Falling In Love...With Yourself

Allow me to introduce you to the magnificent Shelby Stclair. Shelby has lead a life like no other and at a very young age was faced with the choice to turn to self or continue to conform to family, religious and cultural beliefs. She continued to walk the path of heartbreak and loss and hit her bottom as a very young widow while six months pregnant. Her story is a beautiful example of emerging from despair by loving herself. She models self-love to her daughter and has been called to help other women break through barriers and heal themselves. Please reach out to Shelby here and here .You can find Jenny here, here and here.

Self-Compassion IS the source of our strength. However, most of us struggle with being compassionate with ourselves. It takes self-awareness and practice to grow our self-compassion. In this episode I give you three mindset tools, with accompanying mantras/intentions, to grow and nurture your self-compassion. Then I guide you through a self-compassion meditation {music is Basalt (Spa Delta) by Wild Colors}. You will definitely want to download and save this episode to revisit and practice this meditation. Name & validate ALL emotions without judgement or criticism~ "I feel all of my emotions and they are all valid and okay." Release expectations/ perfectionism of Self ~ "I am not perfect nor do I expect myself to be." Accept that how we react, behave & feel is from our past (childhood) and it's not our fault, nor anyone else's ~ "I am doing the very best I can and that is enough." Please reach out to me here, here and here to connect.

This episode is NOT just for singles....self-dates are for EVERYONE! Self-dating falls under the pillar of self-fulfillment. In this episode we will identify our desires and I will give you a step by step process on how to implement this self-love practice. When we turn toward ourself with companionship, adventure, fun, affection and sensuality we will build a strong foundation. With this strong self-foundation we will be able to carry that into all other relationships in our lives.  will also discuss what to do with the fear, anxiety and discomfort that might come up in self-dating. As you plan, implement and post about your self-dates please tag me here and here and share with me your experiences here. Happy Self-Dating! 

"Letting Go" is NOT dismissing, gaslighting or suppressing. The practice of "letting go" is a self-love win when done with self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-compassion. In this episode I teach you how to identify what to let go of and how to do it in the most self-loving way. I illustrate practical everyday scenarios as well as bigger topics that are most likely blocking our own authentic journey. "Letting go" helps us heal, grow, evolve and create the most loving and fulfilling life. If you would like to discuss this topic more please reach out to me here and here. If you would like to join my private tribe please find us here. 

What if you could coach your future self from your present space of awareness? In this episode I will take you through this higher level self-love practice. Taking all of your awareness, acceptance and compassion of where you are at RIGHT now and writing a letter to your "future self" will be amazing! I cannot wait to teach you this and hear about how it went for you. If you would like more one-on-one guidance in this practice, or to tell me how your experience went, please reach out to me here or here. 

We spend so much of our energy judging, criticizing and trying to FIX our bodies. When we do it breaks down our self-love and self-acceptance and before we know it we can't even love how we look. There is a DIFFERENT way. In this episode I teach you to love your body, accept your imperfections and even have gratitude for the parts that give you grief (PMS anyone?). This episode is for EVERYONE and I hope you share it. Loving our bodies IS the way to long-term and sustainable health. Background music is "Evenfall (Spa)" by Beyond The Sunset. Connect with me here and here. Join our Tribe here. 

Welcome to Season 3! We are made to connect here on Earth. We thrive in connection. But sometimes life gets in the way and connections become less of a priority. In this episode I will talk about why "connection" is my 2023 Word of the Year. I will talk about four different types of connection and how to be more intentional with each of them. Connection to Self. Connection to Source. Connection to Presence. Connection to Others. I can't wait to connect with YOU. Find me here and here. 

Happy New Year! In this episode I will help you create your 2023 intentions and give you permission to do it in the most self-loving way. We will discuss how and when and what you can do to create a 2023 filled with abundance and purpose. The six areas to think about creating intentions and actions for are: Physical, Spiritual, Emotional, Mental, Creative and Purpose. If you would like more guidance please contact me here and here. Book referenced is here and here. 

Can you believe 2022 is wrapping up? This is a workshop format episode. You can listen completely through and then go back and experience the practices (make sure you commit and schedule a time to do that) or you can grab your journal or your notepad, light some candles, put on lovely music and settling into this beautiful practice of self-love. In this episode you will journal and reflect on ALL of 2022. We will discuss choosing an intention for 2023. You will become self-aware, gain self-acceptance, practice self-compassion and feel self-fulfillment by the end of this episode. I would LOVE to hear about your sacred self-love moments. Please share with me here and here. 

Do you want to love yourself more in 2023? Here is HOW. You will grow your self-awareness, your self-acceptance, your self-compassion and your self-fulfillment when you listen and follow this episode! I am here to help guide you in every way. You will choose some self-love practices for your physical, spiritual, emotional and mental wellbeing for the first 30 days in January. I give you  suggestions and how to find the "Sweet Spot" of how many to choose. The best part is I help hold you accountable and guide you in self-validation as well. I am SO EXCITED for you to listen and join us in kicking off 2023 in the most self-loving way! Find me here and here. 

In this episode I give you FOUR steps that will lead to a holiday season with more love, peace, fulfillment and presence. You will have the opportunity to find awareness, acceptance, compassion and fulfillment with yourself in this episode and apply it to your holiday season. Ditch the stress, overwhelm and chaos and return to yourself. The holidays provide ample opportunities to grow your self-love and I show you how. To take advantage of the holiday special coaching sessions please reach out to me here and here. 

Dave has a self-love journey that you don't want to miss! Spending 16 years gripped by the disease of addiction, as a result of low self-esteem, he found his path to recovery. Walking this path, though painful and difficult, he found a deep love for himself. Now he spends his time in creating and serving others, especially in the homeless community. In this episode you will hear about his journey from intense anger to spiritual serenity and everything in between. If you struggle with addiction, or love someone who does, please find help 1-800-662-4357. There is hope. There is help. You are worthy. You are loved. Dave shows the miracles and possibilities when you choose to rescue yourself. Find Dave here. Find Jenny here and here. 

This episode will introduce you back to yourself in the most self-loving way. Find a comfortable spot, relax and listen to this guided meditation of self-image visualization. Download, save it and set a self-love date in your schedule to do it for 7, 14 or 21 days in a row. Meditation is about consistency and progress. There is no right or wrong, just show up for yourself and do the best you can each day. With consistency you will have a deeper connection to yourself, a deeper connection to self and a deeper of love of yourself. Whatever you visualize is what you create, so let's start here! Find me here and here. 

This episode teaches you how to take your life to the next level in the most self-loving way. You are worthy of everything you desire! Visualization is HOW to create all of it. In the episode I teach you how to use visualization as a daily practice to stay connected to your goals, WITHOUT beating yourself up along the way. This is SO MUCH MORE than vision boards. This is about emotionally connecting to your visualization practice and then surrendering the when, how and who. You will start to subconsciously create your vision into reality. Whether it is your health goals, relationship goals or career goals....this episode will kick off your journey and I am here with you every step of the way. Let's do this! Let's create the life you are worthy of! Reach out to me here and here. 

This episode takes you through ALL the major milestone events that are currently going on in my life. Regardless of how you feel about aging OR high school reunions you will get a TON of self- love and how it has lead me to a secure state of acceptance. My 50th birthday is this weekend and I show you how to ask for what you want. My high school reunion was last weekend and I teach you how to be more confident and release the "comparison" trigger. In this episode you will hear about my "fantasy part" and how I acknowledge it and settle myself back into reality. We also discuss expectations and disappointments. Even if you are not in the same season of your journey this episode is FULL of self-love nuggets. If you enjoy it, please subscribe and reach out to me here and here. 

Making music playlists on my phone is a self-love tool I use. Music speaks straight to the soul and can help remind us who we are and what we are worthy of. In this episode I give you THREE reasons to make a self-love playlist TODAY. I also take you through some of the songs on my "I LOVE JEN" playlist to inspire you for yours. I describe what other playlists I have created,  as well, to open your mind. Music playlists are a tool I coach my clients with on deeper self-connection. Do you already have a self-love playlist? What is your favorite self-love songs on your playlist? Share with me here and here. Thank you for subscribing, leaving a rating/review and sharing the self-love message by sharing this podcast. I am grateful for you. 

Are you divorced or know someone who is? EVERYONE will get something from this episode. We are all evolving and growing and this episode is to give hope to everyone, especially those who are in the discomfort of recent divorce. It is also for those who are in the confusion of recent divorce. Who am I now? What do I do now? Will I ever find love? I have asked all of those questions and have gone through MANY different "phases" post-divorce. I get vulnerable with my part in the breakdown of my marriage. I also reveal FIVE a-ha's or "lessons" now that I am deeply loving myself. PLEASE SHARE this episode with anyone you know you might need some hope and light. Please find me here and here and tell me how this episode spoke to you. 

Do you feel connected to your body? Do you have "on days" and "off days"? If you have hormones (as we all do) then you answered yes. In this episode, Bria_period_whisperer, opens up about what lead her to deep dive into her hormonal health. We talk about everything from orgasms and sleep to her coming out as gay while married to a man. She reminds us that our bodies are our greatest source of information and teaches us how to listen and to stop numbing and ignoring what our body is trying to tell us. Listen to this vulnerable and real episode for strategies and tools to gain more self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-compassion and self-fulfillment. Find Bria here and here. Find Jenny here and here. 

When was the last time that you spent any significant time away, reconnecting to yourself? You don't have to go on a three month, multi-country adventure or hike alone. In this episode I help you discover how a #metrip can be exactly the self-love act you need to do....SOON! I will tell you all about the evolution of my week away, with details of processing and healing, and all the JOY in between. I will ask you questions and redirect you back to YOUR soul to help you plan your very own ME TRIP. Pack those bags, baby, your self-love me trip awaits. YOU ARE WORTH IT! Tell me about where you are going here and here. Use the #metrip and tag me to show me! 

Self-Love is not meant to be isolated or lonely. Connecting, nurturing and bonding with self is work, and can sometimes be uncomfortable, but we are not meant to do it alone. In this episode, I introduce the idea of a self-love community that supports the inner work you are doing. We are all surrounded by other people in our homes, in our jobs and even on the internet. Are they part of our self-love community or are they a part of the external community? To build your self-love community even stronger reach out to me here and here. 

We ALL have insecurities, those thoughts and doubts that creep into our life out of nowhere. Bethany is very different than me. Her self-love journey has been secure, as mine has come from an anxious attachment. In this episode, we discuss how self-love is still essential from the abundant and secure side of the street. Bethany gives so many nuggets and tools for moving towards a more fulfilled, peaceful and serene way of being. Find her here, here and here. You can reach out to me here and here. Links mentioned in episode here and here. 

What if I told you that we ALL feel emptiness? What if I told you that emptiness isn't ACTUALLY negative? In this week's episode I describe how I named my anxiety as emptiness and how I went from fearing it to actually being GRATEFUL for it. It is true and I explain how I did it for you. If you would like one on one guided support go here. If you would like to connect with me you can do so here and here. Book Referenced: A Year of Self Love by Jenny Drake and Radical Love: Learning To Accept Yourself and Others by Zachary Levi. 

What do you use to numb yourself from growth? We all have things we turn to when we don't want to "feel". In this episode I will share how our numbing mechanisms block and prevent us from deeper self-love. I share how sugar, social media, and my obsession to "find love" have all been my own numbing devices. I share how I move through self- awareness and self-acceptance with self-compassion to build self-trust, self-mastery and a deeper self-confidence. Whew, this one is vulnerable. THANK YOU for you ratings and reviews. Please reach out to me here and here to connect. I love you. 

Do you often feel lonely? Do you have a fear of being alone? Are you in a relationship and still feel alone? I have been there. In this episode I describe how my attachment to loneliness has blocked my self-love and lead to behaviors that don't serve my highest good or deepest desires. I also tell how my fear of being alone has dictated the majority of my life. Since gaining this self-awareness I have been able to create tools and practices to not attach to being "alone" anymore. This episode shares those tools and practices with you. YOU are NOT alone. Reach out to me here and here. 

What is the rush? Do you feel a sense of urgency? Do you feel rush, rush, rush? Do you force outcomes for safety and security? I have done a deep-dive into my own relationship with time and share all the juicy details here. How my inner child actually lead me into an organized religion and a marriage. Also, how I was repeating the same behaviors during the last five years of dating. How do you slow down? How do you quiet that loud internal clock? I give many self-love suggestions and practices in this episode that will help create patience, peace and calm in your life. Book mentioned is "Happy Mind Happy Life" by Dr. Rangan Chatterjee. Please reach out to me here and here. 

There is noise all around us, at our fingertips. Opinions, beliefs and information can be like harassment to our soul. In this episode I teach you how to navigate the noise with a 4 step process. This process will help you pause and self-connect with your true belief. With self-compassion I teach you to give yourself permission to evolve in your beliefs. When we find our true beliefs we have greater acceptance for ourselves and others. Find me here and here.

How does our fear of rejection block our self-love? How can falling deeper in love with ourselves actually dissolve our fear of rejection? We discuss that and so much more in this episode. When we fear rejection we seek approval, acceptance and validation from external sources. I share some deeply personal struggles that I used to face because of my rejection wound. I have learned to heal that rejection wound through self-love practices and I share them with you. Reach out to me here and here. 

Shame is a powerful self-love blocker. Shame can also be disguised. When it is hiding underneath anger, fear, sadness we don't bring it out to the light to diminish it. I recently went through a process of turning my awareness of some unresolved shame into acceptance and then  into self-compassion and self-forgiveness. I take you through this process too. Get ready to release some shame and start to love yourself more fully. Referenced in this episode: Gabby Bernstein's "Happy Days", Brené Brown. Contact me here and here. Grab your self-love intention cards and self-love intention journal here. Contact me from one on one coaching here. 

Most of the time we choose our words to others with a filter of politeness.  Do we do the same in the words we use toward ourselves? In this episode I will go over three categories of where we are blocking self love; limiting beliefs, false/outdated stories and beliefs, and put downs. We can be our worst critic, but today this episode will help you move away from that and truly help you fall deeper in love with yourself...with your words.  Reach out to me here and here. Join my "Loving Myself More" June group here. 

Today we are going back to the basics....square one...where to begin. If you have said to yourself, "Who Am I?" or "What do I even like?" or "I don't even know what brings me joy anymore" you are in the RIGHT PLACE! In this episode I will ask you three simple questions to get the juices flowing and then I will give you four steps that will open the doors to your self love journey! Already loving yourself? Great! Use this episode as a "check in" for your progress. You will always gain more self awareness, self acceptance, self compassion and self fulfillment in each episode. Reach out to me here and here. One on one coaching applications here. Get your "A Year of Self Love" journal and intention cards here. 

I asked social media followers for questions and I chose some to answer here. Do you have a question for me to answer on the podcast? The questions I answer today are; 1. What do I do if my religion is no longer aligned with me? 2. Fill in the blank: "If I had a dime for..." 3. How do I know if I should end my relationship/marriage? 4. Are you dating anyone? 5. How did "A Year of Self Love" come to be? If you are interested in seeing if one on one coaching is for you, please reach out to me here and here. "Self Love Intention Cards" (a perfect companion to "A Year of Self Love") found here.

This is YOUR "fast pass" to self love. It has taken me FIVE years to learn these truths, but I am sharing them with YOU now so you don't have to take that long! Five years ago I was going through a divorce, after being married for 22 years. I had already started my self love journey, but being single for 5 years has truly catapulted my self love. There are MANY more truths I have learned, practice and teach but I've narrowed it down to these 5 for you today. Please reach out to me here or here. 

How much do you trust yourself? Why or why not? In this episode I will give you three tangible ways to build your self-trust. We will also talk about how much we trust our body, our mind, our heart and our soul. Getting deep in the most light-hearted way today! Find "30 Days of Self Love" here. Find "A Year of Self Love; 52 Intentions to help you fall deeper in love with yourself" here. Reach out to me here. Join our tribe here. 

This episode is dedicated to our sweet, loving Shih Tzu Jupiter (March 21, 2007 - March 12, 2022). How do you practice intentional living? Especially when it comes to loving yourself? "A Year of Self Love" is a journal with 52 weekly intentions to reconnect you back to yourself. It will provide practices that will grow your self awareness, self acceptance, self compassion and self fulfillment. The result will be more confidence, inner peace and joy in your life. Set your intention every Sunday and use the accompanying journal prompt, daily, to hold yourself accountable in the journey of falling deeper in love with yourself. Join our private Facebook Tribe page here. Grab your copy here. Reach out to me here and here. 

Wait! I just got to a good spot with my "inner child" and NOW I have to get to know my "inner teen"? Becoming aware, in acceptance and having compassion for ALL parts of ourself is an essential part of our SELF LOVE journey. Who is your inner teen? How does he/she show up in your adult life? What ways does he/she serve you? As always, I share about my experiences of reconnecting with my inner teen and stories about how sometimes she has been minimized and, on the contrary, been in charge. This work is based off of Internal Family Systems Therapy by Dr. Richard Schwartz. Another great resource is here. I am NOT a professional therapist. My goal is to bring awareness and acceptance. Connect with me here and here. 

What do you believe about your self worth? Do you feel like you are not enough? Do you feel like you are not worthy of what you truly desire? In this episode we talk about our inner child, where we established those worthiness beliefs. We also touch upon our inner teen, where we began acting or not acting in our worth. YOU ARE WORTHY. Your worth is UNCONDITIONAL. Period. I give you tangible tools on how to reframe your worth belief system and how to act in your worth MORE OFTEN. Get "A Year of Self Love" here. Reach out to me here and here. 

Do you identify as a "rule follower"? It's okay if you do! It is not anything "bad" or to be ashamed of. As a matter of fact, being a rule follower has served me in many aspects of my life...however, it has also sent me on paths due to fear and insecurity. In this episode, we will discuss where our rule following tendencies come from and how to release the pressure from improving, being "better" or doing it "right". The Self Love journey has no rules because it is FOR you, ABOUT you. As a matter of fact, LIFE has no rules because it is YOUR life. When you are connected to yourself, in the most loving way, your life truly becomes authentic! Please reach out to me here and here if this episode spoke to you ❤️ 

What are self love wins? Are you already doing them and don't even know it? What are some other actions that will align with your commitments that you may not have thought of? How will you hold yourself accountable with your self love wins? All of these questions are answered in this episode! So many talk about self love, but many don't tell you HOW to grow it. That is where I come in. I explain the difference about self care and self love and give you a TON of accountability options so that your self love journey progresses throughout 2022 and beyond! If you would like the freebie discussed in this episode click here. Join our private Tribe page here. Reach out to me here and here. #selflovewins

This is the practice I use each Sunday to release the week and welcome in the new. You can also use this practice at the transition of a new month. As we reflect on what served us we can celebrate our wins. When we reflect on what didn't serve us we can apply compassion and then release it. As we do this we create space to welcome in the new week or month. I teach how to drop out of our head and into our soul to set intentions that truly serve our spiritual, emotional and physical well-being. Enjoy and be sure to contact me here and here to share how this practice inspired you to release and welcome. 

What is your highest self? How will you know you are there? Is it even possible? How will life be different if we ever get there? In this episode I answer all of those questions. Our self love path is self awareness, self acceptance, self compassion and self fulfillment. This self love path accesses a power greater than ourselves where abundant love comes from. It is through that abundant love that we find our highest self. You will hear of some miracles that have recently occurred as a result of this in my own life. Please feel free to reach out to me here or here. 

What survival and protection mechanisms kick in when you are triggered? What stories are protecting you from growth? Do you attack, defend, run or go to the worst case scenario? What does your body do when in fear, insecurity or feels threatened? We are diving into some self awareness today as we identify our protection and survival mechanisms and how they serve (or don't serve us). Books referenced are here and here. Instagram page referenced here. Want to reach out and get a hold of me? Please do! You can find me here and here. 

Welcome to  SEASON 2 and 2022! No matter how far along we are on our self love journey fear will always appear and our survival mechanisms will be activated. In this episode we will talk about what to do to dissipate the feeling of fear to create a calm and rational state of being. Referenced in this episode is Gabby Bernstein who can be found here. Please reach out to me here and here to join my weekly "Falling In Love with Myself Tribe" zooms or for one on one coaching sessions. 

SEASON FINALE! If there was ONE episode of this podcast for you to listen to.... THIS IS IT! I don't even use the word "resolutions" in this episode because they don't work. I also distinguish the difference between setting goals and setting intentions. I ask you specific questions that will get you on track for success in the next year. I also give you an outline of different life areas and where you want to go in each. I teach you how to drop the guilt, stay accountable for the entire year AND tie it all back to self love principles. This episode is a GREAT way to send out 2021 and welcome in 2022 with love and direction. Please reach out to me here or here if this episode spoke to you. Also, thank you for your ratings and reviews. ❤️ SEE YOU NEXT YEAR!

Grab a cozy spot with your journal, phone and something warm and yummy. It is time to reflect on your year in the most self loving way. In this episode you will be guided through a reflection of each month. Our mind forgets so much, and often remembers only the very highs and very lows. You will be reminded of the beautiful spectrum of your year with acceptance. You will also be guided through an inventory of yourself in this present moment, again with no judgement. We will love and accept 2021 as we send it out and prepare for NEXT WEEK'S episode of setting intentions of 2022! PLEASE USE #reflection2021 and be sure to tag me here and here so that I can hear all about your reflections. You can also reach out to me here and here to schedule one on one coaching. 

How did Taylor Swift trigger Jenny? That is answered in this episode! What happens when you get triggered? When do you get triggered? Triggers are information and help us realize where more layers of healing are to be peeled back. We have a choice. We can either avoid, distract or numb ourselves from the healing or we can walk the path with the self love pillars. The pillars are discussed in this episode.  Find me on Instagram @jenny_drake_.  I hope to connect with you VERY soon!

The holidays are here and THIS is your self love guide! Are you going to go through another holiday season "white knuckling" it with your emotional health, physical health and spending? You don't have to! In this episode you will become aware of where your approval wound, perfectionism or expectations are popping up and creating more stress for yourself. You will also be guided to self compassion in every aspect of this time of year. I share my past stories of breakdowns and meltdowns because my self worth was based on external validation. This episode IS FULL of holiday self love treasures. Please reach out to me and tell me which parts spoke to you most! Find me here and here. 

The BIG O! A follow up conversation to last week's episode. Are you having awesome, often and multiple orgasms? If the answer is no, why not? You are WORTHY of amazing orgasms, regardless of your relationship status! In this "quickie" we will discuss the many benefits and purposes of orgasms. Did you know that a woman can achieve orgasm from MORE THAN four different points of stimulation? You will hear about a time in my life when I didn't know what an orgasm was, if there was something wrong with me, and if I was having them and didn't know it...WOW. I made an intention to change ALL of that because I learned I AM WORTH it...and so are you! Let's continue this important conversation here and here. I would love to hear from you. 

To celebrate the 50th episode we are talking ALL ABOUT SEX! This episode is for EVERYONE....single, married, and everything in between! How connected are you to your inner sexy mama? Have you been disconnected to that part of yourself recently? This episode is ALL about connecting to YOURSELF through sexual beliefs, practices and health. I tell you my story of going from sexual suppression to a healthy perspective of self love and sexual health. I give a 10 Step To Do List to help you reconnect to your sexual health. Please reach out to me and tell me ALL ABOUT your thoughts and sexual journey. Find me here and here. Book mentioned: Single On Purpose by John Kim. 

Has loneliness ever taken over your life? Have you moved and are struggling to fit in? Do you crave connection and don't know how to make friends? Kaycia has moved through all of these while moving from state to state over a short period of time. She learned to rescue herself, through self love, and is here to teach us her process. She is a wife and a mother of young children and her story is inspiring. You can find Kaycia here and here. You can find Jenny here and here. 

Have you been lied to, deceived or blindsided? In this episode I take you through my own journey of rebuilding trust, after a recent blindside, through the form of self awareness, self acceptance, self compassion and self forgiveness. We discuss why people lie and our own personal relationship with trust, honesty, integrity and transparency. Can we truly ever trust another human being? I give my truth to this question, as well as others. Book Reference: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide To Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz. Please find me here and here. 

Erika is a mom of seven children, ranging from early childhood to adulthood. She is an advocate for health, children, education and holistic wellness. Join her tribe here. She is one of the authors of the recently published book "The Truth About Finding Joy in the Darkness". On this episode Erika shares her story of rescuing herself as a young, brand new mother and was faced with a crippling injury brought on by a Doctor. You will feel empowered as you hear her story and how her faith and relationship with God strengthened her to find and live her purpose. Follow and reach out the Erika here, here, and here. The book has a variety of stories and authors all inspiring joy from darkness. Purchase the book here.   As always please reach out to me, Jenny, here and here. 

Are you dating or thinking about dating? Who are you right now? I have been dating for four years, including a relationship, since my divorce. I have continued to walk my own self love journey and find dating is such an amazing way to practice ALL the self love tools I embody, share and teach. Dating helps us practice my self love pillars; self awareness (who am I?), self acceptance (I am who I am), self compassion (I won't be perfect but I am doing my best) and self fulfillment (I can fulfill myself first before I look to my date to do it for me). Dating is FUN if you always stay connected to yourself first and I will show you how.  Please follow "Jen's Dating Adventures" on my Instagram Stories HERE, Also find me here.  BOOKS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE: "Modern Romance" by Aziz Ansari, "Welcome Home" by Najwa Zebian, "The Untethered Soul" by Michael Singer, "Attached" by Amir Levine, "The 5 Love Languages Singles Edition" by Gary Chapman, "Single Is Your Superpower" by Case Kenny. 

Laura is HILARIOUS! Follow her here and listen to this episode. She has been THROUGH it. From teenage pregnancy, struggles with Chrons Disease and everything in between. She has rescued herself over and over throughout her life. She fully embodies what self love means. She has the gift of gab just like me, but is so much funnier. I know you will enjoy this girl's chat with Laura.  I love her so much and I know you will too! 

How often do you tap into your creative soul? Are you recognizing it when you do? In this episode we will explore what creativity is, what it is not and how creativity helps us fall deeper in love with ourselves. You will hear some of my "old attachments" to creativity and how is used to trigger my perfectionism. I describe how I apply my "recovering perfectionist" practices to my inner creator and how it will fill your cup. When our cup is full we show up more authentically and complete in all aspects of life. Thank you for leaving me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and be sure to share and tag me on social media. I would LOVE to hear about your creative journey here or here. 

Understanding my patterns around seeking validation was a HUGE breakthrough for me in my self love journey. I hope it will be for you as well! Who or what do you seek validation from? A partner? Your job? The bathroom scale? Social Media? My sweet, YOUR WORTH is ALREADY valid. You are already valid. With that being said, it is COMPLETELY normal to receive validation from external sources. However, if we NEED validation from those sources then we have some self love work to do. In this episode I teach you how to validate yourself. To join the "Welcome Home" by Najwa Zebian please reach out to me here. To join our "Falling In Love With Myself Tribe" Monday zoom calls please request here. Visit my website here. 

If you have recently gone through a breakup I am right there with ya, Sista! I am here to share my process of self love post breakup. Breakups SUCK! There is no way around it and trust me, I have a few under my belt. Sometimes I've done things that have prolonged the healing (or actually postponed healing) and, luckily, this time I have been able to navigate the sadness, grieving and pain in a more self-soothing, self compassionate way. Listen in and reach out to me with your feedback here and here. As always, thank you SO MUCH for your ratings and reviews. I am so grateful to my journey helps your journey.❤️ Books referenced are "Welcome Home- A Guide To Building A Home For Your Soul" by Najwa Zebian (JOIN OUR SEPT BOOK GROUP FOR THIS BOOK by DMing me HERE!) and "Single Is Your SuperPower- Catch Feelings For Yourself" by Case Kenny. 

Lacy's self love journey was tested when she was diagnosed with Topical Steroid Withdrawal Syndrome. Her humility, growth and healing is inspiring. She is a mother of three, a wife and a double business owner. Lacy takes us through the hard times, the changes in her vanity and how she truly learned to love herself from the inside out. To become more aware of TSW please visit ITSAN here. You can reach out to Lacy here and, as always, please reach out to me here and here. 

Are your current friendships meeting your needs? Friendship is something that is a constant throughout our life, even though our friends may change along the way. Some of us like to have LOTS of friends, while some of us like to have just a few. Regardless, this episode talks about YOUR truth in friendship, your needs and how to be your own best friend. If you would like to dive in deeper about friendships, boundaries, friendship breakups please contact me here or here. 

Do you feel yourself controlling, frustrated and disappointed? In this episode I share why ACCEPTANCE is the key to happiness in situations, with others and ESPECIALLY with ourselves. Acceptance is a journey that we can work towards in all areas of our life. Acceptance allows us to release the grip of exhausting control and takes out the judgmental emotions that create so much unhappiness. I will share three areas to work toward acceptance and how to do it. I hope you let me know your thoughts about this episode by leaving a review. SELF LOVE WIN is you listening to this episode. You are WORTH It. 

We ALL have them! I am talking about emotions. If we allow our emotions to be in the driver's seat we are in for a bumpy ride. I know because lead the first 40 years of my life like that. In this episode I go through the process of recognizing what core emotion we are having, feeling it and allowing it to flow so we can let it go. I also discuss how to have a healthy relationship with uncomfortable emotions. I hope you enjoy this episode and I would love to hear from you here or here. 

We all have them,  but what we do with them can either bring us joy or discomfort. Opinions can block our self love and create barriers to our source of love and light. This self love quickie is validation of the opinions you have, while also bringing awareness on if your opinions are sabotaging your self love. I give tips on what to do with our opinions so that we can live in peace and contentment. To join the Millionairess Society please go here.

So many times moms feel selfish, guilty or unworthy. It is time to stop. Our self love journey isn't supposed to take a back seat while we are raising our kiddos. As a matter of fact the opposite is essential to be the authentic mom you want to be. Also, by loving yourself first you are showing your children how to love themselves. In this episode I will take you through the early years, teenage years and adult children years and how to fill your cup first so that life can be harmonious and happy; even while they are teens! The Five Love Languages book referenced is here. Please find Jenny here and here. 

You might be VERY surprised what I have to say about using journaling as a tool for growth. Is journaling hindering you or helping you? There are a few traps we might fall into when journaling that I bring awareness to. This episode will inspire you and open your mind to using journaling in your self love growth!

My self love gal pal today is Meghan. Join us as we dive into her self love journey. She is a mama of littles (which is VERY different from me) and has recently rescued herself out of postpartum anxiety and pandemic anxiety. She opens her heart on how self love was, and continues to be, the answer to her fulfilling life. If you would like to reach out to Meghan you can find her here and here. If you would like to reach out to Jenny you can find her here and here. To join the Millionairess Society please go here.  

Do you over think, over analyze or talk yourself out of believing things completely? The words "In this moment..." have magical powers to block our ability to disagree with ourselves, brings us back to the present and it provides a sense of hope. In this episode I will describe further how creating a practice of adding "In this moment..." to your self talk is a self love win and will calm anxieties and help you to feel more serenity. Thank you for your ratings, reviews, DMs on Instagram and shares. If you would like one of my last three coaching spots for summer please reach out here. 

Do you suffer from addiction or love someone who does? Loving someone who suffers with this disease has been a great classroom to learn and practice self love. In this episode I share what I have learned about addiction and the healing and awareness I've gone through with myself. Alcoholism and addiction still has a great stigma in our society, yet every one of us is touched by this disease in some way. In our families, in our work place, our neighbors and our friends...addiction comes in many forms. This is my current truth about walking alongside the disease of addiction. If you are struggling with addiction or know someone who is, there is hope and help. You are not alone. Please start here for help. My favorite resources to learn about addiction and support are Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-Anon. I also  recommend the book "Recovery: Freedom From Our Addictions" by Russell Brand found here. If you would like to personally reach out to me please find me here or here. I would love to get to know you. 

How comfortable are you in answering "I don't know" when you don't really know? Can you find peace in the uncertainties in life? When we are uncomfortable with "I don't know" we can rush into answers that may not be true or right for our timing. In this self love quickie I explain how and why we can find comfort and peace in "I don't know". I also explain how it leads to acceptance, surrender which nurtures and grows our self love. 

This episode is not just for anyone who has gone through loss...this episode is for EVERYONE. We all are somewhere in the grieving process for different things. I get very personal about how and what I am grieving. Listen in as we explore many areas of life that we can potentially be grieving and how to recognize it, move through it and progress on the journey. The acceptance of grief is essential to our self love journey and the relationship with ourself. Listen to the end for three specific tips on how to help with your grief. 

What is your attachment to the word "Selfish"? Does it give you prickles up your spine or not?  Today we will explore where our belief patterns came from with this word, unpack it and reframe it. Many of us are stunted in our self love journey BECAUSE of this word. I would love to hear about your thoughts on this episode. Please reach out to me here and here. To join the Millionairess Society please use this link. You won't regret it!

Our relationship with money is something that is constant, but is it a healthy one? What are your beliefs about money and are you living in your truth when it comes to your finances? How much of your worth is tied to your career, job or income (or lack thereof)? If we know that money is an infinite tool to help us live our lives we can begin to let go of its power over our worth. When we build our self love our relationship with money with get healthier as well. 

When things get overwhelming does it trigger a "failure wound"? In our early years we formed beliefs about what a "successful" life looks like. We unconsciously (and consciously) lead our lives to create that success. In our relationships, as parents and in our careers. But we are not the drivers of our life and many of our paths don't match up with that vision of success. This episode talks about how to become aware of your failure wound and tips of healing it. Here are some questions to ask yourself: What is success to you? Are you spending your time trying to measure up to that vision? After letting go of those unrealistic beliefs, what TRULY is a successful life in your eyes? How can you focus, daily, on building those successes? Hint: It has VERY little to do with our bank account. Thank you for your reviews and ratings! Reach out to me here and here. Referenced: The 5 Love Languages.

How do you start and end your day? Is it in the form of SELF LOVE? I will introduce you to MY "self love sandwich" that has helped me manage anxiety, loneliness and stress. I will also share with you how I keep my expectations about it realistic. This is HOW I have rescued myself over and over again. I can help YOU create your own self love practices....your own self love sandwich. Reach out to me here and here. References today include this, this and this. 

Meet my friend, Emma. She tells us her inspiring self love story and how she shifted her self worth from achievements to internal growth. She shares how she rescued herself a few times throughout her life and how it has lead her to earning to earning the crown as Ms. Arizona 2021. Books referenced are "Present Over Perfect;Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living", "Inner Engineering; A Yogi's Guide To Joy",  "Think Like a Monk: Train Your Mind for Peace and Purpose Every Day", "Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life", "Revelation: Connecting with the Sacred in Everyday Life", "Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself". Find Emma Here and Here, Find Jenny Here and Here. 

Do you overthink, overanalyze and force solutions? Or do you feel like you are constantly "Looking for evidence" to support the stories in your head? This quickie will help! I show you HOW to "drop the magnifying glass" and enjoy life. It will help and lead you to deeper self love. 

"Why am I feeling ________?" The answer can usually be traced back to us not setting a boundary. The book "Set Boundaries, Find Peace; a guide to reclaiming yourself"  by Nedra Glover Tawwab is the basis of this episode. I share some important aspects of boundaries from the book and how they relate to self love. When we love ourselves we know our needs and have confidence in how to ask for our needs. And, as we do this, our self love continues to be nurtured and will grow. Boundaries are essential to the relationship with ourself and it is how we honor ourself. You can find the author on Instagram here. You can purchase this book here. FInd me here and here. 

Do you ever feel like you are riding on someone else's emotional rollercoaster? You may not even know that you hopped on next to them, but find yourself riding all the climbs, falls and corkscrews created by their chaos. You want off, but don't know how?  This visualization scenario will provide you with options of still loving them but detaching from actually riding their ride with them. We can empower ourselves to make different choices with boundaries and awareness. Keeping this scenario in your mind will help to keep you emotionally regulated and keeping your own self love as a priority. Find me here and here. 

I have known Tiffany since elementary school, and although we parted ways, her self love is what drew me to reconnect with her on social media. Her story and example of self love is inspiring as a mom, woman and entrepreneur. Listen to how she pivoted her life by following her inner wisdom and how she felt guided to travel for peace on her own. I am so excited to bring you this chat with a very dear friend. ENJOY! Find Tiffany here. Find me here and here. 

Have you ever wondered why certain past hurt keeps resurfacing? It may be because you spiritually bypassed the emotional processing. I definitely have used spiritual bypassing in my marriage, break ups, and disappointments. Then I learned what it was and stopped side stepping the uncomfortable feelings. Tune in to learn more about ways we use spiritual bypass and how to prevent it. Enjoy this self love date! Show notes: "Toward A Psychology of Awakening" by John Welwood. Reach out to me here and here. Much love!

My most personal self love date with you yet. This is my story about my spiritual journey to this point. Sliding along that spirituality belief spectrum, from organized religion to separation from God to a Higher Power of my choosing, I go into all the details. I also discuss how our inner wisdom, through our Source, has all the answers to any of our questions throughout our life. I touch upon how the Universe is an infinite source to all things we desire and that we have access to it. Topics of death and addiction are covered in this episode as well. I hope you enjoy this story of my spiritual journey. I would love to hear about your journey and how this episode spoke to you on Instagram here or on my website. If you would like more info on Al Anon visit here. 

Don’t worry, we will be back this weekend with more Self Love!

A beautiful set of Self Love Affirmations is here for you! Breathe in these universal truths often to fall deeper in love with yourself. Join me on Instagram here for a Self Love Affirmation 21 Day Challenge #selflovechallenge and feel the abundant flow of self love elevate you. 

We have been talking about purpose on Falling In Love...With Yourself and in this episode, Liz, will show how she is living her purpose. She is a successful entrepreneur, mom, wife and woman. The ONLY way she has been successful at achieving her goals is through loving her self and honoring her self worth. Just like anyone, Liz has had her self doubts, but she shares how to rescue herself and continue to be motivated and centered. You can reach out to Liz: Instagram Loadladyliz,  Reese Squared Mortgage, LIz Reese on Facebook References: "You are a Bad Ass" by Jen Sincero Miracle Morning  Grant Cardone

 Using your voice to speak your truth is a great act of self love. But, sometimes. we lose our voice. Sometimes we minimize it because we are afraid that we will make others' feel uncomfortable. This self love quickie will empower you to get your voice back and how to reconnect with your truth. Enjoy! Please reach out to me here or on Instagram here to let me know how you are using your voice. 

Do you keep asking yourself, "What is my purpose?" Do you feel unfulfilled and anxious about what you "should" be doing? Grab a glass of wine or a cup of coffee, grab your journal and join me as we explore what sparks your flame, ignites your energy and drives your motivation. Connecting with your authentic self is a journey and I share my journey in this episode as well as guide you through yours as well. There is no need to seek out a new career, relationship or put life on hold with young kids...your purpose is in the here and now. And...great news....you have the answers inside of you! Reach out to me on Instagram @Jenny_drake_ or here to share with me your journey of self love. 

I get vulnerable and personal about the part of myself I shamed, criticized and minimized for a long time...until I realized it was my sweet, beautiful, smart "Little Jenny". Through identifying, reconnecting, nurturing, reparenting and surrendering  I have been able to love myself even deeper. Have you fallen in love with your inner child? This self love quickie will help that process for you. Please reach out to me on Instagram @jenny_drake_ or my website and let me know how this episode spoke to you. Show Notes: - Brené Brown "The Call To Courage" currently on Netflix - Wu Wei Wisdom on Youtube - Christine Hassler - "Healing Your Lost Inner Child" book and workbook by Robert Jackman

Lynette has truly fallen in love with herself and is here to share her beautiful journey. Though marriage, divorce, parenting and a suicide attempt she has now chosen to base her self worth in her love of self. She talks about her trauma in her childhood and how it has helped guide her path, now, to work with women who have suffered from domestic violence abuse. Through self awareness, self compassion and growing her own self love she now is a secure single woman who has made her self love practices a priority. I learned so much from Lynette and know you will too. Do you have a self love journey to share and would like to be a guest on this podcast? Please reach out to me here. 

Mindfulness is a powerful tool that helps us fall in love with ourself a little bit more each time we practice it. Mindfulness is being aware of our thoughts and detaching judgment from them. It has helped me to be more present, more in tune with my inner wisdom, and has helped me to respond rather than react. Being mindful can also turn an act of self care into an act of self love. I would LOVE to hear about your mindfulness practice here. 

All the single ladies...THIS is for you! It can be lonely, frustrating and confusing to be single. This episode tells my story of the ups and downs of being single and how I've moved from anxious attachment behaviors to more secure behaviors. I answer questions like, "Should I be dating yet?" and "When is the right time to have sex?" or "What am I even looking for?"  Through self awareness, self compassion, self acceptance and self worth being single can be a GIFT and help you truly FALL IN LOVE...WITH YOURSELF. For copies of my "Self-Honoring In Dating" note, "Who Is He?note, "Perks of Being Alone" note or "Joy List" contact me here. 

Today's Self Love Quickie talks about attracting more ABUNDANCE into our life. If we are stuck in a scarcity mindset we might feel unfulfilled, fearful or anxious. This episode explains that we can move from scarcity to abundance by tapping into our inner wisdom. With self awareness, self compassion and increased self worth we can apply the law of attraction and receive infinite amounts of abundance in all areas of our life. If you would like to join our free Monday Motivation Tribe zoom go here for your invitation. Thank you for listening. 

Just in time for Valentine's Day; this date with yourself is how to love yourself FIRST while in a romantic relationship. Do you look to your partner to fill your needs? Do you often feel disappointed, hurt or unfulfilled in your relationship? Do you live in a scarcity mindset when it comes to love? I give you tools and experiences to help "fill your own cup", which will have a significant impact on your romantic relationship. Learn about how I have gone from anxious attachment behaviors to secure behaviors and how I have a happy and healthy relationship now. Lace up your shoes, throw your ear buds in and enjoy this date with yourself. Visit me here for more information. 

"Today I will give myself permission". Do you have a tendency to seek permission from others? Today in our Self Love Quickie we will talk about permission and how we can notice the things we truly desire and give ourselves permission to embrace them. We talk about low self worth, fear and self judgement as blockers to what we our soul truly desires. When we give ourselves permission we feel empowered, build our self trust and grow our confidence. You are worthy. You are loved. When we give ourselves permission we fall in love...with ourself. Please share with me how this quickie helped you in the review section. You can also find me here. 

Decision making can be stressful, anxious and confusing. On this date with yourself we will talk about ways to grow your self trust and self love when faced with a decision. I walk through decisions that I've made that turned out well, and not so well, and self love lessons I learned from them. We discuss the link to our inner guidance, listening to our body, who our support system is and how we can move slowly and confidently through the process. I ask some questions... so grab your journal, a cozy spot and a mug of something warm so you can get the most on this self love date. www.jenny-drake.com

"I have choices" helps me when I am anxious, reactive or rushed. In this self love quickie we will look inward at how we approach choices. We will detach emotions and judgement from our choices. We will practice self compassion and grow our self trust so that we can be confident in making choices. When we slow down, take a breath and pause before we choose it will feel empowering. Falling in love with yourself happens when we practice trusting ourselves to choose. www.jenny-drake.com

In this date with yourself we  look at our attitudes and mindset patterns about body image, nutrition and fItness. Learn about unhealthy behavior patterns that I shifted in my physical health journey. We discuss hormones, eating disorders, intrinsic motivation and self accountability.  I also discuss how  I went from 50 pounds overweight to a marathon runner. Lots of tips and suggestions to help you 'fall in love with yourself" through your physical health. www.jenny-drake.com

Some of our behaviors can either block our infinite source of self love OR it can allow it to flow abundantly. Rescue CAN do both! In this quickie I will show you both sides of the behavior of rescuing others and ourselves. It is short and powerful and will encourage you to rescue yourself a little bit more each day. 

On this date with yourself I will get personal about my career identity crisis, divorce, depression and spiritual awakening. Have you ever said, "I don't even know who I am anymore"? I give examples of how to go inward, rescue yourself when you feel lost, change a negative mindset and nurture your own personal relationship. Whether you are in college or an empty nester, and any stage in between, this episode has it all. Get ready to fall even more in love....with yourself. 

Your quickie today is a reminder to surrender. Surrender is letting go of anything causing you inner-distress. In this Self Love Quickie I will give you examples of what might be holding you back, my process for surrendering and inspire you to surrender as well. Practice makes progress and applying surrender are steps to falling in love...with yourself. 

Grab your favorite mug of hotness or glass of something chilled and consider this episode a "date with yourself". In this episode I will introduce you to uncertain seasons of my life and how it lead me to self-awareness and self-compassion. You will hear stories about my tattoo, my quickie marriage, my divorce and my current love life. I give you questions to ponder about self-awareness and how our worth reflects how we allot our time and budget our money. I also give tips on self-awareness and self-compassion practices. Show yourself some love and enjoy! Join my Monday Motivation Tribe on zoom every Monday at 8AM PST. Get your invitation on www.jenny-drake.com. Find me on Instagram @Jenny_drake_. Don't forget to....Show yourself some love this week! 

A sneak peak of what you can expect!