Beyond a Survivor with Karen MessinaNov 26, 2023
213. Dopamine and Pleasure
Let’s start using our brain to our advantage.
212. How can you Grow into the new you?
You can grow from here into the new you, creating the new life you so deserve.
It is foreign territory, thinking about yourself for a change, right?
Where do you begin? Let's talk about it.
211. The Healing Process
On my last episode we talked a lot about our trauma and where it exists in our bodies and who created the emotional trauma in the first place and just all things trauma.
What we really should be focusing on is the healing process.
210. Where are you holding emotional Trauma?
We very often don’t even realize that we are holding trauma in our body and that we invalidate it. Let's unpack this.
209. Is what you said what you really meant? Or did you mean what you said?
Communication seems to be a big issue for a lot of people everywhere, but many people don’t even realize most of their problems stem from their lack of communication. Let's talk about it!
208. Last episode about "what I have heard …."
I am sharing quotes and comments and things I've heard with all of you, bringing insights to all of them. Enjoy.
207. Cont'd "Things I've Heard"
Let's keep talking about things I've heard, things you have asked and things that matter.
206. Things I've heard.....
I have heard phrases, quotes and thoughts from other people and we need to unpack them. This will likely be a 2 part series. Check it out.
205. You then and Now
How do you relate to experiences now as opposed to how you related to them when you were younger or in your past?
204. Do you feel safe in your relationship?
A quick word: "Safety” is the most important aspect of relationships that work. Let's talk about it.
203. HAVING DRIVE AND DETERMINATION
I was so inspired by one of our Survivor Stories posted on the Living Free From Fear website, that I just wanted to share some quick words of inspiration.
202. HELPING the Hopeless and Helpless mindset
You have very valid reasons for feeling the way you do. Some things have happened in your life to create those feelings. They are real and can’t be brushed under the rug. But we are going to un pack all of this in this episode. Take a listen
201. What are you left with after leaving the abusive relationship
I heard a woman talking to a friend about what she was left with now that she is out of the relationship and on her own. Take a listen.
200. Karen Tells her Story
Hello, We have some "prompting questions" that we ask women when they are telling their survivor stories on the Living Free From Fear website. I decided to ask and answer those questions, so that I could see how it felt to share my story in this way. Take a listen.
199. Change, Challenge and Anxiety
Do you want to change? Change is scary
Does it feel like a challenge? Challenge is hard
Are you filled with anxiety? You thinking about something in the future that sets off an alarm inside you.
Oh yes, we are going to unpack all of this, take a listen.
Worrying excessively can have the same effect on your body as chronic stress, triggering the fight-or-flight response and releasing stress hormones like cortisol. Chronic stress or worry has been shown to contribute to serious health issues, such as digestive problems, heart disease and suppression of the immune system. Let's talk about it.
197. The Silent Treatment is NOT OK
Don’t let whatever happened to you in your past control and dictate your future. You could lose good relationships because you are letting something that happened long ago, that you never dealt with, run your life, your emotions and your future. Let's unpack this.
196. Have you heard the term “Self Fulfilling Prophecy”
Prophecy means a prediction. So if you keep telling yourself that something won’t work or something will happen again, that you don’t want to happen, you will stay in your self fulfilling prophecy phase, which equals being stuck. Lets dive in.
195. THE THREE "Fs"
WHAT IS HAPPENING IN YOUR LIFE?
Well, you have plans, goals, dreams but something is stopping you.
Have you identified what that thing is? Is it your family, friends or your fears.
I call them the 3 Fs. Let's unpack this.
194. ARE YOU LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE?
We talk a lot about our problems and pain and unhappiness.
But how often do you talk about all the good in your life? Let's get into it.
193. IS YOUR BLENDED FAMILY RUINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
In relationships there is SAFETY AND FEAR and then add in our PAST EMOTIONAL WOUNDS SAFETY
DO YOU feel safe enough with your partner to express how you feel without criticism or backlash? Let's talk about it.
192. Are you afraid of the truth?
We all do it to avoid things we don't want to do, facts that may make us feel bad, or information that challenges our assumptions about ourselves. Let's unpack this.
191. Use your failures as A guide to YOUR success
Trying and failing - let’s brake this down - we need to look at why something failed. It isn’t a matter of how hard you tried but what you tried. And how you failed. Let's talk about it.
190. Why do I compare my lost love to EVERYONE else?
Did you lose the love of your life? Do you compare everyone you are with to that person? Let's unpack that.
189. How to Triumph over Trauma
bet you want to know how that happens. How do I help you to triumph over trauma.
My goal in life is to help you not feel bad or sad or defeated.
Let's break it down.
188. Having PURPOSE: Are you making a living or making a life?
Having Purpose in your life is so important.
I think most people think PURPOSE is something that it is not.
Some people think that purpose is beyond them or just for high achievers. Let's unpack this.
187. The WHY and WHAT of holding a GRUDGE
Holding a grudge is when you harbor anger, bitterness, resentment or other negative feelings long after someone has done something to hurt you.
Let’s think about this...... I help you sort this all out. Take a listen.
186. YOU ARE MORE POWERFUL THAN YOU KNOW.
You are stronger than you think!
Power and Control is at the center of it all
- Sense of self
- Direction in life
Let's talk about it. You got this!
185. Feelings of Loss in ALL Forms and Grief
I want you to understand that the grieving process is the same in many different scenarios and it must happen in order for you to heal and move on. Take a listen.
184. is Anxiety your Identity?
You are in control of your identity. What are you choosing it to be?
183. Why don't people understand what I went through?
I tell my story of wanting everyone to understand how awful I feel...... and how to move past it.
182. Declutter your Home and Declutter your Life
Laura McKenney is a single mom of two young boys and the owner of Polished Home Organizing.
I can't wait for you to hear her story of success, happiness and joy.
Finding your purpose in life really does heal past emotional wounds. Laura is a perfect example of that. Take a listen.
181. Are you fueling your PAST PAIN and making it your IDENTITY?
We fuel our pain by hanging on to what hurt us. By pulling it back into our lives over and over. It happens without really realizing it is happening.
In this episode, we bust through all the garbage and get serious on how to move past it all! Take a listen.
180. Let Your Past Fuel your Future
Don't let your failures be your excuse to start over.
179. Your nervous system is “SHOW NOT TELL” Mastin Kipp
It is EXPERIENCES that heal us, not just thoughts or a thought process. Let's talk about "DISCONFIRMING" experiences. Take a listen.
178. Trauma wounds versus trauma responses. What is the difference?
Moving to the next level in your life. Are you struggling with this? Let me show you how to get unstuck and move to the next space in your life. Enjoy!
177. USING MY PAST TO FUEL MY SUCCESS with Caroline Markel Hammond
We are talking about Success stories in 2023 and this is a good one. You are not going to want to miss Caroline's beautiful success story. Enjoy!
Here is how to reach Caroline:
176. Seeking out and finding evidence to support your Experiences
Are you seeking out and trying to find evidence to support your "negative" or "positive" thoughts? How is that effecting your Experiences. Let's unpack that.
175. Is Your Story a Success Story?
174. Tell your Story Survivor Story with Theresa Schmidtman
This was our kickoff story to the "Tell Your Story and be Set Free" project with the Living Free From Fear Movement. Enjoy!
173. How to Move From Your Past into your Success Story with Dr. Alex Swenson-Ridley
So as many of you know, I have been reaching out to women who want to tell their Success Story. We talk a lot about survivor stories but this year we will talking about success stories. As we all know, if you are a survivor there is a success story to follow.
A little quickie thought
My feelings on innocent little children and how the world around them shapes them.
172. Survivor Story with Jennifer Herrmeyer
The Living Free From Fear Movement is in the Tell Your Story and Be Set Free phase so I am sharing one of those story with you today.
You can also go to livingfreefromfear.com to watch this and the other videos. Enjoy.
171. Anxiety is just pretending to be necessary
This year we will be talking about actually making a difference in your life and actually taking action, rather than thinking about taking action.
170. Happy New Year!! Let's make it that. Take control of your life.......
The new year will be what you make it!! Let's do it together and put a plan in place for your successful future. It is time to take control and see your future clearly.
169. Survivor Story #2 JaneA Kelley - from the Living Free From Fear Movement
The International Women's Movement that I am the Founder of "Living Free From Fear" is in the the Tell Your Story phase. We are sharing a Survivor Story that we are posting on our website at livingfreefromfear.com We are encouraging women to tell their story to feel liberated and free from the hold that their past may have over them. Take a listen.
168. Merry Christmas - Let's Meditate through Stress
Some tips on how to take back your stress and manage it.
Are you stressing out about the holidays? Quick thought.
167. What I love about Harry and Meghan
If you have not seen the 6 episode Netlix series with Harry and Meghan, please watch it. It will shed some light on many unanswered questions and how this relates to YOUR life.
166. "How" do you resolve your past?
“Until you resolve your past, your future success won't be sustainable. Coaching helps you grow into a bigger future.