Happiness - An Inside Job

It is only through developing our capacity to give AND to receive love that we can begin to reach our full potential as eternal beings. Do you define the relationships in your life by the good times or the bad ones? Let's be intentional and choose to let the good qualities of others have a louder voice in our heads than their flaws!

When we hear a name, we automatically make associations; good or bad. When people hear your name, how do YOU want to be known? In this life, we do not control what happens to us, but we do control how we show up! Who are you when life is good? Who are you when people are unkind? More importantly, when choosing intentionally, who do you WANT to be? Everyday, practice being that person until it is naturally who you really are!

Time is a limited resource. When we say YES to one thing, we are simultaneously saying NO to something else. Learn how to be intentional about how you spend your time. Make a decision; like your reasons; drop the guilt!!

Judgement and Love cannot coexist; just like light and darkness cannot be in the same space at the same time. When the slightest bit of judgement is present, we are not loving fully and completely. The great news is--we have total control over how we love those around us!

There's a huge difference between being with people and truly connecting with them. Listen to this episode to learn to work smarter rather than harder to truly connect with children, spouse, friends and everyone around you. Let's trade out the surface relationships for ones that are truly meaningful

We are our best selves when we are operating from CONFIDENCE. The best new is--this is a skill we can practice and become proficient in. Join me in this episode for tips to becoming more confident professionally and socially.

Our brains do not like gaps in our understanding. When things happen that we do not fully understand, our brains fill in the gaps. Many stories are just not true and some are horribly painful. Whether you are a returned missionary unpacking your mind as to what happened while you served or a spouse trying to improve your marriage, this episode will help you rewrite those stories and help you make a good life great.

This is a very personal episode where, with the permission of my daughter, I share the story of her confiding in me about her being bi-sexual and the journey that followed.

We cannot predict what circumstances may come our way and we don't need to!! When we decide ahead of time how we want to think and feel about people, WHAT to do becomes the easy part!!

Our brains are naturally wired to look for things we can control. We think control is what we need. We want more of it. Often, control in our relationships is the worst thing for us. It's counterintuitive and this approach works!!

So often we are paralyzed thinking we don't know the best way to help someone, so we do nothing. Funny thing is, failing to take action is the only sure way to know for sure, you are doing it all wrong. The most meaningful acts of service do not involve money or any grand gestures. They are simple things like writing a note or offering a sincere compliment. Warren is even volunteering at a preschool while he's recovering! There is no act of kindness too small to matter

Whatever we are looking for, our brains will find! Imagine how amazing our lives become when we count blessings instead of problems. The problems will still be there and they will pale in comparison to the many blessings we are focused on.

When I feel insecure, I notice I deflect and question compliments that come my way. In contrast, when I focus on confidence, not only am I able to genuinely compliment myself, I also can recognize and accept compliments coming at me during daily life. I challenge you to start noticing compliments and to write them down. It's just the confidence boost we could all use!!

Confidence is like a perfectly choreographed dance. After you've practiced it enough, confidence appears effortless. In the early stages, you count every beat and repeat over and over so you don't miss a step. To some it comes more naturally than to other, but to all, it is a skill that can be practiced enough to master it.

Pornography is a very well funded industry. It isn't going away anytime soon! Speaking openly about pornography is the only way to stop the lying, hiding and shame that inevitably accompany a pornography addiction. Join me on this podcast to learn the tools you need to help break this cycle of addiction.

To raise resilient children is to teach them life is full of challenges and there is nothing you can't learn and overcome! Ready.  Let's Go!!

When I was a child, I dreamed of being a princess and being part of the royal family. The day Lady Diana died was tragic for me! The part I was missing for so many years is that I AM ROYALTY!! Not only was I already royalty, every one of us is part of the Royal Kingdom of God. Join me on this podcast to discover: How does knowing we are royalty change the way we view the world ourselves? AND How does it change the way we parent?

Suddenly, many of us find ourselves living a life we didn't necessarily plan. Regardless, it's our reality for now. In this episode with my daughter, Kayla, we talk about how to make the best of this unintentional situation. We also explore how to move beyond just enduring to the end of this pandemic and actually have fun with it!

Recognizing he was gay was not something Tyler expected nor had any idea how to navigate. Hence, many dark years followed as he attempted to forge his own path through life. With the perspective of experience, Tyler shares valuable experiences with us to help us be prepared and know what to say and what not to say. This conversation is valuable for teens who feel same sex attraction as well as their parents.

What if the same techniques that work effectively to build relationships with other people are also the most effective tools in helping us be our own best friend? My favorite intentional thought from this episode-I AM COMPLETELY IN LOVE WITH MYSELF!

We have so many tasks to complete each day.. Some, we look forward to. Others....not so much. If we must do it, why not do as Mary Poppins and find "the element of fun in every job that must be done."

My brother-in-law shares his story of how he healed from his leg amputation from the inside out. The reflective questions he asked to aide in his physical and spiritual healing benefit us all (1) How can I lighten the burdens of others? (2) What can I do to make my situation better? and (3) Who do I want to be?

We may think thoughts like, "When I lose the weight, I'll be happy" or "When I have more money, I'll be happy" The honest truth is weight, bank account balance and whether or not your kid made the cheer team are all circumstances. They cannot bring you happiness! We can choose happiness no matter what circumstance we find ourselves in. Join me in the episode to learn how this is done!

Every great coach know that power of a timeout strategically played.  Sometimes the players need a little rest. Other times, they need to regroup to get their head in the right space to really execute their winning move with precision. Whatever the purpose, timeouts can make all the difference in a win or a loss. They are to be strategically played NOT held onto until the clock runs out.

Conflict is like a game of tug of war. All it takes is for one person to drop the rope and the conflict is over. Join me on this episode to learn practical tips to make this painless and second nature!

Fear fueled by what we don't want-pain, disappointment, heartache, embarrassment, and COVID. In contrast, our desire is fueled by that which we want to create more of in our life-success, connection, joy, and abundance! Turning our desires into our reality is a way happier way to live!!

This is an episode unlike any I have ever done! 

I'm vulnerable, honest, and teach confidence in a way you have never heard it taught before.

As parents, it's so easy to get caught up correcting our children and "helping" them improve that we spend most of our time completely missing that which is most important--BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS. Correction is received so much better when FIRST we have spent time quality time together communicating and building a foundation of trust, love and mutual respect.

It's so easy to butt heads and to feel angry when people don't act the way we think they should. It's so much more fun to approach life with curiousity! Join with me to see how this is done

One of the goals I hear more than most as I coach is that people want to feel confident.  Join me on this episode to learn not only how you can have more confidence in your life, but also how you can help your children feel more self confident.

If you were waiting for restrictions to be lifted so you could get back to "normal" life, you are not alone!! WHAT IF, this is our new "normal"  and life will always be a little bit better for it? WHAT IF, this is our perfect opportunity to get a jump start on our future? Join me on the episode as we explore how to stop waiting for the perfect set of circumstances and just live our best life today!!

Kara shares the story of her battle with COVID 19 and what got her through it.

Our kids, for the most part, believed COVID 19 was just something in China. IF it ever came to Utah, chances were near to none they would get it and IF they happened to get it, it wouldn't be a big deal. Their song changed overnight when my second daughter came down with it. Join me in this episode as I openly share what it was like for our daughter and our family.

Being a missionary isn't about numbers, it's about loving and sharing as Christ would if He were here. This is not a calling that ends when you take off your missionary tag. It's a calling for life.

How crazy is it to watch everyone binge purchasing toilet paper over the corona virus?!?! Avoid the crowds and join me in listening to this podcast as we learn to identify the blessings we have in our lives as a direct result of that same virus!!!

Did you know that anxiety is our body's natural response to stress? Anxiety is a feeling we deal with just like we deal with feelings of frustration, anger or joy. Join me on the episode to gain insight into possible triggers as well as proven coping strategies.

What if it's possible to become closer as a family than ever before while we are physically spread across the globe? Please join me as we discuss how to have a positive focus and create spiritual bonds stronger than you knew was possible.

Join with me as my Uncle Gordon, father of eight children, shares tried and true secrets to organizing a family in a way that teaches leadership and builds confidence. Gordon Taylor councils us to work smarter rather than harder by working together as a team.

My grandfather suffered from a degenerative eye disease, Retinitis Pigmentosa, that would eventually claim most of his sight. As a child, I learned the many ways he could actually "see" so much more than I would ever be able to. In many ways, we are all a little blind. Join with me to learn to focus our lives on joy.

Scattered throughout our lives we find little golden nuggest in time or "Worth It" moments that made all the blood, sweat and tears absolutely WORTH IT!!!  Let's start seeing more of them!!

Are you tired to trying diet after diet and either not losing any weight or gaining it right back the minute you stop? Join me on the episode to discover the secret to real lasting life changes. Lose that weight for the very last time, not through deprivation and ridiculous food choices, but by eating foods that really fuel your body!

What if the Journey to achieving your big dreams is just as rewarding as actually getting to the finish line? So often, we use willpower to power through without really appreciating our milestone successes and the person we are becoming as we achieve our goal. Join with me to discover how joy IN THE JOURNEY can be at least as rewarding as achieving our dreams!

There are great lessons to be learn from the ancient parable of the six blind men from Indostan as they are introduced to an elephant for the first time. Each describes the part of the elephant they are introduced to, yet none of them have the whole picture. Thus, while they are all partially right, they are still all wrong. What if we each stop clinging to our partial truth, and step back to see the big picture and the whole truth!!

So often, we give up what we want MOST for what we want right NOW. If what we really want is to be our most physically healthy self and we eat a bunch treats along the way, we are ultimately choosing those treats we want now over what we want most-our ideal weight. If what we want most is a peaceful home, let's stop screaming and yelling about the little stuff and focus on the big goal of PEACE.

To focus on the thorns, denies us of the true beauty the rose has to offer. People also have thorns of sorts. We are all imperfect. When we choose to focus on those thorns, we deny ourselves of the opportunity to really be enriched by the beauty they have to offer.

Service opportunities come in many forms. Some are much bigger than others, but the biggest impact is made as we take action and do something!  Join with me in this podcast to learn how the Everill family has used their family and their business to unite other families year after year!

The holiday season can be so fun and magical as we have opportunity to interact with so many people. It can also be stressful. Maybe you aren't the traditional family. Maybe you are forced to interact with people who aren't nice to you. Learn how to navigate it all!

Even DIVORCE is completely neutral until you have a thought about it. My sister, Debbie Kerr, joins me on this podcast her share her story of leading with compassion through a messy divorce. She learned to show compassion to herself, her children AND even to her soon-to-be-ex.

She spunky, sassy and I love her to pieces. I don't always know what to do with her, but I love this girl no matter what. Join me on this episode where my youngest daughter gives us an inside look into how teenagers think and how parents can best help them.