100% Yourself With Barbera

Do you find yourself drowning in a sea of good intentions? 

Are you're telling yourself things like you have to break this lousy habit...? 

Or you need to change that rotten relationship? 

Or you need to write that life-changing letter...?  

So why do we do that? 

Or rather why don't you do it? 

That is what I want to be talking about today.  

For those of you who do not know me, My name is Barbera and I am a transformation coach for people who have always felt weird or strange or like they don’t fit into this world, who have spend most of their life trying to please others and as a result feel unhappy and unsatisfied with their current reality.  

After working with me they feel proud and powerful, they care less about what other people think or say, they live a life that is both rewarding and fulfilling and they know how to turn their calling into their soulful profitable business that allows them the freedom they desire.  

I help individuals that want to be free to be who they and free to do what they love. I help them to get a crystal clear vision of what is really important to them in life and give them a step-by-step plan on how to get there.  

If you are such a person, then I'd love to get to know you! Book a virtual coffee (or tea) with me and let's chat! 

“Be authentic” has become the most tossed-around and overused clichés in the world of business and sales.

On a daily basis I hear about how we should be genuine in our sales and selling endeavors. Programs, podcasts, books, webinars, and two-day conferences devoted to teaching people how to sell authentically abound. Gurus suck people in by shouting and touting, “Follow me on the path to closing more sales by being yourself and selling with authenticity.”

Authenticity is not a sales strategy.

This buzzword is a hyped-up way of saying be real, genuine, truthful, direct, honest, open, sincere.

When did that become a unique approach?

Isn’t that what we were supposed to do all along?

Authenticity is not some innovative new business strategy.

Being sincere is not a fresh and modern sales ploy. Being honest in the sales process is not a shocking concept … at least, it shouldn’t be.

In this podcast, I am diving in deep into how people can sell in a way that feels more natural and less sleazy because I see this big need for doing sales in a different way, I myself have felt that need deeply and that made me dive into selling in a way that's fun and natural using the talents and gifts that come natural to you.

In today's episode I talk about why sometimes little things can become too much when you're an HSP.

I also talk about the following other problems that only an HSP will understand:

If you recognize yourself in what I discuss in this episode and you want or have a chat about it (or about other things about yourself that you don't understand) then do one of these things:

Staying on task can be difficult, but it can be particularly challenging when you are surrounded by constant distraction. In today's always-connected world, diversions are nothing more than a click away.

Focus & Concentration are always a challenge for the Highly Sensitive Person, so today I want to talk about why that is and give some useful tips on improving your mental focus.

First we are going to Assess Your Mental Focus and we talk about the process behind attention and distraction. Then I talk about distractions and how to eliminate them [Shocker: Not all distractions come from outside sources.] After that I talk about ways to limit your focus so you will become better at focussing. [And how this can reduce your stress].  I also talk about why it is important to live in the moment and I give you some techniques to help you with that. I also talk about mindfulness and how this can benefit your focus & concentration. And I share with you some more techniques that will keep your mental focus sharp and your performance high when you really need it.

As always I am so happy that you are here and that you are listening to my podcasts. Without you I could not do what I do, so thank you for being here! And if you want to have a talk with me about this subject (or any other) I offer a free clarity call that you can book via my website www.hspcoachbarbera.com

Please share this episode with anyone you think that might benefit from it. Thank you!

Today's inspiring interview is with Scott Manduck.

Scott Manduck focuses on providing everyday people with the ultimate self-directed healthcare products to empower themselves and their family and people around the world. With his family's journey into the holistic health space many years ago, it naturally grew into something very special the family could work on together. Serving others and help supporting their journey has been something special for us and life changing.

Today's inspiring interview is with the lovely Lisa Gumieniuk.

Lisa helps busy, professional women like you who are stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed…

…to discover the real cause of their struggle and overcome it, so they can experience:

…(with real-life tools other than positive affirmations and talk therapy).

Time-poor woman with loads on their plate,  don’t have the luxury of spending hours talking about their problems and ‘just thinking positively’ is not enough!

The need to get to THEIR specific root cause and change it, so they can feel better, fast.

For over 13 years, Lisa had a corporate and professional career as a Project Manager. She was constantly stressed, anxious and overwhelmed. She then spent 6 years recovering from chronic illness whilst unable to work.

Having access to a range of tools and techniques (and being strong and determined) Lisa thought she could do it on my own.  But after many years of achieving minimal improvement, she realised she needed personalised answers and support.

She enlisted help and learned some solutions that worked at least 100% faster than it would have taken her to do it on her own. This took years off her healing journey (that she thought was never going to end!)

Lisa was then able move beyond the 4 walls of her home, bed and brain fog! She now spends her time exercising, implementing the Self Care and Self Healing techniques and helping others to regain their lives!

Now, she’s here to help and support women. She’s discovered some of the most powerful, little-known strategies that can enable women to go from surviving to thriving, chaos to clarity, fast!

More information on Lisa can be found here:

In today's episode I talk about how your Limiting Beliefs are sabotaging Your Success & Happiness and what you can do about it.

First I discuss what Beliefs are and what makes a belief a Limiting Belief. I talk about how to identify your own limiting beliefs and what havoc they are playing in your life and the far reaching effects they have on your success, your happiness and your ability to be 100% yourself.

Then I talk about the different ways on how to transform your Limiting Belief into a Supporting Belief. I discuss different methods and I give examples with each of those methods so that you can start implementing your knowledge and start transforming your beliefs.

Today's episode is about the Corona / COVID-19 Pandemic that is going on right now and if you can be 100% yourself during all of this or not.

I also share some of the things I have heard with you like theories, bullshit stories,  great initiatives, shocking events and much much more.

And lastly I share a recipe with you for a potent antiviral potion that you can easily make yourself and that is very effective during this Pandemic.

To help spread positivity in the world I am also offering the following during this Pandemic:

Willow McIntosh is the Leader of the High Sensory Intelligence movement.

It is his mission to evolve the identity of the genetic personality trait known as ‘Highly Sensitive’ into High sensory intelligence. To awaken the world to the responsibility we have to utilise the abilities it affords in business, governments and leadership. To support people with the trait to take ownership of their unique gifts. To become the coaches, consultants and leaders they were born to be in their respective fields.

Unique circumstances during his childhood lead to the burying of his authentic self and complete misalignment to the work he was destined for. He began to carve his own path into understanding how empathic entrepreneurs with sensory processing sensitivity can learn to use their genetic traits to their advantage. As an adult this lead to a lifelong enquiry and practise into learning powerful energetic alignment techniques to re-engage with the authentic self.

He believe that all people with the trait have the ability to tap into a unique skill that draws on a deeper sensory perception. Founded in their own life experience and self development they have the capacity to facilitate great transformation and development in others.

In today's episode I talk about Fear. 

What is fear? 

Why do we feel fear? 

How can you overcome fear? 

What strategies can you use to handle your fear better?

With the situation being the way it is with the pandemic of Corona and the lockdown for most countries, there is a lot of fear and anxiety out there and with this Podcast I hope to contribute something to help you handle your fears better. 

However this episode is not just about fear around Corona, but also about fear in general.

Today's episode is about happiness being a choice.  And I know there are people who don't agree with this, and that is ok, but in this episode I explain why I think that Happiness is infact a choice and how choosing happiness works. 

I also talk about all the things that happiness is not and how you can invite happiness into your life. Because at the end of the day, all of us just want to be happy... Don't we? 

Thank you again for listening to this podcast and for supporting me and for sharing your stories with me. 

Please continue to do so :) 

You can email me at barbera@hspcoachbarbera.com or connect with me on social media, I am on most of them (/hspcoachbarbera). I'd love to connect with all of you! 

In today's episode I answer two question I regularly get:

1. How did you find out if you are a highly sensitive person (HSP)?

2. How do I know if I am a highly sensitive person (HSP)?

I talk about how I noticed all my life that I was different from others and I explain why I often felt weird or strange or like there was something wrong with me.

I also talk about 22 signs that indicate that you are probably a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).

In this episode I talk about burnout and how a burnout can be a blessing in disguise.

I talk about the signs leading up to a burnout, the physical signs and the more severe signs, how to recognize them and what to do with them. I talk about how a burnout for a sensitive person differs from a less-sensitive person and how the way out of that burnout also differs. 

I talk about my own burnout, how it happened, what the signs were, what I did and what I should have done. About my thoughts and my feelings, but most of all I talk about what my burnout gave me and why I now think that my burnout was probably the best thing that ever happened to me (even though at the time I thought it to be the worst thing to ever happen to me).

And I want to thank you for being here, for listening to me, for supporting me, for your energy, for everything. THANK YOU!

Today I want to talk about what happens both to you and to the other when someone is ghosting you. 

Ghosting means to not respond when someone is sending you messages and most of the time this makes us feel bad or ignored or hurt. 

I’d like to hear your thoughts about it, leave me a message. 

And if it is something you feel you need help with or when you just want to talk to me about anything at all, send me a message at barbera@hspcoachbarbera.com. I’d love to connect with you!

Being yourself means you like who you are. Being 100% yourself means living life how you want to live it, regardless of other people's opinions. And it means you respect yourself, your wants, your needs and your opinions. It also means to not worry about what others think. You can't control them or their thoughts anyway.

Listen to my story, why it is better if you are 100% yourself and which steps you can take to become 100% yourself.

And if you are ready to take that first step, if you are brave enough to embrace your unique alienness and become 100% Yourself, contact me because I would love to get to know you!

I have created a Facebook Group with like minded souls that you can be a part of, so you won't have to do it all by yourself and if you contact me I will make sure you are warmly welcomed into our group.

Maybe you could also use someone in your corner, someone that coached, guides and mentors you? I would love to be that person. Send me an email at barbera@hspcoachbarbera.com to set up a free discovery call in which we can get to know each other and see if we are a good fit and get clear on where you are now, where you want to be and which steps to take to get there.

Is your life not giving you the energy and satisfaction you crave?

Do you have trouble fitting in, often feeling alone or like an outsider? Do people not seem to understand you or just not be like you?

And have you ever felt like you are weird or strange or thought that you might be an alien dropped on the wrong planet or even thought there might be something wrong with you?

Then you are the Alien I want to get to know :)

Hi, my name is Barbera and I am a Transformation Coach for Intuitive, Ambitious Aliens that feel they have a mission here on earth and that want to create a life/business for themselves that makes their heart sing.

I help you to be your authentic self, find your unique voice and connect with your souls mission, so your calling becomes your soulful, profitable business.

Love,

Barbera

Today's interview is with David Lyon.  

David Lion is a musician, men's worker, entrepreneur and movement enthusiast.   In his current project, Evolving Men, he aims to broaden the horizon of how men express themselves and create spaces for vulnerable, authentic sharing among men.   

In his work in groups and one-on-one, he combines his sensitivity and fine attunement with clarity and a sharp mind.   

David feels most alive when expressing his creativity through writing, singing or dancing and when being in community with fellow souls exploring what is alive in this moment.  

Today's interview is with Manca Klinar.  

Manca Klinar is a certified Whole Person Life Coach and lives in Slovenia. She assists fellow Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) in finding their own way in life by helping them recreate their lives to be balanced and aligned with High Sensitivity.   

While supporting them in their process to wholeness she encourages her clients to connect with their inner wisdom and their innate gifts.  As a law graduate she worked in public service for nearly 15 years, living a fast-paced active life, like that of a non-HSP, on autopilot, trying to be like the majority of people, yearning to fit in and belong, following the expectations of others.   

Several personal crises made her start reconstructing herself: she re-connected with her heart and her body. After a life-changing liberating spiritual retreat she had to face the reality of her life: her job no longer fitted in with her hearts vision for herself.   

Her body gave her the nudge she needed to overcome the fear of having no other alternative job solution when her contract expired. Instead of extending the contract she chose freedom. After an intense time of soul searching, deep questions, uncomfortable answers, fear, vulnerability, feeling lost, and also a deep knowing of being on the right track, she uncovered her true self and found her new path.  

She finds great joy in simple movement in nature as well as outdoor sports; it was sports that helped her get in touch with her body again. She is also an indefatigable seeker of meaning and of new knowledge, she loves interesting stories and discovering her own way while living it every day. She enjoys talking about High Sensitivity and connecting with fellow HSPs.  

Today's interview is with Karen Miller.  

Karen is a Holistic Health Coach, Intuitive Healer and Diamond Leader with doTERRA.  She is passionate about supporting people to heal mind, body and soul using natural remedies. This includes essential oils, nutrition and simple lifestyle changes.   Within her doTERRA business, Karen supports a number of highly sensitive leaders to recognise their unique gifts and to feel more empowered and aligned.   

Outside of her work, Karen is a loving partner, sister, daughter, aunt and mum to Monty the cat.   

Today's interview is with Caroline Ferguson.  

Caroline Ferguson is a Mindset Trainer, Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist and speaker. She’s privileged to work with sensitive, purposeful business owners and professionals who know they were born for something more. Using proven mindset tools and training, plus deep connection, 

Caroline teaches them how to overcome their limiting stories and habits so that they can embody their potential, reboot their inner game and skyrocket their impact. 

Today's interview is with Bevin Niemann.  

Six years ago, Bevin Niemann set off on a mission to uncover the burning questions – who am I? Who do I want to be? What should be my work in the world? During a fateful moment in a meditation group, she heard the term ‘sensitive’ and after a bit of research everything clicked. She learned that she was a highly sensitive person (HSP) and an empath. 

Her first thought was, 'I want to meet others like myself'. So, she launched a sensitive Meetup group, which has since grown to over 500 members. After teaching over 30 group workshops about sensitivity, she pursued a new career in life coaching. It was a great fit for her decades of teaching, leadership and mentoring skills, honed as a former Vice President of a 50-year old nonprofit organization and managing a million dollar real estate portfolio. She studied for the past four years with the Center for Transformational Presence and officially launched her coaching and mentoring business, Perceptive Souls in 2016. 

Last year, she launched the Global Cooperative for Sensitive Leaders, which now has 250 members from five continents. She created this cooperative as a think tank, where HSP professionals can connect and form unique collaborations.  Her work is moving in a new direction she calls: Leadership for a New Era. Many sensitive people have incredible leadership abilities, but are often reluctant to step into a role that might be overly demanding, require them to make decisions that go against their values or stay in workplaces/organizations with a lot of politics, conflict and game playing. 

Bevin believes our world is at a crossroads and it’s time for a change in how we embody leadership. She knows leadership is not just for the top, the elite and those ‘in power’. She's mentoring HSPs and empaths, writing and advocating for sensitive leadership to be recognized at all levels.   

Today's interview is with Stephanie Mackay  

Stephanie MacKay is a tarot reader, providing insight and clarity to people who enjoy creating their own lives who also benefit from having a different perspective when they feel stuck. Stephanie is originally from Toronto, Canada and moved to London, England in 2004.  

After a lengthy career in administrative law with the Canadian government, both in Canada and abroad, she left London in 2013 to pursue her childhood dream of living in Africa. She lived in The Gambia, West Africa for two years and then went to India for 5 months to study various energetic healing techniques.  

Stephanie has always been highly sensitive and intuitive. She began reading tarot cards in 2010 and continued to read for clients online during her travels. When she returned to London in 2016, she expanded her tarot business into a full-time occupation. She currently works with clients both in person and online, providing empowering guidance through her tarot readings.        

Today's interview is with Saskia Bussink.  

Saskia Bussink is an entrepreneur since a decade. She works with women to become financially fit, free and wealthy. She is a coach, mentor, trainer and investor who helps women to let their business grow and invest wisely. That can be by investing back in their business or in another vehicle such as in property.

Saskia has her own cash flowing properties in the UK and likes the combination of working when and where she wants to in a balance with her family life and friend around her.  

Today's interview is with Martijn Meima. 

Martijn Meima, based in the Netherlands, specializes in helping business people produce better results through intuitive practices.  Intuition is overlooked in a world where the focus is on quantifying and predicting. Martijn’s methods connect people to a larger sense of knowing that can have profound effects on their ability to make better decisions.   

He has developed a holistic, non-dualistic and systematic way of looking at businesses that help you find new ways of creating success in your business.  With his company, Business Intuition, Martijn has helped hundreds of entrepreneurs, managers and leaders in the Netherlands and Europe to use their pure intuition in the day to day business.   

In one on one coaching, workshops and trainings his clients learn to find their own way of doing business.  Martijn does not believe in one size fits all. Every individual and every organization has its unique energy and character which requires a unique approach to marketing, co-operation, HR and even finance.   Only then doing business will become effortless and success will be a natural effect of your actions.  

Today's interview is with Liz Almond

Liz Almond is an inspirational and multi award winning Spiritual Teacher, Coach, Author, Therapist and Business Mentor.   Liz had an accident in 1996 which was a catalyst for change. It led to her having two years off work. Positivity and overcoming adversity have been the theme through her life and Liz has recovered her health dramatically.   

When she started her business, she was confronted with a run of personal bereavements leading her into depression and her business and finances floundered.   She now helps midlife business owners resolve their health, wealth and happiness issues which are affecting their mental health.   

She now empowers midlife spiritual entrepreneurs experiencing depression, anxiety and chronic health conditions to have direction, clarity of their life purpose and to feel fantastic and abundant again.   

Today's interview is with Maggie Schott.  

Maggie Schott is a content and social media marketing professional with over ten years of experience.  

Located in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, Maggie has served in full service and boutique marketing firms before branching out and starting her own content and social media marketing agency.  

She is recently married and just purchased her first home together with her husband and Labrador.  Maggie blogs about homemaking and knitting in her spare time, as well as enjoys spending time hiking, biking, and skiing.