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Helen Keller is quoted as saying, “Always hold your head high. Look the world straight in the eye.” We need to have an elegance in our posture, to define to the world not just how we walk but how we walk through life. Slouching will always send the wrong message. You have everything you need to confidently walk your path.

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Many artists have their self-portraits among their works. Back then, self-portraits were about status and importance and in effect, today they still are. Nothing has changed. Self-portraits have merely transformed into selfies, and filters and photo effects have become the artists' mediums. Although it is easy to get caught up in the celebrity culture that says unless you’re being noticed, you’re no one, that’s the crucial difference between 15th-century self-portraits and 21st-century selfies.

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What would my children do if they had to make a video of my life? My memory? My legacy? Where are the pictures of my life? Especially of my life with my children. I have lived quite the life. I’ve been blessed with quite the personality and yet stayed hidden due to pride or vanity or some other silly reason.

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But if we’re being totally truthful, would we consider ourselves teachable? Are we willing to sit back and embrace setbacks that may hold lessons we need to know? Are we able to be quiet long enough to grasp when something is being portrayed to us or someone is attempting to educate us?

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how could anyone truly know the real us? We are born to give, to care, to sacrifice ourselves for the needs of others. If you’re like me though this leads to you feeling like a square peg in a round hole.

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“The truth about family is that we don’t get really get to pick and choose who’s in and who’s out. It’s not a club.” I believe we all have our share of dysfunctional in our families. We have those soap opera situations or Maury Povich moments we’d rather tuck away safely in a locked box on the shelf. Truth is there are people in most families that we love but don’t like, that if they weren’t family we wouldn’t tolerate.

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If mercy is the act of not giving to someone that which they probably deserve, then how often are we really offering that to others? When was the last time you forgave someone without being asked? Or turned the other cheek?

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There are many times in our lives where someone hurts our feelings, says or does the wrong thing or simply rubs us the wrong way. We tend to be selfish creatures and dwell on the impact these have on us personally with little or no regard to how they are to others. But I like to think that our attitude and overall reaction plays a significant role in how we handle those situations and how it all ends.

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There are often moments in our lives where confrontation, situations, and circumstances will stretch us to our limits. People are people and they rarely think like us, react like we do or approach a scenario the same way.

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The poet known as Ovid once said, “Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you.” I hope you make those words your mantra during the difficult times...

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I think patience and perseverance go hand in hand. Through the exhaustion of the race, we discover that we are strong; stronger than we thought but also as strong as we allow ourselves to be. We must do whatever it takes to avoid discouragement and not give up our tenacity to reach the finish line because that consistency and dedication is the key to our success.

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People are human. We will make mistakes. What we take away from those mistakes is where the power lies.

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We examined some previous moments in my life where I felt I had no voice, say or control and discovered perhaps I had adapted this trait as a means of survival, of being accepted, heard and so forth. It wasn’t until nearly twenty years later that it occurred to me that where some may consider it control, others might view it as leadership. Some may see flaws, other’s quirks.

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Obstacles, especially unexpected ones can really pour havoc on our lives. But what if I told you that your struggle today is proving your story, your strength for tomorrow. Obstacles are the path. We simply need to alter the way we view them.

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It is so easy to be happy and oblivious in our contentment. We often take for granted or overlook the goodness in our lives. I encourage you to take time, no MAKE the time, to tell those in your life what they mean to you.

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It wasn’t until my singleness in my late forties, due to the termination of a twenty-five-year marriage relationship that I discovered and embraced my true unique self and qualities.

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I was going through the motions and unintentionally playing small in my divine purpose. I realized that although giving and living a life for others may not necessarily be a bad thing when you lose sight of who you are and your purpose on this planet it can ultimately be destructive.

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We live in a world where offenses sit on the surface and hearts harden too easily. But what if we started to be the change we wanted to see? What if we actually lived our lives by our examples? What if we decided to see people by their intentions instead of their actions?

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When it comes to difficult tasks I think patience is on the top of the list. Why is waiting so hard for us?

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If we are honest with ourselves and take a moment to examine a few things pertained to the reproach we may come to the realization that maybe a small nugget of truth is lying in there after all.

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Whether bossy or a leader you can confidently say, "I am tough, ambitious, and self-assured in what I need and what I want. I am tenacious and sure that I can get the task done. I don't just have dreams, I have goals and the gumption to make them a reality.

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Picture your day, your life or even that moment, filled with glorious hues and an arch of hope. Notice the beam of sunshine on the other side that casts this fabulous arrangement of color. How wonderful the knowledge that it takes both sunshine and rain to make that glorious arch.

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During hardships and potential disasters, when we are the most frightened, we rightfully reach out in prayer and petition for strength through the storm and safety in its wrath.

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This morning when you looked in the mirror what did you see? Ever wonder how we can require so much beauty sleep and wake up looking like a troll? Truth is, we need to stop that way of thinking. It is that mindset that makes it difficult for us to start the day motivated and ready to tackle the world.

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During a storm, it may be difficult to see the good, the “reason”, the lesson that will eventually arrive in due time but if we have a positive attitude the negativity we experience will become better.

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“If you hang out with chickens you’re going to peck but if you hang out with eagles, you’re going to soar.” Even lately I’ve learned that apparently, we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.

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We are confident we WILL have adversity in our lives. It is inevitable. But how awesome it is to know that with the troubles, no matter what, you can have peace.

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I was reminded of the powerful message this story holds and since it is the beginning of a new week I felt the need to tell it again as many of us may approach Monday as our boulder.

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As women, I believe we set our standards high unintentionally... Yet still, we women try to “do it all” to “be it all”. We aim for the crown of perfection.

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Every day we all wake up with a brand-new start and hope for the best. But I think, we know that we are imperfect beings doing the best we can with what we have. So, as you listen to the media (tainted and biased as you think it may be), and you watch news and hear all the promises and lies and hopes and hoaxes think about character, think about faith.

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"Be beautiful, and let the world catch up."

Just thinking of those eight words even now - makes my heart flutter. What a wonderful way to say "do not be afraid to be yourself."

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In a world bombarded with and catering to negativity, I believe we can make the choice to see things in a positive light or at least recognize the good in even the worst situations.

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No matter what the tiny voice in your head, the haters or the naysayers tell you, you CAN obtain the life you desire. 

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Think about what would happen if you woke up today with only what you were grateful for yesterday. But beyond being grateful, give back. Return the gift. Share something.

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I once asked someone "look at me and tell me what you see." They said, I see a woman, a pretty smile, your colored dress." If you ask most people to look at the person next to them and tell what they see, often they will say a physical feature.

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Our unique purpose explains what we should be doing in our lives. When our passions and purpose are greater than our fears, excuses, and entanglements, our lives become rich and overflowing. The purpose of life is not merely to be happy, provide happiness and share happiness but to be useful and honorable, compassionate and passionate, to share our stories that others may be inspired and encouraged, to make a difference and leave a legacy for others displaying that we have lived a happy, blessed, well and purposeful life. If you have a story youd like to share email amongthefabulous@gmail.com