Tea & Talk with Toya

If you have experienced adverse situations that robbed you of your voice, this one is dedicated to you. Click the link to tune in.

Author Sabrina Morgan chats with me about her new book and the story behind the title. Author Sabrina talks about one of the adverse experiences she experienced in childhood and why we need to use our unaltered voices.

Not asking for help has a root; tune in as I explain one.

Author Rashunda Marie joins me to talk about her contribution to a new anthology and how this book helps raise awareness of child abuse.

Join me and Author Tisha J. as she shares her experiences growing up in a toxic neighborhood and household. Tisha shares her journey and more about her new book. 

It is important to grieve every loss. Join me and my guest Tmh.Writer as she discusses the topic of her newest writing project.

Join my special guest Bestselling Author Kristal Thomas, and me as she discusses her new project and how to regain our power after years of abuse.

Unaddressed adverse childhood experiences affect us mentally and emotionally and contribute to autoimmune diseases. Tune in, and my special guest and I will discuss childhood traumatic experiences and how they shaped us. 

Tune in to this week's episode as I give my take on the viral clips of the family dynamics between Tamika & Tocha and their mother. 

Many deals with rejection. Often it starts in childhood and follows us into adulthood. Please tune in to this week's episode to hear how I began my journey to overcoming rejection through self-acceptance. 

So everyone says we should forgive and forget. Let me share with you how that is impossible and terrible advice. 

Did you know that living in unsafe environments mentally and emotionally causes physical ailments? Tune in to hear more. 

Are you stuck in a cycle of toxic relationships, and the only advice offered it to choose better? Tune in for more information on what this is not practical advice. 

Did you know betrayal trauma is a thing? Please tune in to become aware of how betrayal affects us emotionally. 

You will know your investment by the fruit that it bears. Is it helping or hindering you? Tune in for more!

You are not a failure because you experience a setback, so stop reinforcing the thought through your actions. Tune in to hear more. 

Tune in to this follow-up of All Spaces Are Not Safe. Everyone should not be tasked with check-in on anyone. 

If you want to be empowered, face what's limiting you. 

2022 brought about some awareness in the area of how others we care about really feels about us. Its time to act upon our findings and move forward. 

Stop expecting everything for free & learn to invest in what matters most to you, YOURSELF! 

New to the author game, here is something that you MUST do. Tune in to check it out. 

When you keep going during the moments you think you can't go on; strength is birth. Tune in to hear what it takes to keep going. 

Tune in to this episode as I share some important news regarding my new collaborative book project. If you are ready for the support, you long for while going through, The Coaches Connect, Volume II is for you. 

Please tune in to listen to how I got to practice what I preached as a wounded manager targeted me.  I did not overstay my welcome and chose peace. 

Want to know one way to create lasting change? This way will be the foundation you build upon. 

Have you ever wounded the feelings of another person? Did you know you could hurt feelings and not know it initially? They won’t tell you they will start moving differently.

Or maybe you are someone that is offended by everything. If so, you are in a lot of pain that you should process. The offense will come, but it does not have to feel like someone penetrating an already sore wound.

If a parent abandons a child, it is not their responsibility to reconcile. Why has so much pressure been put on a child to contact someone that walked away? Adults make choices; children shouldn't be made to feel the adults' choice are their fault. 

Tune in to hear another perspective on staying the course. 

How can we get it right if we do not study what we got wrong?

Tune in to this coaching session on collecting and implementing information. 

Whatever we rehearse prepares us for the role we play!

Emotional traps are sneaky, subtle, and calculated. It is done purposefully. When you become privy to it, flee.

All friends and family are not safe spaces because that space has never been created for them. With Black women having to be strong all the time, not processing feelings how is this damaging our mental, emotional, and physical health? 

Here is one way to heal we have not considered. Tune in as I break down why seeking truth brings us out of the grips of darkness. 

Suppose you saw the viral video with the mom refusing to feed one child because the child's father did not provide for all of her children. Here is my take on that and the long-term damage it could be causing the child. 

Childhood trauma arrests our development. Emotionally a person freezes at the onset of trauma, grief, or neglect. 

Why is it that when a person speaks out about abuse in a relationship, they should have chosen better? Tune in to the discussion and why we need to show more compassion. 

Maybe it is not your mindset but your intentions. Check out this episode as I explain further. 

Can you guess what our biggest block is? It is the one thing that prevents us from accomplishing goals or living our lives by design. This block will make or break us. Tune in as I discuss one method of re writing the narrative. 

We have a choice, a red pill or a blue pill. The reality we live in is based on the choice we made. 

Are there certain times of the year that saddens you?

Are you aware of your triggers?

What have you done in the past to overcome disappointments?

On the upswing consider creating a plan for the down swing. When we are prepared for certain emotional outcomes it helps keep us from sinking too deep. 

Many adults do not know how to properly rest because they grew up in homes where they had to constantly do work for hours. Even when we live with our parents, work 12-hour shifts, and care for our children we cannot rest properly. It is time to dismantle this dynamic and get some rest.

Is lacking support getting you down? Have you considered the ones not showing up for you did not expect you to make it? Tune in as I explain further. 

If I do not do well, I will disgrace my family. Imposter Syndrome challenges many because they have to make the family look good and live up to their expectations. Tune in as I share some insight on how this affects children. 

Why don't we talk about depression? Why aren't we addressing the root of issues? Tune in as I discuss my new book, Alone in the Dark. I shared the story of my struggles with depression in this publication. It is time that we get comfortable with saying what it is rather than sugar-coating a matter. Sugar is not suitable for use in any sense. 

If you were a parentified child you learned how to ignore your feelings and put your parents before yours. As many of us, we were groomed to people please, lack boundaries, and have dysfunctional intimate relationships. 

How do you choose your village? Does your village include the same people that have you in therapy putting the pieces together? When do we stop copying and pasting and start doing better for the sake of our future? Tune in to hear a few things to look for in a village and when to run for your life. 

We all know the saying "it takes a village"; some of us live by it, but do we really know what that means? Are we vetting the community, or are we trusting the same village that has us in therapy?