Gupshup with Laddoo
By Mamma Bear & Laddoo
Language: Mostly English, but there's a fair bit of Hindi in it too.
Gupshup with LaddooAug 29, 2021
Ep. 5 | Tell me your Dreams (and more)
For quite some time now, Laddoo has been talking about the stuff in her dreams. It has always been tiny little tid-bits, fleeting mentions of a little thing here or there, and even though I found the little bits I heard extremely fascinating, because of all things pandemic, pregnancy, and postpartum (I love the alliteration here #iamweird) we both never sat down to actually talk about it.
Thanks to this countdown (and Laddoo randomly demanding that I put her to sleep almost an hour after her father tried his luck) I did! I pretended how annoyed I was that she wasn't asleep yet, but inside I actually jumped at the chance because it meant I could to talk to her and record something for the podcast.
And because Laddoo is MY daughter, we digressed quite a bit. So in addition to the stuff Laddoo’s dreams are made of (which is quite interesting and funny in itself) we also talk about baking cakes, and Laddoo’s morning, afternoon, evening, and night lists. Yes, like me, she too is a list-maker and loves checking things off, and the sad truth of my life is that she gets to check off every item on her list every single day whereas I struggle to do even one a day, let alone more than one.
You’ll know what I’m talking about when you give it a listen. Enjoy Laddoo’s infectious laughter! 😁
Ep. 4 | Amma in Review
In 36 days, it’s going to be 5 years since I delved into this parenting thing. When I keep thinking about how Laddoo is going to be 5, ALL I can think of are 5-year-plans, 5 years of government, etc.
So I decided to make a 5-year-plan for Laddoo.
And as a part of this 5-year-plan I thought it’d be a good idea to get a performance review from Laddoo (and so far that’s the only thing I have).
Over the last year and a half, in addition to the pandemic, our family has gone through some major events that have collectively changed the family dynamic. I, personally, have changed a lot as a person and therefore as a parent as well. I have been a much more conscious parent than before, but there have been instances where I wasn’t able to give my best, and instances (though, rare) where I behaved pretty horribly (and then offered a sincere apology + tried to do better next time). So I do have a pretty good idea of how I have fared. But I wanted to know what LADDOO feels about me and what she thinks I did not do well, so I can work on doing better.
So I asked her. Her responses are funny and she’s laughing throughout the conversation, but for real answers I have to read between the lines. Not just that, I am going to make this a regular thing - asking her for a performance review - so I am aware of what she needs from me as her mother.
Because recently, I read something that hit home.
“Just because you love me does not mean I feel loved by you.”
And I want Laddoo to FEEL loved. Not in the way ‘I’ want to love her, but in the way she NEEDS me to love her. And there’s a BIG difference between the two.
What do you think?
Ep. 3 | Preparing Laddoo for the arrival of her sibling
Laddoo and I talk about the baby that's going to arrive soon, how I will be away at the hospital for a few days while I give birth and recover, and how life will be once the baby and I are back home.
Ep. 2 | Book Discussion: 'The Teeth Bugs and The Bunny' by Rashmi Chand
At the start of this conversation, I had a very specific topic in mind. Laddoo had already finished dinner, had a bath, brushed her teeth, and was ready for bed. In another week or so, we’ll be moving back to our house and there, she has a bed of her own. Until now, we’ve been co-sleeping, but I want that to change so I thought it’d be an appropriate time to talk to her about sleeping in her own bed, in her own room, without me or her father being present.
To begin with, the conversation went well. But then it took a detour.
While talking about how she’ll sleep, she mentioned that she wanted me to read to her instead of singing and then she went and picked out a book that I wanted to review anyway. So I didn’t interfere with the turn it had taken, and now you can hear my almost-three-and-a-half-year-old indirectly tell you how awesome this book is, because she’s so fond of it that we read it every day.
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Ep. 1 | Preparing for Solo-Parenting
Well, you have fun conversations with them!
They’re not always fun, though. Sometimes, they drag on. Most times, you have to say the same things over and over again, until you think that they’ve got the point, and even then, it is likely that they will talk the talk, but walking the walk might be a tad bit complicated. But that's expected, right? After all, they're only pre-school-ers!
But it's exciting because you never know how they're going to react to something you said. Or if they will react to it at all.
You never know what they're going to say in return, that is, if they say anything at all.
You never know if it's going to be 100% fun or a 100% embarrassment!
BUT, despite the mystery, the repetitions and the CONSTANT DERAILING of the conversation, there’s one thing that’s guaranteed, and that's
Not for the parent/adult who, in the moment, probably feels like they’re talking to a wall that talks back and HOW! But for everyone else.
Okay, maybe for the parent too, if I’m being REALLY honest. Especially, if:
a. Their child is doing this to someone else, LOL, or
b. They listen to it AFTER the event.
A couple of nights ago, I was talking to Laddoo about how for a few days next week, it’s going to be just she and I because her dad is travelling for work. With the interior work of our house coming close to completion and our anniversary falling right during his travel, it’s going to be extremely hectic and emotionally draining for me, being the only adult around here.
I decided to talk to her about it and explain to her how we will both have to be strong and take care of each other for a few days, how she’ll have to listen to me when I say something, and for some odd reason, I decided to start recording it when we had already been talking for a couple of minutes, and lo, we have the first episode of my ‘Gupshup with Laddoo.’
I’ve been having many such conversations with Laddoo over the past few months and while this may seem new, it has been on my mind since before we launched the Real Moms Talk Podcast on @lifeofrealmoms. You have NO IDEA how long I’ve waited for Laddoo to start talking and to be able to do THIS might have been the only reason why I wanted her to start talking fatafat.
But as I’ve realised this week, things have a way of working themselves out. So what if I’m doing this a year later than I wanted to. At least it’s happening.
So here’s a peek into our ordinary, yet entertaining conversations as we talk about important and not-so-important things. As Laddoo’s mother, I obviously think she’s amazing and HILARIOUS. But you don’t have to take my word for it. Give this first episode a listen and decide that for yourself. And if you enjoyed this, please like and leave a comment. Not for me, for Laddoo **emoji**. And of course, tell others about it too.