The Confident Moms Podcast

Did you know that YOU are resilient? Don't believe me... Well then, this episode is for you.

Want to know how to become more resilient in your life and through the adversity you are facing or will face? This episode is also for you

Throughout this interview with Stress and Resilience expert Leah Davidson, there were so many beautiful takeaways and nuggets.

On this Episode:

• What is resilience and recognizing yours
• Accessing more resilience.
• The power of your mind and resilience
• Modeling resilience for children and what that can look like

And so much more.

Do you know what you want?  

Let me take you back to about 6 years ago.  I had 4 kids, the life I always dreamed of and I was miserable.

Since I had everything I thought I wanted I had forgotten that I could continue to want and grow and evolve.  

Come along with Heather Rackam and me as we both share our personal experiences with wanting at specific stages in our motherhood.  Our conversation touches on what wanting might mean for you, what being stuck in the habit of not wanting might look like, why wanting is so important, and the connection between wanting and divinity or the universe as we learn to co-create a life that feels meaningful to us.

If you are feeling disempowered in your life.. chances are you think it's because of something or someone.

When this is the case, you become stuck because you are giving your power away to someone or something you have zero control over.

On today's episode special guest Mimi Porter is bringing to light some of the ways that we give our power away in motherhood, and what we can do about it.

If you want to feel more empowered and in control of your life and your motherhood, make sure to tune in so you can start taking your power back today!

Let's learn together about trauma and how it is affecting our lives and parenting. Joining me on today's episode is Denita Bremer, a trauma coach with so much knowledge and expertise.

 I have come to the realization through what I have recently learned about trauma and its effects on my life, that my confidence journey has also been a journey in trauma and learning how to respond to it in healthier ways. 

I invite you to listen and learn more about trauma and how it is affecting your life and even your parenting. Denita shares what trauma is, how to distinguish it, and your role in your response to it.

I really learned a lot from this conversation. I hope you do too!

Have you taken on the tremendously heavy job of trying to create happiness for the people in your life?

Your kids, your spouse, your friends, your in-laws?

In this episode I am talking all about happiness, and how it's actually impossible to create this emotion for anyone other than yourself.

I am diving into the importance of emotional responsibility, some of the ways that we as parents get trapped in fixing problems that aren't ours to fix, and some of the disadvantages we may create for our kids when we do so.

Listen in to learn more about how your life can change for the better when you truly understand that your happiness has more to do with you, and less to do with anyone or anything that's going on in your life.

Navigating parenthood isn't easy, but there are so many helpful tools to help make it easier. 

Brigette Little is one of those tools. She is an empowering and patient coach for parents of children and teens with ADHD. She has a wealth of knowledge and experience in her field.

It's my hope that if you are struggling in your ADHD journey or your parenting journey, this episode will help you feel seen, encouraged, and also leave you with some valuable tips.

If you or someone you know has a neuro-divergent child, you do not want to miss this episode.  Brigette shares her experiences as a mom of kids and teens with ADHD as well as her personal journey.

 Join us to learn how to become more confident in your efforts to understand and love your children better. 

In today's episode, we are so lucky to get to hear from special guest Kendra Huffman. Kendra is a perfectionist coach for teens, and we are talking about how her work with teens also applies to moms.

Are you a mom who really loves being able to control your circumstances? Do you like things to be a certain way? Do you feel overwhelmed when things don't turn out how you expected them to? If this is you, don't miss this episode!

Tune into our wonderful discussion about perfectionism, how it shows up in our lives, and how we can manage it in healthy ways.

The relationships we have with our kids can seem really hard and overwhelming a lot of the time.

I know I often feel inadequate and ill-equipped in my parenting efforts and I get discouraged when I'm dismissed as the bad guy.

Why are our kids so resistant to us sometimes? Don't they know that we have a little bit more experience under our belt?

In this episode, Joey Mascio, A Life Coach for Teens, is sharing some amazing ways that we as parents can start to be the good guys.

This begins by recognizing some of the ways we are showing up to our parenting that have our kids turning off.

I hope you enjoy and learn from our fun conversation!

A Buffer is something external that we use to change or avoid how we feel.

When we get in the habit of using false pleasures or buffers daily, we rob ourselves of the full human experience, miss out on progress, and ultimately stunt our own capabilities and progress.

One of the ways we can experience greater confidence and control over our lives is by noticing our personal buffers and considering how our lives might change for the better if we were to consider trading in false pleasures and replace them in ways that will support long-lasting well-being.

On this episode:

• What is a buffer?

• Why do we want to know and be able to notice ours?

• How to know when the activity we are taking part in is acting as a buffer?

• Buffering awareness and how to use it to inhibit more confidence.

Have you ever considered that showing your weaknesses could actually be a strength to you, to others, and to the world?

In this week's podcast episode, I am sharing three reasons you might want to start showing, sharing, and being more honest with yourself about your personal weaknesses.

Sharing my weaknesses has not only affected me for good but has also affected my family in positive ways as well.

Tune in to learn the three reasons you might want to start showing your weaknesses. and how I am applying this to my own life.

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We all have Manuals.

These manuals are full of all sorts of instructions and rules we have for the people in our lives.

Do you know yours, and how they are affecting your most important relationships?

In this episode:

• The one important thing we forget to do with our manuals
• Tune in to hear about some of the manuals I have and who they are for 
• Why awareness of manuals is so important
• How manuals pretend to be useful but actually create a false sense of feeling and control

If you are ready to feel more confident in your motherhood, begin today by accessing my free Confidence Masterclass. 

I remember my teenage years. They were not the easiest of times.

How I wish I had known a few things back then that I know now.

The great news is that there are things we can do now to better support our teens and tweens with their Confidence. 

This week's podcast is full of great insights and ideas for you to consider. 

I am so excited to share my conversation with Lindsay Law-Teen and Parent Life Coach.

She is uncovering some ways we as parents may be sending messages of unacceptance to our teens and how to combat this.

If you don't have teens yet, I encourage you to listen so you can start creating supportive habits in your parenting now.

In this episode:

• How to show love and acceptance while still sharing our expectations.
• Lies we believe that can be detrimental to our teen's confidence
• Why validating our teens is so important to their Confidence

Check out more from Lindsay below:

Do you have a habit of "Shoulding" on yourself?

You know when you innocently tell yourself you “should” be doing something in an attempt to encourage yourself to get stuff done, show up, or do better.

What if I told you there are two kinds of "shoulds"?

In this episode, I define both.

One kind of “should” is sneaky and creates a net negative result for us in our lives, and the other kind actually supports us in an empowering and confident way.

On this episode:

• The two types of "shoulds"
• Why our motivations are important and what that has to do with "shoulds"
• Noticing our habits and patterns in this area and how to start changing them.
• How to start creating "shoulds" that support confidence

Self-Care is a phrase you have definitely heard if you are a mom and you are on social media.

We know taking care of ourselves is important, but what does that even mean and why is it so important?

 I am chatting with Special guest Meridith Jacobs of Sharp Life Coaching and we are diving into all things Self-Care

Meridith has a major in psychology and a law degree from George Washington University. Her time practicing law as a divorce attorney showed her that she loved the personal relationship with her clients more than the actual practice of law. Once kids came on the scene she decided to become a stay-at-home mom. As her kids got older and became more independent she decided to go back to school to become a Life Coach. Meridith is a compassionate and patient coach who has put her passion for people and her desire to help others into this new and fulfilling chapter of her life. 

Together we share some great insights and ideas for self-care that are worth your time and reflection.

On this episode:

• How to choose self-care without guilt
• What does being an introvert or extrovert have to do with self-care
• The difference between surface-level and long-lasting self-care
• How to implement a self-care routine with your busy schedule

There is a huge difference between the pain that one is meant to experience in this life and the pain and suffering that we as humans sometimes create for ourselves.

In this episode, I'm getting clear on the difference.

It's the difference between Clean Pain and Dirty Pain.

We want to be aware of our 'dirty pain' habits so that we can live with a better balance of positive to negative in our lives.

In this episode:

• Examples of dirty pain
• What to do with your dirty pain
• What an indulgent emotion or a negative emotional habit might be trying to tell you

It's almost a new year and I wanted to do a whole episode on some of the lessons I have learned in 2022.

My hope is that my list will inspire you to create one of your own.

Rather than starting off 2023 with hopeful resolutions that stem from your perceived inadequacies, let's reflect instead on all your growth over the past year.

Here's a quick recap to get your own reflection going:

1. Worry habits can be broken
2. God's love is not conditional
3. I thrive with a plan, and I love to change up my plans often (and that's ok)
4. My greatest growth comes from surrendering
5. When in doubt choose love
6. Life is fleeting
7. Small efforts over time DO add up, even without catchup

Have a listen to hear more details on how these lessons have played out for me, and take a few minutes to reflect on your own lessons learned in 2022.

Intimacy in marriage is one area that many women feel less than Confident.

Luckily there are coaches and experts in the world like Jamelyn Stephan who can help us start creating the marriages we always imagined before we got hitched.

On this episode:

• Jamelyn shares the one thing that was always creating the most contention in her marriage: SEX
• The Brakes and Accelerators in intimacy and how these affect our marriage relationships
• Some of the lies we tell ourselves that sabotage our intimate relationships

You can find more from Jamelyn below:

Every so often I get in a funk. When I do, I know exactly what I can do to get out of it. (When I'm ready that is!)

Did you know that getting out of a funk is actually all about having a change of thought?

I have recognized some specific times in my life where a change in my thinking was very evident based on very different and new circumstances being introduced into my life.

What is remarkable about this is the fact that new thoughts and old thoughts and beliefs really do create the current life we are living and the world we experience and we have more power in our lives when we recognize and are more intentional in that thinking.

On this episode:

• Why I like to think of growth in my life as horizontal rather than vertical 
• What is a thought bank and why is having one SO IMPORTANT when we are in a funk?
• 10 of my own personal thoughts that have gotten me through many funks and hard times over the past couple of years and what they mean to me

You can find the 10 thoughts I share in this episode in PDF printable format for your own personal use at the link below:

This week you are in for a treat.

Mental health is a topic that needs to be talked about more, and on today's episode we are learning from the best.

Candice Miller is the host of the Peace Project Podcast, and a wealth of knowledge when it comes to mental health. Candice is a certified life coach who specializes in mindset and transformational coaching. 

In her practice she helps women not only uncover the thoughts that are keeping them from being the best version of themselves, but she teaches tricks to retrain your brain to reach your highest potential. 

On this episode:

• Candice shares her own battle with Bipolar disorder
• Some signs and symptoms that may indicate your mental health needs your attention
• First steps toward creating solutions and getting the help you need for optimal mental health

I hope that if you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health this episode will help in some way.

If you are silently suffering, please let this be your sign or nudge to have the courage to ask for help.

You can find Candice and lots more amazing resources at:

Do you avoid confrontation at all costs?

If so, then this episode is going to be so helpful.

You will learn:

• Conflict VS Connection and how to head into any conflict in a way that will help create connection
• Common conversations you might be avoiding and why
• What you can do to prepare for a hard conversation

I hope you enjoy it!

This week on the Podcast I am sharing my interview with Emily Wardrop.

Emily is a colleague, fellow coach, and an expert on "How to be a Good Mom!"

In this episode:

*The connection between validation and our confidence as a mom

*Amazing thoughts that all moms may want to start thinking

*Following "rules" in motherhood

You can find more from Emily here:

I remember the day that I learned that I was in a relationship with myself, It was a lightbulb moment.

In this episode, I am sharing:

•  Why your relationship with yourself is so important and how it helps support more confidence
• What a relationship really is
• 3 ways to measure your current relationship with yourself so you can improve it. 

Don't miss me sharing about the time I totally failed as a mom and was certain I could never show my face anywhere ever again. 

If you are looking for 1:1 support to help you navigate through a difficult relationship or any other challenge in your motherhood or your life, I would love to invite you to schedule a free 30 min call to chat more about the 1:1 support I offer and the best next steps for you.

What does Confidence mean to you?

I used to make it mean something that made it really hard for me to have any, until I decided to change my mind.

While confidence can grow from showing up and doing new things and getting really good at those things, we often overlook some of the most powerful and important ways that confidence can be a more integral part of our lives everyday.

Tune in to discover 3 ways that you can build lasting confidence that you may have overlooked until now.