the BETTERMEN podcast w/ Justin Kane

In today’s episode, we discuss the number one struggle facing men today, what it takes to build something bigger than yourself, and one important lesson every man should learn when facing adversity. You don’t want to miss a minute of this interview so let’s jump right in…

I am excited to share this episode with you. I had the chance to catch up with my good friend Tony Simon today, and boy, did we have a great discussion that I know will not only encourage you but equip you as well to run the race you have been called to run. I wasn’t sure whether or not I would split it into two with its length, and I decided to keep it one episode so that you could enjoy it to its fullest.

Enjoy 

PS - I certainly apologize for the audio in this interview. 

In today’s episode, we will talk about the importance of developing a positive mental attitude. I will share 5 ways to remain positive no matter the circumstance you face. We answer the question of how you refocus the mind and so much more. Let’s dive in and explore this topic together.

Welcome to episode #6 -  this podcast is for men who desire to become better men. I hope to provide tools and pathways to improving your life, mindset and legacy.

The last episode I shared a few tips to help you plan how to WIN in life. No one wins on accident. If you are going to win the game of life, you will do it because you became a man of purpose and intention.

Today I want to talk about something so important. The power of attitude and possessing a positive mental attitude towards life.

I can’t express enough how this simple character trait contributes the most to the success any man will achieve in life.

If you want to go beyond your present successes and go out beyond your potential curve, take a close personal look at your attitude.

A positive mental attitude must be developed. It begins with a choice to see the good in every situation and to appreciate every day as though it may be your last.

This mental attitude is a result of a life dedicated to self-improvement and genuine service to others.

Committing to be your best and do your best today frees you from concern about difficult situations you will encounter tomorrow.

It’s the willingness to go the extra mile and refuse any negative self-limiting thought to be entertained in your mind.

If you commit to being the best version of yourself and offer above-and beyond-service to those you interact with, You can be confident that good things will happen and be equally confident that if trouble comes your way, you will have the mental wherewithal to overcome it.

This takes effort, and it takes diligence, but it also acts as a protective shield against self-limiting doubts.

Therefore, accepting personal responsibility for your life is the foundation for cultivating a positive attitude. It is why I harp on responsibility so much.

Putting an end to the blame, excuses and justification are crucial.

How many people do you know who blame their attitude on others or on what kind of day it is?

My attitude has nothing to do with other people. Nothing at all!

Men, we must refuse to make the false claim that someone else made us feel a certain way or made us react a certain way or made us do this or do that.

It is not what has been done to you that defines who you are, but how you respond to others that defines you. That molds you into the man you are.

Your attitude is not based on circumstances, past limitations, or what others do or don’t do.

No one but you is responsible for the choices and reactions you make today.

If you put your mind to work with a positive mental attitude and believe you will build a great life, your belief will guide you to your desired end.

If you fill your mind with fear, dread, frustration, and negativity, you will attract those things to you. Your attitude is magnetic. It will attract into your life whether negative or positive.

You are not at the mercy of another or at the mercy of some adverse circumstance.

You are in charge of your attitude.

Regardless of what you go through, you are the one who determines your mental state—positive or negative.

No matter where you were yesterday or how negative you have been in the past, you CAN change.

In today’s episode, we are going to talk about the 3 d’s every man faces on his journey, and I am going to share 4 tips with you on how you can Plan TO WIN IN LIFE. You were built to win, but without a plan, we are destined to fail. Let’s jump in!

This podcast is specifically designed for men who want to become better men.

Which I assume is true about you.

So today, Let's talk about planning to win in life.

In our last episode, we spoke about TAKING CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE.

You do that by living with intention, purpose, and drive.

You take control of your life by setting targets to aim for.

It doesn’t mean God Is not in Charge. I like to say it like this to help people understand God’s role in our daily lives.

So let me ask you a personal question… Do you have the PLAN to win in life?

I don’t mean do you have your life mapped out, but do you have an idea in plan form how you will win as a man?

Paul in the Bible tells us to run in such a way that we may win the prize.

We are not in this to just merely to exist.

Certainly Not, we are men with a purpose who live on purpose and want to win the game of life. That’s who we are.

Will we always get it right? Nope.

Will we always be on top? Nope

We will fight to live another day and

fight for the vision within our hearts and

fight for our families. That’s what champion men do.

So do you have the plan to win in life?

Do you plan to win with your health?

Do you have the plan to win the battle of your mind?

Do you have the plan to win as a father? And maybe as a husband?

Life is the same. Having a plan is important, but no matter who you are you will face the 3 d’s…. disappointments, delays, and detours.

No one here is exempt.

Disappointments – things that happened that I didn’t expect and didn’t want to happen

Delays – when I am ready for God to answer, but God is taking His precious time.

Detours – I planned to go this way, but God is taking me this way.

All great achievements were preceded and accompanied by a plan, carefully designed and thought out with an end in mind. Without such a plan, dreams tend to die and never become a reality.

You may ask, “How do I put together this plan to become a better man?” Let me give you a few tips to help you get started.

There is no perfect time to start to plan to win in life. But the Best time is today…

You have the resources at your disposal. You know what you need to do. You know what fears are holding you back. Take action.

I believe in you. I know you have what it takes. Go for it. When you fail, get back up and go another round. YOu got this.

Thank you for listening. This is justin Kane of the bettermen podcast… I post every Monday and Thursday. God bless!

In today’s episode, we are going to talk about taking charge of your life and what it takes to become a better man. We will discuss the power of choice, sowing and reaping, and eliminating excuses from your life. You will leave inspired to take action and continue your journey of becoming a better man!

Let me remind you that you are not a man by accident. You were created with a purpose and intention by a God who knows you better than you know yourself.

You have what it takes to succeed in life in all areas.

Sure, there will be challenges and setbacks along the way, but with the right tools and the right spirit, you can become a man that makes a great impact on this world and the people around you.

All successful people have one thing in common – they possess a long-term perspective.

They live life knowing their present actions will determine or create their future experiences.

They have a sense of where they’re heading and have a plan to get there..

God gave you your life. What will you bring back to Him at the end of it? That’s up to you. Although Jesus is your Lord, this doesn’t mean He makes all your decisions for you. He won’t tell you how much to pray, how much to give above your tithe, what books to read, how much education to attain, what relationships to have, or how to distribute your time. He allows you the privilege of making what I will call an “executive” decision. Why? Because you are a steward over your life. God gives you guidelines and specific instructions at times, but the majority of your decisions are yours to make.

If Anything In My Life Is To Change, It Begins With Me.

So it must be with you. Thankfully, success and failure are predictable. They follow the natural law of sowing and reaping. The law simply states that for every seed you sow there is a proportionate harvest.

If you want to reap more rewards, you must sow more service, contribution, and value. Remember, a seed of nothing produces a season of nothing.

YOUR LIFE IS NOT A COINCIDENCE. IT'S A REFLECTION OF YOU!

One of the great enemies of personal success and continued progress is a refusal to take responsibility.

This is why I address the 4 responsibilities of manhood.

Condition of heart

Management of mind

Investment of time

Relationship with God

Take personal inventory

· Do I make excuses?

· Do I blame others for my mistakes?

· Am I not as far as I should be because of something else outside of my control?

· Do I believe others holding me back?

Winston Churchill said, “Responsibility is the price of greatness.”

This is a podcast for men who want to become better men. I take my time to craft content that would be helpful to you as a man and also give you the tools that I personally use to grow myself as a man.

If we aren’t growing, it’s because we aren’t doing the hard work. The #1 tenet I live by is DO THE HARD WORK ON SELF.

There is no time for making excuses and placing blame. If you don’t like where you are in life, you can change it by growing yourself.

We can’t complain about what we tolerate.

First, we are responsible for…

The condition of Our Heart…

The 2nd responsibility is The management of Our Mind…

The third responsibility is The investment of Our Time…

And fourth, The Pursuit of Our Relationship with God…

You become what you think about the most.

Thoughts matter.
A series of the same thoughts consecutively matter even more.

consecutive thoughts mixed with faith and desire matter even more.

Fellas, What are you planting in your mind?  I mean intentionally? To be honest, most men listening to this are not intentional about what they plant in their mind. They are simply living life and responding to whatever comes their way.

We were not created to EXIST through this life.

Men are not robots who go to work, take care of fam, veg out on tv and then repeat it the next day.

No. Men are meant to experience

PASSION

ADVENTURE

STRUGGLE

VISION

ACHIEVEMENT

&

PURPOSE

This is why you are responsible for the management of your mind. You must give attention to it, protect it,

realize it can destroy you or it can grow and strengthen you.

Your Mind like soil receiving seed, good or bad, right or wrong will harvest it.

So, it is important that you renew and train your Mind.

If you can learn to manage your Mind, you can change your life, and as a result, You can change who you become.

The BETTERMEN podcast is for men who desire to become better men.

As I mentioned in episode 1, we talked about the four responsibilities of manhood… Certainly, there are more than four, but these four are foundational to us being the men God called us to be.

First, we are responsible for…

The condition of Our Heart… Above all else, guard your heart

What is God looking for? I believe He is looking for a Soft Heart… Not a perfect one, but a soft one…

The 2nd responsibility is The management of Our Mind… like a garden

We will dive more into this specific one today…

The third, The investment of Our Time… we all only get 24 hours

The Pursuit of Our Relationship with God…

We won’t get to the second one in this episode, but I will make sure to cover it soon in a future episode, possibly #3 or #4.

I think today it is important to address what it takes to become BETTER and what is holding us back from doing so.

To become a better man, it will require personal change.

I think we all know that.

This is why I say,

True Manhood comes down to personal leadership with an emphasis on honesty, duty, and sacrifice.

Champion men take responsibility for their attitudes, behaviors, and reactions.

Men who tend to lose in life place blame, make excuses and justify their poor actions, AND as a result… they wander and ultimately settle in life, never reaching their potential.

There is no self-growth without personal change. If you want to see growth in any area, it will require you to make a few changes and constant adjustments along the way.

Fellas, you don’t have to settle for anything less than being a great man. I don’t care who you are or where you come from. You don’t have to settle.

I believe you are listening to this podcast because you have the desire to change.

Am I right?

But sadly, we can’t wish or pray ourselves into a new and better man.

We all wish we could, but it doesn’t work like that. There is no magic pill, just us doing the hard work on ourselves.

For some, the desire is there, but the results year after year are the same.

No change.

Or should I say, no significant change!

After working with men for many years, I have discovered that the core problem is not just a lack of discipline or laziness. Our core issue is motivation.

I am talking about desire...drive...determination.

A Burning Desire.

A Relentless Drive.

A Dogged Determination.

That is the essence of Motivation.

This podcast is ALL about empowering men like you to take back your manhood, find and regain your confidence and provide you with the practical tools to shatter the limits and break the barriers in your life.

Becoming a BETTER man doesn’t happen overnight. It does begin with a decision, but it takes time to see the changes you want to see.

I tell every man I help, ONE key step you must take (there are 7 altogether), but I want to highlight in this episode is…

ACCEPT PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY.

Regarding responsibility, there are four areas we as men are responsible for… Certainly, there are more than four, but these four are foundational to us being the men God called us to be.

True Manhood comes down to personal leadership with an emphasis on honesty, duty, and sacrifice.

***Not money, rank, or domination. (*If you insist on being the leader, you usually aren’t)

Champion men are men who take responsibility for their attitudes, behaviors, and reactions.

Men who tend to lose in life place blame, make excuses and justify their poor actions, AND as a result… they wander and ultimately settle in life, never reaching their potential.

Hey, This is Justin Kane, and I am thrilled to announce that I am jumping on the podcast train and starting a new podcast I could not be more excited about it. It’s called THE BETTERMEN Podcast with a simple but clear mission - to reach men like yourself to take back your manhood, regain your confidence and give you the tools you need to shatter the limits on your life. I have spent the last twenty years helping men from all ages and all walks of life to fulfill their potential in their life, and boy would I love to help you as well.

You may ask, how is this podcast different than any of the other voices out there? It’s a Great question; with this podcast I hope to provide you with practical tools you can immediately use to become a better man. It's that simple. I’ve made my fair share of mistakes, but I also have an uncanny ability to help others get quick and lasting results. We will talk about success, God, manhood, goal setting, the power of the mind, fathering, overcoming addictions, and so much more.

I would love for you to give me a chance to share my heart and wisdom with you. I know there are many voices, and hope to add tremendous value to your life through the BETTERMEN podcast. I’ll be dropping new content twice a week. Mondays and Thursdays.

Please subscribe and join me on Episode 1 coming soon!