Beyond a Survivor with Karen Messina

Let’s start using our brain to our advantage.

You can grow from here into the new you, creating the new life you so deserve.

It is foreign territory, thinking about yourself for a change, right?

Where do you begin? Let's talk about it.

On my last episode we talked a lot about our trauma and where it exists in our bodies and who created the emotional trauma in the first place and just all things trauma.

What we really should be focusing on is the healing process.

We very often don’t even realize that we are holding trauma in our body and that we invalidate it. Let's unpack this.

Communication seems to be a big issue for a lot of people everywhere, but many people don’t even realize most of their problems stem from their lack of communication. Let's talk about it!

I am sharing quotes and comments and things I've heard with all of you, bringing insights to all of them. Enjoy.

Let's keep talking about things I've heard, things you have asked and things that matter.

I have heard phrases, quotes and thoughts from other people and we need to unpack them. This will likely be a 2 part series. Check it out.

How do you relate to experiences now as opposed to how you related to them when you were younger or in your past?

A quick word: "Safety” is the most important aspect of relationships that work. Let's talk about it.

I was so inspired by one of our Survivor Stories posted on the Living Free From Fear website, that I just wanted to share some quick words of inspiration.

You have very valid reasons for feeling the way you do.  Some things have happened in your life to create those feelings.  They are real and can’t be brushed under the rug. But we are going to un pack all of this in this episode. Take a listen

I heard a woman talking to a friend about what she was left with now that she is out of the relationship and on her own.  Take a listen.

Hello, We have some "prompting questions" that we ask women when they are telling their survivor stories on the Living Free From Fear website. I decided to ask and answer those questions, so that I could see how it felt to share my story in this way. Take a listen.

Do you want to change?  Change is scary

Does it feel like a challenge? Challenge is hard

Are you filled with anxiety?  You thinking about something in the future that sets off an alarm inside you.

Oh yes, we are going to unpack all of this, take a listen.

Worrying excessively can have the same effect on your body as chronic stress, triggering the fight-or-flight response and releasing stress hormones like cortisol. Chronic stress or worry has been shown to contribute to serious health issues, such as digestive problems, heart disease and suppression of the immune system. Let's talk about it.

Don’t let whatever happened to you in your past control and dictate your future.  You could lose good relationships because you are letting something that happened long ago, that you never dealt with, run your life, your emotions and your future. Let's unpack this.

Prophecy means a prediction.  So if you keep telling yourself that something won’t work or something will happen again, that you don’t want to happen, you will stay in your self fulfilling prophecy phase, which equals being stuck. Lets dive in.

WHAT IS HAPPENING IN YOUR LIFE?

Well, you have plans, goals, dreams but something is stopping you.  

Have you identified what that thing is?  Is it your family, friends or your fears.

I call them the 3 Fs. Let's unpack this.

We talk a lot about our problems and pain and unhappiness.

But how often do you talk about all the good in your life? Let's get into it.

In relationships there is SAFETY AND FEAR and then add in our PAST EMOTIONAL WOUNDS SAFETY

DO YOU feel safe enough with your partner to express how you feel without criticism or backlash? Let's talk about it.

We all do it to avoid things we don't want to do, facts that may make us feel bad, or information that challenges our assumptions about ourselves. Let's unpack this.

Trying and failing - let’s brake this down - we need to look at why something failed.  It isn’t a matter of how hard you tried but what you tried.  And how you failed. Let's talk about it.

Did you lose the love of your life? Do you compare everyone you are with to that person? Let's unpack that.

 bet you want to know how that happens.  How do I help you to triumph over trauma.

My goal in life is to help you not feel bad or sad or defeated.  

Let's break it down.

Having Purpose in your life is so important.

I think most people think PURPOSE is something that it is not.

Some people think that purpose is beyond them or just for high achievers. Let's unpack this.

Holding a grudge is when you harbor anger, bitterness, resentment or other negative feelings long after someone has done something to hurt you.

Let’s think about this...... I help you sort this all out. Take a listen.

You are stronger than you think!

Power and Control is at the center of it all

• Sense of self
• Direction in life
• Independence

Let's talk about it. You got this!

I want you to understand that the grieving process is the same in many different scenarios and it must happen in order for you to heal and move on. Take a listen.

You are in control of your identity. What are you choosing it to be?

I tell my story of wanting everyone to understand how awful I feel...... and how to move past it.

Laura McKenney is a single mom of two young boys and the owner of Polished Home Organizing. 

I can't wait for you to hear her story of success, happiness and joy.

Finding your purpose in life really does heal past emotional wounds. Laura is a perfect example of that. Take a listen.

We fuel our pain by hanging on to what hurt us. By pulling it back into our lives over and over. It happens without really realizing it is happening.  

In this episode, we bust through all the garbage and get serious on how to move past it all! Take a listen.

Don't let your failures be your excuse to start over.

It is EXPERIENCES that heal us, not just thoughts or a thought process.  Let's talk about "DISCONFIRMING" experiences.  Take a listen.

Moving to the next level in your life.  Are you struggling with this?  Let me show you how to get unstuck and move to the next space in your life.  Enjoy!

Are you seeking out and trying to find evidence to support your "negative" or "positive" thoughts?  How is that effecting your Experiences.  Let's unpack that.

This was our kickoff story to the "Tell Your Story and be Set Free" project with the Living Free From Fear Movement. Enjoy!

So as many of you know, I have been reaching out to women who want to tell their Success Story. We talk a lot about survivor stories but this year we will talking about success stories. As we all know, if you are a survivor there is a success story to follow.

My feelings on innocent little children and how the world around them shapes them.

The Living Free From Fear Movement is in the Tell Your Story and Be Set Free phase so I am sharing one of those story with you today.  

You can also go to livingfreefromfear.com to watch this and the other videos.  Enjoy.

This year we will be talking about actually making a difference in your life and actually taking action, rather than thinking about taking action.

The new year will be what you make it!!   Let's do it together and put a plan in place for your successful future.  It is time to take control and see your future clearly.

The International Women's Movement that I am the Founder of "Living Free From Fear" is in the the Tell Your Story phase.  We are sharing a Survivor Story that we are posting on our website at livingfreefromfear.com    We are encouraging women to tell their story to feel liberated and free from the hold that their past may have over them.   Take a listen.

Some tips on how to take back your stress and manage it.

If you have not seen the 6 episode Netlix series with Harry and Meghan, please watch it.  It will shed some light on many unanswered questions and how this relates to YOUR life.

“Until you resolve your past, your future success won't be sustainable. Coaching helps you grow into a bigger future.