Feminist Survival Podcast

Can focusing on pleasure help your brain counteract depression? Is it worth taking a moment to enjoy every donut even if it doesn’t? Emily and Amelia discuss.

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SPONSOR:

This episode is brought to you by “The Siren and the Deep Blue Sea,” the latest book in the Embraced by Magic Series by Kerrelyn Sparks.

https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781496730060/the-siren-and-the-deep-blue-sea/

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Entenmann’s donuts:

https://www.entenmanns.com/en/products/8-crumb-donuts?category=8

Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome:

https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-03-human-giver-syndrome

Iggy Pop, King Biscuit Flower Hour: 

https://www.allmusic.com/album/king-biscuit-flower-hour-mw0000029108

How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind:

https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/manage-home-without-losing-mind/

Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex:

https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-41-bikini-industrial-complex

Episode 10: Rest IS the Revolution:

https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-10-rest-is-revolution

Disney's Polynesian Resort Music Loop (Full 3 Hour Edition):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QrAkWFQpi0w

A Social History of Background Music:

http://passport2dreams.blogspot.com/2017/10/a-social-history-of-background-music.html

What is the nature of hope? Amelia’s off this week, so Emily discusses with her mysterious Marital Euphemism.

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How We Hope: A Moral Psychology by Adrienne Martin:

https://www.amazon.com/How-We-Hope-Moral-Psychology/dp/0691171394

Irascible Appetites:

https://aquinasonline.com/sense-appetites-passions/

Episode 08: The Monitor:

https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor

Oregon Trail Generation:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xennials

Marital Euphemism:

https://twitter.com/rstevens

Did you watch the interactive Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt? How does making good choices for Kimmy apply to real life? Emily and Amelia discuss. (Tons of spoilers for Kimmy Vs. The Reverend)

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Kimmy Vs. The Reverend:

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10324166/

EMDR Therapy:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing

Emily’s romance novels:

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27208942-how-not-to-fall

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25985351-how-not-to-let-go

Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome:

https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-03-human-giver-syndrome

What do owls and cheese have to do with surviving the hellscape of 2020? How can we work to run toward the things that make it worth surviving. Emily and Amelia discuss.

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Episode 5: What's Your Something Larger?

https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-05-something-larger

Pacific Overtures "Someone in a Tree" - Ann Harada, Austin Ku, Kelvin Moon Loh & Thom Sesma:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-PNX9PPCEls&feature=emb_title

Love Illuminated (part 1):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F8I4zFUxU9g&list=PLY864P3qWCN7iwXSXbQ8ZFA7J1YeYM8

Sadie the Dog:

https://www.instagram.com/burnoutbookgroup/

It turns out feelings are real and (spoiler warning) emotional support is really important! Emily and Amelia discuss. There's science to support it. Emily and Amelia discuss.

This episode is brought to you by Kensington’s newest title from Lindsay McKenna, Wind River Undercover.

https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/book.aspx/39281

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Gourmet Makes:

https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes

Shrinkchicks

(Season 1, Episode 20)

https://open.spotify.com/episode/61wmkKTydqaWbZ4pgorSKX

Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges

https://www.stephenporges.com/

“Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the others” is attributed to Winston Churchill, who wasn't too great himself. And this year it might feel like the Democratic presidential candidate is the worst one on the ballot except for the other one.

What’s a feminist to do?Emily, Amelia, and Amelia's colleague Mark discuss. 

(Content warning: this episode includes discussion of sexual violence )

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what to do when someone tells you they were sexually assaulted:

https://medium.com/@enagoski/what-to-do-when-someone-tells-you-they-were-sexually-assaulted-794d41e58c05

Amelia’s friend and fellow musician Allegra joins us this week and shares her perspective on social distancing and burnout.

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Wozzeck Trailer (The Royal Opera):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YzU31UrXceo

Predictably Irrational:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Predictably_Irrational

The Ballad of the Brown King:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ballad_of_the_Brown_King

The Concert Choir of Georgetown University - Millennium Stage:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPDZ2iwSMXA

Vegetarian JapChae recipe:

http://aeriskitchen.com/2017/03/vegetarian-japchae/

We're all in uncharted territory these days. Amelia has a music metaphor to help cope with these times of social distancing. Emily helps break it down. Special appearance by Beethoven. (not the dog)

We're all wearing masks now. But why are we wearing them and how can we do so most effectively. Emily and Amelia get into it, cowboy outlaw-style.

Emily (from her bed) and Amelia (from her kitchen) discuss the importance of social distancing, as well as why it's so hard. And Amelia tops it off with a classic 90s Bette Midler jam.

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Episode 20: How to Numbing

https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-20-numbing

SOCIAL DISTANCE - A Randy Rainbow Song Parody

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WimbyL_25Nw

Colin Firth Swimming

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hasKmDr1yrA

Emily and Amelia’s first ever guest! They talk with the amazing Peggy Kleinplatz, one of the authors of the new book, Magnificent Sex.

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Magnificent Sex
Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers, 1st Edition

By Peggy J. Kleinplatz and A. Dana Ménard

https://www.routledge.com/Magnificent-Sex-Lessons-from-Extraordinary-Lovers-1st-Edition/Kleinplatz-Menard/p/book/9780367181376

Emily and Amelia discuss social distancing while social distancing. Plus: Bonus word games and ukulele music.

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Mickey Mouse - Ku'u Lei Melody | Song

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h8FasCHHsPk

Time is the only completely limited resource. What matters more to you, time or stuff? Are you willing to compromise to fit the expectations of others? Emily and Amelia discuss.

How do you listen to your body? It’s easy for some people and a completely alien concept for others. Emily and Amelia discuss.

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The Communication of Emotion by Ross Buck

https://www.amazon.com/Communication-Emotion-Ross-Buck/dp/0898621100

Interoception

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interoception

Proprioception

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proprioception

Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster

https://www.classicalvocalrep.com/products/Singing-Redefined-by-Walter-C-Foster-369633.html

Peggy Kleinplatz

https://www.aasect.org/member-spotlight-peggy-kleinplatz

Numbing. Emotional ibuprofen. Maladaptive coping strategies. They’re short-term solutions, but sometimes reducing the pain is the only way you can rest enough to heal.

FSP2020 joins the Frolic network:

https://frolic.media

Gourmet Makes with Claire Saffitz:

https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes

Explain Pain Super Charged:

https://www.amazon.com/Explain-Charged-Butler-Lorimer-Moseley/dp/0648022706

It's the inevitable politics episode. Amelia is an idealist. Emily's a pragmatist. But guess what? They both want to do the right thing.

Amelia takes the lead on this one. How does creative self-expression help you complete the stress response cycle? (Hint: It has to do with recognizing that emotions are real.)

Burnout and trauma are not the same thing. Emily and Amelia discuss the difference and some ways to help. (Apologies for the audio quality on this one. We had some microphone difficulties.)

How much sleep do you need? What's the "right" way to sleep? Emily and Amelia talk about sleep debt, sleep personalities, and a just a touch of Jane Eyre.

What makes a relationship safe and renewing? Emily and Amelia explain using Cupcake Economics.

Rage. It's a maligned and misunderstood emotion. What's your relationship with your rage? What's your rage's relationship with... poop?

Frustration. Everybody feels it. Emily and Amelia discuss the science of how frustration works, and strategies for managing it.

Worksheets from their book Burnout are here: https://www.burnoutbook.net/downloads

It's almost Thanksgiving here in these United States. Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies for dealing with people you disagree with during the holidays. In the words of Luke Skywalker, "This is not going to go the way you think."

Impeachment has begun. What's your relationship with the news right now? Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies. Spoiler alert: It's OK to dial it back and take care of yourself.

There's a lot of research that says meaning and purpose is good for your mental health. But how do we define that? Emily, Amelia, and Moana are here to figure that out.

Today... we’re gonna look squarely into the abyss. We’ve all got one. Let’s talk about it.

In this episode, the question is: What’s the biggest cultural barrier between feminists and their ability to complete the stress response cycles?

So if solving actual stressors isn’t enough to deal with the stress in your body, what does deal with it? How do we complete the stress response cycle? This episode is a catalog of a dozen concrete, specific, evidence-based strategies for doing just that.

Wellness is a state of action. The cure for burnout isn’t self-care, it’s all of us caring for each other. And when we embrace those things, we’re not taking a break from fixing the world, we are already fixing the world.

What is the Feminist Survival Project 2020?

Emily and Amelia Nagoski explain the project and how you can help.