Free Range Thinking - A Neurodiversity Podcast

Greetings Friends! This Episode revolves around being a Neurodivergent in relationships. Not only romantic relationships but friendships, work relationships and family business.

Have fun and get in touch with us!

sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com 

and

mail@alex-kahl.de 

Load on attention

1 1/2 until Sharon hosts her retreat

Being Neurodivergent in a relationship

Sharon's take on relatoinships

Alex is bit responsible for himself and for his girlfriend's reactions

overselfimportance

Aren't YOU perfect?

What kind of therapy exist for neurodivergent partners?

In Germany Therapy is REALLY not as accepted as in US

What is therapy for?

You just have to be open to discuss it

Dealing with medicine

Not putting others on the defensive

"I am reviewing who i want to be involved with. i am specifically looking for cooperative healthinsurance partners" - change the dynamics for my self made healthcare plan

Our boundaries

Minimize sensory overload

Example: The Wedding Reception - with earplugs

The reason why it took Alex until he was 40 to have kids

Choose from whom you learn from

Caretaker for older pepople with robots

Ali Abdaal - got the Feedback as a medical Student he had to work on his empathy for bein ga Doctor

Future of medical care

lowering the Egos on both side

"how to be a good patient"

Giving others a user manual for yourself

Greetings friend! We love to get even more in touch with you! Tell us what you'd like us to talk about or get on the show and talk WITH us! 

sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com

and

mail@alex-kahl.de 

How to find a tool that is always interesting

- follow out interest to stay involved and focussed

- rotating in and out with intention

- go with the current and follow the lead of the interest

Does the boat come back around?

It is a bit like surfing

Alex Life or Death Trauma with Boats and all things on the water

Kayaking vs Kanooeing

Finding partners in crime

getting projects out of your head into reality

especially with things you are not good at

exercize buddies

social anxiety

motivtaion

getting out of doing something you love

high sensitive persons HSP and cold exposure

cold feet

hyperfocus experience in getting into topics and rabbit holes

Craiglist, ebay kleinanzeigen classifieds and AirBnB

Curate the Experience

how airbnb came along

The brown M&Ms and Iron Maiden

Neurodivergent people and the "Buddy Sytem"

Be current what you want to care about and focus on

Keepi it moving further ahead

"you know what you NEED to do"

Ask people what they would like to be talked to

Cleaning up a room with a system

"Where do you want that?"

OCD or Ritual?

Organizing in Montessori

The guests coming up the next weeks

Hey! We would love to get in touch with you!

sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com 

and

mail@alex-kahl.de 

Feel the FUN and do it anyway :)

Do you need to deserve Fun?

How do you define fun?

The differences between the USA and Poker and Russia and Chess

How does Alex define fun? ( nd he is REAAALLLYY struglling with this question)

Being outside of the rules

What was fun for you and the elements of it as a kid?

How Alex built himself a job consisting of things he had fun with as a kid

Infinite games - finite games

poker US with Chess Russia

The gap between then and now

Why don't more people chose THAT

Do we take or make time

What when time is not there

For Sharon thinking things through is as much fun as executing

creativity is important

thinking is enough

Did she specified if time in the day - short term or time in her lifespan?

What has your family culture encoded in you about play fun?

Work ethic

Erst die Arbeit - dann das Vergnügen

Earn the play

Seriousness attached to games - Pen and Paper Roleplaying and Computer Games

Growth mindset vs fixed mindset

Light heartedness

Didn't play that much

My mom always lost

This is how human animals PLAY

Imagination

Curiosity

The pre-us way of entertaining ourselves

storytelling - discussing as a form of accessibility of things - things were SO complicated

Experimenting is play

Is not very valued in the workplace

Everything needs a purpose for Alex

He doesn't need permission

KITTENS!

The judgement-factor

What do we value?

Mimetic behavior - are we wanting

The balance of fun and destruction

**kittens and heroine - BANDNAME**

paying a price for fun

the tradeoff is time - scarcity

Boredom - baseline of entertainment and calm

learn self calm

Engineering as much interesing and fun things into life results in maximum creativity

Greetings friend! In this episode we answer some of your questions!

We love to get even more in touch with you! Tell us what you'd like us to talk about or get on the show and talk WITH us!

sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com and

mail@alex-kahl.de

Ah and at 41 minutes I left in something for documentation for me. There were two really loud BANGS you can hear in the audio that were the result of two Eurofighters breaking through the soundbarrier in Germany on the 1st of may. And it really scared the shit out of me :) No I am glad to have that recording.

And now let's listen :) Here are our notes from the show:

AUA: Ask us Anything! - it is like AMA but with multiple people :-D

It might be painful for us or for you all

QUESTION 1 - WHAT IS THE DIFFERNCE BETWEEN NEURODIVERSITY AND NEURODIVERGENT

Made up power-construct of what is normal.

When there is NORMAL then there is OTHER

The societal construct is an illusion

Being aware of it and create sidedoors

Labelling oneself vs. being labelled by others

Showing neurotypicals how to be able to value the complexity of neurodivergents

How to Citizen

with Baratunde Thurston - https://www.howtocitizen.com

Kinship and inclusiveness

Ask:

Are you interested in telling me more?

People are scared to ask because then they think the have the obligation to fix something

Shakespeare and Company and people in Wheelchairs

Modern theater as a metaphor for the overhwelm neurotypical feel with neurodivergent people or topics

QUESTION 2:

What's the difference between sensory and emotional sensitivity?

High Sensitve Persons vs people who are victims of there emotions

Baselines - for example for anger

a logical and a very emotional sibling

If you are a sensory type you can turn down a lot of stimulations - turning down EMOTIONAL sensitivy is really hard.

The difference between disappointment and frustration

(Learn to) Know what you need

Giraffe and Wolves Language

Non Violent Communication NVC - Marshall Rosenberg - https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marshall_B._Rosenberg

Council for Exceptional Children

Self Calming

Long term goal is peace - especially in the Montessori Method

Ok.

We have an idea for the next round of questios:

Only 5 minutes for each question :-D

WOOHOO! We surpassed 1000 listeners! (not that numbers matter that much to us - we would also do this just for our pleasure :-D) but we LOVE to know that you are listening to us.

OH! And you can reach out to us if you would like to: sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com and mail@alex-kahl.de

Ask us questions, give us a hint what you would like us to talk about or come on the show as our guest and let's have a wonderful open and curious conversation about Neurodiversity!

And this is what you can expect from this one:

Our Filter is:

Are we having fun doing that?

WHY we are doing this podcast

one outcome for Alex

Collecting Stones, Rocks, Nuggets

What Sharon is struggling with

Share the pain :-D

Executive Functioning and the way the struggle manifests

How she works through it and with which tools and methods

The voice inside your head - that is puzzling and frustrating

The Evil EXCEL Table for a REALLY cool opportunity of a coaching platform

what makes it so hard for Dyslexic human beings

Stress as a Slingshot

Showing not telling

Self Therapizing

Why does nobody ask:

How do you work best? How would you like to receive this?

Why continue to suffer in a homogenous way of doing things

Support systems for resuce and emergency teams like paramedics and firefighters

You cannot choose colleagues and family members

How does Self-Talk look like

Don't use rewards but making things fun and enjoyable

The brain doesn't notice the difference of being IN a enjoyable situation or thinking about it

Infinite games

Find a good listening-partner

Co-active Coaching

It's like sparring-sessions

Voice in your head

HI REN by REN

Where does the negative voice in your head come from?

Positive Intelligence - The Sage for the positive voice and Judges for the negative side

Remember that a lot of things are just a sprint.

But a lot of sprints result in a far distance, too

Giggle to yourself and be rebellious

What does your internal supportsystem look like through the choppy waters

Salty water and nutrition

Readjust your expectations

Box Breathing while napping

Cat Napping Trance

## Tools

- snacking Cucumbers so Sharon doesnt eat something that throws her Brain Chemicals off

- lowest possible Dose of Ritalin

- The filter. "when I am 85 how would it look like then?"

- Box Breathing while napping

- Salty water and nutrition

- Giggle to yourself and be rebellious

The last was rough on the sickness-side so the episodes are late - sorry.

And hey! You can get in touch with us via Mail:

sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com

and

mail@alex-kahl.de :)

Let's go for this almost 2 hour chunk of a wonderful (at least for Sharon and Alex) episode :)

Here are some Shownote:

Neil Gaiman for us at least means:

Lean and smooth writing

There is nothing extra

Sharon models him

Especially when editing

Neil was on Episode 366 of the Tim Ferriss Podacst

Read fiction opens your mind for stepping into possibilities

Get passed those layers of resistance

Workshop as a Fantasy Story - PnP Roleplaying

not without permission

first ask for

Wants, Needs, Fears and Expectations

Keynotes as Theater Performances

THE PASSING https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LIj2a9Tlo4g

The Performance a year before - more a Literature Reading than a solo-character play - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTFKjXq77gA

both by:

MJHB - Marcus John Henry Brown - https://www.marcusjohnhenrybrown.com

Agile mindset - Sharon's Keynote for the Female tech conference

Wants vs needs expectations

How does a skunk smell?

And what to do against the smell:

Tomato juice or baking soda

:)

What feels like an adventure

Fountain pen exploration

Sharon's favorite colors for Fountain Pen inks

Indigo

Olive green

Umbra / brown

Change inks / change of thougts

Sharon's self made Souvenirs

animals from Canvas

Leinen Servietten

The Museum Wäschefabrik in Bielefeld stories

younger people who do not know what to do with their lifes

enjoy what they really want to do

awareness practice

a martial arts coach story

tools of perspective

narrow perspective on the bad feelings

self soothing

Sharon's Tips when you visit Castle Neuschwanstein

Imagine LOTS of artists and musicians in the castle

A full blown Multi cultural artistic Bubble

A Neurodivergent, genderfluide place

and a creative safety bubble

Take the route with the horse coach!

Greetings Friends!

This one from 2022 was very influenced by the Book Wanting from Luke Burgess and the concept of modelling he describes in the book.

Who am I modelling on?

is really hard for Alex to say - because some things he likes to model had to be separated from the person

- like Steve Jobs

- try to model for example thinking models like Reasoning from First Principles

- Stoicism

- Like to Model or be inspired by people who or whose work I like.

Have to differentiate their Life and Character from the WAY they do things or they think

and then see if it works for me

- Casey Neistat

- [[Quelle - Neil Gaiman]]

- Katy Bowman

- Ryan Holiday

- Seth Godin

- Gary Vaynerchuk

- Ali Abdaal

- Tim Ferriss

- James Altucher

Try to pick

What do children model

Book Luke Burgess Wanting

when Alex was a kid he modelled for example my older cousin and people from movies

today:

ALex doesn't model people he knows personally

Sharon:

Freshmanistan

Celebristan

George Carlin / Richard Prior

Die 2 - Tony Curtis - Roger Moore

Modelling Karate Kid

and wishing for Mr Miyagi

Yoda

Dumbledore

They are very caring and protective

You can model yourself but not the circumstances

Do nothing - conversations / workshop

Unhurried conversations

Slow food - slow interaction

Blogging for serendipty in ours

Modelling with intent

Writing. - not thinking about a target person for content - modelling neil gaiman for writing fiction conciously to get into the writing

Using neil gaiman's fountain pen

Art Matters

you are what you risk

The Artist's way

Ann Handley Newsletter

Taking notes in a converstaions

Follow multiple conversations

and people who cannot follow

Greetings friends! This one is a great example for all those rabbitholes we manage to go down in one episode :)

Here a some Bullet points about the topics we discuss.

Have fun!

Comedians - Deep Questions without bashing someone

Political parties don't work anymore -

Especially not the large people's parties

The result:

One size fits all solutions like Putin, Trump, Berlusconi, Orban

What we need:

Stories that reach a lot of people

Stories that give people ideas and ways to do things

Stories that give people characters they can identify themselves with

Or

Find characters they can wish / look for in their lifes

For example:

Harry Potter

Where Harry himself is identifiable because he is like a blank page

But

A huuuuuge ensemble of teachers, mentors and concepts he and the reader can identify with

And a lot of characters that work together with him who can offer the same to readers

Sharon's take:

Model after other people

In US: sports stars - celebrities

Wanting by Luke Burgess

Trevor Noah calls people out

gently - but hard truth

some deep thinkers - not all philosophers

see what you've got

and what you are doing with it

unspoken norms

Behavioral Science

How to challenge unspoken norms and be always curious and a little bit unsatisfied

how can this be enhanced?

living in a world that is not build for us

it's not fair - people are chaotic

poeple that are pushing things, enhance them

understand the duality

implementing agile in a company

there is no magic pill

having exponential hope

Silver Lining:

Lots of people coming together

What can we learn from this?

When things are chaotic:

What can you change?

Believe System

sense of identiy and reality

What's important and whats interesting

people in power get to declare what's important

The word repent

changed from greek EVOLVE

to crawl

words twisted by people in power to control people

make discoussions fun, light

and not threatening

invite marginalized and neurodivergent thinking

we are living in a historical phase

how do we handle the pushback of the people in power

we have control about where we put our attention

who we surround ourselves with

who we choose as our models

how many of those five support your dreams and make you seen?

Greeting friends and sorry that we can't bring you a higher quality of shownotes this week but Alex is soooo tired.

Greta Thunberg

Superpower - neurodiversity

Media and reality TV don't effect neurodivergent

ND are no slave to the things society dishes up

live content like in Clubhouse or Twitch

Armchair experts

brenee brown hard things - unlocking us

new podcast - the one you feed

about breathing - johnny miller (curious humans) - nervous system mastery - 481

mindful surfer - 76 why some surfers are more stoked

joy - passion - self care

being focussed on ONE thing or multiple things at the same time

seeing patterns

behaviroal science passion

connectiveness

picture of god

ND in the workplace

what can we give - what do we need?

motorcycle analogy

what is the dynamics of getting back on track

bring our childhood bullshit into every situation

Martial arts

practicing under stress

LARP in small groups

braking practicing

brenee brown - vulnerability

what does a proactive vulnerability position feels like?

how can you practice vulnerability?

there needs to be awareness

ease into it

storytelling - choose something like a low hanging fruit

Giving the gift of the decision

Presents that show you thought about somebody and know them

sending unexpected random stuff in the mail

What brings delight and joy to people

Washing machine manual checklist

Chocolate, Coffee, Tea

A FEW MOMENTS LATER

The Piglet Birthday :-D

Bad gifts make good stories afterwards in life

The hard things about pawn shops, thrift stores and flea markets

The power of stories for next time

today with an extro!

Can neurodivergent people live better with a feeling of being needless in a work environment for example

The 2 meanings of the German word "überflüssig"

People who work in mining and the people in eastern Germany after the german reunion

"My inner life is so rich I dont nessecarily need other people"

Not all neurodivergent people are introvert

Family culture and what you get as a child

Who are you when you do not work?

Extrinsic or intrinsic motivation

Childlike joy of creating

Omagine something for whom this is - blogging for example

Disrupting Flow States

Alex personal knowledge management system

obsidian, bujo, common place book, sketchbook

How to remove shame

Shéhérazade - Saboteurs - Psitive Intelligence PQ program

and the Sage side

Hanna Gadsby - Netflix-Specials

#Book : 10 steps to the Net

Female Comedians

Podcast with Glennon Doyle - Words and Languaging

Interesting vs Important - NDs in the first group

Gaslighting

https://itunes.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewPodcast?id=1564530722&i=1000555544362

Alex Ressource of ideas vs executions

Brevi Manu Store in Bielefeld

Recharge - Hanna Gadsby

A new definition of what's important

Instigate: Fragrance Finder in the Store

HSP are not in the targetgroup

A dillution solution to weaken the smell

Neuroscience and Car Companies

Sense Workshop

planting seeds and instigating conversations

The "I don't care" is really strong in us

Connecting Skills

Specilization is for insects

Ask people / Companie: "What is INTERESTING for you?"

What is the difference between interesting and fascinating?

Benjamin Zander - Work (How to give an A)

https://youtu.be/qTKEBygQic0

Parking Downhill:

How can we make "important" things more easy and interesting to us?

Greeeetings Friends! We start with a short and graphic ;) description of what is going on on the feline side of Sharon's household Alex shares a slightly dark story.

The Story is about how a Neurodiversity like Aphantasia theoretically could lead to really bad implications.

Especially for rehabilitation in Prison.

How Montessori Teachers are trained in recognizing the neurodiverse skills in Sensitive Periods

We should get a Montessori Teacher on the show.

If you know somebody - please let us know: mail@alex-kahl.de

Montessori in School

Reading with ADHD and reading to each other

and:

Reading to each other

Goodreads Account

Sharon's segway into

**Metaphors**

Writing Prose

Alex got a Typewriter - Olivetti Lettera 32

Book

Wonderworks by Angus Fletcher

https://amzn.to/3FC0pDl

Yes and,

we have SO MANY more opportunities for telling us anecdotes, metaphors, stories

when stories can be annoying

when they are overused

Storytelling Bootcamp

Not training the Tiktok Algorithm

Digital Garden Metaphor

Building Metaphor Tools

how to write out the best metaphors

to keep us interested

Excessorize me drawings :)

https://www.youtube.com/@excessorizeme

Temple Grandin

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Temple_Grandin

who has aphantasia and got read a lot of books to you as a child - let us know your experience

aaaaand:

all you engineers and technical people out there:

how are you working with metaphors and stories?

Don't explain something to ALex like he is 5 years old :)

Islands of knowledge

Quantum physics

and

Exotic sicknesses like in HOUSE MD.

imagine an auditorial learner with a blocked ear and forced to learn visually

Greetings Friends! In this Episode of Seasong 01 of FRT we talked about mistakes and resiliency.

How do Kids deal with making mistakes

When does the shame set in instead of curiosity?

What kids can learn from experiments with mudpiles

0The importance of patience and time

Design thinking

Decision making

Tipp / Tool:

play GET LOST

What stresses people out about decisions

Buyers remorse

Alex wristwach experiment - treasure hunting (also applicable to fountain pens, typewriters and much more :)

Training out the mistakes

Alex first class experience

Canned decisions

Making decisions with OCD

Own your anxieties

Training of low profile decision making

Writing it down

Differnet types of dyslexia - I just dont care

Bought a REALLY good spellchecker for Mac

Do what we can do

**yes AND mindset**:

it is SO important to be selfaware

to make GOOD decisions

Indiana Jones Mindset:

It is an adventure and a treasure hunt

the TRAPS are more interesting than the ARTIFACT!

Youtube video about how realistic are treasure movies - an Archaeologist breaks down movie scenes:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DmKU44ZeuRQ

Neurodiverse people and decision maing

regretting a decision?

When to experiment and when not?

Greetings Friend! 

Yaay! We have a YouTube channel! And we love you to subscribe and share it!  :)

https://www.youtube.com/@freerangethinkingpodcast

So you can also SEE us in out cozy recording caves :-D

So we got the inspiration for this episode from a comment on the YouTube Channel called "How to ADHD"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OEHD8B33-wc&t=2s

Alex often heard how he changed in the last years especially from his old friends

Friendship making with Neurodiversions

Prinz: Autsmus Pandemie / Ist Autismus jetzt In?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DKWOyZr0QUg

Celebrating the labels or dropping the labels

How Technology can making friendshipmaking even easier

The danger of online friendships all around the world

Finding your tribe

Culture of US High School

Change your group of friends

THe Courage to be disliked

How to make / maintain friendships 

What do I need in a friendships?

Interestingness :-)

Out of sight out of mind

Life is already hard enough

Don't make it harder for each other as friends

Maybe we are suspicious to Neurotypical people

Social anxiety 

Tip: Abstraction

Being social for my daughter

Try PnP Roleplaying

Want to come out and play?

Let's have a coffee?

Sharon's tip on ending social events.

## Links

- YoutTube Comment

- The courage to be disliked https://www.amazon.de/Courage-Be-Disliked-yourself-happiness-ebook/dp/B074TWG8V7/ref=sr_1_1?__mk_de_DE=ÅMÅŽÕÑ&crid=16F0OOEC335VL&keywords=courage+to+be+disliked&qid=1678638620&sprefix=courage+to+be+dislike%2Caps%2C273&sr=8-1

Geetings friends! This episode is from our archives after Alex's COVID Infection in 2022. In isolation he found out that he is an somewhat of an artist and has a lot of questions for sharon about the connections between art and neurodiversity. 

Art in Isolation and Neil Gaiman

Bullet Journaling Ryder Carroll Style (Who also has ADHD and his Book about the Bullet Journaling Method)

Doodling in the night with Peter

https://www.peterdraws.com - https://www.youtube.com/@peter_draws

Drawing YouTuber Danny Gregory

https://www.youtube.com/@DannyGregory

Ales got COVID _and_ Creativity

Alex Question to Sharon:

When are you an artist?

We are what we ever claim ourselves to be

I am an astronaut!

Tom Sachs https://www.tomsachs.com

Where your passion lies

selling artwork is not a qualification

Definition of an artist

someone who creates

Geeking out about fountain pens

and 

refilling the cartridges with siringes

Are left handed people automatically Neurodivergent?

Neurodivergents are creative experts in hacking the system.

Digitization 

Life as art

2 Boxes of journals of Sharon's mom's journal

what's the purpose of keeping Art / Archives / Journals

Maybe: Evolution of our thinking

Justifying yourself for your art and joy

A dance with your self

The best form of meditation: 

Being in the now

Are artists always neurodiverse persons?

The invitation to play and make mistakes

The art of people and fascilitation

Moderating workshops

Having Plan A, B and C

The danger of forcing ideas on people

Solution:

Your bag of Tricks

We start with Sharon's next level French Pastry Leftover Recipe :)

Followed by a brief recap of Sharon's trip to the NFT Convention in Paris

https://www.nftparis.xyz

Encouraging underwehelm

Alex's conference tips for neurodivergent people

Sharon is going to reengineer the perfect event for neurodiverse poeple

Dissolving the Pitch Persona

Sharon's profession as an Ambience Alchemist

What are you willing to be surprised with?

A project from the NFT convention: 

Moonpage for writers - https://www.moonpage.io

What might be the Facebook for the web3?

Being a resource for a specific group other people

that coaches each other

curating the superskills, energies and inspiration

Innovating the languaging and describing

Butterflies and Bumblebees

Alex Pig butchering re:publica Story

Low Tech behind the scenes allows the Tech to flourish

Give yourself selfpermission to make the switch to connect with the intrinsic motivation.

Designing for all

How to think like a connective Futurist

Equality vs Equity - MacGyvering

Tech for the infrastructure of change

Planting the seed of selfvalue in Kids - especially Girls

How to see the Silver Lining in mistakes

Being punished for doing it different

Resulting in a self-doubt cycle

Introverts and extroverts

Ego and the protectiveness around us

Do we have a headstart as neurodivergent?

Make micromistakes every day

Mistakes are a bruise - not a tattoo

When Alex's daugther is twenty - what would he wish for her

What resiliency tools would i like her to have

Healing habits that are no longer useful, that are only in the neuronormative world

Give people courage and helping them to explore Neurodiversity and name the discomfort

When WE claim our superpower - we can much more easily accept that OTHERS are some kind of different as well and help them to use THEIR superpower

without having the feeling that we are threatened by them

Get us out of shame and give us pride!

"Can't you just..."

"If you would just do a bit..."

Can you just TRY to do X a bit better"

Find the usefulness in your Neurodiversities

School System should have:

Life as an essay - questions

What did you learn on the job

Why does it matter?

What was good

BUILD A RESILIENCY MODEL!

Mining Sharon's experience and survial tactics

Sitting on a goldmine of information of people who are marginalized

People weren't happy before the pandemic

Just a short Greetings friend!

Greetings Friend! This is on of our first Episodes, so it might sound a bit different than those you are used to already :) It was recorded on Febrauary 7th in 2022. 

We talk about things like: 

Travelling as a Neurodivergent

Fire house delivery gear

Being born in a multichildren family not diagnosed

Being in a big city like Paris

Do you think differently while travelling in comparison to being at home?

Habits of peole who are not so aware

Neurodivergents, Primal behaviours and hierarchies

What are your models in your Life?

What are the models?

Identifying with characters in stories liek Disneys Raya and the last Dragon

Sometimes it is just not possible for people on the spectrum to walk across the room and hug somebody

00:00:00 - We wander in and introduce Nick Perry, Agile Coach and a neurodivergent human being

00:03:30 - Nicks Neurodivergent Launrdy List

High Sensor Processing Sensitivity

Sharper senses than 85%

Downside: Working memory is super small

00:06:47 - can you forget on purpose?

He flipped his personality and conciously changed to not be an arsehole

The skill and curse to recall everything

00:10:30 - Nick to teacher in elementary school: "No, I don't learn like that"

How was school for Sharon and Alex

00:14:30 - Alex Montessori experience as an adult

00:18:30 - Nick's mathematical observation of the world

00:20:20 - How it might have been for Sharon's neurotypical sister growing up together

00:23:20 - Aphantasia in the school system 

00:27:30 - The upsides of Aphantasia and the compensations

00:31:00 - Neurodivergent are good improvisers

00:33:00 - When a teacher tells a neurodivergent to do what's in the book :)

00:36:00 - How schol was for Sharon with Dyscalculia

00:38:30 - Does it matter if you don't explain HOW you got to your soultion in math and other subjects

00:40:20 - Trying to make things happen is HARD. LETTING things happen is much more easier

00:42:25 - Too much sensory input in School

very similar to ADHD in some regards

Chemical reactions in the brain und pressure and fear

00:47:30 - Unlearn to get deeper into the unkown

How to read books with ADHD

[Blinkist Book Summary App](https://www.blinkist.com/de/)

[YouTube Channel Procutivity Game ](https://www.youtube.com/c/ProductivityGame)

00:53:00 - The bone Sharon has to pick with Blinkist ;)

00:56:20 - The Problem for Alex with complete books

and the solution in Zettelkasten Method

01:00:00 - How Nick reads and digest a book

01:03:00 - Neurodivergents add something to the tribe

Sharons party story

01:06:00 - Maybe abilities that almost look psychic have something to do with neurodiversity

London School of Psychic Studies

Decoding Human Behavior and its obivous patterns

01:12:30 - Would it have helped you when the teacher would have explained the WHY?

01:16:30 - There are more of us out there and if you saw one you can't unsee it :)

01:17:45 - Being born in complexity: How do you use your tools as an agile working coach

Complexity and Chaos and making sense of them with the help of high sensitivity

Growth mindset, values and principles

What is possible from here?

[Cynefin framework](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cynefin_framework)

every moment like reborn and start from now

agnostic what agile is

01:21:00 - Trying to make the unkown known

chaos: JUST TAKE AN ACTION - see if you can find some knowledge

the drowning example = get something floating instead of making a plan

in Chaos the best thing is to take action

fixed way of thinking vs growth thinking - do something unexpected

Neuroplasticity

00:00 - Intro

00:01:45
Parking Downhill: Partnering for Neurodiverse Entrepreneurs

00:04:00
building something with the comfort zone of a loose structure

00:07:55
Stupid SMART Goals

00:10:33
Finding project partners für neurodivergent people
Startup Mindset for TIme - win-win-win
The "People who you would choose to be stranded in an airport with" hiring strategies of companies

00:19:00
We can teach you skills, but we can't teach you to fit into the company culture

00:25:00
Working with people you dont like

00:31:00
Learning through pain with Gordon Ramsay :-D

00:38:00
Dealing with high level baseline of  impatience

00:45:00
The power of Self-Awareness and Self-Editing
Who are you intrisically motivated FOR
The (good and power) of:
What would people think?

00:48:00
Making mistakes is your job as a teenager:
Diversification of Identity and self
Being an instigator and support system
Change a lot of people a bit
or change a small group of people a lot
You can't force individuals or companies to change
Emergence Collaboration

00:56:00
Change companies to agile
Future of Work
Best example why agile has its flaws Alex ever heard

01:04:00
Sharon's best filter criteria for people to workshop with

- open
- curious
- interested

01:17:00
Helping Groups to teach each other is the key to self-eduction

Parking downhill
neurodiversity and self-eduction
Test projects for neurodiverse people

Here we are again with an interesting question:

What is a baseline? What are your baselines?

For example: ANGER

How quickly do you return to your baseline / default?

00:04:20 - Baselines are formed in Childhood

The Joy baseline: 

Why am I not consictently happy?

Being aware of the baselines: 

Life consists of peaks and valleys - to return to.

00:07:30 - Is it that bad to change someone else?

Change us or help us being more adaptlabe?

00:14:00 - Picking Mentors and Collaborateurs

What is more problematic - where is the most suffering?  Family, worklife, friends

- misunderstood

- not the right support

- using your feats right

Neurodivergent in the worklife

00:18:30 - Default for Sharon is focussing on what she can do and how to hack it

You can change your defaults. 

Baselines are not so easy

Logicking into a corner is a default

00:28:30 - Keep mentally hydrated

Change the Buttons or the Default Behavior

What's your Level of Selfcare?

Keep baselines like Sleep, Nutrition, Relaxtion in check

00:35:00 - Difficulties in Neurodiverse Stuff

A lot of Shame is involved

Defaults for Sharon should be: 

Curiosity and Amusement

00:47:00 - When did it turn around for Sharon?

00:50:00 - What when two different baselines collide

Example: Not hearing so well can develop the  Superpower of being able to Read People 

People bringt THEIR shit to the table we have no control over

Default:

- be curious

- ask questions

01:03:00 - Hardwired Brains vs Neuroplasticity

More Energy to process stuff = more sleep

What if you have a hearing disability AND are a  auditory learner?

01:17:00 - Languaging around Neurodiversity

01:24:00 - Growing up in different high - or low functioning environments

Base of Self-Value and Condifdence

01:28:00 Engineers and what is a good fit partnership for Neurodiverse Entrepreneurs

Parking Downhill: 

Being / becoming an Artist - with Neurodiversity

Come in and get a front row seat in Sharon’s and Alex’s head! It is a RICH space in here! :-)

Sorry about the crackling noises sometimes. That was Sharon’s Scarf on the Mic and Alex didn’t realized tzhat while recording - they were so deep in the Conversation.

00:00:00 Intro and why we haven’t got a proper Intro (yet) :)

00:02:14 - Parking Downhill: How can we be more inclusive with Neurodiversities or: How can we as neurodivergent include more neuronormative people?

00:09:00 - What if “the others” don’t know about neurodiversity and: A (possible) solution and Sharon’s Tools of the Trade

00:12:00 - What if you don’t have Time, Conversation and Listening - so: No kind of Trust

00:16:00 - There are patterns and stuff is gonna surface… WHEN you create an environment and keep asking quesions with an open mind

00:22:00 What gave us energy when we were kids (and why Sharon phrases the question this way)

00:23:00 - Why do we like mysteries so much?

00:25:00 - Hic sunt Dracones - Here be Dragons - in ourselfs - Maturity and settling down

and:

the 3 Curiosiuties

00:36:00 - Emotional immaturity and growing up with Sharon as a sister

00:38:45 - Getting people aware of the is something like Neurodiversity

00:39:30 - Are you controlling your emotions as well?

00:41:00 - Emotional differences between being a man and a woman in controlling emotions

00:44:00 - Couple challenges between emotional and rational partners

00:46:00 - Hypersensitivity and being logical

00:49:45 - Catpsychology: How Sharon learned as a kid to reflect on her own

00:51:30 - That is SO Montessori!

00:55:00 - The Laboratory of Life … and the right, curious questions that make you wanna talk: What do you think about today?

00:58:00 - Give people TIME to explore quesitons and: The Montessori Beads

00:59:45 - Compressed Time

01:01:00 - Derekt Sivers and his mocent recent book How to Live

01:03:00 - Inviting people into your world

01:06:00 - Share on! Sharon :-) and the explanation of Kalauers - we get Lost in Translation for a short moment :)

01:07:30 - Sharing inspite of imposter Syndrome and: Having it in my Head is ENOUGH

01:15:00 - Building a structure and storytelling for FLOW-states

01:21:00 - Behaviroual Econmoics how do we make the decisions that we make and HumanOS

01:26:00 - Renovate your Life: Midlife Crisis

01:30:00 - What are good open questions? and giving permission to challenging, negative emotions

01:35:00 - Parking Downhill: How did Sharon’s mother know all that?

and

are we going to make Shirts with: “Sharon’s Mom said ”

00:00:00 - Intro - The Parking Downhill Note

00:01:30 - Alex is haunted by a Washingmachineghost - live on the record!

00:03:30 - Note taking Systems, Stress and Anxiety coming from keeping a structural organization

00:09:30 - What does “work on your system” mean?

00:13:30 - How to use different times of the day for your individual energy-levels

00:16:45 - Give yourself jobs to your selfconcious

00:21:40 - Reading for calming down the mind

00:27:15 - How do you capture ideas when you are scared to forget them with ADD?

00:31:00 - Having our Tools of today as a Kid (and being ALLOWED to use them)

00:37:00 - Possibilities we now have with digital tools - without any romantic :)

00:46:00 - Fortunately the education system is adapting to ne new possibilites to learn for kids

00:51:10 - Learning from the naturally best teachers. And what it means to be a really good teacher

00:58:00 - Just imagine whar artists are capable of doing dotay

01:10:00 - How can we make digital tools more inclusive to everybody on every device but to Neuroodiverse people especially

01:20:00 - The idea for a solution: AI Translator that translate in realtime to any neurodiverse brain

01:26:00 - The fear of the unknown

01:29:00 - The reason why in Germany the police could get your kids to school and the problems with the digitalisation in modern educational systems

This episode starts with Sharon telling a story about Behavorial Modification with Bracelets. It turned out so fascinating, that we kept it in the podcast.

Then we dive into a lot nutrtion-topics for neurodivergent people.

00:03:00 - Intro with Behavioral Modification with a Bracelet of Beads

00:08:00 - Sliding smoothly into the Maintopic Nutrition and Neurodiversity through Micromovements

00:11:30 - The distraction factor of nibbling and the general effects of Nutrition, Paleo diet, Low Carb and MCT Oil as Jet Fuel on the Brain

00:13:30 - Alex experiences with Paleo Diet, Reset Challenges and getting rid of a fridge by accident

00:16:00 - Nutrient Equality and some of Sharon's recommendations

00:25:00 - Nutrition in the Workspace

00:34:30 - What is your Food-Nemesis and how poeple suffer from it

00:37:00 - What about Dopamine_Baseline und Sharon’s mom’s nutrition strategy

00:46:10 - Snacks that are just designed to make you want more of it

00:51:00 - Dealing with Family and Friends when you change your Diet-Habits

01:00:00 - Parallels between the industrial education and food system -> Industrialized Humans

01:05:30 - Failures of our parents

01:12:00 Community Healers and Eyerolling

01:19:00 - Going Paleo and getting rid of the Fridge

01:23:00 - Override Impulse-Eating and Sugar in Kids

01:26:00 - (Self) Awareness as a Superpower

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Welcome to the first episode of Free Range Thinking - a Podcast which starting point is Neurodiversity and from there we - that is your hosts Sharon and Alex and you the listeners - go right off into the weeds and down different rabbit holes ;)

One of our first goals with the podcast is to find some languaging and words around the whole topic of Neurodiversity.  

So please send us your feedback, your questions, what you are experimenting with yourself, your experiences with Neurodiverstiy, your languaging around it and everything else you think we should talk about. 

You can reach Sharon via LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharon-leigh-pp4l/
and Alex via Mail@alex-kahl.de 

OK, let's go!

Here are the Shownotes and the chapter-marks for our pilot episode WHOOOHOOO!:

00:00:00 - Why are Sharon and Alex doing this Podcast about Neurodiversity?

00:02:30 - Putting language around Neurodiversity by Sharon describing her ADD 

00:05:00 - Alex take on finding new neurodivergent Features and learning about himself

00:09:30 - Which neurodivergent Feat did Sharon noticed first? - ADD, Dyslexia (Number-Dyslexia, the Aspberger Spectrum, Tourette)

00:16:30 - HSP Highly Sensitve Person

00:20:30 - ADD as a Superpower, Thinking really fast and the Scientist Mentality

0:24:45 - Painting a Map of Neurodiversity - Alex first Features he discovered. Drawing with Aphantasia

00:29:00 - Dealing with emotional people is hard for Alex

00:31:00 - Earning a degree and just BEING something. A Heart Surgeon for example

00:35:55 - Being a Polymath, Renaissance Person, Scanner Personality

00:37:30 - How the Internet helps being neurodivergent - e.g. because of Niklas Luhmann's story

00:42:00 - Spezialization - Being alive NOW - the effect of the pandemic on neurodivergent people and the bandwitdth people have to deal with right now

00:46:00 - The beautiful thing about podcast and going aaaaaaall over the places ADD-Style :-)

00:47:45 - Resilience is suddenly eeeeeverywhere - braught up by Neuronormatives

00:49:00 - IT SHOULD BE LIKE _THIS!_ - or should it?

00:55:30 - Reigning yourself in means you can't think freely

01:01:00 - Learning that you are on some spectrum and how to use it for your benefit without a lot of shame

Aren't all people neurodiverse in some aspect or the other?

01:08:00 - How to break the grey, ultrastructured mold of society and how it is hard for neuronormative people to deal with diversity

01:13:00 - The value in scientific stories - Micronutrients and ADD / ADHD

01:19:00 - Neurodiverse Management and not all C-Levels are living by the sea :-D

01:24:00 - The ripple-effect of Life-Changes like  nutrients like MCT-Oil and Energy-Boosting

01:27:30 - Parking downhill for the next Episode:

 Nutrition!

01:35:00 - Our thoughts on our first Episode :-D

01:37:00 - I AM A LEGION - or how Sharon's last name is pronounced in different cultures and languages :-D a

01:39:30 - We as Neurodivergent carve our own Path through collaborative learning by experimenting