Heal Your Story with Heidi Dellaire

In this episode, I dig into the complex emotions of rejection, abandonment, and attachment, highlighting their interconnectedness and impact on our lives.

The discussion begins by defining and explaining these emotions, shedding light on how they are interwoven and influence our emotional well-being.

The episode also explores the emotional toll of rejection, including feelings of shame, self-doubt, and inadequacy. It examines common coping mechanisms people adopt when facing rejection.

Furthermore, the episode introduces two powerful approaches to healing: heart-based healing and somatic experiencing.

Heart-based healing emphasizes self-compassion and emotional processing, while somatic experiencing addresses emotional pain stored in the body.

The conclusion offers practical guidance on how to navigate the healing journey, including acknowledging emotions, practicing self-compassion, seeking professional support when needed, and celebrating personal growth.

Join us on this transformative journey as we uncover the keys to healing from rejection, abandonment, and attachment, and discover the path to emotional well-being and empowerment.

You can reach out to me via email at hello@heididellaire.com

In this episode, explore the transformative journey of healing past experiences and emotions.

Discover how acknowledging your past, understanding the role of emotions, and embracing inner stillness can lead to freedom and growth.

Key Takeaways:

• Meet Alex, a living testament to the power of healing.
• The interplay between logic and emotions in our lives.
• Practical exercises and insights to kickstart your healing journey.
• Embracing your emotions as valuable messengers on the path to wholeness.

In this episode, I take you on a journey to discover the incredible power of curiosity as a tool to heal anxiety.

Explore how curiosity can help identify triggers, ask the right questions, embrace uncertainty, deepen relationships, and ultimately lead to a life filled with clarity, resilience, and joy.

Through inspiring stories and practical insights, learn how curiosity can be your guiding light on the path to healing anxiety.

Key Points:

• Curiosity is a powerful tool for personal growth and healing.
• Identifying anxiety triggers is the first step toward understanding and addressing anxiety.
• Asking the right questions can lead to self-discovery and positive change.
• Embracing uncertainty with curiosity can reduce anxiety related to the fear of the unknown.
• Curiosity can deepen connections and reduce judgment in relationships.

Many of my clients have found themselves in a place where they wonder who the hell they really are.

How did life lead them down that road?

Is it too late to change?

Can I change it?

Do I have the power within myself to do something else?

Well, I am here to tell you, Yes!

You have the power to change your life, you just need to WANT to CHOOSE to change it.

It's all up to you.

In this episode, I discuss what self-love is and isn't.

So many of my clients and students have struggled with true self-love and have given themselves away to the detriment of themselves for decades.

Self-love is an individual journey. I understand that journey all too well.

To truly practice self-love, we need to build our self-awareness muscle.

You can reach out to me via email at hello@heididellaire.com

In this episode, I discuss how a growth mindset is the key to success in all aspects of life.

People with a growth mindset have an underlying belief that their learning and intelligence can grow with time and experience. According to Dweck, when a student has a fixed mindset, they believe that their basic abilities, intelligence, and talents are fixed traits. 

Let’s talk about what it takes to have a growth mindset and a positive mindset to move forward in life and learn new things. 

If you want help moving into more of a growth mindset, you can book a Heal Your Story Strategy Session and we can discuss how I can help you, like many of my clients, get unstuck and find more joy in life.

In this episode, I discuss the difference between meditation and mindfulness.

Meditation is about quieting the mind, while mindfulness is about being aware of what you are doing while you are doing it.  

Granted, there is more to it than that. I give some examples of how to bring mindfulness into your life. It takes practice if you are someone who is always up in your head.

In this episode, we will delve into the often challenging topic of unhealthy relationships.

This discussion will shed light on the signs that might indicate you're caught in an unhealthy or even abusive dynamic.

Let’s explore the nuances of intensity, possessiveness, manipulation, and more, helping you recognize these red flags for what they are.

Whether it's with a partner, ex, or family member, knowing these signs can be a game-changer in building healthier connections.

I  want you to feel empowered to make positive changes, fostering loving and respectful relationships in your life.

Listen in and take the first step toward a happier and more fulfilling future.

In this episode, I delve into 10 powerful self-regulation strategies to combat anxiety and promote overall well-being.

Learn to identify triggers, practice deep breathing, ground yourself, take breaks, and more. Discover practical tips for managing anxiety and leading a fulfilling life.

Join us as we uncover effective ways to conquer anxiety through self-regulation. Explore the benefits of sharing your feelings with trusted individuals and how mindfulness improves awareness of anxious thoughts and emotions, enabling healthier responses.

Find out how regular exercise releases mood-boosting endorphins, reducing anxiety and improving well-being. Plus, understand the importance of sufficient sleep and a balanced diet in managing anxiety.

Don't miss this guide to conquering anxiety and finding inner peace through practical self-regulation techniques.

Like, subscribe, and share to help others on their journey to a happier, anxiety-free life.

In this episode, we delve into the topic of people pleasing, its consequences, and the importance of embracing authenticity and self-empowerment. Learn how people-pleasing can lead to misalignment, causing anxiety, stress, and even panic attacks.

Discover the transformative power of authenticity and saying yes to yourself in unlocking personal growth and achieving your goals. I am holding a VIP Transformational Experience on the topic of Empowerment and Saying "Yes" to Yourself on July 22 and 23. Reach out for more details at hello@heididellaire.com Seats will be limited for this powerful, intimate training.

In this episode, we delve into the intricate relationship between trauma and drama, exploring how they intersect in our emotional lives. Join us as we unravel the effects of trauma, its influence on our relationships, and the ways drama can keep us stuck. Discover empowering insights and strategies to navigate trauma, break the cycle of drama, and foster emotional healing and resilience.

Episode Highlights:

• Understanding trauma: We explore the different types of trauma and its profound emotional and psychological impact on individuals.
• Drama as an emotional response: Learn how drama intensifies emotions, perpetuates conflicts, and hinders personal growth and well-being.
• The interplay of trauma and drama: Discover how trauma can influence dramatic storytelling and how drama can incorporate trauma to evoke empathy and raise awareness.
• Trauma in interpersonal relationships: Uncover how trauma can manifest in relationships, leading to heightened drama, triggers, and negative patterns of conflict.
• Drama as a coping mechanism: Explore how drama can be used as a coping mechanism to seek attention, avoid emotional pain, and hinder the healing process.
• Breaking the cycle: Gain valuable insights on healing from trauma, seeking support, building resilience, effective communication, and setting boundaries to overcome drama and foster healthier relationships.
• Inspiring stories of resilience: Hear empowering stories of individuals who have transformed their trauma into personal growth and resilience.

Join us for a thought-provoking conversation that delves into the complex interplay of drama and trauma, providing practical strategies for navigating trauma, breaking the cycle of drama, and embracing emotional healing and resilience.

Are you tired of feeling stuck, unable to manifest the life you truly desire?

In this thought-provoking episode of the Heal Your Story Podcast, we delve into the fascinating topic of why people-pleasing can hinder our ability to manifest what we want in life.

Join us as we uncover the deep-rooted challenges faced by people-pleasers and explore the transformative power of authenticity.

Discover how being disconnected from our true desires and constantly seeking external validation can create resistance in the manifestation process.

If you're ready to break free from the cycle of people-pleasing and unlock your manifestation power, this episode is a must-listen. Step into your true self, reclaim your power and create a life that reflects your deepest desires.

Today, we'll be delving into the fine line that separates self-care from potential harm and providing insights on how to navigate it successfully.

In today's fast-paced world, self-care has become a buzzword, but it's essential to understand that not all self-care practices are created equal. We'll explore the dangers of perfectionism in self-care and how striving for an unattainable ideal can actually lead to stress, self-criticism, and a loss of enjoyment.

It's time to let go of unrealistic expectations and embrace a more compassionate approach to self-care.

We'll also uncover the hidden perils of excessive self-isolation. While taking time for oneself is crucial, isolating ourselves for extended periods can lead to feelings of loneliness, limited social support, and hinder personal growth. I'll share practical tips on finding a balance between solitude and social connection, allowing you to recharge while nurturing meaningful relationships.

Moreover, we'll dive into the topic of ignoring underlying issues in the pursuit of self-care. It's easy to use self-care as a temporary distraction from unresolved problems, but true healing requires facing those challenges head-on. I'll guide you through strategies to identify and address those underlying issues, ensuring that self-care becomes a catalyst for personal growth and transformation.

Join me on this journey of self-discovery, as we uncover the secrets of balanced well-being. Throughout the episode, I'll provide practical insights and actionable steps to help you transform toxic self-care into a nurturing practice that promotes lasting well-being. Together, we'll navigate the fine line between harmful and nourishing self-care, empowering you to take charge of your holistic health.

~Heidi

In this episode, we empower you to say "Yes" to yourself and embark on a transformative journey toward embracing all that is in front of you.

We explore Saying "Yes" To Yourself in 7 Steps:

• Step 1: Make Your Own Decisions - Learn how to reclaim your autonomy and take charge of your life by making conscious choices that align with your true desires and values.
• Step 2: Set a Goal - Discover the importance of setting meaningful goals that ignite your passion and create a sense of purpose, driving you towards personal growth and achievement.
• Step 3: Learn to Ask For and Accept Help - Understand the significance of seeking support and collaboration, recognizing that it is not a sign of weakness but a catalyst for growth and connection.
• Step 4: Invest in Yourself - Explore the various ways you can invest in your personal and professional development, unlocking new opportunities for learning, growth, and self-discovery.
• Step 5: Have a Non-negotiable - Embrace self-care and prioritize activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul, creating a foundation of well-being and self-love.
• Step 6: Quit Making It Hard - Let go of self-imposed limitations, negative self-talk, and the need for perfection, allowing yourself to experience ease and flow in pursuing your dreams.
• Step 7: Show Up For Yourself - Commit to showing up fully for yourself, honoring your needs, dreams, and aspirations, and stepping into your power to create your desired life.

Each step is a crucial part of your personal growth journey, helping you unlock your true potential and live a life of abundance and fulfillment.

In this episode, we dive into the empowering world of self-empowerment. Join us as we explore the essence of self-empowerment, its significance in personal growth, and practical steps to cultivate it in your own life. Discover the power of self-confidence, goal-setting, building a strong community, assertiveness, and self-care as pillars of self-empowerment. Unleash your inner potential and embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and living a life of purpose.

Key Points:

• Defining self-empowerment: Understanding the concept and its impact on personal growth.
• Step 1: Recognizing your abilities: Cultivating self-confidence and understanding your strengths and weaknesses.
• Step 2: Increasing knowledge and abilities: Gaining expertise and broadening perspectives.
• Step 3: Setting goals: Creating a roadmap for success and breaking them down into actionable steps.
• Step 4: Developing a strong community: Surrounding yourself with supportive individuals who inspire and uplift you.
• Step 5: Being assertive: Communicating your thoughts, needs, and boundaries effectively and respectfully.
• Step 6: Practicing self-care: Prioritizing your physical, mental, and emotional well-being for overall empowerment.
• Conclusion: Embracing the transformative journey of self-empowerment and living a life of purpose and fulfillment.

Tune in to this empowering episode and embark on a journey of self-empowerment as we explore practical strategies to unleash your inner power and live a life of authenticity and success. Remember, the power to transform your life lies within you.

In this episode, I delve into the transformative practice of self-compassion and explore how to be less judgmental towards ourselves.

I guide you through the three core components of self-compassion: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.

Discover practical techniques to cultivate self-compassion in your daily life and overcome the challenges that may arise.

Learn to embrace your imperfections, treat yourself with kindness, and foster a nurturing relationship with yourself.

Tune in to this insightful episode and embark on a journey toward self-compassion and inner growth.

In this episode, I delve into the world of empaths and highly sensitive people, exploring the unique challenges they face in regulating their emotions and the toll it takes on their mental health.

I discuss the science behind empathy and the nervous system, how it can lead to disassociation, and the importance of self-regulation and co-regulation for healing. We also dive into the difference between empathy and sympathy, how to establish healthy boundaries, and the importance of grounding techniques to connect with the body.

As an Emotional Health and Empowerment Coach, I share personal experiences and tips on how empaths and HSPs can navigate the world and manage their emotions effectively. I also offer practical tips for grounding and self-regulation techniques to help listeners find balance and cope with the challenges of being an empath or HSP.

Join me as we explore the world of empathy, sensitivity, and mental health, and how to live a fulfilling life as an empath or HSP.

In this episode, I once again discuss what it means to have a regulated nervous system and how so many of us have a dysregulated nervous system due to trapped trauma or undigested emotions in the body.

I offer you an invitation to take a journey with me to heal your nervous system to finally be able to get unstuck and reach the next level of your life.

You can join me for the Self-Healing Journey 6-Week Program starting May 11th.

Join now and we get to start early.

Trauma can have a profound impact on our physical and emotional well-being.

By understanding the mind-body connection and the ways in which traumatic experiences can manifest in physical symptoms, we can begin to explore new treatment options and gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our experiences.

Join me as we continue to explore this important topic and work towards healing and wholeness.

First off, I am celebrating 150 Episodes along with 160,000 Downloads/Listens to the Heal Your Story Podcast.

As a holistic health practitioner, I share my views on the connection between the mind and body in healing trauma and anxiety-driven disorders.

I discuss how Ayurveda recognizes the importance of proper digestion, both physical and emotional, for overall health and well-being.

Meditation and mindfulness practices are effective techniques for healing both the mind and body, and can regulate the nervous system to reduce stress and anxiety while improving physical health outcomes.

In this episode, I explore the importance of affirmations in the healing process.

Affirmations are positive statements that can help to reprogram our subconscious mind and replace negative beliefs with positive ones.

I discuss the benefits of using affirmations, such as reducing stress and anxiety and building self-confidence, and provide tips for incorporating affirmations into your daily routine.

Whether you're struggling with negative self-talk or looking to cultivate a more positive mindset, this episode will provide insights into the transformative power of affirmations.

In this episode, I discuss how we have to regulate the nervous system in order to heal anything such as anxiety or past traumas. Without regulating the nervous system, our emotional triggers will just keep firing.

I get into the difference between coregulation and self-regulation and how you can't learn to self-regulate until you have had safe coregulation.

For anyone who has struggled with anxiety or calming their triggers, you will want to tune in.

What better week to talk about self-love than Valentine's Week? 

We could all use to be gentler and more loving to ourselves. 

In this episode, I go over some strategies to enhance self-love. 

At the end of the podcast, I include an affirmation for loving the self. 

I will be taking a break from the podcast for a few weeks. 

This would be a great time to binge-listen to some previous episodes. 

We are so hard on ourselves for our mistakes and many of us just keep reliving them. 

And when we are hard on ourselves for our mistakes, we have a great tendency to be really hard on others for theirs. 

Listen in to learn how to be more compassionate and forgiving with yourself and your mistakes. 

In this episode, I get into what narcissistic supply and the narcissistic cycle are all about. 

People with high empathy are often attracted to narcissists due to the manipulation or love bombing of a narcissist. 

Tune in for a bit more about this attraction between empaths and narcissists. 

We all have habits, some good and some not so helpful. 

In this episode, I discuss some habits you can introduce into your life to reduce your stress levels starting NOW!

We all lack self-confidence at times. So what do you do if self-doubt creeps in A LOT? 

In this episode, I provide some practical tips for tackling self-doubt. 

In this episode, I talk about the mind control that a narcissistic type can bring to a romantic relationship. It's worse in that dynamic. 

I talk about gaslighting and it's a weird double-edged sword that works on you to stay in that mess. 

I am sending so much love to anyone who has been through this. 

It's a tough road while you are in it and it's a tough road to get into the right mindset. 

With over a decade behind me, I now help others through the process of finding themselves again and setting healthy boundaries. Because not all boundaries are healthy. 

Sending you lots of love. 

—Heidi

Welcome to Season 6 of the Heal Your Story Podcast. 

I wanted to start the new year off with an episode about forgiveness...forgiveness of the self. 

It's often harder to forgive oneself than it is to forgive others. 

We are brutally hard on ourselves sometimes. 

I offer some tips on how to start the self-healing necessary for self-forgiveness. 

Are you using the Law of Attraction to manifest what you want in life? Are you coupling it with visualization? 

Tune in to the episode to learn more about how to manifest the things you want in life through positivity and visualization. 

Manifestation is a process of calling in the vibration (using the law of attraction) of what we ultimately want to embody. You do this by visualizing what it is you want and feeling into what it's like to have it. How do you feel in your physical body, emotionally, cognitively, energetically, and spiritually?

I am a recovering perfectionist and a recovering people-pleaser and now I teach and guide others out of this destructive programming. 

In this episode, I discuss the innate connection between perfectionism and being a sensitive person. 

Are you struggling with feelings of needing to be perfect? Are they actually your own doing? 

In this episode, I discuss the link between emotional and physical pain and how emotional pain can manifest as physical pain in the body if not dealt with or too traumatic. 

I discuss several strategies for dealing with both emotional and physical pain. 

As an Ayurvedic Practitioner, Alternative Health Practitioner, and Emotional Health Coach, I have helped hundreds of people lessen their pain both emotionally and physically by getting to the root cause. 

You can reach out to me at hello@heididellaire.com

So many empaths and sensitives struggle with setting personal boundaries. 

Heck, most everyone has trouble with boundaries until they start putting them in place. 

In this episode, I discuss the correlation between low self-worth, low self-esteem and poor boundaries and how to start implementing boundaries in your life. 

Better boundaries lead to a better life. 

I also have a task for you to complete. 

In this episode, I go over 6 ways to stay positive when everyone else around you is negative. 

It's too easy to go down the spiral of negativity and before you know it, you are in misery. 

Do you know how the Law of Attraction works?

We can manifest positive or negative things into our lives just from how we think about them. 

Join me for a discussion about how to attract more positivity into your life through the use of gratitude. 

Got repetitive thoughts? Congrats, you are a human being. We all do, but some have them much more to a negative degree. 

What makes negative repetitive thoughts so challenging and hard to control is that they often stem from core self-beliefs, like, I won’t get what I want, the world is not trustworthy, and I’m not good enough.

Repetitive thought loops are powerful and sticky because they are built out of these deep core beliefs.

We often believe our repetitive thoughts, as if their persistence is somehow evidence of their truth when in actuality, we are just telling ourselves a story about these beliefs.  

As a result, we are compulsively compelled to attach and engage with these false narratives. 

In this episode, I discuss different coping strategies to deal with negative thoughts. 

Emotional triggers, mental health triggers, or psychological triggers, are things (e.g. memories, objects, people) that spark intense negative emotions.

This change in emotions can be abrupt, and in most cases, it will feel more severe than what the trigger would logically call for.

With practice and a little help, you can spot your emotional triggers and learn how to manage them.

In this episode, I discuss short-term and long-term strategies to deal with emotional triggers. 

What does it even mean to be empowered? Some people think it means to have power over someone else. That is not the case AT ALL. 

To be empowered means to take control of your own life and choices. How awesome would that feel for someone who has always given themselves away. 

In this episode, I talk about how you START to live an empowered life. It isn't easy and it takes courage if you are coming from the people-pleasing side of life. 

Do you accept yourself?

Listen in to learn why we need to accept ourselves, the good and the bad, and to get some practical suggestions on how to do it.

Self-acceptance is not always easy. It can be hard to think about accepting the parts of us that we do not like. 

Do you have emotional pain that has gone unhealed?

In this episode, I give several tips on how to begin your emotional healing of trauma. 

Left undealt with, emotional trauma can manifest into physical pain and get lodged in our nervous system. 

Healing trauma takes time, commitment and support. 

What causes a person to be a people-pleaser?

You are most likely genuinely empathetic and compassionate.

This is the most common cause behind being a people-pleaser.

It is wonderful to have a lot of empathy for others. It means you care deeply about everyone around you.

However, if you fall into this category, you aren't ever taking care of yourself and putting the needs of others far before yours. 

Being en empath or HSP, can pre-disposition you to fall into this category. 

Listen in to find out how to reduce your people-pleasing tendencies and become a more empowered you. 

As mentioned in this episode:

In the previous episode, I discussed how low self-esteem often leads to self-sabotage. Well, one of the things we do to ourselves when we have low self-esteem is fill our heads with negative self-talk. 

What would it feel like to free yourself from negative self-talk? 

I discuss tips to reduce and get rid of negative self-talk. 

We sabotage ourselves right before the good stuff. 

In this episode, I discuss the different ways that we self-sabotage ourselves and the ways to prevent it. 

So many people have reached out about how anxiety has played and continues to play such a large and bothersome role in their lives. 

We can do so many things to keep anxiety at bay if we just slow down and get into our bodies. Yes, get out of the headmess and get back into your body to slow down to regulate your nervous system. 

I discuss how mindfulness can bring us back to the present moment and keep us from getting all wound up. 

I also provide an affirmation with reflection questions at the end. 

Soon, I will be launching my signature program for Empaths and HSPs and how to reduce anxiety and build empowerment skills through embodied healing techniques. 

It seems that everyone has been eluded by happiness at some point. 

What if it were more simple? What if happiness was found in the little things and moments? 

Join me for 5 different types of happiness that everyone can achieve. It takes time, effort and willingness to be open for happiness to arrive. 

I found myself really inspired  by a conversation with a young person. I was inspired by what they are doing with their life and the action they are taking. 

It got me thinking about the difference between inspirational and motivational, they are actually different. 

Oftentimes, we back out of doing things because we don't have the motivation to do them. 

Motivation requires action and sometimes, people just don't want to take action in their lives. 

I discuss different ways to motivate yourself into action. 

Our early attachment styles are established in childhood through the infant/caregiver relationship. What if we had to learn to cope to certain events or family dynamics in our early years?

As adults, we are often playing out our early childhood attachment styles in many adult relationships. We may not even be aware of these attachment styles. 

Listen in to learn about the 4 types of attachment styles.