Whispers to a Bride: Emotional Insight for your Wedding Drama

Happy Thanksgiving! This week I am rebroadcasting one of my older episodes that I think you would love to hear again.

What is going on with weddings and the weight loss pressure brides have?

This is a question I received from someone on my bridal email list. We talk about what is going on with weddings and weight loss and why the pressure is so intense to be so thin on your wedding day.

In this episode, we discuss diet culture, capitalism, and patriarchy. We dive into how they work together when having a mindset of being thin on your wedding day.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

How worthiness is tied up in your weight

The different kinds of diet cultures and how they market to get you to spend your money on being thin for your wedding

Taking a pause and really thinking about why you want to be thin on your wedding day

Deciding to love yourself, accepting your body, and taking care of your body to be able to be at your best on your wedding day.

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Weddings can also be viewed as performances, where couples may feel pressured to impress others or seek validation through social media.

I suggest reframing weddings as poems, emphasizing their brevity and ephemeral nature. Just like a poem with a few lines can be beautiful and impactful, a wedding is a concentrated emotional experience.

In this episode, we discuss how a wedding is an offering - a gesture of love and gratitude to our community, family, and friends. It doesn't have to be perfect or extravagant, but it should come from a place of abundant love.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

Why you should view your wedding as a poem

The power and structure of a wedding poem

How your wedding is experienced differently by everyone

The magic of your wedding

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In this episode, we delve into the complexities of navigating relationships with in-laws during wedding situations where the groom finds himself caught between his family of origin and his new wife.

I emphasize the importance of understanding that strong emotions from the family of origin are normal during weddings, as they signify a changing family structure. However, the groom's desire to keep the peace by avoiding conflict only perpetuates the discord between the bride.

Effective communication, setting boundaries, and establishing individual relationships with in-laws are all vital components of successfully overcoming these challenges. I also stress the importance of reflection, forgiveness, and compromise in order to find common ground and maintain healthy boundaries.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

Navigating the tension and creating boundaries in relationships

Building trust with your in-laws

The importance of creating a harmonious agreement with your in-laws

Being on the same team as your husband

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Weddings can be a whirlwind of emotions, and it's important to navigate them with self-awareness and self-compassion.

While it's natural to pour our hearts and souls into making our wedding personalized and unique, we must remember that it is just one day in our lives and should not define our entire being.

In this episode, we discuss how it's okay to look back on our wedding and realize that maybe we would have done things differently. This doesn't mean we made a mistake or messed up; it's a natural part of the learning process. Weddings offer us an opportunity to explore different themes in our lives and learn more about ourselves.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

Over identifying with your wedding

Celebrating the beauty of your wedding

Finding balance

Why being a guest at a wedding can help you have a deeper understanding of what goes into it

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Today's topic is self-compassion, which is often dismissed as basic and cliché but is actually crucial for finding peace in relationships and alignment in wedding planning.

It is important to be kind to ourselves and explore the concept of self-compassion beyond the surface level self-care.

In this episode, we discuss the three components of self-compassion and the impact they can have on our emotional well-being.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

The importance of being kind to yourself

The key to peace and alignment

Finding comfort in shared experiences

Practicing mindfulness in wedding planning

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Couples often realize they've made errors while planning their wedding, such as inviting too many guests and needing to cut the list down.

I acknowledge the overwhelming nature of wedding planning and the immense pressure to please others.

However, I encourage you to take action to rectify mistakes, even if it involves uncomfortable conversations or financial loss. It's a misconception that suffering and burden are honorable, so it's essential to prioritize one's own happiness and desires.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

How to fix wedding planning regrets

The power of giving yourself permission to fix mistakes

Owning and rectifying wedding mistakes

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Weddings and life can sometimes fall apart.

I encourage couples to remember that they are not alone on their wedding day and to reach out for support from loved ones or professionals if necessary. I believe that accepting this reality can ultimately lead to healing and personal growth.

In this podcast episode, I discuss acknowledging when things have fallen apart and how you can embrace them.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Acknowledging that things will inevitably fall apart

• Embracing the reality of things falling apart and not resisting or ignoring it

• Preparing mentally for the possibility of falling apart on the wedding day

• The importance of embracing emotions and not fighting them off

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Sometimes we feel like we are having an identity crisis when we are planning our wedding.

There's this whole invisible set of norms, responsibilities, duties and expectations when it comes to getting married. Add on to that the tradition of changing your name, which obviously would have pretty significant identity implications.

In this episode, we discuss this identity crisis through different parts of who you are and how sometimes those different parts can have conflicting thoughts about your wedding.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• The different parts of you
• How weddings can cause an identity crisis
• Dealing with those different parts especially when they want conflicting things
• Acknowledging who you are and what you want

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When you think back to your best day ever was every moment of that day planned out?

Your wedding day doesn’t need to be planned out to the tiniest detail in order for you to love it.

In this episode, we are diving into the concept of the "best day ever" trope that is often associated with weddings. We discuss how this idea can create pressure and unrealistic expectations, causing disappointment for some individuals when their wedding day doesn't live up to these standards.

It's crucial to put some emotional distance between the concept of the best day ever and the pressure it brings.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

The pressure of the “best day ever” concept

Letting go of unrealistic expectations

Redefining the best day ever for yourself

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The inspiration for this episode came from a client who was feeling disconnected from her fiancé as their wedding approached.

They desired a more meaningful and connected lead-up to their big day, but life's distractions and stressors had taken a toll on their relationship. Together, we discover that it's not about creating grand gestures or extravagant dates, but instead focusing on small bonding moments that keep you on the same page.

By prioritizing these small gestures, you can strengthen your relationship leading up to your wedding day and beyond.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

Handling feelings of disconnect with your partner

How to create small bonding moments before your wedding

The importance of small gestures in relationships

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Wedding planning can come with its fair share of pressure and expectations, but it's essential to prioritize the internal work and emotional journey that accompanies it.

It’s important to embark on this journey with an open heart, allowing yourself to fully experience and process your emotions. Sometimes, things may fall apart during this transition, but it's through these cracks that we can rebuild ourselves in a more authentic way.

In this episode, we are discussing how to embrace the full range of human emotions so you can celebrate your wedding day with joy.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

Dealing with hurt and frustration when people don’t show up for your wedding

Expressing disappointment without causing conflict

The importance of acknowledging and embracing all your feelings

How to fully express and process your intense feelings

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What can you do when your mother don’t approve of your wedding dress but you love it?

Sometimes we have to prioritize our own happiness over the expectations and desires of others, even if it means disappointing our own mothers. This leads us to contemplate how many times we have sacrificed our own desires in an attempt to please others, potentially leading to a life of constantly seeking validation and approval.

In this episode, we explore the underlying factors that contribute to this issue, ranging from financial concerns to body image insecurities, questions of identity, and the dynamics of parental relationships.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• The emotional impact of wedding dress shopping
• Embracing self-disappointment
• The importance of choosing yourself
• Disappointing others to prioritize what you want your wedding to look like

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Today I want to talk about having a generous take when it comes to your wedding.

It centers around viewing everything that happens during wedding planning through the lens of generosity.

Being generous means pausing before reacting negatively and instead trying to understand and support others. By adopting a generous mindset, brides can strengthen their relationships and create a more positive and meaningful wedding journey.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• The concept of a generous take in wedding planning
• Shifting Focus from Party Planning to Interpersonal Relationships
• Adopting a generous perspective in dealing with challenges and miscommunications
• Embracing generosity in life and relationships

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In this episode, we are discussing the sensitive topic of plus ones when it comes to wedding invitations.

The guest list is often a challenging aspect of wedding planning, as it determines not only who will attend but also has budget implications. Etiquette books offer guidelines on who should receive a plus one invitation, such as engaged couples or those living together.

However, I believe that there is no one-size-fits-all rule and that couples need to have open conversations to draw the line.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Drawing the line on plus ones
• Navigating the complexity of plus ones and family dynamics
• The importance of honoring love and relationships
• Seeing the people in your life as more than a spreadsheet

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Many individuals look back on their wedding day with regret because it didn't align with their initial expectations.

In this episode, I emphasize the significance of pausing and reassessing one's desires amidst the whirlwind of societal pressures and expectations that come with wedding planning. It’s okay to make a pivot and change the style, venue, and guest list of your wedding.

When feeling lost or angry, it's important to pay attention and listen to the underlying message that is trying to get our attention. By deciphering this message, we can bring more peace to our lives, weddings, and relationships.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How to find clarity and honesty in your wedding planning

• What to do when you realize you want to make changes to your wedding

• The joy of reclaiming your vision for your wedding

• The importance of bringing peace and transformation to your wedding

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Too often, brides go into their wedding day with a sense of uncertainty about how they will feel. 

They worry about factors like the weather, logistics, and even the behavior of others, leaving their emotional state up to chance. However, we have more control over our feelings than we may realize.

In this episode, we discuss how it’s essential for brides and grooms to take the time to imagine how they want to feel on their wedding day and set that as their goal.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How to focus on the way you want to feel on your wedding day

• Why gratitude is a powerful tool

• Letting go of things you can’t control

• Being present and intentional on your wedding day

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In this episode we are discussing the involvement of mothers and mother-in-laws in wedding planning. 

Tensions can arise when a couple's vision clashes with the desires of their parents, but it’s important to understand their intentions.

I highlight the significance of the community aspect of weddings and the joy that comes from sharing this special day with family and friends. Plus I give advice on striking a balance between expectations and finding a way to give mothers or mother-in-laws a moment in the spotlight without overshadowing the couple.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• The different ways moms want to be involved

• Balancing family expectations vs. personal vision

• Setting boundaries with a difficult mother

• How to handle when a mother oversteps your boundaries

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In this episode, I am answering your questions around burnout.

We discuss tips for managing burnout and involving your fiance in the wedding planning process, prioritizing energizing activities and having open conversations with your partner. 

Ignoring your feelings during your wedding planning process can create distance especially between you and your partner so it’s best to address any issues head on.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Overcoming wedding planning burnout

• Filling your plate with joy

• How to involve your finance in your wedding planning

• The importance of being honest about how you feel

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In this episode, I am answering your questions.

We are discussing how to handle being in the spotlight when you don't enjoy it, particularly for more introverted brides and how to savor the engagement period and ensure it is fully enjoyed.

I emphasize the need to approach wedding planning with intentionality, to embrace each moment, and to appreciate the love and support from family and loved ones.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Overcoming anxiety as an introverted bride

• Enjoying the engagement phase and creating meaningful moments

• Balancing family expectations

• Embracing loved ones’ gestures

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Creating lasting wedding memories is an exhilarating journey.

In today’s episode, I am sharing a story with you about one of my first memories of being at a wedding and how sometimes less is more.

It’s the bride who sets the tone for the entire wedding so it’s important to be in the moments and really present. 

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How to handle when a mishap happens at your wedding

• The importance of energy and reaction

• Building the skill to guard your joy

• Creating space between yourself and negative circumstances

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In this podcast episode, I want to reflect on a recent conversation I had with a client who wasn't completely satisfied with her wedding, even though it went well overall. 

It got me thinking about the importance of self-validation and not relying solely on external validation. I believe it's crucial for individuals to give themselves some space and grace before reflecting on their wedding experience. 

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Exploring the underlying reasons for feeling dissatisfied

• Realizing the need for self-validation

• Processing your feelings and finding closure

• Strategizing to address the core issue

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Do you want to find a way to soothe and center yourself during stressful times? 

In the 100th episode, I’m sharing a simple practice called the loving kindness meditation that can help you do just that.

I encourage you to make the practice your own and use it as a tool to find alignment and grounding in your life, especially during the stress and sacredness of wedding planning. 

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How much you are appreciated for being on this podcast journey

• Giving some love and kindness to yourself

• A meditation to guide you in your wedding planning

• Celebrating 100 episodes!!

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A lot of my work as a bridal coach is to help you deal with the emotional experience of being a bride, and it's often a lot harder than we thought it was gonna be. 

It has a lot to do with the friendship stuff that goes on, especially female friendships around weddings.

In this episode, I’m discussing figuring out why you want them in your wedding, how to be on the same page with expectations, and taking the stress off you and your bridesmaids.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Talking about your expectations of your bridesmaids

• Not reading too much into other’s actions

• The importance of communication

• Surrounding yourself with the right people

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Are you planning a wedding and feeling overwhelmed by all the advice out there? I recently came across a TikTok video that really stood out to me and I wanted to share my thoughts on it with you.

The wedding planner in the video emphasized the importance of having a peaceful, joyful, and flexible attitude, and how it can make a huge difference in the overall wedding experience.

In this episode, I’m discussing setting the right tone and energy for your wedding so you can feel peace and joy.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Setting the tone during your wedding rehearsal

• The ingredients to have an amazing wedding weekend

• Why your attitude plays a big part in your wedding

• How to set expectations for your wedding

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There are so many societal pressures and internalized beliefs surrounding weddings. 

Brides should be focusing on experiencing and enjoying their wedding rather than trying to achieve a certain standard. 

In this episode, I want to remind you to reflect on your own beliefs and to alleviate the pressure and stress that you may feel when planning your wedding.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Your wedding is a test

• How societal pressures and internalized beliefs about weddings can be hard to navigate

• What the metric for a good wedding is

• The most important thing when it comes to your wedding

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I have a confession to make: I was a bridesmaid drop out.

I wanted to offer a different narrative to someone who is in the midst of being a bridesmaid in a wedding.

In today’s episode, I’m telling my story about being in a wedding for a friend from college and how I knew it wasn’t a good idea for me.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Listening to yourself when you feel something is wrong

• How to handle when you feel someone is not marrying the right person

• Why it’s ok to grow apart from people

• Stepping back from being in a wedding can actually be the best decision

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I love a good metaphor. 

It's such a useful way of getting our brain into a little bit more of a creative space, which helps with problem-solving and just being a little lighter and less sort of rigid and dialed in on getting results and getting things perfect the way that we want them, which often happens in the wedding world

In this episode, we are discussing how your wedding is a great way to express yourself and the importance of taking a step back to view your wedding as art.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Viewing your wedding as a piece of art

• Pulling back to look at the entire picture

• Experiencing tension and things not going as planned

• Leaving room for blank space

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Challenges always come up when you are planning a wedding.

Your wedding is such a rich time of both challenge and opportunity to really learn more about yourself and figure out where your edges are that you really wanna lean into.

Where you need help and where you need more insight, and just where you need more peace and compassion.

In this episode, I’m talking about emotional elegance and how it can help you navigate this bridal experience.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• The ability to be intentional

• Showing up how you envision yourself on your wedding day

• Ask yourself, “What am I making this mean?”

• Unlocking your creativity to problem solve

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Have you ever gone to bed angry at your partner?

Most people always advise you never to go to bed angry after getting married, and I disagree with that. Sometimes going to bed when you're angry is the best thing you can do because being tired, or just fatigued itself will totally exacerbate conflict.

In this episode, we discuss how sleeping is the key to resolving conflict and why your brain needs rest to understand your side of the argument fully. 

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Understanding going to bed angry is okay

• How sleep can be the key to resolving conflict

• Knowing your brain needs rest to get out your side of an argument fully 

• Why things can go a lot better when you get sleep

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Do you know you can not do things at your wedding and you don’t need to give an explanation?

There are so many opinions about weddings and what they should and shouldn’t include. One of the most stressful parts of wedding planning can be the marketing and the standards around what you're supposed to do and have at your wedding. 

In this episode, we discuss constraints, being unapologetic, and knowing just how powerful and strong it can be to declare and own those nos for yourself. 

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Why it’s important sometimes to declare what we're not doing

• How powerful and how strong it can be to declare those nos and to own those nos on your wedding day

• Understanding there is always more you could be doing, but saying no anyway

• Knowing you can be unapologetic for things you want or don’t want for your wedding

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How can you deal with the highs and lows that come with getting engaged?

After receiving the ring from your fiance, you get overwhelmed with excitement and are just on a high of good emotions. But you can get a little caught off guard by the feelings of anxiety or fear that come after that high of getting engaged.  

In this episode, we discuss going public with the engagement, fundamental issues, and knowing it’s very normal to feel some discomfort in your relationship as you're starting to look at it with a whole new lens.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How to go through the highs and lows of getting engaged

• Understanding the fundamental issues that can arise after receiving the ring

• Looking at your future with your fiance through a different lens

• Knowing going through different emotions around your engagement is normal

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How you do one thing is how you do everything. 

We seem to think that once our wedding is over our life, friendships, and family dynamics will return to normal. Understanding that the discord and disconnect that we as the bride are feeling around our wedding ceremony may actually point to a much bigger issue.

In this episode, we discuss boundary setting, figuring out the things that bring you joy, and understanding how our life can change after our wedding.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Understanding our family, friends, and life could change after our wedding

• Realizing that the issues around your wedding may be a much bigger issue

• How to set boundaries with family and friends

• Understanding the things that bring you joy around your wedding

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How do you set healthy boundaries with friends and family around your wedding?

There seems to be a big talk on social media about setting boundaries during your wedding.  A lot of people talk about boundaries in this really harsh way. Like setting a boundary, which basically means just keeping people out and I really like to imagine the boundaries much more like picket fences. It is meant to mark your space, your safe haven, and your zone where you are in charge.

In this episode, we discuss setting healthy boundaries during your wedding, your common ground, your limitation, and your yes to set those boundaries.  

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How to set healthy boundaries with family and friends

• The three-part process of setting boundaries during your wedding planning

• The common ground, the limitation, and the yes

• Understanding how to say no and protect your bond with family and friends

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How do you deal with a super stressed-out partner who says they can't wait for the wedding planning to be over?

There are a number of reasons this could happen. It could be because your partner wants to get back into ordinary life where you're not talking about vendors, guest lists, spreadsheets, and all those things that really clutter up your free time. 

Your fiancee could also be feeling this way because there is a disconnection between the two of you during your wedding planning process.

In this episode, we discuss understanding why your fiancee could be feeling this way about wedding planning, instead of feeling insulted and reactive toward your fiancé. 

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How to understand why your fiancé is over the wedding planning process

• Trusting that there's a reason that your partner's over it

• Surrendering to what happens and being available and open to what happens

• Solving your own problems and making your relationships deeper

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What to do when you are planning your wedding and you have a falling out with one of your bridesmaids? 

This topic came up from many conversations with brides and bridesmaids on TikTok. Understanding that sometimes it takes spending a lot of time planning a wedding to realize your friendship was over. 

In this episode, we discuss friendships falling out, understanding the dynamics of your friends have changed, and realizing the friendship isn’t worth your investment of time, energy, effort, or money.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• What to do when you’re having a falling out with a friend while planning your wedding

• Realizing the energy of some friends isn’t something you want around you anymore 

• Understanding the dynamics of a friendship can change

• How to cope with a friendship ending during the process of planning your wedding

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What is going on with weddings and the weight loss pressure brides have?

This is a question I received from someone on my bridal email list. We talk about what is going on with weddings and weight loss and why the pressure is so intense to be so thin on your wedding day.

In this episode, we discuss diet culture, capitalism, and patriarchy. We dive into how they work together when having a mindset of being thin on your wedding day.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How worthiness is tied up in your weight
• The different kinds of diet cultures and how they market to get you to spend your money on being thin for your wedding.
• Taking a pause and really thinking about why you want to be thin on your wedding day
• Deciding to love yourself, accepting your body, and taking care of your body to be able to be at your best on your wedding day.

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There gets to a point in the wedding planning process where you’re just like, what is even happening because there are so many things changing.

You start to notice a conflict between friends or family members during the wedding planning that was not there before and you begin to question, what is the point?

There can be a lot of work, money, and effort and it can just be a lot but remind yourself that your wedding will be worth it.

In this episode, we discuss the bigger picture of why weddings are so wonderful, making real sacrifices, and understanding you will be overwhelmed.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How to handle being overwhelmed while planning your wedding
• Understanding a lot of things will change during the planning process.
• Reminding yourself there is a bigger picture in between the frustration of wedding planning
• How to overcome the frustration and decision-making of your wedding

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How do you process and take in all those gifts and good wishes and people showing up for you, people supporting you, and people celebrating you on your wedding day?

This is a question I got from one of my one-to-one bridal coaching calls. She thought everyone who came to her wedding was doing so much for her, and it was amazing and she appreciated it, but it also felt uncomfortable and it just felt like too much.

In this episode, we discuss feeling a little bit overwhelmed by all of this goodness coming at you, gratitude, and ways to give thanks to the people or gift you on your wedding day.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How to process people celebrating you on your wedding day
• Understanding that it's completely normal to feel a little bit overwhelmed by all of this goodness coming at you on your wedding day
• Taking the time to really show your gratitude towards your guest on your wedding day
• Reminding yourself that you deserve this moment as the bride

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After putting a post on Tik Tok, I realized there are a lot of brides that deal with their parents having feelings, good or bad about them getting married.

We don't want our wedding to fracture or damage or stress or strain our relationship with our parents.

In this episode, we discuss processing our feelings with our parents so we can avoid conflict and war over your wedding details.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How your parents have feelings about your wedding
• Things we can do to avoid conflict with our parents
• How we can sometimes compromise to make everyone happy
• How allowing your parents to have a moment can add more joy to your wedding

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What do you do on the day of your wedding to ensure you don't fall off the cliff emotionally?

In the last few client sessions I’ve had with brides they have all asked, how they can make sure that on their wedding day, they don’t freak out and have a meltdown.

In this episode, we discuss how we plan ahead to invoke a bridal buffer. How we would designate a person that's gonna be your go-to for everything and take the stress off you on your wedding day.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How having a bridal buffer is beneficial for you on your wedding day
• Having a practical way of planning ahead
• Being able to cope with anxiety and excitement.
• Having a designated person to protect the bride emotional

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Wedding drama is usually never what it seems.

Lately, I've been getting a lot of post-wedding phone calls from brides who've already gotten married and they are still processing what just happened.

They are seeking validation for being upset at what happened at their wedding.

In this episode, we discuss how one bride was upset with her wedding photos but what her photos really showed her were the areas of her life that were causing discomfort and pain.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How wedding drama is never what it seems
• Why it was never really about the wedding photos
• How we always need to go deeper into what is really bothering us
• Dealing with friends who aren’t really there for you

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How do you get through your wedding after you have lost a loved one?

This is something a lot of women deal with on their wedding day.

Today I’m talking with Meredith Lynch about going through her wedding after she lost her mother. She left the emotional part out and did what she felt was right for her on her wedding day.

Meredith is a writer and pop culture analyst who lives in Los Angeles.

In this episode, we discuss hiring a wedding planner instead of having bridesmaids, and the experience of planning and having a wedding after a parent passed away.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How to plan your wedding after a parent passes away
• Figuring out how to navigate big wedding plan decisions without your mother by your side
• Staying true to what matters to you on your wedding day
• Hiring a wedding planner to not only help with the execution but to do some of the things that a maid of honor would do

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There has been so much talk about Megan and Harry with the Netflix series that came out.

This had me thinking about how a bride is a disruptor. Adding someone new to your family dynamic can be uncomfortable.

But so many beautiful new, wonderful things come when the status quo is disrupted in this way.

In this episode, I discuss how being the disruptor can be a good thing even though it’s also uncomfortable and can cause some issues.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How Megan Markle was a disruptor for the royal family
• Why your wedding can have a lasting effect on relationships
• Looking at being a disruptor in a different way
• Focusing on the assets of welcoming someone new to your family

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Wondering how to deal with your bachelorette part when you have different friend groups?

This is a question I got from one of my one-to-one bridal coaching calls. The bride originally hadn't invited one group of friends simply because she just thought it would be more complicated. This actually caused more problems by not inviting them.

In this episode, we discuss blending two friend groups, surrendering, and setting expectations when it comes to your bachelorette party.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How to blend two friend groups for your bachelorette party
• Surrendering to the fact that you can control your experience without controlling other people's behavior
• Stepping back and let people be who they're gonna be
• How you can choose to have the experience that you wanna have

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There are two people that mess you up in your bridal moment- your past and your future.

With all of the constraints, pressures, and realities of actually bringing these wedding ideas into real life, it can cause such friction that you then think that conflict means you're doing something wrong.

In this episode, we discuss giving yourself grace for both your past and future self and knowing you made the best decision at this moment.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How focusing on the past can make it hard to move forward
• Accepting that things are different now
• Letting go of the anxiety of the future
• Showing love and compassion for yourself

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There are just so many details, and when you really think about a wedding. If the whole idea is just two people getting married, besides that, everything else is just details.

We want these details to mean something. We want them to show us who we are. We want it to be this curated image of our best selves and truly show our taste level and our intention and style and depth.

In this episode, I discuss how to let all the little details of your wedding be messy and imperfect.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• What is detail drama
• Questions to ask yourself before making a decision
• Giving yourself grace
• How to let things be messy

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Gratitude is the key to your whole wedding experience. I know it can be really trite or obvious or too basic. But it’s fundamental.

When you are frazzled and overwhelmed and anxious or feeling not enough and needy or insecure I need you to ask yourself, am I grateful?

In this episode, I discuss how gratitude can change your relationship, health, and self-esteem.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How having a gratitude practice can save you
• Some things you can do to get back to gratitude
• The seven things that gratitude actually does in your life
• How to make gratitude easy

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I want to give you a really simple reminder that is key for your wedding but also for your life and it’s a phrase I come back to time and time again and it’s, hold two things.

It’s about the duality of life. There are always opposing things happening at the same time.

Listen in as I discuss, the importance of holding two things, how holding two things can make your wedding day better, and the feeling you will get by holding two things.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Where the concept for hold two things came from (1:24)
• How your wedding doesn’t have to be one thing or another (2:27)
• Examples of how to hold two things (3:41)
• The benefits of holding two things (5:08)

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You've got your holiday traditions and what you envision. Then you've got what you wanna do as a couple. Then there are your in-laws and what they're expecting and hoping for.

It can get to be a lot.

Then you're also carrying with you all of the memories and the history of all of those holidays from your past. For some people, those are all really good memories but for a lot of people, those can be also really a mixed bag.

this episode, we discuss the dynamics that come up during the holidays and I give you my five tips for managing family gatherings with your fiancé or your new partner.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• There’s no such thing as a perfect holiday
• The importance of communication during the holidays
• Doing the mental and emotional pre-work
• Making time for yourself to enjoy the holidays

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Your wedding is calling you to wake up in some way.

It’s a powerful time to awaken to what’s going on for you. For some people, it's a wake-up call to art, beauty, and ceremony.

To others, it's a wake-up call to old patterns that don’t serve them anymore

In this episode, I’m discussing how your wedding can open your eyes to so many possibilities and life-changing events.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• How wedding planning can open your eyes
• Letting go of old patterns
• The importance of listening to yourself
• How your wedding can change your relationships

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