Living With Your Child's Addiction

This episode is an updated excerpt from episode 45 which is the first episode that I made after my daughter Helanna died from fentanyl poisoning. Episode 45 started off very emotional. I don’t want the really important message I had later in that episode to get lost in the heavy emotions. 

I updated and re-recorded three critical messages from that episode: 

The episode I recommend next: 

Episode #37 Post Traumatic Growth 

Links that were mentioned in this episode: 

The Safe Home Families Podcast guest episode #40  Custom Music by Joey Nakao 

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Healing starts for us when we connect with other parents like us to hear their stories and share our experiences.  When we do that we're no longer alone on this journey. Meeting and engaging with other parents gives us access to insights and resources we need. When we get the support we need, we find the safety and strength to accept ourselves and our children as we are in this moment. That's why my guest Casie Fariello is one of the founders of a new online support community called Other Parents Like Me (OPLM). In this episode we discuss:

How connection is the key to hope, help, and healing

Supporting more than one child with addiction or other challenges

Our first experiences with joining a support community and what we got out of it

Rebuilding a family after addiction 

The importance of taking everything you learn about addiction, making it your own, and choosing what you want to implement in your life

The wonderful experiences we've had being a part of OPLM

Watch the video of the interview on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fkp0f5AA3zw&feature=youtu.be

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Join OPLM and get a free 7 day trial:

https://oplm.com/join/

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There’s a gap between what we expect in life and what we’re experiencing. In that gap is a loss. As parents we have hope and expectations. We expect a fulfilling relationship with our kids, family gatherings, milestones like prom and college, and we expect being a parent to feel good.  When addiction shows up we experience the painful gap between what we expect and our reality. We have to grieve those losses so we can let go of what we expected. We can stop wishing the past were different and focus on what we can intentionally create in the future.

In this episode Grief coach Julie Cluff and I discuss:

· Discounting and comparing losses

· We should only compare the impact of our own losses

· What misplaced guilt is and how it affects you

· Finding forgiveness in grief

· Our experiences can be hard and also possible to move through

· We can grieve gently

· The only way to heal from trauma is to choose the empowerment of change

· You don’t have to carry grief the rest of your life

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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Contact Julie Cluff:

website: buildalifeafterloss.com

free webinar: buildalifeafterloss.com/gift

facebook: Build a Life After Loss with Julie Cluff https://www.facebook.com/buildalifeafterloss

instagram: @buildalifeafterloss

This is the hardest episode I've ever recorded and also the most important episode I ever recorded.

There's no way I can move forward helping other parents without stopping to honor Helanna's life and what her time on this earth gave to me.

This podcast wouldn't exist without her.

I wouldn't be who I am today without her.

The day that Helanna died I started wondering if I could continue my work helping other parents with their child’s addiction.

I didn’t know if I could face it anymore.

I wanted to hear Helanna’s voice and be close to her somehow, so I listened to the podcast episodes she was on & I realized that it was more important than ever for me to keep doing this work.

Having a child struggling with addiction is the hardest thing some parents will ever face.

Until I lost Helanna to fentanyl poisoning, her addiction has had more of a long-lasting impact on my life more than anything else.

So many parents are struggling alone and in silence because of shame and the stigma that goes with addiction.

There’s no way that I can step aside and not continue helping those parents.

Right now, that’s what is keeping me motivated to live a life that doesn’t include my daughter.

In this episode I share some of the things that I learned while dealing with her addiction and how they’re helping with my grief as well:

Link to the episode that explains the model:

https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-16-The-Self-Coaching-Model-eref06

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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Your thoughts create your reality. One poisonous thought can cause you a lot of unnecessary pain.  It can be the difference between discomfort and great suffering.  Recently I realized I had one thought about my future that was draining my creativity, making me feel like I had a limited time to enjoy myself, and it was setting me up to create a bad experience when I have the ability to create a really positive experience. 

Link to the episode that explains the model:

https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-16-The-Self-Coaching-Model-eref06

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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We had some great questions come up after my first interview with Helanna (episode 41) so did a second interview. 

We discussed:

Suboxone - how it helped - what she wishes she knew before she started using it - why she tapered off it.

How I handled her getting off suboxone.

Fears about losing her sobriety.

What her brain says about why being sober won't work.

How she knew she would use drugs from a young age.

Why she didn't trust me for a long time and what made her start trusting me again.

What made her decide to go to sober living this time when she wouldn't go other times.

How a shift in perspective about parenting can help your child and your relationship with them. 

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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Healing your own emotional wounds is where the magic is when it comes to your child’s addiction. We’re all responsible for our own healing just like we want our kids to be. When you’re reactive no matter how hard you try not to be, then your child is triggering an emotional wound. The worst part about emotional wounds is we recreate them over and over again with our perception. We all want love, acceptance, and connection but the rejection wound keeps us from getting it. Today I give you 3 steps to heal the rejection wound. 

Episodes I mention:

https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-16-The-Self-Coaching-Model-eref06

https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-2-How-To-Connect-With-Your-Child-Thats-Struggling-With-Addiction-en5fgd

https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-24-Mastering-Your-Response-To-Your-Childs-Addiction-evtoh7

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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When you argue with reality you lose, but only 100% of the time - Byron Katie

When you accept reality, your options are limitless - Heather Ross

Your child's addiction can leave you feeling limited and hopeless. There are always more options than your brain is offering you.  In this episode I walk you through moving beyond resistance into solutions.

I mentioned tapping in the podcast today.  Here's a link that explains what it is:

https://www.webmd.com/balance/what-is-eft-tapping

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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What the heck is a subconscious limiting belief anyway? In this episode I explain it in easy to understand terms.  I also explain how they keep you from getting what you want in your life and how to to clear those subconscious limiting beliefs in easy to understand steps and terms.  

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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Self compassion is a critical life skill, especially when you're dealing with a child's addiction. Learning how to give yourself compassion will help you create more peace of mind and happiness in your life. When you know how to give yourself compassion you never have to people please, sell yourself short, or manipulate to get your needs met because you can meet them yourself. 

In this episode you will learn:  

How self compassion creates connection

The difference between self compassion and self pity

How to create your own practice of self compassion

How self compassion affects your neurotransmitters

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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Post traumatic growth is the positive changes that are experienced after a major life crisis or traumatic event. A child's addiction can be a traumatic event in itself, or it can be filled with traumas. Every situation has good and bad in it though.  You've certainly experienced the bad, today I would like to open your mind to the good possibilities. I wasn't looking for growth when I found it, I was looking for relief from my suffering.  That relief came from tremendous growth and change.

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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How mad do you get about lies? In this episode I tell you how to take the emotional charge out of lies so you can keep your peace of mind. I also tell you why it doesn't matter if your child lies or not. You're still in control. 

In this episode I mentioned two podcasts that you should follow up with:

https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-23-How-To-Create-Self-Confidence-eve62m

https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-26-The-Benefits-of-Making-Decisions--How-To-Get-Started-e10qd93

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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How much time do you spend trying to avoid judgment? Do you live with the burden of shame and secrecy when it comes to your child's addiction? We don't have to tell everyone all of our stories.  Not everyone deserves to hear it.  There's a big difference between deciding someone doesn't need to know and being afraid they will find out and judge you. Today's episode will help you set yourself free from judgment. 

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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We all get in a funk. It's inevitable, yet we judge ourselves when it happens.  In this episode guest host Kelly Hatcher talks about what to do when the inevitable funk happens.  

If you want to get in touch with Kelly:

https://www.instagram.com/newdayfamilyrecovery/

https://newdayfamilyrecovery.com/

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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Sometimes we cling to things that are hurting us just because they're familiar. In this episode I share what I've been hanging on to and the effects of it on my life, and I offer some options about what you may be hanging on to and how it might be affecting your life. 

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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Guest Kelly Hatcher and I discuss her experience being the mother of a child struggling with addiction. 

In this episode we discuss:

If you want to get in touch with Kelly:

https://www.instagram.com/newdayfamilyrecovery/

https://newdayfamilyrecovery.com/

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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When I was struggling the most with my daughter's addiction it was because I believed all the messaging that said if my daughter was mad at me I was probably doing the right thing.  Approaching my daughter's addiction with love was the only thing that felt right to me, but I didn't know how to do it. I didn't know that a shift in my belief about love would give more more power and leverage than anything else I had tried. In this episode I share that belief shift so you can use it to create an approach to your child's addiction that not only works, but also feels right. 

If you want coaching about approaching your child's addiction with love, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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We feel stuck because we believe “we can’t”.  We can’t fix what feels broken, we don’t know how, nothing will ever work, and no one else can help us either. It's such a helpless place to be and it's so easy to get there when you're dealing with a child's addiction.  

In this episode I tell you:

If you feel stuck and want coaching, I'll help you get unstuck.  Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Most parents I work with want help changing how they react to their child's addiction. If you don't like how you respond to your child's addiction, listen up because you can reprogram how you respond. 

In this episode I tell you:

Why you get frustrated and depressed.

How you can resolve any emotion.

How the reaction scale that I created works.

The steps for the reaction scale reset that reprograms how you respond to all circumstances.

How our brain stores feelings and thoughts and how it effects you

If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction, creating self confidence, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/

Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Do you feel alone and isolated dealing with your child's addiction?  If you do, you will continue to feel that way until you connect with yourself and have your own back.  Once you do that, you will see that reflected back to you with a strong support team. 

In this episode I talk about:

If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction, creating self confidence, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/

Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

How often do you wonder what your life would be like if you didn't have a child struggling with addiction? This seems like a harmless question to ask yourself, but it's keeps you stuck in pain if you don't have the right perspective behind it. 

In this episode I walk you through three steps to create the life you think you’d have if your child wasn’t struggling with addiction:

Step 1 – Have intentional thoughts about your child’s addiction that serve you

Step 2 – Protect your precious resources of time and energy

Step 3 – Use your time and energy to create the life you think you would have if your child wasn’t struggling with addiction

If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction, creating the life you want, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

When a relationship is challenging we tend to blame the difficulty on the other person.  One person can change a relationship dynamic. You can decide who you want to be in a relationship and let the other person be who they are. In this episode I give you specific steps to create relationships that serve you.

Some of the concepts I talk about in this episode are:

If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction, your relationships, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Do you know it's time to let go but still try to hold on to controlling your addicted child? In this episode I share about how I've had to let go and put my own oxygen mask on first. 

If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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Do you feel stuck or frustrated? That's because you don't know where you're going or how to get there. You know you don't like where you are, but you're stuck there until you figure out where you're going. Dreaming for yourself will give you a destination so you can plot your course.

If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

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What you will learn in this episode

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Processing negative feelings is as important as breathing.  A few minutes of allowing the pain and processing it can give you instant relief from it. When you don't process it you're just stuck with it. 

In this episode I share:

1. How a few minutes of processing pain frees you from experiencing it all day

2. How judging your feelings makes them more painful

3. The importance of knowing that each feeling is trying to tell you

4. How to stop fear

If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

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For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Links to the blog posts about what your feelings mean:

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/how-to-master-your-feelings-so-you-dont-feel-so-out-of-control-part-1/

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/how-to-master-your-feelings-so-you-dont-feel-so-out-of-control-part-2/

Today I’m sharing the tool with you that I use with all of my clients and in my daily life. It’s called the self coaching model. The model is how I figured out how to help myself when I couldn’t help my daughter. All the concepts I teach come from things I learned while doing models.

In this episode you will learn:

If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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It feels like your child's addiction has all the power, but that's not true. It just takes a shift in perspective and learning where to focus your efforts to take your power back from addiction.  In this episode I give you a new perspective and approach to your child's addiction that helps you see where your power and control is. 

If you have a child struggling with addiction and you want to Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me use the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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In this episode we talk about Jodi's before and after, how she shows up as a mom and wife when her family is in crisis, and how she handles the bad days.  

If you have a child struggling with addiction and you want to Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me use the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/

Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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If you want to learn more about Jodi you can go to her website https://reallifelifecoach.com/

When you hear about addiction, detaching with love is often what’s recommended.

The problem with that is it’s so confusing and because of that, it’s often misunderstood and misused.

In this episode I explain what detaching with love means, when I finally did it, and how it will help you.

To Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me use the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

When you have a child struggling with addiction understanding and implementing boundaries is life changing. Properly handled boundaries can transform your life and relationships.

In this episode I make boundaries easy by explaining:

Why we need boundaries

What they are

What they aren't

How to set them

What to avoid when setting them

For additional resources

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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Every parent experiences anxiety worrying about their kids, but parents who are watching a child go through addiction experience even more intense levels of anxiety and more instances of it.

Taking the time to understand it, learn how to process it, and reframe your thoughts about it gives you authority over it.

In this episode you will learn:

What anxiety is and why it's important

The four ways we react to anxiety

The source of anxiety

How to manage it

For additional resources

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY 

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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First guest episode with Gill from The Sober Powered Podcast. 

Some of the things we talked about in this episode:

If you want my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Abusing Substances - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY click here

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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if you want to reach Gill you can go to her website https://soberpowered.com/podcast/

She is also Sober Powered on Facebook and Instagram

Most of us have this idea that we should feel positive emotion all the time, or that we shouldn’t feel negative emotion.

We aren't supposed to be happy 100% of the time.

The tools I share are meant to help you keep that 50/50 balance because when you're dealing with a child's addiction it's easy to get stuck in the negative 50.

Negative emotions have a purpose.

Each one is bringing you an important message.

When you know what your negative emotions are trying to tell you, then you can work through them instead of trying to avoid them or get stuck in them.

The blog posts I referenced in this episode

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/how-to-master-your-feelings-so-you-dont-feel-so-out-of-control-part-1/

https://heatherrosscoaching.com/how-to-master-your-feelings-so-you-dont-feel-so-out-of-control-part-2/

If you want my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Abusing Substances - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY click here

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/

Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

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Discomfort is necessary. Suffering is optional. In this episode, I tell you what turns discomfort into suffering so you can notice when you're doing it and shift back to discomfort.   If you open up to what I'm saying and implement what you learn in this episode then you will be in charge of your peace of mind rather than depending in your child to change.

If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below

https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession

For additional resources:

Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/

Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

The way you think and talk about your child's addiction is very powerful.  It shapes your experience of their addiction and either raises or lowers your quality of life. Today I share 4 steps you can take to change how you talk and think about your child's addiction and therefore change your future instead of recreating your painful past. 

If you want my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Abusing Substances - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY click here

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Link to my free Facebook group just for mothers who are struggling with a child's addiction

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When you try to control  your child, you’re doing it to create relief from your emotional discomfort. It's one of those "solutions" that often leads to more emotional pain and discomfort. 

Today I give you some empowering alternatives to trying to control your child and their addiction. I also share what's behind the major difference I see in parents who are still struggling with emotional chaos because of their child's addiction and parents that are showing up calm and confident and are no longer at the effect of their child's addiction. 

If you want my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Abusing Substances - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY click here

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Link to my free Facebook group just for mothers who are struggling with a child's addiction

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The good news is you already possesses this super power,  you just don't know how to put it to work for you yet.

In this episode I explain how it works and how to make it work for you instead of against you. 

If you want my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Abusing Substances - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY click here

http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching

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Link to my free Facebook group just for mothers who are struggling with a child's addiction

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