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Self-Care Or Self Absorbed?
Do you know when it is time to nurture yourself?

With Mother’s Day around the corner, I find myself sitting peacefully and quietly, thinking of two things-

Sure, there is a societal discussion about which self-care is all the rage within pop culture. However, when you’re in the throes of stress, the knowledge of where exactly to turn for guidance is substantially lacking.

The Best Method To Focus At Work

As a self-employed fempreneur, I regularly get asked “How do you get it all done?”

The answer is easy and complicated — I do one thing at a time. The secret is to know how to be efficient and focus your time well.

As a former trained detective and auditor, I’ve had systems ingrained into my work ethic for decades. But here’s the thing, it’s so very easy to become a slave to the ‘to-do’ list.

Whilst it’s great to capture everything you need to do. But if you become overwhelmed with everything on the list, that to-do list can be the single source that constantly activates your anxiety. This is when your focus gets flushed down the toilet.

The other thing about me is I hate to faff about. I like to tick things off the list, that feels very satisfying. I’m a hard worker with a side dish of defiance — I don’t like to be held hostage to a list of things that I must do.

Where possible, I batch specific processes (especially admin) that can be rinsed and repeated.

And I do all of these things using the Pomodoro method.

What is the cost of not walking away from your to-do list?

How many times have you caught yourself pushing, over-committing yourself and then forcing yourself to achieve? There will come a time when you will feel safe enough to pause, even though your to-do list isn’t finished. I promise, but it does take a little effort on your part in order to break the habit that you need to do it all — today.

What To Do When It's All Too Hard

We've all experienced the reality check of a hard or difficult moment. We're familiar with the bitch slap sensation. You wouldn't be human if you haven't experienced this.

When hard shows up in your life, it can feel and look like overwhelm, stuck or lost. You find yourself feeling reactive. There's very little capacity to thrive in this situation. 

Here's eight ways to respond when the survival reaction shows up!

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In this episode, Ilana and I have a candid conversation about the expectations we place on ourselves during the time of conception, pregnancy, child birth and the fourth trimester.  

I am fortunate enough to interview Ilana about her own entrance into motherhood and there's some gems for all listeners in terms of permission, simple coaching questions you can ask yourself and keep your nervous system calm!  

Guest Speaker - Ilana Kosakiewicz is a leading Australian kinesiologist, women’s wellbeing mentor, and yoga and meditation teacher. 

She is an entrepreneur with a past life as a CPA accountant in the corporate world.  Ilana’s own health journey with chronic fatigue, irregular cycles and auto-immune disease taught her that slowing down, finding moments of stillness, and listening to the body’s intuition are not just important – they are essential.   

Ilana is passionate about teaching women how to optimise their energy, step into their power and cyclical nature. She assists women to live in alignment and flow by learning to structure their weeks around their energy levels and listening to their bodies.  She also works with children (& some men) to assist in shifting their essence, energy and mindset so they can live authentic, content and happy lives.  Originally from Gippsland Australia, Ilana now lives in bayside Melbourne. 

She spends her days with clients, mentoring, facilitating workplace workshops, teaching yoga and meditation, running retreats, writing, cooking in her kitchen and spending as much time at the beach as she can.  

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In today's episode, I talk about the impact of making your container too small. I'm not talking skinny jeans. I'm talking about making yourself small, in order to fit in.

Sometimes you need a wakeup call, to give yourself permission to cram as much life as possible into every single day. 

I don't recommend waiting for a slap to the face! 

I challenge you to ask yourself “what would life be like if you could live your dreams?“ 

And if you’re going to deep dive into this, where do you need to give yourself permission to live that dream? 

Watch this video, listen to the podcast, or read the blog for 10 tips to grant yourself permission to live your best life.

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I was working with a coaching client the other day who is concerned about the number of jobs that now appear on their resume in a short period of time.

We deep dived into this topic and landed in a space of "what actually makes you happy?"

There were the obvious answers ... "oh my partner, my pet, my team sport etc".

Of course, as a coach I called the client out on this response and identified that was a safe answer. I asked them again, "what do you experience when you are happy?"

But when I asked how that felt, the client drew blank. Their aha moment was that they are living in FUTURE TIME and never investing in the moment of right now - the present.

We talked about this a little bit and the client realised they were not making any effort or investment into measuring what actually feels good.

The consequence of not connecting with all the feels, is they migrate from experience to experience, always in search of the next quick fix, but never banking the feel good credits into their happiness account (ie their heart).

When you allow yourself to be present, and immerse into the experience of now, everything becomes an opportunity for happiness, joy and gratitude.

Even the tiny weeny mundane boring shit suddenly becomes interesting. This is because you're focused on how you feel as you smash out the tasks and become more productive.

It's a fact that when you work in your head, you think too much. You're not as productive or focused. Your resilience isn't as strong.

So often I hear people reference how "hard" it is to self care and look after themselves. This saddens me deeply, because this language tells me this person is stuck in their survival program. This isn't living, it's just existing.

Good news! There is so much positive stuff you can do to shift out of this space and unravel your shizzle!!! 

My hope is there is something in this episode that ignites your heart spark into action and reframe back into a space of rest and digest!

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This is the interview I did with Natasha Berta (Connected Marketing).

We chatted about:

I hope you enjoy and have a giggle with us 🙂

Welcome to the latest podcast episode 5 Foundations of Resilience which explores more of our humanness!

This episode is my interview with Amy Armstrong. We talk about how stress presents in our respective clinics.

So often, our western lives are so busy juggling all the balls that we don't even realise the depthof how stressed we actually are!

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This episode introduces you to the concept of your inner child, which holds an emotional memory of all of your experiences. Often, the child presents you with the emotional wound that is in need of healing - it's called feeling triggered.

Enjoy this episode that I recorded in the bath of how you can easily connect with your inner child and appease all the overwhelming feelings.

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In this episode I explore some tips on how to find and use your magic to manifest the life you want using affirmations, afformations and meditation!

In today's shorter style episode I explore how to do battle when overwhelm kicks at your door.

Have you ever had a day where you feel too many feels? So many feels in fact that your head or heart may explode? There are times it feels your chest may explode? Does it feel like your body has gone splat against a brick wall and you’ve slid to the floor like a cartoon character?

Have you ever experienced feelings and thoughts are so intense that they consume all of you and it can feel like you are drowning down into yourself? Fear begins to arise because you can't get a moment's peace to get calm and allow the rational to return.

Enjoy this episode's tips on how to give overwhelm the old heave ho!

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In this episode, I’m exploring self reflection as a healthy self development tool that we can all do.

I have multiple conversations in clinic every week with clients who have moments where you feel stuck? Perhaps this only lasts for a couple of hours or worse several days or extends out to weeks and gulp maybe months?

We talk about the need for honesty with self in order to seek a deeper understanding of that close and very personal relationship called ‘me’ or ‘self’.

Diving deep into your relationship with yourself can support you to overcome sub conscious habits that restrict or inhibit you to live your best life.

Self reflection might just be the thing you’re looking for.

It’s not an activity to beat yourself up, nor is it designed to instigate shame, blame or guilt.

Self Reflection is defined as a time to dig deeper into yourself. For example for you to return to your heart space and perceive what worked well or what didn't?

It's a process of observation of yourself, your feelings, thoughts and actions. It's a process that requires being honest with yourself and should not ignite shame, blame, or guilt.

Self Reflection requires a couple of things in order to achieve a positive outcome from the activity. Afterall, by connecting into your heart space, you are accessing your innate wisdom. You are activating your intuition and perception of life from a space of love.

Exploration of self perception incorporates six attributes which include:

· Self-confidence - a feeling of trust of your own abilities, qualities and judgement

· Self-image - how you see your abilities, appearance and personability

· Self-Worth - sense of your own worth or value as a person

· Self-Respect - pride & confidence in yourself

· Self-Belief - the belief that you can do things well

· Self-Esteem - confidence in your worth & abilities

Self reflection is a personal growth tool which allows you to pause and determine how well you're travelling your path.

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In this episode I am deconstructing the internal neurological, emotional and mental programs that contribute to us feeling stuck, life is hard or worse feeling lost.

It’s one thing to have a vision of your dream life. Its an entire another thing to change yourself to get the dream to become real.

Why is change hard?

As human beings we develop a series of values and beliefs of how life should be. We emotionally invest in these beliefs which support us to feel that something is good or bad. This means we are rooted within our belief system. These beliefs are what drive our motivation, intention and willingness for life.

This is great unless your belief system is challenged in some way or stressed. This is the space where fear can arise. And it’s not just one that can pop up. Stress in the belief system can interchanging graphics of fears such as fear of change, fear of rejection, fear to be vulnerable, fear of the future, fear of uncertainty, fear of being unworthy or not good enough, fear of judgement, even fear of becoming unwell.

It's human nature to want to avoid fear because it's uncomfortable and not something we actively choose to feel in terms of being thinking or feeling negative. What we don't realise is that the more we avoid the greater the sabotage pattern we create. Enjoy today's episode of why change is hard.

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I’m getting a lot of calls and messages lately, from clients who have avoided their stuff for months if not years. They are distressed and desperate for an immediate change of circumstances. Their stuff is swallowing them whole.

Let’s be clear, we ALL have stuff — you know, that shit we all deal with. The stuff that includes challenges so negative that trip us up and cause us to splat on our face.

We’ve all got stuff in our lives to deal with. Never delude yourself that you don’t, because you do. No one is excluded from learning lessons. No one.

In my experience though, it’s how well we are willing to explore our stuff that determines what we learn about ourselves. Our willingness regarding how quickly we can dig around and investigate our stuff, and how we evolve from the lessons that need to be learnt actually drive the outcome of who we are today and what we become tomorrow.

Deep right? But knowing this doesn’t solve the discomfort you may be sitting in right now.

In fact, if you have been avoiding taking responsibility for your stuff for a while it is highly likely that lately you have felt trapped or burdened in life. The world is changing and many of us are struggling to figure out who we are and where we now fit?

Welcome to the latest episode of “I am Changing” podcast. I’m your host Karen Humphries and I’m a Change Facilitator.

In today’s podcast episode I am delighted to be joined by the amazing Kathy Ashton who is the founder of Flourish Live Naturally.

Kathy is a published author, Medicinal Nutritionist, key note speaker, and educator.

Kathy’s products include:

Kathy’s industry journey has been extensive working with many integrated doctors before going out on her own some 7 years ago.

Kathy’s expertise includes

In this episode Kathy and I discuss:

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Today’s episode I’m going to discuss the need to tune up your joy seeker skills to reframe your mindset as we start re-emerging back into the world after lockdown.

This is absolutely a huge founding skill we use with coaching Law of Attraction tools. I use these techniques on a daily basis to boost motivation, to activate change in my life and to raise my physical and vibrational energie.

Today’s episode I’m going to share 26 tips for shifting gears to tune up my mindset in order to become a joy seeker. Because by becoming a joy seeker I Build Up Credits In my Happiness Account!!!!

I've lived a life full of a variety of human experiences. Some have been awesome and some have been downright god awful. I understand and recognise the need and importance of Trauma Informed Care. In this episode Debbie Rossi and I discuss how I implement Trauma Informed Care into practice, both in a clinical environment as well as a group setting.

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In today’s podcast episode I am delighted to be joined by the amazing Robbi Zeck of Robbi Zeck Consulting. I’ve invited Robbi to explore her passion and talk to us about aromatic heartwork. 

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In today’s podcast episode I am delighted to be joined by the amazing Lee Mackay! Lee is a mum of 4, published author and certified Law of Attraction Coach and she’s been using these amazing principles to manifest abundance in her life for nearly thirty years. Lee is currently delivering regular episodes in her podcast called ‘Law of Attraction with Lee’.

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So often our life is so fast paced that we lose sight of what stress actually looks and feels like emotionally, mentally, and physically.

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Thanks for joining us in a collective heart space in this episode where we talk about reconnecting with ourselves using intuitive meditation!

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Thanks for joining Erin Miller and I in a collective heart space in this episode where we explore how we to embrace our human experience, by releasing past conditioning, so we can be in the present and create the future we desire.

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In today’s episode I’m going to explore How To Stop Making Excuses And Start Living Your Best Life. In other words I’m going to explore How you can Take Charge of Your Stuff!!!

This pandemic is causing a lot of trauma.

I’m hearing a lot of negative based mindset language going on. Don’t get me wrong, for some this is a really tough situation with loss of employment, stuck in domestic violence, home-schooling whilst trying to work.

Yes it’s different and at times very difficult to comprehend. I hear a lot of I can’t do much more of this. I can’t do that. I’m stuck inside. I feel alone.

We’re hearing a lot of war language in the media and by our politicians which is contributing to a societal stress.

And yet, I’ve never seen so many families out walking their pets in my life in the nearby park.

How you perceive these current global circumstances is a mindset choice.

Show Notes

Warning some explicit language used during this episode.

Thanks for joining me for my interview with guest Jane McKay. I’ve invited Jane today to explore her passion and some of the ways in which she maintains motivation and shows up consistently to live her best life whilst working with fempreneurs.

Hope you enjoy the connection with our vibe and gain an understanding of our shared mindset passion.

In today’s episode I’m going to talk about becoming your own parent and introduce 7 easy practices of self-worship, in order to live your best life.

We need to go to the beginning of our life when we are born as an innocent baby who loves ourself unconditionally. And we grow and begin to have experiences.

A child will nearly always run back to its mother when they are distressed, have a boo-boo, or simply in need of comfort. As we become teenagers we drift steps away from mother as our confidence and independence grow. We stretch out of the family unit a branch out onto our own journey path. Yet we are still in need of nurture and mothering on a fundamentally basic human level.

As adults, regardless of whether we maintain a relationship with our biological mother, we remain in need of receipt of the same depth of loving nurture throughout life. Who better to provide that nurture to you than yourself?

After all, you know yourself better than anyone else — right? And yet, we so quickly and easily invest ourself, and our energy into the drama of others, that we often lose sight of when and how to nuture our own needs.

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I Am Changing Podcast Show Notes

I get asked a lot about my connection with the universe, spirit - call it what you will. This connection guides me in all facets of life. But sometimes I find it a little challenging to articulate clearly how it all works. So in this episode I've invited a special guest - Kerryn Slater (see details below). together we talk about conversations with spirit!

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Thanks for joining us in a collective heart space in this episode where we introduce brain integration and learning challenges. In today’s podcast episode I am delighted to be joined by the amazing Jacque Mooney of Bayside Learning Enhancement & Simply the Brain Kinesiology.

I invited Jacque to join me to discuss the topic of challenges with learning. I hope you enjoy this introduction into brain integration and how it affects us all!

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Today's Mindset Minutes includes tips during lockdown to manage working from home! Rather than a full podcast episode this is simply a quickie if you're time poor and just want the good guts!

If you're struggling with the world right now, remember to breathe. Remind yourself that's its not our normal routine to work from home - our safe space.  Remind yourself that "in this moment I'm ok".

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Thank you in advance for sharing this podcast with your own change tribe. I hope it generates a fire of loving support and proactive discussion, of how you can take charge of your journey steps through life regardless of the challenges that experience has brought you.

This 'I am Changing' Podcast is a reminder that we can all choose to change and bloom from within.

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Today's Mindset Minute is a reminder to you that it's ok to not be ok. Rather than a full podcast episode this is simply a quickie if you're time poor and just want the good guts!

If you're struggling with the world right now, remember to breathe. Remind yourself in this moment that whatever has pushed your buttons isn't forever. But if you can't pull yourself out of the funk, perhaps the first strategy could be to call someone and talk about it.

There are daily inspirational posts on my social pages – simply search for me using the links in the show notes below. To grow my podcast audience, it helps me immensely if you could hit the ‘follow’ button and I’d be so grateful.

Thank you in advance for sharing this podcast with your own change tribe. I hope it generates a fire of loving support and proactive discussion, of how you can take charge of your journey steps through life regardless of the challenges that experience has brought you.

This 'I am Changing' Podcast is a reminder that we can all choose to change and bloom from within.

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With the imminent return of Victoria's 6th lockdown this seems right to release episode ahead of schedule!

Happy listening and stay safe physically, mentally and emotionally xxx

Thanks for joining me for Episode One – The Big Reveal! I believe it’s important for you to get to know me a little more, so that you can connect with my vibe and gain an understanding of my passion for change.

What is our Shadow Self?

I’m a firm believer that we all have a shadow within us. Let me clarify that further by stating that I believe we are made of light and dark. And not in terms of good and evil, but in terms of what we acknowledge in terms of our strengths, and what we are yet to learn along our journey path.

Our light could be comprehended as the stuff of our behaviours and patterns that we have owned and taken responsibility for. And our darkness could be said to reflect those aspects of self which are still driven by fear or negative self.

When we undertake a spiritual journey, and commence exploring and owning our lessons, we uncover our strengths and internal resources. We build upon our internal resilience by utilising these resources to explore more facets of why we observe and respond, as opposed to react and invest in drama.

When we observe our feelings and responses, we are connected to our light. Our strength if you will.  For when we embrace our true strengths of our spirit, our hearts and smiles shine brightly. When we embrace our heart centred space with loving actions for self and others, our light shines brightly.

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