it.  Get a pen and paper ready - I am here to help you reclaim your space and reclaim you life.  Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com.  Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.  ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Lessons from the last few weeks of my life and why I'm not dropping a normal episode today :)  Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Greetings from Auckland, New Zealand, everyone! This week I am dropping a very personal mini-episode as I podcast on the go during my travels. Do you have a song that reminds you of a difficult time in your life? Or perhaps one of your breakups? I have a few, and this episode is about one of them, and the breakup that could have broken me but instead led me to this exact spot. I hope that you will find inspiration in my story. I am sending you so much strength for the week ahead. -Janice Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Happy Ex-Philes Day! This week I have a double dropped episode for you. There is always a special reason for a re-posted episode over here in Ex-Philes Land and this week it is because I am all the way down in New Zealand visiting guest co-host Jessie Maree and well, things don’t always go according to schedule when you take a trip like this. Today’s episode is one of the most important that I’ve done. That is because fear and discomfort around being alone causes a lot of people to get stuck in their healing journey and causes a lot of people to make choices and decisions that are less than optimal for long-term happiness. Whether you are unsure where to start with your loneliness journey or want to add more power to your single life, this episode is for you. Enjoy! Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Breakups bring lessons, lessons, lessons. Part of the philosophy around Ex-Philes is that if you decide to learn and grow from a broken heart you can beat anything in life. Buckle up. If you’re not a believer already, this episode is meant to make one out of you. I am joined once again by guest co-host and gal-pal Lena Ehrenberg to talk about how the way you do one thing is the way you do all things; including in love. Show Lena some Ex-Philes love! Please go follow her now on IG at HaveMoreLove What topics would you like me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Yay! Another edition of My Breakup Story! Today I welcome Karina, a powerhouse of a woman who has not only walked away from an unhealthy relationship, but ended up even better in the end. I am bringing her story to you today to inspire and motivate you to walk away from anything that isn’t serving you, especially a relationship. Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

You can have passionate love no matter what your relationship status. Jessie Maree is back today for a fun chat about cultivating greater self-love than you have ever had, using your breakup as a catalyst. We had so much fun doing this episode! We discuss: -The importance of grieving and how to be loving to yourself while you do it -The importance of self-soothing as you increase self-love -Rediscovering yourself after a breakup -Sex and self-pleasure after a breakup -Being uniquely YOU Learn more and enjoy Valentine’s Day with these episodes: -9: Single on Valentine’s Day -10: Happy Hour Special: Valentine’s Day movie 128: Rediscovering Yourself After a Breakup 👉👉Please go show Jessie some Ex-Philes love! Follow her on IG at jessiemareeco And check out her website https://www.jessiemaree.com/. What topics would you like Jessie and me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

What it is about being in a relationship that makes some people want it so badly? Are some of us missing the opportunities that come with being footloose and fancy-free? Today I am flying solo to talk about flying solo. I have learned so much and gained so much from my own single journey. I KNOW that it is the answer for the pain that so many of you are experiencing right now. Today I cover: -How being happily singly helps us put our breakups behind us -What being without a partner can teach us -The benefits of spending time alone -MY favorite things about being single -The downfalls of seeking relationships to complete us -A handful of practical tips for learning to love being on your own Mentioned in this episode: Episode 108: A morning routine for your breakup Episode 138: Self-soothing after a breakup Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Trigger warning: domestic abuse, substance abuse A lot of us carry trauma, wounds, and “baggage” related to our past. Whether it be a relationship that went wrong or another life event that left us questioning everything, how we navigate relationships can sometimes be changed forever. The good news is that with a little awareness, we CAN prevent our past from destroying good things in our future. This week I am so pleased to have Katie Davie back to talk with me about accepting our previous wounds while committing to healing them. We discuss: -What trauma is -How trauma can be created in dating situations -The different types of trauma -Overcoming trauma before dating again -Recognizing when trauma is rearing its head in a new relationship and addressing it -Our stories with trauma and overcoming our pasts Please go show Katie some love, and get in touch with her if you want to learn about one-on-one support for navigating the co-parenting journey. You can find her on IG at CoparentingPeacefully. Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

I believe that we can all overcome loneliness and fulfill our own emotional needs, even with anxious attachment. This doesn’t mean that there are huge benefits to having a support network, but when we are able to look after ourselves these networks become stronger and more meaningful. Learning to self-soothe is one way that we can prevent loneliness and develop self-trust after a breakup. I have been on a personal journey with building this muscle over the last several years and know how life-changing it can be. In today’s episode, I discuss: -What it means to self-soothe -How self-soothing relates to your attachment style and moving from an insecure attachment to a secure attachment style -My experience learning how to self-soothe -How self-soothing strengthens your friendships -Beginner’s tips You’ve got this! Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Breakups are part of life. Children are a part of life. But…the two don’t go together all that well, right? Well, I’ve called in the experts to help! This week I am joined by two of return co-hosts and friends of the show to take a deep dive into (almost) everything that has to do with discussing breakups with your children. Dating-after-divorce coach Brian Dunn and co-parenting coach Katie Davie join me for a powerful roundtable chat about this sticky circumstance. We cover: -Telling your children that you and their other parent are getting a divorce -The difference between telling children about divorce and other types of breakups -Age-appropriate ways to have these discussions -Looking after yourself while looking after your children -How much is too much as far as involving your children in your breakups -Introducing new partners to your children -Talking about your co-parent’s breakups -AND MORE PLUS: Listener questions! Please go show Brian some love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn AND Please go show Katie some love, and get in touch with her if you want to learn about one-on-one support for navigating the co-parenting journey. You can find her on IG at CoparentingPeacefully. Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

How amazing is it to have a client come on my podcast and talk about beating their breakup?! Today I am introducing a new Ex-Philes series: My Breakup Story. I am starting things off with a bang with a conversation with one of my very own clients and a major breakup success story. If you are ready to use your breakup as a new beginning push play now! Mentioned in this episode: -The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by  Mark Manson -Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

The holidays are meant to be joyful and jolly, but they can actually really suck when we are healing from a broken heart. So…considering they can’t be avoided, what should we do? I GOT YOU! I have some tried and tested tips to help see you through the next couple of weeks. So push play one part TWO of “Surviving the holidays after a breakup.” Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

The holidays are meant to be joyful and jolly, but they can actually really suck when we are healing from a broken heart. So…considering they can’t be avoided, what should we do? I GOT YOU! I have some tried and tested tips to help see you through the next couple of weeks. So push play one part one of “Surviving the holidays after a breakup.” Mentioned in this episode: Episode 23: The healing power of crying Quotes about the power of winter: "To appreciate the beauty of a snowflake it is necessary to stand out in the cold." - Aristotle "What good is the warmth of summer, without the cold of winter to give it sweetness." - John Steinbeck "I wonder if the snow loves the trees and fields that it kisses them so gently? And then it covers them up snug, you know, with a white quilt; and perhaps it says, 'Go to sleep, darlings, till the summer comes again.'" - Lewis Carroll "Winter forms our character and brings out our best." – Tom Allen Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

I love to talk about what a ripe time for personal growth a breakup is, but it can be hard to know where to start when we feel broken hearted, right? Today I am giving you FOUR places to start in this rich discussion with my friend Lena Ehrenberg. If you are having a hard time navigating your new reality you will love this dish session! It’s a deep dive into the possibilities a breakup presents. **Show Lena some Ex-Philes love! Please go follow her now on IG at HaveMoreLove ** What topics would you like me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Buy my survive the holidays coaching package here.  Part of moving on from a breakup is releasin our ex, the relationship that once meant so much to us, and the life we thought we’d have. But while necessary, it is a painful part of the healing journey and it can sometimes take a lot of motivation to get to that point. Well, as always, I have your back! If you are looking for motivation to move on from your breakup hit play as I am sharing ten tips, concepts, and ways to look at things that are sure to help you kick ass during the next stage of your healing journey. Episodes mentioned in this episode: 117: Self-forgiveness and breakups 114: Five tips to help you heal from your breakup this week 108: A morning routine for your breakup 74: Self-care for breakups I believe in you! What topics would you like me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Narcissism has become a topic of interest in the last few years, but what does it actually look like? Can we prevent ourselves from getting involved with toxic people? Buckle up, Jackie and I are taking a deep dive into our own experiences with narcissism and how to spot it. We cover: -Traits of narcissistic and toxic people -Why it is so easy to spot the red flags -Spotting narcissism on the first date -Our stories about dating some pretty scary dudes -How to get away from a narcissist Mentioned in this episode: Episode 63: Negging and toxic flirting More Ex-Philes resources: -Episode 110: I can’t get over how they treated me -Episode 68: Narcissism 101 with Chris -Episode 66: Am I in an abusive relationship? -Episode 52: Rescuer Syndrome PLEASE give Jackie some love! Follow her podcast That Girl The Podcast and find her on IG at https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlthepodcast/ and https://www.instagram.com/jackiebrubaker/ ____________________________________________________________________________ What topics would you like Jackie and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Are you struggling with feelings of jealousy? I have created this affirmations track to help you make progress on processing and releasing this tricky emotion. However you choose to use this track I hope you will remember that you have the power to cope and learn from jealousy. Sending strength! -Janice What affirmations tracks would you like me to offer in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Jealousy is a natural human emotion, but it is also one that can poison and ruin relationships. So, what to do? Friend and co-host Jessie Maree is back for a deep dive into the topic. We cover: -Our recent experiences with jealousy -What jealousy is -How fear and jealousy are related -Types of jealousy -Ways to handle jealousy and prevent it from ruining all of your relationships -The meaning of trust and how to do it -Using your single time to learn to release jealousy more easily Mentioned in this episode: -Episode 119: Processing Anger After a Breakup -Can’t Help but Fly by Climbing PoeTree -Fear inventory: https://emotionalsobrietyandfood.files.wordpress.com/2013/05/the-fear-inventory-is-done-in-columns-like-resentments.pdf -Multiamory podcast episodes 394 and 395\ 👉👉Please go show Jessie some Ex-Philes love! Follow her on IG at jessiemareeco And check out her website https://www.jessiemaree.com/. What topics would you like Jessie and me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

The time after a breakup is a POWERFUL one for reflecting on our relationship patterns and identifying where we want to grow and learn. In this week's episode guest co-host, Brian Dunn and I talk about HOW to do this in a way that creates lasting change and the foundation for joyful relationships in the future.  Grab a pen and paper and start up-leveling your relationships now!  Please go show Brian some love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn What topics would you like Brian and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

A breakup can be a shock to the system. Often, so much of our identity and plans for the future are tied up in our romantic relationships. When they end, we can feel lost. If we had neglected parts of ourselves during the relationship and had a future planned with someone, we can feel like we don’t even know who we are without the other person. Today I speak with special guest Sarah Mac about her 3-part process of rediscovering yourself after a breakup and why it is so important for healthy relationships in the future. Pleaae go show Sarah Mac some Ex-Philes love. Follow her on IG at Love.SarahMac: https://www.instagram.com/love.sarahmac/ Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving me a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

KINK is a beautiful way to explore your new single life or expand the possibilities for pleasure between you and your partner(s). And because it is a never-ending world of options it can be difficult to know where to start. Guest co-host and kink-expert Jessie Mare is back this week to make the world blush as we take a deep dive into KINK 101. Buckle your seatbelts as we discuss: -What kink is -What fetish is -What kink is NOT -Our own kinky beginnings -Types of kink -Safety as a single person exploring kink -Aftercare -And MORE Discussed in this episode: Episode 34: 50 Shades of WTF?!  What topics would you like Jessie and me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Dating after divorce can be nerve-wracking and many people feel that they don’t know what they are doing. But the good news is that there are SO many resources available and so many people both paving the way and teaching others what they have learned. One of these people is my friend and colleague, Brian Dunn. Brian works specifically with people navigating the crazy world of dating and courtship following their divorces. He speaks from experience; he dated 100 people in the first 15 months following his divorce and felt more confident AND competent with each new experience he had. I think Brian is an inspiration to men who desire more confidence with women, especially after being out of the “dating game” for a long period of time. We all have to start somewhere, right? Please go show Brian some love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn What topics would you like Brian and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

TRIGGER WARNING: Victim blaming, sexual assault, domestic violence Victim blaming occurs when the victim of a crime is held partially or fully responsible for the actions taken against them. It is particularly prevalent when it comes to domestic violence and sexual assault. The impacts on victims are often long-term and have devastating consequences. It is also one of the reasons victims keep things to themselves, stay in dangerous situations, and decide not to report. Victim blaming needs to stop. As part of the Ex-Philes commitment to Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I am partnering up with my good friend Christine to talk about the victim blaming that we have experienced, the impacts it had on our lives, and how YOU can become part of the solution instead of the problem. 👉Take a stand! Please share this episode on social media this month to help raise awareness about the impacts of victim blaming. Please go show Christine some love! Follow her on IG at fiftyshadesof_bullshit What topics would you like Christine and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Multiple studies have shown that we process the pain of a breakup in the same way that we process physical pain, and most of us know that a broken heart can be as debilitating as any tragic loss. So why isn’t there more support for people grieving their breakups? Today Anthony Canapi joins me again for a rich discussion about caring for a broken heart. This episode is your permission slip to lean into your grief and is also a resource to help you discover tools and methods for moving the grief through you and looking after yourself while you do. We cover: -Our experiences with grief -Why and how society brushes off the painful experience of a broken heart -The difference between grief and depression -Janice’s stages of breakup grief -Self-care for grieving a breakup We hope this episode will help you to embrace the space you need to grieve your breakup and grab a bit of hope that the process does come to an end. You’ve got this. Xo PLEASE go show Anthony some love! Follow him on IG at anthonycanapi. Need a matchmaker? DM him for all of your “set me up” needs. What topics would you like Anthonu and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.Anthony

Do you know how to access pleasure in each moment? With subtle shifts in our mindset, we can truly live a life full of sensuality, with or without a partner. Today I am welcomed by colleague Steve Oskard to talk about powerful reframes that we can all make to throw open the door on what is truly possible in regards to life satisfaction, in the bedroom and beyond. Steve is a BRILLIANT sexologist. We discuss: -Creating a pleasure practice -Developing a rich vocabulary for discussing desire -The power of soft touch -The truth about the “pleasure gap” -Exploring sexuality as a single person -And OH…so much more! **Please go show Steve some Ex-Philes love! Find him on IG at steve_oskard and on ClubHouse at Steve_Oskard** Want to work with me one-on-one? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Let’s talk about pleasure! Sexual Health Awareness Month wraps with an interview that is truly a work of art! I am honored to have Melissa Louise on the show to talk about expanding our capacity for pleasure. You are going to be so glad you pushed play on this episode! NOTES! -Want to work directly with Melissa? Find her on IG at ThePleasureStudio and visit her website: https://melissalouise.mykajabi.com/ -Please sign up for Melissa’s upcoming Erotic Blueprints program: https://melissalouise.mykajabi.com/claim-your-eroticism -Want to buy *ethically sourced* stones and gems? Please visit https://www.sacredlotusyonisteam.com and https://www.instagram.com/sacredlotus.yonirituals/ Use code MELISSALOUISE for 20% of your order.

Dating is hard enough. Being a parent is hard enough. Being a co-parent is hard enough. Toss them all together and - wow - talk about the potential for a lot of stress and even heartache. It’s a good thing there are experts to call in! One of my goals for moving forward with Ex-Philes is to make it more and more inclusive and support as many people as possible. I am pleased to announce that co-parenting coach Katie Davie will be joining the show as a regular co-host. Today we are dropping our first episode together, a 101 guide to all things dating while co-parenting. Katie’s mission is to support parents in high-conflict co-parenting situations to thrive. Today we cover: Challenges that co-parents face when dating Things to consider when you are dating again after separating from your co-parent Navigating involving your new partner in your life Getting close to someone when your co-parent is toxic Dealing with co-parenting conflicts when your new partner is around Speaking with your kids about your dates AND MORE! Please go show Katie some love, and get in touch with her if you want to learn about one-on-one support for navigating the co-parenting journey. You can find her on IG at CoparentingPeacefully. What topics would you like me and Katie to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

What do you think of when someone says “herpes”? Do you have it? Do you know you might not know that you have it, AND you most likely haven’t been tested for it in the first place? The majority of the population has some form of herpes, yet the stigma surrounding it makes it nearly impossible to talk about in public, and even with partners. Today’s guest is on a mission to change all of that. Suz Bub is a sensua guide and herpes advocate who uses her *enormous* social media following to educate the public about the virus. She is joining Ex-Philes to fill the community in, tell her story, and let us all know what we can do to be a part of the movement to destigmatize herpes. ** PLEASE listen in, regardless of your herpes status.** Follow Suz Bub and let’s get her back on the show! You can find her on IG at SuzBubz and TikToc at SuzBub. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Are you struggling with anger after a breakup? I have created this affirmations track to help you make progress on your healing journey this week. However you choose to use this track I hope you will remember that letting go of the past is a process that you are allowed to explore at your own pace. Also remember that no matter how you feel about your last relationship or breakup, you CAN heal and you CAN use what you have learned for happier relationships in the future. Sending strength! -Janice What affirmations tracks would you like me to offer in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Is it healthy to get angry after a breakup, or is it better to move forward and not focus on the “negative” feelings that come along with a relationship ending? Push play, and start processing today! Today I am joined by close friend Christine Lalonde to talk about what to do when anger is hard to let go of after a breakup, and how you can transform it into something positive. Christine bravely tells her story of coping with anger and resentment after her divorce plus: -The benefits of anger -How anger protects us in relationships -Practical ways to release anger -Personal stories we each have of losing our cool Please go show Christine some love! Follow her on IG at fiftyshadesof_bullshit What topics would you like Christine and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Trying to get OVER someone by getting UNDER someone isn’t always a winning strategy. But embracing sex and your OWN sexuality as a way of exploring your new single life CAN be transformative. This week I am *stoked* to be joined by sexologist Dr. Kristie Overstreet to talk about using sex in brand new ways after your breakup (and psssst - it has nothing (necessarily!) to do with finding a new long-term romantic partner). And PSSSST again: I am a huge Dr. Kristie fan girl! Please, please go follow her now on IG @kristie_overstreet In this special Sexual Health Awareness Month episode Dr. Kristie and I chat about: -The benefits of casual sex -How to communicate about casual sex -Discovering your sexual needs after a breakup -The JOY of self-pleasure and how to get started -And more Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Are you struggling with forgiving yourself after a breakup? I have created this affirmations track to help you make progress on your healing journey this week. However you choose to use this track I hope you will remember that letting go of the past is a process that you are allowed to explore at your own pace. Also remember that no matter how you feel about your last relationship or breakup, you CAN heal and you CAN use what you have learned for happier relationships in the future.  Sending strength!  -Janice  What affirmations tracks would you like me to offer in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Are you mad at yourself or disappointed about how you acted in your last relationship or during your last breakup? Push play, and learn to let go. It is another special episode, but I guess I’m getting used to that! Today I welcome another guest co-host, Jackie Brubaker, who is joining me to talk about why some of us struggle to forgive ourselves more than anyone after a breakup and how to release anger, sadness, frustration, and resentment directed inward. Jackie has a counseling background and also informs her insight as an Ex-Philes co-host on her own dynamic experience with dating and relationships. We co-created this episode to allow anyone who listens to turn things around immediately. Remember, resentment and disappointment are natural parts of some people’s healing journeys. And they can also keep you stuck if not worked through. We are here for you! Want to jump-start your healing journey this week? Grab the bonus affirmations episode in the Ex-Philes feed. PLEASE give Jackie some love! Follow her podcast That Girl The Podcast and find her on IG at https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlthepodcast/ and https://www.instagram.com/jackiebrubaker/ ____________________________________________________________________________ What topics would you like Jackie and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Welcome Jessie Maree to the show as my new guest co-host!  Show notes coming soon, I promise! I am dropping this episode from my fall vacation on the road so I need more time :)  What topics would you like Jessie and me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

What does it mean when an ex texts? And more importantly – what is the right way to respond? As always, Ex-Philes has your back. I am SUPER excited to introduce my first guest co-host, Anthony Canapi (he/him) to the show. Today we chat about Anthony’s METHOD for dealing with texts from the ex. Grab a pen and paper! It’s a method that will help you to put that ex in your rearview mirror for good. 👉🏻 PLEASE go show Anthony some love! Follow him on IG at anthonycanapi. Need a matchmaker? DM him for all of your “set me up” needs. What topics would you like Anthony and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Healing from a breakup takes more than self-care and time, though those things definitely help. Sometimes it takes thinking outside of the box a bit and trying new things until something sticks or starts to help. Today I am sharing FIVE tips that I use with my breakup coaching clients to get out of a breakup slump, get unstuck, and start to see things turn around. Would you like information on breakup coaching or want to come on Ex-Philes to share your breakup success story? Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles A lot has happened in Ex-Philes Land over the past few weeks! I am excited to share the recent changes with my amazing audience and to share what is in store for the next few months. PLUS - some takeaways from the same few weeks that you can use to inspire you along on your healing journey this week. I’d love to hear from you about the recent changes to the show and also what you think of my listener stories idea. Please send me a DM on the podcast IG @exphilespodcast or to my personal IG @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join my online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Thank you for your support and GOOD LUCK this week! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Do you think it pays to take your time when meeting someone new? Let us know in our DMs! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider! https://www.patreon.com/exphiles It may seem like a compliment, but it’s not! Being single has lot’s of advantages and is an important time for healing and growth after a breakup. Yet our society sure likes to stigmatize it. Today we are chatting about the pervasiveness of “singleism”, why being single is so awesome, how to enjoy it, and how to address this well-intended but problematic question. Get inspired for your own single adventure! Check out episode 71: Solo Travel with Kelly. What do you think is the best part about being single? What have you learned? Let us know in our DMs! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On. We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider! https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Bad breakup? This is something that many people have struggled with and a position that anyone has the possibility of finding themselves in. Whether your relationship was abusive or it was the kind of breakup that brought out of the worst in your ex, it can be really hard to cope with the bad memories and move on after being mistreated. It may be difficult, but you can overcome this. Today we share our own stories about being treated unfairly in our relationships and how it impacted us long and short term. We then give tips for healing that you can start to use today to continue to move on and put the icky past behind you. Remember: if you'd like one-on-one support all you have to do is reach out to one of us directly. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On. We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community. #abuse #breakups #brokenheart

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles What are you struggling to come to terms with when it comes to your breakup or the relationship? Have you considered that re-writing the narrative you are telling yourself may be the key to closure? We are tickled PINK to be joined by a fan of the show today! Kate Marlene is (besides Janice’s twin) a content creator who also works one-on-one with people to heal through narrative therapy and storytelling. She is a WARRIOR who has used her breakups to learn about herself and grow. Kate’s premise is one that can help all of our listeners: YOU have the ability to write an empowering story about your breakup and about the relationship. The narrative you create can help you to get into the diver’s seat in life. PLUS - we throw in a dash of the positive outcomes of Kate’s no contact journey. 👉🏻 Please go and follow Kate’s work. She is doing incredible things to support her continued healing and healing for others. Find her on IG @katemarlenelove and check out her podcast and cool projects on Facebook here.  #breakups #healing #nocontact #divorce  Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles A morning routine sets the vibe and stage for the rest of your day. But what if you are struggling to get out of bed because of a recent breakup and a broken heart? There are ways that you can use your morning to jump start your healing, even when it feels like each day is a challenge. This week we are talking about WHY it is so important to sprinkle your mornings with some self-care after a breakup and some simple steps to creating a supportive routine NOW, no matter how miserable you feel. We cover: -How a positive morning relates to putting your breakup behind you -The power of a five minute routine -Adding ONE thing to your morning to form a routine -The MOURNING morning -Easy ways to create a “VIP” vibe each day -Self-trust and morning routines -AND MORE! Rub your sleepy eyes and push play! Mentioned in the episode: Gassho Meditation Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Getting over a breakup? You’re in the right place! Ex-Philes is a weekly podcast about healing broken hearts, building confidence and moving forward in an empowered way. Ex-Philes is the perfect balance between science, spirituality and sass. With a heavy dose of optimism, some laughs and somber moments, co-hosts Janice and Clair share what they’ve learned from personal experience and as coaches to help you through this time! Topics include dating, ghosting, no contact, toxic relationships, communication, attachment styles and more. Get extra content on Patreon. www.patreon.com/exphiles