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Join Alana, Kyle, and Tiera as they journey into the mission of uncovering God's truths and design for sexual freedom within marriage. They're going to be tackling some big questions. Things like why couples go into marriage feeling ill-equipped about sex, and how couples years into their marriages can find wholesome ways to spice things up.
From interviews, to "sex-timonies", and everything in-between- this is the Kingdom Sexuality podcast.
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105: OPPOSITES: Wants

Kingdom SexualityNov 14, 2022

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124: PATRON'S CHOICE! Why You Should Sleep Naked

124: PATRON'S CHOICE! Why You Should Sleep Naked

Huge shout out to our incredible Patrons for this episode choice! Thank you!! The KS team has a question for you: Have you ever thought about NOT sleeping in pjs? It's an interesting thing to think about if that's what you've always done, but it's something to consider! There are pro's and con's to sleeping naked, or with less clothes on, but one thing is certain- according to research the team did- those who sleep with less clothes have more sex!! So might be worth a conversation! Tune in as Tiera, Kyle, and Alana chat about why you should consider sleeping naked tonight!! If you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of the KS content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for the team? Send a DM or email them at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out their website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and the new Facebook Group! They're also on Patreon now! So support Kingdom Sexuality there for some exciting and exclusive perks! And, don't forget to leave them a review on Apple Podcasts! Links from today's episode: One Extraordinary Marriage: SLEEP NAKED Mattress Protector
Mar 27, 202335:49
123: Post Sex Clean Up... How??

123: Post Sex Clean Up... How??

The media shows us, when it comes to cleaning up after sex, that you can just kiss your partner and roll over for snuggles and snoozing. But alas. If you've been married for any length of time you'll know that there's a bit more to it than that. Or, if you're engaged and no one has ever told you what it looks like to "clean up" after being intimate- this episode is for you. Alana, Tiera, and Kyle really casually and practically go through what it looks like to properly clean up after intercourse. They also share how YOU, their followers on Instagram, clean up after sex! Excited for you to take a listen! If you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of the KS content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for the team? Send a DM or email them at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out their website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and the new Facebook Group! They're also on Patreon now! So support Kingdom Sexuality there for some exciting and exclusive perks! And, don't forget to leave them a review on Apple Podcasts! Links from today's episode: DudeWipes Drip Stick
Mar 20, 202320:07
122: Great Sex-Pectations

122: Great Sex-Pectations

Time to talk expectations... but around sex. Did you go into your marriage with set expectations when it came to sex? How did you find navigating it? Do you and your spouse talk about expectations now? Expectations not shared are usually expectations unmet. So how can we navigate having these conversations well? Tune in as Tiera, Kyle, and Alana chat about healthy "sex-pectations". If you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of the KS content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for the team? Send a DM or email them at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out their website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and the new Facebook Group! They're also on Patreon now! So support Kingdom Sexuality there for some exciting and exclusive perks! And, don't forget to leave them a review on Apple Podcasts! Links from today's episode: Faithful Counseling
Mar 13, 202329:37
121: Tiera's Sextimomy!

121: Tiera's Sextimomy!

It's time to get to know the newest member of the Kingdom Sexuality team! Tiera!! In this episode she shares her journey, specifically in the area of intimacy, and how she's grown in those areas. She is going to bring such a wealth of knowledge to the team, specifically in the areas of trying to conceive, fertility, and women's sexual health. Alana and Kyle are absolutely thrilled to have her along during this wild ride. The Lord brought her along at such an amazing time and there's no doubt she's the perfect fit for Kingdom Sexuality. If you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of the KS content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for the team? Send a DM or email them at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out their website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and the new Facebook Group! They're also on Patreon now! So support Kingdom Sexuality there for some exciting and exclusive perks! And, don't forget to leave them a review on Apple Podcasts! Links from today's episode: Pelvic Floor PT Answers All!
Mar 06, 202325:29
120: PATRONS CHOICE! Thoughts During Sex

120: PATRONS CHOICE! Thoughts During Sex

The incredible Kingdom Sexuality patrons were the ones who chose this weeks episode, so a huge THANK YOU to them!! Do you ever struggle with your thoughts during sex? Thinking about a past relationship experience, something you saw in porn, or even just your mind is wandering thinking about what's for dinner tomorrow?? This episode is for you! Alana, Kyle, and Tiera chat about what we do when/if we struggle with wrong thoughts during sex or if our mind wanders during intimacy. They also share some tips and things you can do to get your mind back in the zone during sex! The team gets really practical here, sharing simple tips like: make eye contact, be aware of your senses, and how "mindfulness" could also be a big help!  And if you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of the KS content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for the team? Send a DM or email them at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out their website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and the new Facebook Group! They're also on Patreon now! So support Kingdom Sexuality there for some exciting and exclusive perks! And, don't forget to leave them a review on Apple Podcasts! Links from today's episode: Come As You Are
Feb 27, 202340:28
119: Navigating Arousal, the Science of Sexual Desire & more! with Brandi K. Harris

119: Navigating Arousal, the Science of Sexual Desire & more! with Brandi K. Harris

This is an episode you won't want to miss! Alana sits down with Brandi K. Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT. Brandi is a professional counsellor, author, speaker, teacher, and coach and her and Alana dive into all sorts of really good topics. They chat sexual education,  when to have "those talks" with your kids, the science behind sexual desire, how to reignite the spark in your marriage, and so much more!! Brandi does a beautiful job of explaining arousal and desire and how these are actually two different things. You can find more of Brandi on Instagram @brandikharris, or check out her website! And if you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of our content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send a DM or email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out our website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and our new Facebook Group! We're also on Patreon now! So support us there for some exciting and exclusive perks! And, don't forget to leave them a review on Apple Podcasts! Links from today's episode: Journal of Adolesence Come as You Are Episode 5: Let's Spice It Up! Jay Stringer: Unwanted
Feb 20, 202351:12
118: When's and If's of Family Planning with Tiera Reed

118: When's and If's of Family Planning with Tiera Reed

Along with being a great episode on the when's and if's of family planning- it's also an exciting episode where Alana and Kyle get to introduce Kingdom Sexuality's NEWEST MEMBER!! Tiera is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to the topic of fertility and women's health and KS is absolutely thrilled to have her apart of the team! Her sextimony will be coming in a few weeks, so this episode doesn't go too in depth into who Tiera is- instead it's an episode where the team chats about "how do you know when you're ready to have kids?" and "how do you know when to be done growing your family?". Questions that KS gets often from followers.  And if you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of our content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send a DM or email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out our website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and our new Facebook Group! We're also on Patreon now! So support us there for some exciting and exclusive perks! And, don't forget to leave them a review on Apple Podcasts! Kyle and I are SO excited to have Tiera join us on the team. God has brought her to us at the perfect time and we feel so confident that she's the exact person we needed to come alongside us on this beautiful journey. We can't wait for you guys to get to know her better! -Alana
Feb 13, 202333:54
117: Date Ideas & What if Your Spouse Hates Feb 14th...

117: Date Ideas & What if Your Spouse Hates Feb 14th...

In case you were unaware... Valentine's Day is fast approaching! So with that in mind, Alana and Kyle thought it would be a fun idea to share some date night ideas! There's something for those of you who want to stay in, those who want to go out, and those of you who want something spicy. But they don't just end it there, they also touch on something that might be prevalent in your life around this time in February... what if your spouse just isn't into Valentine's Day? How do you navigate that? Where does there need to be compromise and heart inspection? Tune in! And if you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of our content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send a DM or email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out our website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and our new Facebook Group! We're also on Patreon now! So support us there for some exciting and exclusive perks! And, don't forget to leave them a review on Apple Podcasts! Links from today's episode: Intimately Us App Married Dance (use the code KINGDOMSEXUALITY for 10% off!)
Feb 06, 202325:53
116: PATRON'S CHOICE! What the Women Want Men to Know About Sex...

116: PATRON'S CHOICE! What the Women Want Men to Know About Sex...

The incredible Kingdom Sexuality patrons were the ones who chose this weeks episode, so a huge THANK YOU to them!!  The KS Team put a questions box up on Instagram asking women who follow us "what do you wish men knew about sex?" and this episode is all of those responses!! (Ladies, share this with your man!) From vocalizing things in the bedroom, go slow and soft, to "when we say keep going- KEEP GOING- don't change speed!" This episode has it all! And if you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of our content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send a DM or email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out our website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and our new Facebook Group! We're also on Patreon now! So support us there for some exciting and exclusive perks! And, don't forget to leave them a review on Apple Podcasts! Links from today's episode: Episode 98: Emotional Intimacy with One Extraordinary Marriage Prayers for Your Wife ebook Prayers for Your Husband ebook
Jan 30, 202325:40
115: ORAL SEX: Fellatio

115: ORAL SEX: Fellatio

Kyle and Alana put a lot of work into this Oral Sex Series finale so that it wouldn't blow... (pun intended). But in all seriousness, these oral sex episodes have had so much thought, research, and data behind them. So in this weeks finale oral sex episode they talk about fellatio (aka: oral sex being done on a man, a blow job, or BJ). Alana and Kyle discuss some of the statistics from the survey's they put out over the past few weeks, why many women have a difficult time giving oral sex on their husband, some tips to help,  how to go about bringing up the subject of oral sex with your spouse, and so much more!  And if you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of our content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send a DM or email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out our website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and our new Facebook Group! We're also on Patreon now! So support us there for some exciting and exclusive perks! And, don't forget to leave them a review on Apple Podcasts! Links we mentioned in today's episode: Married Dance (use the code KINGDOMSEXUALITY for 10% off!) Oral Blessings article Hot, Holy, & Humorous article 
Jan 23, 202301:16:22
114: ORAL SEX: Cunnilingus

114: ORAL SEX: Cunnilingus

Well, we said this episode is coming and here it is! You wanted to hear more information about cunnilingus? Listen in! It's a longer episode but Alana and Kyle tackle SO much really valuable information. Things like: how do you even begin to start talking about oral sex with your spouse? and why do some women struggle when it comes to receiving oral sex? Kyle and Alana also ran a big survey before doing this series and gathered a bunch of data. You’ll hear it woven in throughout this episode and NEXT week’s episode as well. They got almost 4,500 responses, so the data is from a decent-sized sample and data set! Also, if you haven't listen to episode 112: Deep Dive Into Anatomy it's recommended to go listen to that one first, as there's quite a bit of anatomy talk in this episode and the one to come.  And if you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of our content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send a DM or email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out our website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and our new Facebook Group! We're also on Patreon now! So support us there for some exciting and exclusive perks! Links from today's episode: She Comes First - US Link - Canadian Link Opposites: Wants
Jan 16, 202301:15:04
113: ORAL SEX: with Anatomy of Us

113: ORAL SEX: with Anatomy of Us

The highly anticipated, long awaited oral sex episode is here! Alana and Kyle will be doing more in depth episodes on fellatio and cunnilingus in the coming episodes but Seth and Melanie Studley did a FANTASTIC job starting off this series. You're not going to want to miss this one. They chat about questions like: How would a couple, who’s struggled with the idea of oral sex, introduce it into their marriage? What should the conversations look like? What considerations should be given to hygiene prior to oral? How does a woman work on getting her mind in the zone for oral sex? We're excited for you to tune in!  Connect with Seth and Melanie Studley: Instagram- @anatomyofmarriage Website- www.anatomyofus.com And if you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll see even more of our content! Weekly sex positions for you to try, connect questions, content geared towards men, and more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send a DM or email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out our website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and our new Facebook Group! We're also on Patreon now! So support us there for some exciting and exclusive perks!  Links from today's episode David Schnarch: Passionate Marriage
Jan 09, 202358:14
112: Deep Dive Into Anatomy

112: Deep Dive Into Anatomy

Buckle up for this in depth chat on both male and female anatomy!! Kyle uses his medical knowledge of the body to discuss everything anatomy! And when we say everything, we mean everything!! Some of this information might not seem relevant, but it is actually so helpful when it comes to bringing more pleasuring to a woman! Like, did you know the "g-spot" is actually just a clitoral cluster?? And did you know that the vagina gets longer when a woman becomes more aroused?? Husbands, you're going to want to listen to this one so you are able to bring your understand your wife's body to the next level! We also chat about what women want men to know about their anatomy and what men wish women knew about their bodies!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, Thursday content for men, and so much more! Have an idea of what you'd like to hear us talk about? Send us a DM or an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com! Links from today's episode: She Comes First: -US LINK -CANADIAN LINK Come As You Are: -US LINK -CANADIAN LINK
Jan 02, 202339:44
111: Is There A 6th Love Language?

111: Is There A 6th Love Language?

So many of these "this is the newly discovered 6 love language!" have been coming out, are they valid? Is there a love language that's missing? Tune in as Alana and Kyle chat about the supposed 6th love language: feeling seen/known. Is feeling seen or feeling known its own love language? Is it a combination of a few? Do you feel seen when your spouse speaks your love language? We'd love to know your thoughts! Shoot us a DM or an email sharing your thoughts!! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, Thursday content for men, and so much more! Have an idea of what you'd like to hear us talk about? Send us a DM or an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com! Link's from today's episode: 5 Love Language Book Love Language Quiz Prayers For Your Husband eBook Prayers For Your Wife eBook
Dec 26, 202222:15
110: Sex When Family Is Around

110: Sex When Family Is Around

Ho Ho HOLD UP, you can still be intimate when you're around family this Christmas?? Yep! Listen in as Kyle and Alana chat about some ways you can make intimacy more of a priority this Christmas! Spoiler alert: it starts with decreasing the amount of stress in your life!! They discuss some other times of day you can have sex when you're around family, different locations, and how removing as much stress as possible will help increase both your libido and energy!! Merry Christmas, from the KS Team. Praying this Christmas is filled with so much love, joy, and Jesus.  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, Thursday content for men, and so much more! Have an idea of what you'd like to hear us talk about? Send us a DM or an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com! Links from today's episode: Come As You Are (US link) Come As You Are (Canadian link)
Dec 19, 202221:51
109: 12 Days Of SEX-MAS Sex Challenge!

109: 12 Days Of SEX-MAS Sex Challenge!

Prepare to have a very jolly Christmas, because Alana and Kyle are giving you Kingdom Sexuality's very first SEX CHALLENGE!! Not sure what a sex challenge is? Basically, it's committing to being intimate for a set number of days in a row. In this episode they go through a bunch of FAQ's when it comes to sex challenges. Questions like: Does it HAVE to be sex every day? How do I bring up the idea of a sex challenge to my spouse? What happens if I'm not in the mood one of the days? And so much more!! If you join the 12 Days of Christmas sex challenge we would LOVE to hear how it went for you! So be sure to join our Facebook group: Kingdom Sexuality Community and share how it's impacted your marriage!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality, that's where you'll find even more of our content! Weekly sex positions, content specific to men, connect questions, couples challenges, and so much more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send us a DM on Instagram or shoot us an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com! And be sure to leave us a review and you might just hear it in the next episode.  Links from today's episode: Intimately Us App
Dec 12, 202227:36
108: Christmas Of Connection

108: Christmas Of Connection

We all know that this time of the year can be a busy time. Typically well meaningly so, but things can get real busy real quick. So how can we be proactive about this and protect our connection when the craziness of the holidays come around? What are some practical ways to make space for connection during busy times? Alana and Kyle chat through those questions and so much more!  They mentioned this quote in the episode: "If you let it, the busyness of life will kill your marriage." So it’s up to you and your spouse to start now. Decide together that this Christmas will be a Christmas of connection instead of one filled with hurry and busyness. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! We share weekly sex positions, couples challenges, content for men, and so much more! And don't forget to leave us a review on Apple Podcasts and you might just hear it at the start of our next episode! Links from today's episode: Prayers For Your Wife eBook Prayers For Your Husband eBook The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry Book
Dec 05, 202226:29
107: Gifts For The Holidays- But Not Just Presents

107: Gifts For The Holidays- But Not Just Presents

We all know the beautiful season of giving is nearing, so Kyle and Alana start off the episode by diving into some fun sexy stocking stuffers! But on top of that, they also go more into: what can you be giving your spouse that's worth even MORE than a physical gift? Things like the gift of being present, the gift of exploration, and the gift of selflessness. Putting off our selfish nature OUTSIDE of the bedroom and seeing how it transforms things INSIDE the bedroom.  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! We share weekly sex positions, couples challenges, content for men, and so much more! And don't forget to leave us a review on Apple Podcasts and you might just hear it at the start of our next episode!  Links from today's episode:  US Amazon Store Canadian Amazon Store Mentionables (use the code KINGDOM for 10% off!) COCONU (code KINGDOMSEXUALITY for 15% off!) Married Dance
Nov 28, 202230:12
106: OPPOSITES: Location (with Abe & Elaine Romero)

106: OPPOSITES: Location (with Abe & Elaine Romero)

Today on the KS podcast Alana and Kyle have a couple of very special guests with us to help us close out our opposites series. Abe and Elaine Romero join in today to chat about what it looks like for them to have a commuter marriage! Living in different states how can they stay connected emotionally? Sexually?? What advice do they have for other long distance marriages? How can couples be cultivating connection when they're in different locations? They chat through this, and more! You won't want to miss it. Check out Abe and Elaine's IG pages: @commutermarriagesupport and @marriage.isajoke! Make sure you follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see all of our content! We share weekly sex positions, connect questions, couples challenges, and so much more!  Links from todays episode: -Ultimate Intimacy -Intimately Us
Nov 21, 202231:29
105: OPPOSITES: Wants

105: OPPOSITES: Wants

Whether it’s differences in where you want to live, what you want to do in the bedroom, or if you even WANT each other in the bedroom (meaning more drive related). I feel like at some point in time we’ve all had these sorts of opposites come up in our marriages. So how do you navigate this? When you and your spouse want different things? Alana and Kyle dive into this and so much more in this episode, so listen up! Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly sex positions, content specific to men, couples challenges, connect questions, discounts, and so much more!  Links from today's episode: Article by Sheila Wray Gregoire
Nov 14, 202231:21
104: OPPOSITES: morning sex vs. evening sex

104: OPPOSITES: morning sex vs. evening sex

Do you have a time of day preference when it comes to sex? Does your spouse? And are they the same? Alana and Kyle tackle the age old debate of morning sex vs. evening sex! (Don't worry, they don't forget about afternoon delights!) But more seriously, how do you navigate this if you're not a night owl but your spouse would rather stay up super late- when do you incorporate your intimacy? Tune in, and maybe if you've never thought about what time of day you prefer you and your spouse can have that conversation! If you're not already be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! That's where you'll see more of our content: weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! Plus we even have a day dedicated to the men! Have a topic suggestion for us? Shoot us an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com.
Nov 07, 202220:10
103: OPPOSITES: Sizes

103: OPPOSITES: Sizes

Are you and your spouse different sizes height-wise or weight-wise? Then this is the episode for you! Kyle and Alana chat about how to navigate this and what positions are ideal for you guys! If you and your spouse are different sizes, please know that you can still have a beautiful, sexy, and flourishing sex life! It may take a bit more patience as you attempt different positions, but it will be so worth it!  Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! We post weekly "hump day" positions, content specific to men, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more!! Have a topic suggestion for us? Or something you'd add to today's episode? Feel free to send us a DM or an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com!
Oct 31, 202230:07
102: OPPOSITES: Love Languages

102: OPPOSITES: Love Languages

Odds are good that you and your spouse feel loved in different ways. In this episode, Alana and Kyle chat about the 5 love languages and how to navigate it when you and your spouse's love languages aren't the same. Like, what do you do when your spouse's love language is gifts but you have zero interest in buying gifts? Or if your love language is acts of service but you're left frustrated waiting for your spouse to take out the garbage? Or your spouse loves to touch you, but the thought of PDA makes you uncomfortable? Alana and Kyle are going to chat all about that today. If you're not already be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly couples challenges, connect questions, "hump day" sex positions, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion for us? Shoot us an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com Links from today's episode: Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages Book 46: Communicating During Sex
Oct 24, 202232:07
101: OPPOSITES: Personalities

101: OPPOSITES: Personalities

You've heard the term opposites attract, right? Is this true in your marriage? Are you and your spouse wildly different when it comes to your personalities? Is one of you introverted and the other extroverted? Tune in to the second episode in our Opposites series as Kyle and Alana answer questions like: "How do we navigate being different than our spouse well?" and "What does it look like being introverted vs extroverted when it comes to the bedroom??" Like any team, you can use your unique skills and abilities to work together to have a meaningful and happy life. Rather than focusing on ways we wish our partner was more like us, we can learn to understand, appreciate, and work with our personality differences. “The goal of marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.” -R. Dodd If you're not already be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! That's where you'll see weekly couples challenges, Wednesday "hump day" positions, connection questions, content specific to men on Thursday's, and so much more! Links from today's episode: Intimately Us App Ultimate Intimacy App
Oct 19, 202230:55
100th EPISODE!!

100th EPISODE!!

Wow, we've made it to an exciting milestone: Episode 100! In this bonus episode, Kyle interviews Alana about what these first 100 episodes have been like, how they've grown her, and how this whole podcast even began! Oh, and make sure you listen to the end to hear about the exciting 100th episode giveaway that's they'll be releasing on Instagram @kingdomsexuality!  Thank you so much for listening to our episodes and following along with us over the years. We appreciate the likes, shares, reviews, and messages so much- you guys are seriously such a blessing to the entire KS team. We can't wait to see where the next 100 episodes take us, and we're excited to see what God has in store for this little ministry!!
Oct 17, 202224:19
99: OPPOSITES: Faith (with Ruth Joseph)

99: OPPOSITES: Faith (with Ruth Joseph)

It's a long one, but it's a good one. Ruth Joseph joins Kyle and Alana and shares her story of being in an unequally yolked marriage, how it impacts her life, and so much more. Ruth answers big questions like "does being in an unequally yolked marriage have an effect on your sex life?" and "what would your advice be to someone who's considering getting into an unequally yolked relationship?" Ruth’s handle is @iamruthjoseph, check out more of her content!! As always you can find more of our stuff on Instagram @kingdomsexuality!
Oct 10, 202201:00:41
98: Emotional & Sexual Intimacy with One Extraordinary Marriage

98: Emotional & Sexual Intimacy with One Extraordinary Marriage

Today Kyle and Alana have the pleasure of chatting with Tony and Alisa Dilorenzo, hosts of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast and authors of an amazing marriage book called 6 Pillars of Intimacy! They discuss emotional intimacy in depth; how emotional intimacy is connected to sexual intimacy, and what to do if only one of the couple in the marriage is putting in the word to cultivate it. They touch on scheduling sex, doing sex challenges, and how sexual intimacy can be a barometer for the rest of your marriage! You're not going to want to miss this one.  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! We post weekly couples challenges, have Wednesday "Hump Day's", and even a day of the week devoted to the men!  You can check out Tony and Alisa's content here! 
Oct 03, 202232:28
97: "The Impact of His Porn Addiction on Me": Part Two

97: "The Impact of His Porn Addiction on Me": Part Two

Here's part two of our episode with Samantha Enns, Kyle's lovely wife! Alana asked her the questions that our followers sent over on Instagram. Sam tackles some big questions like "Did you struggle with comparison, knowing what he'd seen?" and "Did his addiction impact your sex life? How?". Again, we are so sorry for those of you who are going through this. We're praying that Sam's vulnerability and Kyle's testimony will encourage you.   Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly "hump day" sex positions, content for the men on Thursdays, connect questions, couples challenges, and so much more!   Links from today's episode:  Covenant Eyes use the code: KS30 for 30 days free!
Sep 26, 202254:07
96: "My Husband Was Addicted To Porn": Part 1

96: "My Husband Was Addicted To Porn": Part 1

If you haven't listened to Kyle's Sextimony episode we would highly recommend you do that before listening to this one! In this episode Alana interviews Kyle's wife, Samantha, asking her the questions that our followers sent over on Instagram. Sam tackles some big questions like "How do I check in without accusing him/prying too much?" and "How can you trust him after his struggles with porn?". We are so sorry for those of you who are going through this. Emotions are raw and it’s extremely difficult. But there is so much hope for you! We trust that Sam's vulnerability and Kyle's testimony will encourage you.  This will be a two part series with the next segment coming out next week, so stay tuned for more!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly "hump day" sex positions, content for the men on Thursdays, connect questions, couples challenges, and so much more!  Links from today's episode: Covenant Eyes use the code: KS30 for 30 days free!
Sep 19, 202242:06
95: Does This Count As Porn?

95: Does This Count As Porn?

Sex is everywhere we turn. Whether it's in a show we're watching, the latest Netflix release, on our feed as we're scrolling Instagram, on a billboard by the highway, or in the book we're reading. So many forms of media give us access to things that can often leave us wondering... does this count as porn? You're not going to want to miss this episode where Paris and Alana chat about: how do we know when the media we are watching goes too far? We might think "Everyone does it. It's not a big deal, it's not like I'm addicted to watching porn or something like that..." BUT, could what you're watching be breaking Holy Spirit's heart? Listen in to hear some ways you can protect yourself from this!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! We post weekly connect questions, "Hump Day" Wednesday's, share content directed to men on Thursdays, couples challenges, and lots more!!  Links from the episode: Plugged In IMDB VidAngel
Sep 12, 202218:51
94: Kyle's Sextimony!

94: Kyle's Sextimony!

Let's get to know the latest KS team member, shall we? In this episode, Alana chats with Kyle and he shares his journey of overcoming a pornography addiction. Kyle goes into detail explaining his struggles, when he realized he needed to seek professional help, and gives really practical tips to overcome a pornography addiction. Have any porn related questions you'd like answered? Feel free to direct your messages to Kyle on the Kingdom Sexuality Instagram account @kingdomsexuality or shoot him a DM on his personal account @kyleenns.  And if you're not following the KS team already, go check out the Instagram account! That's where they'll share latest episodes, Wednesday "Hump Day" positions, connect questions, Thursday's "for the men", and so much more!  Links from today's episode: Covenant Eyes (use the code KS30 for your first 30 days free!) 30 Prayers For Your Husband Ebook 30 Prayers For Your Wife Ebook
Sep 05, 202234:18
93: Overcoming Porn with Dr. Cameron Staley

93: Overcoming Porn with Dr. Cameron Staley

Tune into this episode where Kyle interviews Dr. Cameron Staley to talk about his new porn recovery programs: The Life After Pornography online program and the Life After Pornography Coach app! Dr. Staley has a background in porn research and ACT therapy for overcoming porn addiction. If pornography is a struggle for you, or someone you know this is definitely an episode for you to listen to and share!!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! From weekly connect questions, "Hump Day" Wednesdays, to Thursday's for the men- there will be something for you!  Covenant Eyes is also an incredible program that helps by restricting access to pornographic websites on your devices, helping you to end your pornography addiction! Use to code "KS30" when you sign up to get your first 30 days free!! 
Aug 29, 202233:19
92: Teaser Episode- Masturbation/Sex Toys

92: Teaser Episode- Masturbation/Sex Toys

Due to an internet issue this once full-length episode has been cut in half and turned into a "teaser episode" of a more in depth one to come! Listen in as Alana, Paris, and Kyle chat about masturbation and sex toys and their roll in the marriage bed. Have some questions for the team around this topic? Shoot us an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com and we'll do our best to address it in our later episode! Thank you for your grace and patience!  Links from today's episode: Faithful Counselling Evelyn James: betrayal coach
Aug 22, 202216:33
91: Instagram Q&A Part 1: The Journey of Emotional Intimacy, Initiating, Orgasms + more!

91: Instagram Q&A Part 1: The Journey of Emotional Intimacy, Initiating, Orgasms + more!

Don't miss this in depth episode that covers SO many good topics! Alana and Kyle tackle the questions you sent us on Instagram- we had put up stories asking what women would want to ask a man, or what questions men would want to ask us. And they were really great questions, so we're going to break it up into a bunch of parts and tackle them over time! So if your question didn't get answered this time, make sure you listen to our upcoming episodes and we'll likely answer in the future! Kyle and Alana discuss a lot about cultivating emotional intimacy, communication, orgasms, pornography effects on your spouse, and so much more!!   Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll find weekly connection questions, Wednesday "hump day" sex positions, "Men's Day" Thursday's, and so much more! Links from today's episode: Purity Culture Episode 1 Purity Culture Episode 2 The Womanhood Diaries: Orgasms Let's Chat Orgasms- the how, techniques, + more.
Aug 15, 202234:04
90: Navigating Sexual Rejection

90: Navigating Sexual Rejection

You're not going to want to miss this incredible episode on navigating sexual rejection! It's time to have a real moment with yourself next time your partner initiates intimacy and you decline the offer... take a moment to ask yourself: WHY though? If I'm too tired to do this or am I just wanting to do something else? Is this really a 'not tonight's moment' or can it simply be a 'not right now, let me decompress from a hard day' moment?Are you up for other things? A naked body massage, cuddling and kissing, etc. We're NOT saying you have to say "yes" every time if you're not actually in the mood. But sometimes it's VERY easy to 'just say no'. We have to remember that this isn't something that if you tell them no they can go ask one of their buddies if they want to go and do this with them. This is something only you can give. It's a gift that only you can give them they cannot find satisfaction in anything else without breaking God's covenantal design for marriage. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! And check out our website to see our KS merch and incredible ebooks! Links from today's episode: Emotional Intimacy Episode
Aug 08, 202228:39
89: Let's Hear It For The Boys

89: Let's Hear It For The Boys

We have a HUGE announcement at the end of this episode so make sure you listen to the end to find out what's new in the KS world! Did you know 1/3 of our followers are guys?! We noticed that we've been getting more and more messages from the men asking questions, or women asking things on behalf of their husbands. So we had Kyle come on so we could pick a man's brain on some of the questions we've been working through! Things like: is it valuable for men to be listening to our episodes? and how can men be having more of these intimate conversations with their wives? So guys, we hear you, and we’re here for you! Shoot us your messages on Instagram @kingdomsexuality, and we'll get back to you! Be sure to follow so you can see weekly couples challenges, Wednesday "hump day" sex positions, our "men's day" Thursday's- and so much more!!
Aug 01, 202228:07
88: Connection, Conversation, Arousal- Oh My!

88: Connection, Conversation, Arousal- Oh My!

Time to tune into another Q&A episode!! Alana and Paris discuss some of your most asked questions like: how to stay connected (non-sexually) with your spouse when you have little ones, how to bring up the topic of intimacy with your spouse without it being awkward, what to do if you're struggling with arousal, and so much more! If you're a fan of Q&A's feel free to send us more questions on our Instagram account! Go follow us @kingdomsexuality! That's where you'll see weekly couples challenges, Wednesday "hump day" positions, connection questions, and so much more!  Links mentioned in today's episode: Great Sex Rescue- Sheila Wray Gregoire  Nitty Gritty Wedding Night Run Down Taking Charge of Your Fertility
Jul 25, 202221:11
87: Changing The Sex Drive Narrative

87: Changing The Sex Drive Narrative

EVERY one of us has differing sexual desires and libido, it’s unique to us, just like our finger print. Yet so many couples struggle and feel isolated when they have varying sex drives from one another. One spouse is typically labeled as "high drive" and the other is "low drive". But should we even be using the term high and low drive? Could it turn into a label that can potentially carry identity? Listen in as Paris and Alana dive deep into varying sexual desire, debunk myths, and shed light on topics usually kept in the darkness. Follow us on Instagram @KingdomSexuality to see so much more! We share weekly couples challenges, connect questions, a Wednesday "Hump Day" sex position, and much more! Check out our website for more resources and our shop: www.kingdomsexualityministry.com Links from today's episode: 30 Prayers For Your Wife Ebook Cultivating A Missional Marriage Episode
Jul 18, 202222:10
86: Is Sexy Just A State Of Mind?

86: Is Sexy Just A State Of Mind?

Listen in to another episode of the Kingdom Sexuality Podcast as Alana and Rusti ask each other the question: is sexy just a state of mind? It's time to ask ourselves some questions too! Like, what does it even mean to be sexy? Or to FEEL sexy? Does it have to do with appearance or is there more to it than that? What's something my spouse does that I find sexy- and do they know it??  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to join the community! We share connect questions, couples challenges, "hump day" Wednesdays, and so much more! Don't forget to check out our website as well we're you'll find out more about us and you can see resources that we love and trust! www.kingdomsexualityministry.com
Jul 11, 202219:24
85: The Fresh First Years

85: The Fresh First Years

Are you in those first fresh years of marriage? When everything is shiny and bright with the future wide ahead of you? Such a precious and exciting time in life! But it can also be a season filled with unmet expectations, struggle, and unanswered questions. Like many, maybe you're sitting there wondering: "Why don't I want sex as much as I thought I would?" or "How can I go about telling my spouse if I'm not feeling completely satisfied where things are at right now?". Pop in your headphones and listen in as Paris and Rusti chat though those questions and so much more!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see when that new resource is live!! You'll also see weekly couples challenges, connect questions, Wednesday "Hump Day" positions, and more! 
Jun 27, 202231:37
84: Nitty Gritty Wedding Night Run Down

84: Nitty Gritty Wedding Night Run Down

Gearing up to your wedding night and not sure what to expect? Do you have some big questions but don't know who to get to answer them? Tune into this fun episode where Alana and Rusti share the nitty gritty's about the wedding night! They discuss pain, condoms, lube, and so much more! If you're engaged and getting married soon you're not going to want to miss this one!  We also have an amazing in-depth resource coming for you soon, so keep your eye's out for that!! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see our latest posts, reels, and giveaways!  Links from today's episode: COCONU (use our code: kingdomsexuality for a discount!) GLYDE CONDOMS Love Your First Year: Premarital Course
Jun 20, 202231:54
83: FAQ: waiting, dating, engagement, & boundaries

83: FAQ: waiting, dating, engagement, & boundaries

Are you in a season of waiting? Maybe it's waiting for a boyfriend. Or perhaps you're waiting for your wedding day! Listen in as Alana and Paris chat about these seasons, share their hearts on the periods of waiting, and where to focus your heart in these times. They also discuss boundaries- what does it look like to have boundaries before you're married? What lines are okay to cross? How far is too far?? You're not going to want to miss it!  Be sure you're following them on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to be where the action is happening! You'll see weekly couples challenges, connect questions, "Hump Day" Wednesdays, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion for them? Feel free to send a DM on Instagram or send an email to: kingdomsexuality@gmail.com Links from today's episode: Singleness: Interview with Jody Nagyl Singleness, Sexuality, & Confronting The Past with Jody Nagyl Premarital Preparation... God's Way The Ultimate Premarital Chat Authentic Intimacy Singleness Blog Post
Jun 13, 202226:24
82: Unscripted Q&A!

82: Unscripted Q&A!

YOU asked and THEY answered! Tune into this amazing episode with the whole KS team; Alana, Paris, and Rusti, answer questions that were submitted over on Instagram. They answer questions like "how can I get my mind into love making?", "what does intimacy look like once you've got little ones?", "how do you navigate differing sex drives?", and so much more! The team gets real, sharing their hearts on some big questions!  Anything else you'd like to ask the team? Feel free to send them an email kingdomsexuality@gmail.com or DM on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. Be sure to follow Kingdom Sexuality on IG to see weekly couples challenges, connect questions, Wednesday "hump day" sex positions, and so much more!  Links from today's episode: Praying For Your Wife Ebook Mentionables (use code KINGDOM10 for a sweet discount!)
Jun 06, 202228:02
81: Sex is NOT...

81: Sex is NOT...

Last week the Kingdom Sexuality Team went over a bunch of things that sex is! So this week, Alana and Rusti chat about some of the things that sex is NOT. Things like: sex is not a form of currency, it's not something you have do so you're spouse doesn't have their needs met somewhere else, and it's not always clean and comfortable! Sex is a bunch of things, but there are a lot of things that sex is not. So listen in as we get super honest and open about some lies floating around about intimacy!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more! We post weekly "hump day" sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! 
May 30, 202228:47
80: Going Back To Basics: Sex Is...

80: Going Back To Basics: Sex Is...

The world around us displays sex in a very specific way. It's glamorized to look like this erotic, romantic, perfect, multiple-orgasm experience every. single. time... And so many of us say "I Do" and expect that to be what goes down in the bedroom but we're hit with the realization that sex, like everything else in life, is a learned skill that you'll get better at over time!  So put in those headphones and listen in as Alana, Paris, and Rusti get back to the basics and go over the fundamentals of what sex really is. Sex is a gift from God, a learned skill, a covenant reflection of Christ's love for us, a means of fighting spiritual battles, and SO much more!  Be sure to follow along with us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more! You'll find weekly challenges, sex position ideas, connect questions, sweet discounts, and so much more!  Links from today's episode: KAC Podcast: Sex and Marriage- Paris Simpson & Alana Martens Ultimate Intimacy App
May 23, 202229:30
79: Taking Charge of Your Fertility

79: Taking Charge of Your Fertility

The long anticipated, much requested, birth control episode is finally here! After numerous attempts at recording this, Rusti swooped in and did a beautiful job breaking down natural family planning, how you can go about tracking your cycle, gauging when your ovulation is happening- all to help prevent pregnancy or assist you if you're trying to conceive! If you have any questions about today's episode feel free to shoot us a message on Instagram!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see all of our weekly challenges, "hump day" sex positions, connect questions, and so much more! Have a topic request for us? Feel free to DM us on Instagram or email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com Links mentioned in the episode: Taking Charge of Your Fertility Paris' personal Instagram account: @sheswildandwell
May 16, 202227:18
78: Talking About Sex With Friends

78: Talking About Sex With Friends

Tune into this amazing episode that was requested by YOU! Alana and Rusti chat about some "do's and don't's" when it comes to conversations with your friends about your intimate life! What's okay to share? How do I even bring this topic up with friends? What if everyone judges me for asking this question? They cover all those questions and more! Be sure to listen till the end to hear the "practical application" side as Rusti and Alana share some things that you could bring up in conversation with trusted friends.  Are you following us on Instagram? Check out our page @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, connect questions, discounts on amazing products, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion? Shoot us a DM on Instagram or an email to kingdomsexuality@gmail.com! 
May 09, 202229:34
77: Chatting Spiritual Gifts & Walking In Your Missional Marriage

77: Chatting Spiritual Gifts & Walking In Your Missional Marriage

Listen in as Alana and Rusti share their hearts and chat about spiritual gifts, what it looks like using them in your marriage, and how to begin walking in a missional marriage. They also share some advice for those in the relationship who are the ones running hard after Jesus and how to navigate life if your spouse isn't on the same page as you yet. If you’re not following us on Instagram be sure you check us out @kingdomsexuality! You’ll see weekly challenges, “hump day” sex positions, exciting discounts, and so much more!! Have a topic suggestion for the KS Team? Shoot us a DM or an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com!
May 02, 202231:09
76: Cultivating A Missional Marriage

76: Cultivating A Missional Marriage

THE BIG QUESTION: Is your marriage reflecting Jesus’ love to those around you? If you’re unsure of how to answer that question, I think it’s time to do some heart work. Think about it! You and your spouse were put together for a purpose. You each individually have a specific calling and gifts that were given to you and passions that get you fired up. So then, when you put those gifts, callings, and passions and combine them with your spouses- you become a powerhouse for Jesus! So tune in as Alana and Rusti chat through what it looks like to have a marriage on mission! (Part two of this conversation will be coming next week!) Join the community of likeminded believers on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! Can't wait to see you over there. 
Apr 25, 202227:37
75: Pelvic Floor PT Answers All!

75: Pelvic Floor PT Answers All!

Ready to have a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist answer YOUR questions?? Callie Teel, PT, DPT is a dedicated follower of Christ and a long time Kingdom Sexuality fan. She has a passion for helping women overcome dysfunction and embrace the sexual beings God created them to be. She graduated from Texas Tech university Health Science Center with her doctorate in physical therapy and then trained to become a pelvic health specialist. She now works in Amarillo Texas, helping women with all kinds of things like; pain with intimacy, difficulty climaxing, pre and postpartum care, incontinence, constipation and so much more. She did a beautiful job answering your questions and sharing her wealth of knowledge with us- this is an episode you're not going to want to miss!! Callie and a coworker created their own podcast “Pelvic Service Announcement” to educate and empower others about their pelvic health! Be sure to check it out!  And if you're not, be sure to follow us on Instagram as well @kingdomsexuality where you'll see all of our latest updates, weekly sex positions, connect questions, discounts on great products, and so much more!! 
Apr 18, 202235:24
74: Get To Know The KS Trio

74: Get To Know The KS Trio

YOU ASKED and WE ANSWERED! Here are some of the questions we've received on our Instagram account about the three of us! So we; Alana, Paris, and Rusti, share more about who we are! We chat about what we do on the daily, if we were virgins when we got married, what our love languages are, favourite part about doing this ministry, and more! Put in your headphones and get to know us better!!  Feel free to share some of your own answers with us over on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! Over there you'll see us share weekly sex positions, connect questions, and so much more! Have any more personal questions for us? Shoot them our way either in our DM's or email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com! 
Apr 11, 202227:54
73: Diving Deep Into The Great Sex Rescue with Sheila Gregoire

73: Diving Deep Into The Great Sex Rescue with Sheila Gregoire

Does your sexuality need a life preserver? Has purity culture, church culture, LACK of of information, or trauma creeped its way into your sex life and you feel like you're about to drown? In this interview Paris and Rusti interview Sheila Gregoire, author of "The Great Sex Rescue" ( and many others, check out her new revised version of 'The Good Girls Guide To Great Sex' ) and chat with her about her study of over 20,000 women with the goal of getting to the heart of our struggle with sexuality. You guys are NOT going to want to miss this one!  If you're not already be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality where you'll find weekly couples challenges, connect questions, sex position ideas, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send us a DM on Instagram or an email: kingdomsexuality@gmail.com! 
Apr 04, 202238:28
72: Add A Little Bit Of *Spice*

72: Add A Little Bit Of *Spice*

We’ve done an episode on “spicing it up” in the bedroom before, but now that we’ve got Rusti here and since it’s been a long time since that episode came out (fun fact, that was our 4th episode to be released) it seemed like a good time to make a “spice it up 2.0”! If you’ve been married for any length of time you’ll know that sex can easily become routine. We’re busy people! The list of things to do is never ceasing and ever growing- we need to pick kids up from school, take out the trash, get food on the table, spring clean, and see friends… so when there is a spare moment to be intimate it can easily turn into a 10 step list of things you do every time. And a routine can be great, but maybe you’re ready to try something different or long to add some fireworks and butterflies again! So we’ve compiled a little list of some ways that you can go about spicing things up! If you're not, be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! That's where you'll see weekly couples challenges, "Hump Day" sex positions, connect questions and so much more!  Link to our ebook: HERE
Mar 28, 202225:11
71: Chasing The Big O

71: Chasing The Big O

Recently on our Instagram Rusti shared a handful of hindrances very briefly that could impede us from that body shuttering, skin tingling, hair raising prize. Today we're going to go a little bit more in depth, give some more background information that will hopefully help gain more wisdom when it comes to understanding why we might be struggling to reach orgasm. We absolutely want to preface this with the fact that we will be discussing sexual trauma a bit and so this is a trigger warning in case you are still going through your healing. We want to be sensitive to those listening who are working through trauma, so the KS Team wanted to make sure you had ample warning! Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to join the community! You'll see couples challenges, weekly sex positions, connect questions, and so much more! 
Mar 21, 202237:05
70: A Penetrating Interview with Karin Freeland

70: A Penetrating Interview with Karin Freeland

Tune into this fun interview with author, Karin Freeland! Karin has published a book called "The In's and Outs of My Vagina: A Penetrating Memoir", and she shares how she came to write this book, some of the hilarious and relatable stories in it, and so much more! You can find Karin on Instagram @karinfreeland, and her book is on Amazon and BarnesandNoble.com!  Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community of like-minded believers who are also journeying through this with you! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connection questions, and more!
Mar 14, 202233:01
69: Flipping The Switch

69: Flipping The Switch

It’s about time the KS team did an episode solely on this topic! We’re not sure why it seems to happen this way, but there is this switch that so many of us come across as newlyweds. We go into marriage assuming that this magical switch is going to flip and that they can go from thinking that sex is bad/dirty/something we shouldn't want… to thinking that it’s incredible and love every minute of it. That’s a big switch to flip!! So tune in as Alana and Rusti tackle this big topic! Links from today’s episode: @loveyourfirstyear Find our ebook on our website: www.kingdomsexualityministry.com! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! You’ll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more!
Mar 07, 202229:15
68: Sexual Technique & Dream Dates

68: Sexual Technique & Dream Dates

What does your dream date look like? What does your spouses dream date look like? Are they similar or super different? Tune in as Alana, Paris, and Rusti share what their dream dates were and what their husbands were! Have the chat with your spouse, then after doing the date try out some new sexual technique! The KS team goes through 4 different techniques that can be helpful to try in the bedroom, so listen in to hear those after they share their dream dates!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see when we're uploading new episodes, weekly sex positions, couples challenges, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send us a DM on Instagram or shoot us an email kingdomsexuality@gmail.com, we'd love to hear what your dream dates were!! 
Feb 28, 202236:16
67: Love Your First Year Takeover: "Ask The Men"

67: Love Your First Year Takeover: "Ask The Men"

Kyler and Britt from @loveyourfirstyear take this episode over and tackle some amazing questions that you guys sent in specifically to be answered by a man! They did an incredible job sharing their hearts and answering your questions around sex and marriage. Be sure to follow them on Instagram @loveyourfirstyear to see all of their content that's geared towards engaged couples and making your first year of marriage a fantastic one! And be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community of like-minded believers who are also journeying through this with you! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connection questions, and so more!
Feb 21, 202217:17
66: When Cupid Misses

66: When Cupid Misses

Happy Valentine's Day, Kingdom Sexuality listeners! They decided to switch things up and go a different route for this Valentine's Day episode! Listen in as Alana and Rusti chat about the slightly less glamorous side of intimacy. They go over an array of sticky situations that can occur, common hiccups that can throw a wrench in your sexy plans, embarrassing things that are totally normal to occur during lovemaking sessions. So buckle up, get ready to laugh and let's go! Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more!!
Feb 14, 202223:38
65: Building Sexual Confidence with Dan Purcell

65: Building Sexual Confidence with Dan Purcell

Tune into this incredible episode where Alana and Paris interview Dan Purcell from Get Your Marriage On! about all things sexual confidence. Dan shares so much incredible wisdom around navigating confidence in the bedroom and what you can do if that's something your spouse struggles with! Be sure to follow Dan @getyourmarriageon, and be sure to check out the "14 Days of Sextimacy" challenge as well, he shares more on that over on his account. Be sure to follow the KS Team on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! Links from todays episode: -Great Sex Rescue: Sheila Wray Gregoire -Celeste David: Marriage Labratory -Intimately Us App
Feb 07, 202246:26
64: Valentine's Day Q&A!

64: Valentine's Day Q&A!

The KS team put a questions box in their stories over on Instagram asking if you guys had any questions around the upcoming holiday of Valentine's Day! So tune in as Alana, Paris, and Rusti tackle these amazing questions! They talk about ways to spice your Valentine's Day up, how you can celebrate if you're long distance, gifts ideas for him & her, and so much more!  Make sure you're following them on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! Come join the community of like-minded believers who are also journeying through this with you! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connection questions, and tons more! Links from the episode: Melt Massage Mentionables Honoring Intimates
Jan 31, 202230:26
63: Introducing Rusti + Her Sextimony!

63: Introducing Rusti + Her Sextimony!

Welcome back to another episode of the Kingdom Sexuality podcast! This episode is extra special because Alana and Paris have the opportunity to chat with Rusti (our newest KS team member) and introduce her to all of you! You'll get to hear Rusti share her beautiful sextimony and encourage those of you who maybe feel easily replaceable, or like they have a void in their life.  Get excited to hear from Rusti more! She has such a heart for this ministry and is going to bring a new angle to the podcast, and we can't wait to see how the Lord uses her in this ministry. Following us on Instagram? Check us out @kingdomsexuality to see weekly couples challenges, Hump Day sex positions, connect questions, reliable Godly product recommendations, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion or question for us? Shoot us an email: kingdomsexuality@gmail.com
Jan 24, 202227:28
62: Fundamentals of Healthy Sexuality

62: Fundamentals of Healthy Sexuality

The sexual relationship thrives when a marriage is safe, honest, and full of selfless love. But what does a thriving sex life look like in a Christian marriage? Or should we even be asking that? Maybe instead we need to dig into the word and see what the Bible says marriage and intimacy needs to look like. So get comfy and join Paris and Alana as they get back to the basic fundamentals and go through 4 important cornerstones that a thriving sex life always includes! (4 core points shared by @evelynjames) Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community of like-minded believers who are also journeying through this with you! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connection questions, and more!
Jan 10, 202231:18
61: Turning Up The Heat & Taking Charge Of Your Emotional Relationship

61: Turning Up The Heat & Taking Charge Of Your Emotional Relationship

You want a bomb, spicy, solid, exciting marriage for 2022? We love it. But maybe you’re in a place where you have no idea where to start. Maybe there’s some deep pain, insecurities, or just an overall feeling of being ‘lost’ within your own marriage and you're not sure how to get from point a to b. So tune in Alana and Paris dive into 5 super practical ways you can up the emotional connection in your marriage. Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send your email to kingdomsexuality@gmail.com!
Dec 27, 202134:09
60: BONUS EPISODE- Intimacy vs. The Busy Holiday Season

60: BONUS EPISODE- Intimacy vs. The Busy Holiday Season

BONUS EPISODE! Since Alana and Paris now put out episodes bi-weekly they realized that you were only going to get one podcast episode before Christmas, and that didn't seem okay. So here's a special bonus episode chatting about a topic that YOU requested! Alana put a questions box on Instagram asking for Christmas episode suggestions and many of you were wanting tips for how to stay intimate with your spouse during the business of the holiday season. So if you're wondering what remaining intimate looks like while traveling, staying with family, having less than ideal sleeping situations, or having family over for Christmas- this episode is for you! Links mentioned in the episode: Get Your Marriage On! app Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly challenges, "hump day" sex positions, connection questions, and so much more! Have a topic you'd like to have us chat about? Shoot us a DM on Instagram or email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. 
Dec 20, 202117:07
59: Balancing Holiday Family Time & Together Time

59: Balancing Holiday Family Time & Together Time

The Christmas season is upon us! Which means that life might be getting a smidge chaotic. Maybe you're staying at your in-laws over the holidays or have piles of family coming up to visit- this episode is hopefully going to help you become more intentional about carving out time with your spouse despite what's going on around you.  Links mentioned in the episode: -The Next Right Thing with Emily P. Freeman -"Not Your Mama's Holiday Traditions" Kingdom Sexuality episode Follow us on Instagram? Check it out @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, date night ideas, and so much more! Join the community and say hello! Have a topic suggestion you'd like us to tackle? Feel free to DM us!!
Dec 13, 202121:31
58: Navigating Crisis in Our Marriage

58: Navigating Crisis in Our Marriage

Every couple goes through crises in their marriage, whether it's big or small. But are we equipped to stay connected when life gets shaky? Is our first response to choose connection with our spouse when our negative emotions come bubbling up or do we disconnect from them- creating a gap between us? Listen in as Alana and Paris discuss some roots of crisis that often show up in our marriages and some reminders for you to stand on when you’re in the thick of it. This episode is packed FULL of valuable information, you’re not going to want to miss it!! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community! You’ll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, date night ideas, and so much more!!
Nov 29, 202132:18
57: Turning Sex from a Chore to a Joy

57: Turning Sex from a Chore to a Joy

Does sex ever feel more like something you have to check off a list and less like something you look forward to? Join in as Alana and Paris as they chat about why sex might be feeling like a chore and some really practical ways for how you can work towards changing that!! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more!
Nov 15, 202121:43
56: Update + Q&A!

56: Update + Q&A!

They’re back! After taking a break for a few months Alana and Paris are back behind the mics. In this weeks episode they fill listeners in on what’s been keeping them busy, how the podcast schedule is changing, and they also answer YOUR questions asked on Instagram! Be sure to follow them on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so so much more!
Nov 01, 202129:24
55: Getting Out Of A Sexual Slump

55: Getting Out Of A Sexual Slump

Have you ever gone through a bit of “dry spell” sexually in your marriage? Maybe it’s been weeks or months since you and your spouse have been intimate. Please know that you’re not alone! Seasons of sexual slumps can be pretty discouraging, but our prayer for your marriages is that you’ll come through these seasons even stronger and more prepared for what’s ahead! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! Links we mentioned in today’s episode: Marriage Journal: beating50percent.com Melt Massage: https://marrieddance.com/shop/online-courses/melt-massage-for-couples/?aff=78&campaign=MeltMassageCourse
Aug 30, 202125:04
54: Answering YOUR Purity Culture Questions

54: Answering YOUR Purity Culture Questions

Alana and Paris asked YOU what other questions you had around Purity Culture and they compiled them into this episode. They go through the lies and hit them hard with the truth of what God intends for your marriage. They tackle lies like "losing your virginity deems you as unworthy of a godly relationship" and "sex will be automatically amazing if you remain a virgin before you get married". Big stuff.  Don't follow Kingdom Sexuality on Instagram yet? Come join the community @kingdomsexuality! You'll see when new episodes are released, weekly sex positions, couples challenges, and much more!
Aug 23, 202127:18
53: Busting More Purity Culture Lies!

53: Busting More Purity Culture Lies!

In their last episode, Alana and Paris shared what the bible says in regards to women’s bodies and how purity culture twists what the bible says to put shame and confusion on so many of us. In today's episode they dive a little deeper into this and encourage us to ask ourselves what other lies we’ve come to believe, maybe without even realizing it, around sexuality.  Don't follow Kingdom Sexuality on Instagram yet? Come join the community @kingdomsexuality! You'll see when new episodes are released, weekly sex positions, couples challenges, and more!
Aug 18, 202123:33
52: Purity Culture Lies Debunked: on modesty, sexuality + how women have been targeted

52: Purity Culture Lies Debunked: on modesty, sexuality + how women have been targeted

Join Paris + Alana as they tackle + debunk the lies that the 'purity culture narrative' has spoken over our generation of women; specifically in the area of modesty, how we conduct ourselves, + in our sexuality. Let's bring this back to biblical truth shall we?! Be sure to follow @kingdomsexuality on Instagram to see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, and so much more! 
Aug 09, 202130:28
51: Tackling Differing Sex Drives

51: Tackling Differing Sex Drives

Contrary to what culture screams at us, it's quite common for husbands and wives to have varying sex drives. Someone has a higher libido, someone's is lower and maybe it's starting to cause some friction within your marriage. This episode is for YOU! Grab your coffee and listen up as Alana and Paris share their own experiences in this, and share how having a mismatched libido is extremely common. If you’re listening to this and feel alone, please know first and foremost that you are not! Handling and navigating life as a couple with differing sex drives can be tricky, but there is so much hope for you! With a little extra empathy, creativity, and some vulnerable conversations, navigating a mismatched libido can become more of a fun project and less of a stressful problem. No matter how distant you may feel from you spouse due to varying sex drives, it’s never too late to have a loving, intimate, sexually fulfilling sex life. Follow us on Instagram yet? Check out @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, connection questions, date night ideas, and so much more!  Links from todays episode: Faithful Counselling: https://faithfulcounseling.com/kingdomsexualityministry
Jul 26, 202129:30
50: Motherhood Q+A... answering YOUR questions

50: Motherhood Q+A... answering YOUR questions

Do we just lose ourselves in the name of motherhood? Can we still have passions + hobbies? How do you cultivate an even DEEPER marriage + intimacy through parenthood? What about everything the world screams at us, how do we see the truth through it all? Well hun, it's time for this chat, and we are so excited to share some raw and simple truths to clear the fog + questions. 
Jul 19, 202123:04
49: 1st Birthday Interview!

49: 1st Birthday Interview!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, Kingdom Sexuality! This little passion project turned ministry began just a short year ago. We both feel so incredibly grateful to all of our incredibly supportive listeners and followers. To those of you who have been around since this began- thank you for sticking with us! And to those of you who are new to following- welcome here! We're so overwhelmed at how receptive you all have been, and we know that this ministry would be nothing without the incredible work of the Lord. His hand has been so heavily on this ministry, it's amazing. He has shown us time and time again that when you show up with your few loaves and fishes He will supply the rest. Leah Rempel from Faith School Podcast did an incredible job coming up with questions for this episode and we hope you really enjoy listening to us chat about what this year has been like for us as brand new baby podcasters! If you're not following us on Instagram be sure to check out our page @kingdomsexuality! That's where most of the action is! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, giveaways, and so much more!! 
Jul 14, 202142:08
48: Let's Chat Anniversary Traditions

48: Let's Chat Anniversary Traditions

Alana takes the reins on this casual episode and goes through some fun anniversary traditions shared by followers! Relive, retreat, and reflect on the wonderful years you’ve shared together! So for your anniversary- put expectations aside, get a babysitter for the kiddos, and just enjoy some much needed quality time with each other. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! And feel free to share your anniversary traditions with us! Shoot us a DM, we'd love to hear them!! 
Jun 28, 202115:31
47: Alana on Pregnancy + Sex, a Q+A!

47: Alana on Pregnancy + Sex, a Q+A!

Mindset. Body Image. No sex drive. Pregnancy friendly sex positions. Postpartum intimacy cultivation. You asked the questions, + Paris interviews Alana as she journeys through her second pregnancy! 
Jun 14, 202133:41
46: Communicating During Sex

46: Communicating During Sex

You're not going to want to miss this episode! Alana takes the reigns and dives into what talking in the bedroom can look like and how it can be really helpful in taking your intimate life with your spouse to the next level. They go into more that just talking ABOUT sex with your spouse but actually talk about what talking DURING sex looks like in a healthy, God-honouring way! Maybe it's something that you've never thought to incorporate into your love making, but saying beautiful words- or even your spouses name!!- can help add fuel to the bedroom fire! If you're not already, but sure to give us a follow over on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. You'll see weekly sex positions, when we upload new episodes, giveaways, and so much more!!  Have a topic suggestion for us? Feel free to DM us on Instagram or shoot us an email- we'd love to hear from you! 
Jun 07, 202126:54
45: Top 3 Sex Positions & Sexual Techniques

45: Top 3 Sex Positions & Sexual Techniques

Paris & Alana go into 3 common sex positions but go into the technique, tips, + tricks to take these most common sex positions from 'good' to 'fantastic'. With variations, technique explanation, CAT, angles, & lots of communication + lube, we hope this blesses your marriage!  We do mention Coconu as our fave, trusted lube brand that we adore! Check them out here for a discount code on an ethical, all natural & safe lube! https://coconu.com/?rfsn=5697652.af1ccd&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=5697652.af1ccd
May 31, 202127:31
44: Healing for the Spouse Hurt by Pornography

44: Healing for the Spouse Hurt by Pornography

You're not going to want to miss this incredible, information-packed episode with Rosie Makinney from @fightforloveministries. Rosie dives right into how the spouse who's been hurt by their spouses pornography usage can find healing despite the grief, betrayal, and broken trust that comes with this issue. Not only does she go into some of the science behind what's going on in the spouse who's watched porn's brain- but she chats about body image and why there's absolutely no need to compare ourselves with the airbrushed women and men on the screen.  This is a big subject to tackle, but Alana and Paris want you to know that you are seen. Your trauma and grief are very real. And there is hope to come through this deep season with an even stronger relationship than before!  If you don't already be sure to follow us on Instagram, @kingdomsexuality, to see weekly sex positions, challenges, giveaways, and so much more! Resources mentioned in the episode: Facebook Support Group: Fight For Love Fellowship Rosie's Book: Fight For Love Julie Slattery's book: Rethinking Sexuality
May 24, 202137:11
43: Pornography & Women: A Redemptive Message

43: Pornography & Women: A Redemptive Message

Let's get this straight: Porn is not a men's only battle. In this episode, Authentic Intimacy's Joy Skarka shares her raw & redemptive story in her own battle with porn, masturbation, shame, and coping from sexual assault, turned to equipping and leading women towards freedom through Christ coming from similar back-stories. This is an episode you do NOT want to miss. 
May 10, 202124:52
42: Pornography Culture & Gospel Culture, The Healing Journey, & The BIG Questions Answered

42: Pornography Culture & Gospel Culture, The Healing Journey, & The BIG Questions Answered

Healing from pornography involves both parties-the person who struggles with it, and those who it affects. In this episode, Paris & Alana interview Tim Busse for part 2 of this series. Tim dives deep into porn culture vs gospel culture and what each serves in terms of mentality & morals, healing from porn (both the user & those affected), dealing with the aftermath of porn & broken trust, as well as huge steps towards ultimate healing from addiction. This is an episode that covers the BIG questions. 
Apr 26, 202149:43
41: Let's Talk About Porn.

41: Let's Talk About Porn.

The first episode of the long awaited pornography series is here! You're not going to want to miss this information packed episode where Alana and Paris interview Pastor Tim Busse to tackle the subject of porn. They get into a bit of Tim's story, the root of why people get drawn into watching pornography, how to find someone to keep you accountable, how secrecy is linked to shame, how to get out of the cycle, and so much more! This episode is longer than usual ones, but they didn't want to leave any of this incredible information out! Be sure to follow @kingdomsexuality on Instagram if you're not already to see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, intimacy check-in questions, giveaways, and so much more! If you have any specific topic suggestions or questions feel free to email them at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com.  Resources Tim mentions: -Jay Stringer -Covenant Eyes - Fight The New Drug
Apr 19, 202145:28
40: Our Sextimonies!

40: Our Sextimonies!

We put a questions box in our Instagram stories asking for some "Get To Know Us" questions and we got SO many incredible ones! A good bulk of the questions were around how the podcast came to be, why we started this, and why we want to talk about sexual intimacy! So we decided a nice way to tackle all of those questions was to give our testimonies... with a twist. Cue... our SEX-TIMONIES!  If you're not already be sure to follow us on Instagram @KingdomSexuality to see weekly sex positions, live videos, giveaways, and so much more! 
Apr 12, 202125:41
39: Claiming Freedom Through Forgiveness

39: Claiming Freedom Through Forgiveness

In this episode, Alana & Paris speak some big, freeing, & healing truths on forgiveness. This is a precursor episode heading into our pornography series, so be sure to catch this before we go into BIG stuff. Tune into this to be encouraged & set your feet on the healing journey towards kicking shame & deep roots to the side & walking in our gift of freedom through forgiveness through the Father!
Apr 05, 202119:41
38: Premarital Finale: But We've Already Had Sex...

38: Premarital Finale: But We've Already Had Sex...

Join Alana and Paris as they end of their premarital series tackling a big question: "but what if we've already had sex before marriage??". They go through 3 main points 1. Boundaries and Repentance, 2. Guilt and Shame, and 3. God is our Father not a Punisher. Alana and Paris drive home the heart of who God is, and how EVERYONE is redeemable. Regardless of the lines you've crossed or how far you've done, or how many people you've been with- His grace IS fully sufficient for you! God will ALWAYS welcome you back with open arms looking at you as whole, pure, and deeply loved. Follow us on Instagram @KingdomSexuality if you're not already to see sneak peeks of what series are coming next, weekly sex positions, couples challenges, and so much more! 
Mar 29, 202118:09
37: Premarital Chats: The Wedding & Wedding Night

37: Premarital Chats: The Wedding & Wedding Night

Engaged & heading into marriage? Is your upcoming wedding night leaving your mind frazzled with questions about sexual intimacy? Grab your fave hot drink & feel like you're part of a living room chat with Paris & Alana as they interview Kyler & Britt from "Love Your First Year" ministry. From walking you through wisely preparing your future marriage together and not falling into the common rut of the wedding day being THE ultimate focus of your engagement & losing track of your relationship through it, to wedding night intimacy & the emotional & sexual vulnerability that comes with that, hang out with these 4 as they walk you through common mishaps & encourage you how to navigate this huge season of your life  with your fiancé & Jesus. Also...did we say we have a beautiful, biblical, ULTIMATE premarital counselling course to offer you, too? Yes, yes we do! GET THE ULTIMATE LYFY PREMARITAL COACHING COURSE by Kyler & Britt here with code KINGDOM15 here: https://course.loveyourfirstyear.com/a/45244/v6Bo5tzF FOLLOW Kyler & Britt on IG @loveyourfirstyear & us @kingdomsexualityministry for a life-giving breath of fresh air to your marriage & sex life, engaged & dating relationship, all rooted in God's truths. 
Mar 22, 202133:51
36: The Ultimate Premarital Chat

36: The Ultimate Premarital Chat

You're going to need to buckle up for this episode. Engaged, dating, married? This episode will have something for you! Kyler and Britt from "Love Your First Year" do a fantastic job at answering some of our big questions around the premarital season. Like, how far is too far? How do you make boundaries? Where's the line? And, how can couples prepare for intimacy within marriage while dating without crossing boundaries?  Make sure you're following us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality so you can see our weekly sex positions, live videos, couples challenges, and so much more! Plus, you can subscribe to our email list over at our website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com to get our exclusive monthly newsletter! Be sure to follow Britt and Kyler @loveyourfirstyear to see the resources they offer! They have some incredible things for you dating/engaged couples or those of you who have recently entered into marriage! Books they recommended in this episode:  Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts by Les and Leslie Parrott Things I Wish I'd Known Before I Got Married by Gary Chapman Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
Mar 15, 202124:51
35: Premarital Preparation... God's Way

35: Premarital Preparation... God's Way

Setting boundaries? Leaving & cleaving? Our roles as future spouses? Being unequally yoked? What to read, who to surround ourselves with, & counselling? There is a LOAD of your questions in here as you prepare for marriage, & Paris & Alana walk you through this & more importantly, walk you through it with God's direction & the mindset of excitement, intention, & preparation for this next season of life!
Mar 08, 202129:18
34: Long Distance Lovers

34: Long Distance Lovers

This one is for the long distance lovers out there! Finally, after numerous requests for advice for couples doing their relationship long distance, we decided to tackle it! We put up a questions box in our stories over on our @kingdomsexuality Instagram account, asking YOU: how to do remain intimate and connected with your spouse if you're doing the long distance thing? So this episode is us sharing that list with you! Advice and tips from couples who have experience doing months of long distance.  To those of you going through this season currently, we love you and just want you to feel so encouraged. Please feel free to reach out- we'd love to know how we can pray for you during this season!  If you're not already, be sure to follow along over on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see giveaways, weekly sex positions, challenges, and so much more! And check out our website www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and subscribe for exclusive monthly content! 
Mar 01, 202120:20
33: Unscripted... a Q&A series asked by YOU!

33: Unscripted... a Q&A series asked by YOU!

This is an unscripted, raw, and in the moment Q&A as Paris & Alana work through YOUR questions on intimacy, sex, & marriage. It gets good so if you need a laugh today, tune in. If you need position advice, tune in. If you need pre-marital advice & encouragement, tune in...just...tune in ;)
Feb 23, 202130:32
32: We Answer YOUR Questions!

32: We Answer YOUR Questions!

We put a questions box on our Instagram account looking for questions for today's episode and you guys SHOWED UP! Join us in this casual chat style episode where we answer as many questions as we can in 15 minutes! We chat everything from oral sex to favourite love making songs, and so much more! Enjoy episodes like this? Be sure to let us know and we'll sprinkle them in more often! Have a question for a future Q&A- DM us on Instagram of email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com! If you're not already be sure to follow along with us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, challenges, giveaways, and so much more! Come on over and join the beautiful community!! XO
Feb 15, 202120:26
31: Intentional Intimacy...WITHOUT Intercourse

31: Intentional Intimacy...WITHOUT Intercourse

There's seasons of life where sex is NOT an option, so how do we navigate these seasons while still actively guarding, blessing, & pouring intention over intimacy in our marriages? Paris & Alana share everything from positions & techniques, both sensual & sexual (but not intercourse!), to mindset & scripture on the subject to encourage & empower you in seasons of abstinence. 
Feb 08, 202128:22
30: Let's Chat Healthy Sexual Habits

30: Let's Chat Healthy Sexual Habits

Join Alana and Paris as they have a casual chat around a follower topic suggestion: what healthy sexual habits look like! They chat through how it's important to make sex a priority, communicating sexual desires, and how to avoid sexual ruts.  Have you seen the new website?? Head over to www.kingdomsexualityministry.com and check out what's happening! Subscribe and you'll get Kingdom Sexuality's monthly newsletter! And if you haven't already- join the community over @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly challenges, sex positions, live videos, and so much more!  Have a topic suggestion for Paris and Alana? Feel free to shoot them an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com or DM them on Instagram!
Feb 01, 202119:43
29: Valentines, is it overrated?

29: Valentines, is it overrated?

We hear you, Valentines CAN be overrated, but with the way we are spinning things on it, it is UNDERrated ;) No matter your take on valentines, or if even your spouse isn't on the same page on it as you are, we have some fun tips to set your marriage up for success & the celebration of intimacy this February! Join the community over @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly challenges, sex positions, live videos, and so much more!  Have a topic suggestion for Paris and Alana? Feel free to shoot them an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com or DM them on Instagram!
Jan 25, 202113:29
28: Sexual Confidence, God's Way

28: Sexual Confidence, God's Way

What does sexual confidence even look like as a godly woman? In this episode, Paris & Alana confront huge myths the enemy condemns us wth in the confidence realm, such as false confidence & idols, to hiding from our full calling to truth. Paris & Alana open this heart felt message with God's powerful truths over us a women to direct & encourage us to walk fully in sexual confidence & freedom within marriage.  Join the community over @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly challenges, sex positions, live videos, and so much more!  Have a topic suggestion for Paris and Alana? Feel free to shoot them an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com or DM them on Instagram!
Jan 18, 202114:25
27: Communcation

27: Communcation

We so often hear that this is what makes a marriage go from good to great- the level of communication they have. So how does a couple go about having awesome communication? Especially when it comes to talking about sex!?  How often are you communicating with your spouse about your sex life? Often? Seldom? Never?? It's about time we normalize talking about our intimate life with our spouse. Join Alana and Paris as they chat through 5 tips to help you begin talking about sex with your spouse! They make it really practical and easy to begin having those conversations. And even though it may feel a tad awkward the first time you sit down to chat, like with anything- the more you practice and have those talks more regularly the easier it will get!  Are you following us on Instagram? Join the community over @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly challenges, sex positions, live videos, and so much more!  Have a topic suggestion for Paris and Alana? Feel free to shoot them an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com or DM them on Instagram!
Jan 11, 202118:33
26: Mindset Reset

26: Mindset Reset

We all have indoctrination & influence when it comes to our mindsets around sexuality. This often becomes apparent within marriage & can be a very difficult reality to navigate through as a couple. Paris & Alana tackle mindset around sexuality & embrace the beauty of "not conforming to the patterns of this world but transforming by the renewing of your mind..." & give practical steps in implementing & addressing this topic.  Join the community over @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly challenges, sex positions, live videos, and so much more!  Have a topic suggestion for Paris and Alana? Feel free to shoot them an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com or DM them on Instagram!
Jan 04, 202116:02
25: Sexual Resolutions

25: Sexual Resolutions

It's almost 2021 and Alana and Paris are keeping the theme on strong for intentionally incorporating sexual goals within our marriages. They talked through spicy Christmas traditions in past episodes and now with New Years coming in hot, it’s about time to sit down together as a couple, and create sexual goals within your marriage. Whether you are a new year's resolution kind of couple or not, creating intentional sexual resolutions, whether year by year, short term, long term, or all of the above, this stuff is so important!  Make sure you're following Kingdom Sexuality on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see weekly challenges, sex positions, live videos, and so much more! Come join the community! And if you'd like to share a topic suggestion feel free to DM on Instagram or send an email to kingdomsexuality@gmail.com!! 
Dec 28, 202021:34
24: Keeping Your Love On When Things Get Busy

24: Keeping Your Love On When Things Get Busy

Holiday Episode number 3 is here! And we’re ramping up to Christmas, which means this season is probably already so full for you!! So cue this very timely episode! The question we're answering in today's episode is: How do I "keep my love on" with my husband when busy seasons roll around?  It's a great question that we decided to sum up in 5 points: 1.) Be on the same team 2.) Take time as a couple to unplug and play 3.) Steal time away- just the two of you 4.) apologize right away, and ultimately 5.) Remember the Reason for the Season!  Join the community over @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly challenges, sex positions, live videos, and so much more!  Have a topic suggestion for Paris and Alana? Feel free to shoot them an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com or DM them on Instagram!
Dec 21, 202017:05
23: Not Your Mama's Holiday Traditions

23: Not Your Mama's Holiday Traditions

Do you have sexy holiday traditions JUST for the two of you?! Like snow stripping, Christmas leftovers in bed in the buff....mhm. Paris & Alana have you covered with this animated episode full of ideas & sexy fun! Join the community over @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly challenges, sex positions, live videos, and so much more!  Have a topic suggestion for Paris and Alana? Feel free to shoot them an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com or DM them on Instagram!
Dec 14, 202012:07
22: Learning To Be A Selfless Lover

22: Learning To Be A Selfless Lover

The "Season of Giving" is here and so is Kingdom Sexuality's first ever holiday episode. Join Alana and Paris as they discuss what giving of yourself, or being selfless, looks like in the daily life as a woman, but also what does that look like as a wife, and as a lover? How can we love our husbands and even make love to them with selflessness as the forefront of our minds?  This Christmas season Paris and Alana really want to challenge you to give your spouse the gift of selflessness. That, even though it’s not always easy, you would choose to serve your spouse with a heart full of gratitude, joy, and love. And watch how, when you put yourself aside, you yourself get filled up and your spouse in turn begins to pour into you as well!  Be sure to follow along with them on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see live videos, weekly sex positions, challenges, and so much more! Come join the community! And feel free to email Alana and Paris at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com, or send a DM on Instagram, with topic suggestions- they can't wait to hear from you! 
Dec 07, 202018:45
21: Singleness, Sexuality & Confronting The Past With Jody Nagyl

21: Singleness, Sexuality & Confronting The Past With Jody Nagyl

In this episode, we asked Jody to come back and get deeper on the topic of navigating through singleness & sexuality as a believer. Soul ties. Mental, spiritual, & emotional bondage with past sexual encounters. Blood covenants. Preparing yourself through relationship with friends, family & God before marriage. Jody gives us huge truths and vulnerability as we dive into this realms of traumatic sexual pasts & preparing for future freedom.  Follow Jody on Instagram @jodynagyl And if you're not already, go follow us on Instagram as well @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, couple challenges, live videos, and so much more! 
Nov 30, 202024:22
20: Singleness- Interview with Jody Nagyl

20: Singleness- Interview with Jody Nagyl

Whether you're single or married- you're going to want to listen to this incredible episode! We had an amazing time picking the brain of our beautiful guest, Jody Nagyl. We chat about how singles can steward their season of singleness wisely, how single people can navigate sexual desires honorably, and how married women can support and walk alongside our single friends in an empowering, encouraging way! Follow Jody on Instagram here: @jodynagyl - and be sure to follow along with Kingdom Sexuality on Instagram @kingdomsexuality for weekly challenges, sex positions, reels, and a beautiful community!
Nov 23, 202031:07
19: Let's Chat Orgasms- the how, techniques, + more.

19: Let's Chat Orgasms- the how, techniques, + more.

Did you know there's multiple orgasmic spots in a woman? God created us so incredibly, ladies! In this episode, Paris + Alana go over clitoral + g-spot orgasms, techniques on orgasm, & chat the real + raw on this hot topic.  Join the community over @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly challenges, sex positions, live videos, and so much more!  Have a topic suggestion for Paris and Alana? Feel free to shoot them an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com or DM them on Instagram!
Nov 16, 202016:33
18: The Womanhood Diaries: Orgasm

18: The Womanhood Diaries: Orgasm

Men and women's bodies are vastly different from one another. So naturally, they each require different things to achieve an orgasm. But why doesn't anyone ever talk about this?! Alana and Paris both share how they went into marriage assuming that reaching climax would just happen to women like it does to men. Nope. But what a gift, that as husband and wife that you get to learn how to get her there together. And that's one of the biggest things Paris and Alana hope you take away from this episode: Understanding that achieving an orgasm is a skill that women have to learn. So plug in your headphones and buckle up as they tackle 5 big lies that are commonly believed about orgasms!  Be sure to follow Kingdom Sexuality on Instagram (@kingdomsexuality) to see weekly challenges, sex positions, tips, giveaways, & so much more! It's a safe space to ask questions, be challenged, and cultivate community.  Find the book Paris and Alana mention here: Sheet Music by Dr. Kevin Leman 
Nov 09, 202016:57
17: Postpartum: Interview with Bethany Fontaine

17: Postpartum: Interview with Bethany Fontaine

Postpartum is a season of life that can leave women feeling one of two things: "what's the big deal?! I LOVED this season!" or, "this terrifies me beyond words." We have covered postpartum, ways to prepare yourself for it through a support network, caring for your mentality, being grounded in Jesus, hormone prep, intimacy with your man WITHOUT having sex, & amazing food & supplements to keep your body nourished & upbeat. However, sometimes this season just hits HARD, fast, & furious, and we feel alone, worthless, & live in a very, very dark place inside our heads & hearts. Not because we want to, may I add...but because sometimes it's just HARD. Today, we host an incredible guest speaker, Bethany Fontaine, as she shares to raw struggles of her personal postpartum battle. Find & follow Bethany on social media on: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/bethanyfontaine/?hl=en Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC86cc9AQwyEPj9fwnItDtaQ
Nov 02, 202024:57
16: The Womanhood Diaries: Postpartum & Intimacy

16: The Womanhood Diaries: Postpartum & Intimacy

What does intimacy during the postpartum season look like? How is it possible to keep heat in the sheets during this new stage in life? And why are so many new mamas going into the "fourth trimester" feeling unprepared? Alana and Paris chat about this and so much more in this highly requested postpartum episode! Listen till the end to hear them share 5 tips for keeping the connection and intimacy alive during this postpartum season. Have any other topic suggestions? Questions? Or want to make sure you see when new episodes, live chats, and giveaways are happening? Join the community over on Instagram! Follow us @KingdomSexuality to see weekly couples challenges, sex positions, encouragement, and so much more! 
Oct 26, 202030:09
15: The Womanhood Diaries: Intimacy & Pregnancy

15: The Womanhood Diaries: Intimacy & Pregnancy

Expecting mamas- this one is for you! We all know that our bodies go through so much during the magical 9 months of growing another human! But slightly less talked about is how intimacy with our husbands can be impacted during that time. Between raging hormones, morning sickness, discomfort, and physical changes to our bodies- it can be easy to throw intimacy on the back burner. But there are so many other ways we can keep that connection going with our husbands, even if sex isn't an option!  Join Alana and Paris as they share struggles they experienced during their own pregnancies, great sex positions for throughout pregnancy, and some super fun stay-in date night ideas- for those nights that you just don't feel like leaving the comforts of your own home!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram (@KingdomSexuality) to see the sex positions we chatted about shown on our Wednesday "Hump Day" highlight!  
Oct 19, 202036:23
14: The Womanhood Diaries: Understanding Ovulation & Conception

14: The Womanhood Diaries: Understanding Ovulation & Conception

Feel in the dark about understanding how ovulation & conception actually works? Do you know as women we typically only have a 24 hour window to conceive every month, providing our cycles are healthy & monthly? If that's came as a shocker, or you're wanting to educate youreslf on your cycle as a woman come hang with Paris for 18 minutes as she debunks some big misconceptions around this topic, covers a series of ovulation & natural fertility boosting tips & tricks, & walks you through the Follicular phase in a simple, easy to understand way. 
Oct 13, 202018:21
13: The Womanhood Diaries: Intimacy vs. Infertility w/ Melinda Teichroeb

13: The Womanhood Diaries: Intimacy vs. Infertility w/ Melinda Teichroeb

Here at Kingdom Sexuality we know that we can only disciple as far as we've experienced, which is why we're SO excited to do interviews! In Canada, roughly 1 in 6 couples experiences infertility- so this is a big topic that we want to cover! So listen along as Alana interviews her good friend, sister-in-law, and co-blogger Melinda on her and her husbands infertility journey and how it impacted their intimate life and what they did to keep their connection during that time.  You can follow along with Melinda's sweet little family over on Instagram at: @melindasara89 or  @linensandvines.  
Oct 05, 202016:33
12: The Womanhood Diaries: Period Style

12: The Womanhood Diaries: Period Style

Welcome to the Womanhood Diaries, where Paris & Alana talk openly about the real, raw & vulnerable aspects of being women. In this episode, Paris takes menstrual talk to a fun level: debunking PMS, what a healthy monthly hormonal cycle looks like, cleanliness, hormone friendly menstrual products, hormones, & the effect of environment on hormones. Paris believes knowing HOW your body was created to function hormonally, cyclically, & well starts with debunking myths, sharing truths, & getting the un-talked about stuff talked about. Get ready for empowerment, encouragement, & better intimacy in embracing this part of your cycle! For more information on holistic hormonal support, supplements, oils, & dietary info mentioned by Paris in the podcast, please follow &/or reach out to Paris on her IG handle parissimpson_andtribe 
Sep 28, 202029:21
11: Love Languages

11: Love Languages

We briefly mentioned love languages in our Q&A episode but decided it was time to devote an entire episode to this!!  Do you know what your love language is? How about your spouses'? Join along as Alana and Paris share theirs, chat about the importance and purpose of them, and share 3 fun ways to love your spouse and vice versa with each of the 5 love languages! Do the quiz here: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
Sep 21, 202026:12
10: A Surprise Q&A With Paris & Alana

10: A Surprise Q&A With Paris & Alana

Paris & Alana each write 3 intimate, intentional questions down to ask one another, the catch? Neither of them know the questions they're about to be asked & answer on the spot! Join them to hear about how they're prepping now for future sex talks with their children, love languages, favourite sex positions, & more! Come hang with us on IG @ https://www.instagram.com/kingdomsexuality/?hl=en
Sep 14, 202022:58
9: But, Shame...

9: But, Shame...

Join Paris and Alana as they dive into the big giant topic of shame. This isn't your fluffy, light & easy conversation- but dealing with shame & guilt we're feeling from the past, or maybe even the present, is imperative. It's time to take a look inward, and see if the shame we might be dealing with is keeping Jesus at arms length or not. Because He's there, willing and waiting to wipe your slate totally clean if you ask Him to. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @KingdomSexuality and join the community! You'll see when new episodes come up, fun couples challenges, weekly sex positions, tips, & more!! 
Sep 07, 202032:40
8: Prioritizing Intimacy

8: Prioritizing Intimacy

Grab your cup of cup of coffee & cozy up as Paris & Alana have a really chill, real life chat around prioritizing sex in marriage! We know that we all go through different seasons in our sex lives- could be due to busyness, pregnancy/postpartum, kids, stresses, or so many other things. But making the time to make love despite the craziness of life is so worth it and so important.  Be sure to follow us on Instagram if you're not already! @KingdomSexuality Join the community and follow along for fun challenges, weekly sex position ideas, and so much more!  Find the book Alana mentions in the episode here: No More Headaches- Juli Slattery  
Aug 31, 202030:19
7: The Hot Seat

7: The Hot Seat

Intimate impromptu questions, anyone?! In today's episode, Alana & Jeff write out a series of intimate questions & Alana interviews Paris & Neil...the catch? Neither Paris nor Neil have any idea what questions they are answering! You are bound to get a good laugh or two as you get a full on real life view on the good, the crazy, and the intimate. Our hopes are that you also gain some laughs, perspective, reflection, encouragement, and relatability as you get a glimpse into the lives of Neil & Paris in this interview. Welcome to our first ever impromptu sesh, The Hot Seat! Be sure to follow us on Instagram to follow along with fun challenges and future episodes: @KingdomSexuality
Aug 24, 202023:07
6: Purity Chats 1.0

6: Purity Chats 1.0

 We're Paris & Alana, friends with a passion for spilling truth around intimacy. In this episode, we begin our series on purity! We chat about how it's important to know why you're saving yourself for marriage, ways to get out of vulnerable situations, & why having a strong community around you is crucial.  Be sure to come hang with us over on Instagram! We've got weekly intimate couple challenges, "hump" day Wednesdays, & a bunch of wholesome, beautiful encouragement over here for you! Come join the fun & build community over at: @KingdomSexuality!
Aug 17, 202023:54
5: Let's Spice It Up!

5: Let's Spice It Up!

Listen along as Alana & Paris each share three ways couples can go about "spicing up" their love lives! In a sexual rut or not, these tips are a great way to help reignite the flame between the sheets, and can just help build connection with your spouse overall! Don't forget to follow us on Instagram (@KingdomSexuality) to build community, see couple challenges, new weekly "hump day" sex position ideas, & so much more!  The books Paris recommends are: Intimacy Ignited and Sheet Music.  And friends, feel free to email us: kingdomsexuality@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram with prayer requests, questions, comments, and episode topic suggestions! We'd love to hear from you! 
Aug 10, 202018:54
4: Myth Busters

4: Myth Busters

Join Paris & Alana in this extra long myth-busting episode as they share & debunk some myths they believed about sex before they got married! So grab a coffee & pop your headphones in as they chat through four big lies that are commonly believed. Time to kick them in the butt & shine God’s truth on them!! Be sure to follow them along on Instagram (@KingdomSexuality) to see weekly couples challenges, “hump day” chats, & so much more!
Aug 03, 202039:44
3: God, Sex, & How They Mesh

3: God, Sex, & How They Mesh

Join Paris & Alana as they build a bit of a foundation for the Kingdom Sexuality podcast. Let's start with the basics, shall we? Where does God belong when it comes to our sex lives? How have our view on sex changed from before marriage to after? Find out this & more in this episode of Kingdom Sexuality. Don't forget to come & hang with us over on Instagram! We've got weekly intimate couple challenges, "hump" day Wednesdays, & a bunch of wholesome, beautiful encouragement over here for you! Come join the fun & build community over at: @KingdomSexuality!
Jul 21, 202018:47
2: Meet The Podcasters: Our "Sexual Hurdle"

2: Meet The Podcasters: Our "Sexual Hurdle"

We are Paris & Alana, friends with a passion for spilling truths over sex. In this episode, we share our own mini "sextimonies" on each of our biggest sexual hurdles we were faced with within marriage.  Hang with us over on Instagram! We've got weekly intimate couple challenges, "hump" day Wednesdays, & a bunch of wholesome, beautiful encouragement over here for you! Come join the fun & build community over at: @KingdomSexuality! 
Jul 21, 202018:39
1: The Why Behind This

1: The Why Behind This

Paris & Alana share their story & hearts on the Kingdom Sexuality podcast coming to life.  Follow along as they chat about why they began this passion project around sex & God's design for it within marriage. Welcome here!  Hang with us over on Instagram! We've got weekly intimate couple challenges, "hump" day Wednesdays, & a bunch of wholesome, beautiful encouragement over here for you! Come join the fun & build community over at https://www.instagram.com/kingdomsexuality/
Jul 19, 202011:31