Creating Connection: Move Eat, Sleep, Connect

What is fierce self-care for therapists? Fierce self-care is committed, passionate, bold and dynamic. The process of taking charge of your mental and physical health is not set and forget. It matters, because you matter. Your feelings, your health and welbeing, your relationships and your business. This podcast touches on what fierce self-care looks like in the domains of connection, meaning, body, mind and heart. ----

Transitions - The space that exists between work and personal life is a fluid space.

This no mans land is valuable territory, where close attention can clarify what really matters to you, and what just isn't working at home and/or work. This episodes also provides a couple of brief suggestions about how to effectively manage transitions so that you can be more present in each part of your life.

Anxiety, depression, bullying and belonging: why I became a micro business owner.  

Being a child with anxiety and depression is difficult, as is parenting a child with anxiety and depression.

Early intervention and teaching positive psychology strategies to help manage mental health is crucial.

My businesses Positive Young Minds and Private Practice Sustainability are driven by my mission to teach positive mental health skills as early as possible - in life and in private practice.  At the heart of this is increasing connection and belonging and reducing isolation.  

Why is it so hard to change my habits?

One of the main reasons it's so hard to change your habits is the amount of myths circulating about habit change.    

The five myths this video busts about habit change are:   

1. It takes 21 days to make a habit. Nope.  It can take up to a year to create a new habit. Depends on the habit and on your individual circumstances  

2. You are getting rid of your old habits. Nope  You don’t get rid of old patterns of behaviour, they’re there under the surface. waiting to be reactivated, particularly when you are under stress. What you are doing is creating new habits, with different neural pathways. Over time they will strengthen and become your go to neural track - they will become a stronger habit and pattern of behaviour than your old one.  

3. You just need more motivation. Nope.  Motivation is not enough to sustain change. It can kickstart momentum and provide you with a part of your reason for change, but it's not the how.  

4. Failing means you aren't capable of meeting the goal, or you are lacking in motivation. Nope  Failure, or relapse is a normal part of the behaviour change cycle.  

5. If you tell myself often enough that you can do it you will. Nope.  Positive affirmations can do more harm than good. An affirmation is a statement of truth. If what you are saying out loud does not match how you think or feel about yourself, this can create increased inner turmoil and disconnection from your authentic self, making it harder to create and sustain a new healthy lifestyle.  

So if motivation and giving yourself pep talks doesn't work, what does?  Starting from a base of awareness and acceptance. Knowing where you are and what you are currently experiencing allows you to recenter, connect and keep going.

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Creating Connection is a podcast by Kim Ross, Psychologist.  It is for mums, micro business owners and mental health professionals. 

Pops of calm is the audio of live videos I share on social media, of real life mindfulness and connection.  

Because it' s all about practical strategies that you can use everyday.

They will generally be on my iphone, so audio is not the same as the regular Creating Connection podcast.

If you find them helpful, I'd love to know.   

Go gently, be kind to yourself.

Kim xx

Connection can be an abstract concept. Sometimes a metaphor can help. ____________________________________________________________________________ 

Thank you for joining me on Creating Connection. What does connection mean to you?  I see it as the antidote to loneliness that is so prevalent throughout the world.  To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen and deepen the connection with yourself, others and the natural world. 

I love hearing your feedback, questions and observations. 

Being fully present in a conversation can be really tough.

In this episode I share five simple strategies about how you can be there fro someone else when they want to talk to you.  Whether it's about something super important or whether it's a 'normal' conversation and you want to strengthen and deepen your relationship with them.

What are the five strategies?

Letting go of expectations

Putting your phone away

Listening with intent to connect, not fix

Creating some boundaries for yourself

Bringing yourself back to the moment.

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Thank you for joining me on Creating Connection.

What does connection mean to you?  I see it as the antidote to loneliness that is so prevalent throughout the world. "Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” ― Brené Brown

To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen and deepen the connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

I love hearing your feedback, questions and observations.

Did you know that you are part of a network, whether you want to be or not?

Yep,  a network is a group of people who are connected to each other.  Whether that be directly or indirectly.  For example your closest friend is part of your network and so is there cousin who comes out with you from time to time.

Your teachers, your boss, your LinkedIn connections, the people in your team.  Anyone you communicate with on a regular or irregular basis AND anyone they communicate with AND anyone they can communicate with.

Some people are close connections, and some more distant.  And others in your network you can only access through someone else.

There are undoubtable benefits to having a good network.  Including better mental health through increased connections.  Also more job or referral opportunities, more opportunities for growth and protection against burnout.  And conversely small networks can contribute to increased loneliness and isolation and insular perspectives.

But what if you’re socially awkward?

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Thank YOU for joining me on Creating Connection.  

What does connection mean to you?  I see it as the antidote to loneliness that is so prevalent throughout the world. "Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” ― Brené Brown 

To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

 If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world. 

If you like this episode and want to put more intentional self-care into your life,  subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. 

I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  

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I love hearing your feedback, questions and observations.

Poor mental health, such as chronic anxiety and/or depression can grossly interfere with your ability to connect with and trust yourself, and connect with others.   In this episode I touch on some signs that this might be happening to you. If you have been experiencing poor mental health for a long time, seek help sooner rather than later.  Everyone's mental health journey is different.  Some people experience brief period of poor mental health, for others it is a life time commitment to manage.  Creating connection is one element of an overall intentional self-care plan.   You can access a range of resources that can help here, or seek out individual help through your therapist, GP or other trained support.   

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Thank YOU for joining me on Creating Connection.  What does connection mean to you?  I see it as the antidote to loneliness that is so prevalent throughout the world. "Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” ― Brené Brown To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life. If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world. If you like this episode and want to put more intentional self-care into your life,  subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well. 

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I love hearing your feedback, questions and observations.

As you work through introducing new habits in your life, here are 9 keys that can help.  These include practicing self-compassion, structure and 

In this episode I discuss the six steps in the process of change and SMART goals.

FOCUS

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Thank YOU for listening.

If you like this episode and want to put more intentional self-care into your life,  subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes.

I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.

Creating connections in the mental health professional world is essential to avoid burnout, and to have a satisfying and sustainable career. To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life. If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

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Do you remember the rush of starting your first job, or a new job?

Excitement, nerves, anticipation, energy, enthusiasm.  Wanting to do your best and make a good impression.  Perhaps a bit of Imposter Syndrome standing beside you giving you encouraging words like – “Are you sure you’re up to it?”

You expect in those early times for the work to take longer, as you are on a learning curve.  So working outside normal hours is OK because you are learning and it will get quicker and easier.  Stepping in and covering when someone is sick to answer the phones or attend to reception is OK because you are part of a team now, and there’s no money to pay a casual receptionist.  Skipping breaks to finish a report is OK because there’s a deadline and that’s important.

It’s so easy when you start something new, want to make a good impression, or are working extra hard due to Imposter Syndrome to say ‘that’s OK’ or YES – “I can do that”.  Then all these OKs add up to work (over) load.  You don't have enough time, you are doing too much, you are doing irrelevant work

Or, if you are a solo practitioner the process is similar, except in this case you are telling yourself it’s ok to work outside the hours you have set for yourself.  And that it’s OK for you to do everything.

Until it's not.

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Thank YOU for listening.  

Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that you are hearing what you need.  

And if you know others who need to hear this, please forward this to them. If you like this episode and want to put more intentional self-care into your life,  subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. 

I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well. 

Creating connections in the mental health professional world is essential to avoid burnout, and to have a satisfying and sustainable career. To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life. If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

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Hands up if you thought that becoming a mental health professional meant you were entering a field where mental health would be important. Where perhaps your workplace, professional organisations and peers would understand and facilitate environments where mental health was prioritised? 

Me too. 

I worked for many years in various Government departments before becoming a psychologist. There were definitely signs of nepotism and frustrations with the type of work and other work places stressors - which weren’t healthy, but personally I don’t think I experienced any bullying or vitriol. (a little bit of sexual harassment - but that’s another story). 

And I certainly didn’t think that the Mental Health Industry would be worse! 

One of the problems we have as psychologists is a lack of power and the shame and stigma of bullying. So, join me as we dive in to look at possible sources of bullying within the Mental Health Industry. -

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Thank YOU for listening.  Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that you are hearing what you need.  And if you know others who need to hear this, please forward this to them. If you like this episode, please subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well. Creating connections in the mental health professional world is essential to avoid burnout, and to have a satisfying and sustainable career. To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  . By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life. If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

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You can access my ESSENTIAL SELF-CARE FOR PSYCHOLOGISTS PROGRAM and other resources click here. 

I can almost guarantee if you are listening to this you have experienced Imposter Syndrome. When I first graduated I had this big time! And when I became a mother, and when I first went to Uni. It keeps popping up! It describes the feeling when you are in a situation where you are ‘expected’ to know things and to be able to perform at a particular level when you are not feeling ready for it.

It’s that voice that says - you are not good enough.

But with an attitude of openness and curiosity, your Imposter Syndrome can be your best business ally and help you prevent burnout.  

Listen to what it is telling you and use that feedback to step into your doubt and fear in a productive and sustainable way.

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THANK YOU so much for listening.  Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that you are hearing what you need.

If you like this episode, please subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.

Creating connections in the mental health professional world is essential to avoid burnout, and to have a satisfying and sustainable career.

To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  .

By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be.

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

RESOURCES

Once you know where you are and where you want to get to, intentional networking can help bridge the gap, (and save you some time in going down endless rabbit holes.).

Networking has been said to be 'connecting people with people, people with ideas and people with opportunities' - Michele Jennae

So decide which one of these will be your your MAIN focus.  Decide on this before hopping on your social media networking platform. 

Additional reflections.

1. Do I need to meet more people?

2. Do I need to deepen and explore the connections I have. For example if you look at your existing social network are there people in there who could possibly fit one of these reasons you are hopping on social networks. If there are, is there a reason you are not exploring this connection further?

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THANK YOU so much for listening.  Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that they are hearing what they need.

If you like this episode, please subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.

Creating connections in the mental health professional world is essential to avoid burnout, and to have a satisfying and sustainable career.

To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  .

By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be.

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies,  you can strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

RESOURCES

You know networking is important, and that connection is important to help avoid burnout and set yourself up for a successful and sustainable career.  So you reach out and friend and follow others, and they reach out and follow you and before you know it you are connected to all these people you don't actually know.  And you aren't connecting with the people you want to connect with.  So what do you do?  Here are five steps.

INTENT

Be very clear on your purpose for networking, then you can curate and grow your network intentionally.

AUDIT

Look at your list of contacts - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram.

INTROSPECTION

CONFIDENCE IN CONNECTION

If you do want them in your network, and, want to strengthen the connection look at what YOU can share/offer.  

It can be a perspective, an insight, a question, an opinion, a challenge, a story/experience, gratitude, an idea, the ability to share someones ideas/work with someone else - to be a link in the network.

PLANNING AND PATIENCE

Look ahead. what would you love to be doing? Who would you love to work with? what area would you love to work in? (this calls for knowing yourself, your values, your goals - allowing yourself to dream and connect in with the authentic you_

Don’t let Imposter Syndrome get in the way!

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Connection in the mental health professional world can be difficult, but is necessary to avoid burnout and to have a satisfying and prolonged career.

To increase connection  start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  .

By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be.

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies,  you can strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

Whether you are a psych, psychiatrist, mental health nurse, mental health social worker, mental health OT, counsellor, or are working in a different capacity in the mental health field, we share something in common. An inbuilt desire to help others improve their mental health.

Not many people know how it feels to sit in acceptance with another human being. To encourage people to share with your their deepest thoughts, the ones that keep them up at night, that stop them forming relationships and loving others, from loving themselves.

And then through the deepest caring and understanding help them lead better, more fulfilling lives.

You and me, we are part of an exclusive club.

Now I don’t know about you but ever since I graduated I’ve had a love/hate relationship with my label. The result of which is division, judgement, ego driven decisions made by professional bodies; and as peers we get engaged in justification discussions, energy zapping (Maybe you’re noticing an internal dialogue about this with yourself as you are listening/reading).

Labels have their purpose but….

when we talk in the short hand of labels, there is the risk of losing the nuances and humanity and we top seeing each other as people first.

MY TIPS

Commit yourself to

Some journal prompts / guiding questions

What skills do you need in your referral network.

What do I do well?

What do I need help with - who may be able to help me with this?

What next?

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Connection in the mental health professional world can be difficult, but is necessary to avoid burnout and to have a satisfying and sustainable career.

To increase connection  start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  .

By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be.

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies,  you can strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

When I started as a new solo private mental health practitioner – it was drilled into me that I had to be visible on social media.  Maybe you’ve heard the same thing.  However, what is the opportunity cost here?

As a (solo private) mental health practitioner I know how easy it is to feel isolated.  For many years I worked for a government organisation, and for better or worse, there was always someone you could have a quick chat with.  It’s one of the reasons I worked for headspace for a while – so that I knew there would be people around I could touch base with.

This podcast shows you how you don’t need to work for an organisation to create your own connection network.  

To develop a network of people you can trust, to prolong your career and avoid burnout, to stay in your lane and create your own splash, I recommend these five steps.

1.  Listen to what YOU need for support, for your career (authenticity)

2.  Think about the people you want to be supported by.  Don’t be quick to jump into a connection, but listen to the tone.  State clearly your opinion and see what happens.

3.  The online world is quite small.  Keep your eyes and ears open.

4.  Own what you can provide/offer to a relationship. Be proud of your gifts and don’t be easily swayed by others.

5.  Create and take advantages of opportunities.

In an ironic twist you may not have seen coming, I invite you to step away from social media and switch off to connect first with yourself.  

If true connection is having someone who understands and gets the real you.  You need to ensure you allow the real you to shine through.

If someone asks you how you are feeling, what do you reply?  In this episode I look at five reasons why your answer may not be helping you.

With so much written about connection and finding your authentic self, it can become overwhelming.  My aim is to help you with this gently, and simply.  

You can deepen connection with yourself and the world around you wherever you are.  In the episode I use my relationship with my cherry tree as an example of everyday mindful connection.

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies  you can strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

RESOURCES

In this episode I touch on how to journal, and bust one of the most common misconception about journaling. 

Each year leading up to Christmas when we ask ourselves what we want for Christmas, I find this an inspiring time to actually look at what I have.  We know that if you are looking to increase the happiness in your life that putting time and energy into experiences rather than things is the way to go.

However, things have a way of accumulating.  Whether you have bought them with good intentions or whether they have come to you as gifts or through other means.  And before you know it even things you love can just become part of ‘stuff everywhere’!

Curating your stuff can be a great way of reconnecting with what is important to you and creating an uplifting environment.

Let’s start by looking at books.

Growing up we had a set of World Book encyclopedias.  I loved them.  You could open up at any page and learn something new about the world.  Looking at them gave me a sense of wonder and thirst for knowledge.  I probably loved my fantasy books (Enid Blyton anyone?) where I went into worlds where anything and everything was possible.

It’s the promise contained in books that I love.

As I grew older my relationship with books became a bit more complicated.  Books I had to read – school novels, reference books.  Books I thought I should read – parenting books, self-help books.  And instead of being always about pleasure books also became a mirror reminding me of things I didn’t understand, couldn’t learn or highlighted my inadequacies.

Do you love all your books?  Do you smile when you see them, refer to them regularly and rejoice in their wisdom?

OR

Are their books on your bookshelf that taunt you with reminders about your failures?  Cookbooks full of recipes you haven’t tried.  Self-help books with exercises you haven’t completed.  Novels you haven’t read.  Parenting books that seem to mock you.  Reference books you don’t use (or are way out of date).

This episode is different from normal.  The Path visualisation that I mention is one I have given to many families and children over the years, as well as using them with my own children.  I don't usually give the meditation, but I thought, why not.  It is a time where we are trying to squeeze every last bit of relaxation into our lives that we can and I hope that you find this useful - either for you and/or your children.

This meditation and visualisation, were taken from the book Creative Visualization with Children: A practical guide by Jennifer Day

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How can I feel more connected?  If you are seeking the answer to that question, you have come to the right place.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, in exploring  the opposite of loneliness.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

Every review and feedback counts and helps spread this podcast to others in the community who would love to increase their sense of connection.

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Creativity is the act of creating something.  Whether that's a poem, a painting or a story.  Or a solution, a new way of being or a new perspective.  Or a meal, a garden or anything whereby you get to use your personality, your gifts, your ideas to create something that didn't exist before.

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How can I feel more connected?  If you are seeking the answer to that question, you have come to the right place.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, in exploring  the opposite of loneliness.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

Every review and feedback counts and helps spread this podcast to others in the community who would love to increase their sense of connection.

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This week I've been exploring back to basic principles of self-care

One of the things COVID-19 has done is strip us of our regular structure, and therefore our cues for eating and exercising.

We are at home nearly all the time, we have food around us constantly, there is very little incidental exercise able to happen, which means everything we do must be done with full intent or awareness.

And as we are living in a state of fairly constant stress and anxiety, actually doing the basics is harder than what it seems.

So, what does back to basics mean?

FOOD: First is back to basics food. Increasing whole foods like brown rice oats anything that grows on a tree or in the ground i.e. fruit and vegetables.  Drinking water.

MOVEMENT: Then it’s back to basics movement. Walking a couple of times a day, standing instead of sitting, stretching,.

HABITS: Back to basics eating habits. This includes sitting down to eat, sitting at the table to eat, using crockery and cutlery, tuning in to hungry cues.

Below are 11 principles to keep in mind in your back to basics journey.

1.  Acceptance.   My jeans won’t fit, my back aches, I’m not walking as much as I used to, I feel sluggish.

2.  Accountability.  Stating to yourself, or publicly what you are working on and would like to do.

3.  Support - having someone taking the journey with you.

4.  Cuing our behaviour.  When I sit down in front of the tv – that is my cue to pick up my crotcheting (not sit and eat pistacchios)

5.  Using the ‘When I do this, then I will do that’  strategy.  Eg.  When I drink this hot water, then I will have my coffee.

6.  Doing things mindfully. Sitting at the table to eat.

7.  Being prepared.  Ending the day with a clean kitchen bench.

8.  Mindset.  Use simple words – Today I’m going to try to…..

9.  Self-compassion.  This is not a place for perfection or comparison this is a place of self compassion. We will be doing the best we can with what’s been going on.

10.  Goal setting.  Little baby goals. And goals that encourage you to do something rather than not do something.  Today I’m going to drink one cup of hot water.  I’m going to eat one vegetable.  Start, not stop goals.

11.  Boundaries.  Put your little fences in place to keep the cows out.

This is particularly important if you’re living without the people who are questioning what you’re doing. This back to basics is for you and you decide where you put your boundary fence. I am cooking one meal tonight and this is what I want to cook and eat.  Or I’m not buying any more junk food come into the house. 

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How can I feel more connected?  If you are seeking the answer to that question, you have come to the right place.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, in exploring  the opposite of loneliness.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

Every review and feedback counts and helps spread this podcast to others in the community who would love to increase their sense of connection.

RESOURCES

In this episode I invite you to take a piece of paper, a pen and the time to reflect on loss.  And to practice acknowledgement and acceptance, so that you make room for action and responsiveness.

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How can I feel more connected?  If you are seeking the answer to that question, you have come to the right place.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, in exploring  the opposite of loneliness.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

Every review and feedback counts and helps spread this podcast to others in the community who would love to increase their sense of connection.

RESOURCES

Otherwise known as - How did that cow get in my paddock?  It's interesting that if someone was to keep taking your money, you would be able to recognise a pattern.  But what about if they are taking your time,  your ideas, your inspiration, and your energy?

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How can I feel more connected?  If you are seeking the answer to that question, you have come to the right place.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, in exploring  the opposite of loneliness.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

Every review and feedback counts and helps spread this podcast to others in the community who would love to increase their sense of connection.

10 questions to ask yourself. 1. WHAT STAGE OF YOUR LIFE ARE YOU IN? · Single · Single living at home · Single living by yourself · Single living with other adults · Single with children · Coupled without children · Coupled with children · Living in a multi generational household And for those with children are they: babies, toddlers, primary school aged, secondary school aged, young adults. What are the needs of your children – low, medium, high? 2. WHAT SORT OF WORK DO YOU DO? · Work from home · Travel to work · Front line – client contact · Stay at home mother 3. ARE YOU · Solo practitioner · Small business owner · Partner · On a board 4. WHEREABOUTS ARE YOU IN YOUR CAREER? · Just starting out · In the middle /established · Looking to retire soon 5. HOW MANY HOURS DO YOU IDEALLY WANT TO WORK? · You have enough hours · You have too much · You want more 6. HOW IS YOUR MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH? Happy, anxious, stressed, not sleeping, putting on weight, losing weight. 7. DO YOU HAVE FINANCIAL STRESS? Income, assets etc. 8. WHAT LEVEL OF SUPPORT DO YOU HAVE? 9. ARE YOU IN LOCKDOWN? 10. DO YOU HAVE ANY OTHER AYTPICAL STRESSES. Eg chronic illness, lifelong disorder. 

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How can I feel more connected?  If you are seeking the answer to that question, you have come to the right place.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, and mother of three in exploring the opposite of loneliness.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

Every review and feedback counts and helps spread this podcast to others in the community who would love to increase their sense of connection.

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Create pops of calm with 7 Mini Stress Busters. Almost anyone can do these almost anytime and anywhere.

Why Covid-19 is causing you anxiety, and what to do about it.

Some initial research into the first month of COVID-19 found mental health difficulties were at least twice as prevalent as in non-pandemic circumstances.

For some people the restrictions around COVID-19 are a blip in their lives, for others the impact is significant and ongoing. And, as to be expected, the people most impacted are the most vulnerable in society.  

The need for practical, positive, flexible self-care to manage this ongoing anxiety and stress is clear.

In this podcast I share with you some positive and practical self-care tips, based on the Five Foundations of Self-Care.

For further information on anything in this podcast email Kim at creatingconnectionsthatmatter@gmail.com

And of course, if your level of stress and anxiety is significant please seek professional assistance.  I am available for online consultations, there are a number of organisations providing free support, in particular Beyond Blue, otherwise check in with your GP as your first point of call.-

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How can I feel more connected?  If you are seeking the answer to that question, you have come to the right place.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, in exploring  the opposite of loneliness.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

Every review and feedback counts and helps spread this podcast to others in the community who would love to increase their sense of connection.

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This was a live session I presented in Your Online Self-Care Studio that I recently created.  I thought you might like.

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How can I feel more connected?  If you are seeking the answer to that question, you have come to the right place.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, and mother of three in exploring the opposite of loneliness.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

Every review and feedback counts and helps spread this podcast to others in the community who would love to increase their sense of connection.

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In this episode 4 different types of clutter are discussed.

Physical

Digital

Cognitive

Relationships

Some practical strategies are provided to how to reduce this clutter and what it means to let it go.

Have you ever shut up instead of standing up? Let your light them so that others could shine? Held your tongue, when you wanted to speak? In this episode we explore what is stopping you from showing your authentic self. And I share with you my biggest tip for overcoming this obstacle.

Thank you for listening.  I am so grateful you have found my podcast and hope that it helps you in some way.

In Season Two topics covered are going to include Hope, Optimism, Possibilities, Acceptance and Permission to Shine.   You can be a part of  Season Two by sharing with me a quote or a poem that speaks to you about these topics, connection, or loneliness.  I may read yours out on the episode.  You can choose to be added to the exclusive subscribers club where you will receive a bonus email sharing something relevant to the weeks episode.  Simply rate and review the podcast, and send a screenshot to Kim Dunn at creatingconnectionsthatmatter@gmail.com.

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How can I feel more connected?  If you are seeking the answer to that question, you have come to the right place.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, in exploring  the opposite of loneliness.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

Every review and feedback counts and helps spread this podcast to others in the community who would love to increase their sense of connection.

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This is a mindfulness meditation created to help manage exam stress.  It is not therapy or a replacement for therapy.

It takes you through an awareness and acceptance exercise of connecting with your body and breath with a self-compassion focus.

If you are regularly experiencing panic attacks or have a diagnosed anxiety disorder, check with your mental health practitioner prior to  listening.

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How can I feel more connected?  If you are seeking the answer to that question, you have come to the right place.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, in exploring  the opposite of loneliness.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

Every review and feedback counts and helps spread this podcast to others in the community who would love to increase their sense of connection.

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Without fear, without anxiety there is no bravery.

When was the last time you stepped into your brave, because the matter was so important nothing was going to stop you?

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In this episode I explore why self-compassion is important and how the words you use can act as obstacles to self-kindness.  

We haven't really found a way to extract the emotions we don't like and keep the ones that we do like, like happiness and love and peace and joy and transcendence

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How can I feel more connected?  If you are seeking the answer to that question, you have come to the right place.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, in exploring  the opposite of loneliness.  

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

Every review and feedback counts and helps spread this podcast to others in the community who would love to increase their sense of connection.

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Hi, and thank you for joining me on the 50th podcast episode of Creating Connections that Matter.  As a treat I have a special guest today, her name is Dr Brooklyn Storme, and she is one of the bubbliest, and smartest people I know.  Brooklyn combines her PhD in Psychology with her Manifestation knowledge to provide support through her private coaching  both for individuals and in groups.  I'm sure you'll enjoy meeting her.

Hands up if you've ever been involved in a group at school or work or online where the dynamics were all wrong.  Or maybe  you've been involved in a fantastic group.  In this episode Dr Brooklyn Storme, Private Practice Coach and myself delve into loneliness, connection and what makes an online group work.

It can be easy to be lead into thinking that the only way to grow is through overcoming adversity.  Whilst resilience can be strengthened through challenges, not everyone develops this resilience, others succumb to challenge - for a wide range of reasons.

There is a simpler, calmer, more practical way to grow - or rather to reconnect with your true self.

This is a bonus episode to use as a reminder, that you are worthy and deserving  just as you are.  

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Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, in exploring what loneliness is, what the opposite of loneliness is,  and how by reconnecting with yourself, others and the world around you,  you can be  happier and more alive, and step into your best life.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

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I'm sure you have either heard these words or said these words at some time!  Maybe even more than once a day.  In this episode we take a deeper look at what may be behind these words, what to do about it, and use it as an opportunity to deepen self-connection.

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How can I stop feeling so lonely?  Why do I feel like I don't belong?   Why don't I have any friends?  How can I make deeper connections in my life?  How can I start enjoying life again?

Join Kim Dunn, Psychologist, in exploring what loneliness is, what the opposite of loneliness is,  and how by reconnecting with yourself, others and the world around you,  you can be  happier and more alive, and step into your best life.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

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This body scan was recorded as additional material for my Essential Self-Care for Psychologists Program.  You are welcome to listen to it.  

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Join Kim Dunn, Psychologist, in exploring what loneliness is, what the opposite of loneliness is,  and how by reconnecting with yourself, others and the world around you,  you can be  happier and more alive, and step into your best life.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

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It's time to smash the stigma of loneliness.  We had an epidemic of loneliness before Covid-19, but it seems it 's taken a pandemic for people to realise the extent of the epidemic.   If you have a story of  how you moved from loneliness to connection, you would like to share, I would love to have you on the podcast.

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Join Kim Dunn, Psychologist, in exploring what loneliness is, what the opposite of loneliness is,  and how by reconnecting with yourself, others and the world around you,  you can be  happier and more alive, and step into your best life.

From self-acceptance to the Unified Field and all the connections in between. We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.  Along with a big dose of self-care!

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A look at the different stages of loneliness I experienced.  And I talk about the loneliness loop.

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Whether you are looking to find your authentic self for the first time, enhance your self-care; or whether you want to move out of loneliness, this podcast is for you.

In this series you will find simple strategies to help you find your centre; questions that make you think and reevaluate what you are doing; and ways you can increase positive energy and connection in your life.

We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.

You will learn strategies to help you live YOUR best life.  And help yourself and others around you to shine.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

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There are many instances of people wondering whether COVID-19 restrictions can be lifted for their personal circumstances.  There are also many incidents of people saying what about me?  What help is there for me?

You can argue that people are selfish - and many are.  Many rate their interests as more important than others.

However, in some cases, maybe what is perceived as selfishness is actually loneliness, and they just want to be heard.

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Whether you are looking to find your authentic self for the first time, enhance your self-care; or whether you want to move out of loneliness, this podcast is for you.

In this series you will find simple strategies to help you find your centre; questions that make you think and reevaluate what you are doing; and ways you can increase positive energy and connection in your life.

We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.

You will learn strategies to help you live YOUR best life.  And help yourself and others around you to shine.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

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This was put out to celebrate the International Day of Happiness, and it's place in this time of global crisis and widespread anxiety.

It focuses on helping you create moments of mindfulness which allows the mind to settle and provides relieve from stress and anxiety.

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In today's world creating connection has never been more important.  

In this series you will find simple strategies to help you increase positive energy and connection in your life.

We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.

You will learn strategies to help you live YOUR best life, regardless of what is going on around you.  And help yourself and others around you to shine.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

In the rush to support each other with recommending self-care strategies, it can lead to a scattergun approach.  

What you may find more helpful is an intentional self-care approach.  

Practicing tuning in and checking in with yourself is at the centre of an intentional self-care approach.

Self-care is about taking responsibility for your mental and physical health.  Your self-care needs will vary depending on your life stage; your family and personal demands; your physical and mental health; and other factors unique to you.  And is best not left to chance.  

Creating structure around immediate, short-medium term and long-term health is important.

My Intentional Self-Care Program is divided into 5 modules: Physical, Emotional, Cognitive, Meaning and Connection.

In this episode I take you through 5 questions you can use in your daily check in that will help you identify what self-care strategies are the best for you today.  

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Whether you are looking to find your authentic self for the first time, enhance your self-care; or whether you want to move out of loneliness, this podcast is for you.

In this series you will find simple strategies to help you find your centre; questions that make you think and reevaluate what you are doing; and ways you can increase positive energy and connection in your life.

We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.

You will learn strategies to help you live YOUR best life.  And help yourself and others around you to shine.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

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As a mother you carry around a bundle of expectations in a 'normal' life.  Today I revisited my resource on taking the first step from overwhelm to calm to assess it's value for right now.  I found that it basically all still applies.  There are a few more expectations added on, and some losses to examine.  I have therefore added a new journal prompt to look at the losses.

You deserve a break.  Just a few minutes where you don't have to make any decisions!  Sit or lie down, press start and take time for self-care.  You can then use this strategy on and off all day.  So useful to keep your stress response under control.

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Connection is the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..."  (Brene Brown).

Whether you are looking to find our authentic self for the first time, deepen your self=knowledge; or whether you want to move out of loneliness, this podcast is for you.

In this series you will find simple strategies to help you find your centre; questions that make you think and reevaluate what you are doing; and ways you can increase positive energy and connection in your life.

We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.

You will learn strategies to help you live YOUR best life.  And help yourself and others around you to shine.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

If you have a daughter and want to help strengthen your bond with her, reduce her sense of isolation and help protect her mental health, here are five ways that can help.

Flexibility - of ways to communicate, when and where to communicate.  Be open to situations that arise.  

Time - take the time to be there, to tell them you love them, to look them in the eye when they are coming and going.

Acceptance - let go of your expectations and work with what is.

Curiosity - cultivate curiosity and wonder.  Allow the space to watch them develop and grow.  

Forgiveness - of them and of yourself for what was done and not done.  Start each day anew.

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Connection is the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..."  (Brene Brown).

Whether you are looking to find our authentic self for the first time, deepen your self=knowledge; or whether you want to move out of loneliness, this podcast is for you.

In this series you will find simple strategies to help you find your centre; questions that make you think and reevaluate what you are doing; and ways you can increase positive energy and connection in your life.

We will delve into connecting with yourself, connecting with others and connecting with the natural world.

You will learn strategies to help you live YOUR best life.  And help yourself and others around you to shine.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

The experience you had at the birth of your child was unique to you.  

Did it leave you feeling exhilarated, ashamed, joyous, disappointed, empty?

Or a mixture....

Whatever you felt was not right or wrong.

It just was (or still is)..  

You may never have had your birth story validated.  Maybe you carry it around as a secret shame.

Well, in this episode I talk a little about what impact this has on you, and what you can do about it.  

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Connection is the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..."  (Brene Brown).

Whether you are looking to find our authentic self for the first time, deepen your self=knowledge; or whether you want to move out of loneliness, this podcast is for you.  

In this series you will find simple strategies to help you find your centre; questions that make you think and reevaluate what you are doing; and ways you can increase positive energy and connection in your life.

You will learn strategies to help you live YOUR best life.  And help yourself and others around you to shine.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

In this episode I introduce my 5 step approach to managing your emotions-  ABOLD approach.  The acronym emphasises that it takes courage to make a change, courage to open yourself to awareness and acceptance, and courage to step into YOUR best life.

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Connection is the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..."  (Brene Brown).

Whether you are looking to find our authentic self for the first time, or deepen your self=knowledge; or whether you want to move out of loneliness, this podcast is for you.  In this series you will find simple strategies to help you find your centre; questions that make you think and reevaluate what you are doing; and ways you can increase positive energy and connection in your life.

You will learn strategies to help you live YOUR best life.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

Trusting people with your authentic self, starts with knowing and accepting your inner self.  When you face situations that lead to self-doubt it can be easy to lose sight of who you truely are.  In this episode I talk a bit about what it was like for me to recover from one of the (many) vulnerabilities I faced.  I hope that this helps you realise that we all share the ups and downs of being human and that the strategies I touch on (which will be explored further in the future) are helpful.

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Connection is the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..."  (Brene Brown).

Whether you are looking to find our authentic self for the first time, or deepen your self=knowledge; or whether you want to move out of loneliness, this podcast is for you.  In this series you will find simple strategies to help you find your centre; questions that make you think and reevaluate what you are doing; and ways you can increase positive energy and connection in your life.

You will learn strategies to help you live YOUR best life.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

Have you ever been taken advantage of, had your trust betrayed, got stuck in an unequal power relationship?

Trust – it’s a slippery little sucker.

Trust and vulnerability are a cornerstone of connection.

Join me in a different sort of episode and hear how my trust was broken by a therapist and I give you suggestions about how you can protect yourself from being caught living with trust violations.

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How can I stop feeling so lonely?  Why do I feel like I don't belong?   Why don't I have any friends?  How can I make deeper connections in my life?  How can I start enjoying life again?

Connection is the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..."  (Brene Brown).

If you are busy or exhausted, feeling lost or disconnected, this podcast is for you.  In this series you will find simple strategies to help you find your centre; questions that make you think and reevaluate what you are doing; and ways you can increase positive energy and connection in your life.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

If you have tried listing pros and cons, asking other people for their advice and still not knowing what to do - here is a different way of approaching making decisions.  If you know you want to make changes in your life and don't know where to start you need to know what is important to you.  That is the only way of making sure you are NOT living someone else's dream.  

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Connection is the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..."  (Brene Brown).

If you are busy or exhausted, feeling lost or disconnected, this podcast is for you.  In this series you will find simple strategies to help you find your centre; questions that make you think and reevaluate what you are doing; and ways you can increase positive energy and connection in your life.

You will learn strategies to help you live YOUR best life.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

If you have felt overwhelm, if you are no longer sure about what your inner voice is telling you, if you feel a heavy sensation in your chest that cannot be relieved by reordering your to do list, this episode is for you.

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?

Connection is the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..."  (Brene Brown).

If you're a busy, tired, exhausted, worn out, strung out, stuffed mum, or are just feeling lost and disconnected, this podcast is for you.  In this series you will find simple strategies to help find your centre; questions that make you think and reevaluate what you are doing; and ways you can add to the positive energy and connection our world so desperately needs.

You will learn strategies to help you live YOUR best life.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

How many times a day do you hear this word come out of your mouth?  I ‘should’ go to the gym, I ‘should’ got for a walk, I ‘should’ call my friend, I ‘should’ clean the house, I ‘should’ do the grocery shopping, I ‘should’ stay back at work and finish that report, I ‘cant’ go out I have too much to do, ‘I shouldn’t feel like this.  The list goes on.

So, what’s wrong with saying ‘should’.  I’ll give you a hint.

How do you feel when you say ‘should’?

If you’re like most people it probably creates a heavy feeling.  It’s a burden, a chore, another expectation, something else to add to you to do list.  It can create guilt and shame.  The more you use these rigid words the more disappointed, angry, depressed or guilty you are likely to feel.

Listen to find out one easy way of tackling the 'shoulds'.  

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?

Connection is the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..."  (Brene Brown).

If you're a busy, tired, exhausted, worn out, strung out, stuffed mum, or if you have navigated the worst of it and are looking at what to do next - this podcast is for you.  In this series you will find simple strategies to help find your centre; questions that make you think and reevaluate what you are doing; and ways you can add to the positive energy and connection our world so desperately needs.

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

This episode looks at some of the major myths and lies about motherhood, and how they get in the way of connection and your wellbeing.  Can you identify which ones might be getting in your way?  If you let me know - I will look at ways to help you with these in future episodes.

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?

Connection is the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..."  (Brene Brown).

If you're a busy, tired, exhausted, worn out, strung out, stuffed mum, or if you have navigated the worst of it and are looking at what to do next - this podcast is for you.  In this series you will find simple strategies to help find your centre; questions that make you think and reevaluate what you are doing; and ways you can add to the positive energy and connection our world so desperately needs.  

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist and mother of three, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.  

A reminder of our common humanity and how important it is for you to find and create beauty in your everyday life.

What are your main challenges with connection?  I would love to hear from you about what topics you would like me to talk about.  You can contact me at creatingconnectionsthatmatter@gmail.com.

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?

Connection as the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..."  (Brene Brown).

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

Are you clear about your what is most important to you?  What you hold important is generally referred to as your values.

Values are like the compasses that guide your journey.   They guide your decision making and the choices in your life.

When you are disconnected from your values your life may feel like it lacks direction or meaning.

I am here to help you with that reconnection.

In this video I help you get started with working out what’s important by talking you through two different values identification activities.  

And I share my current top 5 values.  

It's easy to get caught up in the little details of our life and not see the whole picture.  If you want a practical example of perspective, do a jigsaw puzzle, (or even a wasgij puzzle for an extra challenge).  Notice what happens when you stop doing the puzzle and take a break - you will often find things are clearer when you go back to it.  Or ever had someone come along and know straight way where a piece can go that you've been trying to fit somewhere for ages?  That's the difference perspective can make!  

Using perspective is part of cognitive self-care, and like connectedness, cognitive self-care is one of the key pillars to your wellbeing.  Perspective allows you to see what is going on in your life with clarity - what are you really thinking and feeling?  What truly matters?  How can you be seen, heard and valued? 

Connection is a key part of your self-care road map; of your own personal wellbeing plan.    In this series we focus on Connection, as well as other self-care measures - Cognitive self-care, Emotional self-care, Physical self-care, and Meaning.  If you are ready for a new perspective on self-care and connection subscribe to be kept up to date with the latest podcasts.

Ever experience feeling lonely in a crowded room? It's easy to get trapped in the loneliness spiral. Here's one easy tip to take you out of yourself. I'd love to know what you think....

Many people experience social anxiety and some of those use alcohol as a 'social lubricant'.  But when you are impaired by alcohol or in the company of someone else who is....that's not the way to be seen, heard and valued.

And I tell you the disconcerting advice that one of my children's paediatrician gave me.

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?

Brene Brown describes connection as the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..." .

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

Subscribe to be kept up to date with all podcasts in the challenge.

If you look back on this year and can't see a clear success.  If everything seems confused and messy and you aren't sure why?

Then this episode is for you.  

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?

Brene Brown describes connection as the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..." .

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

Subscribe to be kept up to date with all podcasts in the challenge.

Does all the busyness in your life really matter?

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?

Brene Brown describes connection as the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..." .

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

Subscribe to be kept up to date with all podcasts in the challenge.

Connecting with and setting boundaries is an important part of psychological self-care.  It's Ok, in fact it's important, to say no.

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?

Brene Brown describes connection as the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..." .

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

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If you have adult children you know finding time to connect with them can be tricky - but it is so important you do.

Self-care is looking after your mental and physical health.  How can you make the most of the time you set aside for self-care? 

Recently I attended a clay workshop - which ticked not just the connection box, but other self-care boxes.  The following are some of the boxes it ticked.

Connection ticks

1. I met new people - connecting with peers

2. I met I knew from online and had never met before - strengthening online connections

3. I worked with clay - connecting with nature.

4. strengthened my connection with my profession - as it was a professional workshop

Cognitive mental health ticks

1. I learnt something new

2. I stepped out of my comfort zone in terms of driving to a different location and cohosting a new workshop

Meaning mental health tick

1. Being involved in an activity that helped bring people together

Physical mental health tick

1. Using my body (through the medium of clay) to relax

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?

Brene Brown describes connection as the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..." .

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

Subscribe to be kept up to date with all podcasts in the challenge.

Rumination - when we talk about and think about our problems over and over again.  It's getting stuck in a loop of negative thinking.

Episode 21/90

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?

Brene Brown describes connection as the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..." .

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

Subscribe to be kept up to date with all podcasts in the challenge.

Did you know that one of the best predictors of whether you will continue with an exercise program is whether or not you enjoy it?  It sounds quite logical doesn't it.  Yet how many times do you try and persevere with an activity you're not actually enjoying.  In this brief episode I talk about being guided in your activity by listening to and connecting with yourself. 

Episode 20/90

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?

Brene Brown describes connection as the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..." .

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

Subscribe to be kept up to date with all podcasts in the challenge.

When you go by yourself to function/networking tips you can caught up in overthinking what to say or do.  Take the pressure of yourself with these three quick tips

1. be aware of your fidget points and think about how you can reduce them.

2. dress for comfort (and I don't mean trackie pants!)

3. take time to appreciate the event, the organisers, the effort - in other words, bask in some gratitude.

Episode 19/90

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?

Brene Brown describes connection as the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..." .

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

Subscribe to be kept up to date with all podcasts in the challenge.

As you approach the end of the year and evaluate what you have achieved and where your life is at, take the time to reflect on your connections, and in particular your understanding of self.

Children tend to want to discover who they are and are so excited when they find out new things about themselves.  Do you do this?  How would it be to tap into that curiosity and reconnect with your true self.

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?

Brene Brown describes connection as the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..." .

Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

Subscribe to be kept up to date with all podcasts in the challenge.

Do you get to the end of the day and you feel exhausted but with nothing to show for it? It could be that invisible mental load.  In this episode I run through some of the invisible task, and a funny story about trying to fill out online government forms.

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?  

Brene Brown describes connection as the "energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued..." .

Join me, Kim Ross, Psychologist, to find out how to reconnect with yourself, others and the world around you, so that you can feel more valued, happier and more alive.

Subscribe to be kept up to date with all podcasts in the challenge.

Valuing your body is an important connection point.  

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Does social media help or hinder connection?  The answer is not that simple.

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Journalling is a great way of connecting with what really matters to you.

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The digital world has its place but you cannot generate the same energy and connection as in real life.  

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There are many ways you can fill your connections bucket.  Here are a few suggestions.

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Were you in a Mother's Group?  How did it go?  Maybe like some people you're still friends with those mum's 5, 10  or 20+ years out.  Or maybe you're like me and just never felt like you belonged.

When you're sleep deprived, don't know what you're really doing, suffering post natal depression, maybe your child isn't doing what all the other babies are doing, it can be really hard to feel like you belong.  It's not always enough to bond over the shared difficulties of having a new baby.  There are so many differences - your relationship with your spouse, family traditions, personalities and values.

And sometimes those differences mean this belonging, it just isn't going to come, and that's OK.  

Keep looking for another group - for me I found it in the Australian Breastfeeding Association.  Because there philosophy matched with some of key values.  

And don't forget this was all before social media, so it was much harder to find niche groups.

Belonging is a journey, it can take a lot of twists and turns to find your home.

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In a world where loneliness and isolation are epidemic, how do you find your way back to connection?  Join me on exploring reconnecting with  yourself, others and the world around you.   Subscribe to be kept up to date with all podcasts in the challenge.