Anti Bullying 101

These activities can be used by teachers, parents, and caregivers. They are designed to help improve school climate and reduce the incidence of bullying in the home or at school.

After the Central Regional incident some weeks back I decided that it might be a nice idea to do an interview with a middle schooler. It was pretty easy to do because I had a pretty good natural resource in the house and that was my daughter Zoe. Her thoughts didn't surprise me; she hasn't been jaded by the trials of life and still believes that love, joy, peace and patience is the answer. I encourage everyone to listen to this one because we will all learn something. Thanks to Andi Kay for the packet we used. Please take the time to click on the links below to check out her information packet and to listen to the interview I did with Andi last week. Overcoming Bullying Meet Andi Kay

Andi Kay is the founder of The Bloom Foundation which is a 501c3 organization designed to  help teen girls overcome bullying and build emotional resilience and bloom into confidence as leaders. Instead of preventative measures, Bloom exists to help girls process and cope in a safe and supportive space so they can grow through what they go through. Working with licensed therapists, the foundation create curriculums for both caretakers and children to address the impact of bullying, helping girls build emotional intelligence and resilience, so they can bloom with confidence. Please listen in and hear the passion and empathy that this young woman has for the many who are being bullied and excluded. Take the time to download the link below as this is an invaluable resource for parents, teachers, and schools in general.  info@hellobloom.org http://www.hellobloom.org/ How To Overcome Bullying

Growing up with Hydrocephalus took the ordinary out of Kate’s childhood. Numerous surgeries, countless doctor visits and relentless recovery periods had become her norm. But through it all, one thing kept her thriving – the power of resilience in extraordinary circumstances. Building her life around finding incredible possibility on the other side of challenge has kept her driven and ultimately helped her find her true calling. Dr. Lund is a licensed clinical psychologist of 17 years, peak performance coach, best-selling author and TEDx speaker. Her specialized training in medical psychology includes world-renowned Shriners Hospital for Children, Boston, Massachusetts General Hospital, and Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center, all of which are affiliated with Harvard Medical School. She uses a strengths-based approach to help her clients improve their confidence in school, sports and life while helping them to become more resilient and reach their full potential at all levels. Outside of work, Kate enjoys spending time with her husband and twin boys, exploring the outdoors of the Pacific Northwest, and these days can often be found on the golf course. www.katelundspeaks.com  /in/kate-lund/  drkate@drkatelund.com 

Ann Purcell is a philanthropist, award-winning author, and songwriter. Her latest publication is Tender Flower of Heaven, which is a collection of 130 poems. Ann has been a full-time teacher of Transcendental Meditation since 1973, teaching Transcendental Meditation and advanced courses in many countries around the world. In addition, she has worked on curricula and course development for universities and continuing education programs. Ann is also an international leader of the TM-Women Organization and oversees the teaching of Transcendental Meditation in girls’ schools and communities in several countries in Africa. She donates all proceeds from her photography, books, and music to its educational programs. Ann founded Enlightenment For Everyone in 2012 Website and Social · Facebook (27K likes) · Instagram (Smaller profile, but she is active and she does targeted advertising on this platform to boost awareness)

The superintendent of the New Jersey school district where a 14-year-old freshman died by suicide 48 hours after video of bullying surfaced online has resigned, a day after funeral services were held for teenager. Adriana Kuch was found dead a week from Friday following a premeditated bullying incident in which four school mates allegedly ganged up to either attack the high schooler or record the incident, which was subsequently posted to social media. All four girls involved in the attack on Kuch, who took her own life two days after the Feb. 1 incident at Central Regional High School in Berkeley Township, had already been suspended indefinitely before they were charged Friday in the hallway attack at the school. Please read the links for more information on the brutal attack. Students are protesting and retired teachers have said that this has been going on for years in this district. Everything just got kicked under the rug.  Superintendent Resigns Footage of the Attack Asbury Park Press Article

Listen in as Jim shares some ways to keep things simple when it comes down to getting and staying healthy. A healthy person has better self esteem and is less apt to bully harass or intimidate others. Keeping aware of where you stand everyday in the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual areas of your life. Take advantage of the course link below:  Stress Management Through Balance.  

Well it's nice to be here with my listeners. Considering the alternative I am grateful to be be here and to continuing doing what I love most. Just last Monday I went through quadruple bypass surgery known by many as CABG (Coronary Artery Bypass Grafting). For me that was four grafts. No heart damage, and a new lease on life. Please listen in and get the details of why everyone needs to understand that self care is not selfish.  Monologues

The Spiritual Dimension Of Life Proverbs 30: 17 KJV "The eye that mocketh at his father, and despiseth to obey his mother, the ravens of the valley shall pick it out, and the young eagles shall eat it."  What does this mean in very practical terms? If an individual grows up in life with a mocking and contemptible attitude toward their father and despises to obey their mother they will lose their perception on right and wrong behaviors and even the smallest decisions that need to be made will create confusion in their life. Our relationships with our parents can determine future success for ourselves and as we mature for our families. Honor Your Father and Your Mother is the first commandment that has a blessing attached to it: “That you will live a long full life.” NLT. As we mature the imprint from our upbringing can affect the relationship that should mean the most to us; the one with our parents. When we mock our father and despise our mother we lose our perception on life and may miss many of the blessings that God has for us. Take advantage of the FREE journal linked below.  Also please hit the support button and become a listener supporter. This will help to enhance this podcasts frequency and quality. The Eye That Mocks The Father (FREE)

Bullying has become epidemic in our schools, and no matter how you slice it, this behavior has gotten out of hand. Teachers, administrators, and parents are all looking to something that will just make the problem go away. There is not one program or intervention that will stop bullying. It takes a concerted effort of teachers, administrators, parents, and students to help create a climate of respect and responsibility. The Anti Bullying 101 podcast has been providing tips and strategies to teachers, parents, and students for the past 5 years and I would like to take the podcast to another level. This would require me to invest more time in its production and promotion. I can’t do this without your help. I ask that you please hit the support button now and become a listener supporter of this podcast. By doing so you will be helping to spread the word about the dangers of bullying and helping victims develop hope and greater resiliency. Thanks for your help and for being such a loyal listener.

Often we don't consider how important we are to our family and at times our friends. Whether we want to believe it or not we are the goose that lays the golden eggs. We can't become so anxious and impatient for all the eggs that we kill the goose in the process. We need to care for ourselves and help our family care for one another. We also need to teach our children some lifelong skills that will help them manage the stressors of life, manage relationships and develop resiliency as the deal with bullying behavior in their lives. Listen in as Jim shares some ideas on how to care fore the goose.  Listen To The Anti Bullying Tip of The Day On My swellcast The Bully Proof Classroom

It never ceases to amaze me how we can believe that an actor/actress on a commercial is really the character he or she portrayed on a sitcom. I was watching TV some years ago and Roseanne Barr was doing a commercial on Retro-TV talking about the importance of having dinner at the “family table.” So the commercial flashed back to her and John Goodman on a Roseanne episode sitting at the dinner table engaged in an argument which was supposed to be funny to the viewer. The point of the commercial was that it doesn’t matter what goes on at the family table as long as you have one. I disagree especially during the holiday season. As a kid, we had a family table. It was a war zone. I’m sure that many people can relate to my family table, and I am sick of calling it that, too. (What is this new term –family table- anyway?) During the holidays we can find ourselves surrounded by people we don't like and kids who are discourteous and disrespectful.  The holiday table is not the time or the place to deal with issues that are to raw to discuss. We need to spend the time nurturing relationships with our friends and those of our extended family over the course of years so when the time comes to break bread we can do so in a loving and kind way. Please take the time to become a listener supporter and help take Anti Bullying 101 to another level. Just click on the link below.  Become A Listener Supporter Get My New Book: Monologues The Bully Proof Classroom

From a disadvantaged youth to a successful entrepreneur, Tyler Copenhaver-Heath cut his teeth learning what it takes to succeed in the world of small business. With an MBA behind his name and the formal scientific experience of a biochemistry undergrad, Tyler Copenhaver-Heath has cultivated a multi-disciplined mastery that helps him think outside the box. In 2013, Tyler started his first company Apex Customs with his lifelong friend, Elliot Hutchens. They scaled their business into Arizona’s top-leading custom automotive shop with household name clients such as the Rolling Stones, NFL, CNN, and more. Tyler is a published author, podcast host, world adventurer, and MMA corner man. He has previously held small city offices and volunteered for the children's home and animal shelter.  website:tyleruriah.com Instagram:@tyleruriah Podcast website: bullythisaherosjourney.com

I had the pleasure of speaking with Toby Karten on The RTC Teacher Toolbox podcast and discovered during this interview that her knowledge base about inclusion and bullying is off the charts. Toby is one of the most positive and passionate people you will ever meet and she can truly turn lemons into lemonade.  Toby is an award-winning special educator, dynamic presenter, and author who is passionate in sharing her knowledge with others. She has taught students ranging from preschool to graduate level across the least restrictive continuum. Toby works with school districts across the country and internationally as a staff developer, inclusion coach and educational consultant, author and adjunct professor. Toby focuses on creative, practical solutions for helping ALL students gain not only access, but also ongoing successes in inclusion classrooms. Please do take the time to listen as her advice can be life changing. Also visit her website and social media outlets that I have shared below.  Email: toby@inclusionworkshops.com Website: https://inclusionworkshops.com/ Be a Facebook friend: inclusion Education Services Follow Toby on Twitter: @TJK2INCLUDE

My daughter who is twelve participates in a variety of different sports, and activities. She is attending middle school right now and is involved with cheerleading both at the school and community level. What never ceases to amaze me is that every sport hands every participant a book on sportsmanship. In other words how should we treat members of the other team and our fellow teammates? What is even more interesting is that you get the feeling that the behaviors like respect, and responsibility, kindness, caring, and other character qualities are only deemed important when the individual is on public display because they don’t want to make the team look bad. As an example one handbook reads: All students who represent ___________ School on an athletic team are expected to conduct themselves in such a manner as to reflect credit upon ________School. I think what is a concern here are the words; on an athletic team. Suppose you are not on an athletic team? Student’s need to work on reflecting credit upon themselves, that will in tern help credit the school for contributing to the student’s life. Listen in as Jim explains why sportsmanship should be a way of life and not something that is ceremoniously displayed on a field or a court.  Read The Article Get Some Coaching

Yes that is me in the picture. Probably eight years old or so. Husky for sure. How did I know? Because everyone told me so. Listen in and read the articles associated with this episode.  Oh yeah, I was an overweight little boy. So much so, that when my mother took me to buy clothes I went to what I thought was a special clothing store for boys like me, fat. Why did I think this? Because when I walked into the store, the opened tie, crossed arm, wrinkled shirt, cigarette smoking salesman, took one look at me from head to toe, looked at my mother, pointed to the back of the store and said, “Husky.” Gee did I feel special, until I discovered that the store I was in was one of the only stores around that sold clothes for fat kids. Sure, I said it, for fat kids, because that’s how I felt like a fat kid, and that’s how I was treated. Special stores for special kids who were fat. My skinny friends bought clothes from all kinds of stores; I was relegated to one store, and one style. I certainly was not one of the cool kids, and at times felt isolated and excluded. You would think adults would know better and after all these years learned that stigmatizing young kids because of size, shape or weight does nothing but impact a child's self concept and esteem. Not so fast, it's still going on. Listen in and discover why one NJ school district is being sued because of the insensitivity of a football coach. I am including a link to the article below.  Read the article here Read Husky The Bully Proof Classroom

Rebecca Burd believes bullying is an epidemic we can end. As the CEO of Create Change Productions & Co-Founder of Speak Life Performing Arts Company, she leads a performing arts team to combat bullying in our schools. In 2001 she co-wrote Speak Life End Bullying the Musical, an engaging musical featured in secondary schools across the country. Since the first live performance, more than 375,000 students have been impacted. Today Rebecca is launching a national Movement of Moms to become Mombassadors. Moms can bring solutions by offering  the Speak Life End Bullying's film and comprehensive lesson plans to their local schools. As an industry leader in end bullying solutions for schools for over 25 years, Rebecca and her team create culture shifts in schools across the nation by teaching students to speak life for a lifetime. Please visit the following links and take advantage of the many resources that are available to you, your family, and your school.  Speak Life MAIN WEBSITE & Trailers: https://speaklifethemusical.org/ SCHOOL & ADMINISTRATOR LINK to our Starter Kit for more info on the program: https://www.speaklifethemusical.com/starterkit51563237 MOMBASSADORS RESOURCE PORTAL: www.Mombassadors.org  MOMBASSADOR FACEBOOK GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/4743632489000810/ INSTAGRAM: @speaklifethemusical https://www.instagram.com/speaklifethemusical/

There is an 800 pound gorilla in the room and he is being ignored and the path of least resistance is being taken. What are these things that educators, parents and society know but for some reason won’t discuss or won’t even admit? This podcast will not only be an eye opener as covers 10 topics, but it gives the listeners an opportunity to purchase the entire 10 hour self study course that provides solutions to the problems with lecture notes and additional presentations and podcasts. Just click on the link below to get started.  Everybody Knows

 As a kid the dream was to become a professional baseball player and do it for a living. I am sure that kids today have those same dreams and can see themselves hitting the homerun that wins the World Series or pitching a no-hitter. It was such a fantasy fest and we all did fantasize, but alas none of us made it. We played in and out of uniform, organized and pick up, honed our skills, took batting practice and we all thought we were so darn good, but not good enough. There were some guys in the town that I lived in that were so good that we figured we would be watching them someday playing for the Yankees. Not so. Often kids have so  much undue pressure put on them by parents that they lose their love of just playing the game. Parents have to be more focused on helping their children become responsible adults and people of character.  Let's Teach Our Kid's How To Play Again

Have you ever wondered why your parents did some of the things that they did. I did lots of times. My dad had so many regimented activities that I thought he had a screw lose or something. I’m only going to talk about two here because there are too many to put into one episode of this podcast. As I grew older though I cam to realize that what I learned as a child were the missing puzzle pieces that I needed to stay healthy. Young people today are always searching for their own puzzle pieces. But, when we get older we come to realize that the puzzle pieces were handed to us, we just didn't know what to do with them. Wherever you are in life realize that change is a step of faith and we are all never too old to learn something. 

Once again I had the pleasure of speaking with Dianne DeOliveira from Jersey Shore Matters on the topic of school shootings. We discussed the possible profile of a school shooter, how they are missed, and what parents can do if they suspect their child is exhibiting behaviors that could indicate that they are at risk for violent and or deadly behavior.  The Bully Proof Classroom The Regional Training Center

School Shooting have been around now for over 20 years. My prayers are and always will be with the victims friends and family's. My question is though how do you address the trauma that kids will experience on an ongoing basis because of what they witnessed in their school. Moreover how do you help students' regain the trust and confidence in their teacher's, principals, and in society in general that they will keep them safe and out of harms way. Truly in every school shooting there are victims that are killed tragically, but there are also victims that remain who are so traumatized that learning can almost become impossible.  The Bully Proof Classroom The Regional Training Center Is Your Kid Being Bullied? 

"It's easier to build strong children than to repair broken men." Fredrick Douglas. How true, as a follow-up to my episode on the Frankenstein Monster I present to you a 4 part series on how we can build strong children and why it is far more difficult to mend children who lack the qualities of respect, responsibility, resiliency, and compliance. "To educate a man in mind and not in morals is to educate a menace to society." Theodore Roosevelt. This content provides the listen with the content necessary to help our children/students developer respectful thoughts, words, actions, attitudes, and motives. In this episode Jim covers the importance of resiliency and why we have to help our children bounce back from adversity in order to become strong adults.  In the episode description I am including a link to my book "The Real 3R's In Education: Respect, Responsibility, and Resiliency. The book is now on sale for 2.99. The Real 3R's: Respect, Responsibility, and Resilience Every School District Needs A Podcast

So What do we do about school and other shootings? Schools have done what they can to try and quell the fears of parents and teachers by setting up protocols for active shooters. My wife who is a classroom mother had to go through checkpoints in our daughter's school and had to be escorted to her classroom. Yet yesterday Salvador Ramos walked into Robb Elementary School In Uvalde Texas and shot 19 students and 2 teachers killing them. In Buffalo NY on May 14, 2022 13 people were killed in a racially charged incident by Payton Gendron who had a manifesto on a social media platform and identified himself as a white supremacist. Is there an answer? I think we have to first identify the problem in order to come up with a solution. We as a society are becoming more and more bitter. We can't stand our own design and are angry because of who we are, our parents, our environment, our status, and our upbringing. By the way Ramos shot his grandmother before he went over to the school. There is a choice that needs to be made. Oh, I don't doubt that the mental health system in this country needs and overhaul, but in reality we can all choose love not hate, acceptance instead of racism, respect, not rudeness and unkindness, responsibility, not excuses, and above all our country has to learn how to value the differences and choose life not death. Please join me and pray for the families of those who have been killed in these senseless acts of violence and hate. 

Once again I had the pleasure of speaking with Jen Dalton. she has written a terrific article that you can access by clicking on the link at the bottom. Rumors and gossip can destroy a friendship, a family, school, or organization. In this episode we discuss some of the lifelong consequences that can occur from gossiping and why it is so necessary to teach our children the dangers of participating in this type of activity.  Article: How To Have Gossip Free Conversations By Jen Dalton

Let's build strong children of character so we don't have to mend broken adults. Part 3 of a 4 part series discusses the importance of compliance and why parents need to take on a leadership role in teaching their children that life is a series of gains and losses and why they will always have to ask the question: what am I going to gain and what am I going to lose because of my behavior.  Jim discusses a new podcast that will be starting soon that spotlights The Regional Training Center. This dynamic company has helped thousands of teachers throughout the country get their MA degree and advance in their profession. Jim also discusses the benefits of school districts doing their own podcast and how he can help them get started. Be sure to get the book which is on sale now, "The Real 3R's: Respect, Responsibility, and Resilience."  Links are below.  The Regional Training Center Why School Districts Need A Podcast The Real 3R's: Respect, Responsibility, and Resilience

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is an international traditionally published author, award-winning journalist, and award-winning motivational speaker. Her latest book Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero can be found in Barnes & Noble bookstores. She’s a self-employed editor, blogger, ghost writer, and speaker. (www.peartreeenterprises.com) Her You Tube channel is dedicated to anti-bullying and being YOUnique: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA?view_as=subscriber Maryanne received a medal for “Best Speaker” at Toastmasters International and was awarded Toastmasters Certificate of Appreciation for outstanding performance and valued contribution to Toastmasters District 83 Annual 2019 Conference. Maryanne resides in New Jersey, with her husband, Dennis, and their beloved cats, Nicholas Grey, Sammy Keane Clemens, and Happy Lightfoot Ferrell. Interests include meditation and metaphysics, health and over 50 modeling, and all types of music.

This is the second in a four part series on how we can build stronger children and stop repairing broken adults. today Ji talks about the importance of accountability and responsibility and how when a child is left to themselves a negative attitude can begin to develop which can be carried over into adulthood. To accompany this podcast Jim is making his book "The Real 3R's: Respect, Responsibility, and Resilience available to his listening audience for just $2.99. Just click the link below.  The Real 3R's  What If The Frankenstein Monster Was Really A Nice Guy?

"It's easier to build strong children than to repair broken men." Fredrick Douglas. How true, as a follow-up to my episode on the Frankenstein Monster I present to you a 4 part series on how we can build strong children and why it is far more difficult to mend children who lack the qualities of respect, responsibility, resiliency, and compliance. "To educate a man in mind and not in morals is to educate a menace to society." Theodore Roosevelt. This content provides the listen with the content necessary to help our children/students developer respectful thoughts, words, actions, attitudes, and motives. In the episode description I am including a link to my book "The Real 3R's In Education: Respect, Responsibility, and Resiliency. The book is now on sale for 2.99.  The Real 3R's: Respect, Responsibility, and Resilience

Sometimes in order to be supportive of our kids we need to listen more than we speak. Attention is a commodity and all kids want it but with that attention could come a host of socially related issues. Taking the time to help our children become more socially resilient will help them now and down the road. I have taken the time to curate the article that i have linked below and think that you will find this episode an excellent listen.  I also speak in this episode about the importance of taking care of yourself and becoming more aware of your health and genetics. In my case i speak of the cardiac calcium score which has been proven to be a good predicter of a heart attack or stroke. Please pay attention to this section of the podcast as it could save your life.  Article on Social Resilience The Bully Proof Classroom What If The Frankenstein Monster Was Really A Nice Guy Cardiac Calcium Scan

It is very difficult for victims to forgive, but an angry victim may only seek revenge at a later time on his own. Bullies need to learn how to ask for forgiveness, victims need to accept it. We can be an example by asking for and receiving forgiveness ourselves.

Dr. Frankenstein creation was put together with used body parts from corpses that were buried in a graveyard. The head was that of a criminal who was just executed for his crimes by hanging and the brain used was referred to as abnormal. (It was from a murderer) The perfect head (maybe) and the brain they needed. Well suppose that brain wasn’t that of a criminal. Suppose it was the brain of a college graduate who was wrongly executed. Suppose the brain was from a father of three with an IQ of 140. Suppose the head was from a handsome Brad Pitt looking fellow that all the girls just went crazy for. This would make quite a story and today Dr. Frankenstein would be on the cover of Time Magazine showing off his newly created friend. I have created a lesson plan for you to use with this podcast and would encourage you if you are a teacher or maybe even a parent to solicit some answers and try and determine how your student's or children would deal with the differences associated with a laboratory creation today.  Get The Lesson Plan The Power Of Consistency The Teacher's Survival Guide The Peak Performing Teacher

 Kids are going to disagree whether we like it or not. Giving your students a voice helps to reduce anger. The idea here is that “attitude is everything.” Too often kids, when they disagree, will personalize the disagreement, resulting in name-calling or the berating of others. Often bullies will use their power to force their victim into submission. Teaching students the right way to disagree with each other builds confidence, boundaries, and maturity. It helps both the bully and the victim. The Power Of Consistency The Teacher's Survival Guide Find Them Both At: The Bully Proof Classroom

It was my pleasure on Tuesday to interview Mike Kuczala. His bio speaks for itself; and I have had the pleasure of working with Mike for almost 20 years. Please click on the links below for information about Mike's new book and his website, as well as important Information about The Regional Training Center.  Mike Kuczala has delivered keynotes, given presentations, facilitated professional development and taught graduate courses on 4 continents. His presentations, courses, books and videos have reached more than 100,000 teachers, trainers, corporate executives and parents.  He is also the coauthor of the Corwin Bestseller and Association of Educational Publishers’ Distinguished Achievement Award nominated, The Kinesthetic Classroom: Teaching and Learning through Movement, a book and philosophy that has changed the view of teaching and learning around the world.  Mike’s 2nd book, Training in Motion: How to Use Movement to Create an Engaging and Effective Learning Environment, was released in 2015 (AMACOM) and Ready, Set, Go! The Kinesthetic Classroom 2.0 (Corwin) was released in the summer of 2017.  His 4th book, The Peak Performing Teacher: 5 Habits for Success (Corwin) was released in February of 2022. President of Kuczala Consulting and Academic Director for the Regional Training Center, Mike's SRO presentations have been experienced in such diverse settings as The Educational Collaborative for International Schools, The East Asia Regional Council of Schools, The Francis Marion University Center of Excellence to Prepare Teachers of Children of Poverty Summer Institute, The American Society for Training and Development, The Forum for Innovative Leadership, The Association for Supervision and Curriculum Development, and the Society for Health and Physical Educators. In his role with Regional Training Center, Mike leads a cadre of about 100 graduate instructors who regularly provide graduate coursework to thousands of teachers across Pennsylvania, Maryland, New Jersey and beyond in partnership with The College of New Jersey and La Salle University. During his tenure, he has overseen the development of RTC’s online and virtual course offerings as well the design and implementation of new coursework, certificate programs and master degree concentration options. Mike also manages college and university partnerships. For more information, please visit  www.mikekuczala.com www.thepeakperformingteacher.com Mike - TEDx Ashburn The Regional Training Center

Since the dawn of public education teachers and schools have focused on the academic achievement of students. All students were expected to leave school with basic reading writing and math skills. Some kids excelled and went on to institutions of higher learning, some were trained at a trade such as carpentry, or auto mechanics, and still others left school with those basics and worked at more labor related jobs such as factory or office work. Everyone who left secondary school did have the basics just at different levels. Every student may not have had the capacity to go to college but just about everyone finished school and had the ability to function in the real world. With the onslaught of state mandated testing in so many school districts throughout the country teachers are still pressured to ensure that students achieve but the landscape has changed and hitting the bull’s eye is far more difficult than it was say forty years ago. The bull’s eye is tough to hit because teachers are now being asked to hit a moving target. The target keeps moving because the levels of disrespect, and irresponsibility pervades our schools and basically you can’t hit something that won’t sit still, keep quiet, come prepared, stay motivated, and who really has taken no ownership for their own education. Local and state boards persist toughen their belief that success is based upon achievement not on effort and character. The faulty philosophies that have come out of some of our colleges that focuses more on methods of instruction rather than behavior management has both young and veteran teachers alike trying to figure out how to hit that moving target. In schools right now we don’t need one more test, or in-service that helps teacher's understand how to teach to the test we need a comprehensive program that focuses squarely on student behavior management, teaching respect, and encouraging responsibility.  Our young teachers who have been in the field for between three to five years may not know any different and are hounded daily regarding the academic achievement of students whose behavior is out of control, and veteran teachers who have done a good job of reading the tea leaves are planning for retirement because the work load is increasing to the point that it is becoming unmanageable. Our focus in education needs to be on steadying the target and improving student behavior ,not on improving test scores. If we begin to focus on behavior, character, and effort rather than achievement test scores will naturally go up because we will begin to develop willing learners. Colleges need to provide stronger training in the area of behavior management for future teachers and we need to provide more comprehensive training in the area of behavior management for teachers who are now in the field. This Pod Course present 10 Good Reasons why. Below you will find lecture notes and a power point to help you follow along.  Lecture Notes And Power Point

This is the third in a three part series on emotional maturity. In this episode Jim curates an article on emotional intelligence and explains how by being emotionally mature a person can be emotionally intelligent. He goes over some qualities that emotionally intelligent people display and why these qualities are important to teach to our children and students.  The Power Of Consistency The Teacher's Survival Guide

Katie Kuperman is a passionate writer, entrepreneur and mother. Situated in Toronto, Canada, she lives with her family and is the owner and principal copywriter of Striking Content, a content writing and strategizing business. Her life has been rich with a breadth of experience ranging from competitive sport and travel, to academics and entrepreneurship, to motherhood and the pursuit of dreams. Katie writes with intent and purpose to make her readers feel, learn and do. It is her hope and her vision that, through her writing, she may be the ink that dots the lives of others in a positive and meaningful way. An anti-bullying advocate and never one to shy away from voicing her opinion, Katie wrote this story to open the eyes of our youth today, not only to see what bullying and mental health struggles can amount to, but also what each of us is capable of when presented with an opportunity to talk. I had the joy of interviewing Katie on my show and was really taken by her new book "The Only Way Out" and her knowledge base about bullying, and the dynamic between bullies and victims. The Only Way Out is a novel for youth and young adults. As motivational as it is emotional, the book addresses two important social issues: bullying and mental health. Written to touch hearts and inspire change, The Only Way Out is rooted in an empowering message to TALK.  She dedicates the book to her two beautiful children – but also someone else very important: Amanda Todd. When she was putting her book into print, she sought out Carol Todd, Amanda’s mother, and asked for her permission. and she is now humbled and honored to have her book dedicated to Amanda. Amanda was a victim of bullying who unfortunately took her own life. Katie donates part of all book sales to the Amanda Todd Legacy Society.  Visit Katie at: katie@theonlywayoutnovel.com www.theonlywayoutnovel.com The Only Way Out On Amazon Facebook

Parents today have a terrible time when their children leave home. That is because they know deep down that they haven't done enough to prepare their children for independence. Children today are not given enough basic responsibilities, and aren't prepared for being responsible for all that lies ahead in their lives. These children haven't learned enough about survival out in the dog eat dog world. They are emotionally immature. Emotionally mature people have certain characteristics that make it easy to recognize them. What are these characteristics and what does an emotionally mature person look like? This is the second of a three part series. So listen in and enjoy this episode of Anti Bullying 101. The Power Of Consistency Teachers Survival Guide The Bully Proof Classroom $1 Dollar Books And Teacher Resources

I interviewed Jen Dalton on my show about 2 months ago and found the interview to be inspiring and thought provoking. So much so that I asked her if she would co-host a show with me. Well, this is the show. I think you will find Jen's knowledge in the area of confidence to be unique and has a nice balance of empirical research and experiential opinion. In case you  missed it I am republishing her bio below along with some books and websites.  Jen or Jenny Dalton is an author, facilitator, coach,  and healer. Her work in the world flows from facilitating healthier local food systems and fundraising for an orphanage in Haiti, to talking about her recently published book “Of Butterflies & Bullies” – a Judy Blume inspired story about her experience being bullied in 5th grade. She’s also launching, soon, The Better Friends Club which will create a virtual space for women to transform friendship with self and others and heal from childhood bullying and other friendship challenges. You will find her to be an inspiring and passionate person who cares deeply about helping those who are the victim of harassment, intimidation, and bullying and in making the world a better place. You can follow her on Instagram at @byjennydalton and via her websites: www.butterfliesbullies.com www.kitchentableconsulting.com www.hearthstone-village.org Please check out two new books by James Burns available on Amazon The Teacher's Survival Guide The Power of Consistency

Parents today have a terrible time when their children leave home. That is because they know deep down that they haven't done enough to prepare their children for independence. Children today are not given enough basic responsibilities, and aren't prepared for being responsible for all that lies ahead in their lives. These children haven't learned enough about survival out in the dog eat dog world. They are emotionally immature. Emotionally mature people have certain characteristics that make it easy to recognize them. What are these characteristics and what does an emotionally mature person look like? This is the first of a two part series. So listen in and enjoy this episode of Anti Bullying 101.  The Power Of Consistency Teachers Survival Guide It’s a Wrap with Rap The lost Principles

Last week I produced an episode on an article in The NY Times titled "No Way To Grow Up." Great article that spoke to the problems our kids were facing due to virtual learning. This week the NY City Schools want to put everyone on virtual because of staff shortages as well as the number of students who have contracted the CORONA Virus. Mean while parents are up in arms because their child's school was shut down after the holiday break. For the sake of our children we need to work together on solving these school related issues peacefully and in a way that keeps everyone healthy and safe. This problem is not going away soon. I have made a few recommendation in this episode so listen in and enjoy.  The Bully Proof Classroom The Power Of Consistency Books2Read

No Way To Grow Up. A great article written in a newsletter by David Leonhardt for The New York Times. The first sentence states: American children are starting 2022 in crisis. Well, American children in every generation have always had some type of crisis. Addiction, bullying, suicidal ideation, depression back in the sixties we had the crisis of academics when Russia put a man in orbit before the United States. As a boy my crisis was managing the alcoholism and PTSD that my father brought home with him from World War Two, along with malaria and TB. The article speaks for itself but as adults we have to grow up emotionally and communicate to our children that they will be okay and let them know that resiliency is the word of the day and everyone can and will bounce back. The Pandemic truly is not the problem. Lack of resiliency might be; adult guidance, wisdom, and leadership have to improve if our children are going to experience the physical, mental, and emotional growth needed for lifelong success.  No Way To Grow Up The Power of Consistency

On Saturday, Tim Throne, who heads the Oxford Community Schools district, detailed in a letter the school's account of several key events leading up to the shooting at the high school by Ethan Crumbley.   "It's critically important to the victims, our staff and our entire community that a full and transparent accounting be made. To that end, I've asked for a third-party investigation be conducted so we leave no stone unturned, including any and all interaction the student had with staff and students," Throne wrote in the letter addressed to the Oxford community. In this podcast I critique the events. I am and have been concerned about how many after the fact reports and comments always seem to be made that point to the shooter as a potential problem the victim of bullying or dangerous. In this case the counselor of the school told the parents of Ethan Crumbley to take their child home and they flat out refused. Minutes later the shooting started. He had a gun in his backpack during the meeting.  This boy is only a child and is being charged as an adult.  The Bully Proof Classroom Anti Bullying 101 - The Book

On November 24 I had the privilege of being interviewed by Dianne DeOliveira a radio host down here at the Jersey Shore. She has several shows, the one that I was interviewed on was Jersey Shore Matters on 107.1 The Boss. She asked some great questions. The purpose of the interview of course was to gain some insight into bullying but also to shed so light on the Wall Township High School Football hazing incident. I did a show on this tragic issue last week. You can listen to that episode by clicking HERE.  The Bully Proof Classroom Become a Subscriber

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/james-burns5/subscribe When we teach kids how to manage stress by nature they become more resilient. Join Jim in part two of a two part podcast on the importance of resilience and what we as teachers and parents can do to help our children handle stress in ways that will strengthen them physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  The Bully Proof Classroom

Well it's happened again. For the second time in fours years another student was hazed and assaulted in a high school locker room in New Jersey. The victim was held down and the perpetrators allegedly tried to sodomy him with a broom stick. You can read the attached article. This podcast offers some suggestions on how we can stop this madness. Better locker room supervision along with stronger more meaningful consequences would be a start. Listen in and read the article.  Subscribe Read The Article Everybody Knows

My name is Jim Burns I wanted to take a few minutes to tell you as my readers and listeners about a very interesting and fun way of taking some course work with a reasonable investment of time, and at cost that is totally affordable. Even when you take courses online or virtually there is still an investment of time that must be put in in order to receive the instruction and complete the course. Too often you might be a bit too tired after work and not want to have to sit at your computer for a couple of hours after dinner in order to respond to a forum post or answer some course questions. But what if you could take bits and pieces of the course during the day without your computer and you could receive instruction just by listening to lectures on your phone....Listen to find out more Everyday Strategies Pod Course

Resiliency is not something that is taught but developed over time through experience and life lessons. We are all only a compilation of what people have said to us and what people have done to us. How we perceive the words and actions of others and difficult situations may determine how resilient we are. If a person is raised in a highly critical home and his/her parents do nothing but correct, condemn, berate, and shame, as the person grows older even the slightest amount of constructive suggestion can be a trigger that creates anger and anxiety. Our goal should be to help our students and children realize these triggers at a young age and give them the tools to become good counter punchers and learn how to bounce back when something that is said or done to them sends them into a tailspin. How is this done? It’s done by understanding what we are all individually responsible for and what can be done by “me” and me alone to manage people, situations, and the environment. Listen in as Jim shares his insights and experiences about developing resiliency and why it is so important.  The Bully Proof Classroom Store

So How do you? You will have to listen in to find out. This episode was aired several months ago and was  very popular with my listeners then and i hope my new listeners enjoy it as well. 

Some conversations can be tough to have. But we still have to have them. Do you have the courage to confront without condemning and to disagree with the right attitude. Listen in to find out if you can have courageous conversation.

Here are some of the reasons. Take a listen and see if you have been bullied.

Listen in and find out if your child’s behavior poses a threat to others and could be considered bullying.

Parents who are angry and irate can wreak havoc in a school and can be intimidating. Teachers need to learn how to defuse power struggles and maintain their dignity, as they handle planned and unplanned parent /teacher conferences. We are in a post 9-11 era. Even though security is tight angry parents always seem to find their way in to a school building to try and corner an unsuspecting teacher. The COVID pandemic has created more angry people than ever before with everyone disagreeing and judging others for their beliefs and opinions. This podcast will help the teacher deal with parents who are now more angry than ever and will help  them remain calm in the midst the storm.  Notes For This Podcast Take The Course - Dealing With Angry and Irate Parents Words Of Grace

Jen or Jenny Dalton is an author, facilitator, coach,  and healer. Her work in the world flows from facilitating healthier local food systems and fundraising for an orphanage in Haiti, to talking about her recently published book “Of Butterflies & Bullies” – a Judy Blume inspired story about her experience being bullied in 5th grade. She’s also launching, soon, The Better Friends Club which will create a virtual space for women to transform friendship with self and others and heal from childhood bullying and other friendship challenges. You will find her to be an inspiring and passionate person who cares deeply about helping those who are the victim of harassment, intimidation, and bullying and in making the world a better place.  You can follow her on Instagram at @byjennydalton  and via her websites:  www.butterfliesbullies.com www.kitchentableconsulting.com www.hearthstone-village.org

We all are responsible for 5 areas. Our thoughts, words, actions, attitudes, and motives. They are all interrelated and there is a domino effect when we fail to take responsibility in any one area. As an example when we lose control of our thoughts, we may begin to use our words in hurtful and inappropriate ways. Listen to these 2 tips presented in this episode and you will begin to understand why attitude is everything. If you would like all 101 tips you can download the book Anti Bullying 101 along with The Anti Bullying Teacher Toolbox by clicking the link below.  Buy Anti Bullying 101

The Ground Is Not Level, and don't fall into the trap of letting your student's or your children make you think that it is. If you want all 101 tips right now click on the link below.  Anti Bullying 101 On Thursday May 13, 2021 at 11:00 am EST I will be doing a live ZOOM PODCAST that anyone can join. Here I will be answering questions and providing a platform for others to be heard. The link for the meeting is below so please join and share your thoughts.  Click here to join the ZOOM Meeting May 13, 2021, 11:00 am EST. 

They Just Don't Know  In school kids are always asking “Why do we have to do” something, or learn certain academic skills. Bullying behavior can have a lasting effect on those who experience social, emotional, or physical abuse at the hands of a bully. Why don’t kids and bullies in particular heed the warning of adults and just listen and stop saying and doing things that are just downright cruel? Listen to this episode and find out why.  Buy Anti Bullying 101 Teaching Respect I am excited to inform my listeners that I will be conducting a live ZOOM meeting on Thursday May 13, 2021 at 11:00 am EST. This meeting is designed to create greater awareness about bullying, share ideas, answer questions and truly make a difference. If you want to be part of this event use the link below to join the meeting. I hope to see you. Jim James Burns is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting. Topic: Anti Bullying 101 Live Podcast Time: May 13, 2021 11:00 AM Eastern Time (US and Canada) Join Zoom Meeting https://us02web.zoom.us/j/86163271470?pwd=OWRTNk9UY2ZEMlRRekJHZmdrL2FlZz09 Meeting ID: 861 6327 1470 Passcode: 066953

Stop Asking and Start Telling Don't set yourself up by asking too many questions or giving too many choices. Kids need to be told what to do not asked. You will prevent some big headaches going forward as kids get older. You want all the tips at once click below and get the book along with the anti bullying teacher toolbox.  Anti Bullying 101 + The Anti Bullying Teacher Toolbox

Is it compliance or obedience. Obedience is rather temporary, compliance is far more permanent. Listen in to this weeks tip and you decide. If you want all 101 tips right away click on the link below. This week I am including the Anti Bullying Teacher's Toolbox. It's a great resource.  By the way we have been through quite a bit in the last few weeks. It's not enough that COVID has us all sequestered but in the last three weeks we have had three mass shootings. One in Indiana, one in Wisconsin, and most recently one in Nassau County New York.  Get the book it will lend a bit of needed advice.  Anti Bullying 101

 Bullying Is Wrong And It Will Not Be Tolerated Tune in every week and get The Anti Bullying 101 weekly tip. Today you will discover why disrespect, unkindness, and rude behavior cannot be tolerated for any reason. To Purchase all 101 tips in book form click on the link below.  Anti Bullying 101

Let’s face it. No one likes a confrontation. Often, confrontations come out of the blue, and we can find ourselves in a very uncomfortable position where we need to quickly find the right words to defend ourselves. I’ve been a teacher since 1977, and I have experienced my fair share of unpleasant confrontations with students, parents, teachers, and even administrators. But the most difficult confrontations to deal with are those that occur in front of your class. These confrontations are not taking place out in the hallway between just the student and you as the teacher. They occur in plain view of every student in the room, and your students become an audience watching a drama unfold that has the potential to damage your future ability to teach in that classroom. Confrontations that occur between you and another adult can damage the relationship and leave everyone suffering. Take a listen to this episode of Anti Bullying 101. Jim will  give you some sure fire ways to deal with confrontational students and parents and help you become more situationally responses not reactive. Get Your Copy Of Avoiding Confrontations With Students and Parents  The Bully Proof Classroom

Part Three Of A Three Part Series In reality Kryptonite doesn't exist in physical form but the concept of it does. There are many things and individuals that weaken us. There are kids that weaken, spouses that weaken, philosophies, theories, and policies that weaken. There are systems that weaken, government can weaken, and religion at times can weaken. As an example it only takes one or two behavior problems in a classroom to make the students and at times the teacher feel unsafe to the point where the entire class is weakened and learning almost becomes impossible. Religion and spirituality is a great way for many to quell fears, and deal with the stresses of life. If the leader of a church or any other group though becomes bigger than the group itself and uses his/her position to control others with the use of their Svengoli powers the individuals who are part of the group can become more reliant on him/her than on what the group actually represents producing weak and fearful followers who unwittingly have been lead into a cult. What one generation does in moderation the next one does in excess. Once a society has been weakened inter-generationally meaning over time the battle for truth, justice, and the American way becomes all that more difficult. We begin to lean more toward the path of least resistance and mediocrity and become more focused on political correctness than on the truth. The habits, beliefs, and thoughts, that had their origin forty years ago that were meant for good have become twisted and are now used as either a crutch or worse yet as an excuse for deviant behavior. Yes the schools are filled with Kryptonite and more and more of it is being brought into classrooms everyday by families, society, and by some of the faulty theories and philosophies that have been communicated in our colleges and universities. The educational system has been weakened and needs to be looked at through a different lens, with a paradigm shift starting to take place. Buy Our Schools Are Filled With Kryptonite The Bully Proof Classroom Great Anti Bullying Activities For FREE

Part Two Of A Three Part Series In reality Kryptonite doesn't exist in physical form but the concept of it does. There are many things and individuals that weaken us. There are kids that weaken, spouses that weaken, philosophies, theories, and policies that weaken. There are systems that weaken, government can weaken, and religion at times can weaken. As an example it only takes one or two behavior problems in a classroom to make the students and at times the teacher feel unsafe to the point where the entire class is weakened and learning almost becomes impossible. Religion and spirituality is a great way for many to quell fears, and deal with the stresses of life. If the leader of a church or any other group though becomes bigger than the group itself and uses his/her position to control others with the use of their Svengoli powers the individuals who are part of the group can become more reliant on him/her than on what the group actually represents producing weak and fearful followers who unwittingly have been lead into a cult. What one generation does in moderation the next one does in excess. Once a society has been weakened inter-generationally meaning over time the battle for truth, justice, and the American way becomes all that more difficult. We begin to lean more toward the path of least resistance and mediocrity and become more focused on political correctness than on the truth. The habits, beliefs, and thoughts, that had their origin forty years ago that were meant for good have become twisted and are now used as either a crutch or worse yet as an excuse for deviant behavior. Yes the schools are filled with Kryptonite and more and more of it is being brought into classrooms everyday by families, society, and by some of the faulty theories and philosophies that have been communicated in our colleges and universities. The educational system has been weakened and needs to be looked at through a different lens, with a paradigm shift starting to take place. Buy Our Schools Are Filled With Kryptonite The Bully Proof Classroom Great Anti Bullying Activities For FREE

Ryan Roy is a Husband, and father to 2 young boys, ages 3 and 9. He is the Owner of Justify or Just Do It Coaching – Focusing on Accountability and Taking Action. He is the Author of the Amazon Best Selling book Be The Dad You Wish You Had  His current project is FBI Dads – FBI Stands for Fathers Being Involved – It’s a program that helps fathers have a deeper connection with their children. Ryan's story is compelling and he is an example to all of us of what can be done with the right attitude and effort. He reminds us that genetics and environment are only influences in our lives and it is up to us to change our response to those influences. Take notes.  The Bully Proof Classroom The Anti Bullying Premium Podcast Membership

In reality Kryptonite doesn't exist in physical form but the concept of it does. There are many things and individuals that weaken us. There are kids that weaken, spouses that weaken, philosophies, theories, and policies that weaken. There are systems that weaken, government can weaken, and religion at times can weaken. As an example it only takes one or two behavior problems in a classroom to make the students and at times the teacher feel unsafe to the point where the entire class is weakened and learning almost becomes impossible. Religion and spirituality is a great way for many to quell fears, and deal with the stresses of life. If the leader of a church or any other group though becomes bigger than the group itself and uses his/her position to control others with the use of their Svengoli powers the individuals who are part of the group can become more reliant on him/her than on what the group actually represents producing weak and fearful followers who unwittingly have been lead into a cult. What one generation does in moderation the next one does in excess. Once a society has been weakened inter-generationally meaning over time the battle for truth, justice, and the American way becomes all that more difficult. We begin to lean more toward the path of least resistance and mediocrity and become more focused on political correctness than on the truth. The habits, beliefs, and thoughts, that had their origin forty years ago that were meant for good have become twisted and are now used as either a crutch or worse yet as an excuse for deviant behavior. Yes the schools are filled with Kryptonite and more and more of it is being brought into classrooms everyday by families, society, and by some of the faulty theories and philosophies that have been communicated in our colleges and universities. The educational system has been weakened and needs to be looked at through a different lens, with a paradigm shift starting to take place. Buy Our Schools Are Filled With Kryptonite The Bully Proof Classroom Great Anti Bullying Activities For FREE

As we conclude part 2 of "Who is Jim Burns" I am going to be going over who Jim Burns really. I was born Jim Burns but, how long did it take before I started to understand my own thoughts, words, and actions. How did my upbringing shape me and influence my behavior in relationships, friendships, and even marriage? We all need to set daily, weekly, yearly, and even lifelong goals. But, I believe one of my mistakes over time was mistaking movement for progress, and I ran in place for too many years. This is part 1 of 2. This is part 2 of 2 Learning from my mistakes and failures became an important part of my life after college. My personal life took a hit as I moved into administration because I didn't have my priorities straight nor  did I truly understand my role as a father. It took almost twenty years before I learned how to create balance in my life. The journey was worth it.  The Bully Proof Classroom Anti Bullying 101 Premium Podcast Membership

For the next few weeks I am going to be going over who Jim Burns really. I was born Jim Burns but, how long did it take before I started to understand my own thoughts, words, and actions. How did my upbringing shape me and influence my behavior in relationships, friendships, and even marriage? We all need to set daily, weekly, yearly, and even lifelong goals. But, I believe one of my mistakes over time was mistaking movement for progress, and I ran in place for too many years. This is part one of three.  The Bully Proof Classroom Anti Bullying 101 Premium Podcast Membership

A new year can bring about some new goals and maybe a resolution or two. Resolutions usually don't last because at times they are too unrealistic. Setting some reasonable goals that are manageable can bring about desired results and lasting change. In this episode Jim discusses 5 qualities that we all should be working on for 2021; love, joy, peace, patience, and self control. Take the time to really listen to this episode and determine how as individuals we can begin to incorporate these 5 important behaviors into our lives. It's not easy, but if we all take the time to self reflect we will be taking the steps toward an improved quality of life and a more peaceful, kinder, and caring home, school, community, and nation.  The Bully Proof Classroom Store The Anti Bullying 101 Premium Podcast Membership

Kathy M. Finley has been a lifelong animal lover and feels a special bond to cats. She grew up in poverty, was bullied as a child, and endured an abusive marriage followed by a bitter divorce. She has worked in the nonprofit sector all of her professional life and ran several national nonprofit organizations, but has entered into a new phase of her life where she hopes she can combine her love for storytelling and writing to show how animals can provide unconditional love, acceptance, and insight into one’s self. She is currently working on a book on how her one-eyed, three legged cat helped her face many of life’s challenges. Please take the time to visit her website and watch for the publishing of her book which will be available sometime in 2021.  Kathy Finley The Bully Proof Classroom The Anti Bullying Premium Podcast Membership

Sometimes it's good to be alone, and we all need that from time to time. Loneliness is another story, and the victims of bullying have self excluded themselves because of the fear of being bullied and the experience of being betrayed by those that they thought were friends. Loneliness can produce hopelessness and depression. As parents and teachers we have to be aware of the symptoms of loneliness and help our children and students begin to realize that they do have a purpose in this world and that they truly can connect with others. The Bully Proof Classroom This is a rebroadcast of a previous episode

The statistics are alarming. I share this information with my students when I teach The Bully Proof Classroom and they can't believe some of them. Take a look at some of the 56 behaviors that are associated with bullying. I am including the white paper to this episode below for your review. This information needs to be taken very seriously.   Bullying Behaviors And Statistics Go Fund Me Anti Bullying 101 Premium Podcast

Bullying is an epidemic and teachers are always looking for lessons, strategies, and presentations to help educate their student's about the dangers of bullying and why we have to take a comprehensive approach in dealing with the problem. Because of the COVID-19 crisis most schools are using virtual learning, so during the holiday season it might be difficult to provide a gift to your child's teacher. To show your appreciation send a virtual stocking stuffer to help stop bullying and provide your child's teacher with a lesson plan or some strategies during the school year. The products are inexpensive making it easy to send two or three different items that will make a difference in years to come. Don't wait visit The Bully Proof Classroom Store and start shopping. All you have to do is make the purchase and it can easily be forwarded to your child's teacher. Send A Virtual Stocking Stuffer Right Now Go Fund Me - Donate Now

Bullying is everywhere; homes, communities, the work place, even politics. It's the responsibility of each individual to help prevent this scourge from continuing and doing their best to treat others will respect, and kindness. This episode covers the responsibilities of both adults and children and what they need to do to help create a bully proof environment for all. This episode also includes the Anti Bullying 101 tip of the day week. Listen in and learn what you can do.  The Bully Proof Classroom Store Buy Anti Bullying 101 Anti Bullying 101 Premium Podcast Membership

This episode will help parents and teachers develop the skills necessary to teach kids how to become compliant without complaining, whining and arguing. It will provide the reasons for the non-compliance as well as the language needed to regain respect and encourage responsibility. This is an excellent listen and the skills taught will help avoid power struggles, frustration, anger, and will help build and restore the parent/teacher-child relationship. Don't miss it.  Below is a link to a study guide that is available that anyone can use to help in the process.  Study Guide For This Episode Anti Bullying 101 Premium Podcast Membership

Meet Riddhi and Vasundhara Oswal On Monday November 21, 2020 I had the pleasure of interviewing Riddhi and Vasundhara Oswal. These two dynamic young ladies have used their own experience and the pain of bullying to found the Stop The B anti bullying campaign. And what a job they are doing.  Riddhi is a 16-year-old student, aspiring engineer and co-founder of Stop the B. After having experienced bullying and the stigmatizing effect of double-punishment at her previous school in Switzerland, Riddhi was determined to turn her negative experience into a positive one and create a campaign to help stop bullying and bystanding. Vasundhara – aged 22 – was inspired to create Stop The B after witnessing her younger sister being bullied at school. She is also currently working in the family business, as the finance director of a new multi-million-dollar business venture in South East Asia. Vasundhara believes that Stop The B is a force for good, by seeking to empower people to become ‘active bystanders’ by removing the stigma associated with speaking out and reporting bullying. I was thrilled to have them on the show and believe that their efforts will go a long way in helping to stop bullying world wide. Please take the time to visit their Facebook and twitter pages.  Facebook Twitter Become An Anti Bullying 101 Premium Podcast Member The Bully Proof Classroom

Acts of bullying were brought to the forefront after the devastating incident at Columbine High School in April 1999. Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold demonstrated many telltale signs of the victims of bullying that were left unnoticed, and the reality is, no one saw them at all.” If you look at acts of violence, you'll find comments from friends, neighbors, acquaintances saying that this person was weird, he was odd, it was only a matter of time," retired FBI criminal profiler Jim Wright said. "All of a sudden -- when the act is over -- a lot of people knew it was going to happen." Knowing what we know now it is evident that victims of bullying develop tremendous hate for their perpetrator, and fear establishing relationships with others because of the chance that they will be hurt again. This anger and fear resides in the heart and soul of a victim and roots itself causing the person to become so bitter and so debilitated by these emotions that it is only a matter of time before this rage will manifest itself. Unfortunately, this rage expresses itself often in adulthood when the person’s spouse or child discovers that their husband, wife, mom or dad is not the person they appear to be. Acts of bullying including violence may permeate the home creating an environment of fear and intimidation. The message that you get what you want through fear or asserting yourself through intimidation becomes a thought process that children develop and ultimately use on others outside the home, in school, and in the community. The victim if not dealt with using appropriate interventions and counseling produces the next bully. Listen in as Jim offers some insight on how stop this pattern of behavior and stop producing family, school, and community bullies. Anti Bullying 101 Premium Podcast Membership Join NOW! Stress Management Through A Balanced Life The Bully Proof Classroom

Well hi everybody my name is Jim Burns host of anti bullying 101. I want to share with you information about an exciting course that will help you manage stress and keep and stay focused. The course:  Stress Management Through a Balanced Life. As individuals we constantly strive to climb the ladder of success and work to become our personal best. Almost every continuing education class or workshop is designed to help people accomplish this. Even though these classes are valuable they don’t address the idea that life is a balancing act and there is not one basic area to consider but many. Some classes focus on exercise, or success in a relationship or greater financial stability. But, true change comes from within and it is the character of the person that really makes a difference. The balance between job and family responsibilities can at times be inappropriately misplaced because of a lack of understanding of priorities and the realization of what is really important. This 5 hour course covers fours areas that need to be addressed to help manage stress and create lifelong balance. When we understand the importance exercise, mental focus, our relationship with others, and our value system we will strike that balance and relieve the stress that comes with being overwhelmed by life and all of its responsibilities. This course will be available on Tuesday November 17, 2020. Just go to www.bullyproofclassroom.comand click on the link for courses. If you prefer to listen to a podcast of the course which includes the lecture notes go to: https://www.patreon.com/join/3225415.  This course offers some strategies and suggestions on how to manage stress and begin to incorporate these crucial areas into your life and create a structure that anyone can live with and maintain. Update: The Course Is Available Right Now Stress Management Through A Balanced Life

The election is over I think and the split between Trump and Biden was almost 50-50. How does a nation get along when there is such a divide between it's people. As individuals we aren't  going to always agree with each other but we have to begin to try and disagree with the right attitude and cooperate even though we disagree. There are many things that we all must do including politicians to help bridge the gap with those who have a different belief system and learn how to value the differences in order to see life from another person's perspective. Join Jim as he explores how we can all get along as a nation by teaching our children some important principles and by being an example and practicing them ourselves.  The Bully Proof Classroom Anti Bullying 101 Premium Podcast Membership jameshburns55@gmail.com

Stress can be a killer. When it's not managed correctly it can create problems for us physically, mentally, emotionally, and at times spiritually. The goal is to keep everything in balance and to do our best to grow in each of the areas mentioned above. Join Jim as he explores some ideas on how to manage stress through balance and how we can keep ourselves physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually sharp, fit, and focused.  This topic will be covered in detail in a five hour course by the same name and will become available for Anti Bullying 101 Premium Podcast members. There are some great ideas in the membership area now. Become a member to discover the benefits.  Anti Bullying 101 Premium Podcast Membership The Bully Proof Classroom

Dr. Sharyn Kennedy is a practicing psychologist in the Middle East, who has taught thousands of clients how to successfully manage anxiety, stress and depression. She teaches her clients psychological skills based on neuroscience findings that will quickly and effectively reduce anxiety and help them manage difficult emotions. Dr. Kennedy loves helping people learn about and understand their amazing brain – so they can make sense of the way they think, feel and behave. She uses powerful psychological tools and strategies to change what doesn’t work for them. Her ultimate goal is to teach people how to stay calm, capable and confident even in the face fear and confusion, chaos and problems. Please do listen in; Dr. Kennedy has some life changing suggestions for my listening audience about dealing with anxiety, stress, and depression. Become An Anti Bullying 101 Premium Member Trauma Stories The Bully Proof Classroom Dr. Kennedy's websites http://www.cbtabudhabi.ae/ http://www.stillmind.net

With the right language a victim can stop a bully. A child needs coaching and some rehearsal in order to come up with the right words at the right time. Teachers and parents need to take the initiative and begin to help their student's/children develop those words that can defuse and deflect a bully's advances. This episode goes over some of the language necessary to build resilience and confidence. I have include a link for my listeners to a product called Comeback Cards. These cards can be posted around the room or shared virtually with your students to help them begin to make the language part of their vocabulary. I have also attached a YouTube video by Brook Gibbs titled How To Stop A Bully. Enjoy the podcast.  Comeback Cards How To Stop A Bully Trauma Stories The Bully Proof Classroom

The Anti Bullying 101 Podcast has provided it’s listeners over the years hours of free content designed to help combat the bullying epidemic, harassment, intimidation, workplace bullying and domestic abuse. It has provided information for those suffering from Post Traumatic Stress, and has used the podcast platform to help listeners build relationships and repair damaged ones.  Our Premium Podcast Membership is coming soon! I am providing you my listeners with a look at some of the courses you will have access to by becoming a member. You can purchase the full course now at the membership price of $60 by visiting Principles of Personal Transformation on The Bully Proof Classroom website. The membership cost is less than the price of a Starbucks coffee; $5/month and will provide you with an advanced knowledge base as you deal with the bullying epidemic.  The membership will also provide you with Podcasts that attach slide presentations that give the listener visuals and handouts that can be used as part of any professional development program. Teaching videocasts that provide the listener with slide narration that offers insight and relevancy. Monthly an online course will be offered some of which are valued at $199. Tips and strategies and suggestions that paying members can access for immediate download. As teachers and as parents, we constantly have sought to improve the behavior and the academic achievement of our children. Almost every continuing education workshop or class is designed to help educators accomplish this. Even though this is valuable, these workshops fail to address the idea that it is the character of the teacher/parent that will affect a child's success in the classroom and ultimately in life. We can fall into the trap of becoming so focused on the deficits of others, that we become less concerned about their own areas of personal growth. This course is designed to help educators, parents, and anyone who wants personal change to become more self-aware and give them strategies to personally strengthen themselves. The effect of becoming more self-actualized will help adults become more effective in their respective roles, and be much better equipped to meet the needs of all children. Message Me

In this world of technology and the pandemic of COVID-19 more and more children are involved in sedentary life styles. Virtual learning keeps kids from recess and physical education and the idea of riding a bike almost seems foreign to most kids. More importantly kids don't realize the importance of lifelong fitness and what it looks like. In this episode I explore why it's important for kids to get fit and stay fit and how a positive body image can improve self esteem, build confidence, and more importantly prevent one from being bullied.  The Bully Proof Classroom Brain Bursts Husky Trauma Stories

Children and adults alike can have a difficult time establishing boundaries and learning how to just say no. The statement, “I am not used to being spoken to that way” can have a far reaching benefit as children grow older. When children are not taught how to establish their boundaries they can grow into adults and develop attitudes that at times can be resentful, revengeful, and reactions that are full of anger and frustration. Establishing boundaries can be daunting for children especially now when bullying is so prevalent in our society. It does take courage and it is something that requires the quality of self respect and responsibility. The 10 questions contained in the journal are designed to help children reflect on their own attitudes and discover ways to learn how to disagree but with the right attitude. Having conversations that are uncomfortable is something that we all need to have at times and it takes courage of both parties to really facilitate change. Listen in as Jim outlines the 10 steps necessary for a courageous conversation to take place. Take the time to order the journal Courageous Conversations. This journal can be used to facilitate change in a family, a school, or a corporation.  Bensoundmusic.com The Bully Proof Classroom To Get The Courageous Conversation Journal Click Here

Some stress is a good thing; too much though can cause anxiety, depression, fear, and worry. Those who have experienced abuse, neglect, and violence may have trouble getting a grip on reality, and their thoughts. When those thoughts of the past plague a person they may be experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. People with PTSD have intense, disturbing thoughts and feelings related to their experience that last long after the traumatic event has ended. They may relive the event through flashbacks or nightmares; they may feel sadness, fear or anger; and they may feel detached or estranged from other people. People with PTSD may avoid situations or people that remind them of the traumatic event, and they may have strong negative reactions to something as ordinary as a loud noise or an accidental touch. This episode of Anti Bullying 101 covers some of my experience with PTSD and should help the listener understand the condition. Because I take this condition so seriously I have started another podcast called Trauma Stories. This podcast is designed to provide my listeners with a platform to share their stories either through email or by being a guest on the show. My goal is to provide a platform for those with PTSD to be heard and share their story of healing. My hope is to provide faith, support, and hope. Trauma Stories Bully Proof Classroom Share Your Story @ traumastories1955@gmail.com