Living With Your Child's Addiction

Addiction is influenced by bio-psycho-social factors, yet biology has been mostly left out of treatment considerations - until now. Dr Evelyn Higgins from Wired For Addiction® created a genetic test that measures brain chemicals, hormones, and specific genes linked to risk taking, impulse control, addiction, depression, and anxiety. Measuring those risk factors takes the guesswork out of treatment and make it specific to each person’s individual needs. In this episode you will learn: How the Wired For Addiction genetic test works How the results of the test are used to form an individualized holistic approach to treatment How our environment impacts our genetic expression Find out more about Wired For Addition: Website https://www.wiredforaddiction.com/ Resources From Heather Ross Coaching NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting. Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Adoptees are almost twice as likely to develop substance use disorder. That statistic gave Beth Syverson insight into why her adopted son Joey was struggling with substances.  Beth is using her lived experience to help adoptive parents who are coming "out of the fog" and realizing the adoption that created their family also created trauma for their child. Even if you haven't been touched by adoption this episode will give you insight into the impact of trauma and mental health struggles.  Learn more about Beth Syverson, the Unraveling Adoption podcast, and APtitude support group: https://www.unravelingadoption.com/ Resources From Heather Ross Coaching NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting. Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Shame doesn't just show up in your mind, it shows up in your closet too.  When you're struggling with your child's addiction and life is throwing challenge after challenge your way; self-care and what you put on your body might not be a priority. Heather talks with master certified coach and personal stylist Judith Gaton about how your thoughts and feelings about yourself are reflected in what you wear and how you care for yourself. A few of the topics covered in the episode: Nothing is wrong with you if the pants don't fit Going through your closet & thoughts to decide what to keep It's not about dressing up, it's about taking care of yourself Want to learn more about Judith? Website Instagram Podcast Resources From Heather Ross Coaching NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting. Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Do you feel guilty or blame yourself a lot? Forgiving yourself is the path to emotional freedom and connection.  If you feel guilty about something you did or didn't do or you're blaming yourself for your child's substance use then forgiving yourself is how you work through it. If you don't forgive yourself, the guilt and blame keep you stuck. In this episode, Heather gives you 5 steps to self-forgiveness.   Resources From Heather Ross Coaching NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting. Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Every parent experiences anxiety worrying about their kids, but parents who are watching a child struggle with substance use experience even more intense levels of anxiety and more instances of it.  It doesn't have to be that way though.  You can start changing your anxiety experience today. All you have to do is take the time to bring yourself into the present moment so you can define the emotion under the anxiety, listen to what that emotion is telling you,  process it, and reframe your thoughts about it.  In this episode you will learn: What anxiety is and why it's important The four ways we react to anxiety The source of anxiety The steps you can take to manage it TODAY This episode was previously published 1/21/21 Resources From Heather Ross Coaching NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting. Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Heather talks to guest Gillian Tietz who is the host of Sober Powered, a top 50 mental health podcast, and the founder of Sober Powered Media, a podcast network with 5 other top mental health podcasts. Gill was Heather's first guest on the podcast for episode #9. In that episode, they talked about some of the science behind substance use. This time Gill is here to talk about her Living a Sobered Powered Life support group. Many parents feel like they are their child's only support person. Family support is critical, but your child needs additional support options from people who understand them if they are struggling. In this episode we discuss: Details about the Living a Sober Powered Life support group Why all paths to recovery are valid and important The value of support on the recovery journey A peak behind the scenes of Sober Powered Media Episodes To Listen To Next: Episode 9 The Science and Psychology of Addiction with Gill from The Sober Powered Podcast EP 58 How To Remove Barriers To Your Child's Recovery EP 56 Rehab Expectations VS Reality From A Mother's Perspective Learn More about the Living a Sober Powered Life Support Group https://www.instagram.com/sober.powered/ Listen to the Sober Powered Podcast on Apple Listen to the Sober Powered Podcast on Spotify Resources From Heather Ross Coaching NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting. Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Today marks one year since Helanna passed away from a fentanyl overdose. This podcast would not exist without Helanna so her interview is being released again to honor her memory. It is one of the most listened-to episodes on the podcast.  Heather also shares some of the realizations she's had since Helanna passed, in an updated intro to the episode.   Link to find Naloxone If you can't find Naloxone using the link, search for a recovery alliance or harm reduction organization in your county.   Original Episode Show Notes: This week I got to interview my daughter.  You've been hearing my experience of her addiction so I think that it's important to hear what her experience was like.  Some of the questions I asked:   I learned a few new things and had some realizations while listening to her insight and I ended up sharing some things I've never shared before.  What was it like when I expected her to be ok to make me feel better instead of me being stable for her?  What else did I do that wasn’t helpful to her?  What did I do that was helpful to her?  Is there anything I could have done differently to help her not struggle with addiction?  What did she get out of using substances?  What made her want to get sober?  What has relapsing taught her?  What makes her feel supported in sobriety? Resources From Heather Ross Coaching NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting. Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Did you know we can want two things that contradict each other at the same time? It's called ambivalence and it's a complex emotion. It’s part of the messiness of being human. When we feel complex competing emotions the last thing we want is someone to minimize how we feel by oversimplifying it, yet that’s what we do when we label our kid’s ambivalence about substances as denial or accuse them of not being serious about recovery. It's possible for your child to want to quit using substances and keep using them.  3 things you’ll learn in this episode: Ambivalence is normal Ways we all experience ambivalence How to leverage understanding your child’s behavior Episodes to listen to next: EP 58 The 6 Stages of Change and Strategies for Motivating Change in Each Stage Ep 54 Harm Reduction with guest Lara Okoloko, LICSW EP 60 Sobriety Can't Be Your Only Measure For Success 3 Steps To Create Holiday Peace & Maybe Even Some Joy Blog Post Resources From Heather Ross Coaching NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting. Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Heather interviewed Certified Master Breathwork Facilitator Victoria Starr. Your breath is your body's only system that is voluntary and under your control. Intentional breathing can reduce anxiety, help with sleep and digestion, increase energy, boost the immune system, and lower blood pressure. You experience the most peace in the present moment, even during stressful situations. Projecting into the future, getting stuck in negative thought loops, and disconnecting from your body changes your breathing and keeps you stuck in fight or flight. Changing your breathing pattern has an immediate impact on your mind and body. A few things you'll learn from the episode: What RESET breathwork is and how it is different from other breathwork The difference between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system and why understanding them matters How we store unprocessed emotions in our body and the problems it causes Episodes to listen to next: EP 29 How To Quiet Your Mind Without Meditating in Silence EP 38 How To Have Self Compassion How to contact Victoria: Sign up for virtual breath work: Virtual Breathwork page 1:1 Breathwork  Website:   victorialeestarr.com IG:  @victorialeestarr FB:  Victoria Starr Resources From Heather Ross Coaching NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting. Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Do you know that the amount of stress you feel and the intensity of the emotions you feel along with it are based on your beliefs about your ability to handle the situation? The amount of stress you feel comes from your thoughts rather than the situation.  That means stress can be reduced by gaining the skills you need to handle the situation and being intentional with how you think about it.  Otherwise, you get stuck worrying, not learning the skills you need and you increase your stress instead of regulating it.  When you understand the difference between worry, stress, anxiety, and overwhelm and understand where they happen in your body and how they affect you, you are no longer at the effect of them.  Understanding these nuances creates emotional intelligence.  This helps you relieve stress, diffuse conflict, and overcome challenges when you're living with your child's addiction. Episodes to Listen to next: EP 55 90 Seconds To A Life You Love With Dr. Joan Rosenberg EP 16 The Self Coaching Model EP 10 How To Create Authority Over Your Anxiety If this podcast has helped you, please help Heather reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with other parents or share it on social media. Make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss any new episodes. Resources From Heather Ross Coaching NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting. Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

In celebration of National Recovery Month, Heather talks to guest Pam Lanhart about her own family's recovery and how she supports other families in their recovery. Pam is passionate about helping families use evidence-based best practices to help families find peace, stay regulated, create the conditions that support recovery and move their loved ones toward change. She believes that a healthy family gives their loved ones the best opportunity to activate recovery. Pam is a certified family recovery coach, peer recovery specialist, Invitation to Change and CRAFT practitioner and Arise trained interventionist. 3 topics you'll hear in this episode: 1. What recovery as a parent means to Pam 2. How her recovery has changed her life 3. Pam's advice for parents that feel like things will never get better Pam's Resources: Thrive Family Recovery Resources: https://thrivefamilyrecoveryresources.org/ Pam's website and book https://pamlanhart.com/ If this podcast has helped you, please help Heather reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with other parents or share it on social media. Make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss any new episodes. Resources From Heather Ross Coaching NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting. Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Heather is hosting a free CRAFT workshop about positive communication Wednesday, September 21st at 7 PM EST. Studies show that 70% of people who use CRAFT are likely to get their loved ones to seek treatment within a year. CRAFT also helps family members improve their own lives whether their loved one seeks treatment or not.  CRAFT is an acronym for Community Reinforcement And Family Training - a scientifically supported, evidence-based, clinically proven approach to helping families of substance users. CRAFT originated at the University of New Mexico and was developed by Robert Meyers, Ph.D., and colleagues. Research and clinical trials have given evidence that with the right tools, families can effect change.   CRAFT has 3 goals:      1.  Teach you skills to take care of yourself  2.  Teach you skills to help your loved one change  3.  To reduce substance use   Click here to find out more and reserve your spot!

Beth, Joey, and Heather talk about how CRAFT (Community Reinforcement and Family Training) and coaching transformed their family so you can hear real-life examples of how this work can change your family too. The highlights of this episode are hearing how Joey feels about the changes he made and how Beth's mindset has shifted about Joey's substance use and the peace of mind she creates for herself.  Joey doesn't know how CRAFT or coaching works, but he knows how it feels to him. That's a beautiful testament to how much impact and influence you can have as a parent. Some of the main topics discussed: How taking the focus off your child and putting it on yourself impacts your family's experience of your child's addiction. It's important to redefine parenting when your child is struggling with addiction - what worked before will no longer work. Connection is the goal instead of sobriety.  Episodes to listen to next: Ep 40 Supporting your child's healing journey with Guests Beth Syverson, Joey Nakao, and Jan Mabie From Safe Home Podcast Ep 22 What if you didn't have a child struggling with addiction? Ep 41 Interview With My Daughter Helanna Johnson Part 1 Listen to the Safe Home Podcast Safe Home Website Resources From Heather Ross Coaching NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting. Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

On August 31st, 2021 Heather spoke at the Volusia County Recovery Alliance Keeping Hope event.  It was their 4th annual overdose awareness and remembrance day held in Daytona, Florida.  The event is in honor of International Overdose Awareness Day which acknowledges the grief felt by families and friends and remembers those who have died due to drug overdose. The day helps reduce the stigma of Substance Use Disorder (SUD), showing that recovery is possible and that overdoses can be prevented.  Heather's speech focuses on: 1. Remembering and honoring Helanna 2. What Heather wants others to know regarding the stigma associated with overdose 3. Her encouragement and guidance for others who have lost a loved one Link to flyer about the event  https://www.overdoseday.com/ If this podcast has helped you, please help Heather reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with other parents or share it on social media. Make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss any new episodes. Resources From Heather Ross Coaching NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting. Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Heather Interviews author Susan Lynch. Her memoir Life After Kevin A Mother's Search for Peace and the Golden Retrievers that Led the Way is a story about finding meaning when life challenges you in the hardest ways, healing through community, spiritual connection, and the transformation that comes from learning how to sit with intensely painful emotions to gain answers and clarity. Susan’s son Kevin died from multiple drug intoxication in 2015. She kept the cause of his death a secret for 2 years because of shame and stigma. Shame separates us from community and connection.  It also keeps us from seeing that we need help.  3 Things you'll learn in this episode: How Shame kept Susan silent and the impact it had on her grief How Susan's dogs helped her heal Connecting with and receiving guidance from someone that has died If you would like to pre-order Susan's book use this link www.susan-lynch.com/book-order. To learn more about Susan go to her website www.susan-lynch.com. Episodes to Listen to next: Ep 51 How to Stop Fixing Your Child and Start Connecting With Them Ep 52 Why Parents Need Recovery Too If this podcast has helped you, please help Heather reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with other parents or share it on social media. Make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss any new episodes. If you want to coach about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession Additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Do you feel like you're failing because your child isn't sober yet? Supporting your child through their addiction is a marathon, not a sprint. The belief that "it's not working" can be very painful and cause you a lot of frustration. It can also make it harder for you to regulate your emotions around your child. When you have other measures for success on your journey, then you create rewards for yourself for the changes you're making and the tools you're learning and using. Those rewards give you the momentum you need to keep moving forward. They also make it easier for you to connect with your child.  Episodes to Listen to next: Ep 5 Control - Why You Do it and How To Stop Ep 54 Harm Reduction with guest Lara Okoloko, LICSW EP 43 Why You Feel Rejected If this podcast has helped you, please help Heather reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with other parents or share it on social media. Make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss any new episodes. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession Additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Heather shares 3 steps that will set the tone for how you and your child experience the boundaries you set. These steps will also make it easier for you to uphold the boundaries after you set them. This episode is a prequal to episode #10 about how to set boundaries. It’s what you need to do BEFORE you set a boundary. The 3 steps are: 1. Like your reason for setting the boundary 2. Decide ahead of time what you think about the boundary 3. Know your yes Episodes to Listen to next: 1. Episode #11 Boundaries 2. Episode #27 Approaching Addiction With Love 3. Episode #21 How To Create Relationships That Serve You If this podcast has helped you, please help Heather reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with other parents or share it on social media. Make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss any new episodes. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession Additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Heather talks about the stages of change model. Making major changes that last concerning substance use is not easy for our kids. Knowing and understanding the stage of change your child is in will help you know what to do to support them and remove barriers to make it easier for them to move to the next stage.   3 things you’ll learn from the episode: The 6 stages of change What happens in each stage Strategies for motivating change and offering support at each stage Episodes to Listen to next: 1. Episode #11 Boundaries 2. Episode #24 Mastering Your Response To Your Child’s Addiction 3. Episode #49 Beyond Addiction How Science and Kindness Helps People Change with author Nicole Kosanke PhD If this podcast has helped you, please help Heather reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with other parents or share it on social media. Make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss any new episodes. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession Additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Heather and guest Nicole Miller who is a certified drug and alcohol counselor and teaches addiction pharmacology to college students talk about how the brain is affected by substance use. The better we understand addiction the easier it is for us to collaborate with and support our kids. It also helps us take it less personally and have more compassion. 3 things you’ll learn from the episode: How drug use affects the reward center of the brain Why early recovery is so challenging What Medication Assisted Treatment (MAT) is and how it helps someone in recovery. Episodes to Listen to next: Episode #27 Approaching Addiction with Love  Episode #7 The Difference Between Discomfort And Suffering  Episode #26 The Benefits of Making Decisions and How To Get Started  Nicole Miller’s Email - nic.triplett@gmail.com If this podcast has helped you, please help Heather reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with other parents or share it on social media. Make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss any new episodes. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession Additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Heather and returning guest Kelly Hatcher talk about what it was like when their kids went to rehab. They both experienced a major gap between their expectations about what rehab and sobriety would be like vs reality. Addiction and recovery are complex. Rehab and sobriety are stops on a lifetime journey. They are not destinations. Heather and Kelly hope that that by sharing their experience it will make rehab and sobriety easier for you and help you support your child as well. 3 things you’ll take away from the episode: The unrealistic expectations Heather and Kelly had before their kids went to rehab (maybe you have the same expectations) Their reality check – what the experience was really like Heather & Kelly’s advice for you based on their experiences with multiple rehabs Episodes to Listen to next: Episode #34 What To Do When You’re In A Funk (guest Kelly Hatcher) Episode #52 Why Parents Need Recovery Too Episode #30 Celebrating Your Life In The Middle of Addiction (guest Kelly Hatcher) Kelly Hatcher’s Website: https://newdayfamilyrecovery.com/ If his podcast has helped you, please help Heather reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with other parents or share it on social media. Make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss any new episodes. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession Additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

When you're supporting your child through addiction, there are many uncomfortable and even painful experiences. The more capacity you have to tolerate emotional pain, the more capable and confident you feel about yourself and your ability to support your child. A willingness to learn from any experience, openness to change, and the capacity to express unpleasant feelings leads to emotional strength and resilience. Being able to experience your own emotional pain also makes it easier for you to tolerate the discomfort of your child's emotional pain as well. It also makes it easier to engage in difficult conversations.  Emotional mastery is an essential skill to help you through your journey with your child's addiction.   Topics Discussed In This Episode:  How emotions only last 90 seconds  Why some emotions seem to last longer than 90 seconds  How allowing and feeling your unpleasant emotions leads to a life you love  Why we use distractions to avoid feelings  Dr. Joan Rosenberg’s website  Buy 90 Seconds To A Life You Love  Episodes to listen to next:  Episode 16 Self Coaching Model  Episode 17 Processing Feelings = High Quality of Life  Episode 18 Understanding Buffering Can Help You Understand Addiction  If his podcast has helped you, please help me reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with someone or share it on social media.  If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession Additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Harm reduction is a set of practical strategies and ideas aimed at reducing negative consequences associated with drug use. It incorporates a spectrum of strategies that includes safer use, managed use, abstinence, meeting people who use drugs “where they’re at,” and addressing conditions of use along with the use itself. Harm reduction is critical to keeping people who use drugs alive and as healthy as possible.  Some of the topics discussed in this episode: The 8 principles of harm reduction Examples of harm reduction strategies for family members How harm reduction helps with stigma Boundaries Links from this episode: Lara Okolo's Website Article by Pat Denning about Harm Reduction in The Journal of Clinical Psychology The National Harm Reduction Coalition Episodes to listen to next: Episode 35 Releasing Judgement Episode 36 What to do about all the lies If this podcast has helped you, please help me reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with someone or share it on social media. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below: https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

How many times have you heard you can only help yourself? It's critical to help yourself, but it's not the only thing you can do. You can invite change in your child and create space for them to decide they want to change. We're constantly told that our kids won't change unless they want to, but we're rarely told that we can create favorable conditions for them to want to change. You can help your child. Episode to listen to next: Episode 49 Beyond Addiction How Science and Kindness Help People Change author Nicole Kosanke PhD Episode 41 Interview With My Daughter  Links that were mentioned in this episode: Al-Anon’s core purpose, mission, and strategic goals CRAFT Studies If this podcast has helped you please help me reach other parents by leaving a review. You can also share the podcast with someone that needs it or share it on social media. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below:  https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward  With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

This episode is an updated excerpt from episode 45 which is the first episode that I made after my daughter Helanna died from fentanyl poisoning. Episode 45 started off very emotional. I don’t want the really important message I had later in that episode to get lost in the heavy emotions.  I updated and re-recorded three critical messages from that episode:  Why we all need our own recovery  Why you need community as you go through your child’s addiction and recovery  Connecting to your child through love instead of guilt, shame, or anger  The episode I recommend next:  Episode #37 Post Traumatic Growth  Links that were mentioned in this episode:  The Safe Home Families Podcast guest episode #40  Custom Music by Joey Nakao  If this podcast has helped you please help me reach other parents and leave a review. You can also share the podcast with someone that needs it or share it on social media.  If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below: https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession  For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/  Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching  Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/  Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

We're always dancing with the fine line between help and support that comes from a place of love and fixing that comes from a place of fear. Fear can show up in such sneaky ways that you don't realize you're trying to fix your child again.  The way out of that is going to the "safe zone" of focusing on connection. In this episode I give you 4 ways to identify that you're in fear and 3 ways to stop fixing and start connecting again. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Even I struggle with fears of enabling. For many years I was a student of the tough love approach, trying to control, and beliefs that didn’t serve me about addiction. No matter how much time I put into creating beliefs that serve me and learning healthy ways to support Helanna, the fear of enabling rather than helping her was always there. As the result of much introspection about where things went wrong and insight from Helanna’s journal, I want to share 3 things I wish I did differently last year and why I wish I had done them differently. This is not about blame. It’s about being open minded and learning from the past. I went into this episode with intention and 3 important factors: 1. Tons of self compassion 2. Knowledge that I could have done all three of those things differently and Helanna still could have died 3. Hope that sharing my experience will make it easier for you to make the best possible decision for your family when faced with similar situations I can’t change what happened, but I can use it to give you perspective in the tremendously difficult area of navigating your child’s addiction. Are you interested in the Implementing CRAFT Workshop that starts Monday 4/11/22? Click here to find out more and sign up! If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

Guest Nicole Kosanke, one of the authors of the book Beyond Addiction How Science And Kindness Help People Change and I talk about the book. Hear powerful insights about using CRAFT (Community Reinforcement and Family Training), positive reinforcement, and other strategies to help yourself and your child that's struggling with addiction. In this episode we discuss: What's happening in your child's brain during active addiction & during recovery. What CRAFT is and what people struggle with the most to implement it in their life. Enabling and tough love. Is relapse a part of recovery? Is using a choice? How we can mitigate the risks of fentanyl. More resources about CRAFT: https://cmcffc.org/ https://invitationtochange.com/ https://motivationandchange.com/family-services/resources-for-families/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction

How you show up for yourself determines how you experience your child's addiction. We aren't wired to be happy all the time. Struggling is inevitable and it's normal. There's wisdom in all our emotions, even the most difficult ones. We need to honor all the feelings that our life circumstances are triggering. Struggling well gives us new perspective so we don't get stuck in apathy. When we embrace the growth and change that our struggle is showing us we can grow and move forward through trying and even traumatic events.    Guest Andrea Seydel and I  discussed: Honoring where you are in your individual journey Struggling well looks different at different times in your life How we struggle well and build resilience in the process The 5 steps to struggling well What to listen to next: Episode 37 Post Traumatic Growth  Episode 38 How to Have Self Compassion Episode 06 Your Words Create Your Quality of Life  Watch the YouTube video of the interview for episode 48 Watch the YouTube Video Andrea and I made last year about struggling well  If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction Andrea Seydel is the Author of the book and host of the podcast Saving You Is Killing Me We Loving Someone With An Addiction. Andrea's website https://www.andreaseydel.com/ Saving You Is Killing Me Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-saving-you-is-killing-me-loving-someone-with/id1549250469 Saving You Is Killing Me Book https://www.amazon.com/Saving-You-Killing-Me-Addiction-ebook/dp/B08SR5WLYX

Healing starts for us when we connect with other parents like us to hear their stories and share our experiences.  When we do that we're no longer alone on this journey. Meeting and engaging with other parents gives us access to insights and resources we need. When we get the support we need, we find the safety and strength to accept ourselves and our children as we are in this moment. That's why my guest Casie Fariello is one of the founders of a new online support community called Other Parents Like Me (OPLM). In this episode we discuss: How connection is the key to hope, help, and healing Supporting more than one child with addiction or other challenges Our first experiences with joining a support community and what we got out of it Rebuilding a family after addiction  The importance of taking everything you learn about addiction, making it your own, and choosing what you want to implement in your life The wonderful experiences we've had being a part of OPLM Watch the video of the interview on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fkp0f5AA3zw&feature=youtu.be If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share Join OPLM and get a free 7 day trial: https://oplm.com/join/ Follow OPLM on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/other.parents.like.me Follow OPLM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/other.parents.like.me/

There’s a gap between what we expect in life and what we’re experiencing. In that gap is a loss. As parents we have hope and expectations. We expect a fulfilling relationship with our kids, family gatherings, milestones like prom and college, and we expect being a parent to feel good.  When addiction shows up we experience the painful gap between what we expect and our reality. We have to grieve those losses so we can let go of what we expected. We can stop wishing the past were different and focus on what we can intentionally create in the future. In this episode Grief coach Julie Cluff and I discuss: · Discounting and comparing losses · We should only compare the impact of our own losses · What misplaced guilt is and how it affects you · Finding forgiveness in grief · Our experiences can be hard and also possible to move through · We can grieve gently · The only way to heal from trauma is to choose the empowerment of change · You don’t have to carry grief the rest of your life If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share Contact Julie Cluff: website: buildalifeafterloss.com free webinar: buildalifeafterloss.com/gift facebook: Build a Life After Loss with Julie Cluff https://www.facebook.com/buildalifeafterloss instagram: @buildalifeafterloss

This is the hardest episode I've ever recorded and also the most important episode I ever recorded. There's no way I can move forward helping other parents without stopping to honor Helanna's life and what her time on this earth gave to me. This podcast wouldn't exist without her. I wouldn't be who I am today without her. The day that Helanna died I started wondering if I could continue my work helping other parents with their child’s addiction. I didn’t know if I could face it anymore. I wanted to hear Helanna’s voice and be close to her somehow, so I listened to the podcast episodes she was on & I realized that it was more important than ever for me to keep doing this work. Having a child struggling with addiction is the hardest thing some parents will ever face. Until I lost Helanna to fentanyl poisoning, her addiction has had more of a long-lasting impact on my life more than anything else. So many parents are struggling alone and in silence because of shame and the stigma that goes with addiction. There’s no way that I can step aside and not continue helping those parents. Right now, that’s what is keeping me motivated to live a life that doesn’t include my daughter. In this episode I share some of the things that I learned while dealing with her addiction and how they’re helping with my grief as well: · Why we all need our own recovery & how mine saved me from regret in my last conversations with my daughter · Why you shouldn't carry the pain of your child's addiction alone - Connection is a survival skill for us parents as much as it is for our kids · Why we need to build the skillset to have difficult conversations with our kids about their addiction & how that's helped me · Connecting to your child through LOVE instead of guilt, shame, or anger Link to the episode that explains the model: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-16-The-Self-Coaching-Model-eref06 If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Your thoughts create your reality. One poisonous thought can cause you a lot of unnecessary pain.  It can be the difference between discomfort and great suffering.  Recently I realized I had one thought about my future that was draining my creativity, making me feel like I had a limited time to enjoy myself, and it was setting me up to create a bad experience when I have the ability to create a really positive experience.  Link to the episode that explains the model: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-16-The-Self-Coaching-Model-eref06 If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

We had some great questions come up after my first interview with Helanna (episode 41) so did a second interview.  We discussed: Suboxone - how it helped - what she wishes she knew before she started using it - why she tapered off it. How I handled her getting off suboxone. Fears about losing her sobriety. What her brain says about why being sober won't work. How she knew she would use drugs from a young age. Why she didn't trust me for a long time and what made her start trusting me again. What made her decide to go to sober living this time when she wouldn't go other times. How a shift in perspective about parenting can help your child and your relationship with them.  If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Healing your own emotional wounds is where the magic is when it comes to your child’s addiction. We’re all responsible for our own healing just like we want our kids to be. When you’re reactive no matter how hard you try not to be, then your child is triggering an emotional wound. The worst part about emotional wounds is we recreate them over and over again with our perception. We all want love, acceptance, and connection but the rejection wound keeps us from getting it. Today I give you 3 steps to heal the rejection wound.  Episodes I mention: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-16-The-Self-Coaching-Model-eref06 https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-2-How-To-Connect-With-Your-Child-Thats-Struggling-With-Addiction-en5fgd https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-24-Mastering-Your-Response-To-Your-Childs-Addiction-evtoh7 If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

When you argue with reality you lose, but only 100% of the time - Byron Katie When you accept reality, your options are limitless - Heather Ross Your child's addiction can leave you feeling limited and hopeless. There are always more options than your brain is offering you.  In this episode I walk you through moving beyond resistance into solutions. I mentioned tapping in the podcast today.  Here's a link that explains what it is: https://www.webmd.com/balance/what-is-eft-tapping If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

This week I got to interview my daughter.  You've been hearing my experience of her addiction so I think that it's important to hear what her experience was like. Some of the things we talked about:  · What was it like when I looked to you to be ok to make me feel better instead of me being stable for you? · What else did I do that wasn’t helpful to you? · What did I do that was helpful to you? · Is there anything I could have done differently to help you not struggle with addiction? · What did you get out of using? · What made you want to get sober? · What has relapsing taught you? · What makes you feel supported in sobriety? I learned a few new things and had some realizations while listening to her insight and I ended up sharing some things I've never shared before. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Guests Joey Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie share from the heart their experiences and struggles with addiction and mental health. 17 year old Joey who is in early recovery is full of wisdom about relationships and connection and what a child struggling with addiction needs during active addiction and recovery.  What he shares is relevant to supporting your child of any age.  His mothers share how they've responded to Joey's active substance abuse and recovery, how they worked hard at being on the same page to support Joey, and how they kept their marriage healthy and happy as well.  The 3 of them came together to create the Safe Home podcast to help other kids and families on their healing journey. Use the links below to listen and subscribe.  If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share SAFE HOME PODCAST: for struggling teens and their families finding their healing path. 17yo Joey Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie share from the heart their experiences and struggles with addiction and mental health. Listen to Safe Home Podcast: YouTube Anchor Spotify Google Podcasts Pocket Casts Coming soon: Apple Podcasts Connect with Safe Home: Email us at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon

What the heck is a subconscious limiting belief anyway? In this episode I explain it in easy to understand terms.  I also explain how they keep you from getting what you want in your life and how to to clear those subconscious limiting beliefs in easy to understand steps and terms.   If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Self compassion is a critical life skill, especially when you're dealing with a child's addiction. Learning how to give yourself compassion will help you create more peace of mind and happiness in your life. When you know how to give yourself compassion you never have to people please, sell yourself short, or manipulate to get your needs met because you can meet them yourself.  In this episode you will learn:   How self compassion creates connection The difference between self compassion and self pity How to create your own practice of self compassion How self compassion affects your neurotransmitters If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Post traumatic growth is the positive changes that are experienced after a major life crisis or traumatic event. A child's addiction can be a traumatic event in itself, or it can be filled with traumas. Every situation has good and bad in it though.  You've certainly experienced the bad, today I would like to open your mind to the good possibilities. I wasn't looking for growth when I found it, I was looking for relief from my suffering.  That relief came from tremendous growth and change. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share   

How mad do you get about lies? In this episode I tell you how to take the emotional charge out of lies so you can keep your peace of mind. I also tell you why it doesn't matter if your child lies or not. You're still in control.  In this episode I mentioned two podcasts that you should follow up with: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-23-How-To-Create-Self-Confidence-eve62m https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-26-The-Benefits-of-Making-Decisions--How-To-Get-Started-e10qd93 If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

How much time do you spend trying to avoid judgment? Do you live with the burden of shame and secrecy when it comes to your child's addiction? We don't have to tell everyone all of our stories.  Not everyone deserves to hear it.  There's a big difference between deciding someone doesn't need to know and being afraid they will find out and judge you. Today's episode will help you set yourself free from judgment.  If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

We all get in a funk. It's inevitable, yet we judge ourselves when it happens.  In this episode guest host Kelly Hatcher talks about what to do when the inevitable funk happens.   If you want to get in touch with Kelly: https://www.instagram.com/newdayfamilyrecovery/ https://newdayfamilyrecovery.com/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Sometimes we cling to things that are hurting us just because they're familiar. In this episode I share what I've been hanging on to and the effects of it on my life, and I offer some options about what you may be hanging on to and how it might be affecting your life.  If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

What can you let be easier in your life? In this episode I share how I'm letting things be easier in my life and how you can too.   If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Guest Colleen Kachmann and I discuss what it’s like to work with a coach and how she helps people with her recovery coaching. In this episode we discuss: Why telling people what actions to take doesn’t work long term. Her work with a recovery coach after she quit drinking. The difference between therapy and coaching and how they complement each other. The power of investing in yourself. Some misunderstandings about addiction. What it’s like to work with her as a recovery coach. If you want to get in touch with Colleen https://colleenkachmann.com If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Guest Kelly Hatcher and I discuss her experience being the mother of a child struggling with addiction.  In this episode we discuss: How Kelly reached a place of unconditional love for her son How she set some strong boundaries How she dealt with her son's homelessness & not knowing where he was Experiencing a child's addiction as a single parent If you want to get in touch with Kelly: https://www.instagram.com/newdayfamilyrecovery/ https://newdayfamilyrecovery.com/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Guest Lindy Romez and I talk about the benefits of a sound bath and how it can help you get into a deep meditative state. I also share how sound baths and energy work have helped me with my healing journey and how they can help you as well. It's a beautiful way to put your own oxygen mask on first.  www.lindyromez.com Sound Bath Meet-up: https://www.meetup.com/SOUND-BATH-LINDYROMEZ/ Download EkoSync for free: http://www.ekosync.com Apple App Store: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ekosonic-meditation-app/id1501487922 Google Play Store: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.ekosonic EkoSync Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ekosync/ EkoSync Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ekosync EkoSync YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC35VNNgtmSY-qCHwfyd5c7A If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Guests Dr. Carmen Jones Licensed Naturopathic Doctor and Kimberly Jarman M.Ed Life Coach of Thrive and Aligned Healing are my guests today. In this episode we discuss: What living in fight or flight does to our brain chemistry How gut health affects neurotransmitters and sobriety What happens to brain chemistry in the early stages of sobriety The physical effect that thoughts have on our health If you want to learn more about Thrive and Aligned Healing check out their website: www.thriveandalignedhealing.com If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

When I was struggling the most with my daughter's addiction it was because I believed all the messaging that said if my daughter was mad at me I was probably doing the right thing.  Approaching my daughter's addiction with love was the only thing that felt right to me, but I didn't know how to do it. I didn't know that a shift in my belief about love would give more more power and leverage than anything else I had tried. In this episode I share that belief shift so you can use it to create an approach to your child's addiction that not only works, but also feels right.  If you want coaching about approaching your child's addiction with love, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

A lot of parents I work with struggle to make decisions. Not deciding causes a lot of unnecessary stress, confusion, overwhelm, and anxiety. Making decisions creates relief and helps you take your power back from your child's addiction.  In this episode I discuss: · The benefits of deciding ahead of time instead of under pressure or during high emotions · How Deciding not to decide is a decision · How to stop Indulging in confusion · The concept that there are no “wrong” decisions · The 4 main benefits of making decisions Link for the workshop: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/moms-make-over-workshop/ For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

We feel stuck because we believe “we can’t”.  We can’t fix what feels broken, we don’t know how, nothing will ever work, and no one else can help us either. It's such a helpless place to be and it's so easy to get there when you're dealing with a child's addiction.   In this episode I tell you: how negative emotions work and what they’re signaling to us Why understanding your emotions creates fulfillment and happiness in your life How blame keeps you stuck Four step process to get unstuck If you feel stuck and want coaching, I'll help you get unstuck.  Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Most parents I work with want help changing how they react to their child's addiction. If you don't like how you respond to your child's addiction, listen up because you can reprogram how you respond.  In this episode I tell you: Why you get frustrated and depressed. How you can resolve any emotion. How the reaction scale that I created works. The steps for the reaction scale reset that reprograms how you respond to all circumstances. How our brain stores feelings and thoughts and how it effects you If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction, creating self confidence, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Do you feel alone and isolated dealing with your child's addiction?  If you do, you will continue to feel that way until you connect with yourself and have your own back.  Once you do that, you will see that reflected back to you with a strong support team.  In this episode I talk about: How to create a connection with yourself so you're the foundation for your support team The difference between confidence and self confidence How to build confidence in yourself The most important thing you can do to help yourself and your child If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction, creating self confidence, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

How often do you wonder what your life would be like if you didn't have a child struggling with addiction? This seems like a harmless question to ask yourself, but it's keeps you stuck in pain if you don't have the right perspective behind it.  In this episode I walk you through three steps to create the life you think you’d have if your child wasn’t struggling with addiction: Step 1 – Have intentional thoughts about your child’s addiction that serve you Step 2 – Protect your precious resources of time and energy Step 3 – Use your time and energy to create the life you think you would have if your child wasn’t struggling with addiction If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction, creating the life you want, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

When a relationship is challenging we tend to blame the difficulty on the other person.  One person can change a relationship dynamic. You can decide who you want to be in a relationship and let the other person be who they are. In this episode I give you specific steps to create relationships that serve you. Some of the concepts I talk about in this episode are: Addiction is a symptom of the problem, not the problem How to deconstruct and redefine a relationship that serves you Relationships are just thoughts If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction, your relationships, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Do you know it's time to let go but still try to hold on to controlling your addicted child? In this episode I share about how I've had to let go and put my own oxygen mask on first.  If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Do you feel stuck or frustrated? That's because you don't know where you're going or how to get there. You know you don't like where you are, but you're stuck there until you figure out where you're going. Dreaming for yourself will give you a destination so you can plot your course. If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

What you will learn in this episode What buffering is all about and how it prevents us from fully experiencing life. The negative effects of artificial pleasure. How understanding buffering can help you understand addiction. If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Processing negative feelings is as important as breathing.  A few minutes of allowing the pain and processing it can give you instant relief from it. When you don't process it you're just stuck with it.  In this episode I share: 1. How a few minutes of processing pain frees you from experiencing it all day 2. How judging your feelings makes them more painful 3. The importance of knowing that each feeling is trying to tell you 4. How to stop fear If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share Links to the blog posts about what your feelings mean: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/how-to-master-your-feelings-so-you-dont-feel-so-out-of-control-part-1/ https://heatherrosscoaching.com/how-to-master-your-feelings-so-you-dont-feel-so-out-of-control-part-2/

Today I’m sharing the tool with you that I use with all of my clients and in my daily life. It’s called the self coaching model. The model is how I figured out how to help myself when I couldn’t help my daughter. All the concepts I teach come from things I learned while doing models. In this episode you will learn: Why recognizing the difference between a thought and a circumstance is crucial to understanding how your brain works How using the self coaching model will allow you to obtain full control over your life How you can create our own peace of mind and happiness with the model If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Guest Andrea Seydel, author of the book Saving You is Killing me Loving Someone With an Addiction.  This episode is full of easy to implement concepts and actions to help you build strength and resilience while going through a loved one's addiction.  A few of the topics we covered: What positive psychology is and how it can help you The concept of struggling well What resilience is and how to create it If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share If you want to learn more about Andrea or her book you can go to her website https://www.andreaseydel.com/savingyouiskillingme

It feels like your child's addiction has all the power, but that's not true. It just takes a shift in perspective and learning where to focus your efforts to take your power back from addiction.  In this episode I give you a new perspective and approach to your child's addiction that helps you see where your power and control is.  If you have a child struggling with addiction and you want to Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me use the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

In this episode we talk about Jodi's before and after, how she shows up as a mom and wife when her family is in crisis, and how she handles the bad days.   If you have a child struggling with addiction and you want to Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me use the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share If you want to learn more about Jodi you can go to her website https://reallifelifecoach.com/

When you hear about addiction, detaching with love is often what’s recommended. The problem with that is it’s so confusing and because of that, it’s often misunderstood and misused. In this episode I explain what detaching with love means, when I finally did it, and how it will help you. To Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me use the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

When you have a child struggling with addiction understanding and implementing boundaries is life changing. Properly handled boundaries can transform your life and relationships. In this episode I make boundaries easy by explaining: Why we need boundaries What they are What they aren't How to set them What to avoid when setting them For additional resources Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Every parent experiences anxiety worrying about their kids, but parents who are watching a child go through addiction experience even more intense levels of anxiety and more instances of it. Taking the time to understand it, learn how to process it, and reframe your thoughts about it gives you authority over it. In this episode you will learn: What anxiety is and why it's important The four ways we react to anxiety The source of anxiety How to manage it For additional resources Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY  http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

First guest episode with Gill from The Sober Powered Podcast.  Some of the things we talked about in this episode: Do people who have struggled with addiction have a choice? Why consequences aren't enough to make people stop drinking/using  How each person's rock bottom looks different Different avenues to support sobriety Alcohol and the teen brain If you want my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Abusing Substances - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY click here http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share if you want to reach Gill you can go to her website https://soberpowered.com/podcast/ She is also Sober Powered on Facebook and Instagram

Most of us have this idea that we should feel positive emotion all the time, or that we shouldn’t feel negative emotion. We aren't supposed to be happy 100% of the time. The tools I share are meant to help you keep that 50/50 balance because when you're dealing with a child's addiction it's easy to get stuck in the negative 50. Negative emotions have a purpose. Each one is bringing you an important message. When you know what your negative emotions are trying to tell you, then you can work through them instead of trying to avoid them or get stuck in them. The blog posts I referenced in this episode https://heatherrosscoaching.com/how-to-master-your-feelings-so-you-dont-feel-so-out-of-control-part-1/ https://heatherrosscoaching.com/how-to-master-your-feelings-so-you-dont-feel-so-out-of-control-part-2/ If you want my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Abusing Substances - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY click here http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

Discomfort is necessary. Suffering is optional. In this episode, I tell you what turns discomfort into suffering so you can notice when you're doing it and shift back to discomfort.   If you open up to what I'm saying and implement what you learn in this episode then you will be in charge of your peace of mind rather than depending in your child to change. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources: Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

The way you think and talk about your child's addiction is very powerful.  It shapes your experience of their addiction and either raises or lowers your quality of life. Today I share 4 steps you can take to change how you talk and think about your child's addiction and therefore change your future instead of recreating your painful past.  If you want my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Abusing Substances - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY click here http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group just for mothers who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

When you try to control  your child, you’re doing it to create relief from your emotional discomfort. It's one of those "solutions" that often leads to more emotional pain and discomfort.  Today I give you some empowering alternatives to trying to control your child and their addiction. I also share what's behind the major difference I see in parents who are still struggling with emotional chaos because of their child's addiction and parents that are showing up calm and confident and are no longer at the effect of their child's addiction.  If you want my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Abusing Substances - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY click here http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group just for mothers who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

The good news is you already possesses this super power,  you just don't know how to put it to work for you yet. In this episode I explain how it works and how to make it work for you instead of against you.  If you want my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Abusing Substances - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY click here http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Link to my free Facebook group just for mothers who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

How often do you send a text to your addicted child and breathe a sigh of relief because the text went through, or look on social media to see if they’ve been active, or do a drive by just so you can have a little peace of mind? That fear of all the things that can wrong can rule your life.  You get stuck with horrible images and thoughts about them over dosing and no one being there to help them. You brain gets stuck looping through all the worst-case scenarios. You live your worst fear day in and day out, losing sleep, and wondering how the hell all this happened in the first place. When you have an addicted child you can’t rely on external circumstances to relieve your worry and fear. You have to develop the skillset to provide your own relief. In this episode I talk about how I help my clients provide that relief for themselves.  If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession For additional resources:  Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/  Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share

How often do you intend to have a positive interaction with your child, keep it light and polite, just give them a little love,  but instead it turns into disconnect, arguments, and you end up bewildered about where it went wrong? I used to find myself in that position constantly. I would plan something fun with my daughter to make memories and connect with her and we would end up fighting, I would feel uptight, rushed & bitchy. Today I tell you what causes that disconnect and how to change it into connection. If you want my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Abusing Substances - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY click here http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/

In this introduction episode I talk about my journey from feeling totally powerless and thinking nothing would ever help with my daughter's addiction, to being willing to try anything.  When I decided to break the mold of doing things the way I always did, I became confident in my ability to support my daughter, created a better relationship with her, and learned a process that gives me clarity and discernment in every situation.   If you want my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Abusing Substances - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY click here http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/