Mindcraft: Become the Boss of Your Brain!

Awakening the sleeping beauty within means to invite your authentic self back into the driver's seat. So often we cave into the smooth seduction of the ego which can bring us down with guilt and shame, or lead us into the seemingly never ending pursuit of external approval. Awaken and return to your power place.

#authenticity #authenticself #awaken

Many times when we set goals we go full-throttle right out of the gate, reaching for the stars with everything we've got, and then often wind up frustrated and giving up as the results didn't happen fast enough. When we shift our mindset towards being grateful for and celebrating the small wins, miracles begin to happen. Small wins lead to big success.

#success #perseverence #focus

Worthiness as a practice.

How to cultivate hope.

If your outside world seems hectic and frenzied, you may want to take a moment to check in with yourself to what's happening on the inside.

The quality of the day

Let go of expectations

If you don't prioritize your life, someone else will.

Become good.

There are some people out there who walk around looking for things to become annoyed about. This is because they are getting some kind of temporary "good feel" about it, even though it leads to long-term misery. Learning to become less easily annoyed is a skill that we can learn, and the payoff is monumental!

#learnedoptimism #positivity #resilience

Regardless of the chaos going on around us at home, work, or wherever, we can choose to stay centered. Learning to stay centered is a skill that can be learned, and the gift that keeps on giving.

#staycentered #mindfulness #presentmoment

Do your best to look past behavior

Happiness as a duty

Life is just a test, not an emergency.

It can be all too easy to get buried beneath schedules, demands of life, as well as every day mundane tasks. Same. Same. Same.

For centuries, people have realized the healing power of a hot bath, or hydropathy. The American mountainous west has hot springs tucked away like Easter eggs, which have drawn people to experience their rejuvenating powers for ages. Clearly, we are on to something. Settling into a hot bath to sit with oneself, removed from the world as we know it, has incredible power for healing and rejuvenation of spirit.

#rejuvenation #healing #serenity

Walking is known for its physical benefits, though rarely do we acknowledge it as the cure for most things. Many people who live deep into their 80's, 90's, and beyond will mention that walking each day had a whole lot to do with their longevity, and well as their happiness.

Build your reality

As they say, "bad habits die hard." It can really feel like an uphill push to steer away from something that feels so good in the moment, even though in the long run it is not good for us and may also make us feel guilty. There are some steps to take that can make shifting away from an unfavorable habit easier, as well as leaning into a healthier habit. When we do so, we save valuable life-minutes.

#habits #positivechange #stresseating

Rewrite your story

Prime your day.

Journalists are experts at finding the lead in a story. They are trained to observe and listen for what's not being said. They are on a mission to sift through the noise to find the fascinating. We can tap into our inner journalist to hone in on the lead within our own internal conversations. What is really going on in this relationship? Where am I being directed? What is my next move?

#essentialism #activelistening #mindfulness

So often, a small change of vocabulary can change our entire perspective on something. This can bring about a shift from drudgery to desire, as well as new momentum and joy to household tasks.

#homecaring #mindset #positivechange

Simply put, we cannot give what we do not have. We cannot pour water, kindness, empathy, or anything else from a an empty bucket. Keeping our own bucket full is our number one job.

#fillyourbucket #selflove #selfcare

Happiness is a feeling that occurs when good things happen in our lives or in the lives of those we care about. It feels good when we are happy, though the feeling is temporary. Fulfillment is deeper, richer, and longer lasting.

#happiness #authenticity #fulfillment

Clarity is essential for success.

People often get mindfulness confused with meditation. There are loads of different types of meditation out there, some involving sitting, standing, lying down, and making sounds called mantras. Mindfulness is sort of "meditation on the go," and it is NOT about creating a "thought vacuum" as most meditations strive to achieve. Being mindful is about being present and engaged with your life.

#mindfulness #presentmoment #gratitude

It is ultra-important to keep our buckets filled up and is actually our number one job in life. The recipe for well-being involves five components (mini-buckets), to keep filled as much as possible.

#wellbeing #lifesatisfaction #feelgood

There is lots out there right now about wellness and well-being. There are even micro-arguments about whether well-being should have a - or be dash-less. What will be discussed in this episode is how well-being is about learning to be well.

#wellbeing #bewell #selfworth

Even with emotional turbulence and dysfunction whirling wildly around us, we can remain in the calm and serene center if we choose to.

Being inspired means to be mentally stimulated to do something creative. Inspiration is also a state of being that cannot be forced. Sometimes these moments of synchronicity seem to "just happen," though we can also set the stage for inspiration to come to us.

#inspiration #creativity #synchronicity

Just as placebo pills can trick us into feeling better, these sugar pills can also trick us into feeling sick. What we believe can actually affect how we feel physically, for better or worse. Therefore, when we have prolonged stress and stress hormones are racing through our bloodstream for way too long, this can lead to physical disease. If our thoughts can make us sick, does this mean that they can make us well, too?

#stressreduction #noceboeffect #becomethebossofyourbrain

Many of us learned early on that there are only two types of success, material or worldly and authentic.

It is quite possible that one of the reasons we often don't feel successful, is because it can be so difficult to give ourselves credit for our accomplishments. Even when the world applauds us it can be hard to applaud ourselves. Because of this, we often seek out the next accomplishment to chase down our self-worth, and then the next, and the next . . .

Reversing Internal Dialogue

To me, whiners and complainers are the emotional equivalent of breathing in second-hand smoke.

A clear mind is a powerful mind, and clarity of mind also means clarity of passion.  The mind is like a thoroughbred horse running around a race track. This magnificent life-force left to his own devices could run off to a bad ending. This is why it is the job of the 92-pound jockey to guide this powerful animal in the right direction, embracing and guiding its power. 

Saying thank you goes a long way.

Becoming a money magnet has to do catching ourselves sliding into the scarcity mindset, and choosing to redirect our attention.

#moneymagnet #wealth #financialsuccess

We have been programmed to constantly be in motion, always producing is some way. We stay after work to get that last thing done because we think we should. To not to do so, says that we are either lazy or our job simply isn't that important. Also, we can have difficulty discerning what is truly vital as far as what we need to get done for the day. Learning how to enter the effortless state can help us get more done, with better results, and without becoming exhausted. Residing in the effortless state brings more joy and fulfilment to our lives.

#effortless #joy #cognitiveloadtheory

We have been conditioned for decades and decades to believe that we can do and have it all. In reality, we can only do so much, so well, and for so long. In order to become successful and to enjoy the process, we must change our mindset as far as how we choose allocate our energy.

#diseaseofwanting #lessisbetter #essentialism

Choosing to live by design means to make conscious decisions each day regarding the importance of even the smallest of tasks and projects. There are many opportunities out there in the world, some good, and some really, really good. This can make it tough to make choices as we may want to do it all, but in order to bring the most success to what is vital, me must trim the fat and let the rest go.

#essentialism #livedeliberately #focusedenergy

Essentialism is about the active pursuit of less, but in a way that works out better. It is about trimming the fat so that we can focus on what is truly important. Essentialism not only leads to success, but a more engaged and joyful life.

#essentialism #joyfulliving #success 

It is so important to create an open, quiet, and inviting place for us to go within and just be. When we prioritize solitude by designating a space to do so, quieting the mind becomes automatic and life-changing.

#innerlife #spirituality #authenticity 

Prior to WW II, there was no plural of the word "priority." The word "priorities" came to be as a result of our lives becoming busier, and busier, and busier over the last century. Surviving our fast-paced society has caused us to splinter our attention over many different tasks. In doing so, it has been easy to lose track of what is most important, as well as the importance of making time each day for something that brings us joy.

#prioritize #liveyourbestlife #joy

Working with authentic pizazz means to work from the heart.

Meditate with your hands

It can be so easy to become attached to material objects, which also leads to disappointment and upset when they become lost, damaged, or destroyed all together. In reality, we come into this world with only ourselves and we leave the same way. When we make a conscious effort to realize that our nice wine glasses are temporary, it can make it much easier to roll with it when one lands on the tile floor. Plus, we are more apt to enjoy our nice wine glasses while we are sipping wine with good friends.

#gratitude #appreciation #presentmoment 

Saying thank you goes a long way.

Forgive yourself when you lose it

We often zip around this world not being consciously aware that our life-minutes are limited. By doing so, we toss away lots of valuable time spending present moments with people with whom we no longer derive nourishment or joy from. This not a judgment of the other person, and it is quite possible they feel the same way about us. Spending our precious life-minutes doing something that no longer brings joy or personal growth because we are too lazy or it's inconvenient, is simply not a good purchase; it's a habit. 

#lifeminutes #liveyourbestlife #positivechange

Often in our relationships, we attach days spent in the past or expectations of the future to our current present moment when we are together. This can be a romantic relationship, a sibling, or a best friend. When we can commit to being fully present with this person for the time spent together in one day, magic happens.

#presentmoment #relationships #letitgo

Score-keeping in relationships can be such an easy thing to fall into, and can become a habit if we aren't aware of it. Unchecked score-keeping can slowly deteriorate a relationship. Once we realize that we are keeping close track of how many times we have done the dishes, how many times our partner has not, and how much time we have allowed these thoughts of resentful dishwashing to roll through our minds, we can then decide to shift out of it into a better place. 

#relationships #letitgo #positivechange

There is so much out there on ADHD already, though still many people are unclear about what is really going on in our fast minds. Often all we need is the basic gist to get it enough to make a positive change. That's true for most things. Join us to find out what ADHD is really all about.

#ADHD #ADHDAdult #ADHDAwareness

Psychology Today

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/optimized/202107/the-4-core-traits-adhd-explained

The double-edged sword: ADHD and impulsivity | Kimberly Quinn | TEDxAmoskeagMillyard

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=34rniXluGxY

Pay Yourself First is a phrase most commonly heard rolling out of the mouths of financial advisors, and is certainly some sound advice. What we are talking about in this episode; however, is prioritizing yourself and taking care of you. This can be difficult for some of us, and so we need to take that first step this year to lean into our own self value. 

#selfcareisnotselfish #selflove2023 #selfcompassion2023

We wouldn’t think of taking a $100-dollar bill and lighting a match to it, yet we so often carelessly spend our valuable life-minutes as if there were an endless supply. Anxiety-chatter steals valuable life-minutes by taking one out of the present moment. Worry is the rehearsal of anxiety-chatter which strengthens each time one allows it. Here are ten tips to stop losing your life-minutes to worrying.

#anxiety #worry #positivechange 

Psychology Today link to the article:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/optimized/202206/stop-wasting-your-life-minutes-worrying

Learning how to practice positive stress filtering will not only do wonders for ourselves, but will also naturally leak into our relationships. As we start to get better at this, we become less reactive, less judgmental, more forgiving, and better listeners. Not only that, but we become much more fun to be around.

#stressreduction #mindfulness #happiness

We now know that mindfulness is a key player in reducing anxiety, depression, and physical pain. Some people; however, still think of mindfulness as a touchy-feely concept that has been grossly exaggerated. Neuroscientific research with brain scans has now provided the evidence to support mindfulness as a way to heal the mind, body, and spirit, as well as a gamut of other benefits which can last a lifetime. 

#mindfulness #anxietyreduction #presentmoment 

Have you ever realized part way through the day that you were crabby and didn't know why? Though there are many things that can influence one's mood, two of the biggies are clutter and overall disorganization. Taking small steps to tidy things up can do wonders for one's mental health.

#declutter #fengshui #mentalhealth

Sarah Camille Wilson of Champlain College, speaks to us about the natural integration of physical exercise into our daily lives without this feeling like a military drill. She explains to us how we can weave movement into our lives in ways that are hardly noticeable, such as commuting via bicycle to work, and something she refers to as walking meetings. Camille talks of the importance of mindfulness when moving the body and feeling the physical sensations of the air, your feet touching the ground or bicycle pedals, as well as your breathing. "When fully in the present moment while moving your body," Camille says, "there is virtually no room for anxiety." Integrating mindful movement is grounding and something we can all benefit from when working this into our daily lives. Lastly, Sarah Camille winds up the discussion with the concept of "constructive rest," differentiating this from "passive rest" such as binge-watching Netflix. Constructive rest such as cooking, gardening, journaling, or playing a musical instrument tends to be rejuvenating versus depleting.

#mindfulness #lifeintegration #mindbodyconnection

A scarcity mindset is one of lack and deprivation, which leads to the feeling that we do not have enough of something. If we allow this mindset to drive the bus, we will be forever locked into a place of fear, worry, deprivation, and an overall feeling of being perpetually defeated. Not an enjoyable way to live.

#scarcity #mindset #money 

Many of us begin our day in a frenzy, rushing out of our warm bed, rushing through what would otherwise be an enjoyable cup of coffee, and then we jump in the car "running just a few minutes late." 

Happiness is a living emotion, one that can be strengthened when it is made a priority. By focusing on what makes us feel genuinely good, and weeding out what makes us feel badly, we can gain clarity that helps to guide us along the path to authentic happiness. Happiness is a lifestyle made up of daily choices.

#happiness #happinessisachoice #happinesslifestyle

Many people hang on to their past as if it were some sort of medal of honor, a Purple Heart of adversity. What they often do not understand, is that doing so is at the expense of their destiny and living their very best life. When we allow the same old thoughts, these then lead to the same old feelings, and then the resulting behavior. Basically, nothing changes. It's time for a new story.

In general, the wonderful three-pound organ we call the mind is largely taken for granted. We will take the time to nurture a house plant, yet we do not prioritize nurturing the mind, the thought-generator that creates the lives we live. The power of the nurtured mind is grossly underestimated. By training the mind we can channel it's power and live our very best life!

#mindcraft #liveyourbestlife #positivechange

We have a tendency to think that we are born how we are born. That's it. Dazzling or doomed. This is especially true when we think of personality, a pattern of characteristics that develop over time, shaped by genetics as well as the environment we grew up in. Well, new research shows that some reprogramming is possible with imagination, commitment, and follow through.

#personality #positivechange #growthmindset

It can be quite easy to lose track of what we want versus what we need, as we live in a culture struggling with the "disease of wanting." We must first distinguish what we want from what we need, and to further separate authentic wants from those that do not nurture the spirit. It is also important to realize that life happens for us and not to us. This means that nothing happens in our lives by accident, as it all unfolds exactly as it is meant to based on our authentic needs and wants. Do you have everything you need right now? What about you authentic wants, your heart's desires?

#authenticself #authenticity #liveyourbestlife

Seasonal Soulcrafting is about knowing your own value, appreciating your life-minutes, and using them wisely. This means to dive head first into the conversation, spiced eggnog, gingerbread houses, and decorated cookies. It means to immerse ourselves into the moment fully and with gratitude. Nurturing the spirit is about prioritizing what makes us feel good, while also strategically avoiding what brings us down. It means letting things go and moving forward. Seasonal soulcrafting is a skill and a form of art that requires commitment and creativity.  

#soulcraft #holidayjoy #holidayhappiness

Many people are not aware that the attention they are giving to their cell phones, while in the company of others, is causing damage to their relationships.  The irony is that we tend to be aware of being annoyed when we are ignored by a cell phone user, yet not so much when we are the offenders. The other irony here is that cell phones are a vehicle for connection, when in fact, they more often cause disconnection from real human relationships.

#cellphoneaddiction #phubbing #unplugthedrug 

Our birthdays only swing around once a year, and it is so important that we stop and take the time to reflect upon the past year. Let's face it. Lots has happened since this time last year, some good and some not so much. For those born near Christmas, this can be especially important, as we often tend to get swept up in the holiday blur without the opportunity to celebrate ourselves in the way we would like. Creating our own birthday ritual is a gift to the authentic self, from the authentic self. 

#Christmasbirthday #selfreflection #authenticself

Gratitude is the fast track to happiness and inner peace. It gets even better when we express our gratitude to others, which is your basic win-win situation. For the next seven days, tell someone in your life why you are grateful for who they are and/or for what they did. Watch what happens.

#gratitude #relationships #innerpeace

Many of us cling to control as if our fingers were made of Velcro. We work hard at zooming in on our desired outcome and how to make what we want to happen, happen. When we lose this "illusion" of being in control we get anxious, anxious over losing the control we didn't have to begin with.

#lossofcontrol #codependency #letitgo

It can be easy to forget that the holidays are difficult for lots and lots of people. There are those who have experienced a recent death in the family, a divorce that  has thrown a wrench in how all of it happens from now on, job loss, and just plain loneliness. Though it may seem easier to shy away from tradition, psychologically this can make things much better by the comfort routines bring.

#holidaytradition #holidayssuck #holidayhealing

Dr. Lindsey Godwin explains to us that the popular concepts of IQ and EQ (emotional intelligence) will no longer suffice as far as the prediction of success in our fast-paced, distracted, and perpetually disrupted world. Experiential intelligence (a.k.a.-a Ph.D. in life), now offers a new component to intelligence by including the wisdom we acquire from our own life experiences. Dr. Godwin also throws a twist in the mix by challenging us to ask ourselves why we tend to focus on learning solely from failure, rather than by our successes. Her advice for us is two-fold; we can learn to reframe our failures as opportunities for growth, and we can first examine and then cultivate more success by focusing on our strengths and what has worked thus far.

Dr. Lindsey Godwin is the Academic Director of the Cooperrider Center for Appreciative Inquiry, as well as a Professor for the Stiller School of Business at Champlain College in Burlington, VT.

#appreciativeinquiry #growthmindset #experientialintelligence

So often we dismiss the importance of a good nap, and even may label a napper as lazy. This nap-shaming  can work as a deterrent to practicing self-care, when in reality, the mind needs rest from the noisy world and perpetual stimulation. Taking a break is never a waste of time. It prevents burnout.

#takeabreak #takeanap #selfcare

When we allow ourselves to be dependent on how others think about us, whether it be positive or negative, the message is "What they think of me is more important than what I think of me." We have been pulled out of our own frame by making our needs dependent of the good or bad opinions of other people. This means that we will be uncomfortable or even debilitated if these needs go unmet, which is inevitable since doing so gives up our personal power on a silver platter.

#authenticity #codependency #personalpower 

In our fast-paced society, it is all too easy to get swallowed up whole by the noise and busy-ness of everything going on around us. When we do so, we lose track of our own inner conversations about where we are in life and what our heart desires most.

#solitude #overwhelmed #innervoice

It seems that some people tend to think that not being sick means you're healthy. There is much more to being in good health than not having a disease, such as strength, vitality, vigor, lots of physical and emotional energy, as well as the energy to creatively express oneself.

#wealthishealth #gratitude #healthyliving 

First, we need to think about what we would like to bring into our lives. Ask yourself, "What is my heart's desire?" Next, we need to listen attentively to that voice within us as it responds to our authentic request. And then, respond to each tiny little message moving us towards our desire with heart-felt gratitude.  Listen to these inner whispers, as they are the vehicles which align us with our authentic purpose.

#innervoice #synchronicity #authenticpurpose

Becoming an anthropologist means, "being interested, without judgment, in the way other people choose to live their lives and behave (Carlson, 1997)" Doing so for the "regular Joe," means to become an interested observer of the behavior of others without wanting to throw something at them. It means to take a step back and to separate the person from the behavior. It means to practice patience daily, and without secretly feeling better than the other person.

#nonjudgmental #difficultpeople #innerpeace

When your mood is low for an extended period of time, it is important to explore what the role of orderliness (or lack there of) of your living space may have to do with how you feel. It can be very difficult to think clearly when one is constantly surrounded by clutter, as well as the chaos and confusion that it brings along with it. It is best not to think of this as a military drill, dutifully tackling a list of chores, but rather as the laying of a foundation for the new and wonderful life you are creating.

#cultivatecontentment #fengsui #positivelifechange

Quiet quitting is a phrase, in the wake of the "Great Resignation," that has most recently been used to describe employees who have trimmed their daily work tasks to those that are solely part of their job descriptions. No more and no less. There is no more going above and beyond because, well, they no longer care. This episode will discuss what quiet quitting looks like and what leaders can do to prevent it from happening.

#quietquitting #positiveleadership #workplacehappiness

In order to land on that one thing that we were put on this earth to do, we must understand the greatness within ourselves. 

#meaning #purpose #authenticity

Sometimes we wait to "do something big" for the world, when it is the smaller things we do that truly count the most. Also, putting off being kind is never a good idea anyway. Lowering the bar to the doable will ensure that it happens, one kind act at a time. 

#kindness #generosity #peace

Despite what we may think, we have lots of control over the quality of our day. Though things may happen throughout the day, we can always make a choice to start over at at any moment. When we shift our attitude, we shift our energy and what we put out there.

#mindpower #positivechange #liveyourbestlife

People often think of a sense of purpose as being big and huge, such as joining up with the Peace Corps or running for a government office. Though this can be the case, purpose can also be found in the simple tasks of daily life. It all counts and feeds our well-being like fertilizer. Here's the ticket, a life without a sense of meaning and purpose is a straight road to depression, or at the very least, sadness. 

#meaning #purpose #liveyourbestlife

Let's face it. Many of us are zipping around like gerbils on crack, wrapped up in the details of our daily lives and overwhelmed by all of it. Meanwhile, our valuable life-minutes are getting swept up the compulsive urge to answer every email, show up every PTO meeting, and to check boxes with acquaintances who we would never see again if we moved out of state. In the end, these things do not matter one bit. Decide each day what is worthy purchase of your precious life-minutes.

#authenticity #lifeminutes #liveyourbestlife 

One great thing about a "skill" versus a "talent," is that anyone can learn a new skill, practice it, and then get better at whatever it is they are trying to achieve. This is no different with learning the skill of creating boundaries. The ability to set boundaries is also intricately tied to one's own self worth.

#settingboundaries #selfworth #codependencyrecovery

As we move along the path to greater positivity, we can forget that the goal is to remain relaxed and focused on the present moment. The last thing we want to do is create "mindfulness pressure" for ourselves, as this would obviously be counter-productive. The idea is certainly not to do these strategies perfectly, as perfection is self-abusive, but rather to set the bar at "do your best." And, self-compassion not only makes life more pleasant for us, but for those around us as well.

#selfcompassion #happiness #innerpeace

Overseriousness has become a large scale problem, as those locked into this mentality are perpetually residing in a "State of Emergency." Here's the thing; life is NOT an emergency, thankfully. In fact, the high majority of the time, life is not even an emergency. Yet many of us sit there ready to push that flashing red button over someone not responding to our text or being left out of the office party. It is not necessary or healthy to live life at DEFCON-4. Lighten up.

Our concept for success is often skewed which therefore makes it appear unattainable. The very idea of success can feel simple yet complicated at the same time. First, we need to understand that success follows happiness and not the reverse, as only once we are truly happy can we be successful. Next, we need to realize success requires two things, patience and persistence. Persistence is the sweat of achievement.

#success #purpose #happiness

When we allow for purposeful idle thinking, we free our minds up from the busy-ness of our lives. In a sense, we give our brain a break. For a brief time we are not pulled into the need to know, think, or act. We are idling like a car engine, turned on, though not moving forward. Once we become able to do this through practice, we actually enter back into the world as we know it stronger, more focused, and with the creative juices flowing.

#boredom #creativity #focus

We are the creators of our own reality, the captains of our ships. So often when we are thrown one of life's curveballs, we can forget that life does not happen TO us. Life happens FOR us. Life presents us with one quiz after another, and they keep coming until we pass them. Limitless people reside in a place of gratitude and alignment, understanding that each one of these quizzes brings with it an opportunity for growth.

People respect strength. Bottom line. When we come from a place of weakness such as reacting with emotion, victimizing ourselves, or attempting to persuade people how to treat us with words, it doesn't work. The reason it doesn't work is because people to not respect weakness. The most effective way to teach people how to treat us is with our behavior. This is where the strength is.

#codependency #personalpower #authenticity

Habits shape who we are. The first step is to get a visual for the type of person you would like to become. It is not so much about what change you want to make or how to go about it, but who you want the resulting individual to look like. When you envision the type of person you would like to be, how would you describe yourself? First draw the portrait, then ask.

#habits #atomichabits #positivechange

So often when we are trying to lean into a new healthy habit we set goals that we hope will be earth-shattering, and then when we don't see results fast enough we throw in the towel. We didn't reach the set goal for weight loss, money in the bank, days at the gym, etc. What we don't realize is that it is the small changes that build into the noticeable change, so we give up before these changes become visible. As it turns out, a mere 1 percent of improvement per day is all it takes.

#atomic habits #positivechange #selfimprovement

Politics are everywhere, no matter how positive the working environment. The variety of personalities we are surrounded by, as well as power differentials with those in charge, can sometimes lead us into what feels like an emotional and situational trap.  When we allow ourselves to get caught up in these dynamics, we often underestimate the drain on our well-being and overall life satisfaction. Here are some helpful tips to avoid getting sucked into the "workplace noise."

#workplacepolitics #workplacewellbeing #learnedoptimism

Often we focus on goals when trying to make the shift into better, healthier habits. We want to lose 20 pounds, save a certain amount of money each month, go to the gym 4 days each week, learn a new language, etc. Then, we do well for a while until the will power fades and all those post-NYE-resolution treadmills land themselves on Craig's list for a much reduced price. A much more effective and long-lasting way to make these changes is to decide the type of person you would like to be first.

#habitloop #positivechange #grit

We walk around making decisions all day long, some active and some passive. Active and purposeful decision-making contributes to our journey along the authentic path, whereas passive-decision-making can lead us into the sand trap. Just like anything else in life, becoming our best authentic selves takes effort and grit. What we prioritize will be successful. Listen to the heart, and then decide with the mind based on what aligns with your personality and purpose. Make this a daily practice and there will be no stopping you.

#authenticity #purpose #meaning

Much like parenting, being a leader in the professional workplace is not a "one size fits all" situation. We would not parent a teenager the same way we would a 5-year-old, or a young adult the same way we would parent a teenager. Each developmental stage of life brings with it different needs and this is also true in the professional workplace. To manage an employee fresh out of college (or a millennial with some work experience), the same as we would a seasoned mid-lifer is not effective leadership. Authentic leadership means to meet the employee where they are, with understanding, kindness, and compassion. Authentic leaders inspire us to achieve, create, and produce by the respect they earn and by the examples they set. 

#effectiveleadership #authenticleadership #workplacewellness

We wish for and ask for good things to happen in our lives. We want a job, a better job, a promotion, a new location, more money, a new partner, a new apartment or house, yet there is often no space in our lives for anything new and exciting to enter. 

#abundance #abundancementality #authenticity

Creativity is something we all have in us, all of us. Many of us block our creative energy because the thought of trying something new and putting ourselves out there feels risky. We tell ourselves we are not creative like other people. We say that we don't have the time. We get stuck in the limited thinking that being creative means solely to paint, write, or sculpt. These are excuses blocking what comes naturally. When we deny our creative energy, we are burying our authentic selves alive. Being receptive to our inner creative voice makes all things possible.

#innerartist #creativity #authenticity

We often hang on to a grudge because we think this gives us power. Sometimes we want to secretly (or not so much) punish the wrong-doer for the pain they caused us. Ironically, when we hang on to a grudge, we are actually handing over our power to the offender . . . and on a silver platter. We give them another piece of us even after all they had taken when they hurt us. Hanging on to grudges therefore keeps the pain alive and current. By hanging on to our past pain and history, we are prevented from achieving all who we were meant to be. While in the tight grip of a grudge, we are prevented from fulfilling our destiny.

#resentment #forgiveness #letitgo

According to Dr. Lisa Miller, author of the "Awakened Brain," there are two modes of awareness. She and her research team have found that the spiritual brain is a healthier brain, and the neurological ingredients of the awakened brain can now be seen on a brain scan. This means that spiritual awakening is a choice which we have the agency to make throughout the day at any moment. We can choose how we perceive the world, ourselves, and how we fit into the big scheme of it all.

#awakenedbrain #spiritualawareness #meaning

As it turns out, when we do good things for other people it causes structural changes in the brain that can protect us against depression. This concept of "relational spirituality" is based on the two universal phenotypes of altruism and loving your neighbor as yourself. Brain scans have actually shown that those reporting "strong spiritual importance" have a thicker cortical lining than those who do not. Also, the parts of the brain responsible for reflection and making the connection between self and its place in the external world are far more active in those who report an enriched spiritual life. Depression can result in a thinner cortical lining, and the areas where reflection and connection take place to be much less active and even disengaged. The good we do for others benefits us right down to the neurons.

*Author's note: "Othering" is this episode refers to doing conscious acts of kindness for other people, which is based upon the mindset of oneness and Divine connection. 

Reference: Lisa Miller (2021)-The Awakened Brain

#depression #spirituality #altruism

We have certainly known about the detriments of depression for a very long time, physically and mentally. Now, we are becoming increasingly aware of how spirituality affects the brain and how these structural changes may serve as a protective buffer against the black hole of depression.

#Spirituality #theawakenedbrain #depression

Benjamin Hoff explains to us that, "A fly can't bird, but a bird can fly." On some level we all know this, though we continue to force round pegs into square holes out of our own stubborn will to do so. On some level we know this, though we allow ourselves to be seduced by external messages that steer us away from our authentic compass.

#authenticcompass #meaning #purpose

For some of us, our family of origin just didn't work out. There may have been addiction, dysfunction, neglect, and/or blatant abuse. We may have tolerated being mistreated for years, because as children we did not have a choice. Now we do.  Though we obviously could not control the family we were born into, we can absolutely control who we allow into our lives as adults. We can choose to create a new family, one that is made up of good people who bring unconditional love and kindness to our lives. Family is not defined by genetics and lineage, but rather by who we love and who loves us. That's it.

#chosenfamily #toxicparents #dysfunctionalfamily

So often we let our fear drive us. We fear failure, becoming unhealthy, dying, being alone, embarrassed, humiliated, or being found out such as with "imposter's syndrome." There is lots of fear out there and it tends to lure us off track by throwing us into self-preservation mode. Once we learn how to change our relationship with fear, we can use fear to tap into the best parts of ourselves.

#fear #avoidance #positivefearmindset

The ego is the evil twin of the authentic self. Much like the emperor seduces young Anakin Skywalker with something to the effect of, "There is no good or evil; there is  only power, " we are pulled in by the false self as it can be enormously rewarding in the moment. Then, there is a half life, as each and every time we cave into the needs of the ego we strengthen it. The strengthened ego then pulls us further away from our authentic self and into a cycle of continuous false self-talk and suffering. An unchecked ego is dangerous and can be harmful to our spiritual health.

#ego #falseself #authenticity

Many of us can relate to the feeling of unwanted and intrusive thoughts flying across our minds like howler monkeys swinging from vine to vine in the rain forest. As it turns out, we have approximately seventy thousand separate thoughts each day. In addition, our minds are only present in this moment for about 3 seconds before we wander off either forward or backward, filling our precious present moments with past experiences or anticipating what the future may bring. The goods news is that with rigorous training the mind can be taught to think and behave the way we want it to. With diligent practice, we can become a "mind Jedi." A calm mind is a powerful mind.

#Monkeymind #MindJedi #presentmoment

Many times we try to run someone else's race. We see them being successful doing whatever and decide that we want what they have, or we want to do something similar to what they are doing. Often we'll read self-help books on how to improve this or that, or how to start your own business. The thing is that we can achieve what we set our minds to, but only to a degree. Authentic fulfillment can only be obtained by living out our own Dharma, running our own race. The recipe for this is the alignment of passion and personality with purpose.

#dharma #passion #purpose

Negativity is more contagious than rabies and there is no vaccine, unfortunately. In order to develop immunity to the "Negative Nellies" out there we must be hypervigilant of the types of negativity which exist, as this will help us to manage these interactions. It has been said that "Misery loves company," and this is a myth. "Misery loves miserable company." Breathing in negativity is as bad as breathing in second-hand smoke. Don't do it.

#negativityiscontagious #stopcomplaining #goodvibesonly

When we think about how much time we spend in our living space, it makes great sense to have this be as enjoyable as possible . . . kind of like a good mattress. It should be comfortable, inviting, and leaving us feeling relaxed and rejuvenated after spending time there. Personal creative expression (not your wallet) is the key to making your living space pleasure-full, a room (or rooms) you can't wait to be in.

#creativehomedecorating #pleasure #artisticselfexpression

Often we sit back thinking that others are simply born more patient, honest, kind, or whatever. Many times we don't stop to realize that we can improve these things with commitment and practice just like playing the violin, learning Italian, or anything else. Where we choose to put our energy is where we succeed. It's really that simple.

#practicepatience #authenticjourney #liveyourbestlife

We can dramatically under estimate some of the small things we can do to increase our level of personal happiness. One of these seemingly small things is to create some personal space of our own. Even in the smallest of apartments we can put our fingerprint on a space, and the impact this can have on our mental health and ability to create is huge. In order to keep ourselves filled up we must have a space to call our own.

#importancepersonalspace #creativeself #selfcareisNOTselfish

We are currently living in a culture where violence has become prevalent. School shootings have become such a frequent occurrence that children are now afraid to go to school for fear of being shot. Automatic weapons of mass destruction are landing in the hands of mentally ill teenaged boys and young men. These shooters have a profile. Most are between 18-23 years of age. They were usually bullied, socially ostracized, and left a trail of verbal and written clues prior to each massacre. Most had "rehearsed" violence in some way. Though it is certainly complicated, the main source of this extreme violence is severe disconnection, which as human-beings we need as much as we need to breathe oxygen. In the absence of connection, there will always be suffering. "Hurt people"-hurt people. We need to get to the source, and fast.

#schoolshooting #Robbelementaryschool #disconnectionsuffering

Control is an illusion, and our need for control stems from the fear-driven ego. We often try to control people, relationships, circumstances, and what others say and do in an attempt to alleviate our own fear and anxiety. When we "win" control we feel safe and secure, and with this temporary "success" we are relieved. This feeling of relief serves as a strong reinforcer that leads us to striving for more external control. It is a vicious ego-driven cycle which leaves us emotionally unsatisfied and craving the next control-fix. Letting go of control is key to inner peace and personal freedom.

#lettinggo #innerpeace #personalfreedom

So often we find ourselves waiting for life to slow down enough for us to do what we are passion about, what makes our hearts sing. This is true for the bigger creative ideas such as starting a new business, as well as for the simple pleasures that bring us joy such as painting or playing the guitar. As far as any of us know, life is not a dress rehearsal . . . Stop waiting for things to slow down and pick up that paint brush or guitar, even if only for a few minutes. 

#simplepleasures #stopprocrastinating #liveyourbestlife

To achieve authentic success, one must commit to listening to and following the internal driving forces of persistence and determination. If you have your sights set on gathering life's honey, you must plan on dipping your hand into the hive again and again, and trudge forth through getting repeatedly stung. This is the only way to truly know the sweet taste of authentic success.

#Taoofsuccess #authenticsuccess #resilience

There are all sorts of definitions out there for what it means to be professional. These invisible rules reside in an invisible book, in an invisible desk, and were created by invisible people. And, most of these are norms from ages ago which have not been updated in decades. For some reason, we have gotten the message that we need to leave our feeling-self at home, and that showing emotion could have dire consequences. Bringing our whole human-self to work, complete with our imperfections, is the gift that keeps on giving. Doing so will increase employee creativity and productivity. Why? Because we feel a sense of genuine connection.

#emotionalprofessionalism #genuineconnection #workplacehappiness 

In can be so easy to get caught up in the constant pursuit of wanting more-more food, more drinks, more money, another promotion, a bigger house, and maybe even a better partner. When we do so, we can get stuck in the thrill of the chase, the perpetual state of striving. This mindset of striving for more then pushes happiness right over the cognitive horizon.

#enoughisenough #lessismore #abundance

This is not a new concept. Not at all, and many successful people out there have been well aware of and talking about this idea for ages. When we allow our authentic personality to align with what the Universe has in store for us, we become limitless. When we are driven by high-octane passion there is nothing, or "no-thing" we cannot do.

#passion #dowhatyouloveandthemoneywillfollow #limitless

Letting go can seem so difficult, though it is really quite easy once we make the decision to do so. Also, just as with anything else, once we commit to practicing the skill of letting go we get better at it. Detaching from outcomes throughout our day leads to authentic confidence and inner peace. Assume things will work out and they will. 

#letitgo #detachfrom outcomes #authenticity

It seems that there are times when we seemingly cannot get out of our own way. We spend so much time looking for the answers outside of ourselves when of course they cannot be found there. We can be guided around be ego-driven falsity about the many ways we do not measure up, how we are not enough, or on the extreme end . . . how we are a shameful and despicable creature.

#theenemywithin #falseself #authenticity

We live in a culture where the "dis-ease of wanting" is highly contagious, especially during the holiday season. In fact, we are seduced daily by the shiny objects and services popping up on the computer and television. Advertisers are constantly trying their very best to convince us that we "need" these things, and when we bite that hook we hand over our power and agency to be happy and fulfilled. This is because the dis-ease of wanting leads us to the hamster wheel of striving, where we never quite reach a finish-line. There is no closure as we are always pursuing the next best thing. We keep striving for something, and then the next something, until we exhaust ourselves and either jump off or die striving. 

#diseaseofwanting #lessismore #humility

Most of us would not willingly light a match and set fire to a $100 bill, yet we don't give much thought to how we go about wasting many of our valuable life-minutes each day. We spend much of our day responding to unnecessary email and text messages, or with "third string people" out of mere obligation. We sit back and passively watch screens, while hours of our valuable life-minutes  get sucked down the worm-hole of social media and the internet in general. We are voluntarily and passively giving up our present moments, our most valuable possessions, and they will never return again. Ever.

#lifeminutes #beherenow #presentmoment

A highly focused mind is key not only for achieving success in the martial arts, but for life in general. With the vehicle of martial arts, Ed Cafferty explains how powerful a mind can be when it is calm and focused on the present moment. He also makes us aware of the critical role the mind plays in the effectiveness of body movement and reaction time. Learning to harness this power expands well beyond the martial arts and can improve our relationships, creativity, productivity, and overall well-being. Where the mind is, so is the power.

Ed Cafferty has taught a variety of courses at Champlain College for over twenty years. Among his favorites are “Human Rights,” and “Ethics and the Environment.”  Ed has studied and taught various martial arts for thirty-three years, and has practiced mindfulness meditation for most of his adult life. He believes that mindfulness meditation is the cornerstone of the foundation for training to become a “Mind Warrior”.

It can be all to easy to get yanked out of our own frames and into the frames of others, where we learn to need and depend on external approval. This gives us a temporary "feel good" fix that has us yearning for more, leading us into a cycle of approval-chasing which pull us out of our frames and away from the authentic self.

#codependency #approvalseeking #peoplepleasing #diseasetoplease

We all go through transitions from middle school to high school, high school to college, then on to the workforce, and maybe marriage and children. There are also transitions that involve loss and grief such as changes in relationships, big moves leaving all things familiar behind, and sometimes death of a loved one. For some reason, it seems that there is an unwritten rule that allows us only so much time to adjust, heal, regroup, and re-enter the world like a brand new penny. We often cave into these societal or familial norms even when our inner voice is trying very hard to lay on the brakes. If we need time, we need time. That's it.

#lifetransitions #selfcompassion #socialcomparison

In order to live your best life it is essential to learn to become the "boss of your brain." Thoughts come first, feelings second, and then behavior. Therefore, our thoughts dictate our every day experience. The mind can be re-wired out of its anxiety and depression, though just like anything else, this takes commitment and practice.

#bossofyourbrain #liveyourbestlife #mindpower #gratitudeiskey 

It can be so easy to ride along with the rapid current of life, getting caught up in the expectations and responsibilities it brings. The very thought of trying to slow it all down can seem overwhelming and darned near impossible. Taking steps to make small changes is the key. Slowing it all down brings back our sense of control, reduces anxiety, and returns us to balance and inner peace.

#downshift #slowdown #lifebalance

It is amazing that when we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change. Many of us have experienced adversity and perhaps trauma in our lives, and all too often we allow these cracks and chips we've acquired to define us. We can sometimes carry these stories with us like a heavy briefcase or barbell. When we learn to see the beautiful in the broken, we are able to set down this heaviness and delight in the magnificence that mends the cracks and makes us whole. We can become even more radiant than we were before.

#brokenandbeautiful #trauma #kintsugi

For some reason, many of us have a difficult time looking in the mirror and liking what we see. We glance up and down and from side to side, scanning for imperfections. Then the dialogue starts with all the ways we don't measure up and about how much farther along we thought we'd be by this time in our lives. These messages are coming from deep in the vault of the unconscious mind. Thankfully, we can develop our own malware to rid the mind of these negative mental viruses, and reprogram our hard-drive to think, feel, and live our best lives.

#selfacceptance #selflove #rewirethebrain #mindpower

Our ability to prioritize our own self-care is directly related how much we value ourselves. People will often say that what keeps them from indulging themselves is time, family responsibilities, this and that, all of which may be true. However, the umbrella over these most often involves a component that is missing which is self-value. When we are not feeling worthy underneath it is very difficult to show ourselves love and compassion, to treat ourselves well and even to pamper ourselves with treats. We are not talking about being frivolous, just thoughtful and kind to ourselves. It is our number one job to fill ourselves up, as we also cannot give what we do not have.

#selflove #worthiness #wholeness #selfcare

Many of us allow our negative thoughts to take over much like a snowball picks up momentum rolling down a hill. With every small advancement it gets heavier and faster, until it begins to take on a life of its own. As the thoughts we allow dictate how we then feel, it is of utmost importance to become aware of this "thought attack" when it begins. We must notice when we under this siege of friendly-fire so that we can nip this in the bud. It takes awareness and diligent effort to rewire the brain. The good news is that whatever we practice, we inevitably get good at. Practice. Practice. Practice.

#snowballeffect #stopnegativethinking #rewirethebrain #positivepsychology

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The pandemic has dramatically changed nearly everything about how Americans view work. What has changed--where we work, when we work, as well as how  we define a "workday." Working out of the home can also be a boundary-less existence, with our daily career related tasks bumping up against piles of dirty laundry and the demands of children. Though it is complicated, it is doubtful that our societal exhaustion and now burn-out can be disputed. This has left us in a zombie-state, fogged over and no longer aware of what it means to "take a break," or how important this much need brain-rest is for our overall well-being and productivity. Learn to rest not quit.

#thegreatresignation #takeabreak #brainrest #happiness

In an age where well-being and taking care of oneself have made their way to the forefront of conversation, it seems that generativity may have taken a backseat. In reality, happiness and well-being are about balance. It is a simple fact that we cannot give what we do not have, and it is therefore of utmost importance to keep ourselves "filled up." That said, when we are maintaining a "full bucket" of authentic energy, it is very important to embrace generativity as a super-power, to find moments to give of ourselves generously where we put others before ourselves. It is also important to differentiate between "mind-full giving" versus "mind-less giving," as one is authentic and life-giving, while the other is ego-driven and depleting.

#generativity #mindfulgiving #wellbeing

We may think that invulnerability is a superpower as it makes us look strong (at least we think it does). However, in reality people back away from those donning emotional armor and pseudo-strength, as these people are unrelatable to us. Being vulnerable means being human, and being human means to be connected. Connection is among the most basic of human needs, something we need just as much as breathing oxygen. By dropping the armor we open the door for genuine connection, and, people will like you better.

#vulnerability #dropyourarmor #genuineconnection

There seems to be much discussion out there these days about "brands." This often refers to making your mark with social media and then maintaining consistency with whatever it is that you are either doing or selling. A "brand" can also be attached to what each of us brings to the table, so to speak, as far as authenticity and purpose. We can expand our brand to bring success into everything we do.

#expandyourbrand #authenticity #findyourpurpose

Many of us get a wave of negative emotion when the bills roll in. We can feel resentful, often defeated as we work so hard, and that whoever the clown is who thinks he is funny sending us these nasty things has a very sick sense of humor. It can even feel as if we are being punished. By flipping the script on our "bill-paying mindset," we will increase our cash flow as well as lead much happier and more productive lives.

#moneyisyourfriend #abundance #prosperitymindset

We teach people how to treat us based on the our own thoughts about who we are. About 96 percent of our daily interactions are stemming from the subconscious mind, the vault. We walk around all day long largely unaware that we are seeking external approval and confirmation for these unconscious messages swirling around in the mind. This often keeps us stuck in a cycle of self-abandonment, victimhood, and engaging in a variety of unhealthy codependent behaviors preventing us from becoming the highest versions of ourselves. #codependency #peoplepleasing #rewirethebrain

We tend to zip around like gerbils on crack, walking from room to room while we are brushing our teeth, simultaneously doing whatever else we can to "multitask" and save time. Multitasking is actually a myth, as the brain is only capable of doing one thing at a time, so attempting this just leads to us becoming neurotic. Even worse, this prevents us from enjoying our valuable life-minutes.

#serentity #innerpeace #happiness

Dr. Scott Stevens joins us in leading a discussion on the newly pioneered concept of a “Metaverse” and the potential detriments to our well-being, with specific concern for teens and young adults. Dr. Stevens begins by defining the Metaverse as the coming together of the virtual world (social media, gaming platforms, online marketplaces, etc.), and the reality of the physical world as we know it. He then continues to explain that we are already knee deep in the Metaverse, literally able to interact with thousands of people from our living rooms. This has caused us to spend much of our time online, and Dr. Stevens states that, “the harmful effects of living online are just beginning to be understood.” Add to the mix the two years of global isolation induced by the pandemic, and we may postulate that the detrimental effects of online living have likely been exacerbated.  Further, he addresses the notion that each generation has scared and confused the previous generation, with the older generation perceived as overreacting. Dr. Stevens leaves us with some sobering insight and advice when he says, “Things are different now. Parents do indeed have something to worry about,” and that we need to become more aware of technological governance as well as ideas for limiting this damage.

Scott Stevens is a Professor of Mathematics and Dean of the Information Technology and Sciences Division at Champlain College.

#Metaverse #socialmediaaddiction #teendepression

Many people walk around spewing negativity into the atmosphere like second-hand smoke. Whining and complaining not only gets us nowhere but affects those around us. Like anything else this can be improved with practice, and this practice is one of shifting our attention to what is going well in our lives. A grateful heart does not have room for anxiety, self-deprecation, or whoa-is-me thinking. An attitude of gratitude also attracts more good things from the Universe. Now is the time to make a change.

#attitudeofgratitude #stopcomplainingnow #happiness

Lisa Mazzariello entertains a discussion with us on learning to become your own biggest fan. Mazz explains that one of the key components to this is acknowledging the self-talk rolling through the mind. By paying attention to this internal conversation, we can then work towards minimizing any negative dialogue preventing us from living our best lives. As Mazz works directly with young adult students, she is all too aware of how they often set the bar at “perfection” and beat themselves up when they feel they don’t measure up. “They are very tough on themselves,” says Mazz, and she explains that we need to educate and support our young adults in learning to go easier on themselves. We need to teach them about self-compassion, and what it means to wrap around yourself with warmth and empathy, to treat yourself with the same kindness that you would show to a best friend.

Lisa Mazzariello is the Assistant Vice President of Student Affairs, Diversity and Inclusion at Champlain College. She has more than 25 years of experience in student affairs, working closely with student engagement, crisis and emergency protocol, new student programs and LGBTQ, women, diversity and inclusion programming.  Lisa Mazz recognizes that being your own biggest fan and taking care of one's wellbeing is a work in progress, and hopes that this podcast will help others appreciate their journey in finding love and appreciation for yourself.

#Selfacceptance #Selflove #Selfcompassion

Learning to reside in the totality of who we are is key to living our very best lives. We cannot truly be happy if we do not accept ourselves as is. And, we cannot accept other people very easily if we do not accept ourselves as a whole and complete package. Perfectionists can be so incredibly hard on themselves, often not realizing the toll it can take on self-esteem and the ability to fully enjoy one's life minutes.

#perfectionism #selfacceptance #happiness #authenticity

Often people will approach us at work or wherever with their drama and may say something like, "So and so is driving me nuts and they did this and that. What do you think I should do?" Then, we respond right away which gets us hooked into a conversation that is not worthy of our valuable life-minutes. This is because we have been conditioned to "catch the ball" and we have become disconnected from the idea that this is, in fact, a choice. We can politely step out of this current, thereby reducing our own stress and navigating our day in a more positive direction. It's ok to drop the ball.

#stressreduction #anxietyreduction #healthyboundaries #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

Sometimes we can be pulled in by the success of others, wanting what they have and wondering how they got there. We might even be annoyed or jealous that success seems to come so much easier to others than it does to us. We try and try, yet sometimes we find ourselves spinning our wheels, leaving us feeling tired and defeated.

#authentichappiness #happinessfirst #bestlife22 #positivepsychology

Our lives are like a symphony of notes, beautiful individual moments running together to create the melody which is our life's storybook. In order to appreciate these individual moments we must learn to appreciate the pauses in between.

#lifebalance #authenticity #happiness #positivepsychology

For many of us, it is loads easier to forgive others than it is to forgive ourselves. We a hold a high and stiff bar when it comes to cutting ourselves any slack and letting go of old mistakes. But why? Listen and find out. Understanding what gets in the way is a big step it making it easier to make peace with our past mistakes and to move on with a new vigor for life.

No Need to Fix Me: I'm Not Broken | Kimberly Quinn | TEDxUStreetWomen

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KbgtvdsINMs&t=1s

#selfforgiveness #selflove #selfacceptance #Mindcraft #resilience #positivepsychology #happiness #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

The most important relationship we have is with ourselves. Without self-love, becoming the highest version of ourselves and living our best life is just not possible, as we cannot give away what we do not have. The internal dialogue we allow confirms what we already believe to be true about us and also teaches others how to treat us. #selflove #selflovedeficit #selfapproval #codependencyrecovery #innerchildhealing #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

We learn about ourselves early on by the grown-ups in our lives mirroring our value and all of the wonderful things about our unique selves. When this mirroring doesn't happen or comes up short, the result is often a deficit of self-love. This self-love deficit leaks into every aspect of our lives, our romantic relationships, friendships, parenting, work and school performance, as well as the ability to be creative and to chase our passion. We must reconnect with that sense of original worthiness we came into this world with if we truly want to live the highest version of ourselves.

#authenticself #selflove #originalworthiness #resilience #selfacceptance

No Need to Fix Me: I'm Not Broken | Kimberly Quinn | TEDxUStreetWomen

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KbgtvdsINMs&t=1s

Life is not an emergency, or even an urgency for that matter. Yet we allow the smallest of inconveniences and annoyances to pull us under on a daily basis. When we set aside "patience practice sessions" with realistic windows of time just as we would for practicing the piano, life becomes a whole lot more manageable and enjoyable.

#practicepatience #happiness #innerjoy #lifeisgood #selflove #noFOMO #resilience #calmmind #mindpower #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

,We grew up in an environment that shaped us in certain ways such as not to feel, trust, or know how be light and playful. Many of us grew up too fast and felt robbed of a care-free childhood. We learned to be our own worst critics and to question when things began to go too well for us, sometimes sabotaging ourselves to return to that comfortable baseline of chaos and intensity. We cannot do what we don't know; however, once we become aware we then become responsible. Once we know better we need to do better. It is time to break the cycle.

#ACOA #familyaddiction #codependency #innerchildhealing #resilience #breakthecycle #authenticity #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

It is so human to want and need to be actively listened to and understood, and because of this we are often driven very strongly to get other people to understand our own pain or where we are coming from. Ironically, when we seek to understand the other person's emotions or point of view first, we are most often rewarded with the attention and understanding we sought out in the beginning, only it is so much better as it was authentic and unsolicited.

#seektounderstand #activelistening #mindfulness #innerpeace #Authenticity #selfunderstanding #selfacceptance #selflove #worthiness #happiness #joy #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege 

It can be all too easy to seek out the cracks and holes in our lives and relationships and then try to "fix" them. This "weatherproofing" habit is not pleasant for those around us and can become a rather unlikeable trait if not acknowledged and redirected. Become mindful of this tendency and have way, way more inner peace.

#criticalpeople #nonjudgment #mindfulness #innerpeace #compassion #selflove #authenticity #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

We have been conditioned from early on to think that something must be wrong with us if we don't want to join in on the playground dodgeball game or hopscotch. Those kids who chose to recharge their elementary school selves by picking wildflowers, reading quietly, or watching dodgeball from the sidelines were often coerced right back into the thick of grade school stimulation. As adults, many of us still wrestle with these subliminal shaming messages, even though on some level we are aware that solitude is what we need. Solitude is rejuvenating. Solitude feeds the soul.

#solitude #quiet #introversion #bestill #happiness #joy #innerpeace #selfworth #selflove #selfacceptance #mindfulness #nonjudgment #gratitude #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

It can be easy once we are on the path to authenticity, to get excited about the progress we are making and then become frustrated that it is not coming together fast enough. We can become focused on setbacks rather than realizing that these challenges are part of the whole package leading to spiritual growth.

#selfcompassion #selflove #selfacceptance #authenticity #resilience #mentalhealthday #innerpeace #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

Those of us who grew up in an addicted and/or dysfunctional household often learned to judge ourselves without mercy. We became our own worst critics. This is because we grew up thinking and believing that we were not good enough. We then learned to turn these messages inward by seeking out evidence to confirm what we already believed to be true about ourselves.

#ACOA #familyaddiction #addictionrecovery 3selfjudement #selfcrticism #codependency #codependencyrecovery #innerchildhealing #resilience #selfvalue #selfworth #selflove #selfacceptance #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

Those of us who grew up in an addicted home more than likely became quite comfortable with deception. This may have been in the form of lies, cover-ups, inconsistency, or broken promises. Your family may have even instilled the importance of telling the truth as a virtue, leading to the concept of the truth losing its meaning entirely. The basic fact is that children learn from what they see and hear from their caregivers. If you grew up with deception this became normal and comfortable for you. Lying and deception became easy.

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Many of us who grew up in an addicted and/or dysfunctional home were forced to grow up too quickly, often not feeling like we were able to be a child. Children are like puppies, in that they are spontaneous and carefree. Spontaneity is also directly connected to one's ability to experience joy. When childhood is derailed by dysfunction, we are shaped in a way that is different from other children.

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We can sometimes very casually think and say things that are unaccepting of ourselves such as how we are too fat, too short, too tall, not good at whatever, not successful in school or the workplace. When this self-rejecting loop of negative internal dialogue is allowed to continue on autopilot, there is a high price to pay as far as our mental health, happiness, and success. Self-rejection leaks into every aspect of our lives like battery acid, corroding our self-image, relationships, and overall life satisfaction. Shifting into a place of self love and acceptance is essential to become the highest version of yourself and to live your best life.

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It can be so easy to seek out ways to feel important and to acquire a feeling of self-worth from doing good things for others. From the outside looking in this can appear to be a good thing, though in reality, when we are actively engaged in the "disease to please" it can leave us feeling empty, resentful, and emotionally bankrupt. 

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We often engage in "conversational editing" when someone is sharing a point of view that we disagree with. Much like a volcano erupts, we feel that "shenpa" surge from our toes which then rises upward through the body much like a thermometer in the summer heat. We often get so moved by this urge that we must let the other person know that what they are saying is not correct. Though engaging in a battle of the egos can be enormously rewarding in that moment, this "ego-fix" is at the expense of our inner peace.

#ego #innerpeace #mindfulness #authenticity #shenpa #letothersberight #kindness #happiness #joy #positivity #positiveeducation #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

Dr. Leslie Averill of Champlain College, speaks to us about designing a successful day much like an architect designs a building, from the ground up. The foundation is one of "progress not perfection," and can be achieved with any combination of 8 "success variables." Dr. Averill stands by the concept of building upon these success variables to strive for a day that is "OK" or "decent." It is also important to show ourselves compassion along this new path of well-being, as well as to acknowledge and self-affirm our own progress. Then, once we make progress with and master these smaller steps, the doors will open more easily for a "great" day.

Leslie Averill has spent the last two decades in higher education leadership working in roles such as Vice President of Student Life, Vice President of Academic Affairs and Chief Operating Officer.  She earned her doctorate from the University of Vermont in Higher Education Leadership and Policy Studies and is a self proclaimed life-long learner, outdoor enthusiast, and disciplined positivist.

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Dr. Valerie Esposito of Champlain College, speaks to us about the many benefits that getting out into nature has on our minds and bodies. Dr. Esposito explains that the mind and body are intimately connected, and how taking in fresh air for only 15 minutes not only reduces anxiety and depression, but boosts our immune systems as well. Dr. Esposito talks to us about the restorative power of something called “Shinrin-Yoku” (forest bathing), a Japanese technique which is as its name implies, a total immersion in the forest just as we would sink into a deep bubble bath.

“We can never have enough of nature."

~Henry David Thoreau.

Dr. Valerie Esposito has been the Program Director for the Environmental Studies and Policy program since 2010. She has a Valerie attended American University, earning a B.A. in Justice. She received an M.A. from Brown University in Environmental Studies. She obtained her Ph.D. in Natural Resources and Ecological Economics from the Gund Institute for Ecological Economics at the University of Vermont.  Her teaching interests include ecological literacy, education for sustainability, place-based learning and ecological economic policy implementation.   Valerie enjoys spending time  taking advantage of Vermont's playground with family and friends through skiing, biking, hiking, gardening and being in the woods with her dog. Reading and cultivating her inner yogini also keep her busy.

#Champlaincollege #Forestbathing #nature #mentalhealth #anxiety #reducestress #depression #reducedepression #gratitude #mindfulness #resilience #emotionalhealing #freshairbenefits #innerpeace #happiness #authenticity #selfcare #selfvalue #peace #solitude #Stmichaelscollege

The USA is home to 3.1 percent of the world's children, yet they are the consumers of roughly 40 percent of the world's toys. Though we can mean well as parents, teaching kids to associate stuff with love is not the best idea, and the clutter it causes can lead to anxiety and an overall lack of focus. Also, the inherent social comparison that occurs when seeing what other kids have can lead to sadness and depression. Role-modeling and teaching minimalism at a young age can lead to a higher level of authentic happiness and open the doors wide for creativity and innovation.

#minimalism #creativity #minimalistlifestyle #minimalistkids #consumerism #overindulgedkids #happiness #holidaycommercialism #materialism #authentichappiness #joy #innerpeace #lessismore #simplicity #simplicityparenting #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

It is of utmost importance to evaluate and filter out the company you keep much like you would clean a closet or attic. Our valuable life-minutes are limited each day, yet we often continue to do things out of obligation with people who do not give us a lift and whose company we simply no longer look forward to. Sometimes we even dread making a plan with someone which is a definite sign that they need to be demoted to the third string or even benched. Though there are certainly obligations in life that are essential, many of these relationships can be weeded out like weeds from a garden. It is also important to realize that when our lives are filled with unnecessary relational obligations we don't care much about, this leaves very little room for new relationships to enter into our lives.

#relationships #boundaries #relationshipobligation #newrelationships #connection #communication #lifeminutes #selfvalue #selfworth #worthiness #selflove #happienss #innerpeace #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

Dr. Lindsey Godwin explains to us that all change begins with asking that first question, whether this is larger organizational change in the workplace, or a desire to lose a few pandemic pounds. Change and questions are simultaneous moments, with awareness and intention being key to moving toward what we want. Dr. Godwin further explains that "words create worlds" and "images of the future inspire the action of today." We can choose what to focus on like a flashlight shines on an object.

Dr. Lindsey Godwin, The Robert P. Stiller Endowed Chair & Professor of Management  & Academic Director of the David L. Cooperrider Center for Appreciative Inquiry, Champlain College.

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It seems that many of us are on a secret mission to "get it all done" each day. We check email compulsively, making sure to respond to every one of these in order to prevent a pile up, the underlying fear that drives us. If we don't stay on top of each email we risk disappointing people and not acquiring their approval. Most of us also have a To-Do List of micro-tasks which includes a litany of boxes to check for work, as well as those for the partner, the kids, and the dog. It is as if we are in a hypnotic trance to complete all of this, as once complete we can then be happy, relaxed, enjoy inner peace, and spend time with those we love.  

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Many of us have a tendency to take life and ourselves way too seriously. We wake up on any given day expecting to have things be smooth with the ride into work, with getting the kids off to school, with meetings ending on time, getting that project completed, and remembering to take the chicken out of the freezer in the morning. When these things do not turn out as we expect, we often land at DEFCON Four rather than taking a few deep breaths over a longer day, a late project, and ordering a pizza. When we let go of expectations, we are better able to lighten up and enjoy our very valuable (and limited) life-minutes.

Put Yourself Out There

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Jared Cadrette, Director of Student Engagement at Champlain College, speaks to us about the importance of putting yourself out there. In this enjoyable, very lively interview, Jared discusses the importance of bringing your authentic self into everything you do, even (or especially) at work. Being anyone other than ourselves is acting and exhausting, Jared tells us, and letting your inner child out to play lightens up the atmosphere wherever you go. Play brings out the best in people. Being fun and goofy makes us relatable and approachable. Jared suggests that we let go of any fear of judgment and to just "put yourself out there." Putting ourselves out there leads to connection, the very essence of what it means to be human and the super-glue that bonds us together.

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Warren Sides, a professor of mathematics at Champlain College, speaks with us about the importance of connection. He is a firm believer that a solid relationship with the professor provides the foundation for learning to take place, as when a student feels comfortable and safe to explore new ideas and ways of thinking is when it all comes together. Professor Sides shares with us the different ways he empowers his students both in the classroom as well as with assignments. By bringing flexibility into the classroom, Professor Sides believes that he is role-modeling resilience, a skill set that students will benefit from long after they graduate. Many of our seasoned listeners out there may remember the rather old school "skill and drill" method of teaching math, outdated textbooks, worksheets, and red pens. Professor Sides cleverly merges his interest in positive psychology and the importance of mindset into his own "less is more" method of teaching math, setting students up for lifelong success.

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Many of us do not realize that our own worst enemy is often inside ourselves, the ego within. We can get wrapped up in people-pleasing and rescuing, continually seeking out external approval and admiration with our actions in a desperate attempt to feel "enough." Some of us become "emotional runners" with an ultra-busy schedule, preventing ourselves from feeling and looking at what keeps us away from getting to know our real selves. Why? Because we are afraid of what we might find. It might be too painful, so we keep filling these "soul holes" with temporary fixes (alcohol, shopping, etc.), as well as the endless hunt for external approval to replace what is missing inside.  The ego is the evil twin of the authentic self. Become an ego-slayer and watch your authentic self slide back into the driver's seat. There are not words to describe how it feels when your authentic self returns to power. 

No Need to Fix Me: I'm Not Broken | Kimberly Quinn | TEDxUStreetWomen

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We have been going full-tilt for nearly two years. Now, as the pandemic continues to play with us, just as a cat tosses around a wounded mouse, we question our recovery and if we will ever truly have rest. Much of this is also physiological, as the fight-or-flight response is meant to be temporary. When this becomes a chronic, everyday state of mind, we become desensitized to the cortisol running wildly through our veins, as well as the hypervigilance that accompanies it. The result is brain fog and a diminished ability for us to allow ourselves to fully relax, as our minds know that we need to keep one eye open just in case there is a new threat. 

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Is it hard for you to accept a compliment? Ever thought of why? Many of us have become conditioned to break eye contact and tap dance around the awkward moments surrounding a genuine compliment, as it often comes up as an "error message" to our minds. By learning how to invite this soul food into our hard drive, we can lean into a "cognitive reboot" which will recognize our new programming. In doing so, we allow ourselves to expand with our own value as it is mirrored for us. 

#originalworthiness #selfworth #selfvalue #compliments #authenticity #authenticself #authenticjourney #keepitreal #authentichappiness #beyourself #goodselfesteem #positiveselfimage #happiness #positivity #Champlaincollege #StMichaelscollege

Jean-Marie Severance, MS, an Operations Manager for the academic divisions of EHS (Education & Human Studies) and SSB (Stiller School of Business), speaks to us about the importance of cultivating a culture of well-being in the workplace. She explains that employees bring their whole selves to work with them. The parts of them that were all up night with a sick child are here, the parts dealing with an aging parent during a pandemic, as well as the parts that woke up to a broken (and very costly) hot water heater.  Jean-Marie discusses the importance of bringing humanness into leadership, meaning to refrain from blame and to encourage "falling up" from mistakes and failures by viewing these as something to be learned from. She also emphasizes the importance of true community, "breaking bread" with much needed organized lunches just to hang out with colleagues, as well as the idea that we all need to be seen and heard. When it comes down to it, we all need to feel valued. Valued employees are happy employees, and happy employees are productive employees.

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