The Jennifer Ruscin Podcast

Creating Intentional Intimacy around our s/x lives is VITAL to getting the kind of erotic, enjoyable, juicy partner play that we want.

Today Charli McConnell shows us how and what to place on our monthly calendars to keep our s/x lives & relationships happy and exciting.

Charli McConnell is a Women’s Coach who focuses on women of all ages who want to find their power and increase their capacity for self-love, communication, and intentionality. She works with women on all thing’s life, sex, relationships, and business. 

She is an RN who specialized in women services and an entrepreneur who built a multi-million-dollar company in a male dominated industry. 

She has been married for 13 years and loves to share the things that have been instrumental in her own relationship.

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Recently I went to my partner Scott and began a conversation where I stated that there were two times in my life that my cup had felt "overflowing". Both involved opening my relationship and having additional partner play.

Now - feeling full or even almost full in our love and sexual lives is a fantastic thing. 

I understand most people don't even get to that point of fulfillment.

As someone that believes that it is possible to live a life completely overflowing in abundance, I feel that relates to the love and sex and relationship parts of my life, too.

The discussion did not go well, his feelings were (understandably) hurt, he felt no one could ever be enough for me, I'd never be satisfied... and seriously turned and looked at me with some concern and said:

"Do you think you might have a sex addiction?".

This is not the first time someone has asked me this.

As a society, we get REALLY uncomfortable around conversations about sex.

Lots of us walk around with trauma.

It's crunchy, and uncomfortable, and triggering.

AND... not everyone experiences high libido. It's foreign to them. They do not experience it in their bodies at all.

I came out of the womb with a high sex drive and always have been a sexual, embodied person.

So let's dive into the conversation of Sex Addition & Sexual Needs!

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If you're new to the world of BD$M, it's important to approach it with caution and care. K!nk educator London Crave shares her insights on how to explore BD$M in a safe and consensual manner.

5 Ways to Explore K!nk & Negotiate a Scene:

Focus on what you do want to try: When negotiating boundaries, it's important to approach it from a positive perspective rather than a negative one. Instead of focusing on what you don't want, focus on what you do want to try. This approach can help narrow the playing field and make it easier to control the scene.

Avoid negotiating mid-scene: Negotiating during a scene can be clouded by the rush of endorphins, adrenaline, and dopamine. It's best to stop the scene and negotiate before continuing, rather than trying to negotiate during the scene.

Vet potential partners: Before engaging in pickup play, it's important to have a better understanding of how to vet and screen potential partners. The best place to find events and groups is FetL!fe, which is like a fet!sh Facebook. Attend meet and greets and get vetted before attending private events.

Negotiate aftercare: Drop can occur after scenes, great s/x, or big events, and it is when the feel-good brain chemicals crash out, causing physical and mental effects. To deal with drop, it is essential to negotiate aftercare, which is how to take care of oneself and the people involved in the scene after it is over.

Treat negotiations as a seduction: Negotiations can be playful, fun, and teasing. It's important to bring the same mood to the negotiations as you would to the scene itself. Negotiations do not have to be business-like or very thorough, but they should cover safety and boundaries.

Remember, exploring BD$M can be empowering and help individuals learn more about themselves. But always prioritize safety, consent, and communication.

About London:

London Crave (she/her) is a bis/xual, polyamorous k!nkster who has been active in the BD$M, non-monogamous, and s/x positive lifestyles for a decade. 

In that time, she has led 2 BD$M focused groups that held k!nk focused parties, movie nights, educational events, and other social activities.

She has presented classes and demos at various k!nk-focused events and dungeons in Arkansas, Oklahoma, and nationwide virtual events as well as the University or Arkansas, CAVU Center's Conference on Spirituality, S/xuality and Intimacy, and Konsplosion.

London is available for a variety of classes, panels, and discussion related to BD$M, ethical Non-Monogamy, s/x positivity, and s/xual expression and empowerment. She can be reached at cravinglondon42@gmail.com for all inquiries.

Relationship and s/x coach Ashley Garcia reminds us that our bodies were designed for pleasure.

Think about it....

The wind on our skin. 

Someone playing with our hair.

The sun warming on our skin.

Someone’s hot breath on our neck.

G******s that become erect when touched.

Beauty to look upon around us.

Our lovers' eyes.

Everything around us was designed to be pleasing to us… including our own bodies.

And you are ALLOWED to try all the things.

Give yourself permission.

Can you envision a life where life would be better if you had the space to heal yourself, to show up and be the best human you can be?

Instead of living as roommates with your partner, what if taking some space allowed you a different perspective about what YOUR needs actually were, and how to get them filled?

Releasing the need to force our partners to be the ones to fulfill our needs.

Shannon tells us how she was able to keep her marriage together after taking some time apart.
And when Shannon's “Pleasantville” life turned to color, she had this pivotal moment with her son that forever changed her.

> She realized that she was just going through the motions, life on autopilot

> Her kids looked different

> Trees looked greener

> She decided to live her life in each present moment

This podcast is for those that are ready to date.

This might be simple like a coffee or cocktail hour.

It’s a GREAT idea ladies to go dutch so it’s not weird for you.. And there is no obligation to do ANYTHING… even a kiss.

This might also include meeting up to just f*ck.

Today’s episode is the information your momma never taught you - how to talk about:

Buckle up - this one is packed full of lots of info in just 20 minutes.

XO,

Jen

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The confident Swinger Jo Leavitt is back on the show this week with a brand new topic: Get Outta Your Head & Into Their Bed!

It’s been 6 months since I’ve done a solo episode, so let me get you all caught up.  This episode was burning inside of me because I had a man online tell me “All I desire is for a woman to want to pleasure ME. I give, and give, and give to the women in my life, yet no one has EVER asked me what I want. What I desire. What I crave.”  And this story made me so f*ing sad.  So this episode is all about how I create a night just for my partner.  And this is specifically related to me + Scott because I held a C0ck Worshiping night for him last night.  Hope this spurs creativity and desire within you.   And that your C0*k or Pu$$y Worship night rocks.  XO, Jen  

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Today I have Kiley (@sexyswingerchic online).

S/x Work 101 is what we’ll cover today.

Kiley is a totally normal wife, mom, cat mom, and ex-teacher.

She’s so well spoken and I cannot wait for you to listen to this podcast.

So open your mind. Open your heart. And let’s dig in!

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In the spirit of 69’ing… which is all about reciprocity… mutual pleasure…. mutual desire… the “I’m so turned on I’ve gotta have you in my mouth RIGHT NOW” energy…

Today’s episode is about how to keep long term relationships hot 🌶.

69 is fun in theory… but in reality quite impractical.

Sometimes what seems hot and spicy isn’t what stokes the fire long term.

I’ve got Scott, my other half, on today’s show and I hope you have as much fun listening as we did recording this one.

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Keeley Rankin is a sex and relationship coach that specializes in male performance issues.

This episode is for the men!

Rachel Maine is a therapist turned sex and relationship coach, and today is all about PLEASURE.

We talk male & female pleasure.

How to talk to kids about pleasure.

Body Mapping.

How to bring more pleasure to your partner.

And MORE!

RESOURCES:

Danielle Addison, owner of Simply Magnetic is a coach that teaches others how to harness the power of magnetism and feminine energies to get what you want. I had Danielle on Episode #31: The Energy of $20K months: what it takes for creating multiple 5 figure months with ease. I’ve been fangirling her for years, and am in her Facebook group (it’s super sexy, y’all!), and am so honored to have her live on the show again! Today we’re talking about Seducing the Universe: How To Get What You Want. Did you know even your coffee can be sexy? Danielle shows us how. 

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Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines.

She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT certified sex educator.

Classically trained opera singer @lanaviolette was repeatedly told she had no place on the stage or in the arts.

Lana found Burlesque, and she found her Tribe as well as an empowering, body-positive space that allowed her to mix all of her talents: opera singer + dancer + production manager + pasties artist into one fabulous outlet.

Let us take you on a journey with a behind-the-scenes look at what becoming a burlesque artist looks like, what it takes to be a burlesque performer, and how difficult the system currently is to even have burlesque performed in your local city.

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So… you’ve decided to open your relationship… now WTF do you do?

This podcast is for you!

We cover where to start, where to go, where NOT to go, the different dynamics of each spot from your local Swinger Club to S*x Clubs and Dungeons.

Justin and I have got you covered!

Topics:

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This is SUCH a juicy episode! 

Join Taylor and I as we discuss how she became a female dominatrix.

We discuss ALL things like:

Definitions:

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Sheila Jones is the owner of Whicked Results. Hence the name, her focus is getting big results for her clients in their personal and professional life.

Today's theme is: Putting Your Dreams to the Test!

We are both so freaking passionate about helping people create and birth the life of their dreams.

If you're not excited every day to jump out of bed and work on your passion, then you're doing life wrong.

So many good nuggets in this episode like:

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More than 50% of all humans have STI's, so why all the shame?

Today's podcast with nurse practitioner Lauren Haines de-stigmatizes STI's and STD's allowing us to hear the facts and normalize this part of being sexually intimate with others.

It's not as scary as society has made it out to be.

You're not dirty or gross or tainted in any way for having STI's or STD's.

Lauren even gives us some scripts to help in telling your partner(s).

This is the episode I've been waiting for - to bring you the depth of truth that your momma wouldn't tell you.

This is reality.

2:14 - 2:54 STI vs. STD 

2:57 - 3:22 How Do You Know if you Have Chlamydia or Gonorrhea? 

3:24 -5:40  How Often Should You Get Tested? 

5:54 - 7:22 What type of testing should I do?

7:31 - 11:19 What are the most common STI’s?

13:13 - 14:34 Scripts for telling your partner about your STI.

Ways to connect with Lauren and I:

Y'all asked for more of Tony and Cristina so here you go!

An episode all about their + my Sexcapades.

Topics covered:

Tony & Cris has the top #1 and #2 episodes on my podcast so when you're done listening to this one, check out:

Today on the podcast I have Jo Leavitt, podcast host of The Confident Swinger, she is a coach leading others into the Lifestyle. 

Eternally optimistic, Jo is a wife and mom and loves leading others into the world of swinging.

We cover:

Perspectives on Life from my 97yo Grandmother Therese Grossman: Part I

I’ve been interviewing my 97yo grandmother over the past several years each time I visit her in Savannah.

Therese Grossman was born May 6th, 2025 in Savannah, GA.

Recently she has started having dementia, which is normal in someone her age. The brain starts to fade as the body begins to make it sway towards the end of living in this lifetime.

I just got back from visiting her, and wanted to share some of the wisdom that I’ve gathered.

There is something magical about sitting across from someone that has been through:

Claudia Marrero went from agnostic to seeing auras. 

She joins us on today's podcast where we dive into Why Are We Here?

Claudia is a super left-brained BioMedical Electrical Engineer turned health and life coach, channeler, Course in Miracles instructor, and Reiki Master Teacher bringing science and spirituality together.

Some of my favorite clips:

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Your dreams were meant to be fulfilled. On this podcast Marcela McBride and I chat about what it means to own who you are, embrace who your heart truly desires to be, and how to birth a program or company that will reach people specifically waiting for Y-O-U!

Marcela is a spiritual guide, mentor, and founder of the Mystic Priestess Path. She has a great passion for supporting women who sense they are on the planet for something important, to fully embodying their "woo" side, to create an extraordinary life and be of service with their passion and gifts. Check out her programs, groups and retreats below.

Today on the podcast I have Jessica Esfandiary, podcast host of Open Late, she also leads, retreats, sound bowl meditations and events, and she has a mentorship program called “Awaken your Inner Healer”.

Jessica lives in LA with her husband and her partner Lauren.

Today we discuss her Polyamorous relationship, and why she believes over half of the world is already living in an open relationship.

She gives practical advice on how to talk to your partner about opening, and the various ways that could look.

Intuitive Business Coach and Content Magic Maker Su Guillory talks with us today about living life with the mantra of "I can do hard things".

She moves to Italy in just a few months, and dream coming true that she's been working toward for years.

I pop in and talk about living intentionally through the hard things in life like divorce, and how to live consciously through the hard things that come our way.

This is a super motivational episode and I hope you enjoy it as much as I have!

This is a recording I did for MerchantWords last year in preparation for Prime Days.

3 Growth Spurt Client Best Practices:

1.  Snag Prime Day Deals - remember this is the perfect time to capture new customers

Guidelines:

Today I’m interviewing Kristen Wiley, the Founder and CEO of Orlando-based tech-startup, Statusphere, a multi-million dollar consumer-to-consumer marketing platform that helps digital audiences discover brands they love from people they trust.

Today’s topic is influencer marketing, and we’re going to be learning about:

Kristen’s Links:

Today I’m talking with Tomer David from Sourcing Monster,about How to Send Traffic from Google Ads to Your Amazon Products

But first, let me properly introduce him!

Tomer is the owner of 2 Amazon FBA brands and holds 14 years of e-commerce experience.

His online passion started when he began programming at age 12.  By age 14, he opened his 1st online business, which was a hosting company. At 16, Tomer left school to pursue his dreams full time by working at a startup company in e-commerce & marketing.

In addition to Tomer’s success on Amazon, he also teaches other AMZ sellers how to succeed through his website and Youtube channel Sourcing Monster, where he share videos about sourcing products from China and running successful online businesses.

I’m really interested in today’s topic of How to Send Traffic from Google Ads to Your Amazon Products, and lots of clients have been asking for my expertise on this subject. But my team really focuses on marketing ON AMZ, not off, so let’s dig in!

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Tomer's Links:

One day I realized that I kept thinking to myself that my dryer must be shrinking my clothes. I noticed that each time I put on clothes they seemed to fit tighter and tighter. But surely that’s the only explanation, right?

Just last week my husband was yammering on about how our scale must be broken. (There was lots of eye rolling on my part!)

These are the excuses we tell ourselves.

You have permission to take care of yourself today. Start small, then build upon each self care act that you incorporate so that it becomes a habit.

Grab some health and mindset tips over on our podcast today!

PS: The freebies at the end of this video have expired.

Find Tony at:

NOTE: This program is no longer free as of 2022.

If you're a current Amazon Seller Central seller, stop what you're doing and sign up for Vine immediately!

In the past, Vine cost Vendor Central sellers up to $7,500 per review (insane, right?), but now this program is available to Seller Central sellers for FREE, now that the Early Reviewer program is gone.

You may receive up to 30 free reviews, for an exchange of a free product.

This is 25 additional reviews than the ERP (Early Review Program)!

To sign up, log into Seller Central > Advertising > Vine.

Today I’m talking with my website designer, Courtney Michelle, a Kajabi designer and funnel strategist for female creatives.

I met Courtney in a Facebook Group for course creators, and was so excited when she talked about her ability to migrate entire Wordpress websites over to Kajabi.

This was the exact service that I needed.

After years of spending over $10,000 on my website, hiring custom code gurus, and hiring a social media manager, I was done giving my power over to others.

I had a SUPER expensive website that I had no idea how to operate. I couldn’t fix a basic line of code, or do a Wordpress update to save my life. 

Courtney, you’re my hero, and I’m so excited that you’re here today to chat with me all things websites, Kajabi, and more!

Today I’m with Annalise Worn, who helps impact driven entrepreneurs master their own lead generation, so they can attract all the clients they need to grow their businesses, simply.

Here are my notes from our conversation:

#1: The buyer journey - Provide value.

#2: PR- pay attention to trends

Amazon just announced Prime Days are back for 2021, and the timeframe is June 21 - 22, 2021.

In 2020 small businesses made over $3.5 billion on Prime Days - and this means that if you're not playing in this massive event, you're missing out.

Here are 5 ways to get ready for Prime Days 2020:

Links Referenced in this Podcast:

Today I'm interviewing Betsy McGinn of McGinn eComm, former ecommerce director for Seventh Generation, and other various capacities at some of the world's largest food CPG's like Hain Celestial Group and Tazo Tea.

With over a decade of eComm CPG experience, Betsy authored The Amazon Roadmap book (available on Amazon!), and serves as a brand strategist for companies wanting a solid plan to dominate ecommerce.

Betsy and I cover 6 ways to win at eComm in this energetic podcast!

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Lowering your Amazon ACoS means more money (and profit) in your pocket.

Today I'm covering the 3 ways to lower your ACoS on Amazon through:

1. Keywords

2. Manual Ads

3. Optimization

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So many industries are turning to virtual collaboration in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic. From telemedicine to critical board meetings and more, the world's businesses are finding ways to succeed even when separated by distance.

And the legal industry is no different.

On this episode of Bricks and Clicks with Jennifer Kaylo Ruscin, attorney Andrea Sager outlined how the legal industry is finding its own brand of agile success in a virtual world.

Sager is the go-to attorney for online businesses. A mom, business owner, and lawyer extraordinaire, she's found an innovative way to do legal work virtually.

However, for all the promise of remote work, several key considerations remain.

Tune in to find out what legal programs you might be missing, how you might be opening yourself up to liability issues, and what's actually necessary to protect the business you've built as the world adjusts to what's likely to be a largely permanent new normal.

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With so much going on in the world these days, it’s important to stay positive and grounded.

What if you could build out a referral partner network that brought your PERFECT customer or client to you?

No more wining and dining and woo’ing and pleading to get customers to pay for your services or items.

No more efforting. Yes, I just made that word up.

Today I’d like to talk about how struggling in the early days of my business, then pivoting to create a big referral network, has helped ensure I have a constant stream of potential clients knocking at my door.

I’ll also share how to attract your ideal referral partner and client through showing up AS who you want to attract!

Resources:

1. Jennifer’s Referral Program

*I send out fun thank-you gifts too every once in a while too

Want to attract your ideal customers and clients to your brand? First you must STOP asking people to buy your product.

Sound counterintuitive? It’s actually not. Storytelling is as old as the first humans on this planet, and it’s our preferred method of digesting information. Storytelling bonds us to the storyteller, and makes us long for more content.

Shoppers are homebound in what is currently a voluntary isolation. Within the past week toilet paper, paper towels, pain relievers, masks and more are completely out of stock. Online is sold out too. We are weeks out, best case scenario, at being able to replenish our pantries.

I know that every morning I personally wake up believing that this must just be bad dream. But it’s not. The entire nation is dumfounded that this is our new reality. Some are saddened. Some are scared. Others angry, worried, lost, or anxious.