Heal Your Story with Heidi Dellaire

In this episode, we empower you to say "Yes" to yourself and embark on a transformative journey toward embracing all that is in front of you.

We explore Saying "Yes" To Yourself in 7 Steps:

Each step is a crucial part of your personal growth journey, helping you unlock your true potential and live a life of abundance and fulfillment.

In this episode, we dive into the empowering world of self-empowerment. Join us as we explore the essence of self-empowerment, its significance in personal growth, and practical steps to cultivate it in your own life. Discover the power of self-confidence, goal-setting, building a strong community, assertiveness, and self-care as pillars of self-empowerment. Unleash your inner potential and embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and living a life of purpose.

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Tune in to this empowering episode and embark on a journey of self-empowerment as we explore practical strategies to unleash your inner power and live a life of authenticity and success. Remember, the power to transform your life lies within you.

In this episode, I delve into the transformative practice of self-compassion and explore how to be less judgmental towards ourselves.

I guide you through the three core components of self-compassion: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.

Discover practical techniques to cultivate self-compassion in your daily life and overcome the challenges that may arise.

Learn to embrace your imperfections, treat yourself with kindness, and foster a nurturing relationship with yourself.

Tune in to this insightful episode and embark on a journey toward self-compassion and inner growth.

In this episode, I delve into the world of empaths and highly sensitive people, exploring the unique challenges they face in regulating their emotions and the toll it takes on their mental health.

I discuss the science behind empathy and the nervous system, how it can lead to disassociation, and the importance of self-regulation and co-regulation for healing. We also dive into the difference between empathy and sympathy, how to establish healthy boundaries, and the importance of grounding techniques to connect with the body.

As an Emotional Health and Empowerment Coach, I share personal experiences and tips on how empaths and HSPs can navigate the world and manage their emotions effectively. I also offer practical tips for grounding and self-regulation techniques to help listeners find balance and cope with the challenges of being an empath or HSP.

Join me as we explore the world of empathy, sensitivity, and mental health, and how to live a fulfilling life as an empath or HSP.

In this episode, I once again discuss what it means to have a regulated nervous system and how so many of us have a dysregulated nervous system due to trapped trauma or undigested emotions in the body.

I offer you an invitation to take a journey with me to heal your nervous system to finally be able to get unstuck and reach the next level of your life.

You can join me for the Self-Healing Journey 6-Week Program starting May 11th.

Join now and we get to start early.

Trauma can have a profound impact on our physical and emotional well-being.

By understanding the mind-body connection and the ways in which traumatic experiences can manifest in physical symptoms, we can begin to explore new treatment options and gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our experiences.

Join me as we continue to explore this important topic and work towards healing and wholeness.

First off, I am celebrating 150 Episodes along with 160,000 Downloads/Listens to the Heal Your Story Podcast.

As a holistic health practitioner, I share my views on the connection between the mind and body in healing trauma and anxiety-driven disorders.

I discuss how Ayurveda recognizes the importance of proper digestion, both physical and emotional, for overall health and well-being.

Meditation and mindfulness practices are effective techniques for healing both the mind and body, and can regulate the nervous system to reduce stress and anxiety while improving physical health outcomes.

In this episode, I explore the importance of affirmations in the healing process.

Affirmations are positive statements that can help to reprogram our subconscious mind and replace negative beliefs with positive ones.

I discuss the benefits of using affirmations, such as reducing stress and anxiety and building self-confidence, and provide tips for incorporating affirmations into your daily routine.

Whether you're struggling with negative self-talk or looking to cultivate a more positive mindset, this episode will provide insights into the transformative power of affirmations.

In this episode, I discuss how we have to regulate the nervous system in order to heal anything such as anxiety or past traumas. Without regulating the nervous system, our emotional triggers will just keep firing.

I get into the difference between coregulation and self-regulation and how you can't learn to self-regulate until you have had safe coregulation.

For anyone who has struggled with anxiety or calming their triggers, you will want to tune in.

What better week to talk about self-love than Valentine's Week? 

We could all use to be gentler and more loving to ourselves. 

In this episode, I go over some strategies to enhance self-love. 

At the end of the podcast, I include an affirmation for loving the self. 

I will be taking a break from the podcast for a few weeks. 

This would be a great time to binge-listen to some previous episodes. 

We are so hard on ourselves for our mistakes and many of us just keep reliving them. 

And when we are hard on ourselves for our mistakes, we have a great tendency to be really hard on others for theirs. 

Listen in to learn how to be more compassionate and forgiving with yourself and your mistakes. 

In this episode, I get into what narcissistic supply and the narcissistic cycle are all about. 

People with high empathy are often attracted to narcissists due to the manipulation or love bombing of a narcissist. 

Tune in for a bit more about this attraction between empaths and narcissists. 

We all have habits, some good and some not so helpful. 

In this episode, I discuss some habits you can introduce into your life to reduce your stress levels starting NOW!

We all lack self-confidence at times. So what do you do if self-doubt creeps in A LOT? 

In this episode, I provide some practical tips for tackling self-doubt. 

In this episode, I talk about the mind control that a narcissistic type can bring to a romantic relationship. It's worse in that dynamic. 

I talk about gaslighting and it's a weird double-edged sword that works on you to stay in that mess. 

I am sending so much love to anyone who has been through this. 

It's a tough road while you are in it and it's a tough road to get into the right mindset. 

With over a decade behind me, I now help others through the process of finding themselves again and setting healthy boundaries. Because not all boundaries are healthy. 

Sending you lots of love. 

—Heidi

Welcome to Season 6 of the Heal Your Story Podcast. 

I wanted to start the new year off with an episode about forgiveness...forgiveness of the self. 

It's often harder to forgive oneself than it is to forgive others. 

We are brutally hard on ourselves sometimes. 

I offer some tips on how to start the self-healing necessary for self-forgiveness. 

Are you using the Law of Attraction to manifest what you want in life? Are you coupling it with visualization? 

Tune in to the episode to learn more about how to manifest the things you want in life through positivity and visualization. 

Manifestation is a process of calling in the vibration (using the law of attraction) of what we ultimately want to embody. You do this by visualizing what it is you want and feeling into what it's like to have it. How do you feel in your physical body, emotionally, cognitively, energetically, and spiritually?

I am a recovering perfectionist and a recovering people-pleaser and now I teach and guide others out of this destructive programming. 

In this episode, I discuss the innate connection between perfectionism and being a sensitive person. 

Are you struggling with feelings of needing to be perfect? Are they actually your own doing? 

In this episode, I discuss the link between emotional and physical pain and how emotional pain can manifest as physical pain in the body if not dealt with or too traumatic. 

I discuss several strategies for dealing with both emotional and physical pain. 

As an Ayurvedic Practitioner, Alternative Health Practitioner, and Emotional Health Coach, I have helped hundreds of people lessen their pain both emotionally and physically by getting to the root cause. 

You can reach out to me at hello@heididellaire.com

So many empaths and sensitives struggle with setting personal boundaries. 

Heck, most everyone has trouble with boundaries until they start putting them in place. 

In this episode, I discuss the correlation between low self-worth, low self-esteem and poor boundaries and how to start implementing boundaries in your life. 

Better boundaries lead to a better life. 

I also have a task for you to complete. 

In this episode, I go over 6 ways to stay positive when everyone else around you is negative. 

It's too easy to go down the spiral of negativity and before you know it, you are in misery. 

Do you know how the Law of Attraction works?

We can manifest positive or negative things into our lives just from how we think about them. 

Join me for a discussion about how to attract more positivity into your life through the use of gratitude. 

Got repetitive thoughts? Congrats, you are a human being. We all do, but some have them much more to a negative degree. 

What makes negative repetitive thoughts so challenging and hard to control is that they often stem from core self-beliefs, like, I won’t get what I want, the world is not trustworthy, and I’m not good enough.

Repetitive thought loops are powerful and sticky because they are built out of these deep core beliefs.

We often believe our repetitive thoughts, as if their persistence is somehow evidence of their truth when in actuality, we are just telling ourselves a story about these beliefs.  

As a result, we are compulsively compelled to attach and engage with these false narratives. 

In this episode, I discuss different coping strategies to deal with negative thoughts. 

Emotional triggers, mental health triggers, or psychological triggers, are things (e.g. memories, objects, people) that spark intense negative emotions.

This change in emotions can be abrupt, and in most cases, it will feel more severe than what the trigger would logically call for.

With practice and a little help, you can spot your emotional triggers and learn how to manage them.

In this episode, I discuss short-term and long-term strategies to deal with emotional triggers. 

What does it even mean to be empowered? Some people think it means to have power over someone else. That is not the case AT ALL. 

To be empowered means to take control of your own life and choices. How awesome would that feel for someone who has always given themselves away. 

In this episode, I talk about how you START to live an empowered life. It isn't easy and it takes courage if you are coming from the people-pleasing side of life. 

Do you accept yourself?

Listen in to learn why we need to accept ourselves, the good and the bad, and to get some practical suggestions on how to do it.

Self-acceptance is not always easy. It can be hard to think about accepting the parts of us that we do not like. 

Do you have emotional pain that has gone unhealed?

In this episode, I give several tips on how to begin your emotional healing of trauma. 

Left undealt with, emotional trauma can manifest into physical pain and get lodged in our nervous system. 

Healing trauma takes time, commitment and support. 

What causes a person to be a people-pleaser?

You are most likely genuinely empathetic and compassionate.

This is the most common cause behind being a people-pleaser.

It is wonderful to have a lot of empathy for others. It means you care deeply about everyone around you.

However, if you fall into this category, you aren't ever taking care of yourself and putting the needs of others far before yours. 

Being en empath or HSP, can pre-disposition you to fall into this category. 

Listen in to find out how to reduce your people-pleasing tendencies and become a more empowered you. 

As mentioned in this episode:

In the previous episode, I discussed how low self-esteem often leads to self-sabotage. Well, one of the things we do to ourselves when we have low self-esteem is fill our heads with negative self-talk. 

What would it feel like to free yourself from negative self-talk? 

I discuss tips to reduce and get rid of negative self-talk. 

We sabotage ourselves right before the good stuff. 

In this episode, I discuss the different ways that we self-sabotage ourselves and the ways to prevent it. 

So many people have reached out about how anxiety has played and continues to play such a large and bothersome role in their lives. 

We can do so many things to keep anxiety at bay if we just slow down and get into our bodies. Yes, get out of the headmess and get back into your body to slow down to regulate your nervous system. 

I discuss how mindfulness can bring us back to the present moment and keep us from getting all wound up. 

I also provide an affirmation with reflection questions at the end. 

Soon, I will be launching my signature program for Empaths and HSPs and how to reduce anxiety and build empowerment skills through embodied healing techniques. 

It seems that everyone has been eluded by happiness at some point. 

What if it were more simple? What if happiness was found in the little things and moments? 

Join me for 5 different types of happiness that everyone can achieve. It takes time, effort and willingness to be open for happiness to arrive. 

I found myself really inspired  by a conversation with a young person. I was inspired by what they are doing with their life and the action they are taking. 

It got me thinking about the difference between inspirational and motivational, they are actually different. 

Oftentimes, we back out of doing things because we don't have the motivation to do them. 

Motivation requires action and sometimes, people just don't want to take action in their lives. 

I discuss different ways to motivate yourself into action. 

Our early attachment styles are established in childhood through the infant/caregiver relationship. What if we had to learn to cope to certain events or family dynamics in our early years?

As adults, we are often playing out our early childhood attachment styles in many adult relationships. We may not even be aware of these attachment styles. 

Listen in to learn about the 4 types of attachment styles. 

We have all gotten caught up in an overthinking pattern at some point, but there are many of us who get stuck in this pattern of thinking. 

What are the pitfalls of overthinking? 

What are the strategies to find peaceful thinking and being? 

What would happen if you fully let go of the people who weren't able to love you?

What would life look like if you truly let the fullness of who you were shine out into the world so that the right people entered your life?

What would happen if you stopped people-pleasing and giving yourself away? 

What would happen if you truly let them go and finally started loving yourself wholly? 

What happens when you bring the entirety of yourself into the room and let your inner light shine as brightly as it can?

In this episode, I get to speak with Cat Knott, a spiritual teacher, evolutionary guide and a channel to a universal voice and collective called "The Crew". 

We get into discussion about being an empath what that meant for us growing up and how now, there is a call for all empaths to find their voice and shine the totality of themselves...brightly.   

Don't dim yourself down just because you believe you are too much for someone else.

“Lean too much on other people’s approval and it becomes a bed of thorns.” ~Tehyi Hsieh

Trying to please everyone all of the time is a disease. Learning to be an authentic you, to say no, and to stand up for yourself is the only cure for people-pleasing.

Start today and stop the never-ending people-pleasing.

Gently and with kindness, tell just one person "no". Start with that little bit of empowerment.  

Not everyone will love or even like the real you. But you know what, that’s okay. You can cope; you are way stronger than you think you are.

When you stop seeking the approval of other people, you’ll find that you never really needed it in the first place. All you needed was your own approval. 

In the episode, I spoke of meditation and affirmations. Look at Episode 104:  Manifest My Dreams Affirmation, Episode 109: Breath in Calm, Breath Out Anxiety Affirmation and Episode 93 for the Heart Ssace Gratitude Meditation. 

In this episode, I discuss how the need for perfectionism can elude us from happiness. When we are constantly seeking perfectionism, we find ourselves in a state of failure which leads to procrastination and unease and unhappiness. 

If you are struggling with perfectionism or people-pleasing, you can sign-up for a Heal Your Story Strategy Session to discuss how I can help you move through the programming of perfectionism. 

It’s important to find purpose and meaning in your life. But purpose and meaning is not something that can be determined with the blink of an eye or the snap of the fingers. 

The process of finding your purpose or mission in life requires plenty of self-reflection, listening to others, and finding which passions light you up.  In this episode, I will discuss ways to add more purpose to your everyday life so you can begin living a more meaningful life.

In this episode, Emotional Health Coach for Empaths and HSP's, Heidi Dellaire, speaks about the contrast between Empaths and Narcissists and what draws them together. If you are someone who exhibits high empathy, you are someone who wants to forgive, understand and connect. Your empathy is an amazing gift. However, if you are partnered with a narcissist, you will be manipulated and used for your empathic nature. Listen in to determine if you are still in the stage of understanding that you are an empath who may be idealizing the narcissist in your life and believe that you can still help them. 

What if there were simple ways to reduce our sadness or our anger or any emotion for that matter? What if we could easily come back to the present moment and the sacredness of yourselves with just a few simple steps? 

I was overcome with emotions with the news of June 24th. I ran the gamut of emotions and put my own practices into place in order to find peace for the moment. 

Join the conversation between myself and #1 New York Times Best Selling Author Gabby Bernstein.  

In this episode, we discuss a myriad of topics from trauma healing, judgment, shame, and trapped emotions in the body, to techniques to release trauma and to get curious about your own healing. 

I loved this conversation with Gabby about the healing process and her own journey to heal from childhood trauma. Her new book Happy Days is one of my new favorites along with her book Judgment Detox. 

Take some time and join in. You may just find the courage to ask for help in healing your own trauma. 

I love our chat about following the signs that show up when it comes to finding the next right person to help you along your journey. 

Many sensitive people find themselves giving themselves away to the detriment of themselves. Add any trauma in there and you have a mix for people-pleasing and co-dependency from someone who is seeking love and affection in all the wrong ways. Boundaries are allowed to be crossed and resentment kicks in for feeling used. 

Are you someone who is giving too much of themselves away? 

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So many people suffer from anxiety. In this episode, I provide a basic breathing technique along with an anxiety-reducing affirmation. You can follow along or even say it out loud with me. 

And then if you would like to share your answers to the questions at the end of the episode, I would welcome that in an email. 

Show Note Links discussed in this episode. 

What Are Boundaries?

Boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify for themselves what are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave around them and how they will respond when someone steps outside those limits.

This is a client's story of how childhood trauma led to a life of perfectionism, people-pleasing, codependency and what started to come up more and more...anger. 

Give a listen to how our trauma responses can serve us as protection and control early in life but as we move into adulthood, they become the things that hold us back from healing, connection to ourselves and connection to others. These trauma responses often lead to trapped emotions or trapped physical pain that can't be released due to an unregulated nervous system. Instead, we manifest feelings of dis-ease either emotional or physically. 

Overwhelm can be caused by a variety of factors, including stress, grief, traumatic events or even a pileup of a lot of little things that creep up on you all at the same time. Overwhelm can cause physical problems like headaches, work-related woes like poor performance, home life stress and emotional changes. So, it must be dealt with.

How we think something should turn out greatly affects our perception of what is actually taking place. Learning to take care of yourself and implementing these strategies is a good first step in reducing your overwhelm. 

“It's only after you've found what you want inside of you that you can find it outside of you.” ― Cory Groshek

Manifesting your dreams actually takes action. Get clear on what you want and get busy with the steps to making them come to fruition. 

In this episode, I deliver an affirmation on manifesting your dreams. You may want to either repeat the affirmation or write it down along with the self-reflection exercises at the end to get yourself clear on what you truly want. 

Happy Manifesting.

~Heidi

Your Heart Space Coach

Do you find yourself spending too much time pondering and not enough time getting things done? Overthinking is common, especially when making decisions. Overthinking wastes time and lowers your confidence.

In this episode, I give you some tips and strategies to overcome overthinking in order to make better and faster decisions.  

I would love to hear from you about how you are reducing your overthinking or how overthinking gets in your way. 

In this episode, I discuss four of the many types of trauma. Emotional trauma can cause a sense of hopelessness, edginess,  anxiety, an inability to sleep or to focus, and may lead to a pattern of self-neglect.  Many of us experience symptoms of trauma but have no specific traumatic event to connect these feelings of anxiety or depression, which often causes feelings of confusion or guilt.  You may find yourself thinking others are worse off or have been through something more injurious than you.  You may even think you don’t have a right to be unhappy.  This is simply untrue, trauma is experienced in many forms. There are times when we don’t even know that an event has been traumatic to us.

In this episode, I discuss how we can fall into the trap of not really knowing our true selves and this can lead to a sense of low self-worth and low self-esteem. 

When we move through the world living to please others and project an image to others just to be liked or accepted, we can create a life where we feel lost and negative thoughts start to come in and take up root. 

In this episode, I discuss part of my own struggle with self-esteem at an earlier age and how I now teach clients how to reduce overwhelm in order to rebuild their own self-esteem. I then go into some common signs of low self-esteem that you or someone you love may be exhibiting. There are ways to rebuild your self-esteem and you don't have to continue to live with the limiting nature of low self-esteem. 

If you are a regular listener to the podcast or follow any of my social media content, you know how much I promote self-love and self-development. Yet, I still find that it is SO hard for people to actually love themselves and treat themselves well. 

Give a listen to discover some simple secrets to a life filled with self-love. 

I always love hearing from you. You can reach out at hello@heididellaire.com or send me a direct message on my Instagram account @heididellaire

We are often harder on ourselves than we are on others.

So, let me ask you a question.

Are you kind to yourself?

We can implement this in our lives in small increments. 

In this episode, I discuss several ways in which you can be kinder to yourself on a daily basis.

This is a continuation of many talks about codependency. We often sacrifice ourselves for others to the detriment of yourselves. We rely on what other people think of us as our self-image and self-worth. Tune in to hear more about our people-pleasing ways that hurt ourselves and others. 

I offer coaching for people-pleasers, codependents, perfectionists, empaths, sensitive people and more. 

I got so much response from my latest Instagram video about the two things you need to focus on to be happy. So many people told me about what they get fixated on that makes them unhappy. So, I decided to run with it and talk about the habits that make us unhappy. 

It's a new year and time for a mindset shift into the positive. You are responsible for your life and the outcomes in it. It's time to manifest a life of joy and abundance. 

What will life be like if you are in love with a narcissist?

This Heart Space Gratitude Guided Meditation allows the opening of the heart for maximum healing.

Listen to the Guided Meditation either first thing in the morning or before bed.  Notice the visceral feelings that arise in your body as you connect to your heart space.  What are the positive feelings and emotions that arise as you connect to your heart space?  What have you loosened your grip on while listening to the meditation that you now feel you can heal by acknowledging it and letting it go

Reflect in your journal about how it feels to let your tension fall. How does it feel to truly allow yourself open to your heart space? Can you feel grateful for opening yourself up to your healing within your heart space?

So often we get caught up in needing to please and be accepted and fall into the trap of caring too much about what other people think of us. 

Most of the time, the things that people think about us are a reflection of something lacking in themselves. 

Meditation has been known to reduce anxiety, stress, and fear. So many people dismiss meditation because they think that it is a space that is devoid of thought and then they say, "this isn't for me". Well, it's impossible to not have thoughts as a human being. Meditation allows you to get closer to your true self. It allows you to get in touch with your heart space instead of always living above the neckline. 

What are the signs or behaviors that you are in a codependent relationship?  

So many people don't even realize that they are a rescuer or the rescued in a relationship?  So how do we solve this and create a healthy relationship? 

When you were a child, did your parents or teachers see you as sensitive or shy? Do you need to withdraw during busy days to someplace where you can have privacy and relief from the situation? Do you make it a high priority to arrange your life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations or people? Do you notice or enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, or works of art? Do you have a complex and bountiful inner life? 

You might just be a highly sensitive person.  I work with many people who are empaths or highly sensitive people. I understand because I am a highly sensitive person and have been down this road more than once in my past. Now, I help others through this. I am here to help. I help HSP's build better boundaries and calm their nervous system to have a better understanding and trust of their inner guidance system. I teach tangible tools to help your situation. 

Listen in on any podcast platform of your choosing, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Goodpods, Podchaser, Stitcher, etc. Please subscribe and leave a review. I would love to hear from you about this topic. 

This is a follow-up to Episode 84 in which I talked about Empaths needing solid boundaries in order not to be manipulated by narcissistic types. 

In this episode, I discuss healthy boundaries and the 10 signs that may lead you to understand that you lack healthy boundaries. 

Empaths and Narcissists have a magnetic connection and this is why it is so important for the empath to have solid boundaries, which many don't even know they need. Without solid boundaries, the empath will always fall prey to a narcissist. 

Add gaslighting to this scenario and the empath is in a tailspin. 

I work with many people who are empaths or highly sensitive people. I understand because I am a highly sensitive person and have been down this road more than once in my past. Now, I help others through this. 

I am here to help. 

Listen in on any podcast platform of your choosing, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Goodpods, Podchaser, Stitcher, etc. Please subscribe and leave a review. 

If you want your life to be different, you have to make it happen. Nothing is going to improve your life if you aren't willing to make changes. YOU have to go out and DO! 

Let's walk through the phrase "easier said than done" to understand why we instantly respond this way when we feel like something is too hard to do. It's actually a phrase of self-betrayal. 

This episode may make some feel a little edgy and that is because you have continually put your life on hold instead of taking any action...getting caught up in the feeling that something is too hard to do. 

Stick with me on this one. I am here to help. Start small. Baby steps to change or changing your life. 

Subscribe and listen wherever you listen to podcasts so that you don't miss an episode and reach out for help. 

The podcast is changing its name to Heal Your Story. Have you ever noticed how people tell stories about who they are that just don't match up with who they present to be? We often tell ourselves stories in order to cope...with past trauma or with something deeply ingrained in us from childhood. That can all manifest into physical pain. 

I am excited to share this new podcast which is much more related to the work that I do with clients. I help people get out of their busy heads and back in touch with their heart space. It allows them to shift the narrative they have been telling themselves in order to heal. 

I share a little bit about my healing journey, which as in turn, allowed me to help others with their healing. 

How often do we sabotage ourselves right before we get to the good stuff, or right before we have to make a decision about something? 

There are many reasons why we self-sabotage our happiness. It can be caused by fear of failure, a need for control, old patterning, negative beliefs. The list goes on and on. 

In this episode, I discuss what self-sabotage looks and feels like and 3 steps you can take to stop self-sabotaging your happiness. 

Have you ever wondered how some people move through life with such grace and ease even in times of turmoil? Nothing seems to keep them from being positive or attracting more positive situations to them? 

What's their secret?

Their secret is a daily practice of gratitude and appreciation. And when I say, "daily" I mean "daily". It isn't just some ho-hum feeling grateful for a minute and then not practicing it again for weeks. 

I work with many clients in this area. We work on a daily practice of gratitude and appreciation to bring them more peace and ease in life. 

There is actually a preparatory process to go through in order to invite love into your life.  We have to let go of past loves and heartache and we need to have a big 'ole dose of self-love and good boundaries and be living in a way that brings serenity and peace into our lives. 

Today, I discuss these all in-depth and offer up 6 suggestions to help get you prepared to invite love back into your life. 

Personal Responsibility is a battle cry for 2021!  

I have had so many friends, clients, and colleagues touch upon how personal responsibility is part of their growth path and spiritual path this year.

In this episode, I discuss how a call with a client inspired me to record this episode. 

When we take responsibility for ourselves and our actions, we leave room for better things and experiences to come into our lives. 

Sending you all a big hug and lots of love as we start this year and SEASON 4 of this podcast. 

2020 has been a challenging year. Many of us found ourselves bombarded with change daily. How did you adapt or pivot to take on this change?

In this episode, I discuss why I have been so quiet this year and what it has meant to me now that we are headed into 2021. I also provide some practical tips on how you can learn to embrace change more easily. 

I found great solace from going within and really deciding who I wanted to be going into 2021.  I was absent from my podcast and my social media because I was busy working on myself and with my clients to discover the best versions of ourselves. 

What does that mean...the art of holding heart space? "The Art of Holding Heart Space" is the tagline to my social media presence and website for Love Wide Open. Love Wide Open...the art of holding heart space.   So many people have asked me what it means and how you hold heart space for yourself and others.

I will even go as far as to say that holding heart space can literally save the world if we all practiced it. Join me for this episode where we dive deep into the heart of ourselves so that we can bear witness to others. The world needs more of this right now.  

If you are in a relationship with someone with a toxic personality, you might find yourself defending everything you say or do. Over time you will begin to question your own perspective as each action on your part causes a negative reaction. Does that sound familiar? So many people enter into relationships with toxic partners. There are many reasons this may happen, but for the most part, it is because there is something unhealed or something that you don't even understand about yourself that drew this type of person to you. 

I work as a Heart Space Coach with clients around these types of issues. I work with folks to restore their self-esteem and self-worth and help guide them to a more confident self in all of their relationships.  I use an integrative, embodied approach to healing. 

We often believe that we are self-aware when we really ARE NOT. Being self-aware helps a person make more informed decisions, and contributes to one's overall wellbeing. Self-awareness makes it easier to identify situations and people that hit our triggers and enables us to anticipate our own reactions. It allows us to make positive behavioral changes that can lead to greater personal and interpersonal success. Being aware of yourself also helps in identifying what your stressors are, so you can utilize the information to build effective coping mechanisms.  In this episode, I will give some tips on how to cultivate self-awareness. It will help you and the others around you. 

Around the world, fears of Covid-19 are spreading faster than the actual virus. Countries are firming up their borders, many businesses are closing, thousands of people are buying with panic, and the majority of us are being asked to self-isolate. It's entirely understandable if you have feelings of fear, anxiety, or insecurity at this time.  We are feeling collective grief: grief for what was, what is and what may be. 

We are in an unprecedented time.  The only thing we can control is ourselves in the present moment. Mindfulness and meditation can help ease those moments of doubt and grief.

 Being mindful of how you treat others can determine what kind of heart space you are opening up to others.  As humans, we carry a powerful darkness within. It is part of the human condition and when triggered it feels so natural we do not even realize when are allowing it enter into our being. When we treat others poorly, we are dehumanizing that person in our brains. Be the seeds of love we need in the world. ~Heidi

 People with a growth mindset have an underlying belief that their learning and intelligence can grow with time and experience. According to Dweck, when a student has a fixed mindset, they believe that their basic abilities, intelligence, and talents are fixed traits. 

When we tell our stories, we start to heal. It is through telling our stories that we realize that we are far more alike with others than we are different. I had the pleasure of speaking with Catherine B. Roy, the author of Live From the Heart and Mind.    

Catherine B. Roy is a Human Potential Thought Leader, Bestselling Author, Personal Growth and Business Coach, MENSA member and an Award Winning Artist and Scientist whose stimulating, upbeat and inspirational writings have helped countless people in the world. 

Catherine’s writings have been published in The Huffington Post, Thrive Global,  and many others. She has been featured as a guest expert at many summits and as a participant and expert speaker at numerous international conferences.

Catherine enjoys the distinction of receiving the Top 30 Under 30 award and is an experienced linguistics researcher and is certified in the fields of emotional intelligence and assertive communication. 

As the author of the “Live from Your Heart and Mind”, Catherine is the guiding force behind the “LHM” system for increasing a person’s emotional and intellectual capacity, and inspiring them to positive change and accomplishment.

Substance abuse is a topic that comes up a lot with clients, whether it be their personal addiction or the addiction of someone they love.  Whether the addict in your life is a partner, a parent, a sibling or a friend, maintaining a relationship with a person with a substance abuse issue will present challenges for you. If you love someone who abuses drugs or alcohol, their dependence becomes an unavoidable part of your life. 

Words have power. We can either use negative words or positive words. Negative words hold us back. Positive words propel us forward. The language we use with ourselves internally and with the world at large have a major impact on who we become. They can keep us struggling or they can empower us to strive for high achievement and a better life for ourselves and the world. There is power in getting into a routine or habit of positive self-talk. 

Sometimes we aren't even aware that we have a negative internal dialogue that can also spill out to the Universe and become our reality. Negative words and thoughts become what we are.  If we believe we aren't good enough, then we aren't. The things we think and speak are important to our stagnation or our growth. Let's discuss those negative words and phrases and touch upon how to slowly shift that around. 

 “Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It’s tough to do that when we’re terrified about what people might see or think.” — Brené Brown 

Does the universe provide us with signs of when it is time to let go of the things that hurt our heart and our soul? Why yes, it does. Tune in to understand the signs that come to us when it is time to let go of either big things or little things, ie., relationships, a job, an idea. 

It IS possible to have a big heart and still have healthy boundaries. Let's talk about how we do that.